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Training given by Ross Meade and Anthony Warren at the LDS Mentors launch event, Watford, 27th June 2013. ...

Training given by Ross Meade and Anthony Warren at the LDS Mentors launch event, Watford, 27th June 2013.
Guide to being a Mentor.

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  • From Reuters News (http://uk.reuters.com/article/2012/01/30/uk-mormonchurch-idUKTRE80T1CP20120130):

    Did the leaders of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints know that members are 'leaving in droves?' a woman asked.

    'We are aware,' said Elder Marlin K. Jensen, according to a tape recording of his unscripted remarks. 'And I'm speaking of the 15 men that are above me in the hierarchy of the church. They really do know and they really care,' he said.

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    Elder Jensen, the church's official historian, would not provide any figures on the rate of defections, but he told Reuters that attrition has accelerated in the last five or 10 years, reflecting greater secularization of society. Many religions have been suffering similarly, he noted, arguing that Mormonism has never been more vibrant.
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  • 1. Hyde Park, Reading, St Albans, Watford Stakes Launch Event Training Thursday 27th June 2013 LDS Mentors Launch Event Watford Chapel
  • 2. “Each of us, from time to time, is mentored and has chances to mentor. In my experience, truthful and caring one-liners that occur within such nurturing relationships have a long shelf life! You can probably recount three or four examples of how people have said something—probably a sentence or clause— and you remember it still. It moves and touches you still.” Elder Neal A. Maxwell Jesus, the Perfect Mentor Ensign, Feb. 2001, 8. LDS Mentors Launch Event Training An apostolic prospective
  • 3. Agenda LDS Mentors Launch Event Training  Our mission and the sacred nature of working with our young people  What does/does not being an LDS mentor entail?  A framework for mentoring  How to conduct a mentoring conversation  Q&A session
  • 4. “…you should study and prepare for your life’s work in a field that you enjoy, because you are going to spend a good share of your life in that field. It should be one which will challenge your intellect and which will make maximum utilization of your talents and your capabilities. Finally, it should be a field that will supply sufficient remuneration to provide adequately for your companion and your children. Now that’s a big order. But I bear testimony that these criteria are very important in choosing your life’s work. “ President Thomas S. Monson CES Fireside for Young Adults: Life’s Greatest Decisions, 7 September 2003 LDS Mentors Launch Event Training A Prophet’s voice
  • 5. Our mission is to provide mentoring and career insight to those who are seeking help in exploring their career and educational options, with specific emphasis on returned missionaries and Young Single Adult members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter- day Saints. The LDS Mentoring Initiative aims to:  Bring experienced professionals into contact with young people at the outset of their professional and educational development.  Promote education and career advancement amongst LDS Young Single Adults through a Mentor connection.  Bring experienced professionals into contact with others where required at significantly crucial points in their professional and educational development.  Provide a national resource available to individuals, families, Priesthood leaders and LDS Employment Services. LDS Mentors Launch Event Training Our Mission
  • 6. “Brethren, there is no organization better able to respond to the challenges of humanity than the priesthood of the Most High God. We have the organization. Stake presidents, bishops, elders quorum presidents, and high priests group leaders— we now call upon you to mobilize our priesthood quorums in response to the employment and financial challenges facing our members.” Bishop Richard C. Edgley, Conference Report: “This Is Your Phone Call”, Apr. 2009 LDS Mentors Launch Event Training A call to action
  • 7. LDS Mentors Launch Event Training The sacred nature of working with our young people
  • 8. ...is very simple....  A need is recognised...by the future mentee or a trusted advisor (parent, Priesthood leader, other)  The Stake LDS Mentors Co-ordinator is approached  A mentor is identified (firstly within a stake and then beyond where there is a need)  The mentor is approached and if he/she is willing to take on the mentee then the mentee is encouraged to make contact with the mentor ...and that is where the fun starts... LDS Mentors Launch Event Training The process for connecting the mentor and mentee…
  • 9.  Necessarily finding the mentor a job  Take on the ownership and responsibility for the Mentees career, decisions or life  Prejudging the viability of a Mentees ideas  Adopt a judgemental attitude  Creating false expectations  Doing most of the talking  Thinking as Mentor we know everything LDS Mentors Launch Event Training What does being an LDS mentor NOT entail?
  • 10. LDS Mentors Launch Event Training What does being an LDS mentor entail? LDS Mentoring should lead a Mentor and a Mentee to partner and engage in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential. Through structured conversations the mentor should help the mentee to become more aware of what they want and why they want it, define some goals and action plans, and then check progress along the way, while overcoming obstacles as they arise. The mentor may also provide some industry and/or role related input along the way. A Definition
  • 11.  Make a realistic time commitment and method for contact with the Mentee  Encourage the Mentee to express and discuss their ideas, concerns and understanding of the career choices facing them.  Share with them appropriate insight and guidance.  Refer Mentees to other sources of information or further support.  Help Mentees to set realistic and practical goals and plans for how to achieve those goals. Review their progress during subsequent calls or meetings.  Encourage Mentees to take responsibility for their own decisions, plans and actions.  Provide encouragement and support LDS Mentors Launch Event Training What does being an LDS mentor entail?
  • 12. LDS Mentors Launch Event Training Walking the line Bringing the key skills together of Rapport…Listening…Questioning SYMPATHY • Attached • Absorbed • Shared journey • Immersed in shared problem • Can’t feed back - “I don’t want to upset them” • Carry the Mentee • No plan for future • Coach and client both stuck OBJECTIVITY • Detached • Outsider • Separate journey • Not “my” problem • Harsh feed back – “I told him what his problem is” • “Here’s my advice” • Drive the Mentee • Client feels stuck, coach feels “so what?” This is the domain of LDS Mentors. This is where we can add value. This is where CHOICE exists. This where the Spirit resides & gives guidance A connection continuum.
  • 13.  Careers • What is it like to work in this industry? • What education do I need? • How much will I earn? • What will is take to be a success?  Presentation skills • Personal presentation • Project my best self  Building personal strengths  Confidence  Leadership behaviours  Working relationships/networks  Work life balance  Stress management LDS Mentors Launch Event Training What are appropriate subjects for mentoring conversations?
  • 14.  Hope  Fortitude  Creativity  Direction  Inspiration  Grounding  Confidence  Perseverance  Sight and commitment to the big picture  A plan LDS Mentors Launch Event Training Leading to…
  • 15. LDS Mentors Launch Event Training TGROW: A framework for mentoring Topic Goal Reality Options Way forward • Find an area to focus on. • Define exactly WHAT they want • Explore today’s situation and barriers to progress • Create ideas of what they could do. • Commit to action. • They define what they will do. 1 2 3 4 5 The flow is not always left to right.
  • 16. LDS Mentors Launch Event Training TGROW: The Detail - What would you like to talk about….? - You mentioned on the phone….. - Tell me about…. - Tell me about your idea - How can I help? - Talk to me about what you want from today TOPIC questions
  • 17. LDS Mentors Launch Event Training TGROW: The Detail • SMART • Positive and present • 100% wanted • 100% owned GOAL attributes - How much do you want this? (specific, not a comparison) - How else could you embellish this? Give me more detail. - How soon? - What will it do for you? - If you knew for certain that you would not fail, what would you have? - Ownership: Can you take complete control and ownership? (listen for a negative response) - Evidence: How will you know when you have it? (listen for all of VAK) - Ecology check: Is it really what you want? If you could, would you have it tomorrow? GOAL questions
  • 18. LDS Mentors Launch Event Training TGROW: The Detail REALITY attributes REALITY questions - What is happening now? - What are your values and how are they not being met right now? - What do you believe about yourself? - Whenever you do X, what happens next? - What have you tried, where did you get to? - What do you think I can do for you? - How you spoken to anyone else about this? - What would you gain/lose by doing/not doing X? (note here 4 separate questions) - What would create certainty of achieving your goal? - How could you break the goal down into smaller ones? • Status is crystal clear. • The GAP is crystal clear. • Cause and effect are known
  • 19. LDS Mentors Launch Event Training TGROW: The Detail REALITY attributes • How long have you been thinking about this? • How often do you think about this? • How do you feel when you think about this? • In what circumstances do you find yourself thinking about this? • How important is this to you, for example, on a scale of 1 to 10? • What resources do you have to think about this better? REALITY thinking questions • Status is crystal clear. • The GAP is crystal clear. • Cause and effect are known
  • 20. • A big list of ideas • No constraints • Awareness of possibilities • Awareness of the gap OPTIONS attributes - What could you do, if you knew you’d not fail? - What could you do today, this week, this month? - Can you give me 3 more ideas on what to do? - If you were advising a friend, what would you tell him/her? - What would (name a famous person) do? - What would be the most bizarre thing you could do? - What is the most counter-intuitive thing that you could do? - How can you best use all the resources at your disposal (time, money, tools etc?) - What else could you do with my support or others support? - Who else could support you, and with what? - Who will give you the encouragement you need? OPTIONS questions LDS Mentors Launch Event Training TGROW: The Detail
  • 21. LDS Mentors Launch Event Training TGROW: The Detail • Action clarity • Action commitment • Responsible 100% WAY FWD attributes Of the options that you just came up with: • What can you commit to doing .. Today, next week etc? • How would that look, in the form of a plan? • Who will you ask for help, and what do you need from them? • How will you record your commitment? write it down? • Who will you tell? How will you report your progress? • On a scale of 1-10, how committed are you? (need 8+) • When shall we have our next meeting? WAY FWD questions
  • 22. LDS Mentors Launch Event Training Some questions that may help you if you get stuck Mentee goes on a long ramble “Ok, so could you give me that in a nutshell?” “I don’t know” “What if you did know?” Mentee goes on a tangent “I notice we’ve moved on to another topic. How important is this in relation to our original topic?” You don’t know what to ask Repeat their last statement followed by “and?” Still stuck on what to ask “What haven’t I asked you that you expected me to?” “And what else?” And one more “If there was one thing you could have done differently, what would that be?”
  • 23. LDS Mentors Launch Event Training Let’s have a go at conducting a mentoring conversation
  • 24. LDS Mentors Launch Event Training Let’s have a go at conducting a mentoring conversation Topic Goal Reality Options Way forward • Find an area to focus on. • Define exactly WHAT they want • Explore today’s situation and barriers to progress • Create ideas of what they could do. • Commit to action. • They define what they will do. 1 2 3 4 5 The flow is not always left to right.
  • 25.  One-off events to support: • Youth • Mother’s returning to work • Other’s struggling in the work community LDS Mentors Launch Event Training Other opportunities
  • 26. LDS Mentors Launch Event Training Question and Answer Session
  • 27.  “Follow me” (Matthew 4:19).  “Ye are my friends” (D&C 84:63  “Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends” (John 15:13)  “Come unto me” (Matthew 11:28)  “Thy friends do stand by thee, and they shall hail thee again with warm hearts and friendly hands” (D&C 121:9) LDS Mentors Launch Event Training Our Exemplar in mentoring