Go Get It!
Your Guide to Finding Purpose, Setting
Goals and Maintaining Success

By KARL BIMSHAS

________________________...
Has this been your best year ever? For many people the
answer is sadly, no. Maybe you lost your job, money is
tight, or yo...
grabbing a broom, and cleaning up the messes in life.

Find, Set, Get and Celebrate

It’s about taking personal responsibi...
Get a Great Goal
Meaning, accomplish one. Making your goals a reality is
seldom easy and that’s good. Great goals give our...
Snakebite and Venom

Or perhaps you are the experienced hiker, equipped
with the knowledge that, although painful, snakebi...
or perhaps even save a life, you decide not to get

Quick Tip

involved.

Why make things more complicated than they have ...
Reassessing
As you get anxious to start a new project, you tend to

PART ONE
Finding Purpose

neglect the things you have,...
Renegotiate contracts that no longer work for

be there and enjoy it, even if it’s only in your mind for

you.

twenty min...
Ask Better Questions

then figure out how you did it by asking forward
reflective questions like;

Having a vision of succ...
The mind is a powerful solution-seeking machine that
likes to find answers. So, if you question why you’re a
failure, you’...
Know Yourself

washing machine, or you collect autographs of top
musicians for your ailing mother or you like to go

Every...
What are your Advantages?
What do you offer your world that others can’t do
nearly as well as you can? What skills make ot...
How to Confirm Your Purpose
Treasures
Do you sometimes feel stuck and wonder what you’re
doing with your life? If so, it’s...
Talisman
This is the amulet you figuratively wear around your
neck. Think about what symbolizes you most. What’s a
tangibl...
Three Ways
One Clear Path
People who want to be, do or have something, generally

PART TWO
Goals

fall into three groups.
...
might sound more like a wish to some, but these people

You’re probably in Group Two. People in Group One

know what they ...
Culling Your Wishes
for a Great Goal Statement

Step 1 - Answer These Questions:
•

do?

People still confuse a list of wi...
Step 4 - Determine the Cost
What will it cost you to achieve this goal in either time,
talent (effort) or treasure (money)...
Create A Great Goal

Because of this mindset, they nearly always get what
they want. Stretch yourself, like a rubber band ...
Get enough successful goals and you have a winning
streak. It’d be better to be specific about the realistic
and attainabl...
How Much and By When?

“By When?”
This gives you a timeframe; a day, week, month, or

Achieving goals is not necessarily e...
It’s okay. Revise your answer and keep going. If you
can hold yourself accountable to those two progress
inducing question...
Your Goal Planner
You can set goals anytime you want. If you’ve already
established your goals for the year, good on you. ...
Eight Common Dimensions
and Definitions

1. Financial - Financially independent and free from
financial stress. Satisfied ...
Follow these steps
to create a thorough plan.

If all this seems like too much work, boohoo. It’s very
rare for a goal to ...
A Calendar, a Clock and
Your Head
Maintaining your purpose and your goals take effort.
There are three things you should b...
few examples. You can also use your clock to make note
of the duration of things for future planning. Perpetually
late? Th...
The Find What’s Right Day

go wrong will go wrong“, be determined to be a
recipient of its opposite, “Anything that can go...
Showing gratitude gets you out of yourself. Have you

problem that would improve your current condition you

ever apprecia...
Daily Focus

At the close of the day, list ten things you’re grateful
for. Fall asleep in that state of gratitude.

Beginn...
Your Inspiration Likes Attention
Inspiration doesn’t usually come on your schedule. It
When did you last feel inspired? Di...
Make time today and everyday to catch some of that
inspiration and then act upon it’s message. Sometimes
you will stumble,...
Get Your Ships Together!

Leadership
Everyone has the capacity to be a leader, be it of a

Dreams, aspirations and goals s...
Citizenship

Craftsmanship

It is a sense of patriotism. Many look at what a country

Everyone does something well. Someth...
to lead and when to follow. Know when to offer new
ideas and solutions and when to support and respect
existing ones. Resp...
Help Others Who Are Lost
Let’s pretend you’re running late and suddenly realize
you’re lost in a strange city and the stre...
uncertainty can be exhilarating or scary or both. The
answer you prefer is not all that important. If the stakes
are high,...
About the Author

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  1. 1. Go Get It! Your Guide to Finding Purpose, Setting Goals and Maintaining Success By KARL BIMSHAS ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 1
  2. 2. Has this been your best year ever? For many people the answer is sadly, no. Maybe you lost your job, money is tight, or you unexpectedly lost a loved one. Maybe your year has been sprinkled with health scares and INTRODUCTION Your Best Year Ever? economic uncertainty. All of these things are significant events and a life well lived is full of them. However, events are neutral. Some may feel terrific, some horrible and some simply suck. That’s life. It doesn’t matter, because the only important factor is your response to those events. You cannot completely control most events in your life, no matter how hard you may try. There are too many outside variables. The only thing within your control is your response to them. Do you respond or react? Reaction takes its instinctual cue from forces beyond your control while responding takes deliberative thought. Both paths influence your outcome. Wouldn’t you like to have a say? It’s the difference between shriveling up and choosing to blame the government, big business, family and even God, or straightening up, ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 2
  3. 3. grabbing a broom, and cleaning up the messes in life. Find, Set, Get and Celebrate It’s about taking personal responsibility. Regardless of the date on the calendar plant the seed and follow the lifecycle of every great goal. You could wait until next week, next month or next year. Next year is full of potential. It’s also full of procrastination. “Next” is a comforting place to be because you don’t have any of the responsibility of being “it” but you get to enjoy the feeling of anticipation. Find a Great Goal. Even if you have a laissez-faire attitude, there is a special joy in discovering some spectacular thing you want to have, do or be. Fill yourself with that positive yearning. January 1st is an arbitrary date; you can begin a goal and regain control of your life at any hour of any day. Why wait? Aren’t there are things you wanted to Set a Great Goal accomplish this year? There’s time to get started. You Make it a S.M.A.R.T. Goal (more on that later). It’s simply have to begin. In this guide you’ll reexamine better to come up with three. A set of Short-term, mid- your purpose, your goals and learn how to maintain term and long-term goals keep your momentum, and if both. interrelated, can help you achieve each of them all faster. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 3
  4. 4. Get a Great Goal Meaning, accomplish one. Making your goals a reality is seldom easy and that’s good. Great goals give our life a sense of personal purposefulness. Don’t you want to live your life on purpose? Stick with it. Celebrate Get rid of the long bovine or sourpuss expressions. The good and bad things in your life are tied more to your attitude than anything else. Want more good things? Celebrate every positive thing that happens. If you’re the reserved type, this will feel odd. Why celebrate the things that are supposed to happen? Because they worked! We mourn loss. We must celebrate achievement. No matter when you start, have a happy and enriching year filled with meaningful goals. First, a story … ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 4
  5. 5. Snakebite and Venom Or perhaps you are the experienced hiker, equipped with the knowledge that, although painful, snakebites Two friends walked along a path when they happened across a rattlesnake warming itself in the sun. One of the men, pompous and careless, severed the snake with an ax, but not before it bit the foolish man on the wrist. don’t kill people, it’s their venom. Venom that if not removed, courses through the veins, accelerated by the constant movement and shaking of an ignorant and fearful victim. The man wailed and flailed his arm in pain while his companion stood immobilized with panic. A third man, This scene is repeated in people’s lives nearly everyday. an experienced hiker, witnessed the events from Everyone has experienced painful situations. You may several yards away. have antagonized someone who then lashed out at you, or you might have come across trouble unexpectedly Which one is you and what do you do next? and been the victim of a painful blow. The first inclination is to lash back, to bellow accusations of unfairness and to blame others. That energy would be Are you like the foolish man, filled with bravado who better spent by removing the venom and repairing the acted violently in the face of latent danger and who is damage. How often have you acted like the experienced paying a painful price for his folly? hiker, yet instead choose to keep walking rather than help those who are angry, confused or hurting? Even Maybe you are the incapacitated man, made powerless with indecision and panic, standing about uselessly. though you have the skills or knowledge that could solve the problem, bring about calmness, alleviate pain, ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 5
  6. 6. or perhaps even save a life, you decide not to get Quick Tip involved. Why make things more complicated than they have to be? Here are four simple steps to make improvements in virtually anything you pursue. Leaders get involved. 1. Know your desired outcome. Leaders act. They do not shrug their shoulders and 2. Take action. sigh, “Oh, well.” They give of themselves, protect 3. Notice if it’s working. people, remove the venom from the veins of victims, 4. If it’s not working, try something else. and teach others to do the same. Oversimplified? When trouble next looms before you, what role will you play? Not really. Stick to it and accomplish things. Fight it and risk wallowing in mediocrity. This guide is for those who are, or aspire to be the hiker who gets involved. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 6
  7. 7. Reassessing As you get anxious to start a new project, you tend to PART ONE Finding Purpose neglect the things you have, for things you want. Often this involves a lot of daydreaming, wishing and yearning. Sometimes this causes the complete abandonment of one goal in pursuit of another, and then another and then another. Reexamine how you are living your life. You may determine you’re good to go and wouldn’t change a thing, or you may uncover a clue to greater success. Either way look, otherwise you may never know. Reevaluate your current goals, your progress, and your beliefs. Revisit each of them to make sure that you’re acting authentically and still believe the things you’re telling people. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 7
  8. 8. Renegotiate contracts that no longer work for be there and enjoy it, even if it’s only in your mind for you. twenty minutes or so. People’s expectations change over time. There’s nothing wrong with that, it exemplifies flexibility. So does collaborating to review the terms of any long standing agreements you have in place. Renew your desires. Decide on the things you want to keep in your life and physically or metaphorically dust them off. Put them in a different shelf so they stand out. Make them appear Repair things that are broken. new so you can appreciate them again. Spend time cleaning up the little annoyances of your life. Organize an out of control junk drawer, fix the squeaky door or a leaky faucet. This also applies to relationships. Even with all the social media tools available, everyone has a friendship that’s been neglected. Forgive, forget or apologize and send them a Reapply yourself. Did you fail at something recently? Does that mean you should quit? No. Take a different approach or just show your grit and try again. thoughtful card. Rejuvenate your mind. You may have had a vacation that did the trick or maybe you feel like you need a vacation from your vacation. Get to the place that energizes you and just ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 8
  9. 9. Ask Better Questions then figure out how you did it by asking forward reflective questions like; Having a vision of success is only part of the equation of achievement; unfortunately that’s where too many “Why am I so successful?” people stop. They can see what they want so clearly “How did I earn so much money?” that it hurts. Those yearnings are fine because they “Where did I find this wonderful person?” move us forward but it’s a different story if the vision we set for ourselves leads to feelings of regret or depression because we’re not achieving them fast enough. Be as specific as you can in your reflection. Do you think if you ask questions like these you’re lying to yourself? Some wonder what they’re doing wrong, and why things never seem to work out for them. As a result, You might not FEEL successful yet, so how could you these despondent people give up on their vision. Don’t ask such questions? It’s easy, because like be one of them. Keep your vision, the wilder the better. Michelangelo’s David, the person you want to be is What you should be doing is asking better questions. already in there, you just need to get rid of the things that aren’t serving you anymore. Chip away the If you created your own vision then you already know, deep within, that you’re able to achieve it. Today, baggage that someone else unloaded on you. You’ve been carrying it for too long. assume you already have everything you want, and ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 9
  10. 10. The mind is a powerful solution-seeking machine that likes to find answers. So, if you question why you’re a failure, you’ll get loads of answers, and you won’t like any of them. It’s better to question why you are a success in whatever you choose to pursue. The answers to those questions may also surprise you, but you’ll like them better and they will unlock a new way of thinking that will bring you closer to your vision with greater speed. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 10
  11. 11. Know Yourself washing machine, or you collect autographs of top musicians for your ailing mother or you like to go Everything in life has features, advantages and benefits. straight to work after an overnight flight and want to feel refreshed and ready to go. It’s easier to make a Features are sometimes called technical specs. These decision when you know the benefits. are the things the product or service has. A washing machine with five speeds. The nightclub that provides That’s how it works in business everyday. only A-list performers, the airline that offers warm towels to passengers on red eye flights. What about for you personally? You have to “sell” yourself everyday to prospective employers, customers, Advantages are the things that the product or service maître d’s, loan officers, instructors, even your spouse. has that others don’t, or they provide exceptionally So, give it some thought. better than anyone else. The washing machine that’s available in four jewel toned colors, the nightclub that has a frequent guest VIP program, the airline that doesn’t charge you for the niceties. What are your Features? What do you know? What are your core values and beliefs? What do you stand for? Benefits are the things that people consider valuable. It may not be unique to you, but it’s very personal and it’s how people make their decisions. What’s the benefit? You’re a designer and need a stylish red ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 11
  12. 12. What are your Advantages? What do you offer your world that others can’t do nearly as well as you can? What skills make others think of you first? What Benefits do you bring? What value will the people who are looking for you gain? This takes some self confidence to figure out. You need to know yourself well, and you’ll need to discover what your audience needs. Lead with your benefits, this is what people base their decisions on. Shore up your advantages and features, because if people feel the need to justify their decision about you, that’s where they will look. If you don’t have anything there, they will quickly change their mind. They will look to your advantages and features for validation, so keep them happy. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 12
  13. 13. How to Confirm Your Purpose Treasures Do you sometimes feel stuck and wonder what you’re doing with your life? If so, it’s a clue that you are not fulfilling your purpose. Maybe you think you don’t have a purpose. That’s a glum outlook, but even if it’s true you still have a job to do. Let’s start with the assumption that you have a burning in your stomach. This exercise will help you better identify that yearning or confirm the one you’re pursuing is worthy of your attention. Tools Think about how you most often win others over to your way of thinking. How do you successfully get your way most often? It might be through humor, or telling a story. Maybe you communicate with pictures or through writing. People have different standards of “worthy”. This is a matter of influence. How is your influence most felt in your world? Where do you find your rewards? For many, this means money and that’s fine. If profit is the applause you get for doing good work, where do you get your standing ovations? Rewards needn’t be money. Yours might be measured in smiles or hugs or some other way that makes you feel happiest. For many people, that’s a check. It feels good when people pay you. For others it’s intangible. Identify what it is for you. Teachers What group of people do you most enjoy learning from? In school you probably had a favorite teacher. Think back as to why? If you’re no longer in school, you’re still learning things from people. It could be your parents or your children, your colleagues or members of your spiritual circle. You might learn something from a favored author, or the neighborhood grocer. These life instructors are all around you. Take stock of who they are and see what they have in common. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 13
  14. 14. Talisman This is the amulet you figuratively wear around your neck. Think about what symbolizes you most. What’s a tangible object you can look at, and preferably hold, that epitomizes you. The first few things that entered your mind were probably most accurate. Some people feel compelled to combine a bunch of images into a collage, like a family crest. Go ahead if you have to, it’s your symbol. Look at your tool, treasure, teacher and talisman of choice and you’ll have a good indication of your purpose. When you do things that combine those elements, you’re acting on purpose. When you drift away from that foundation, you’re not. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 14
  15. 15. Three Ways One Clear Path People who want to be, do or have something, generally PART TWO Goals fall into three groups. Group One - 85% There are those who make no plans and set no goals. It’s not that they don’t have a list of wants in their life but they tend to be dependent on outside resources beyond their control; like winning the lottery. 85% of the people you meet fall into this category. They have no specific goals that they’re focused on achieving. They work day by day, maybe weekend to weekend with little thought of cause and effect or the role their own action, or inaction plays in their life. Group Two – 10% The next group of people are different. They have goals. The level of specificity may vary from person to person but ask them what their goal is and they can tell you. It ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 15
  16. 16. might sound more like a wish to some, but these people You’re probably in Group Two. People in Group One know what they want. They’re capable of achieving wouldn’t have read this far into the guide. People from their goal but they get bouts of insecurity and feelings Group Three reading this are doing so because they are of doubt. 10% of the people you meet are in this group. devoted to continual improvement. Group Three – 5% Do the work to move from Group Two to Group Three, The final group also have goals and you’ll notice they your success depends on it. Start by creating a Great are far more specific when they describe them. Even if Goal Statement. they sound far-fetched, there’s something about their confidence and self-assuredness that tells you it’s not an idle dream of theirs. It’s a worthwhile great goal and there’s probably no stopping them. They have a secret weapon. Not only do they physically write down their goals, something 95% of the people you know don’t do, they also make plans toward accomplishing their goals. A plan needn’t be more elaborate than a series of tasks and a deadline to meet each of those tasks. People with great goals achieve the important things they set out to achieve because they do the work it takes. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 16
  17. 17. Culling Your Wishes for a Great Goal Statement Step 1 - Answer These Questions: • do? People still confuse a list of wishes with goals. Goals should give you vision and direction so you can create If I won one million dollars tomorrow, what would I • If I could change one thing about my body, what would it be? an actionable plan toward achieving them. It’s been said that the number one reason people don't achieve • Who do I wish to be and why? their goals is because they have so many. It’s more • What skill do I wish I had learned as a child? • Where do I see my career in three or five years? likely that they have too many competing priorities clamoring for the A1 slot. This exercise will help you identify the one motivating goal that is burning inside of you. Think of it as your Great Goal Statement. Everyone should have a Great Goal Statement, one that takes precedence over all others. If you work on multiple Great Goals Statements Step 2 - Pick One Choose the one answer from the above questions that provoked the greatest reaction in you. That’s your foundational goal. Reflect on it and determine what part of it you believe you can accomplish in less than a year. you risk diluting your efforts and weakening your chance at success. Follow these five steps to help focus Step 3 - Pick a Time Frame your thinking. Determine, how long will it realistically take to accomplish this goal; one week, one month, six months, one year? ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 17
  18. 18. Step 4 - Determine the Cost What will it cost you to achieve this goal in either time, talent (effort) or treasure (money)? Step 5 - Fill in the Blanks “I resolve to (answer from step 2) in (answer from step 3) by (answer from step 4). Refine your statement in a way that speaks more clearly to you. Write it on an index card, fold it over and bring it with you everywhere you go. Read it as often as you can; certainly at least twice a day, first thing in the morning and last thing at night. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 18
  19. 19. Create A Great Goal Because of this mindset, they nearly always get what they want. Stretch yourself, like a rubber band – but How are you going to make sure you achieve your Great don’t overextend or you’ll snap. Goal Statement? First, you need to want it, badly. If it’s not motivating to you, how fun do you think it’s going to be to achieve? If you’re working on a goal that’s not fun, you should stop. Life is too short. Look at your Great Goal Statement. What is it you want to do or have? Avoid mediocrity. Here’s how to make it a S.M.A.R.T. goal. S – Make it specific. Broad goals decay quickly. Vague goals get vague results. R – Make it realistic. This has a direct correlation to your motivation. If you’re not realistic about your current skills, the resources you have, and what additional things you’ll need to reach your goal, you’re destined for some disappointment. T – Make it timely. Getting squishy with time commitments will serve no one. Time is the silent accountability partner. It steadily ticks along, whether you’re ready or not. M – Make it measurable. You won’t achieve your goal with one grand action. It will take several little actions. It’s those little actions that you’ll want to measure. A little now, leads to a lot over time. Bonus Tip: Make your goal positive in nature and phrase it in a way that causes the creation of something. Think about it; a goal to lose ten pounds sounds silly. Who makes it a A – Make it attainable. Americans are an optimistic goal to lose something? A goal is about scoring points. lot and think that anything they want is attainable. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 19
  20. 20. Get enough successful goals and you have a winning streak. It’d be better to be specific about the realistic and attainable weight you want to be on the date you think you can achieve that weight. Soon you’ll be creating a brand new you! Another Bonus Tip: Having a goal to stop doing something will be less successful than a goal of starting to do something that is more important to you. Eventually the more important goal will replace the less important one. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 20
  21. 21. How Much and By When? “By When?” This gives you a timeframe; a day, week, month, or Achieving goals is not necessarily easy. In fact, it’s often year. easier not to achieve them. That’s why so many don’t. It’s easy to stay with the status quo. Sometimes, it’s even easier to go back to the way things were. That’s not progress. Put the two question together and you have the immediate basis for accountably. It’s hard for some people to answer those questions. They want wiggle room. They don’t want the accountability. Aren’t you tired of being stymied after a long meeting that didn’t produce any actions? Have you ever received instructions from your manager or even a customer that weren’t clear? There are two questions that will help. How Much? By When? There are other elements to effective goal setting, however these two questions cut through much of the clutter. Few like accountability yet most thrive when it’s there. You’re at your best when you’re accountable to yourself, your family, customer or constituents, and ultimately a higher calling. Accountability creates movement. How much and by when is a catalyst to get things moving. Get in the habit of asking those questions and providing the answers to projects that are important to you. “How Much?” This is your volume measurement. It can be anything; dollars, units, customers, votes, legislation. It’s hard to predict the future, so sometimes your answers will be off. Maybe your, ‘how much’, was too much or too little. Your, ‘by when’, too near or too far. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 21
  22. 22. It’s okay. Revise your answer and keep going. If you can hold yourself accountable to those two progress inducing questions you can achieve more. As an exercise, listen when your favorite or least favorite politician speaks and see how often they offer answers to those questions. It will give you insight to the breadth of their vision. If they have no vision, they don’t know where they’re taking you. Don’t follow them. Ask, How Much and By When at least once a day for a week. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 22
  23. 23. Your Goal Planner You can set goals anytime you want. If you’ve already established your goals for the year, good on you. Let’s turbo charge what you have so far. On the top of your plan include your purpose or personal mission statement and your top values. Many people spend their energy trying to balance their life. Don’t. Strive for harmony instead. Create one or two complementary goals for each dimension of your life and you’ll find your chances of achieving more increases dramatically. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 23
  24. 24. Eight Common Dimensions and Definitions 1. Financial - Financially independent and free from financial stress. Satisfied with your current level of income. 2. Career - A fulfilling and nourishing career. On a positive career path. 6. Contribution - Giving of yourself to others. 7. Personal - Evolving, not just improving, because you continually experiment. 8. Education - Engaged in creative and stimulating mental activities. Use resources available to expand knowledge. 3. Health - In great shape. Receiving effective healthcare. Exercising regularly and eating for sustenance and pleasure not emotional comfort. 4. Relationships - Pleased and content with current relationships. Loved by the people who mean the most to you. 5. Recreation - Spend leisure time enjoying your interests. Relaxation, refreshment and pleasure. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 24
  25. 25. Follow these steps to create a thorough plan. If all this seems like too much work, boohoo. It’s very rare for a goal to show up on your doorstep neatly wrapped with a bow. Step One - Decide on the specific things that you want to do, have or be during the year. Create a S.M.A.R.T. Goal for each dimension of your life. Phrase it as a Goals are messy business. They involve thinking and question beginning with Why? effort and negotiation and commitment. Step Two - Determine the purpose of each goal. If you want to work on wishes, save your coins and Describe why you want to achieve each goal and how spend a day or two at your local wishing well. you imagine you’d feel once you did. If you want to work on your goals and by definition, Step Three - Do the actions that need to be done. your life, get started. Create a basic task list of things to be done to help achieve the goal. Include the financial and personal Today. resources you need to achieve each goal. Step Four - Deadline when the goal will be done. Stack rank your 1, 3, 5 or 10 year goals. Include a specific date in which you plan to achieve each goal by. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 25
  26. 26. A Calendar, a Clock and Your Head Maintaining your purpose and your goals take effort. There are three things you should begin to use in at PART THREE Maintenance least a cursory fashion that will help you: a calendar, a clock and your head. A calendar gives you a better perspective on what’s coming up. You know that Christmas is on December 25th, that taxes are due on April 15th and you know the date of important appointments. It might be a day in advance, or a month, a year, ten years, it doesn’t matter. The point is you know what’s coming. A clock serves the same function as the calendar but with greater immediacy. It’s a real time planning tool. Just like you know things are coming at a particular date, you know some things are coming at a specific time. Airplane departures, hotel check-outs, last call at the bar or what time Macy’s opens on Black Friday are a ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 26
  27. 27. few examples. You can also use your clock to make note of the duration of things for future planning. Perpetually late? That’s a clue that you need to spend more time on your planning. Your head is the third thing you should use. With it, you have the ability to deduce and decide. Things come up out of the blue ruining well laid plans. Don’t become a victim of life’s whims. Incorporate them into your plans. Think a little, don’t simply react. Instead, process information for a second longer and respond to situations, based on your values and purpose rather than something fickle, like your current mood. If you consider yourself a free-spirit this all sounds like a horrible constrictive burden. It’s not, so, get over it. Becoming aware of what’s on the calendar, what time it is and your capacity to solve a problem can change your life. Want to change it dramatically? Invest more time into your planning and what you’ll do in the event your plans fall through. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 27
  28. 28. The Find What’s Right Day go wrong will go wrong“, be determined to be a recipient of its opposite, “Anything that can go right will It’s easy to find things that are not going well. Alarms go right.” go off too early, cars don’t start, busses are missed, toast is burned, lines are too long, reports are missed, on and on. Challenge yourself to find everything right in yourself and others. This may be odd at first, because you may not be used to looking at things that way. Tomorrow, do You get what you look for thanks in part to the brain’s it all day long. Within a few hours you will notice things gatekeeper, the Reticular Activating System (RAS), the you never noticed before and it will lift your spirits and part of the brain that filters out noise and stimuli so you awareness. can function. It’s why you notice things in the world Now … Make It A Perfect Day that are important to you. The parent who hears a baby gurgle in the next room, how you hear your name in a What does your perfect day look like? crowded room, or see your dream car on the highway. Perfection can be hard to achieve, particularly if the Spend the day testing your RAS and be on the lookout judges are harsh critics. If you consider yourself a high for everything that’s going right in your world. From achiever there’s probably nobody harsher than you. green lights, to unexpected checks in the mail, finding a Luckily you’re the one who gets to determine if your good deal on a new suit, or accepting gracious day is going to be a great one and you’re the one who compliments on your hair. Instead of being convinced does the assessing at the end of the day. you’ll be a victim of Murphy’s Law, “Anything that can ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 28
  29. 29. Showing gratitude gets you out of yourself. Have you problem that would improve your current condition you ever appreciated the elegant simplicity and crucial role get closer to that key. Eventually and unexpectedly you of a stop sign? You can moan about how much you’re will trip over it. paying in taxes, but instead, choose to be grateful for the array of humane and unique services you’re helping fund. When was the last time you sincerely thanked a person for making your day run smoother, either because of their contagious laugh and beaming smile, or their attention to detail on an important project, or even getting your drink just right? Do it and you’ll improve the day of at least two people. Your brain is an incredible problem-solving machine. Calling things challenges just because it sounds better is silly. Call things what they are, problems or dysfunction. Problems shouldn’t have a negative connotation, but they do. Begin to change that perception. They are a puzzle that needs to be unlocked and you’ve been blessed with the key deep within the recesses of your brain. It just takes time to access it. When you brainstorm the potential solutions to a ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 29
  30. 30. Daily Focus At the close of the day, list ten things you’re grateful for. Fall asleep in that state of gratitude. Beginning tonight, think about your main purpose or goal for tomorrow and the week ahead and jot it down. List ten things you need to do that will bring you Do this for a week. closer to that goal. Before you go to bed tonight, or first thing in the Bonus Tip: Your Gratitude List morning, brainstorm ten ideas to improve a Thinking about your age can sometimes pull you into a problem you’re facing. Remember in brainstorming funk if you dwell on the things that aren’t what you there are no rules; write out anything even if it seems wish they were. It’s better to do something active, ridiculous. It’s the ideas that come out after the rather than wallow in the passage of time and poorly ridiculous ones that will be truly creative. That’s why it’s set goals not yet achieved. Your age is revealed not by important to come up with at least ten. If you’re lucky, a number, but by an attitude. How old would you be if two of them might be pretty good. you didn’t know your age? Here’s an exercise that forces you to take stock and During the course of the day strive to be more pleasant. practice gratitude. Use the number that is your age and Make it a goal to give ten compliments to other list, in no particular order, that number of things you people. It could be for a job well done or shoes well are grateful for. Once you create a comprehensive list, shined. People want to hear from you. you’ll have something to refer to often that will lift your spirits. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 30
  31. 31. Your Inspiration Likes Attention Inspiration doesn’t usually come on your schedule. It When did you last feel inspired? Did you do anything arrives at inconvenient times, like in the shower, or in with that feeling? Inspiration often feels elusive, the middle of the night, or when you’re waiting in line particularly to those who pursue creative fields. People and don’t have a pen. Your heart races, your eyes call it their muse and often go off in search of it like it widen and you are struck in a flash by what seems like were a mythical creature. The word inspiration literally the best idea you’ve ever had. It might be. But just as means, “breathed upon” which has a divine quality to it. quickly as it comes to you, it disappears. Inspirations It’s when you hear your inner voice, or the universe or are ethereal things. Your job is to make them concrete even God whispering a hint to you. When you give and to take action. Any action. inspiration that kind of weight it seems wrong to waste the experience. There are limitless conduits for inspiration. A good book, a fascinating lecture or seminar; maybe for you Inspiration, like most of us, enjoys attention and it’s surfing or taking a hike in nature. For others it’s doesn’t appreciate being ignored. Have you noticed that stimulating conversation with friends, or in some cases, those who find inspiration easily also find it often? adversaries. Inspiration is all around and it is flowing That’s because they honor their inspiration. When it constantly, like a river. Regardless of your belief system, shows up they pay attention and take action. That’s not every moment of the day you are “breathed upon” by to say that every piece of inspiration leads you down forces greater than yourself. the path of success, but many times it does. The problem is, you’re ignoring those moments far too often. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 31
  32. 32. Make time today and everyday to catch some of that inspiration and then act upon it’s message. Sometimes you will stumble, but no worse than if you ignored it outright. Take immediate action, even if it’s simply making note of the aha within. Don’t wait for inspiration to move you, but always be moved by inspiration. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 32
  33. 33. Get Your Ships Together! Leadership Everyone has the capacity to be a leader, be it of a Dreams, aspirations and goals stimulate your household, a company, or even a little league team. Any imagination, but they aren’t enough if you’re used to organization of people needs a leader. Someone to set a achieving more. Sailing through life rudderless isn’t an vision, inspire movement and encourage people along option. It’s time to get your ships together. Here are the way. There is something in your life that you’re eight key ships you ought to evaluate for leading whether you know it or not. It would be better seaworthiness. to know it. The helm is yours, captain. Relationship Ownership Many times, there are wide variables between your Although material possessions really don’t matter much interactions with your significant other, your family in the big picture, when you scrape and save for some members, friends, and colleagues. Are you being tangible thing you want, like a camera, new shoes, authentic in all your relationships? Are all of your special watch, car or house, the basic pride in relationships where you want them to be or are there ownership is the same. You take care of the things you some that you could improve? Are there people you own. You clean it, shine it, and show it off because it’s a sometimes want to throw overboard? Examine your symbol of your success. Are you taking enough pride in relationships and surround yourself with the best crew ownership? Polish the brass. possible. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 33
  34. 34. Citizenship Craftsmanship It is a sense of patriotism. Many look at what a country Everyone does something well. Something that requires owes them instead of what a country full of liberty their head, heart and hands. It may be your hobby or provides, like security, tranquility, justice, and the your vocation, but it calls you and your work speaks to ability to pursue happiness. Everyone says their taxes others. It’s funny how people tend to be the most are too high, but if you think about the value you get skilled craftsmen around the things they are most for that contribution, it’s probably a pretty good deal. To humble about. Devote time to your craft. Practice, function properly a country needs good citizens. A hone, improve, excel. Make the engines purr. population that educates itself, votes, serves as jury to justice and contributes in ways big and small. Raise the flags, show your colors and salute. Entrepreneurship Start something. You often see a need, a way to be of service that others haven’t thought about before, but Stewardship too often ignore your great idea. How faithfully you go Nothing lasts forever, but there are times when things about filling that need is your entrepreneurial spirit. It fall under your watch. Leading a team, babysitting a may be risky. It’s okay. Go for it anyway. child, living on the planet. No one wants something bad to happen on their watch. Stewardship is treating something that’s not yours as though it were and then leaving it with grace and in a little better condition than you found it. What can you make better? Followership People often overestimate the leader and underestimate the follower. Without the follower, the leader fails; without a leader, followers perish. You must know when ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 34
  35. 35. to lead and when to follow. Know when to offer new ideas and solutions and when to support and respect existing ones. Respect your crew mates and the command. Navigating these eight ships comes with a fleet of emotions. Pay attention to them. Take care of them. Inspect the hull and scrape the barnacles off from time to time. Send them out to explore uncharted waters. Spend time with them and just enjoy what they uncover alone and working in harmony with each other. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 35
  36. 36. Help Others Who Are Lost Let’s pretend you’re running late and suddenly realize you’re lost in a strange city and the street signs don't make sense to you. You’ve got your mobile device and PART FOUR Final Thoughts your Facebook, Twitter, Foursquare friends are only a few keystrokes away, but your satellite connection is spotty. You approach a passerby and ask them how to get where you’re going. There are a multitude of possible responses: • I’m sorry, I don't understand you. • They ignore you and keep walking. • They give you colorful but convoluted directions. • They offer to sell you a map. • They walk with you and safely get you to where you want to go. Which would you prefer? Which do you provide to your coworkers, customers or family? Change and ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 36
  37. 37. uncertainty can be exhilarating or scary or both. The answer you prefer is not all that important. If the stakes are high, you might be willing to shell out some money for information. You might not feel secure walking with a stranger. Depending on the circumstances that might be exactly what you want. The point is people you care about are thrust into situations similar to this metaphor everyday, sometimes multiple times a day. As a leader and an artist, take note of the people around you. Some of them are lost and could use your help. If they ask you for it, don't ignore them. If you don't understand them, try harder because they’re at a bigger disadvantage than you. Be on the lookout for those who are lost and be the friendly face that helps them reach their goal. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 37
  38. 38. About the Author If you liked this ebook you may also like: “How To Stay When You Want to Quit;” Re-scripting your life from whiner to winner” Karl Bimshas is the author of several business and inspirational books and programs designed for people who are serious about finding, setting and getting their great goals. He owns an independent consultancy for personal, professional and executive development. As a valued strategic accountability partner he helps his clients discover the aha within. He is also publishing a growing number of titles in fiction. For more information, visit KarlBimshas.com “Pushing Back the Ocean; Tide Turning Leadership Lessons “Write Advice; Inspirations, tips and thoughts for Leaders and Artists” “Disposable Journal: Write it out and let it go” “Perspectives; A 30 Day Journal to View Your World Differently” ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ 38

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