Stephen R. Covey is theauthor of the best-sellingbook, The Seven Habits ofHighly Effective People. Otherbooks he has writteninclude First Things First, Principle-CenteredLeadership, andThe Seven Habits of HighlyEffective Families. In 2004,Covey released The 8thHabit. In 2008, Coveyreleased The Leader In Me—How Schools and ParentsAround the World AreInspiring Greatness, OneChild at a Time. Here are 10Life Principles collected andlearned From Stephen R.Covey.
There are lighthouse principles. You don’t break them. Youonly break yourself against them. Don’t break yourselfagainst lighthouse principles.Lesson 1 : The Light House Principle
As the story goes, one night at sea, Horatio awakens to find that a ship is in hissea-lane about 20 miles away and refuses to move. Horatio commands the othership to move starboard, 20 degrees at once. Horatio tries to pull rank and size onthe other ship, stating that he’s a captain and that he’s on a large battle ship. The other ship replies, and it turns out it’s not actually a ship, but a lighthouse.
10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. Dont letpeople fool you; YOU can control how you react. If someone says something negative aboutyou, dont be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You dont have to let thenegative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day.Principle # 2 : The 90/10 Principles
You harshly scold your daughterfor knocking the cup over. Youfind your daughter has been toobusy crying to finish breakfast andget ready for school. She missesthe bus. You rush to the car anddrive your daughter to school.Your daughter runs into thebuilding without saying goodbye.After arriving at the office 20minutes late, you find you forgotyour briefcase. Your day hasstarted terribly.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter isabout to cry. You gently say, "Its ok honey,you just need to be more careful next time.”Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. Aftergrabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, youcome back down in time to look through thewindow and see your child getting on the bus.She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutesearly and cheerfully greet the staff. Your bosscomments on how good the day you arehaving. Notice the difference?
Law of the Harvest is an enlightening look at the truemeaning of ‘reaping what you sow,’ and the importance ofa strong work ethic. Persistence, patience andperseverance, as well as attention to detail, are imperative:with potato farming, it takes three to four years from soil prepto harvest; short-cuts simply don’t cut it.Principle # 3 : Law Of The Harvest
The unpredictable nature of farmingprovides an excellent backdrop,bringing to light that each task hasgreat impact on the outcome. It’san opportunity to examine process, quality, competence, timeliness,sacrifice and preparation.
Examine the benefits anddrawbacksof taking shortcuts, tackleprojects with thoroughpreparation and planning,develop new behavior patternsfor ‘doing things the right way’,draw upon priorities and corevalues when meeting thechallenge of change and more.
Principles are like a compass. A compass hasa true north that is objective and external, that reflectsnatural laws or principles, as opposed to values which aresubjective and internal. Because the compass representsthe eternal verities of life, we must develop our value systemwith deep respect for "true north" principles.Principle # 4 : True North Principle
The key to long-term success islearning to align with“true north” principles, workingat leadership from the inside out,and being proactive to becomean island of excellence-and toleaven the team.
Come up with a vision. What doyou want to do? At the end of yourlife, how do you want to beremembered? By beginning withthe end result that you want toachieve, you can multiply yourimpact and your legacy.
Covey asked us how many struggle with work/life balance. Many handswent up. He said people often report they feel they spend 50% of theirtime on urgent, but not important tasks. Why is that? Covey stated it’sbecause everybody defines purpose differently. Principle # 5 : Put First Thing First
When you understand your vision, youwill know which pursuits are importantto you and which ones are not. In thisway, you will be able to let go of theless important things and let others dothem in your stead.
Principle # 6 : Empathic ListeningWhat you saw was influenced byyour experience and that ratherthat impose your view, firstunderstand the other person’sperspective – there’s a goodchance, you’re both right!
If you want to be understood, youhave to understand the otherperson first. Put yourself in that otherpersons shoes. That way, you canchange your perspective and youcan reframe it in such a way that itwill make sense to your partner.
Principle # 7 : Sharpen The SawCovey asked us whether we can use our full talent and capacity in ourorganization. He then asked us whether we feel the pressure to produce morefor less. The point here was to emphasize how there’s a demand for greaterresults, but that we’re not necessarily utilized to our full potential.
One of the central messages of Covey is toensure balance between production andproduction capability. In other words, youhave to think long term. By sharpening thesaw and ensuring your well-being, you canpursue your targets in the long run.
The Jackass Theory refers to the carrot and the stick. Covey asked us what kindof supervisor do you need when you have a job that you are passionate aboutand is using your talents and you feel you are appreciated. People arevolunteers. You want them to contribute their greatest, unique contribution.Principle # 8 : Inspiration Over Jackass Theory
People are not on the same page.There is so much bureaucracy, andrules and regulations that lay peopledown and disempower them. And wego back into what I call theGreat jackass theory of humanmotivation. Carrot-sticking them.-if you produce, you get the carrot, ifyou dont, you get the stick. Thepeople who are unprincipled or stepon other people can not survive. -Stephen R. Covey
Principle # 9 : Finding Your Voice Covey asked how do you help people find their voice? You ask themwhat are they good at? What do they love doing? What is your greatestunique contribution? The key is finding a voice that meets a humanneed.
“Have you accomplished something orgot to where you are becausesomeone believed in you more thanyou believed in yourself?” If theanswer is yes, then what if you believedin someone today more than theybelieve in themselves? If we all do thisfor one person, we will affect the entirehuman population!
If you focus your energy outside your circle of influence,your capacity for influence will diminish, because you arewasting your time and energy on a concern over which youhave no influence.Lesson 10 : Theory Of Circle Of Influence
Covey challenged us tobea creative force: Getout of victimism . You’renot a victim of yourcircumstances. You arethe creative force ofyour life. Empathizefirst. Grow your circle ofinfluence. Maketremendous impact.
"There are three constants inlife... change, choice andprinciples.“Thanks
Thank You Very MuchSompong Yusoontorn"There are three constants in life...change, choice and principles."