Following the stand up/sit down intros go on to ask individuals to introduce themselves very briefly with the following info:Name, year, major, what does the term bystander evoke for you?
Spheres of InfluenceFocus on the internal relationship with yourself as being key to make change
Do we want this to be a cross-cultural scenario?
The original chart had “manager” at the top. I switched it to bystander since our focus during this training isn’t specific to institutions or companies. What do you think?
The second link you included in your rough draft didn’t work. I couldn’t remember what the second video was so I inserted the “fallen customer” clip. Think it will be important to show being an active bystander isn’t just about helping people, it’s about integrity too. Thoughts?
Agents of change.bystanderawareness
Tools For Change: How Bystanders Can Help Sustain More Diverse and Inclusive Environments “In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.” – Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.Facilitators:Joshua J. NelsonZara H. Nizami
AgendaIntroduction: Warm-Up ExerciseWho is a bystander?Why are we here?Dimensions of ChangeThe Bystander EffectBystander InterventionBystander StrategiesBystander role and meActive Bystanders: A tool for changeClosing reflection
Introductions: Who is in the room? Stand up if you… Speak more than one language fluently Grew up with grandparents living in your home Have participated in a diversity training in the past Have been known to watch: American Idol, Dancing with the Stars, Real Housewives, or other reality shows Played organized sports while growing up Consider yourself an extrovert Were the first person in your family to go to college Grew up someplace other than Massachusetts Consider yourself the majority
What is a Bystander?- Anyone who witnesses offensive or hurtful behavior- A person who is present at an event or incident but does not take part
Why are we here?“Mount Holyoke College reaffirms its commitment toeducating a diverse residential community of womenat the highest level of academic excellence and tofostering the alliance of liberal arts education with apurposeful engagement in the world.”
Dimensions Of Change Interpersonal Internal Relationship Relationship with Between yourself individuals MISSION Institutional Relationships Cultural between decision Relationships making and across cultures resource and worldviews allocation roles
A Bystander is/is not• An active bystander is a(n).. • An active bystander is not – Ally a(n)… – Leaner – Judge – Friend – Avenger – Facilitator – Rescuer – Humble questioner – Enforcer – Stakeholder – Fixer – Mediator – Hero/Heroine – Concerned party – Final Authority – Know-It-All – Educator – Activist
The Bystander Effect: Kitty Genovese Who is this woman?
The Bystander Effect: Kitty Genovese“The bystander effect or Genovese syndrome is aphenomenon that refers to cases where individuals donot offer any means of help in an emergency situationto the victim when other people are present”
Bibb Latane and John Darley: Bystander InterventionLatane and Darley conducted an experiment in 1969in which subjects were asked to fill out aquestionnaire and smoke started to fill the room…Bystander Intervention Experiment
Typical Bystander ReactionDiffusion of ResponsibilityFear Loss of respect Ease Comradeship Silent disapproval Vulnerability Overreaction Uncertainty – FREEZE!
Bystander Strategies Inclusion Discovery Cooling Things Down Heating Things UpBody Language/Signaling
Bystander Strategies: Inclusion Invite someone to the conversation Be an ally for someone taking a risk Ask for the opinions of someone who has been quiet
Bystander Strategies: Discovery Ask for clarification Check assumptions Suggest getting more info
Bystander Strategies: Cooling Things Down Ask for a break Humor
Bystander Strategies: Heating Things Up Emotions surfacing Expressing how the situation is making you feel Point out the elephant in the room
Bystander Strategies: Body Language/SignalingStand Up / Turn AwayRaise your handLaugh, lean forward, touch the table, interrupt theflowSay “ouch”
WWYD: What Would YOU Do?Racism In AmericaFallen Customer?
The Bystander Role and MeReflect on a time when you…. Wish you had been an active bystander? Wished that an active bystander had spoken up?*Write down the scenario on an index card
Be An Active BystanderIndividually Check in with parties “off-line” Call ombuds office or other resources Continue your workCollectively Work with employee affinity groups Encourage participation and inclusivity Attend additional trainingSystematically Change policies and practices Add the bystander role not only to trainings but to everyday conversations
What helps?What helps you be a bystander?What gets in the way?
Antidote to Bystander Apathy: Civil Courage Notice that a situation has happened Interpret it as a situation where help is needed Assume personal responsibility Decide what to do Just do it!!!
Closing Words: Speaking Out“First they come for the JewsAnd I did not speak outBecause I was not a JewThen they come for the CommunistsAnd I did not speak outBecause I was not a CommunistThen they came for the UnionistsAnd I did not speak outBecause I was not a UnionistThen they came for meAnd there was no one leftTo speak out for me”-Pastor Martin Niemoller