- Review GRHS HIB Policy & Brief overview of Unsafe School Choice Policy
- Allow a couple people to provide brief examples…BRIEF!
Give brief background of show Quick review of what happened in the video… 1) Girl who was bullied walked away (had a voice & stood up for self), the Mean girl picked on the only girl left…made her the victim.
Facilitate questions after reading the scenario: What’s happening here? What do we think Jane is thinking? How could Jane react to this situation? What could Sally do differently?
Bullying Training -Mean Girls
Like, For Real! We’re talking about MEAN GIRLS!
<ul><li>Did you know… …that HIB is a determining factor of a school’s environment (the “cohesiveness” of faculty & students)? [NJ Office of the Child Advocate, 3, 2009] </li></ul><ul><li>… that the NJDOE reissued in July 2010 an Unsafe School Choice Option policy? [www.state.nj.us/education/grants/nclb/ policy / unsafe .pdf] </li></ul><ul><li>… that according to a 2001 report by the US DOE, 71% of youth “felt bullied or persecuted” in schools. [Cited in NJ Commission on Bullying Report, 1, 2009] </li></ul>
Before we begin… <ul><li>How would you define / characterize a “Mean Girl?” </li></ul><ul><li>Would you consider any of your students to be “Mean Girls?” </li></ul>
OMG! It’s time for a video clip! <ul><li>http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QK5R6JrJP8c </li></ul>
Mean Girls engage in… (dun, dun, dun) <ul><li>RELATIONAL AGGRESSION: </li></ul><ul><li>When an individual (or group of people) </li></ul><ul><li>use their social skills to hurt others . </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Social skills…for example: gossip/rumors, put-downs, secrets, bullying, excluding / silent treatment, etc. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>www.relationalaggression.com </li></ul></ul>
RELATIONAL AGGRESSION: <ul><li>Crick et al., (2001) provide a similar definition of “Relational Aggression”: </li></ul><ul><li>“… a manipulation of social relationships… can include gossip and rumors …” </li></ul><ul><li>(Crick et al., 2001, as cited in Hoover et al., 2008) </li></ul>
Let’s look at a tricky “clique-y” situation… “ Pizza Party” Four 8 th grade girls chat informally in their homeroom before the school day starts. Sally invites two of the three girls standing with her to her birthday party, to be held at Pat’s Pizza. She doesn’t invite Jane, even though Jane is standing with the group. (From The Bullying Prevention Handbook , 2 nd Ed. By Hoover & Oliver)
Don’t let your students get eaten by the sharks! Oops…I mean, how to survive cliques <ul><li>Tell them to be their own person! </li></ul><ul><li>… Make sure you tell them to be the best that they can be! </li></ul>
More tips for clique survival… <ul><li>Encourage them to get involved ! Join clubs or sports that make them feel good about themselves. </li></ul><ul><li>Tell them to have a voice! If they feel their friends are being clique-y…let them know it’s OK to say something! </li></ul>
… One last thought! <ul><li>“ Self-esteem comes from being able to define the world in your own terms and refusing to abide by the judgment of others.” </li></ul><ul><li>- Oprah </li></ul>
Resources American School Counselors Association. (2004). The ASCA national model: A framework for school counseling programs. Retrieved from: http://webct.rowan.edu . Behm-Morawitz, E. & Mastro, D. E. (2008). Mean girls? The influence of gender portrayals in teen movies on emerging adults’ gender-based attitudes and beliefs. Journalism and Mass Communication Quarterly, 85 (1). Gateway Regional High School. (2010). Harassment, intimidation, and bullying policy. Retrieved from: http://www.gatewayhs.com Hoover, J. H., & Oliver, R. L. (2008). The bullying prevention handbook: A guide for principals, teachers, and counselors. 2 nd Ed. Bloomington, IN: Solution Tree. New Jersey Department of Education. (2010). Unsafe school choice option policy. Retrieved from: www.state.nj.us/education/grants/nclb/policy/ unsafe .pdf New Jersey Office of the Child Advocate. (2009). There isn’t a moment to lose: An urgent call for legal reform and effective practices to combat bullying in New Jersey schools. Retrieved from: http://www.state.nj.us/childadvocate/publications/PDFs/ Bullying Report December 2009 - Final.pdf
Resources, continued… <ul><li>New, M., & Lyness, D. (2007). Coping with cliques. Retrieved from: </li></ul><ul><li>http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/problems/cliques.html# </li></ul><ul><li>O’Donnell, J. (2010). Definition of mean girls. Retrieved from: </li></ul><ul><li>http://tweenparenting.about.com/od/tweenculture/g/MeanGirls.htm </li></ul><ul><li>Relational Aggression. (2010). Frequently asked questions about relational aggression. Retrieved from: http://www.relationalaggression.com/ </li></ul><ul><li>School Counseling Guide (2010). Three guidance lessons on cliques and friendships for 9 th graders. Retrieved from: http://www.schoolcounselingguide.org </li></ul>