Penny Coleman calls suicide "the most secret death because no one wants to talk about it." Suicide says none of it and none of you are worth living for; nothing is better at saying "I hate you all." But, might there be good reasons to feel this way? Dr. Jung believed troubles begin when being a homogeneous individual is an unhealthy choice for one's environment corrupted by great lies. First, it's time to let suicide out of the closet and discover the countless ways we make others intolerably uncomfortable, not just ex-husbands but everyone. Second, golfers know the best plan is not to change for the course but to change the course for you: if you have a natural slice then use it on a dog leg right. Similarly, it is life that needs to change. This is such good advice characteristically unavailable anywhere, not from your therapist, your boss, or your family and friends that I need to say it again. When people say either you need a better attitude or you need to be more agreeable you need to raise both birds high into the air and just say no! Third and finally, better boundaries will not enough. You will decide to leave; anything else would be crazy. And so, I cover some issues I think you'll want to consider before doing so.