STEPS TO GET
PERFECTIONISM
12BEYOND
LAUNCHYOURGENIUS.COM
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Are you putting off that creative task because you are afraid that you
will not be able to meet your own expectations?
IS YOUR BEST
STILL NOT
GOOD
ENOUGH?
Are you feeling paralyzed by
PERFECTIONISM?
Here is a system of 12
steps to get you
BEYOND
Perfectionism...
1.  Awareness and Realization That you
get Stuck by Excessive Perfectionism
“G!!" #$!%&' () &!!" #$!%&'.
P#rf#*+ w(,, -./#...
Perfectionism = Trying to
make your
best work even
BETTER
BETTER
BETTER
Now, there is
nothing
wrong with
attempting
to do the
best
workof
your life. 
The PROBLEM: Do you
allow your desire to be
perfect interfere with
your desire to launch
and put your work out
there?
DO you feel
STRESS and
ANXIETY?
Are you JUDGING
yourself too harshly?
Action Tips:
Become AWAREof
PERFECTIONISM in your life. 
Are YOUstopping yourself
because you are trying to be a
perfectio...
2. Kinds of Perfectionism 
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I+’) .b!%+ f#.r...
In a research article by psychologists Hewitt and Flett,
Perfectionism has been categorized into:
1. Self-oriented perfect...
Adaptive and Maladaptive Perfectionism
Adaptive = High Standards, less stress
and less self-censure
Maladaptive = High Sta...
ARE YOU DIRECTING
PERFECTIONISM
INWARDS OR OUTWARDS?
DO YOU HAVE STRESS
AND CENSURE
ASSOCIATED WITH IT?
3. Scratching Below the Surface: Cast Aside
the Past Beliefs that Sustain Perfectionism 
“I +'($/ p#rf#*+(!$()- () b.)#" !...
Did you ever hear statements like :
“You should not provide half baked
solutions.”
“It is not WORTHdoing if it is not perfect.” 
“My parents and friends will not APPROVEof
this work.” 
These “memes” or
programs may be
causing you stress,
anxiety and
perfectionism...
REPLACE WITH:
“It is far better to provide half-baked solutions than
to provide no solutions at all.”
It is much better to launch something that is
GOOD ENOUGHrather than waiting, getting
stuck and not launching something pe...
Action Tips:
Become aware of and cast aside
beliefs that predispose you
towards unrealistic perfectionism.
Question the va...
4. Dismantle the Anxiety and
Stress behind Perfectionism
“D!$’+ ,#+ p#rf#*+
b# +'# #$#-0 !f +'#
&!!".”- V!,+.(r# 
According to psychologist Kenneth Rice and his
colleagues from the Journal of Cognitive
Psychology:
“The defining feature ...
In other words,
maladaptive perfectionists
experience more personal
distress when their high
standards and goals are not
a...
Become aware that the perfectionism trap is a cycle
of unrealistic expectations, excessively high
standards, incorrect ass...
Action Tip:
Break the cycle by
REDUCINGthe stress
associated with performance.
5. Peeling off the Layers of
Perfectionism- The Three Primal
Problems: Fear, Self-Worth and Shame
“I+’) ($ !%r b(!,!&0 +! ...
Do you believe that your work is not
WORTHY for the world to see?
You may have deep-seated fear
of getting rejected
There may be many types of fear: fear
of failure, success and of rejecti...
Hence, they portray themselves as being deficient in
their own minds and get stuck from taking action to
auto-correct. 
Ac...
Action Tip:
Understand that fear,
shame and low self-worth
may be orchestrating the
perfectionism in your
actions.
Action Tip: Embrace
Excitement,
Acceptance and
Great Self-worth.
6. Blame, Self-Criticism and Criticism
From Others: The Judgment Trap
“O%+ b#0!$" ("#.) !f
wr!$&"!($& .$" r(&'+"!($&,
+'#r...
Are you constantly COMPARINGyourself with
others and fueling a non-realistic perfectionism
because of that. 
ARE YOU EXCESSIVELY
SELF-CRITICAL
AND EASILY BLAME
YOURSELF?
Do you believe that you
need to be perfect to be
loved and accepted?
Are you looking for external
validation and approval?
Action Tips: 
Cast aside self-criticism and self-
blame.
Choose self-acceptance and praise your
work as good enough. 
Move...
“P!rf!"#$%&$'( )%!'&'# b!*$!v! $& pr+"#$"! ',%#'. I# )%!'&'#
b!*$!v! $& $(pr%v!(!&#. P!rf!"#$%&$'( ,+' &!v!r ,!+r) #,+#
+&...
7. Master Controller of Your
Universe: Trust and Safety Issues
“P#rf#*+(!$()- () $!+ .
pr#r#q%()(+# f!r .$0+'($& b%+
p.($....
Do you have a subconscious need for safety and control. A lot
of perfectionism is based on trust and safety issues that we...
In a research study on perfectionism and
psychological control by Soenens et al.,
maladaptive perfectionism, self-esteem
a...
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*!$+r...
Action Tips:
Address trust and safety issues
Delegate small tasks to others
and loosen the grip on control
and wanting to ...
Take small risks towards
allowing yourself to be less of a
perfectionist.
Develop a sense of safety and
trust in yourself ...
8. Set Up Rules and Deadlines for Your
Project: Structures that work
“B%+ I .- ,#.r$($& +'.+ p#rf#*+(!$
()$'+ w'.+ -.++#r)...
Do you have any rules or restrictions to manage
the tendency to become a perfectionist?
Set a firm deadline and place the habit
of perfectionism within a FRAMEWORK
Rules can sound like:
“My time to write today is
one hour and during that one
hour I will NOT EDIT or
go back to correct a...
Allow for Creative Perfectionism: Perfectionism in a
small sub-set of activities or just one task.
Complete other tasks wi...
9. Getting Realistic about Your
Approach to Life and Tasks: Dropping
Standards
“W# fr#;# %p b#*.%)# w# 8p#*+ .
*#r+.($ r#)...
Many perfectionists think in
black and white. It is all or
nothing. Either the work is
outrageously good or they
refuse to...
“I$ pr#p.r($& f!r b.++,# I '.v#
.,w.0) f!%$" +'.+ p,.$) .r# %)#,#)),
b%+ p,.$$($& () ($"()p#$).b,#.”-
Dw(&'+ E()#$'!w#r
If on a scale from 1 to 10, 7-10 being a great job and
1-3 being a poorly done job, where would you place
yourself? A perf...
WHERE ARE YOU ON THE SCALE?TURN THE DIAL BACK
A NOTCH IF YOUR STANDARDS ARE UNREALISTICALLY
HIGH...
The scale is relative:your 7 may
be a 10 for others...
10. Dismantling the Process of
Moving Forward: Small Steps to
overcome Perfectionism
“90 p#r*#$+ p#rf#*+ .$" )'.r#" w(+'
+...
Do you know how to
CONTINUE forward?
The NEXT step?
One of the issues that
perfectionists face is getting
overly caught up in a
TINYdetail that may
not be very important.
Create Structural Tension: According to Robert Fritz,
author of Path of least Resistance, when you know where
you are at a...
11. Become a Scientist in Your
own Life: Observe, Experiment
and Change the Core Concepts
behind Why you are being
a Perfe...
Scientific Process:
Observation
Hypothesis
Experimentation
Data analysis
Peer review
OBSERVE
the stress and other
effects that perfectionism
brings...
Make alternate
HYPOTHESES...
ways other than
Perfectionism...
TEST OTHER
ALTERNATIVES!
EXPERIMENT!
GET DATA on how
letting go of perfectionism is
bringing VALUE to
your life...
Ask objective PEERS to
evaluate
your work! When you do
your BEST,
it is usually GOOD
ENOUGH...
Recognize those cues and replace them with
motivations with a higher purpose such as giving
great value to others...
Disma...
12. A new Model: Value the Process
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Pr!b.b(,(+(#), w'(*' ).0) +'# -!r# +'($&) 0!%
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Perfectionist are often
obsessed with the way
the end product or
OUTCOME should
look like.
Let us change that model. Slow down and savor
your creative process and your projects and not
be overly caught up with the...
Replace Perfectionism with:
Excellence +
Imperfection +
SAVOR the Journey!
Ability to Fail +
LESS Stress +
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2. There are different types of Perfe...
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  • @circe_ Thanks a lot for a great comment, Circe! I think that it really helps to know that a lot of people have some amount of insecurity and nervousness when approaching public situations. Also. it is a matter of practice. The more you present, the better you become. Perhaps you can approach presentations like you are telling a story instead of trying to make it interesting or better. When we engage the audience in a story that we believe in and deliver it with purpose and belief, the outcome is usually better.
    Stay inspired and you are most welcome! :)
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  • ´´What will they think about my presentation? Will it be clear enough? I needed to study a lot more to be more confident in the subject...``
    That´s what happens when I am about to perform a presentation...I get so nervous about it..next think I know...everything disappear from my mind, I forget everything I practiced and just stick to the slides with shaky and sweaty hands...And when it´s over...I keep thinking about how it could have been ´´BETTER`` if I studied more and practiced more..It´s never Good enough.. And that´s something that really kills your confidence..
    So...I am working on my personal issues and insecurity, learning to appreciate my persistance, knowing that I always do my best and the most important is TRYING ...if you fail or not, it was meant to happen, cause everything happens for a reason. Just be prapeared to fail and learn from it and don´t have unrealistic expectations.
    Once again thank you Harish.. :)
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  • @shvmdhwn That is a great description of the perfectionism trap complete with emotions and drama! Thanks a lot for sharing, Shivam :)
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  • YES YES YES YES and more Yes...
    I feel emotions crawl upto my skin. And yet I am just 'Judging myself' with teeth clenching harshness.
    The problem is 'MORE'... 'BETTER'... 'PROPER'... 'FINER'...
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  • @rajivnayak58 I agree. You are most welcome, Rajiv! I am glad that you liked the slide deck.
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  1. 1. STEPS TO GET PERFECTIONISM 12BEYOND LAUNCHYOURGENIUS.COM
  2. 2. “U!"#r$%&!"'!( %)# "'ff#r#!+# b#%w##! )#&,%)- $%r'v'!( &!" p#rf#+%'.!'$/ '$ +r'%'+&, %. ,&-'!( ".w! %)# $)'#," &!" p'+0'!( 1p -.1r ,'f#. R#$#&r+) $).w$ %)&% p#rf#+%'.!'$/ )&/p#r$ $1++#$$. I! f&+%, '%’$ .2#! %)# p&%) %. "#pr#$$'.!, &!3'#%-, &""'+%'.!, &!" ,'f# p&r&,-$'$.” ― Br#!4 Br.w!, 5# G'2$ .f I/p#rf#+%'.!
  3. 3. Are you putting off that creative task because you are afraid that you will not be able to meet your own expectations?
  4. 4. IS YOUR BEST STILL NOT GOOD ENOUGH?
  5. 5. Are you feeling paralyzed by PERFECTIONISM?
  6. 6. Here is a system of 12 steps to get you BEYOND Perfectionism...
  7. 7. 1.  Awareness and Realization That you get Stuck by Excessive Perfectionism “G!!" #$!%&' () &!!" #$!%&'. P#rf#*+ w(,, -./# 0!% . b(& f.+ -#)) #v#r0 +(-#.” ― R#b#**. W#,,)
  8. 8. Perfectionism = Trying to make your best work even BETTER BETTER BETTER
  9. 9. Now, there is nothing wrong with attempting to do the best workof your life. 
  10. 10. The PROBLEM: Do you allow your desire to be perfect interfere with your desire to launch and put your work out there?
  11. 11. DO you feel STRESS and ANXIETY? Are you JUDGING yourself too harshly?
  12. 12. Action Tips: Become AWAREof PERFECTIONISM in your life.  Are YOUstopping yourself because you are trying to be a perfectionist?
  13. 13. 2. Kinds of Perfectionism  “A+ (+) r!!+, p#rf#*+(!$()- ()$’+ r#.,,0 .b!%+ . "##p ,!v# !f b#($& -#+(*%,!%). I+’) .b!%+ f#.r. F#.r !f -./($& . -()+./#. F#.r !f "().pp!($+($& !+'#r). F#.r !f f.(,%r#. F#.r !f )%**#)).” ― M(*'.#, L.w
  14. 14. In a research article by psychologists Hewitt and Flett, Perfectionism has been categorized into: 1. Self-oriented perfectionism: Excessively high standards on self, evaluation and self-censure. 2. Other-oriented perfectionism: Excessively high standards on significant others. 3. Socially-prescribed perfectionism: People feel that unrealistic high standards are being placed on them from significant others.
  15. 15. Adaptive and Maladaptive Perfectionism Adaptive = High Standards, less stress and less self-censure Maladaptive = High Standards, MORE stress and more self-censure
  16. 16. ARE YOU DIRECTING PERFECTIONISM INWARDS OR OUTWARDS? DO YOU HAVE STRESS AND CENSURE ASSOCIATED WITH IT?
  17. 17. 3. Scratching Below the Surface: Cast Aside the Past Beliefs that Sustain Perfectionism  “I +'($/ p#rf#*+(!$()- () b.)#" !$ +'# !1#))(v# b#,(#f +'.+ (f 0!% r%$ *.r#2,,0 #$!%&', '(++($& #.*' )+#pp($&-)+!$# 3%)+ r(&'+, 0!% w!$’+ '.v# +! "(#.” ― A$$# L.-!++
  18. 18. Did you ever hear statements like : “You should not provide half baked solutions.”
  19. 19. “It is not WORTHdoing if it is not perfect.”  “My parents and friends will not APPROVEof this work.” 
  20. 20. These “memes” or programs may be causing you stress, anxiety and perfectionism...
  21. 21. REPLACE WITH: “It is far better to provide half-baked solutions than to provide no solutions at all.”
  22. 22. It is much better to launch something that is GOOD ENOUGHrather than waiting, getting stuck and not launching something perfect.
  23. 23. Action Tips: Become aware of and cast aside beliefs that predispose you towards unrealistic perfectionism. Question the validity of assumptions that these beliefs are based upon and choose new beliefs.
  24. 24. 4. Dismantle the Anxiety and Stress behind Perfectionism “D!$’+ ,#+ p#rf#*+ b# +'# #$#-0 !f +'# &!!".”- V!,+.(r# 
  25. 25. According to psychologist Kenneth Rice and his colleagues from the Journal of Cognitive Psychology: “The defining feature of perfectionism appears to be high personal standards. The distinction between having high standards and the affective, intrapersonal, and interpersonal responses to living up to those standards distinguish adaptive from maladaptive perfectionists.”
  26. 26. In other words, maladaptive perfectionists experience more personal distress when their high standards and goals are not achieved.
  27. 27. Become aware that the perfectionism trap is a cycle of unrealistic expectations, excessively high standards, incorrect assessment, stress, overwhelm and self-censure. 
  28. 28. Action Tip: Break the cycle by REDUCINGthe stress associated with performance.
  29. 29. 5. Peeling off the Layers of Perfectionism- The Three Primal Problems: Fear, Self-Worth and Shame “I+’) ($ !%r b(!,!&0 +! +r%)+ w'.+ w# )## w(+' !%r #0#). 4() -./#) ,(v($& ($ . *.r#2,,0 #"(+#", !v#rpr!"%*#" .$" p'!+5'!pp#" w!r," v#r0 ".$&#r!%).” ― Br#$6 Br!w$
  30. 30. Do you believe that your work is not WORTHY for the world to see?
  31. 31. You may have deep-seated fear of getting rejected There may be many types of fear: fear of failure, success and of rejection.
  32. 32. Hence, they portray themselves as being deficient in their own minds and get stuck from taking action to auto-correct.  According to research professor Brené Brown, author of The Gifts of Imperfection, people who feel shame attribute it as a character flaw and cannot distinguish between the action that caused the shame and themselves. 
  33. 33. Action Tip: Understand that fear, shame and low self-worth may be orchestrating the perfectionism in your actions.
  34. 34. Action Tip: Embrace Excitement, Acceptance and Great Self-worth.
  35. 35. 6. Blame, Self-Criticism and Criticism From Others: The Judgment Trap “O%+ b#0!$" ("#.) !f wr!$&"!($& .$" r(&'+"!($&, +'#r# () . 7#,". I’,, -##+ 0!% +'#r#.” – R%-(
  36. 36. Are you constantly COMPARINGyourself with others and fueling a non-realistic perfectionism because of that. 
  37. 37. ARE YOU EXCESSIVELY SELF-CRITICAL AND EASILY BLAME YOURSELF?
  38. 38. Do you believe that you need to be perfect to be loved and accepted? Are you looking for external validation and approval?
  39. 39. Action Tips:  Cast aside self-criticism and self- blame. Choose self-acceptance and praise your work as good enough.  Move the focus of approval to an internal meter of approval and praise.
  40. 40. “P!rf!"#$%&$'( )%!'&'# b!*$!v! $& pr+"#$"! ',%#'. I# )%!'&'# b!*$!v! $& $(pr%v!(!&#. P!rf!"#$%&$'( ,+' &!v!r ,!+r) #,+# +&-#,$&. w%r#, )%$&. $' w%r#, )%$&. b+)*---+&) #,+# $f w! +**%w %/r'!*v!' #% )% '%(!#,$&. b+)*- w! ($.,# $& #$(! b!"%(! q/$#! .%%) +# $#. P!rf!"#$%&$'( (!+'/r!' %/r b!.$&&!r'' w%r0 +.+$&'# #,! 1&$',!) w%r0 %f (+'#!r'. P!rf!"#$%&$'( #,r$v!' %& "%(p+r$'%& +&) "%(p!#$#$%&. I# )%!'&'# 0&%w ,%w #% '+-, "G%%) #r-," %r "J%b w!** )%&!." 2! "r$#$" )%!' &%# b!*$!v! $& "r!+#$v! .*!!--%r +&- .*!! +# +**, f%r #,+# (+##!r. N%, p!rf!"#$%&$'( $' + '!r$%/' (+##!r.” ― J/*$+ C+(!r%&, 3&)$&. W+#!r: 2! Ar# %f P!r'!v!r+&"!
  41. 41. 7. Master Controller of Your Universe: Trust and Safety Issues “P#rf#*+(!$()- () $!+ . pr#r#q%()(+# f!r .$0+'($& b%+ p.($.” ― D.$$. F.%,")
  42. 42. Do you have a subconscious need for safety and control. A lot of perfectionism is based on trust and safety issues that we may have and are still unresolved.
  43. 43. In a research study on perfectionism and psychological control by Soenens et al., maladaptive perfectionism, self-esteem and depression in adolescents were strongly related to the levels of psychological control that they experienced from their parents.
  44. 44. A**!r"($& +! +'# .%+'!r): “O%r 7$"($&) )%&&#)+ +'.+ ."!,#)*#$+) w'! p#r*#(v# +'#(r p.r#$+) .) 8*#))(v#,0 &%(,+- ($"%*($&, .) "()r#&.r"($& +'#(r p!($+ !f v(#w, .$" .) b#($& r#)p!$)(v# !$,0 w'#$ p.r#$+., )+.$".r") .r# -#+, '.v# -.,.".p+(v# )#,f-r#pr#)#$+.+(!$) ($ w'(*' +'# p%r)%(+ !f .,-5+ %$.++.($.b,# &!.,) () !f *#$+r., (-p!r+.$*#.”
  45. 45. O$ +'# ())%# !f +'# #ff#*+) !f *!$+r!,, +'# .%+'!r) p!($+ !%+: “A"!,#)*#$+) w'! r#p!r+ '(&'#r ,#v#,) !f p)0*'!,!&(*., *!$+r!, "!%b+ +'#(r b#'.v(!r, #$&.&# ($ $#&.+(v# )#,f-#v.,%.+(!$), .$" '.v# )+r!$& *!$*#r$) .b!%+ +'#(r p#rf!r-.$*# .$" p!+#$+(., -()+./#). 4#)# -.,.".p+(v# .)p#*+) !f p#rf#*+(!$()-, ($ +%r$, r#,.+# +! $#&.+(v# !%+*!-#) )%*' .) "#pr#))(!$ .$" ,!w#r )#,f-#)+##-.”
  46. 46. Action Tips: Address trust and safety issues Delegate small tasks to others and loosen the grip on control and wanting to do things perfectly.
  47. 47. Take small risks towards allowing yourself to be less of a perfectionist. Develop a sense of safety and trust in yourself and the ability of others.
  48. 48. 8. Set Up Rules and Deadlines for Your Project: Structures that work “B%+ I .- ,#.r$($& +'.+ p#rf#*+(!$ ()$'+ w'.+ -.++#r). I$ f.*+, (+') +'# v#r0 +'($& +'.+ *.$ "#)+r!0 0!% (f 0!% ,#+ (+.” ― E-(,0 G(ffi$
  49. 49. Do you have any rules or restrictions to manage the tendency to become a perfectionist?
  50. 50. Set a firm deadline and place the habit of perfectionism within a FRAMEWORK
  51. 51. Rules can sound like: “My time to write today is one hour and during that one hour I will NOT EDIT or go back to correct and make things better.”
  52. 52. Allow for Creative Perfectionism: Perfectionism in a small sub-set of activities or just one task. Complete other tasks with relatively less amount of perfectionism and you will get to see the costs vs benefits of being a non-perfectionist.
  53. 53. 9. Getting Realistic about Your Approach to Life and Tasks: Dropping Standards “W# fr#;# %p b#*.%)# w# 8p#*+ . *#r+.($ r#)%,+ !r b#*.%)# w# w.$+ +'($&) +! b# p#rf#*+.” ― B#r$(# G,.))-.$, 4# D%"# .$" +'# Z#$ M.)+#r
  54. 54. Many perfectionists think in black and white. It is all or nothing. Either the work is outrageously good or they refuse to ship at all.
  55. 55. “I$ pr#p.r($& f!r b.++,# I '.v# .,w.0) f!%$" +'.+ p,.$) .r# %)#,#)), b%+ p,.$$($& () ($"()p#$).b,#.”- Dw(&'+ E()#$'!w#r
  56. 56. If on a scale from 1 to 10, 7-10 being a great job and 1-3 being a poorly done job, where would you place yourself? A perfectionist will attempt to score a routine 10 or more.
  57. 57. WHERE ARE YOU ON THE SCALE?TURN THE DIAL BACK A NOTCH IF YOUR STANDARDS ARE UNREALISTICALLY HIGH...
  58. 58. The scale is relative:your 7 may be a 10 for others...
  59. 59. 10. Dismantling the Process of Moving Forward: Small Steps to overcome Perfectionism “90 p#r*#$+ p#rf#*+ .$" )'.r#" w(+' +'# w!r," .,w.0) *'.$&#) -!r# ,(v#) +'.$ 100 p#r*#$+ p#rf#*+ .$" )+%*/ ($ 0!%r '#.".” ― J!$ A*%ff
  60. 60. Do you know how to CONTINUE forward? The NEXT step?
  61. 61. One of the issues that perfectionists face is getting overly caught up in a TINYdetail that may not be very important.
  62. 62. Create Structural Tension: According to Robert Fritz, author of Path of least Resistance, when you know where you are at and where you would like to be or go very clearly, you create structural tension that propels resolution.
  63. 63. 11. Become a Scientist in Your own Life: Observe, Experiment and Change the Core Concepts behind Why you are being a Perfectionist
  64. 64. Scientific Process: Observation Hypothesis Experimentation Data analysis Peer review
  65. 65. OBSERVE the stress and other effects that perfectionism brings...
  66. 66. Make alternate HYPOTHESES... ways other than Perfectionism...
  67. 67. TEST OTHER ALTERNATIVES! EXPERIMENT!
  68. 68. GET DATA on how letting go of perfectionism is bringing VALUE to your life...
  69. 69. Ask objective PEERS to evaluate your work! When you do your BEST, it is usually GOOD ENOUGH...
  70. 70. Recognize those cues and replace them with motivations with a higher purpose such as giving great value to others... Dismantle the foundations of perfectionism. Perfectionism is driven and triggered by cues such as fear, performance, stress and expectations.
  71. 71. 12. A new Model: Value the Process "I +#.*' )!-#+'($& *.,,#" 4# L.w !f Pr!b.b(,(+(#), w'(*' ).0) +'# -!r# +'($&) 0!% +r0, +'# -!r# ,(/#,0 !$# !f +'#- w(,, w!r/. 4# -!r# b!!/) 0!% r#.", +'# -!r# ,(/#,0 !$# !f +'#- w(,, '.v# .$ .$)w#r +! . q%#)+(!$ +'.+ *!%," )!,v# +'# -.3!r pr!b,#-) !f 0!%r ,(f#.. -./# 0!% w#.,+'(#r, )!,v# . '#.,+' pr!b,#-, w'.+#v#r (+ -(&'+ b#."- J.*/ C.$7#,"
  72. 72. Perfectionist are often obsessed with the way the end product or OUTCOME should look like.
  73. 73. Let us change that model. Slow down and savor your creative process and your projects and not be overly caught up with the outcome.
  74. 74. Replace Perfectionism with: Excellence + Imperfection + SAVOR the Journey! Ability to Fail + LESS Stress +
  75. 75. SUMMARY 1.  Awareness and Realization That you get Stuck by Excessive Perfectionism. 2. There are different types of Perfectionism. 3. Scratching Below the Surface: Cast Aside the Past Beliefs that Sustain Perfectionism . 4. Dismantle the Anxiety and Stress behind Perfectionism. 5. Peeling off the Layers of Perfectionism- The Three Primal Problems: Fear, Self- Worth and Shame. 6. Blame, Self-Criticism and Criticism From Others: Beware of The Judgment Trap. 7. Master Controller of Your Universe: Perfectionism caused by Trust and Safety Issues. 8. Set Up Rules and Deadlines for Your Projects and to counter perfectionism. 9. Getting Realistic about Your Approach to Life and Tasks: Drop Standards. 10. Dismantling the Process of Moving Forward: Take Small Steps to overcome Perfectionism. 11. Become a Scientist in Your own Life: Observe, Experiment and Change the Core Concepts behind Why you are being a Perfectionist. 12. A new Model: Choose Excellence and Value the Process.
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