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  6. 6. Narcissistic Victim Syndrome - the Fallout of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. A Powerpoint by Jeni Mawter Defense against-psychopath 1280 views Presentation Transcript Like 1. By Jeni Mawter Supervision Of Alleged Sexual Offenders 2. Narcissistic Victim Syndrome is not a medically recognized syndrome… 1199 views 3. Often, you don’t realize you are a victim … Like 4. spouse children parent sibling friend colleague peer partner Dv 101 powerpoint (2) 4352 views 5. Can you spot the person with a Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)? 6. Because the NPD goes undetected in the home, school, work-place, organizations, and social settings your plight is not recognized. Like Cyclopedia of Philosophy 8724 views 7. People with NPD have an inflated sense of self-importance, see themselves as perfect and will attack anyone who tries to put a chink in that "flawless" image. They exhibit grandiose, self-centered, egotistical patterns of behavior that can cause a lot of psychological trauma to those around them. Like Narcissism self enchantment 465 views 8. They require constant attention and admiration and often use others selfishly for their own ends. When criticized, they react with blaming, insults and put downs, causing the subjects of their rage to feel rejected, hurt, humiliated and powerless. They also distort reality, often contradicting themselves, lying or denying events of the past to make themselves look better. They make us doubt what we know and wonder whether we're the crazy ones. 9. Abuse is a pattern of behaviour used to establish power and control over another person. 10. Victims often display a set, or cluster, of symptoms due to: physical mental emotional spiritual sexual 11. 12. a-Web-49655807 13. Victims need help 14. Victims need help 15. When you know something feels wrong … 16. Narcissistic Personality Disorder abuse 17. Yet victims don’t know … 18.,555880/ 19. Narcissistic supply comes from public attention such as fame, celebrity, notoriety, or infamy or private attention such as admiration, flattery, acclaim, fear, or even repulsion. _400.png 20. Anything that acts as a status symbol that attracts attention and admiration for the narcissist is narcissistic supply, for example, a flashy car, expensive property, designer clothes, being a member of a church, cult, club, or a business. 21. NPDs believe they are superior and entitled. They are envious and exploitative, controllin g and manipulating others without empathy, guilt or remorse. Like
  7. 7. 22. u/smiley_brain_i_tell_lie s_printrec42706f3d25459d94849 110a766178d_wad_8byvr _512.jpg 23. As a child, a healthy self- esteem (true self) did not develop in the Narcissistic Personality Disordered so they built up defences to create a ‘false self’ in public. This is akin to wearing a public mask. 10308371 24. 25. Wearing the mask is not only emotionally exhausting, it also means that the NPD is constantly on guard at being found out. They become overly sensitive to narcissistic injury which is any perceived threat (real or imagined) to the NPD’s self-esteem or self- worth. 26. - Narcissistic abuse is insidious because the abuse is covert, cunning and indirect. - Narcissists go to great pains to avoid being observed publicly as being abusive. - The Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde behaviour creates fear, distress, confusion, inner turmoil, and chaos for the victim. - The constant ‘walking on eggshells’ and attempting to avoid further conflict can be crippling. 27. Victims are constantly being tested 28. NPDs are constantly pretending. It is impossible to know what is false and what is real. 29. For a person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder ‘Love’ is false 30. People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder do not accept responsibility for themselves. As such, they can’t apologize. 31. They justify cruelty as ‘honesty’ 32. For whatever the reason you entered the Dance of the Narcissist (a behaviour known as Codependency) so that in the dance there was: 1) a pleaser/fixer (victim); 2) a taker/controller (narcissist/addict); 3) and an enabler (supporter). 33. In Narcissistic Victim Syndrome you are looking for a cluster of symptoms to emerge, many are the symptoms of trauma: avoidance behaviour, loss of interest, feeling detached, sense of a limited future, sleeping or eating difficulties, irritability, hyper- vigilance, easily startled, flashbacks, hopelessness, psychoso matic illnesses, self-harming, thoughts of suicide etc. 34. NPD abuse victims express feelings of humiliation and shame, and apt to self- blame. You have learned to take responsibility for the narcissist’s behaviour because you are constantly told the problem is your fault. 35. Some victims develop Stockholm Syndrome and want to support, defend, and love the abuser despite what they have gone through. 36. Victims may ‘dissociate’ or detach from their emotions, body, or surroundings. Living in a war zone where all forms of power and control are used against you (intimidation; emotional, physical and mental abuse; isolation, economic abuse, sexual abuse, coercion, control etc), the threat of abuse is always present. Dissociation is an automatic coping mechanism against overwhelming stress. 37. Victims are often victimized by more than one person. They often internalize that something is wrong with them, that they deserve this kind of abuse, and then resign themselves to their fate. 38. Victims of narcissistic abuse often appear uncertain of themselves, constantly seeking clarification that they haven’t made a mistake or misheard something. Confidence may be so low that they have trouble making simple decisions. They will not be aware that this is caused by an abusive technique called ‘gaslighting’. 39. Gaslighting is a technique of psychological abuse used by NPDs to instil confusion and anxiety in their victim to the point where they no longer trust their own memory, perception or judgment. With
  8. 8. gaslighting, the victim initially notices that something happens that is odd, but they don’t believe it. This moves to defence as the victim fights against the manipulation. 40. Confusion sets in after incessant comments such as: ‘You’re too sensitive’, ‘You’re crazy’, ‘You’re imagining things’ or ‘I never said that.’ Gradually, the victim cannot trust their own perceptions and doubt themselves. This often leads to depression. 41. Broken and unable to trust themselves, they isolate themselves further. The victim now doubts everything about themselves, their thoughts and opinions, their ideas and ideals. They become codependent on the abuser for their reality. solation/ 42. You feel you deserve it You get used to the abuse 43. You hope things will change. You’re tired. 44. - Victims need validation and education about what has happened to them. - They need information about Narcissistic Personality Disorder and its toxicity in relationships. - They need education about how they have contributed to their situation through co-dependence. - They need therapy to deal with symptoms. 45. Appropriate support in: 1)Education – schools 2)Legal – law courts 3)Medical – health practitioners 4)Business – workplace 5)Religion - 6)Family - members 46. One of their greatest challenges may come from not being believed by significant others, either because these others have not seen the private face of the narcissist or because they themselves are in the narcissist’s thrall. 47. Another challenge is denial. A victims can’t see that the NDP aspects of their life is all wrong. Victims don’t want to face the fact that someone they have a relationship with, is an enemy. y_rosaliehale1910-d31sfvo.jpg 48. 49. 50. 51. 52. 53. Please share these other links on Narcissistic Personality Disorder flags-to-narcissistic-personality-disorder- compiled-by-jenimawter ng-on-from-narcissistic-abuse-compiled-by- jenimawter Follow us on LinkedIn Follow us on Twitter Find us on Facebook Find us on Google+ Learn About Us About Careers Our Blog Press Contact Us Help & Support Using SlideShare SlideShare 101
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