Iswi Haniffah Cahyaningtyas
XII-S2 / 10
R-SMA-BI SMAN 2 Lumajang
The Ultimate of Life
The Ultimate of Life
Coopersmith (Gilmore, 1974) said that: "Dignity is a personal judgment of
worthiness that is a personal attitude that is expressed in the individual holds toward
himself." This opinion explains that dignity is an individual assessment to honor him,
which is expressed through attitude towards him. Meanwhile, Buss (1973) provide an
understanding of self as an individual assessment against itself, that are implicit and not
verbalized. Referring to the second opinion, then dignity can be defined as an individual
assessment of the honor, through his attitude towards himself that are implicit and
couldn’t verbalized. For example, a child with a high dignity couldn’t be possible assess
his/her self just as someone, but also a good one.
Over condescending may cause by a bad achievement, depression or crime. The
seriousness of this problem will depend not only on the condescending of the person,
but also the other condition. When condescending stands together with hardness at the
transition phase or family’s problem, will make the problem of the person may increase.
From Islamic side, indeed, essentially God created human as a most valuable
and precious creature on earth among other creatures. But not least, the human himself
undermine the respect and dignity, by doing immoral deeds and not commendable,
which is not in accordance with religious norms. Therefore, the glory contained in this
human should always be kept out of the things that can cause damage, either in the form
of attitudes and actions performed by oneself, as well as those made by others against
The destination of our life is have a merciful life in the worl life and afterlife. To
reach it, we need a lot of things to do, one of them is increase our dignity higher. If we
realize how important this thing in our life, we wouldn’t waste our time in useless thing.
Dignity can be said so important to the world life and the afterlife, as someone
who is able to increase the price of himself and channeled in a positive way, then he will
seek the maximum in order to always do something much better than others in terms of
seeking blessings of the Creator and interact with the community where he/she was, of
course with a pure competition, there should be no dispute.
There’s no two people are exactly the same, even twins. Each person is unique
in their own way. All of us have some special properties that no one else has. The
important thing is we need to know this uniqueness and learn to love ourselves. This
will help build a positive view of ourselves and worked like a miracle for our dignity.
From many sources, as daily life experiences, books, articles, etc. We can
conclude that there were many ways to leverage our dignity, and the first way is try to
appreciate yourself, though people underestimate you. If we can’t appreciate ourself in
front of people, they will always think that we are easy smitten with their words. But if
we always try to appreciate the good things we have in ourselves, we will create an
atmosphere that has the impression: “This is me, and I will never care about your bad
sight to me, because I'm sure I was a good person."
Try to do something useful for your life. Keep quiet and don’t do anything just
like the audience won’t make someone growing up. Get to know the strengths and
grateful we have. There are so many people who continue to complain about how bad
their physical, or how boring themselves, and so on. But they do not see their strengths
and advantages. Look around and realize that nobody’s perfect. After you have
sucessfully optimize your advantages, then began to correct the lack step by step. But
don’t be too focus on improving the lack, until you forget to sharpen and enhance the
advantages you have.
On the other hand, do not resist when others offer praise about us. Accept it and
think forward to getting better. Be careful when these words come to our heart, “No, it's
just a dream, can not possibly be real." Gradually, these words would undermine the
dignity we’ve already been built.
Furthermore, Buss (1973) proposed two types of self-assessment (self-
judgment), namely: temporary and enduring. Temporary self-assessment refers to
specific behaviors and situations. Example: "Today I played bad football". It is limited
by space and time. While enduring assessmet more self-centered and related to covering
the results of the basic life experiences, such as: affection from others and the
achievements to reach.
Make a decision in this life needs confidence. Learn to make the decision means
that we learn to train our confidence. People who didn’t have confidence, may not be
brave to make a decision in their life. They always asking to other and ask what they
should do, what’s the best for them. Ask a question before make a decision is allowed,
but it’s much better if you make the decision yourself without any intervention from
Increase our confidence to makes us always think possitive also help us to
leverage our dignity, so that we’ll never do anything as work load, but as
responsibilities which make us enjoy to do it. Increase our confidence to always make
us think positive, so we will never do the job as a burden but as a responsibility that will
make us more relaxed finish the job.
Dream high, because no dream is too high to reach, but how hard we try to reach
that dream. So don’t be affraid to dream higher and higher in this life, because if you
believe it, you’ll reach it. And our little action which show our capability to increase the
dignity higher and higher will chain big reaction to the others to do the same thing as
the destination of their lives. Self-esteem individuals have a strong influence on the
behavior of the display. Mc Dougall (1926) suggested dignity is a major regulator of the
behavior of an individual or a leader for all the encouragement. It depends on the
dignity’s personal power, action and integrity.
Dream high is not only about dreaming, but it is about doing something
precisely to make it real. We can do the things we think are important, even if we are
not able to do it because we are ashamed or afraid. We have to force ourself to do the
process. Believe yourself that you can do it well. One thing to remember is the more we
forced to carry out a process which bother our comfort zone, we are increase the
possibility to expand our comfort zone.
Avoid to associate ourselves with the failure or mistake we did. Cultivate in
ourselves to not giving up to the circumstances, however circumstances is the only who
had to adjust to what we’ve been built. If we can adjust the circumstances suit fancy, no
matter how it is, it will be on our side.
Have a true concept of dignity, that dignity comes from within, not from outside
ourselves. It is not about the material we have or we get, or our success life achieved
because of the material, because the success of such apparent only fosters dignity and
will not last forever.
For students, parents and teachers have a great responsibility to meet the needs
of students’ dignity, through the provision of genuine affection that the child can grow
and develop in a natural and healthy, that it contains a stable sense of dignity and
steady. Here, it appears the importance of the parents and teachers’ role as facilitators.