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From Learning Tree International's workshop at Showcase Ontario 2011. …

From Learning Tree International's workshop at Showcase Ontario 2011.
This presentation will introduce you to Emotional Intelligence & cover these 3 objectives:
Identify five emotional intelligences.
Leverage emotional intelligence to augment your personal leadership style.
Apply emotional intelligence in a management role.

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  • Give a quick introduction to MagnaLearn and AnyWare. One of the goals of this slide is to highlight MagnaLearn and AnyWare and perform a quick demo of AnyWare to ensure attendees understand and know how to use the key features of AnyWare (set status, chime in, chat, etc.).Have the attendees actually use the Chime In and Chat features at this point to make them feel more engaged.Mention that while we won’t be using the full functionality of AnyWare today, in a typical AnyWare class, on-line participants are able to do everything an in-class participant does:  Participate in classroom discussions Perform all hands-on exercises on the same equipment as in-class participantsParticipate in break-out sessionsGet individual help and advice from the instructor—immediately as needed—just as in the classroomLearning Tree AnyWare Program DescriptionLearning Tree AnyWare, our newest training delivery option, connects you to a classroom from your home or office.Using a Flash enabled Web browser and a high-speed internet connection, Learning Tree AnyWare enables you to: Participate and interact with your Instructor and peers via voice, video and chat features See these two presentation screens with annotations and highlighting See a live video image of the instructor presenting the course material Perform all the same hands-on exercises using internet access to remote control into one of the in-class workstationsLearning Tree AnyWare provides an innovative new way to participate online in our classes. For the demo point out the following items and quickly explain how they work:The two MagnaLearn Screens with real time annotationThe attendee list – mention the different status options and explain how to set the status. Ask all on-line attendees to set their status to Agree. Mention you can clear the status and then clear everyone's status. Chime in pod – ask an online attendee to press it to demonstrate the "chime"Ask the attendee to hold down the talk button and tell you something (i.e. where are they taking the class from) to demo we can hear them tooThe Chat pod – may want to ask participants to reserve that for offline help as you will not always see it when lecturingThe video pod provides some kinesthetic feedback of the instructor referring to a screen(if applicable) Mention instructor demos and switch into Demo mode to show how the Demo PC can be projected(if applicable) mention hands-on exercises using remote control of in-class workstations (links will be provided shortly)Tech support pod. If you’d like more information, please visit www.learningtree.com/AnyWare.
  • Jogger text: Recognizing and Affirming Your EmotionsDirection: RightInstructor notes:Duration: 20 minutesPresentation Style: PresentationPresent:Have you ever arrived at work and cannot remember anything much about the journey?Do you sometimes forget whether you turned off the stove?Can you remember the details of the last conversation you had with your loved ones?Without actually introducing it as an activity go through this quick mindfulness exercise – using an set up suggesting you ‘just want to make sure they all appreciate the point about focusing the here and now.’ (the reason for not raising it to ‘formal’ activity status is that some people are resistant to this kind of mindfulness activity if it is introduced as such – it sounds a bit 70’s and hippyish to many people today)InstructionsSay to the class: Just let’s stop for a moment. Pay attention to the room we are in. Notice the temperature. What is the air like? Is it still or moving? How does it smell?Notice the chair you’re sitting onIs it hard or soft? Comfortable or not?What about its height? Notice your bodyDo you have any aches or pains? What about itches? Are your muscles relaxed or tight?Are you hungry or thirsty?Do you need the bathroom?Then remind them that these are things that go on all the time but we just don’t focus on themYet they do have an influence on how we experience the world – even though we are not paying attentionThen highlight that many aspects of our emotional lives are not attended to either - the first step toward mastery is to become aware
  • Jogger text: The Importance of InterpretationDirection: RightInstructor notes:Duration:Presentation Style:Present:Introduce the concept that how we think is a major determinant of our emotional experienceThe left “flash” called “reaction” is about how previous learning and experience causes us to automatically interpret situations and respond to them emotionally – this usually happens without our awarenessNOTE: IT IS CRUCIAL STUDENTS RECOGNIZE THAT EVEN WHEN OUR REACTIONS ARE THE RESULT OF PAST EXPERIENCE (E.G. ,THEY ARE LOST TO CONSCIOUSNESS) IT IS HOW WE THINK ABOUT THAT EXPERIENCE THAT IS IMPORTANT NOT THE EXPERIENCE ITSELF. THEREFORE SELF AWARENESS IN THE MOMENT IS AT THE HEART OF EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE!The right hand “flash” called “response” is about how we interpret the current situation consciously once we have experienced the emotion – and decide how to respond and what to do. How we think about the situation enables us to choose how to RESPOND in a way that is more usefulTHEREFORE SELF-MANAGEMENT—HAVING CONSCIOUS CONTROL OVER HOW WE RESPOND—IS ANOTHER KEY EMOTIONAL COMPETENCE
  • Jogger text: Taking Care of YourselfDirection: BothInstructor notes:Duration: 3 minutesPresentation Style: GeneralPresent:Run through the centering exercise – it’s a useful mindfulness technique too as well as buying time to allow the emotion to blow throughThere are so many stress/anxiety reduction techniques out there we don’t have space to do them here and different people find different techniques helpfulIf time permits run through this quick breathing technique that can be adopted in any situation to reduce emotional reactionAdjust your posture (standing or sitting) so you are comfortableClose your mouthPlace one hand flat over your navelBreath in slowly through you nose counting to 8Take the breath down deep so the hand flat on your navel moves outwardsHold the breath for a count of 3Breath out slowly and steadily for a count of 8Repeat this 5 times
  • After this slide, Polls 7 and 8 should be displayed.Poll 7 (to be displayed with Poll 8):What is your overall impression of the Learning Tree AnyWare online delivery system?ExcellentGoodNeutralPoorNo Vote Poll 8:What is your overall impression of your Learning Tree instructor?ExcellentGoodNeutralPoorNo Vote
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    • 1. Managing Emotional Intelligence
    • 2. Session Objectives
      Introduce you to Learning Tree International
      Introduce you to Emotional Intelligence
      Identify five emotional intelligences
      Leverage emotional intelligence to augment your personal leadership style
      Apply emotional intelligence in a management role
    • 3. About Learning Tree International
      Learning Tree International was founded in 1974
      More than 2.1 million technology professionals and managers from more than 65,000 organizations trained to date
      In-depth course curriculum—more than 225 titles and growing
      Includes more than 90 management titles
      Courses are developed and taught by technology and business professionals actively working in the field
    • 4. About Learning Tree International(continued)
      Philadelphia
      Ottawa
      Paris
      Edinburgh
      Stockholm
      Toronto
      London
      Boston
      New York
      Chicago
      Washington, D.C.
      Tokyo
      Atlanta
      Los Angeles
      Dallas
      Public and on-site courses are available at Learning Tree and client locations worldwide
      Ch00US/C.3/101/C.2
    • 5. Course Delivery
      All courses are presented using MagnaLearn®, our proprietary, patented* instructional enhancement technology
      We also provide courses via our Learning Tree AnyWare™ platform
      Our (patent pending) training delivery solution that connects online participants to a live, instructor-led classroom
      With AnyWare, you can do everything the in-class participants do
      Participate in classroom discussions
      Perform hands-on exercises on the same equipment as in-class participants
      Participate in breakout sessions
      Get individual help and advice from the instructor—immediately as needed—just as in the classroom
      *Covered by one or more of the following patents: United States 7,058,891, 7,131,068, 7,134,079, and 7,454,708; South Africa 2005/09799; India 222822; and Australia 2002310120 and 2005266901. Other patents pending in EU, Israel, India, and Australia.
    • 6. About Your Instructor
      Background and education
      Current position
      Experience
    • 7. Emotional Intelligence in Action
      Emotional Intelligence at Work
      Developing Emotional Intelligence
    • 8. Your Role in Building Great Performance
      In management, it’s imperative to
      Be clear about what’s expected of you as a manager
      Build purpose for your team
      Be clear about the specific things that managers do
      How you do these things will have a direct impact on
      Whether or not you can evoke great performance in the people you are managing
      Emotional Intelligence is the essential skillset that helps ordinary managers do extraordinary things
    • 9. Causing Great Performance: Leadership and Emotional Intelligence
      Effective leaders leverage their EI skills to do some basic things right
      Delegating
      Negotiating
      Facilitating
      Team building
      Managing performance
      Coaching & mentoring
      Redirecting poor behaviour
    • 10. The Connection Between EI and Bottom-Line Results
      EI-skilled managers are more in touch with feelings, emotions, and thought processes
      Their own
      In control of their emotional responses
      Able to adapt how they react in interpersonal situations
      Other people’s
      Empathetic to others
      Better able to read and interpret body language
      Cognizant of personality types
    • 11. Additional Benefits
      Better able to bring out the best in individuals and deal with people problems
      This leads to:
      Higher productivity
      Better communication
      Shared success across the entire organization
      Lower staff turnover
      Higher morale
      Greater cost savings
      Higher profits
      Less need for controls
    • 12. Emotional Intelligence
      The term emotional intelligence was popularized by Daniel Goleman* to describe the cluster of skills that effective leaders use to manage themselves and the people they work with
      He found that managers with good EI skills produced better bottom-line results
      These skills are the foundation on which your management success will be built
      Goleman has identified five components of emotional intelligence
      Three concerned with self-management, two with working with others
      *Goleman’s books are Emotional Intelligence (Bantam, 1995) and Working with Emotional Intelligence (Bantam, 1998). For information on applying EI, and papers on the background of EI development, see www.eiconsortium.org.
    • 13. The Five Components of Emotional Intelligence:The Three Self-Management Skills
      Self-awareness: The ability to recognize and understand one’s moods, emotions, and drives, and their effect on others
      Characterized by self-confidence, realistic self-assessment, clarity about personal goals, candidness about personal feelings
      Self-regulation: The ability to control or redirect disruptive moods and impulses and to suspend judgment; to think before acting
      All managers work in situations involving strong emotions (their own and others’)
      Dealing with mistakes
      Handling tensions and conflicts with and between others
      The temptation to make a hasty response
      The ability to mentally step back andrespond thoughtfully under pressureis likely to build a climate of confidenceand respect in the team
      Are you aware of your emotions?
    • 14. The Five Components of Emotional Intelligence:The Three Self-Management Skills (continued)
      Self Motivation: A desire and drive to achieve, seek out challenges, and learn from both success and failure
      Characterized by commitment and persistence
    • 15. The Five Components of Emotional Intelligence: Two Skills for Working With Others
      Empathy: The ability to understand the emotional situations of others and treat them according to their reactions to a situation
      A crucial skill for managers, since so much of a manager’s work is about working with others in situations of tension and pressure
      Empathy skills enable managers to relate to the feelings and situations of others
      In mentoring and coaching
      In working and building managerial relationships with talented people
      In listening to the emotions expressed in difficult situations and responding in a way that acknowledges and deals with those emotions in a productive way
    • 16. The Five Components of Emotional Intelligence: Two Skills for Working With Others (continued)
      Social skill: The skill of applying the four preceding skills to build and maintain relationships with a wide range of people
      Skilled in persuasion, using different approaches according to the situation
      Good at building networks
      Comfortable with and interested in a wide range of people, whether or not they are directly involved with the manager’s work
    • 17. Emotional Intelligence in Action
      Emotional Intelligence at Work
      Developing Emotional Intelligence
    • 18. The Value of Personal Emotional Honesty
      To be emotionally honest, we must first be emotionally aware
      Expressing your true feelings also takes
      Self-confidence
      Courage
      Being honest with ourselves helps us
      Be more self-accepting
      Decide how to spend our time, and whom to spend it with
      Being honest with others
      Encourages honesty in them
      Reduces the tendency of others to pressure us
      Helps us find out who respects our feelings
    • 19. Self-Awareness and Personal Honesty
      Patterns of disclosure and honesty
      Unintended repression
      Complete disclosure
      Intentional manipulation
      Emotional fraud
      Self-awareness and self-disclosure
      When being emotionally honest is in our interests
      When it is not healthy or safe to be emotionally honest
      Therefore achieving discretionary disclosure
      Dishonesty
      Takes more effort!
      Creates tension, distrust, and stress
    • 20. Recognizing and Affirming Your Emotions
      In our daily life, we don’t pay much attention to what’s happening now
      Looking without seeing
      Eating without tasting
      Hearing without listening
      Talking without focusing on what we are really saying
      We spend much of our time focusing on
      What has happened
      Or what will or might happen
      For emotional competency, it’s important to remember that there are many things going on for you right now
      “Emotions are only temporary… they always pass on like clouds in the sky.”
      —The 14th Dalai Lama
    • 21. Mindfulness
      This is an active process
      It means paying attention to what is real for you right here and now
      Without thinking that it’s good or bad, important or not, right or wrong
      The simple goal is to become more aware of both internal and external environments
      You can choose to become “mindful” with any experience
      Choosing to become mindful of your emotional experiences
      “The awareness that emerges through paying attention on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally to the unfolding of experience moment by moment.”
      — Jon Kabat-Zinn, Professor of Medicine Emeritus, University of Massachusetts Medical School
      Kabat-Zinn, Jon. “Mindfulness-based Interventions in Context: Past, Present, and Future.” Clinical Psychology, Vol. 10 (May, 2003), pp. 144–156.
    • 22. Mindfulness and Emotions
      Job
      Aid
      It is important to disengage from the “story” of the emotion
      What or who caused it, whether we like it, whether it’s justified
      All this focuses on the past or the future
      We spend too little time paying attention to what is happening now!
      Paying attention to the “story” of the emotion tends to fuel the emotion, and we become consumed by it. We need to learn to pay attention to the emotion and the experience, not the story.
    • 23. Mindfulness and Emotions(continued)
      Job
      Aid
      Four steps to mindfulness
      Recognize
      Name
      Accept
      Explore
      Our goal is to experience the emotion
      Not to repress or deny it
      Nor to express or act it out
    • 24. Dealing with Conflict: Fight or Flight
      Many people have difficulty with workplace conflict
      The typical response is “fight or flight”
      We learn to respond to conflict long before we realize it is present
      Examples of how this causes “flight” behavior include
      Avoiding difficult situations and meetings
      Not speaking up when we disagree with what is being said
      Examples of how this causes “fight” behavior include
      Reacting defensively to an innocent request for more information
      Deliberately providing the wrong information
    • 25. Discretionary Disclosure and Boundary Management
      Knowing your emotions vs. revealing your emotions
      There are times when it is not healthy or safe to be emotionally honest
      It is important to make conscious choices about when to disclose how you feel and be emotionally honest
      Consider both what is in your interest and what is in the interest of others
      Weigh the advantages of disclosure against any disadvantage
    • 26. Authenticity
      As the ancient Greeks said, “Be true to oneself”
      Owning your own thoughts, emotions, needs, preferences, beliefs, and values
      Behaving according to them
      Inauthentic leadership is not being true to yourself
      This involves leadership by
      Manipulation
      Coercion
      Deception
      “This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the day the night, thou canst not then be false to any man.”
      —William Shakespeare, Hamlet
    • 27. Authenticity and Congruence
      Authentic leader behaviors
      Understand yourself, not just the organization
      Practice your own values; don’t borrow from others
      Lead with your heart, not just your head
      • From an EI viewpoint, being open and authentic requires us to
      • 28. Be aware of our emotions and feelings
      • 29. Decide whether and how to disclose them
      • 30. Let people know how we feel
      Congruence is judged by the match between
      What we say
      Our nonverbal behavior
      The decisions and actions we take
    • 31. Benefits of Authenticity
      Credibility
      Being real and genuine creates buy-in
      People feel meaningfully connected to the leader
      They will offer support under difficult circumstances
      It encourages others to be emotionally honest
      And promotes an emotionally intelligent organization
    • 32. Basics of Self-Management
      Having the ability to determine how we feel, think, and act
      In contrast to being a slave to our impulses
      Routine patterns we have learned
      Impulsive or automatic reactions
      Remember: management, not control
      Control implies willpower
      Management involves becoming aware of what is affecting us and then deciding how to respond
      Becoming more strategic in how we respond
      Allowing long-term benefits to overcome short-term gratification
      Gaining mastery over how we respond
      All the while remaining true to our values in the longer term
    • 33. Self-Management and the Emotional Response Triad
      Why care?
      To be truly effective, we have to manage how we respond
      Apply the emotional triad:
      We experience an event
      We interpret the situation
      Then we react
      You can unlearn what you have learned
      Behavioral self-control training
      Cognitive self-regulation
      Self-management techniques
      Reaction
      Response
      Feeling
      Physiology
      Event
      Action tendency
      Emotional
      Response
      Expression
    • 34. The Emotional Triad
      Reaction(based on past experience)
      Response (choosing how to respond)
      Feeling
      Physiology
      Action tendency
      Emotional
      response
      Event
      Expression
    • 35. The Marshmallow Experiment
      A well-known experiment conducted at Stanford University in the 1960s
      A group of four-year-olds was given a marshmallow and told they could have another only if they could wait 20 minutes before eating the first one
      Some waited; others did not
      Following their progress into adolescence
      Those who could wait were better adjusted and more dependable
      They scored on average 210 points higher on the Scholastic Aptitude Test (SAT)
      Deferred gratification is an example of an emotional competence
      Source: Shoda, Yuichi, Walter Mischel, and Philip K. Peake. “Predicting Adolescent Cognitive and Self-Regulatory Competencies From Preschool Delay of Gratification: Identifying Diagnostic Conditions.” Developmental Psychology, Vol. 26 (November, 1990), pp. 978–986.
    • 36. Five Steps for Self-Management Preparation
      Job
      Aid
      Recognize the emotion you are experiencing
      Acknowledge any impulsive reactions you want to make
      Anticipate the possible negative consequences of the action
      Trade any immediate pleasure for long-term strategic advantage
      Decide whether and how to respond
    • 37. Additional Self-Management Techniques
      Reframing
      Self-monitoring
      Affirmations
      Working with your emotions
      Apply IDEDA
      Taking care of yourself
    • 38. 1. The Reframing Process: ABCDEF
      Activating event
      “Sue doesn’t like me”
      Belief (irrational)
      “Sue must like me”
      Consequence
      “I am angry and feel foolish”
      Dispute
      “Why must she like me? What evidence is there?”
      Effective belief
      “I’d prefer Sue to like me, but I’ll survive if she doesn’t”
      “I think it’s wrong of Sue not to like me”
      “That’s just the way of the world, and nothing dreadful is going to happen”
      Feeling (new)
      “I’m disappointed that Sue doesn’t like me”
    • 39. 2. Self-Monitoring: ABC
      Job
      Aid
      Good for impulsive reactions
      For example, used extensively in smoking cessation and weight control
      Keep a diary of your emotional-change episodes
      Use the following columns:
      Activity: What happened that led to my change in emotions?
      Beliefs: What beliefs led to the change in my emotions?
      Consequences: How big was the emotional change on a scale of 1–10?
    • 40. 2. Self-Monitoring: ABC(continued)
      Job
      Aid
      Use the diary data to challenge your beliefs and interpretations
      Pessimism and perfectionism
      Challenge your beliefs
      Look for evidence of alternative ways to make sense of the situation
      Worrying
      Challenge your beliefs about what is threatening
      Look for less threatening interpretations of the situation
      Experience the worry and let is subside
      Prepare well
      Practice relaxation
      Anger
      Identify what is triggering the anger
      Stand back
      Focus on other aspects of the situation
      If necessary—assert yourself
    • 41. 3. Affirmations
      Job
      Aid
      Turning negative self-talk into something more useful
      Counters a lifetime of putting ourselves down, so no quick wins!
      Take the output from your reframing process
      Create reframed statements about you in relation to the situation
      Use a positive phrasing, make it personal, and start with “I”
      Say, “I am confident making this suggestion to the meeting”
      Don’t say, “I am not as scared as I used to be when making this suggestion”
      Keep it in present tense—use “I am”
      Avoid “should,” “must,” “could,” “can”
      Make sure it is possible and believable to you
      Write it down
      Repeat it to yourself every day while imagining the outcome
    • 42. 4. Working With Your Emotions
      Job
      Aid
      Find ways to work through the emotion
      Experience the emotion rather than shying away or avoiding it
      Focus on the emotion, not the story
      Notice the feeling—use the mindfulness technique
      Silently describe the feeling to yourself
      Allow it to blow itself out naturally
      Only then do you consider options and actions
      Talk through with a non-involved party
      Allow yourself time out
      Write the letter/e-mail, but do not send it!
    • 43. 5. IDEDA: A Rational Process Model
      Job
      Aid
      Identify the emotion
      Take time to experience it
      Think about the wheel of emotion and emotional vocabulary
      Determine the real cause
      Take time to assess and reassess the situation
      Check your interpretation
      Evaluate options for action
      Doing nothing may be a suitable action
      Decide
      Consciously commit to an action
      Act: take action
      Remember that changing the way we think is an action
    • 44. 6. Taking Care of Yourself
      Job
      Aid
      Take care of yourself in order to care for others in your leadership role
      Centering yourself in your environment
      Pause for a moment
      Look around and notice five things you can see
      Listen and notice five things you can hear
      Notice five things you can feel in contact with your body
      Reduce your levels of stress and anxiety
      Many different methods exist
      Find one that suits you
      Breathing and relaxation techniques
    • 45. If All Else Fails…
      Job
      Aid
      Rubber band snap!
      Put a rubber band around your wrist
      Snap it every time you notice negative self-talk
      Over time, the negative stimulus (pain) is paired with that thinking
    • 46. Can Emotional Intelligence Be Learned?
      Learning the skills of emotional intelligence is not simply a matter of reading a book
      Emotion is not an intellectual mental process
      Uses different parts of the brain than intellect
      Proficient use of emotional intelligence is not as simple as learning a new applied skill set like riding a bike, or using Oracle
      It is best learned through practice
      Identify areas where your emotional intelligence can be enhanced
      Through your own or others’ observations of your behavior
      Request feedback and coaching from others about your behavior and how it could be more effective
      Put the new behavior into practice and get more feedback
      Hands-on coaching is the most effective way to learn or teach EI
    • 47. Session Objectives Revisited
      Introduced you to Learning Tree International
      Provided you with information on Emotional Intelligence
      Identified five emotional intelligences
      Leveraged emotional intelligence to become more self aware
      Applied emotional intelligence to gain greater control over your emotions
      • To learn more, Learning Tree offers the following courses:
      • 48. Course 3411, Emotional Intelligence: Achieving Leadership Success
      • 49. Course 222, Leadership Skills: Success through Teamwork
      • 50. Course 290, Management Skills
      • 51. Course 906, Management Skills for an IT Environment
      • 52. Course 3405, Developing your Leadership Voice
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      Unless you feel 100% satisfied that Learning Tree delivered even more than you expected, there is no fee for your course attendance. Our Guarantee of Quality lets you experience the value of the course—and then pay only if you feel the course was well worth the tuition.
    • 53. Thank You for Your Participation
      Any questions?
      Visit us at www.learningtree.ca
      Call us at 1-800-THE-TREE
      We wish you every success in the future
      We hope to see you in class soon!

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