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Urban Woot (http://urbanwoot.com/) has commissioned a series of Salons, hosted at Blacks private members club in London. I was delighted to be invited to host the first one. I hosted a discussion …

Urban Woot (http://urbanwoot.com/) has commissioned a series of Salons, hosted at Blacks private members club in London. I was delighted to be invited to host the first one. I hosted a discussion around time. I've studied many personal development approaches and I found Zimbardo's work on our orientation to time (whether habitually we look back or forwards, or enjoy the moment) impactful. Urban Woot has a mission of living a joyful life in an urban environment - and for me having the balance of time perspectives has been a significant contributor to me living a joyful life!

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  • I’m Suzanne Hazelton. I’m a coach, trainer and author. I work with individuals and businesses helping them to thrive.
  • How possible is it to get a grip of time?
  • Every day, we get 1440 minutes.  We start the day with them, and they’ll be gone when the day is over.At the beginning of the day, we can choose what to do with them.  If we wait until the end of the day, those choices are made for us by default.The good news is that it happens again tomorrow.And the next day.  And the day after that.But not forever.So, we’ve got 1,440 minutes today (less, unless we’re reading this at midnight).  What do we need to know to make good use of those minutes?Time is limited.  There will come a day when those daily deposits stop.  So it’s important to make sure we use each day’s minutes wisely.There are no days that do not count.  Each day is unique, and provides unique opportunities.  If we ignore those opportunities today, they’re gone forever.Our future will be determined by our daily choices.Good choices today will pay dividends in our future.Bad choices today will make withdrawals from our future.Not making any choices today gives our future away.Nobody becomes an overnight success.  Nobody becomes an overnight failure.  It’s the culmination of our daily choices.If we’ve been making bad choices (or no choices), we can change that today.  One good choice moves our future forward.Yesterday is gone, and tomorrow isn’t here yet.  Worrying about either one will distract us from being intentional about today.So, how will you use your 1,440 minutes today?
  • Alan Lakein is a well-known author on personal time management, including How to Get Control of Your Time and Your Life which has sold over 3 million copies.
  • How possible is it to get a grip of time?
  • Our body regenerates every 7 years ….
  • Sneeky tips ….
  • The now gets contaminated with worry about the future
  • “You can't change the past, but you can ruin the present by worrying about the future”
  • NB: Original from: http://www.thetimeparadox.com/zimbardo-time-perspective-inventory/
  • Let them readDo you agree?I disagree slightly with this statementI think we all experience things differently – and we have to learn to notice the good – AND find people who will support us (ACTIVE CONSTRUCTING)
  • Time … it’s not that big brother is watching you ….Not so much like the cctv camera ….
  • But in the same way as the monitors cycle …. You can cycle through where you’re spending your mental energy.Think about what you had for breakfast yesterday (past)Think about what you’re doing at the weekend (futureBack in the room …. Notice the sensations in your left big toe!You might wonder SO WHAT ….
  • Hand draw the mental health spectrum
  • First imagine a bowl of cherries … not hard as there’s a visual. The cherries represent the positive. Next imagine JUST one COCHROACH … would it make the cherries less appealing?NEXT imagine a bowl of cockroaches. Would the addition of A cherry make it any more appealing?Negative emotions have more impact than positive … therefore you need AT LEAST 3 X as many!Some of it is about CHOICE … what we choose to focus on ….
  • I’m Suzanne Hazelton. I’m a coach, trainer and author. I work with individuals and businesses helping them to thrive.

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  • 1. Getting a grip of timeSuzanne Hazeltonworking with individuals and businesses to THRIVE!
  • 2. Get a Grip of Time Suzanne Hazelton Urban Woot On the Couch Salons Blacks Club
  • 3. Acceleratehttp://youtu.be/3dDoz_u9H7E?t=38s
  • 4. How do you make progress towards a deadline? MBTI: Judging – Perceiving Dimension
  • 5. Getting agrip of time?
  • 6. You check your phone shortly afterwaking tomorrow morning.There’s a text from your banksaying:“Someone deposited £1440 in yourchecking account last night. It’llonly be there today. Whatever youdon’t use will be removed atmidnight.”What would you do?
  • 7. “Dont say you dont have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to HelenKeller, Pasteur, Michaelangelo, Mother Teresa, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein.”
  • 8. Can time be„mastered‟?
  • 9. You can’t put your arms around a memory.The skin you scuffed climbing the black railingsof school, the fingertips that learned to gripthe pen, the lips that took that first kissare gone, my friend. Nothing has stayed the same.The brain? A stockpot full of fats and proteinstopped up over a fire stoked and tendeda few decades. Only the bones endure,stilt-walking through a warm blizzard of flesh,making sure the whole thing hangs together,our lifetimes clinging on as snow will lagbare branches, magnifying them mindlessly.Dear heart, you’ve put a brave face on it, but knowexactly where the hugs and handshakes go.Paul Farley
  • 10. “In order to say‘no’, you need aburning ‘yes’”~ Stephen Covey
  • 11. TimePerspectives
  • 12. NB: Original from: http://www.thetimeparadox.com/zimbardo-time-perspective-inventory/
  • 13. “I used to envy the friends whoalways seemed to have such agood time. They might be doingmuch the same things as Idid, …, but where I found the thingsI did always ordinary and mainlydull, these friends were alwaysinvolved in events which wereinteresting and exciting. It took meyears to realise that the differencesbetween these friends and me wasnot in what we did, or what we feltabout what we did, but how wetalked about what we did.”~ Dorothy Rowe (1988)
  • 14. Living joyfully …
  • 15. Passive and Constructive Active and Constructive“That’s good news.” “That’s great, I know how important that promotion was to you! We should go out and celebrate and you can tell me what excites you most about your new job”(Nonverbal communication: little or no active (Nonverbal communication: maintaining goodemotional expression.) eye contact; displays of positive emotions such as genuine smiling, laughter and appropriate touch)Passive and Destructive Active and Destructive“What are we doing on Friday night?” “That sounds like a lot of responsibility to take on. There will probably more stress involved in the new position and longer hours at the office.”(Nonverbal communication: little or no eyecontact, turning away, leaving the room) (Nonverbal communication: displays of negative emotions such as furrowed brow, frowning.)
  • 16. ReferencesPositivity Ratio: http://positivityratio.com/Time Perspectives: http://www.thetimeparadox.com/RSA Animation from Zimbardo on Time Perspectives:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A3oIiH7BLmgAccelerate: http://youtu.be/3dDoz_u9H7E?t=38sBerne, E. (1971). A laymans guide to psychiatry and psychoanalysis (Extensively revised and enlarged ed. ed.). Harmondsworth: Penguin.Boniwell, I., Osin, E., Linley, P. A., & Ivanchenko, G. V. (2010). A question of balance: Time perspective and well-being in British and Russian samples. The Journal of Positive Psychology, 5(1), 24-40. doi: 10.1080/17439760903271181Fredrickson, B. (2009b). The Positivity Ratio. Retrieved 12th March, 2011, from https://www.positivityratio.com/Fredrickson, B. L. (2001). The role of positive emotions in positive psychology: The broaden-and- build theory of positive emotions. American Psychologist, 56(3), 218-226. doi: 10.1037/0003-066x.56.3.218Zimbardo, P. G., & Boyd, J. (2008). The time paradox : the new psychology of time. London: Rider
  • 17. Contact Details @SuzanneHazelton
  • 18. FlyingSTART planningworkshop – 25th Januarywww.2013Flyingstart.eventbrite.co.uk Promotional code: Urban Woot
  • 19. Thank You!The next salon is on Taste, 23rd January 6.30 to 8.30pm hosted by Shell Grayson, Editor of Nature Magazine www.urbanwoot.com
  • 20. ADDITIONAL SLIDES
  • 21. Positive PsychologyPsychotherapy Positiveis a general term referring to Psychology psychology therapeutic interaction or seeks "to find and nurture treatment contracted is an academic and applied discipline that involves the genius and talent", and "to between a trained make normal life more professional and a scientific study of mental functions and behaviours. fulfilling", rather thanclient, patient, family, couple, merely treating mental or group. illness.
  • 22. “When you are courting a nice girlan hour seems like a second. Whenyou sit on a red-hot cinder asecond seems like an hour. Thatsrelativity.” ~ Albert Einstein
  • 23. “Time is the substance I am made of.Time is a river which sweeps mealong, but I am the river; it is a tigerwhich destroys me, but I am thetiger; it is a fire which consumesme, but I am the fire.” ~ ― Jorge LuisBorges, Labyrinths
  • 24. Developing Positive Emotions Strengths Savouring Acts of Kindness Gratitude Balanced time perspectives Positive Emotion Living joyfully 34
  • 25. Negative has more impact than positive
  • 26. You check your phone shortly after waking tomorrow morning. There’s a text from your bank saying, “Someone deposited $1440 in your checking account last night. It’ll only be there today. Whatever you don’t use will be removed at midnight.” What would you do? If it happened to me, I would think, “OK, this is no little thing. I’ve got some options: •I could spend it. •I could save it. •I could invest it. •I could give it. But there’s one thing I wouldn’t do: Ignore it. Would you?That’s really what happens every day to each of usBut it’s not dollars.It’s minutes.Every day, we get 1440 minutes. We start the day with them, and they’ll be gone when the day is over.At the beginning of the day, we can choose what to do with them. If we wait until the end of the day, those choices are made for usby default.The good news is that it happens again tomorrow.And the next day. And the day after that.But not forever.So, we’ve got 1,440 minutes today (less, unless we’re reading this at midnight). What do we need to know to make good use ofthose minutes?1.Time is limited. There will come a day when those daily deposits stop. So it’s important to make sure we use each day’s minuteswisely.2.There are no days that do not count. Each day is unique, and provides unique opportunities. If we ignore those opportunitiestoday, they’re gone forever.3.Our future will be determined by our daily choices. 1.Good choices today will pay dividends in our future. 2.Bad choices today will make withdrawals from our future. 3.Not making any choices today gives our future away.4.Nobody becomes an overnight success. Nobody becomes an overnight failure. It’s the culmination of our daily choices.5.If we’ve been making bad choices (or no choices), we can change that today. One good choice moves our future forward.Yesterday is gone, and tomorrow isn’t here yet. Worrying about either one will distract us from being intentional about today.So, how will you use your 1,440 minutes today?
  • 27. Contact Details• suzanne@thebusinessofchange• Blog: www.suzannehazelton.com• Web: www.thebusinessofchange.co.uk• Twitter: @SuzanneHazelton• Buy #RaiseYourGame http://www.raiseyourgame.biz/• Pre order Great Days at Work on Amazon.co.uk3
  • 28. Getting a grip of timeSuzanne Hazeltonworking with individuals and businesses to THRIVE!