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When you remember me, it means that you have carried something of who I am with you, that I have left some mark of who I am on who you are. It means that you can summon me back to your memory even though countless years and miles may stand between us. It means that if we meet again, you will know me. It means that even after I die, you can still see my face and remember my voice and speak to me in your heart, for as long as you remember me, I am never entirely lost. if you forget me, part of who I am will be gone from your memory.

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  1. 1. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFUL READ 2REAPI WOULD STRONGLY RECOMMEND THAT IF YOU ONLY READONE PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT BOOK THIS YEAR, IT SHOULDBE MIND CONTROL SYSTEM. ‘THE BASIC HYPOTHESIS ISPROFOUND. THE APPLICATION OF PROVEN RESEARCH ISMASTERFUL. THE EXPLANATIONS AND SUPPORTING STORIESARE COMPELLING AND LUCID. THE TRANSLATION OF THERESEARCH AND STORIES INTO PRACTICAL IDEAS ANDSOUND ADVICE IS NOTHING SHORT OF BREATHTAKING.’ THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
  2. 2. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFUL RECLAIMING SELF: MAKING TIME FOR YOURSELFIT OFTEN SEEMS THAT OUR DAYS ARE ENGULFED IN A MYRIAD OF TASKS. TODAY WE HAVEMANY RESPONSIBILITIES AND MANY ROLES SPOUSE, PARENT, SIBLING, CHILD, FRIEND ANDCAREER WORKER. DO YOU FIND YOU LOSE YOURSELF IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS, IN YOURNURTURING ROLES, AND IN THE BUSYNESS OF LIFE? DOES IT SEEM LIKE YOUR LIFE HASBECOME A SERIES OF TASKS TO COMPLETE, RATHER THAN MOMENTS TO ENJOY? WE OFTENGET SO CAUGHT UP IN THE DOING THAT WE FORGET TO BE.USUALLY THE FIRST THING TO GO IN THIS WHIRLWIND OF ACTIVITY IS TIME FOR OURSELVES.LACK OF TIME FOR OURSELVES OFTEN LEADS TO FEELING FRUSTRATED, TIRED,OVERWHELMED AND OUT OF BALANCE. WITHOUT THIS TIME FOR SELF, WE LOSE SIGHT OFWHATS IMPORTANT TO US AND OF WHAT WE NEED TO BE OUR BEST.IF YOU ARE FEELING LIKE LIFE IS OUT OF CONTROL, THAT YOU ARE UNDERVALUED, THAT YOUARE TOO BUSY, OR IF YOU PUT THE NEEDS OF OTHERS CONSISTENTLY BEFORE YOUR OWN,THEN IT IS TIME TO CREATE SOME TIME AND SPACE FOR YOURSELF. TAKING TIME FORYOURSELF ALLOWS YOU TO RENEW, HEAL AND CREATE RESERVES OF ENERGY AND PEACE.HONOURING YOURSELF ENABLES YOU TO DISCOVER YOUR TRUTH, ACCESS YOUR CREATIVITYAND EXPERIENCE A SENSE OF PEACE, WHOLENESS, PURPOSE AND BALANCE.TAKING TIME FOR YOURSELF IS REALLY ABOUT SELF-CARE AND IS AN EXTREMELY IMPORTANTCOMPONENT TO CREATING THE LIFE YOU WANT. IT IS ABOUT HONOURING YOURSELF ANDCONNECTING WITH YOURSELF. TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF IS ONE OF THE FIRST STEPS ONTHE JOURNEY OF DISCOVERING YOUR TRUTH AND ACCESSING YOUR CREATIVITY. WHEN YOUTAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF IT ALLOWS YOU TO STOP DOING FOR AWHILE AND TO JUST BE. ITIS IN THE BEING WHERE YOUR POWER LIES. YOU AUTOMATICALLY RAISE YOUR STANDARDSAND CAPABILITIES AND CREATE POTENTIAL AND POSSIBILITY IN YOUR LIFE. WHEN YOUHONOUR AND NURTURE YOURSELF YOU CAN HEAR YOUR INNER VOICE MUCH MORE CLEARLY -YOU CAN HEAR YOUR OWN TRUTH AND THIS CONNECTION ENABLES YOU TO LIVEAUTHENTICALLY.IN ORDER TO MAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF CONSIDER THE FOLLOWING. WRITE THE ANSWERSDOWN ON A PIECE OF PAPER OR IN YOUR JOURNAL OR NOTEBOOK.QUESTIONSHOW COULD IT BE A GIFT TO OTHERS TO TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF?WHAT ACTIVITIES BRING YOU JOY OR NURTURE YOU?WHAT IS KEEPING YOU FROM DOING THE THINGS THAT ENERGISE AND INSPIRE YOU?HOW CAN YOU BRING MORE OF THESE SIMPLE TREATS INTO YOUR DAY?TAKE ACTIONCOMMIT TO DOING ONE ACTIVITY FROM THE LIST YOU CREATED EACH DAY FOR THE NEXTWEEK:EACH DAY TAKE 5 MINUTES FOR YOURSELF.FIND A QUIET PLACE WHERE YOU CAN SIT AND NOT BE DISTURBED.CLOSE YOUR EYES AND SIMPLY FOLLOW THE PATH OF YOUR BREATH. JUST FOCUS ON YOURBREATH.IF OTHER THOUGHTS COME IN, JUST LET THEM GO. IF YOU FIND THIS DIFFICULT AT FIRST,THEN FOCUS ON REPEATING THE AFFIRMATION "I AM HAPPY AND PEACEFUL". THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
  3. 3. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULQUIETING YOUR MIND AND BODY AND FOCUSING ON THE BREATH WILL HELP TO CHANGEYOUR EMOTIONAL STATE AND PROVIDE YOUR SOUL WITH A PEACEFUL RESPITE FROM THEBUSYNESS OF YOUR DAY.TIME FOR YOURSELF DOES NOT HAVE TO TAKE HALF A DAY OR COME AT SOMEONE ELSESEXPENSE. IN FACT, TAKING THE TIME TO REPLENISH AND NURTURE YOURSELF WILL GIVE YOUMORE ENERGY AND YOU WILL BE BETTER ABLE TO SUPPORT THOSE YOU LOVE. IT IS OFTENTHE SIMPLE THINGS THAT CAN MAKE THE BIGGEST DIFFERENCE. FOR EXAMPLE, SITTING INYOUR FAVOURITE CHAIR AND SIPPING A CUP OF TEA, GOING FOR A WALK, OR LISTENING TOYOUR FAVOURITE RECITATION. I ENCOURAGE YOU TO CARVE OUT 15 MINUTES FOR YOURSELFEACH DAY TO DO SOMETHING THAT NURTURES YOU AND BRINGS YOU JOY. TRY IT AS ANEXPERIMENT FOR ONE WEEK AND SEE WHAT CHANGES FOR YOU. RECLAIM YOUR SELF! WHENYOU DO, YOU WILL EXPERIENCE A SENSE OF PEACE, RENEWAL AND CONNECTION. 4 FORGOTTEN SECRETS TO SELF-CONFIDENCEMANY PEOPLE KNOW HOW TO BE CONFIDENT BECAUSE THEY CHOOSE TO BE CONFIDENT. YOUMAY KNOW SOME PEOPLE WHO APPEAR TO HAVE BEEN BORN CONFIDENT, BUT CONFIDENCE ISA STATE OF MIND NOT AN INHERENT TRAIT.PEOPLE TEND TO THINK THAT BEING CONFIDENT IS A DIRECT RESULT OF FEELING GOODABOUT YOURSELF WHEN, REALLY, IT IS MORE COMPLEX THAN THAT.YOU CAN HAVE A VERY HIGH OPINION OF YOURSELF BUT IF OTHERS DONT RECOGNISE ANDAPPRECIATE YOUR WORTH, CHANCES ARE, YOU WONT BE TOO CONFIDENT.JUST AS YOU WOULDNT BE TOO CONFIDENT IF EVERYONE AROUND YOU ADORED YOUR EVERYMOVE BUT YOU FELT TERRIBLE ABOUT YOURSELF.THE KEY TO BEING CONFIDENT IS TO MINGLE A POSITIVE SELF-IMAGE WITH A FEELING OFACCEPTANCE BY THOSE AROUND YOU.THE FOLLOWING SIMPLE STEPS SHOULD GET YOU WELL ON YOUR WAY TO A MORE CONFIDENTAIR.1. HAVE NO FEAR.STATISTICALLY, REJECTION IS INSIGNIFICANT. FOR EVERY ONE TIME YOU ARE REJECTED, YOUWILL BE ACCEPTED TEN TIMES, PROVIDING YOUR GOALS ARE REALISTIC. YOU MAY GET 10REJECTIONS BEFORE YOUR ACCEPTED THE DUE 100, BUT THAT JUST GIVES YOU SOMETHINGTO LOOK FORWARD TO, HOPE. HOPE BREEDS HAPPINESS AND HAPPINESS DISPELS FEAR.2. FAKE IT `TILL YOU MAKE IT.IF THEY WANT A DUCK, WALK LIKE ONE, TALK LIKE ONE, THEY WILL THINK YOU ARE ONE ANDSOON YOU WILL BE ONE. HAVE YOU EVER TOLD A LIE SO WELL THAT EVEN YOU BELIEVED ITWAS TRUE? SOME PEOPLE THAT YOU HAVE ENCOUNTERED, WHO SEEMED TO EXUDECONFIDENCE, MAY HAVE BEEN COMPLETE FRAUDS, BUT PROBABLY NOT FOR VERY LONG.INEVITABLY IF YOU PRETEND TO BE SOMETHING FOR LONG ENOUGH, YOU WILL BECOME IT.OTHERS TEND TO BE DRAWN TO THOSE WHO ARE CONFIDENT SO IN FAKING IT, YOU GIVETHEM A CHANCE TO SEE YOUR POSITIVE ATTRIBUTES AND GAIN THEIR ACCEPTANCE. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
  4. 4. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFUL3. DRESS THE PARTALWAYS LOOK YOUR BEST. SURE YOU CAN RUN TO THE MARKET IN YOUR CURLERS ANDBATHROBE, BUT DONT EXPECT TO FEEL LIKE YOU CAN TAKE ON THE WORLD BECAUSE IF EYECONTACT IS MADE YOU WILL FEEL NOTHING LESS THAN MORTIFIED. YOU WILL FEEL MUCHMORE CONFIDENT WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE YOU LOOK NICE. IF YOU HAVE TO GO ALL OUT TOFEEL ATTRACTIVE THEN DO IT, EACH AND EVERY TIME THERE IS POTENTIAL FOR YOU TO BEREJECTED BY ANYONE, IN ANY WAY, SHAPE, OR FORM. AT LEAST YOU WILL BE ABLE TO WALKAWAY WITH YOUR HEAD HELD HIGH.4. MIX THINGS UP.A SENSE OF ACCOMPLISHMENT WILL OBVIOUSLY MAKE YOU FEEL MORE CONFIDENT. SO QUITPUTTING OFF THOSE NEW VENTURES, WHATEVER THEY MAY BE. SOMETHING TO DO FOR FUN,TO ADD TO YOUR RESUME, TO MAKE YOU MORE INTERESTING, JUST DIVE INTO IT, REMEMBER,NO FEAR. SEEMS SIMPLE ENOUGH, RIGHT? SO GET OUT THERE AND SHOW THEM ALL WHATYOU ARE MADE OF AND EVOLVE INTO A NEWLY CONFIDENT YOU! YOU HAVE NOTHING TO LOSEAND NOWHERE TO GO BUT UP. NOW YOU KNOW HOW TO BE CONFIDENT AND I AM CONFIDENTIN THAT. WANT MORE SUCCESS? BE LAZY!HARD TO IMAGINE, BUT IVE DISCOVERED THAT I HAVE TO BE AMBITIOUS ABOUT BEING"LAZY.” AS A PROFESSIONAL, I WORK WITH HIGH ACHIEVING PROFESSIONALS ANDEXECUTIVES AND I AM NO SLOUCH MYSELF. IF YOU ARE LIKE ME, YOU WILL TAKE PRIDE INTHE NUMBER OF TASKS AND PROJECTS YOU CAN JUGGLE, AND THE SHEER NUMBER OFINITIATIVES YOU ARE INVOLVED IN ON A GIVEN DAY. YOU MAY FEEL, HOWEVER, THAT SOMEOF YOUR PERSONAL PRIORITIES NEED MORE TIME AND FOCUS THAN YOU PRESENTLY HAVE INYOUR PACKED SCHEDULE.MY FRIEND SAMIR, FOR EXAMPLE, HAD AN EXTREMELY PROFITABLE TEXTILE BUSINESS, BUTHE FELT LIKE A SLAVE TO IT. HE WANTED TO PURSUE REAL ESTATE INVESTMENT AND SPENDMORE TIME WITH HIS FAMILY AND FRIENDS, BUT HOW? FINDING A SOLUTION CAN BEESPECIALLY CHALLENGING BECAUSE SOMETIMES WHAT YOU NEED TO GIVE UP SEEMS TOHAVE EQUAL VALUE. SO DOES THIS MEAN, THAT INSTEAD OF PARING DOWN, YOU NEED TO BEEVEN MORE PRODUCTIVE? NOT NECESSARILY. VERY BUSY PEOPLE LIKE US OFTEN HAVE ATENDENCY TO PUSH OURSELVES HARD TOWARD OUR OBJECTIVES, TO GO AND GO UNTIL WEARE AT LEAST A BIT (IF NOT A LOT) FRAZZLED, EXHAUSTED, OR FRUSTRATED. AND SOMEOBJECTIVES REQUIRE ENORMOUS EFFORT AND TAKE FOREVER TO MATERIALISE. IN SUCHCASES, BECAUSE WE HAVE LEARNED IN THE PAST THAT HARD WORK CAN PAY OFF, WE CAN‟THELP WONDERING WHY SOME OF OUR EFFORTS SEEM SO INEFFECTIVE.IN FACT, RESEARCH SHOWS THAT TAKING A BREATHER HELPS IMPROVE ACHIEVEMENT IN ANYENDEAVOUR. IN MY BOOK, MIND CONTROL SYSTEM: HOW TO ACTIVATE THE NATURALTRIGGER AND MAXIMISE CREATIVITY, ATHLETIC PERFORMANCE, PRODUCTIVITY ANDPERSONAL WELLBEING. GOING FOR A WALK IN THE MORNING, OR EVEN TAKING A BATH CANHELP SOLVE THE SEEMINGLY UNSOLVABLE PROBLEM. IT TURNS OUT THAT TAKING TIME OUTIS A POWERFUL BIOLOGICAL TRIGGER THAT CAN CONVERT CONFLICT AND CONFUSION INTOCLARITY AND EXTRAORDINARY PERFORMANCE. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
  5. 5. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULHOW? WELL, YOU MAY HAVE NOTICED THAT WHEN YOU ARE CLEAR ABOUT YOUR OBJECTIVEAND YOUR STRATEGY, YOU GET THERE A LOT FASTER. HOWEVER, THAT LUCIDITY CANSOMETIMES BE ELUSIVE, ESPECIALLY WITH MORE IMPORTANT OBJECTIVES. WE CAN BESTDEVELOP THAT CRYSTAL CLARITY IF WE RELAX AND "DO NOTHING" FOR AT LEAST A FEWMINUTES A DAY AND IN MY EXPERIENCE, THEY ARE RIGHT. SURESH, A CONSULTANT FORNEXUS, WAS WORRIED THAT THE ORGANISATION WOULDN‟T EXTEND HIS CONTRACT, ORIMPLEMENT HIS NEW IDEAS FOR IMPROVEMENTS. HOWEVER, AFTER HE DEVOTED 10 MINUTESA DAY OVER TWO MONTHS MEDITATING AND JOURNALING ABOUT HIS OBJECTIVES, THEREGIONAL DIRECTOR CALLED WITH GOOD NEWS AND PRAISED HIS CLEAR AND THOUGHTFULPRESENTATIONS.HOW IRONIC: WHAT WE WOULD HAVE CALLED "LAZINESS" A COUPLE OF YEARS AGO ANDNOW A WISE BUSINESS AND PERSONAL INVESTMENT. WHETHER ITS BEING ABSORBED INWATCHING OR PLAYING A SPORTING EVENT, JUST SITTING QUIETLY FOR TEN MINUTES, LYINGIN BED FOR AN EXTRA 10 MINUTES IN THE MORNING, READING A BOOK FOR PLEASURE, ITTAKES A BIT OF COURAGE TO STEP BACK AND HAVE FAITH THAT DOING "NOTHING" WILL HELPYOU ACHIEVE YOUR OBJECTIVES. FOR MOST OF US, ITS A NEW PARADIGM. HOWEVER, ITWORKS...AND QUICKLY!HASSAN, A BUSINESS ANALYST, WAS OVERWHELMED WITH CHARTS AND PAPERWORK. HENEEDED ORGANISATION, A MORE LUCRATIVE BUSINESS AND A BETTER LIFESTYLE. HIS “LAZYBREAK” BECAME A DAILY HALF-HOUR GAME OF BASKETBALL. WITHIN FOUR MONTHS OFINCORPORATING THIS TIME OUT, HE GOT HIS OFFICE SYSTEMS LARGELY UNDER CONTROLAND HAD REWORKED HIS PRACTICE TO ALLOW HIM TO MOVE TO A MORE UPSCALECOMMUNITY.THERE SEEMS TO BE A POWERFUL CONTRADICTION AT WORK HERE. YET, PRACTISING THELAZINESS HABIT INCREASES YOUR FULL ENGAGEMENT AND GENERATES A MORE PRODUCTIVEAND OPTIMALLY FUNCTIONING STATE. YOU LEARN HOW TO BETTER ALLOT YOUR ENERGY,YOUR TIME AND YOUR RESOURCES. I TELL MY COLLEAGUES TO SCHEDULE A BREAK INTO THECALENDAR, JUST LIKE A BUSINESS APPOINTMENT.IF YOU ARE FEELING RESISTANT AND NERVOUS ABOUT GIVING LAZINESS A TRY, HERE ARE AFEW SUGGESTIONS:1. CONSIDER IT AN EXPERIMENT AND STICK TO IT UNTIL YOU GET RESULTS. YOU DIDN‟T GETTO BE A HIGH NET-WORTH INDIVIDUAL BY GIVING UP AND BEING LAZY IS NO EXCEPTION!TRY DIFFERENT TYPES OF TIME-OUTS AND DON‟T WORRY THAT YOU‟LL GET ADDICTED TOPUTTING YOUR FEET UP, THAT‟S NOT YOUR STYLE!2. FIVE OR TEN MINUTES ARE ALL YOU NEED TO START WITH AND MAYBE ALL YOU NEED ON AREGULAR BASIS. THIS PRACTICE IS DIFFERENT FOR EVERYONE, SO SEE WHAT WORKS BESTFOR YOU. SOME DAYS CALL FOR MORE LAZINESS THAN OTHERS. BE FLEXIBLE.3. DONT MAKE RELAXING BURDENSOME; YOU DON‟T HAVE TO DO IT EVERY DAY IN THEBEGINNING AND YOU WANT TO MAKE SURE YOU ARE HAVING FUN. IF IT HELPS, GET A TIME-OUT BUDDY AND HOLD EACH OTHER ACCOUNTABLE.4. HAVE A CHOICE OF ACTIVITIES AND PICK WHATEVER FEELS MOST APPEALING IN THEMOMENT. REMEMBER WHAT YOU LOVED DOING AS A KID, OR WHAT YOU HAVE ALWAYSWANTED TO DO. CHOICE IS KEY. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
  6. 6. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFUL5. PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR RESULTS, OTHERWISE YOU MIGHT BE INCLINED TO DISCOUNT ITSEFFECTIVENESS. FOR THOSE OF US WHO ARE WORKAHOLIC HIGH-ACHIEVERS, IT‟S A BIGSTEP TO ACCEPT THAT “DOING NOTHING” CAN BE EVEN MORE PRODUCTIVE THAN CONSTANTEFFORT. IT‟S COUNTERINTUITIVE, BUT BRILLIANTLY SO. 11 QUESTIONS TO KICKSTART YOUR DREAMWHAT‟S YOUR DREAM? WANT TO GIVE YOUR VISION A JUMPSTART? WRITE DOWN YOUROBJECTIVES AND USE THESE QUESTIONS TO SPEED UP DELIVERY OF YOUR DREAM.1. WHAT‟S YOUR HIGHEST PRIORITY THIS LIFETIME?WHAT‟S MOST IMPORTANT FOR YOU TO EXPERIENCE, EXPLORE OR EMBRACE THIS TIMEAROUND? UNTIL YOU ANSWER THIS QUESTION, YOUR LIFE GOALS WILL BE OFF PURPOSE.UNALIGNED WITH YOUR INNER PASSION, YOUR INTENTIONS WILL LACK THE POWER TOATTRACT THE PEOPLE AND SITUATIONS NECESSARY TO BECOME A REALITY. GET GLUED INTOYOUR TRUE JOY. WHAT ACTIVITIES TURNED YOU ON AS A CHILD? ? WHAT ARE YOUR HOBBIESNOW? WHEN YOUR GOALS ARE ALIGNED WITH YOUR SOUL PURPOSE, SYNCHRONICITY KICKSIN TO GUIDE YOU TO YOUR TARGET. WHEN YOU INTUIT AND OWN YOUR UNIQUE ESSENCEAND CALLING, ASSISTANCE WILL FLOW TO YOU FROM EVERY EARTHLY AND HEAVENLYSOURCE.2. IS THIS YOUR DREAM OR SOMEONE ELSE‟S?ARE YOUR GOALS YOUR OWN CHOICE, OR WHAT OTHERS THINK YOU SHOULD STRIVE FOR?DO YOU WANT TO LOOK BACK IN YOUR OLD AGE AND WISH YOU HAD FOLLOWED YOURPASSION? WILL YOU REGRET HAVING "PLAYED IT SAFE?" IS IT SELFISH TO GO AFTER YOUROWN DREAM? WHAT JOY CAN YOU GIVE TO OTHERS IF YOU HAVEN‟T GIVEN IT TO YOURSELFFIRST? YOU HAVE A DIVINE RIGHT TO LISTEN TO YOUR HEART. YOU HAVE A SOCIALOBLIGATION TO FOLLOW YOUR DREAM. ONLY THEN CAN YOU FULFIL YOUR DESTINY AND MAKETHE EARTHLY CONTRIBUTION YOU WERE BORN TO MAKE.3. DO YOU REALLY, REALLY WANT THIS DREAM?DO YOU BOUND OUT OF BED EVERY MORNING TO PURSUE YOUR VISION? OR IS IT ALUKEWARM DREAM YOU CHASE BECAUSE IT SOUNDS MEANINGFUL? ONLY THE REAL MCCOYWILL GENERATE ENOUGH ENERGY TO MANIFEST ITSELF IN THE WORLD.4. ARE YOU SETTLING FOR LESS THAN?ARE YOU RESIGNED TO ACCEPTING LESS THAN YOUR FULL SHARE OF LOVE, HEALTH ANDSUCCESS THIS LIFETIME? HAVE YOU COMPROMISED AND SACRIFICED YOUR DREAM TODEATH? ANYTHING SHORT OF LIVING YOUR TRUE PASSIONS WILL NEVER MAKE YOU HAPPY.DO YOU WANT TO ARRIVE AT THE GATES WITH THE REGRET OF NOT MARRYING THAT ONECAPTIVATING PERSON, STARTING THAT FUN BUSINESS, OR SEEING THAT EXOTIC PART OF THEWORLD YOU ALWAYS WANTED TO VISIT?5. IS YOUR DREAM ACTUALLY JUST A MEANS TO SOME OTHER DREAM?IS YOUR GOAL THE ULTIMATE END IN ITSELF, OR MERELY A LIMITED MEANS TO THAT END?ISN‟T IT REALLY THE NEW CAR ITSELF YOU WANT, RATHER THAN THE MONEY, THE MEANS TO THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
  7. 7. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULBUY THE NEW CAR? MORE TO THE CORE, ISN‟T IT REALLY A RENEWED SENSE OF SELF-WORTHYOU DESIRE, RATHER THAN THE NEW CAR OR HOUSE TO IMPRESS THE FAMILY ANDNEIGHBOURS? AND ISN‟T IT REALLY HAPPINESS YOU WANT, RATHER THAN THE PICTURE-PERFECT MATE, JOB OR BODY? FOCUS ON THE EXPERIENCE YOU WANT TO CREATE, NOT THEPHYSICAL FORM THAT MAY OR MAY NOT BRING YOU THAT EXPERIENCE.6. WHAT WILL YOU FEEL LIKE WHEN YOU REACH YOUR DREAM?PERSONAL PASSION FUELS A VISION. DIVE INTO THE THRILL AND EXHILARATION OF THEFEELING OF LIVING YOUR DREAM. EVERY MOMENT YOU CAN, DRINK IN THE JOY OF HAVINGYOUR GOAL. "WHERE YOUR CREATIVE ATTENTION FLOWS, SO FLOWS YOUR LIFE." IS YOURDAILY ATTENTION FEEDING YOUR DREAM? AS THE TV PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENTREMINDS US, "IT‟S MIDNIGHT. DO YOU KNOW WHERE YOUR CHILDREN ARE?" HEY, IN YOURLIFE, IT‟S HIGH NOON! DO YOU KNOW WHERE YOUR CREATIVE EXCITEMENT IS FLOWING? IT‟SHIGH TIME YOU MANIFESTED YOUR ASPIRATIONS. DYNAMIC, SATISFYING CREATIONS ARENURTURED WITH LOVE AND CARE AS A FLOWER IN A GARDEN.7. HOW WILL YOU BENEFIT FROM GETTING YOUR DREAM?GET SPECIFIC ABOUT THE BENEFITS YOU‟LL RECEIVE FROM ACHIEVING YOUR VISION. WRITEDOWN THESE PLUSES SO THEY WILL SINK IN AS MOTIVATORS. WHAT EXACTLY WOULDHAPPEN IF YOU MADE A LOT OF MONEY DOING SOMETHING YOU LOVE? HOW WOULD YOUAPPROACH YOUR LIFE DIFFERENTLY IF YOU ALLOWED PEOPLE TO LOVE AND SUPPORT YOU?WHAT WOULD YOU DO WITH MORE VITALITY AND HEALTH?8. WHAT STEPS CAN YOU TAKE TODAY TOWARD YOUR DREAM?DON‟T DEFER YOUR DREAM. SET UP SUPPORTS AND SYSTEMS AROUND YOU TO INSTANTLYTRANSLATE YOUR INTENTIONS INTO ACTION. JUMP ON EVERY OPPORTUNITY THAT IS IN LINEWITH YOUR PURPOSE AND VISION. KEEP THE MOMENTUM GOING. NO MATTER HOW HECTICLIFE GETS, PLEDGE TO TAKE AT LEAST ONE ACTION A DAY. EVEN THE SMALLEST ACTIONSJOTTING DOWN A NEW IDEA, READING A SINGLE PAGE, OR MAKING ONE PHONE CALL CANSTART TO ADD UP. ARE THERE SMALLER PROJECTS THAT LEAD TO YOUR LARGER DREAM THATCAN GIVE YOU PLEASURE IN THE MEANTIME? IF THE DREAM IS TO RUN A MARATHON, TRAINFOR A LOCAL FUN-RUN FIRST. AND FIND A WAY TO MEASURE YOUR PROGRESS. TRACK THOSELITTLE WINS BY WRITING IN A JOURNAL OR TELLING A FRIEND.9. ARE YOU TELLING YOURSELF: "I CAN‟T HAVE MY DREAM?"MOST PEOPLE DON‟T BELIEVE THEY CAN LIVE THEIR DREAM. EITHER THEIR BELIEF SYSTEMHAS THEM BELIEVING THEY CAN‟T MAKE A LIVING DOING WHAT THEY LOVE, OR THEY FEELTHEY DON‟T DESERVE THEIR DREAM. TO AVOID THE PAIN OF FEELING THEY CAN‟T HAVETHEIR DREAM, PEOPLE OFTEN KEEP THEIR DREAM SO BURIED THEY CAN‟T REMEMBER THEYEVER HAD A DREAM. EVERYONE HAS A DREAM! AND EVERYONE IS DESTINED TO FULFIL THATPURPOSE. WHY WAIT?10. ARE YOU AFRAID OF GETTING YOUR DREAM?STATISTICALLY, MORE HEART ATTACKS OCCUR WHEN "GOOD" THINGS HAPPEN, THAN WHEN"BAD" THINGS HAPPEN! GETTING YOUR DREAM IS LIFE THREATENING! OF COURSE, REALISINGYOUR DREAM IS ONLY THREATENING TO YOUR OLD EXPERIENCE OF YOURSELF AND YOUR LIFE THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
  8. 8. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULYOU KNOW THE ONE THAT‟S BORING OR PAINING YOU TO DEATH! CHANGE IS SCARY. FIND AWAY TO MOVE THE ENERGY OF FEAR. THE ONLY WAY TO AVOID FEELING FEAR IS TO AVOIDLIVING ALTOGETHER!11. DO YOU REALLY NEED TO ACCOMPLISH YOUR DREAM?DO YOU REALLY NEED TO ACHIEVE YOUR GOALS TO BE HAPPY? ENTER THE "HOOTLESS STATE"WHERE YOU NO LONGER GIVE A HOOT IF THE EXACT "PICTURE" OF YOUR DREAM COMESTRUE. WITHOUT THE INTERFERENCE OF THE EGO‟S PUSH, PRESSURE AND MICRO MANAGING,YOU HAVE A MUCH BETTER CHANCE OF BEING IN THE RIGHT VIBRATION SPACE TO ATTRACTREAL HAPPINESS. WHEN YOU RELAX YOUR GRIP ON THE EXACT WAY YOUR FUTURE "HAS" TOUNFOLD, YOU GIVE THE UNIVERSE MORE FLEXIBILITY IN HOW IT CAN FULFIL YOUR WISHES.AND, ON A HIGHER PLANE, WHAT IF OUR TRUE TASK HERE ON IS SIMPLY TO BE WHO WEALREADY ARE IN OUR ESSENTIAL NATURE WITH OR WITHOUT MANIFESTING OUR SPECIFICGOALS? WHAT IF THE ESSENCE OF WHO WE ARE IS ENOUGH? 20 WAYS TO TELL SOMEONE "NO"TELL ME IF THIS SOUNDS FAMILIAR...SOMEONE ASKS YOU TO DO SOMETHING THAT YOU REALLY DON‟T WANT TO DO OR YOUHONESTLY DON‟T HAVE TIME FOR. IT MIGHT BE A SCHOOL FUNDRAISER, PARTICIPATING ON ACOMMITTEE, OR EVEN JUST WORKING LATE. BUT YOU FEEL LIKE YOU WILL LET THE OTHERPERSON DOWN IF YOU SAY NO. YOU FEEL GUILTY ALREADY AND YOU HAVEN‟T EVENRESPONDED YET!SO YOU SAY, “SURE,” EVEN THOUGH DOING SO IS GOING TO PUT YOU UNDER TREMENDOUSSTRESS AND PRESSURE. YOU KNOW THAT YOU WILL PROBABLY END UP RESENTING THISACTIVITY AND MAYBE EVEN DUCKING SOME OF YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES BECAUSE YOURHEART‟S JUST NOT IN IT, BUT YOU GO AHEAD AND AGREE ANYWAY.WHY ARE WE SO AFRAID TO TELL PEOPLE "NO”?FOR SOME REASON, WE HAVE BEEN TAUGHT THAT "NO" IS DISRESPECTFUL AND EVENINSULTING. WE SEEM TO VALUE OTHER PEOPLES TIME MORE THAN OUR OWN FEELING THATWE NEED TO BEND OVER BACKWARD TO ACCOMMODATE OTHERS, EVEN IF ITINCONVENIENCES US. I KNOW WE ARE ATONING FOR THE "ME", BUT LETS BE REASONABLE!"NO" IS ACTUALLY ONE OF THE HEALTHIEST WORDS THAT CAN COME OUT OF YOUR MOUTH.WHEN YOU TELL SOMEONE "NO," YOU ARE REALLY SAYING THAT YOU UNDERSTAND ANDACCEPT YOUR OWN LIMITS AND DONT WANT TO DO A SHODDY JOB BY OVERWHELMINGYOURSELF. THAT YOU VALUE YOUR TIME AND PRIORITIES AND ARENT WILLING TO TAKE AWAYFROM THE TRULY IMPORTANT THINGS IN YOUR LIFE. A LITTLE SELFISHNESS IS NECESSARY, IFYOU WANT TO MAINTAIN A BALANCED AND SANE LIFE!SO HOW DO YOU SAY "NO" WITHOUT INSULTING THE OTHER PERSON, FEELING CONSUMEDWITH GUILT, OR HURTING YOUR OWN CREDIBILITY?WE NEED TO FIND A WAY TO SAY "NO" WITHOUT DRAGGING UP ALL OF THOSE HIDDENFEARS; THEYLL THINK I AM LAZY OR SELFISH, THAT I HAVE NO CAREER DRIVE, THAT I AMNOT AMBITIOUS, THAT I HAVE NO CONCERN FOR OTHER PEOPLE. AND ITS TIME TO GIVE UP THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
  9. 9. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULALL OF THOSE ROLES YOU ARE SO PROUD OF SUPERMAN, MARTYR AND HERO BUT AREKEEPING YOU FROM FINDING TRUE PEACE.ONCE YOUVE ACCEPTED THAT YOU HAVE THE RIGHT (AND OFTEN RESPONSIBILITY) TO TURNSOMEONE DOWN, YOU CAN DO IT IN A WAY THAT DOESNT SEEM LIKE A REJECTION. LET MESHOW YOU HOW:1. I CANT RIGHT NOW, BUT I CAN DO IT LATERIF YOU REALLY WANT TO HELP THE PERSON BUT DONT HAVE TIME NOW, TELL THEM SO.OFFER A LATER TIME OR DATE IF THEY CANT WAIT FOR YOU THEY WILL FIND SOMEONE ELSE.2. I AM REALLY NOT THE MOST QUALIFIED PERSON FOR THE JOBIF YOU DONT FEEL THAT YOU HAVE ADEQUATE SKILLS TO TAKE ON A TASK, THATS OKAY. ITSBETTER TO ADMIT YOUR LIMITATIONS UP FRONT THAN FEEL OVERWHELMED DOWN THE ROAD.3. I JUST DONT HAVE ANY ROOM IN MY CALENDAR RIGHT NOWBE HONEST IF YOUR SCHEDULE IS FILLED AND "FILLED" DOESNT HAVE TO MEAN REALLYFILLED! IT JUST MEANS YOU HAVE SCHEDULED AS MUCH AS YOU ARE WILLING AND YOU ARESTOPPING.4. I CANT, BUT LET ME GIVE YOU THE NAME OF SOMEONE WHO CANIF YOU ARENT AVAILABLE TO HELP OUT, OFFER ANOTHER QUALIFIED RESOURCE.PROFESSIONALS DO THIS ALL THE TIME WHEN THEY REFER A CLIENT TO A COLLEAGUE.5. I HAVE ANOTHER COMMITMENTAND IT DOESNT MATTER WHAT THAT COMMITMENT IS. IT COULD BE A MEETING OR ADENTIST APPOINTMENT OR A DAY IN THE PARK WITH YOUR KID. THE POINT IS, YOU ARENTAVAILABLE.6. IM IN THE MIDDLE OF SEVERAL PROJECTS AND CANT SPARE THE TIMELET PEOPLE KNOW WHEN YOU HAVE ALREADY ACCEPTED OTHER RESPONSIBILITIES, NO ONEIS GOING TO FAULT YOU FOR HAVING ALREADY FILLED YOUR PLATE.7. I HAVE HAD A FEW THINGS COME UP AND I NEED TO DEAL WITH THOSE FIRSTUNEXPECTED THINGS HAPPEN THAT THROW YOUR SCHEDULE OFF IT HAPPENS. SO ACCEPTTHAT YOU MAY NEED TO MAKE A FEW ADJUSTMENTS UNTIL YOUR LIFE STABILISES AGAIN.8. I WOULD RATHER DECLINE THAN END UP DOING A MEDIOCRE JOBKNOWING THAT YOU ARENT ABLE TO DELIVER A QUALITY PRODUCT FOR WHATEVER REASONIS REASON ENOUGH FOR TURNING A REQUEST DOWN.9. I AM REALLY FOCUSING MORE ON MY PERSONAL AND FAMILY LIFE RIGHT NOWPEOPLE ACT ASHAMED OF WANTING TO SPEND TIME WITH THEIR FAMILIES LIKE IT MEANSTHEY DONT HAVE GOALS. HAVING A STRONG FAMILY IS A GOAL IN AND OF ITSELF!10. I AM REALLY FOCUSING MORE ON MY CAREER RIGHT NOWTHE REVERSE IS TRUE ALSO; YOU MAY HAVE TO GIVE UP SOME CIVIC OR COMMUNITY DUTIESTO FOCUS YOUR ENERGIES ON A WORK-RELATED TASK (AND THATS FINE, TOO!)11. I REALLY DONT ENJOY THAT KIND OF WORK THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
  10. 10. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULWHO SAID YOU WERE SUPPOSED TO ENJOY YOUR CHORES AND ASSIGNMENTS! WELL, IF YOUDONT ENJOY THEM, WHY DO THEM? LIFE ISNT ABOUT DRUDGERY AND BOREDOM.12. I CANT, BUT I AM HAPPY TO HELP OUT WITH ANOTHER TASKIF SOMEONE ASKS YOU TO DO SOMETHING YOU REALLY DESPISE, REFUSE BUT THEN OFFERTO HELP WITH SOMETHING YOU FIND MORE ENJOYABLE OR STIMULATING.13. I HAVE LEARNED IN THE PAST THAT THIS REALLY ISNT MY STRONG SUITANOTHER WAY OF ADMITTING YOUR LIMITATIONS. DID YOU KNOW THAT ACTUALLY MAKESYOU STRONGER? KNOWING WHAT YOU CAN HANDLE AND WHAT YOU CANT IS A TREMENDOUSTALENT!14. I AM SURE YOU WILL DO A WONDERFUL JOB ON YOUR OWNMANY TIMES, PEOPLE ASK FOR HELP BECAUSE THEY DOUBT THEIR OWN ABILITIES. LET THEOTHER PERSON KNOW THAT YOU HAVE CONFIDENCE THAT THEY WILL SUCCEED.15. I DONT HAVE ANY EXPERIENCE WITH THAT, SO I CANT HELP YOUVOLUNTEERING TO HELP OUT SHOULDNT MEAN THAT YOU HAVE TO LEARN AN ENTIRELY NEWSET OF SKILLS. OFFER TO HELP OUT WITH SOMETHING YOU ALREADY KNOW HOW TO DO.16. I AM NOT COMFORTABLE WITH THATYOU MIGHT BE UNCOMFORTABLE WITH THE PEOPLE INVOLVED, THE TYPE OF WORK, THEMORAL IMPLICATIONS, THIS IS A VERY RESPECTFUL WAY TO AVOID A STICKY SITUATION.17. I HATE TO SPLIT MY ATTENTION AMONG TOO MANY PROJECTSLET PEOPLE KNOW THAT YOU WANT TO DO A GOOD JOB FOR THEM BUT THAT YOU CANTWHEN YOUR FOCUS IS TOO DIVIDED OR SPLINTERED.18. I AM COMMITTED TO LEAVING SOME TIME FOR MYSELF IN MY SCHEDULESELFISH, SELFISH, SELFISH! BUT IN A GOOD WAY! TREAT YOUR PERSONAL TIME LIKE ANYOTHER APPOINTMENT BLOCK IT OFF IN YOUR CALENDAR AND GUARD IT WITH YOUR LIFE!19. I AM NOT TAKING ON ANY NEW PROJECTS RIGHT NOWYOU ARENT SAYING THAT YOU WILL NEVER HELP OUT AGAIN, JUST THAT YOU FEEL YOURSCHEDULE IS AS FULL AS YOU WOULD LIKE RIGHT NOW.20. NOSOMETIMES ITS OKAY JUST TO SAY NO! JUST MAKE SURE THAT YOU SAY IT IN A WAY THATEXPRESSES RESPECT AND COURTESY THAT LEAVES THE DOOR OPEN FOR GOOD RELATIONS. 4 SUPER REASONS YOU WILL LOVE "EASIFYING" YOUR LIFEARE YOU SOMEONE WHO WANTS A SIMPLER LIFE, BUT WHO ASSOCIATES SIMPLIFYING WITHGIVING AWAY EVERYTHING YOU OWN AND GOING BACK TO BAKING YOUR OWN BREAD?UNFORTUNATELY, THAT ATTITUDE CAN SCARE YOU AWAY FROM MAKING THE SIMPLE CHANGESTHAT CAN MAKE YOUR LIFE SO MUCH EASIER, BETTER, AND HAPPIER. INSTEAD, LETS AGREETHAT SIMPLIFYING MEANS WHATEVER YOU WANT IT TO MEAN IN YOUR OWN PARTICULARLIFE.FOR ME, IT MEANS ELIMINATING THE STUFF AROUND ME THAT I FIND NEITHER USEFUL NORBEAUTIFUL (AND TRUST ME, OTHER PEOPLE WOULD NOT ALWAYS AGREE WITH MY DEFINITION THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
  11. 11. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULOF USEFUL OR BEAUTIFUL); HOWEVER, IT ALSO MEANS SETTING UP SYSTEMS TO MAKE SURETHAT I HAVE EASIER WAYS TO HANDLE SOME AGE-OLD PROBLEMS IN THE FUTURE.TO ME, SIMPLIFYING MEANS "EASE-I-FYING" (OK, SO THERES NO SUCH WORD, BUT THERESHOULD BE!). EASIFYING DEFINED WOULD BE: "MINIMUM EFFORT FOR MAXIMUM PLEASURE."EASIFYING SIMPLY LOOKS AT THE PROBLEMS OF EVERYDAY LIFE THEN POSES CREATIVEEASIFYING SOLUTIONS.HERE ARE 4 SUPER REASONS THAT YOU WILL LOVE EASIFYING YOUR LIFE.1. LESS STUFF, FEWER PROBLEMSWITH LESS STUFF CLUTTERING UP YOUR LIFE THE BENEFITS ARE EASY TO SEE: YOULL HAVELESS STUFF TO CLEAN. LESS STUFF TO HAVE REPAIRED (MORE MONEY FOR YOU!); LESSSTUFF TO DISPOSE OF. (ENVIRONMENTALLY GOOD!), AND; LESS STUFF TO FIND. JUST PICKONE ROOM IN YOUR HOUSE AND LOOK AROUND IT. HOW MUCH OF THAT STUFF ARE YOUREALLY ENJOYING AND GETTING USE FROM? HOW MUCH OF IT IS AN AGGRAVATION FORCLEANING, REPAIRING, LOSING, FIXING, DISPOSING OF, ETC.?2. LESS EFFORT, MORE ENERGYYOULL HAVE LESS FEAR AND WORRY ASSOCIATED WITH CARRYING AROUND A LOT OF STUFF.IT WILL SIMPLY REQUIRE LESS EFFORT. BY SIMPLY COMBINING THINGS INTO ONE (AEROBICSAND WEIGHTLIFTING AT THE SAME TIME), BY SETTING UP A SYSTEM TO DO THE WORK FORYOU (A BILL PAYING SYSTEM), BY ELIMINATING A TASK ALTOGETHER (DELEGATE IT TOSOMEONE ELSE), YOU WILL BE CALMER, NOT STRESSED WITH THE DAY TO DAY LOGISTICS OFSTUFF. AN EXAMPLE, I LOVE TO USE IS THE FREEDOM THAT COMES FROM NOT SMOKING. ITSNOT THE FREEDOM FROM THE HABIT THAT MOST PEOPLE NOTICE FIRST. ITS THE NO MOREWORRYING ABOUT HAVING ENOUGH CIGARETTES, NO MORE FEARS OF NOT BEING ABLE TOFIND A LIGHTER. YOULL FEEL MORE IN CONTROL OF YOUR TIME, YOUR SPACE AND YOURENERGY.3. LESS BAGGAGE, BETTER RELATIONSHIPS"STUFF" REFERS TO NOT ONLY MATERIAL THINGS, BUT MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL CLUTTER ASWELL. BY CLEANING OUT THE NEED-TO, HAVE-TO, AND OUGHT-TOS OF YOUR OWN LIFE,YOULL HAVE BETTER RELATIONSHIPS BECAUSE THERES NOT AS MUCH "STUFF" IN YOUR LIFETO FIGHT ABOUT. PUT THE PAST IN THE PAST BY RETURNING ANYTHING YOU BORROWED, BYAPOLOGISING TO WHOEVER YOU NEED TO, BY GETTING YOUR BILLS UP TO DATE, BY SENDINGTHE CARD OR GIFT YOU FORGOT TO SEND, BY MAKING THE PHONE CALL YOU NEED TO MAKE.YOU GET THE IDEA. ANYTHING THAT YOU "SHOULD" HAVE DONE, BUT NEGLECTED TO, HASYOU TIED TO THE PAST.4. MORE FUN!HAVING AN EASIFIED LIFE MEANS HAVING MORE TIME FOR THE THINGS YOU DREAM OF...LIKE READING, OR TRAVELLING, OR ENTERTAINING, OR EXERCISING, OR PLAYING WITH THEKIDS, OR VISITING WITH FRIENDS. YOULL FEEL MORE IN CONTROL BECAUSE THE CLUTTER,PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL AND MENTAL WILL NO LONGER DICTATE HOW YOUR SPACE ISARRANGED, OR HOW YOUR TIME IS SPENT (LOOKING FOR THINGS), OR HOW YOUR ENERGY ISUSED (FRUSTRATION, AGGRAVATION). THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
  12. 12. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULNEED I SAY MORE? THREE STEPS TO SUCCESSHERE ARE THREE SIMPLE STEPS TO MAKE THINGS HAPPEN IN YOUR LIFE:DO IT"ACTION IS A GREAT RESTORER AND BUILDER OF CONFIDENCE. INACTION IS NOT ONLY THERESULT, BUT THE CAUSE, OF FEAR. PERHAPS THE ACTION YOU TAKE WILL BE SUCCESSFUL;PERHAPS DIFFERENT ACTION OR ADJUSTMENTS WILL HAVE TO FOLLOW. BUT ANY ACTION ISBETTER THAN NO ACTION AT ALL."IF YOU WAIT UNTIL YOU HAVE ALL THE FACTS OR UNTIL YOU KNOW HOW YOU WILL HANDLEEVERY POSSIBLE CHALLENGE THAT COMES ALONG, YOULL NEVER GET STARTED. BEGINSOMEWHERE. YOU CANT ACCOMPLISH ANYTHING UNTIL YOU BEGIN. DO IT.DO IT RIGHT"IF A TASK IS ONCE BEGUN,NEVER LEAVE UNTIL ITS DONE.BE THE LABOUR GREAT OR SMALL,DO IT WELL OR NOT AT ALL."ITS TRUE: IF YOU DONT HAVE TIME TO DO IT RIGHT, WHEN WILL YOU FIND TIME TO DO ITOVER? DO IT RIGHT.DO IT RIGHT NOWIN A FAMOUS WAR, AS THE SOLDIERS WERE TRYING TO CAPTURE A HILL, THEY WERETHROWN BACK AGAIN AND AGAIN. THE BLACK POWDER AMMUNITION THEY WERE USINGPINPOINTED THEIR POSITION FOR THEIR ENEMIES. AS SOLDIER AFTER SOLDIER TOPPLED,THE TROOPS BEGAN TO PANIC. UP RODE THE COMMANDER, ON A LITTLE HORSE URGING HISMEN TO FIGHT ON. ENCOURAGED BY HIS BRAVERY IN EXPOSING HIMSELF TO THE WHIZZINGBULLETS, THE TROOPS BEGAN TO CHEER THEIR COMMANDER."DONT CHEER, MEN, THE COMMANDER CALLED OUT TO THEM. "FIGHT! NOW‟S THE TIME TOFIGHT!"THERE IS A TIME TO CHEER. A TIME TO REFLECT. A TIME TO PLAN. A TIME TO REMINISCE. BUTTHERE IS ALSO A TIME TO ACT. THOSE WHO ACCOMPLISH ANYTHING WORTHWHILE KNOWTHAT TIME IS NOW. DO IT. DO IT RIGHT. DO IT RIGHT NOW. THESE ARE THREE SIMPLE STEPSTO SUCCESS. EVERYDAY TOOLS FOR EXTRAORDINARY SUCCESSI AM OFTEN ASKED ABOUT THE "SECRETS TO SUCCESS". I HAVE HAD THE CHANCE TO WORKWITH HIGHLY SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE IN BUSINESS AND FINANCE AND THE GOOD NEWS IS,THERE ARE NO "SECRETS" FOR SUCCESS! THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
  13. 13. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULTHERE ARE, HOWEVER, A FEW TOOLS THAT, WHEN USED TOGETHER, COME CLOSE TO BEING A"SECRET WEAPON". THEY REQUIRE NO SPECIAL TALENT OR SKILLS. THEY COST VERY LITTLEAND EVERY SCHOOL CHILD HAS A COMPLETE SET.THEY ARE AROUND US EVERY DAY, YET WE FAIL TO USE THEM AND WE DEPRIVE OURSELVESOF THEIR POWER. HERE IS MY LIST OF THE TOP 5 "SECRET" WEAPONS OF EXTRAORDINARILYSUCCESSFUL LEADERS:1. 3X5 CARDSYES, I AM REFERRING TO THOSE LITTLE CARDS YOUR MUM USED FOR RECIPES. SUCCESSFULPEOPLE USE THEM TO JOT NOTES, KEEP TIPS AND STORE VALUABLE INFORMATION. I CARRYTHEM EVERYWHERE AND HAVE SUPPLIES BY THE PHONE, BESIDE MY BED AND ON THEKITCHEN COUNTER. THEY ARE WONDERFUL! THEY LAST FOREVER I HAVE CARDS I WROTEOVER YEARS AGO! AND IF YOU ACCIDENTALLY LEAVE THEM IN YOUR POCKETS, THEY EVEN GOTHROUGH THE WASH. (TRUST ME ON THIS!)2. A WATCHHIGHLY SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE ARE INTENSELY TIME CONSCIOUS. THEY DONT SPEND THEIRTIME, THEIR ENERGY OR THEIR LIVES ON TRIVIAL PURSUITS. THEY WEAR A WATCH AND THEYUSE IT TO STAY ON TASK UNTIL THEY ACHIEVE THEIR GOALS AND CREATE THE LIFE THEYWANT. TIME IS YOUR MOST PRECIOUS ASSET AND OUR MOST UNDER-VALUED COMMODITY.WEAR AND USE A WATCH!3. AN ALARM CLOCK"EARLY TO BED, EARLY TO RISE, MAKES A MAN (OR WOMAN) HEALTHY, WEALTHY AND WISE".ITS STILL TRUE! I LIVE AND WORK WITH WEALTHY PEOPLE AND THEY GO TO BED AT 10:00P.M., WAKE UP AROUND 6:00 IN THE MORNING, EVERYONE IS UP, AND THE CARS AREALREADY HEADING FOR THE OFFICE. BUY AND USE AN ALARM CLOCK! START EARLY, WORKSMART.4. A LISTHIGHLY SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE PLAN THEIR DAY. THEY MAKE A LIST OF THEIR MOST IMPORTANTPRIORITIES. THEY CHOOSE THE THINGS THAT WILL MAKE A MAJOR, LONG-TERM, DIFFERENCEAND THEY FOCUS ON THEM ALL DAY LONG. LAST THING IN THE EVENING, OR FIRST THING INTHE MORNING, CREATE A LIST AND WORK FROM IT DURING YOUR DAY.5. A COMPASSMY MOST SUCCESSFUL CLIENTS ALWAYS HAVE A MAP, A PICTURE OR POSTER OF THEIR MOSTIMPORTANT GOALS AND THEY USE IT TO GUIDE THEM DURING THE DAY. THEY STAY ONCOURSE. IF THEY GET LOST, THEY RE-ASSESS AND GET BACK ON-TRACK IMMEDIATELY. HAVE A"COMPASS" THAT REMINDS YOU OF YOUR DREAMS, YOUR GOALS, AND YOUR MOST DARINGDESIRES. STAY ON COURSE! 10 WAYS TO KEEP YOURSELF ENTHUSEDALMOST ALL OF US FEEL ENTHUSIASTIC AT THE START OF A NEW PROJECT. HOWEVER,KEEPING THE ENTHUSIASM GOING OVER TIME IS ANOTHER ISSUE, AND IS PROBLEMATIC FORMANY PEOPLE. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
  14. 14. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULIN THE PROGRESS OF EVERY PROJECT WHEN ENERGY FADES UNLESS THERE IS AN INFLUX OFEXTERNAL ENERGY. SINCE WE CANNOT BE SURE THAT WE WILL RECEIVE AN ENERGY BOOSTFROM OUTSIDE OURSELVES AT JUST THE RIGHT TIME, HERE ARE SOME WAYS TO PREVENTOUR ENTHUSIASM FROM FLAGGING.1. USE VISUAL REMINDERS OF YOUR GOAL.DEVELOP VISUAL REMINDERS OF YOUR GOAL AND THE ADVANTAGES YOU WILL EXPERIENCEWHEN YOU REACH IT. THE CLASSIC EXAMPLE IS THAT IF, WHEN YOU ACHIEVE IT, YOU WILL BEABLE TO AFFORD THAT LUXURY ITEM YOU ARE YEARNING FOR, GET YOUR PHOTOGRAPH TAKENWITH THAT ITEM (E.G. GO TO A CAR SHOWROOM, SIT IN THE CAR OF YOUR DREAMS, ANDHAVE A FRIEND TAKE A PICTURE), AND PLACE THE PHOTOGRAPH WHERE YOU WILL SEE ITDAILY.2. DEVELOP TINY STEPS.IT IS EASY TO BECOME DISCOURAGED IF EACH STEP LOOMS LARGE AND REQUIRES A MAJOREXPENDITURE OF TIME. IF YOU BREAK THE PROJECT DOWN TO EXTREMELY SMALL STEPS,THEN YOU CAN MAKE SOME PROGRESS EVEN IF YOU HAVE ONLY FIVE MINUTES. IT MAY BESOMETHING AS SMALL AS SETTING OUT THE MATERIALS FOR THE NEXT STEP, BUT,NONETHELESS, IT IS PROGRESS.3. CHECK OFF SMALL STEPS.AS YOU TAKE THOSE SMALL STEPS, CHECK THEM OFF AS ACHIEVED, AND GIVE YOURSELF APAT ON THE BACK FOR YOUR PROGRESS. FOCUS ALWAYS ON PROGRESS YOU HAVE MADE ASBEING JUST AS IMPORTANT AS THE DISTANCE YOU HAVE TO GO.4. CUT OUT, OR AT LEAST CUT DOWN ON, YOUR TIME-WASTERS AND MIND NUMBERS.LEARN TO IDENTIFY THE VARIOUS TIME-WASTERS THAT YOU USE TO "NUMB OUT." THENAVOID THEM AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE. THE LIST MAY INCLUDE TOO MUCH TV, CHAT-ROOMS,COMPUTER GAMES, TIME ON THE PHONE, SHOPPING, MIND-ALTERING CHEMICALS SUCH ASALCOHOL AND OTHER DRUGS, OR OTHER BEHAVIOURS IN WHICH YOU INDULGE FAIRLYOBSESSIVELY.5. GET ENOUGH SLEEP/REST.OFTEN, WHEN WE FEEL THE NEED TO WORK HARDER ON A PROJECT, THIS TRANSLATES TOMORE HOURS OF WORK, AND LESS OF REST. THE STATISTICS ON SLEEP DEPRIVATION IN THISDECADE ARE FRIGHTENING. IT IS TRUE THAT CERTAIN GREAT LEADERS HAVE BEEN REPUTEDTO FUNCTION ON VERY LITTLE SLEEP. HOWEVER, MOST OF THEM WERE IN SUCH POSITIONSOF POWER THAT THEY COULD CATNAP WHEN THEY CHOSE AND THEY DID. IT IS ESSENTIAL TOOUR EFFICIENT FUNCTIONING THAT WE GET ENOUGH SLEEP. YOUR PROJECT WILL SUFFER IFYOU DO NOT.6. JOURNAL ABOUT THE BENEFITS OF YOUR PROJECT.JOURNALING INVOLVES HARNESSING OUR BODIES AND THE VERBAL PART OF OUR BRAIN TOWHATEVER IT IS WE JOURNAL ABOUT. BY GETTING BOTH OF THESE ASSOCIATED WITH THEBENEFITS OF THE PROJECT, YOU BECOME MORE FULLY INVOLVED WITH IT. DO THIS THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
  15. 15. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULESPECIALLY AT THE START, WHEN YOUR ENERGY IS HIGH. ADD TO THIS JOURNAL WHENEVERYOU CAN AND RE-READ IT REGULARLY.7. DO NOT DISCUSS YOUR PROJECT WITH PEOPLE WHO ARE CLOUDS OVER YOUR PARADE.YOU KNOW THE PEOPLE WHO WORRY THAT IF YOU SUCCEED YOU MAY GROW AWAY FROMTHEM. THERE ARE OTHERS WHO JUST DONT WANT TO SEE YOU AIM TOO HIGH AND THEN BEDISAPPOINTED. THEY MEAN WELL, BUT AVOID GIVING THEM THE OPPORTUNITY TO RAIN ONYOUR PARADE. PRACTICE WAYS TO CHANGE THE SUBJECT IF THEY TRY TO TALK ABOUT YOURPROJECT.8. KEEP YOURSELF PHYSICALLY WELL.IT SEEMS THAT WE CANNOT OPEN A NEWSPAPER OR MAGAZINE, OR VISIT A WEB SITE,WITHOUT RECEIVING INFORMATION ON KEEPING OURSELVES HEALTHY. EAT RIGHT, EXERCISE,DRINK PLENTY OF WATER... YOU KNOW THE ROUTINE. THE TRICK IS TO KEEP AT IT SO THATYOU HAVE THE PHYSICAL ENERGY NEEDED FOR YOUR PROJECT.9. AVOID ALL-OR-NOTHING THINKING.WHEN WE FALL INTO THE TRAP OF ALL-OR-NOTHING THINKING, WE BEGIN TO BELIEVE THATENCOUNTERING OBSTACLES, OR FAILURE, AT ONE JUNCTURE EQUALS TOTAL FAILURE ON THEENTIRE PROJECT. REMEMBER THAT EACH STEP IS JUST A SMALL STEP. IF ONE DOES NOTSUCCEED, TRY ANOTHER IN ANOTHER DIRECTION AND KEEP THE BIG PICTURE IN MIND.10. CLEAR THE DECKS.A MAJOR CAUSE OF LOSS OF ENERGY IS THE OTHER STUFF THAT ACCUMULATES AROUND USWHEN WE ARE FOCUSING ON ONE PARTICULAR PROJECT. SCHEDULE TIME TO KEEP THE PILES(PHYSICAL OR MENTAL) FROM ACCUMULATING. DO THE FILING, IF NECESSARY. KEEP UP WITHYOUR TO-DO LIST IF YOU KEEP ONE. IF YOU DONT, THEY WILL SAP YOUR ENERGY ANDOVERWHELM YOU. YOU MAY THINK THAT DOING THESE THINGS TAKES TIME FROM YOURPROJECT, BUT THEY WILL ACTUALLY FREE UP MORE ENERGY TO TAKE YOU TO A SUCCESSFULCONCLUSION WITH YOUR ENTHUSIASM STILL IN FULL FLOW. THOSE WHO WILL LISTEN WILL LEARNADVICE COMES IN ALL SHAPES AND SIZES. FOR INSTANCE, SOMEONE GAVE THE SAGEADVICE: "IF YOU DANCE WITH A GRIZZLY BEAR, YOU HAD BETTER LET HIM LEAD." I SUPPOSEITS GOOD TO KNOW WHEN TO GO ALONG WITH SOME PEOPLE.ITS BEEN ACCURATELY SAID THAT THERE IS A LOT OF ADVICE AVAILABLE FOR NOTHING ANDMOST OF IT IS WORTH IT. BUT HERE IS SOUND GUIDANCE, FROM AN UNKNOWN AUTHOR,WORTH TAKING TO HEART: "IF SOMEONE HURTS YOU, BETRAYS YOU, OR BREAKS YOUR HEART,FORGIVE; FOR THAT PERSON HAS HELPED YOU LEARN ABOUT TRUST AND THE IMPORTANCEOF CAUTION. IF SOMEONE LOVES YOU, LOVE BACK UNCONDITIONALLY; THAT ONE ISTEACHING YOU TO LOVE.MAKE EVERY DAY COUNT. APPRECIATE EVERY MOMENT AND TAKE FROM THOSE MOMENTSEVERYTHING THAT YOU POSSIBLY CAN, FOR YOU MAY NEVER BE ABLE TO EXPERIENCE ITAGAIN. TALK TO PEOPLE THAT YOU HAVE NEVER TALKED TO BEFORE AND ACTUALLY LISTEN. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
  16. 16. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULLET YOURSELF FALL IN LOVE, BREAK FREE AND SET YOUR SIGHTS HIGH. HOLD YOUR HEAD UPBECAUSE YOU HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO. TELL YOURSELF YOU ARE A GREAT INDIVIDUAL ANDBELIEVE IN YOURSELF, FOR IF YOU DONT BELIEVE IN YOURSELF, IT WILL BE HARD FOROTHERS TO BELIEVE IN YOU. YOU CAN MAKE OF YOUR LIFE ANYTHING YOU WISH. CREATEYOUR OWN LIFE AND THEN GO OUT AND LIVE IT WITH ABSOLUTELY NO REGRETS. MOSTIMPORTANTLY, IF YOU LOVE OTHERS, TELL THEM, FOR YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT MAY COMETOMORROW. AND LEARN A LESSON IN LIFE EACH DAY YOU LIVE." EVEN SOME FREE ADVICECAN PROFIT TO THOSE WHO LISTEN. DISCOVERING WHAT YOU WANT FOR YOUR LIFEI OFTEN RECOMMEND THAT LIFE PLANNING BE BASED UPON AN INDIVIDUALS PERSONALVISION AND PURPOSE. IF YOU ARE GOING TO HANDCRAFT A LIFE OF CHOICE, YOULL NEED TOKNOW WHAT YOU WANT SO THAT YOU CAN MAKE THE CHOICES THAT TAKE YOU THERE. THETROUBLE IS THAT MANY (MOST?) OF YOU CANNOT NAME WHAT IT IS YOU WANT.IF YOU DONT MAKE CHOICES FOR YOUR LIFE, OTHERS WILL. OFTEN, CHOICES ARE MADE BYCIRCUMSTANCES, WEAK FOUNDATION. CHOOSING WHAT YOU WANT IN LIFE AND OUT OF LIFEIS A NEW SKILL FOR MANY PEOPLE. IT MAY TAKE SOME PRACTICE. AT SOME POINT YOUREALISE THAT YOU ARE ABLE TO AND MUST, MAKE CHOICES FOR YOUR LIFE.HERE ARE SOME TIPS THAT YOU CAN USE TO HELP YOU DISCOVER WHAT YOU DO WANT INTHIS BRIEF, BUT MAGNIFICENT EXPERIENCE CALLED LIFE.1. NAME WHAT YOU DONT WANT; YOU MAY REALISE YOUR WANTS THROUGH CONTRAST.2. TELL THE TRUTH ABOUT WHAT IS SO. DONT PUT A POSITIVE SPIN OR POWERFULINTERPRETATION ON YOUR LIFE TODAY IF YOU DONT REALLY BELIEVE IT. IF YOU THINK YOURLIFE IS LOUSY, SAY SO AND GET READY TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.3. IDENTIFY WHAT YOU DO VERY WELL AND WHAT YOU ARE LOUSY AT.4. IDENTIFY THE FIVE THINGS/PEOPLE THAT ARE MOST NEGATIVELY OR OVER-INFLUENCINGYOUR BEHAVIOUR TODAY.5. CONSCIOUSLY SCAN THE GLOBAL VILLAGE, ITS PARTICIPANTS AND ACTIVITIES. LIST YOURTOP FIVE APPEALING CAREERS/ACTIVITIES THAT SERVE HUMANITY OR YOU LIKE THE BEST.6. IDENTIFY THE TOP FIVE WAYS YOUD LIKE TO EXPERIENCE YOURSELF. DONT PUT ANYLIMITS ON THIS.7. TAKE THE TIME TO GET TO KNOW YOURSELF NEWLY. WEED OUT BELIEFS THAT NO LONGERSERVE YOU. ARTICULATE YOUR NEEDS AND VALUES. ADOPT AN ATTITUDE OF SELF-DISCOVERY.8. ALLOW STILLNESS. CREATE EMPTY SPOTS WITHIN A BUSY LIFE IN ORDER TO CREATE THESPACE THROUGH WHICH NEW IDEAS CAN EMERGE. THE UNIVERSE ABHORS A VOID; WHENYOU CREATE THE EMPTY SPACE, IT WILL BE FILLED VERY QUICKLY.9. CAPTURE THE IDEAS ABOUT VISION, PURPOSE, OR MISSION AS THEY COME. COMPILE THEMIN A FILE OR BOX FOR FUTURE REVIEW. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
  17. 17. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFUL10. FORMULATE YOUR IDEAS INTO A PERSONAL VISION OR SENSE OF PURPOSE THAT PULLSYOU FORWARD. HOW MUCH TIME THIS PROCESS WILL TAKE DEPENDS ON YOU. THE BESTPLACE TO START IS EXACTLY WHERE YOU ARE. YOU AND YOUR IDEAS ABOUT THIS, ARE EVEREVOLVING. YOUR MIND IS THE GREATEST TOOL THAT YOU CAN USE IN THIS ENDEAVOUR. YOUMUST USE IT IN A DELIBERATE AND FOCUSED WAY TO YIELD THE RESULTS YOU WANT. YOURTHOUGHT COMES FIRST, THEN, YOU TAKE ACTIONS CONSISTENT WITH YOUR THOUGHT. LIFEIS MUCH MORE GRATIFYING WHEN WE DELIBERATELY ENGAGE IT THROUGH OUR CHOICESRATHER THAN LIVING THE EFFECTS OF SOMEONE ELSES CHOICES. IN OTHER WORDS, BEINGAT CAUSE OF LIFE, NOT AT THE EFFECT OF LIFE. BE THE ONE WHO CHOOSES THE LIFE GAMEYOU PLAY! WHAT OWNS YOU?SOME PEOPLE MOVE EASILY FROM A PALACE INTO A HUT. OTHERS FEEL DEPRIVED WHENTHEIR INCOME FALLS BELOW AED300,000 A YEAR OR WHEN THEIR CHECKING ACCOUNT FALLSBELOW FIVE FIGURES. IF YOU FEEL ANXIOUS AND NEEDY, YOU WILL HAVE TROUBLE MOVINGFORWARD.AT THE SAME TIME, EVERY MONTHLY OBLIGATION CAN BECOME A SOURCE OF STRESS. IDONT REMEMBER WHERE I READ THIS STORY: A SENIOR PHYSICIAN, ADDRESSING NEWMEDICAL STUDENTS WAS ASKED, "HOW CAN WE AVOID THE STRESSFUL LIFESTYLE THE EARLYHEART ATTACKS, ADDICTIONS AND STROKES?" THE OLDER DOCTOR ANSWERED SIMPLY,"DONT BUY A BIG HOUSE." WHAT HE MEANT WAS, "DONT STRETCH YOUR SPENDING TO THELIMIT." WHEN YOU LIVE BELOW YOUR MEANS, YOU CAN BUILD YOUR NEST EGG FOR FREEDOM.HERE ARE THREE PRINCIPLES TO KEEP IN MIND.1. WHEN YOU AGREE TO MAKE PAYMENTS, YOUR NEW POSSESSION BECOMES A MEMBER OFTHE FAMILY. YOU GAIN SATISFACTION BUT YOU ALSO LIMIT YOUR FUTURE OPTIONS. I KNOWPEOPLE WHO INSIST A DOG OR CAT IS TOO MUCH RESPONSIBILITY, WHILE THEY BLITHELYSIGN ON THE DOTTED LINE FOR JEEPS, PICK-UPS, BOATS AND CUSTOM FURNITURE.2. WHEN YOU ENJOY YOUR CAREER AND YOUR LIFE, YOU USUALLY SPEND LESS. MANY OF MYFRIENDS AND NEIGHBOURS HAVE EMBARKED ON SECOND CAREERS AS ARTISTS OR WRITERS.AND MANY OF US STOPPED OUR CABLE TELEVISION SERVICE BECAUSE WE ARE TOO BUSYLIVING OUR REAL LIVES TO WATCH SHADOWY FIGURES ON A SCREEN. SHOPPING IS NOLONGER A RECREATION. WHO HAS TIME OR MOTIVATION? WERE FULFILLED BY OUR WORKAND OUR LIFE.3. SPENDING "FOR THE FAMILY?" EVERY CAREER COUNSELLOR MEETS MIDLIFEPROFESSIONALS WHO SAY, "I HAD TO CHOOSE THIS PATH TO PLEASE MY PARENTS. AFTERALL, THEY SACRIFICED FOR MY FUTURE. NOW I WANT TO DO SOMETHING FOR ME!"YOUR CHILDREN NEED SELF-RELIANCE, CONFIDENCE, FLEXIBILITY AND A SENSE OF HUMOUR.I AM NOT AN EXPERT ON CHILD REARING. HOWEVER, I BELIEVE YOU CAN HELP MOST BYSETTING AN EXAMPLE OF LIVING A HAPPY, FULFILLED LIFE AND RESPECTING DREAMS THATMIGHT BE DIFFERENT FROM YOUR OWN.BOTTOM LINE: CAREER FREEDOM COMES WHEN YOU MOVE FROM, "CAN I AFFORD THISPURCHASE?" TO "IS THIS PURCHASE WORTH WHAT IT REALLY COSTS FUTURE OPTIONS,CHOICES, STAYING IN A JOB I NO LONGER WANT?" SOMETIMES THE ANSWER IS YES. OTHER THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
  18. 18. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULTIMES, YOU CAN TRUTHFULLY SAY "NO" AND YOU FIND YOURSELF MOVING TO YOUR DREAMS,FASTER AND MORE EASILY THAN YOU BELIEVED POSSIBLE. HOW TO DO EVERYTHING"I GUESS I AM GOING TO HAVE TO GET USED TO THE IDEA THAT I CANT DO EVERYTHING IWANT TO DO," MY CLIENT SAID. AT FIRST, I DIDNT SAY ANYTHING ABOUT THIS AND WECONTINUED TALKING. HIS STATEMENT STUCK IN MY MIND, SO MUCH SO THAT, A FEWSECONDS LATER, I STOPPED HIM IN MID-SENTENCE. "WAIT A MINUTE," I SAID, "WHY,EXACTLY, CANT YOU DO EVERYTHING?"THE QUESTION STARTLED US BOTH, REALLY, BUT AS WE DISCUSSED IT, WE DISCOVEREDTHAT IT IS POSSIBLE TO DO "EVERYTHING" YOU WANT TO DO, IF YOU KEEP THE FOLLOWINGPOINTS IN MIND...1. YOU CAN DO EVERYTHING, BUT NOT ALL AT ONCE. THE BIGGEST OBSTACLE I FIND KEEPINGINDIVIDUALS FROM ACCOMPLISHING ALL THAT THEY WANT TO DO, IS THAT THEY TRY TO DOTOO MUCH ALL AT ONCE. THEIR WISH LIST OF GOALS AND ACTIVITIES GETS LONGER ANDLONGER, AND EACH ITEM IS GIVEN THE SAME PRIORITY: ASAP! DESPITE WHAT WEVE BEENLED TO BELIEVE IN OUR MODERN AGE OF MULTI-TASKING COMPUTERS AND MEGA-TIME-SAVING DEVICES, GIZMOS AND GADGETS, MOST PEOPLE CAN ONLY DO ONE THING AT A TIME.2. YOU CAN DO EVERYTHING, IF ITS IMPORTANT ENOUGH TO YOU TO DO. WHEN REVIEWINGPEOPLES LISTS OF "EVERYTHING" THEY WANT TO DO, I FIND THAT MANY OF US HAVE ITEMSAND ACTIVITIES THAT ENDED UP ON OUR LISTS BY DEFAULT. WE ADDED THEM BECAUSESOMEBODY ELSE SAID WE SHOULD DO THEM OR BECAUSE WE THOUGHT, AT THE TIME,THEYD BE IMPORTANT... ONLY NOW THEYRE NOT. IF ITS TRULY IMPORTANT TO YOU, YOULLFIND THE TIME AND WAY TO DO IT. IF ITS NOT IMPORTANT, YOU WILL KEEP AVOIDING,POSTPONING AND PROCRASTINATING ABOUT IT. IF THATS THE CASE, SCRATCH IT OFF YOURLIST AND MOVE ON.3. YOU CAN DO EVERYTHING, BUT YOU MAY NOT BE THE BEST AT EVERYTHING. IF YOUR GOALIS TO BE THE BEST IN EVERY FIELD OF ENDEAVOUR YOU ARE TRYING TO PURSUE THENCHANCES ARE YOU ARE SETTING YOURSELF UP FOR DISAPPOINTMENT. THIS IS ESPECIALLYTRUE IF YOU HAVE MANY DIVERSE AREAS OF INTEREST. FOR EXAMPLE, YOU MAY HAVE GOALSIN THE AREAS OF ENTREPRENEURSHIP, WRITING, POLITICS OR WHATEVER. WHILE ITSPOSSIBLE YOU MIGHT CREATE A VERY SUCCESSFUL RETAIL BUSINESS WHILE WRITING ABEST-SELLING NOVEL OR GETTING ELECTED AS A MEMBER OF PARLIAMENT WHICH IS NOTVERY PROBABLE. STRIVE, WORK SMART, AND APPLY YOURSELF AT EVERY ACTIVITY, BUT KEEPIN MIND THAT BEING THE BEST REQUIRES A GREAT DEAL OF TIME, FOCUS AND ENERGY THATYOU MAY NOT BE ABLE TO COMMIT IF YOU ARE GOING IN 100 DIFFERENT DIRECTIONS.4. YOU CAN DO EVERYTHING, BUT THERE WILL BE LIMITATIONS. EVERY ACTIVITY, EVERYGOAL, BRINGS ITS OWN SET OF LIMITING FACTORS THAT WILL EFFECT YOUR PARTICIPATION.THINGS LIKE TIME, HEALTH, MONEY, AGE, SEX, WEATHER, POLICIES, ETC. SOME OF THESEARE CHANGEABLE, SOME ARE NOT.5. YOU CAN DO EVERYTHING, BUT YOU WILL NEED HELP. OH, YOU CAN TRY TO DO IT ALL ONYOUR OWN, BUT THE MORE YOU ATTEMPT TO DO, THE MORE HELP YOU WILL NEED TO GET ITALL DONE. SUCCESS IS RARELY A SOLO ADVENTURE. SURROUND YOURSELF WITHSUCCESSFUL, ENCOURAGING AND UPLIFTING PEOPLE WHO WILL INSPIRE AND SUPPORT YOU THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
  19. 19. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULAS YOU PURSUE YOUR DREAMS. AFTER ALL, ONCE YOU MAKE YOUR DREAMS COME YOU, YOUWILL WANT TO SHARE THEM WITH SOMEONE. SPEAK UP!EVER BEEN IN A MEETING WITH SOMETHING IMPORTANT TO SAY AND REMAINED SILENT? YOUMAY HAVE FELT THE FLUSH OF THE GOOD IDEA AND THE RISING ADRENALINE. YOU MAY HAVEMOVED TO THE FRONT OF YOUR SEAT AND READIED YOUR BODY TO SPEAK...AND THENDIDNT. WHAT STOPPED YOU?CERTAINLY THERE IS WISDOM IN KNOWING WHEN TO SPEAK AND WHEN NOT TO. KNOWINGTHE POLITICS OF A SITUATION OR THE TIME CONSTRAINTS, YOU MAY CHOOSE NOT TO SPEAK.OFTEN, THOUGH, YOU MAY HAVE A UNIQUE VIEW, PERSPECTIVE, ISSUE OR CONCERN THATNEEDS TO BE RAISED. THAT CONTRIBUTION WOULD ADD A NEW DIMENSION TO THEDISCUSSION OR CHANGE THE DECISION ABOUT TO BE MADE.YOU MAY FEEL STRONGLY ABOUT A NEW POLICY AND YOUR SILENCE ALLOWS FOLKS TO THINKYOU AGREE. IS THAT THE MESSAGE YOU WISH TO SEND?RECENTLY I WAS INVOLVED IN THE CREATION OF A NEW MANAGEMENT TEAM FOR ADEPARTMENT. THIS BROUGHT TOGETHER FOUR PEOPLE WHO PREVIOUSLY HAD FELT THATTHEY WERE IN A PECKING ORDER AND CHANGED THEM INTO A COHESIVE DECISION-MAKINGTEAM. TWO OF THE FOUR HAVE STRONG OPINIONS AND ARE VERY COMFORTABLEEXPRESSING THEM. TWO ARE VERY QUIET. IN FORMING THE TEAM, WE DISCUSSED THISDYNAMIC. HOW ARE WE EACH GOING TO BEST CONTRIBUTE TO THE TEAM? WE TALKED ABOUTTHE POSSIBILITY THAT THE TALKATIVE TWO COULD OVERPOWER THE SILENT TWO. IN FACT,THEY MIGHT EVEN DO THE TALKING FOR THEM! FOCUSING ON THE FACT THAT EACH PERSONWAS HIRED BECAUSE HE OR SHE IS AN EXPERT IN A DISTINCT FIELD, IT WAS SOON DECIDEDTHAT EACH PERSONS OPINION WAS VITAL TO GOOD DECISION-MAKING.THE TWO WHO ARE QUIET ARE VERY COMPETENT AS ARE THE OTHERS. INCREASING THEIRLEVEL OF COMFORT WITH ADDING THEIR VOICES TO THE GROUP WAS IMPORTANT. TWOTHINGS WERE AGREED UPON: EVERY PERSON WOULD SPEAK ON EVERY ISSUE AND EACHPERSON WOULD TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR DOING SO. ONE OF THE NATURAL TALKERSOFFERED TO ASK THE QUIET TWO FOR THEIR OPINIONS. THIS SEEMS LIKE A GOOD IDEA ONTHE SURFACE, HOWEVER, AS A RULE, IT IS A POOR IDEA.WHY IS IT A POOR IDEA? SIMPLE. IF ONE PERSON TAKES RESPONSIBILITY FOR THECONTRIBUTIONS OF OTHERS THERE ARE TWO NEW KINDS OF CONTROL BEING ENCOURAGED.THE TALKER HAS CONTROL OVER WHEN THE OTHERS ARE ASKED FOR THEIR OPINIONS. THESILENT COULD BE WAITING TO BE ASKED MAKING THEIR CONTRIBUTION THE TALKERSRESPONSIBILITY. NEITHER OF THESE OPTIONS ARE OPTIMAL.THE IMPORTANT PIECE IS THAT EACH PERSON UNDERSTANDS THAT HE OR SHE WAS HIRED TOCONTRIBUTE HIS OR HER EXPERTISE AND EXPERIENCE TO THE TEAM. IT IS THERESPONSIBILITY OF THE INDIVIDUAL TO CONTRIBUTE. FOR THE TALKERS THAT IS EASY. INFACT, IT IS ENJOYABLE. FOR THE QUIET FOLKS, TWO THINGS SEEMED TO BE TRUE. ONE OFTHEM ONLY FELT IT NECESSARY TO CONTRIBUTE IF SHE DISAGREED WITH THE DIRECTION OFTHE CONVERSATION. THE OTHER IS VERY SHY. WHAT TO DO? THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
  20. 20. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULWITH SOME INDIVIDUAL COACHING FOR EACH TEAM MEMBER, EACH BEGAN TO MONITORINVOLVEMENT IN THE MEETINGS. FOR THOSE FOR WHOM IT WAS DIFFICULT, THEYUNDERTOOK TO AT LEAST SAY WHEN THEY AGREED OR DISAGREED. FOR THOSE FOR WHOM ITWAS EASY, THEY UNDERTOOK TO LEAVE SOME AIRTIME FREE. OFTEN, IT IS A CHALLENGE TOFIND A QUIET MOMENT TO SUMMON UP THE GUMPTION TO SPEAK!WHEN YOU HAVE SOMETHING YOU FEEL IS IMPORTANT TO CONTRIBUTE TO A MEETING,FORMULATE YOUR THOUGHTS, TAKE A DEEP BREATH AND JUMP IN. NOTHING LIFE-THREATENING WILL HAPPEN. ITS A LITTLE LIKE LEARNING TO SWIM. THE FIRST FEW TIMESYOU MAY GET A MOUTHFUL OF WATER AND SPUTTER A LITTLE. YOU MAY FIND YOURSELFGASPING FOR AIR. YOU MAY FLAIL AROUND A LITTLE, BUT, WITH PRACTICE, THINGS EVENOUT AND YOU MAKE PROGRESS. YES, IT MAY FEEL AWKWARD. YES, YOU MAY DISCOUNT THEIMPORTANCE OF WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY BEFORE YOU SAY IT. BUT, JUMP IN. YOU ARE THERETO OFFER YOUR SKILLS AND LEARNING. IT IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY.A TIP OR TWO ABOUT HANDLING THOSE WHO ONLY VALUE THE SOUND OF THEIR OWNVOICES MAY BE IN ORDER. THEY HAVE TO TAKE A BREATH SOMETIME. BE READY TO STEP INAND TAKE THAT OPPORTUNITY.AGREE WITH THEMBEGINNING WITH I AGREE WITH _____________ PART OF YOUR OPINION..." AND GO ON TOOFFER YOUR THOUGHTS. BEING AGREED WITH, EVEN IN PART, WILL ENCOURAGE THEM TOLISTEN TO YOU.USE POSITIVE LANGUAGETELL PEOPLE WHAT YOU THINK WOULD BE BEST AND WHY RATHER THAN TELLING THEM WHATIS WRONG WITH THEIR IDEAS. AGAIN, YOU MAY CAPTURE THEIR ATTENTION.HAVE CONFIDENCE IN YOUR IDEASWORK WITHIN YOURSELF TO CLARIFY YOUR THOUGHTS PRIOR TO THE MEETING. YOU MAYEVEN MAKE SOME NOTES. BEING PREPARED WILL MAKE IT MORE LIKELY THAT YOU WILL HAVESOME ENERGY BEHIND YOUR POINTS OF VIEW AND THEREFORE, BE MORE LIKELY TO EXPRESSTHEM.BE BRIEF AND SPECIFICTHIS IS A GREAT TIP FOR EVERYONE AT THE MEETING. STAY ON THE TOPIC AND THE POINT.GIVE YOUR THOUGHTS AND REASONS IN SHORT SENTENCES, THEN STOP AND LET OTHERSRESPOND. THIS IS THE WAY BUSINESS GETS DONE! WHO WANTS INTERMINABLE MEETINGS?SPEAK UP! YOU HAVE THE RIGHT AND RESPONSIBILITY TO DO SO. POWER WORDS: TAKING CHARGE ONE WORD AT A TIMERESPECT THE POWER OF WORDS CHOOSE THEM WITH CARE.ONE OF THE MOST AMAZING AREAS OF SELF-CREATION COMES IN THE FORM OF WORDS. THETHINGS WE THINK AND SAY TO OURSELVES AND THE THINGS WE THINK AND SAY TO OTHERS,CARRY A CREATIVE SURGE OF POWER.THIS IS AN AREA OF CREATION THAT IS OFTEN UNDER EMPHASISED. IT IS TRULY INCREDIBLEHOW WE CAN BECOME SO UNAWARE OF THE WORDS THAT COME OUT OF OUR MOUTHS. WHENWE DON‟T MAKE THE EFFORT TO SCRUTINISE THEM CAREFULLY, THIS AREA OF OUR POWER THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
  21. 21. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULCAN EASILY SLIP OUR GRASP. OUR WORDS, OUR UTTERANCES ARE POWERFUL CREATIVEENERGY, PLAIN AND SIMPLE. THEY ARE THE ENERGY THAT CAN EITHER ALLOW OR DENY OURDREAMS.I HAVE RETAINED THE VIEWPOINT OF GIVING DIGNITY TO MYSELF BY GIVING DIGNITY TO MYWORDS. AFTER ALL, IT IS OUR WORDS THAT REPRESENT US. THEY COMMUNICATE TO OTHERSWHAT WE FEEL INSIDE AND IT IS PRECISELY THOSE FEELINGS THAT LIFE HONOURS.WOULD YOU GO AROUND RANDOMLY TOSSING NAILS EVERYWHERE YOU WENT? OF COURSEYOU WOULD NOT, BECAUSE TO DO SO WOULD MEAN TO CAUSE DAMAGE TO YOURSELF ANDOTHERS. CERTAINLY, THERE WOULD BE A RESULT TO YOUR ACTION. YOUR WORDS HAVE THESAME IMPACT. THEY EFFECT YOUR LIFE IN SUCH AN AMAZING WAY BECAUSE OF THEIRINHERENT CREATIVE/CAUSING POWER. SO JUST AS WITH THE NAILS, WE ARE WISE TO KEEPIN CHECK EVERY THING WE SAY AND SEND OUT INTO THE WORLD.BELIEVING THAT "THE SKY IS THE LIMIT" OR THAT THERE IS A "GLASS CEILING" ARE SOME OFTHE MORE OBVIOUS LIMIT MAKERS. BUT I HAVE FOUND THAT THE COMMON EVERYDAYWORDS WE USE CAN BE MUCH MORE INSIDIOUS. THIS IS, AGAIN, BECAUSE THEY CAN SOEASILY ESCAPE OUR ATTENTION.HERE IS A SAMPLING OF POWER WORDS THAT YOU MAY WANT TO KEEP AN OPEN EAR TO.NOTICE HOW THEY ARE USED AND HOW THEY EITHER ALLOW OR NEGATE CERTAIN REALITIESAND POSSIBILITIES FROM ENTERING YOUR LIFE:NOTICE WHERE THE POWER IS PLACED WHEN YOU SAY "I CAN‟T DO THAT TODAY" OR "I HAVETO GO SOON." IN ACTUALITY "I CAN‟T" MEANS THAT YOU ARE CHOOSING NOT TO DO THATPARTICULAR THING. YOU ACTUALLY, PHYSICALLY COULD DO THAT PARTICULAR THING, BUTYOU ARE OPTING NOT TO."I HAVE TO," IN REALITY MEANS, "I AM GOING TO," BY MY OWN CHOICE. "I HAVE TO GO TOTHE DENTIST TODAY" OR "I HAVE TO GO MY NEIGHBOUR‟S PARTY" FROM A POWER ANGLECOULD BE PHRASED AS "I AM GOING TO THE DENTIST TODAY (EVEN IF I AM AFRAID)" OR "IAM GOING TO MY NEIGHBOUR‟S PARTY (EVEN THOUGH I DON‟T LIKE HIM).""I CAN‟T GO SHOPPING TONIGHT" FROM A POWER ANGLE TRANSLATES TO "I AM CHOOSINGTO GO SOMEWHERE ELSE TONIGHT (AND NOT SHOPPING)".THERE IS AN IMMENSE UNIVERSE OF DIFFERENCE BETWEEN BELIEVING THAT YOU HAVE TODO SOMETHING AND KNOWING THAT YOU ARE ACTUALLY CHOOSING TO DO SOMETHING. INORDER TO BE A CREATOR IN YOUR LIFE, YOU NEED TO ALIGN YOUR OUTER EXPRESSION OFWORDS WITH YOUR INNER TRUTH. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
  22. 22. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULWHEN YOU BECOME AWARE OF YOUR WORDS AND STATEMENTS, YOU KNOW EXACTLY WHATMESSAGE OF CREATION YOU ARE SENDING OUT. IT DOES US WELL TO LISTEN TO OUR WORDSAND TO CATCH THE IMPLICATION BEHIND THEM. THE VERY FOUNDATION OF LIVING AS APOWERFUL AND CREATIVE BEING IS IN KNOWING OUR PLACE OF CHOICE AT ALL TIMES. BYUNDERSTANDING AND USING OUR POWER WORDS WITH CARE, WE TAKE A VERY EFFECTIVEROLE IN OUR LIFE. SUCCESS HABITSWHAT ONE THING COULD YOU DO TODAY TO IMPROVE YOUR BUSINESS AND PROFESSIONALSUCCESS? WHAT DIFFERENCE TO YOUR LIFE WOULD THIS MAKE IF IT BECAME A HABIT?FORMING HABITS WHICH BECOME INGRAINED WILL YIELD RESULTS. I HAVE HESITATED TOSAY THE RESULTS YOU REALLY WANT BECAUSE IT DEPENDS ON WHAT YOU ARE DOING.ARE YOUR HABITS KEEPING YOU STUCK OR ARE THEY MOVING YOU FORWARDS? IF ONE OFYOUR HABITS IS SPENDING TOO MUCH TIME PLANNING AND NOT ENOUGH TIME DOING, THENYOU ARE NOT LIKELY TO ACHIEVE YOUR DESIRED RESULTS.LETS TAKE THE EXAMPLE OF SOMEONE WHO NEEDS TO MAKE TELEPHONE CALLS TO FURTHERTHEIR BUSINESS. A HABIT TO BREAK MAY BE SPENDING TOO MUCH TIME THINKING ABOUTEACH CALL, PUTTING IT OFF, OR FINDING OTHER THINGS TO DO. THE NEW HABIT TOINTRODUCE MAY BE TO MAKE 3 TELEPHONE CALLS A DAY OR TO IDENTIFY THE ONE DAILYTELEPHONE CALL WHICH WILL HAVE THE BIGGEST IMPACT ON YOUR BUSINESS.I ENCOURAGE YOU TO IDENTIFY AND INTRODUCE ONE DAILY HABIT INTO YOUR BUSINESS ORPROFESSIONAL LIFE. KEEP IT SMALL TO START WITH AND AS YOUR FEELING OF SUCCESSINCREASES, YOU CAN ADD TO IT. YOUR SUCCESS LIES WITH THE ACTIONS YOU TAKE EACHDAY. WHY FAILURE IS GOOD FOR YOUHOW DO YOU VIEW FAILURE? DO YOU SEE IT AS SOMETHING NEGATIVE THAT YOU DONTWANT TO BE ASSOCIATED WITH OR DO YOU SEE IT AS SOMETHING POSITIVE? MOST PEOPLEIN THE WORLD DONT LIKE FAILURE.FEAR OF FAILURE IS THE MAIN REASON WHY MORE THAN 80% OF PEOPLE IN THE WORLD ARENOT PREPARED TO CHANGE THEIR CIRCUMSTANCES. WHY DO PEOPLE FEAR FAILURE SOMUCH? THE REASON FOR THIS IS BECAUSE PEOPLE DONT UNDERSTAND THE DYNAMICSINVOLVED IN SUCCESS AND FAILURE.EVERYTHING WE DO IN LIFE HAS EITHER A RIGHT WAY OF DOING IT AND A WRONG WAY OFDOING IT. WHEN WE DO IT THE RIGHT WAY WE MEET WITH SUCCESS. NEEDLESS TO SAY THATWHEN WE DO IT THE WRONG WAY WE ARE UNSUCCESSFUL. UNDERSTANDING THIS ISIMPORTANT BECAUSE IT PUTS FAILURE IN ITS PROPER PERSPECTIVE AND REMOVES THE FEARAROUND IT.WHEN SOMEONE WHO DOESNT UNDERSTAND THIS DYNAMIC MEETS WITH TEMPORARYFAILURE HE GIVES UP THINKING THAT HE IS NOT GOOD ENOUGH OR THAT HE WILL NEVERMAKE IT. BUT IS THIS REALLY WHAT IT IS? DOES THE FACT THAT YOU DIDNT MAKE IT THE THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
  23. 23. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULFIRST TIME MEAN THAT YOU ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH? DOES IT MEAN THAT YOU WILL NEVERMAKE IT? NOT AT ALL! ALL IT MEANS IS YOU HAVE NOT FOUND THE CORRECT METHOD YET!SO WHAT DO YOU DO NEXT?YOU GO BACK AND TRY AND FIND OUT WHERE YOU WENT WRONG.THEN YOU TRY AGAIN BUT THIS TIME EMPLOYING A DIFFERENT METHOD.WHEN THIS DOESNT WORK YOU GO BACK AND LOOK AT EVERYTHING YOU HAVE DONE SOFAR.TALK TO SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE WHO HAVE MADE IT IN THIS AREA.THINK OF WHAT YOU MIGHT HAVE LEFT OUT AND TRY AGAIN.WHATEVER YOU DO, DONT GIVE UP.WHY DO YOU NEED TO DO THIS?EVERY FAILURE, EVERY ADVERSITY AND EVERY HEARTACHE, CARRIES WITH IT THE SEED OFAN EQUIVALENT OR A GREATER BENEFIT.FAILURE CONTAINS THE SEED OF VICTORY AND OF SUCCESS. FAILURE TEACHES YOU WHATWORKS AND WHAT DONT. WHEN YOU STUDY THE REASONS FOR YOUR FAILURE AND LEARNFROM IT, YOU WILL FIND THE KEY TO YOUR SUCCESS.THE GREAT INVENTOR THOMAS EDISON KNEW THIS TRUTH BETTER THAN ANYONE ELSE. ITTOOK EDISON 8000 TRIALS BEFORE HE PERFECTED THE EDISON BATTERY? AFTERWARDS HEUTTERED THIS FAMOUS QUOTE: "AT LEAST WE KNOW 8000 THINGS THAT DONT WORK".YOU SHOULD ALSO BE LIKE THAT. EVERY SUCCESSFUL PERSON HAS HAD TO OVERCOMETEMPORARY DEFEAT AT ONE TIME OR ANOTHER. KNOW THIS! YOU HAVENT REALLY FAILEDUNTIL YOU ACCEPT DEFEAT.DO YOU ENVY THOSE WHO GOT SUCCESS EASILY? DONT! SUCCESS EARNED IN SPITE OFEARLIER FAILURE IS SO MUCH SWEETER THAN IF YOU WOULD GET IT OTHERWISE. THOSEWHO EARN SUCCESS IN THIS WAY KNOW THE ROAD TO SUCCESS. THEY ARE NOT AFRAID OFLOSING WHAT THEY HAVE BECAUSE THEY HAVE LEARNED HOW TO BECOME SUCCESSFUL.THOSE WHO EASILY GOT SUCCESS DONT KNOW THE ROAD. THEY GOT THERE SO QUICKLYTHAT THEY DIDNT BOTHER TO LOOK AROUND. LET ME USE THE FOLLOWING ANALOGY TOILLUSTRATE. TAKE TWO GUYS TRAVELLING TO THE SAME DESTINATION, WITH THISDIFFERENCE. THE ONE IS GOING BY AEROPLANE AND THE OTHER BY CAR, BUT THE ONEARRIVING BY CAR HAD A FEW BREAKDOWNS ALONG THE WAY.IF YOU TAKE THESE TWO GUYS BACK TO THEIR ORIGINAL POSITION AND ASK THEM TO FINDTHEIR WAY TO THEIR DESTINATION, WHO DO YOU THINK IS GOING TO REMEMBER THE ROADBETTER THE NEXT TIME? SURELY THE GUY WHO HAD A FEW BREAKDOWNS AND SPENT SOMETIME ON THE ROAD, BECAUSE HE HAD THE OPPORTUNITY TO LOOK AROUND.LET TEMPORARY DEFEAT NO LONGER BE AN OBSTACLE. YOU HAVE MANY HIDDEN TALENTS, SOSTART WORKING TOWARDS REALISING YOUR DREAMS. DONT BE PUT OFF BY THE FEAR OFFAILURE. FAILURE IS AN ALLY BECAUSE IT CONTAINS THE SEED OF SUCCESS. 3 WAYS TO GET POSITIVE THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
  24. 24. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULYOU LEAVE YOUR OLD, SECURE JOB FOR A FRESH OPPORTUNITY AT A HOT NEW COMPANY, BUTONE-MONTH LATER THAT HOT COMPANY IS OUT OF GAS, AND YOU ARE OUT OF A JOB.AN OPTIMIST WOULD SAY, "WELL, ITS UNFORTUNATE, BUT ITS JUST TEMPORARY. I HAVEOTHER POSSIBILITIES. I DID ALL I COULD." THIS PERSON BOUNCES BACK FROMDISAPPOINTMENT AND STAYS MOTIVATED.PESSIMISTS, HOWEVER, LOOK AT THE SAME SETBACK AND SAY, "THIS IS TERRIBLE. I WILLNEVER GET OVER IT. IT JUST RUINS EVERYTHING. I DONT HAVE WHAT IT TAKES FOR THISBUSINESS." THIS ATTITUDE WITHERS MOTIVATION AND LEADS TO DESPAIR AND SELF-BLAME.WHICH STYLE IS YOURS? IF YOU TAKE THE PESSIMISTIC APPROACH, YOU MAY BE MAKINGHARMFUL SELF-FULFILLING PROPHECIES, PREDICTING FAILURE AND ROBBING YOURSELF OFENERGY AND DRIVE.IF YOU ARE PLAGUED BY PESSIMISM, GIVE YOUR ATTITUDE AN OVERHAUL. IT JUST TAKESAWARENESS AND EFFORT. START BY LOOKING AT WHAT ARE CALLED THE THREE PS OFPESSIMISM - PERMANENT, PERVASIVE AND PERSONAL.IF YOU THINK THE SITUATION IS PERMANENT, YOU BELIEVE ITS UNCHANGEABLE AND THECONSEQUENCES WILL LAST FOREVER. IF YOU ALLOW THE PROBLEM TO BE PERVASIVE, ITWILL NEGATIVELY AFFECT EVERY AREA OF YOUR LIFE. IF YOU TAKE THE SITUATIONPERSONALLY, YOU FEEL ITS A REFLECTION OF YOUR FLAWS OR FAILURE.LEARN TO CHALLENGE THESE THREE PS.PERMANENT: ALWAYS LOOK TO SEE WHAT CAN BE CHANGED OR SALVAGED, THE OLD MAKINGLEMONADE FROM LEMONS APPROACH.PERVASIVE: FOCUS ON THE SPECIFIC SITUATION AND DONT GENERALISE. DONT LET ONESMALL, ISOLATED PROBLEM BECOME LIKE A WILDFIRE ROARING THROUGH YOUR LIFEAFFECTING EVERYTHING.PERSONAL: DONT PERSONALISE EVENTS WITH SELF-BLAME. ACCEPT LEGITIMATERESPONSIBILITY AND LEARN FROM MISTAKES BUT DONT BEAT YOURSELF UP FOR EVERYSETBACK.THE KEY TO CHANGING YOUR PESSIMISTIC OUTLOOK IS LEARNING THAT YOU CAN CHANGE IT.ACCEPTING THIS TRUTH IS THE FIRST STEP TO PERSONAL GROWTH. NEXT, FOCUS ON YOURSTRENGTHS AND THEN ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR POSITIVE EFFORTS. YOU WILL SOON STARTLIVING BETTER AND HAPPIER 7 STEPS TO A HEALTHIER, HAPPIER YOUHEALTH AND HAPPINESS ARE NOT THAT DIFFICULT TO HAVE IN ONES LIFE. IT JUST TAKESSOME ATTENTION AND SOME ACTION TO INSURE THAT YOU HAVE AS MUCH OF BOTH AS YOUDESIRE. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
  25. 25. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULFAR FROM BEING DIFFICULT, TIRING EXERCISES, GETTING HEALTHY CAN BE QUITE EASY. AFEW SIMPLE ACTS OR LIFESTYLE CHANGES CAN PUT YOU ON THE PATH TO FEELING HAPPIERAND HEALTHIER FASTER THAN YOU CAN IMAGINE...YOU DONT HAVE TO LIKE EXERCISE TO BE HEALTHY. YOU DONT EVEN REALLY HAVE TO DOEXERCISE TO BE HEALTHY AT LEAST NOT IN AS MUCH AS CREATING A STRICT, HARD-COREDIET AND EXERCISE ROUTINE. A FEW SIMPLE ACTS OR LIFESTYLE CHANGES CAN PUT YOU ONTHE PATH TO FEELING HAPPIER AND HEALTHIER FASTER THAN YOU CAN IMAGINE...EAT BREAKFAST EVERY DAY.YOUR MUM WAS RIGHT, ITS THE MOST IMPORTANT MEAL OF THE DAY. DONT SKIP IT.DRINK LOTS OF WATER.IN THESE DAYS OF COFFEE, TEA, SODAS, COLAS AND COOLERS ITS EASY TO THINK WE AREGETTING ALL THE WATER WE NEED, BUT NOTHING BEATS GOOD OLD PLAIN WATER. NINEGLASSES A DAY.GET A GOOD NIGHTS SLEEP AS ONE WHO DEALS WITH SLEEP PROBLEMS, I CAN TELL YOUFROM EXPERIENCE, POOR SLEEP PATTERNS CAN QUICKLY DISRUPT YOUR LIFE. RESEARCHSHOWS THAT 6 TO 8 HOURS OF RESTFUL SLEEP IS WHAT MOST OF US NEED TO BE HAPPY ANDPRODUCTIVE. IF YOU ARE HAVING PROBLEMS SLEEPING, CONTACT A DOCTOR IMMEDIATELY.EAT MORE FRUITTHE OLD "AN APPLE A DAY KEEPS THE DOCTOR AWAY" SAYING MAY NOT BE 100% TRUE, BUTTHE TRUTH IS THAT FRUIT PROVIDES YOUR BODY WITH NEED VITAMINS, MINERALS ANDNATURAL SUGARS.START WALKINGFOR SHORT, NEARBY TRIPS IN THE NEIGHBOURHOOD, LEAVE THE CAR AT HOME AND TAKE AWALK. DO THIS A FEW TIMES A WEEK AND THE RESULTS WILL AMAZE YOU.TURN OFF THE TELLYREAD A BOOK, GET OUTSIDE AND PLAY WITH THE PING PONG, HAVE A CONVERSATION WITHYOUR SPOUSE. LOOK FOR THINGS TO DO OTHER THAN WATCH THE TELLY, ESPECIALLYAROUND NEWS TIME.LAUGHEVERY DAY. A REAL, GOOD, HEARTY, BELLY LAUGH. LOOK FOR THE FUNNY THINGS THAT LIFEHAS TO OFFER. SHARE A JOKE WITH A FRIEND. SHARE A LOT OF JOKES. LAUGHTER IS GOODFOR THE HEART AND SOUL, FOR YOUR HEALTH AND SPIRIT. NONE OF THESE THINGSREQUIRES YOU TO SPEND A LOT OF MONEY. NONE OF THEM TAKE MUCH TIME OR ENERGY. BUTEACH ONE CAN, OVER TIME, DRAMATICALLY IMPROVE YOUR PHYSICAL AND MENTAL HEALTH.PICK ONE OR TWO TO FOCUS ON THIS WEEK AND BE HEALTHY! MIND OVER MATTERWHY SHOULD WE THINK UPON THINGS THAT ARE LOVELY? BECAUSE THINKING DETERMINESLIFE. IT IS A COMMON HABIT TO BLAME LIFE UPON THE ENVIRONMENT. ENVIRONMENTMODIFIES LIFE BUT DOES NOT GOVERN LIFE. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
  26. 26. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULIN LIFE A LOT OF THINGS CAN MATTER TO US. WHAT MATTERS TO YOU? FOR EXAMPLE, THETYPE OF CAR YOU DRIVE OR THE NAME BRAND OF THE CLOTHES YOU WEAR. HOW MUCH YOUWEIGH? YOUR AGE? WHAT OTHERS THINK OF YOU?HAVE YOU SAID TO SOMEONE, "IT DOESNT MATTER"? WHAT DID YOU MEAN? HAS ANYONEEVER ASKED YOU, "DOES IT MATTER?" WHAT DID THEY WANT TO KNOW? WHAT ARE WETALKING ABOUT? WHAT IS IT THAT MATTERS? WHAT DOES „MATTER‟ MEAN?SOMETHING MATTERS WHEN IT CONCERNS US. SOMETHING MATTERS WHEN IT IS IMPORTANT.IT MATTERS WHEN WE TAKE IT SERIOUSLY. IF WE DONT TAKE IT SERIOUSLY, IT DOESNTMATTER. WHAT DO YOU TAKE SERIOUSLY? WHAT MATTERS TO YOU? WHAT MATTERS TO YOUDEPENDS UPON WHAT YOU MIND.HAVE YOU EVER BEEN ASKED, "DO YOU MIND?" IT MIGHT BE, "DO YOU MIND IF I SMOKE?" ITMEANS, DO YOU CARE? IT MEANS DOES IT MATTER? MIND AND MATTER ARE CONNECTED.IF YOU MIND, THEN IT MATTERS.AS A CHILD YOU MAY HAVE HEARD THE REFRAIN, "STICKS AND STONES MAY BREAK MYBONES, BUT WORDS CAN NEVER HURT ME." THIS IS TRUE. WORDS ALONE CANNOT HURT YOU.WORDS ONLY HURT IF THEY MATTER. WORDS ONLY HURT IF YOU MIND. IT IS YOUR RESPONSETO THE WORDS THAT DETERMINES HOW YOU REACT.SUPPOSE THAT SOMEONE INSULTS YOU BY CALLING YOU "STUPID." DOES IT MATTER? WELL,IT DOES IF YOU MIND. IF YOU MIND, YOU COULD START THINKING, "WHO DO THEY THINKTHEY ARE? NOBODY CAN TREAT ME THIS WAY. THEY WONT GET AWAY WITH IT. I WILL SHOWTHEM." NOW YOU ARE CAUGHT IN A MOOD OF ANGER BECAUSE IT MATTERS. OR, YOU COULDTHINK, "I GUESS THEY ARE RIGHT. I JUST CANT DO ANYTHING. WHY DO I BOTHER TO TRY?"AGAIN, IT MATTERS BECAUSE YOU MIND AND YOU ALLOW YOURSELF TO SLIP INTO A STATE OFSADNESS AND SELF-CRITICISM.A THIRD POSSIBILITY IS THAT YOU DONT MIND BECAUSE YOU DONT TAKE IT SERIOUSLY.YOU MIGHT THINK, "WELL, THATS THEIR OPINION, BUT I KNOW IT IS NOT TRUE. ITS RUDE,BUT MAYBE THEY ARE HAVING A BAD DAY." YOU PAY IT NO MIND. IT DOESNT MATTER. YOUDONT GET ANGRY OR SAD. YOU DONT DWELL ON IT ALL DAY OR CREATE MISERY FORYOURSELF.HERE IS THE SECRET OF MIND OVER MATTER: IF YOU DONT MIND, THEN IT DOESNT MATTER.BE CAREFUL OF THE THINGS YOU MIND. BE CAREFUL OF WHAT MATTERS. INTENTIONALLYMAKE THESE CHOICES. DECIDE WHAT YOU WILL TAKE SERIOUSLY AND WHAT YOU WILLOVERLOOK.SOME THINGS MATTER AND THEY NEED TO MATTER. THEY ARE IMPORTANT. OTHER THINGSDONT MATTER. THEY ARE OF SMALL CONSEQUENCE. LEARN TO TELL THE DIFFERENCE. LEARNTO PRACTICE MIND OVER MATTER AND SEE IF LIFE GOES BETTER. HOW TO BE A GOOD GUESTFIRST THINGS FIRST. WHEN YOU GET AN INVITATION, R.S.V.P. THE HOST OR HOSTESS NEEDSTO KNOW HOW MANY TO PLAN FOR. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
  27. 27. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULARRIVE 10-15 MINUTES AFTER THE INVITATION TIME (BUT NO LATER). THIS GIVES YOURHOST AND/OR HOSTESS THOSE LAST FEW MINUTES TO PREPARE.WHEN YOU CALL TO R.S.V.P. CHECK AND SEE IF CHILDREN ARE INVITED, IF THEY HAVENTBEEN EXPLICIT. IF THEY ARENT, DONT BRING YOURS. NOR SHOULD YOU EXPECT YOUR HOSTAND HOSTESS TO SOLVE THE BABYSITTER DILEMMA FOR YOU.DONT ARRIVE EMPTY-HANDED. PARTICIPATE! ITS UP TO YOU TO MAKE IT A PARTY. BEING AGUEST IS NOT A PASSIVE THING. A GOOD PARTY OR GET-TOGETHER RELIES ON EVERYONEBEING PRESENT AND MAKING IT GOOD. TALK TO SOMEONE WHOS ALONE, MIX AND MINGLE,MAKE GOOD CONVERSATION, MAKE IT A POINT TO TALK WITH EVERYONE THERE AT SOMEPOINT, DO YOUR PART.DONT OVERSTAY YOUR WELCOME, NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU ARE ENJOYING YOURSELF.THEYVE BEEN COOKING AND CLEANING FOR DAYS. USE YOUR INTUITION. YOU MAY HAVEBEEN TOLD 2-5, OR JUST "COME AROUND 8", BUT YOUR HOST AND/OR HOSTESS WILL GIVEOFF NON-VERBAL SIGNALS WHEN ITS TIME FOR YOU TO GO HOME.PITCH IN AN UNOBTRUSIVE WAY. SAY GOOD-BYE. EVEN IF ITS A LARGE GATHERING, SEEKOUT THE HOST AND/OR HOSTESS AND TELL THEM GOOD BYE, AND THANK THEM!AND LASTLY, SEND A WRITTEN THANK-YOU NOTE AFTERWARDS. ITS JUST A NICE THING TODO. DONT FORGET TO DO THIS FOR FAMILY, THEY MIGHT BE THE MOST IMPORTANT OF ALL.THINK HOW MUCH YOUR MUM WOULD APPRECIATE IF YOU WROTE HER A NOTE AFTER THEGET-TOGETHER! SMILING, MOODS, & HEALTHHE WHO LAUGHS, LASTS.DO YOU WANT A GUARANTEED, EASY WAY TO IMPROVE YOUR MOOD AND YOUR HEALTH? TRYSMILING. HUMOUR IS GOOD FOR US NOT ONLY FOR OUR MOOD BUT FOR OUR HEALTH ASWELL.LAUGHTER RELIEVES STRESS AND IMPROVES OUR IMMUNE SYSTEM. LAUGHING HAS BEENDESCRIBED AS AN INTERNAL JOG; MASSAGING OUR INNER ORGANS AND GIVING THEM AWORKOUT. SMILING EXERCISES 14 FACIAL MUSCLES. WHEN WE LAUGH OUR BLOODPRESSURE GOES UP AND THEN COMES DOWN. WE ALSO STRETCH OUR LUNGS, RELAX OURCHESTS, AND BREATHE EASIER. LAUGHTER CAUSES OUR BODIES TO RELEASE NEUROCHEMICAL COMPOUNDS ASSOCIATED WITH AN IMPROVED MOOD. WHEN WE CAN LAUGH ATSOMETHING, WE CHANGE OUR PERSPECTIVE AND OUR ATTITUDE.IT IS HARD TO HAVE A GRUMPY OUTLOOK WHEN LAUGHING. AS WE LAUGH, WE MOMENTARILYDISTRACT OURSELVES FROM OUR PROBLEMS AND PERHAPS, EVEN FROM OUR PHYSICALDISCOMFORT. LIFE JUST SEEMS TO GET BETTER WHEN WE CAN LAUGH. HOW FREQUENTLY DOYOU LAUGH?HOW OFTEN DO YOU SMILE?RESEARCH HAS FOUND THAT FOUR-YEAR-OLD CHILDREN SMILE AND LAUGH ABOUT 400 TIMESA DAY WHILE FOR ADULTS SMILES AND LAUGHTER DECREASE TO ONLY 14 TIMES A DAY. FOUR-YEAR-OLDS ARE OFTEN JOYOUS AND ADULTS ARE NOT. WHAT HAPPENS BETWEEN CHILDHOOD THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
  28. 28. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULAND ADULTHOOD? WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE? MAYBE, AS WE BECOME SERIOUS, HARD-WORKING ADULTS, WE LOSE OUR SENSE OF HUMOUR ALONG WITH THE FREEDOM TO LAUGH.SUCH A LOSS IS UNFORTUNATE BECAUSE HUMOUR CAN BE HEALING.NOW YOU MAY SAY THAT YOU DONT HAVE MUCH TO LAUGH ABOUT AND THIS MAY BE TRUE.IT IS HARD TO FORCE YOURSELF TO LAUGH, ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU DONT FEEL LIKE IT. YOUCAN, HOWEVER, MAKE YOURSELF SMILE. FORCING YOURSELF TO SMILE MAY WORK ALMOSTAS WELL AS LAUGHING, AT LEAST, FOR CHANGING YOUR MOOD. PUTTING A BIG SMILE ONYOUR FACE SENDS A MESSAGE TO YOUR BRAIN THAT THINGS ARE OKAY. IF YOU ARE SMILING,YOUR BRAIN THINKS, "I MUST BE HAPPY!" YOU CAN FOOL YOURSELF INTO FEELING GOOD BYSMILING. AS YOUR MOOD IMPROVES, YOU OPEN YOURSELF TO NEW POSSIBILITIES. OTHERPEOPLE, NOTICING THE CHANGE, RESPOND DIFFERENTLY TO YOU AND SOON YOU MAY BELAUGHING AS WELL AS SMILING. LIFE IS GETTING BETTER BECAUSE YOU SMILED. BE SUREYOU SMILE TODAY. SMILE ON PURPOSE, EVEN IF YOU DONT FEEL LIKE IT. SEE IF YOU CANFOOL YOURSELF INTO A GOOD MOOD. AS THE SAYING GOES, "FAKE IT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT".INTENTIONALLY SMILE. LAUGH, IF YOU CAN. IT IMPROVES YOUR MOOD AND HEALTH. SOSTART SMILING AND SEE IF YOUR LIFE DOESNT BEGIN TO GO BETTER. THE POWER OF FOCUSWHAT ONE THING IS OFTEN MISSING FOR MANY PEOPLE WHO WANT TO BE SUCCESSFUL? THETYPICAL ENTREPRENEURIAL SPIRIT OF HAVING MANY IDEAS, PROJECTS AND THINGS TO DOARE OFTEN THERE IN ABUNDANCE. PERHAPS YOU SEE MANY OPPORTUNITIES ANDPOSSIBILITIES. HOWEVER, THE TENDENCY IS TO SPREAD YOURSELF TOO THIN AND TRY TODO EVERYTHING. THIS OFTEN RESULTS IN YOU NOT ACHIEVING WHAT YOU SAY YOU WANT.IT SEEMS THAT THE MORE IDEAS I HAVE, THE MORE IDEAS THIS GENERATES. RECENTLY THENUMBER OF IDEAS HAVE INCREASED DRAMATICALLY. THEY ARE THERE FIRST THING IN THEMORNING AND EVEN WAKING ME IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT. VISUALISING ANDJOURNALING IS BRINGING UP EVEN MORE. I FEEL INSPIRED, EXCITED AND HAVE A LOT OFENTHUSIASM FOR MANY OF THE IDEAS. HOWEVER, I REALISED THAT IF I WANTED TO TURNTHESE IDEAS AROUND, GET THEM COMPLETED AND BE MORE PRODUCTIVE, THERE WAS ONLYONE THING FOR IT. I NEEDED TO BE EVEN MORE FOCUSED THAN ID EVER BEEN. A CLEARINTENTIONAL FOCUS THAT MOVES US TOWARDS OUR DREAMS QUICKLY AND EFFECTIVELY.ALTHOUGH YOU MAY BE VERY BUSY, WHEN YOU HAVE TOO MANY THINGS ON THE GO ATONCE, THEY ARE OFTEN SCATTERED AND YOU END UP DABBLING IN THINGS. YOU THEN FINDYOU ARE NOT PRODUCING THE RESULTS YOU WANT. NOT ONLY THIS, BUT YOU MAY FEELOVERWHELMED, FRUSTRATED AND FED UP. THE FRICTION OF BEING PULLED IN MANYDIRECTIONS, FEELING STRESSED AND HEAVY, EATS UP YOUR TIME AND ENERGY, LEAVING YOULESS ABLE TO BE FOCUSED AND MOVE FORWARD.IF YOU ARE SOMEONE WHO HAS LOTS OF IDEAS, PROJECTS AND THINGS YOU WANT TO DO,ACKNOWLEDGE THIS FACT. ACCEPT THAT YOU DONT NEED TO ACT ON THEM ALL NOW AND BEWILLING TO LET SOME THINGS GO FOR THE TIME BEING. THERE WILL UNDOUBTEDLY BESOME FEAR ABOUT THIS, WHICH IS NATURAL. CHOOSE TO BE WITH THE FEAR, ACCEPT IT FORWHAT IT IS AND CHOOSE INSTEAD TO BE FOCUSED.WHEN YOU CHOOSE TO BE FOCUSED, YOU WILL EXPERIENCE A SENSE OF ACHIEVEMENT ANDINCREASED SUCCESS. FOCUS BUILDS MOMENTUM FOR FASTER RESULTS, LEAVING YOU MOREPRODUCTIVE AND EFFECTIVE. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
  29. 29. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULWHEN YOU ARE READY AND WILLING TO BE MORE FOCUSED, I SUGGEST YOU START BYEXAMINING ALL THE POSSIBILITIES. BRAINSTORM IT ALL OUT ON PAPER. GET IT OUT OFYOUR HEAD SO YOU CAN SEE IT ALL CLEARLY. WHEN YOU CAN SEE THE BIGGER PICTUREMORE CLEARLY, START EXPERIMENTING WITH BEING FOCUSED. PLAY WITH THE IDEA OFFOCUSING ON ONLY 3 THINGS. CHOOSE THE 3 IDEAS THAT EITHER FEEL MOST IMPORTANT TOYOU, OR WHERE YOUR PASSION LIES, OR WHAT WOULD BRING YOUR DREAM ALIVE OR MAKEYOUR HEART SING. WRITE DOWN YOUR 3 AREAS OF FOCUS, SPECIFICALLY. THE MORESPECIFIC YOU ARE, THE MORE FOCUSED YOU WILL BE.WHEN YOU HAVE CHOSEN 3 THINGS, SEE EXACTLY WHERE THEY FIT INTO YOUR VISION ORDREAM AND ASCERTAIN WHETHER THEY ARE THE MOST EFFECTIVE CHOICE TODAY. WITHEACH OF YOUR 3 IDEAS, DEFINE YOUR COMPELLING REASON FOR PURSUING THEM ANDIDENTIFY WHAT EACH WILL GIVE YOU. YOUR COMPELLING REASON WILL INSPIRE YOU TOCONTINUE AND BE COMMITTED. CHECK EACH DAY ON YOUR 3 AREAS OF FOCUS AND TAKEACTIONS, WHICH ARE ALIGNED WITH BEING FOCUSED.MAKING THE SHIFT TO BEING FOCUSED AND EXPERIMENTING WITH THE IDEA OF ONLYPURSUING 3 IDEAS AT ANY ONE TIME MAY BE QUITE A STEP OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE.YOU MAY START THIS EXPERIMENT ONLY TO FIND YOURSELF SLIPPING BACK. IF YOURE READYTO BE FOCUSED, WHOM DO YOU KNOW WHO WILL CHALLENGE YOU TO MAINTAIN YOURFOCUS? BEING CHALLENGED IN A HEALTHY WAY BY SOMEONE ELSE CAN ADD FUN TO THEPROCESS, KEEPING IT LIGHT-HEARTED AND HELPING YOU TO MAINTAIN YOUR COMMITMENT.WHAT I WANT FOR YOU IS TO BE FOCUSSED, ENABLING YOU TO ATTRACT AND ACHIEVE THESUCCESS YOU WANT. THE 7 BREAKTHROUGH WAYS TO CRUSH PROCRASTINATION1. SUCCESS IS NOT ACHIEVED ACCIDENTALLY. IT IS A SYSTEMATIC, DELIBERATE PROCESS OFDECIDING WHAT YOU WANT TO DO WITH YOUR LIFE, WHAT YOU WILL DO WHEN YOU GETTHERE AND WHAT THE STEPS ARE TO GET YOU WHERE YOU WANT TO BE. ONE OF THE MOSTIMPORTANT ASPECTS OF SUCCESS IS THE ABILITY TO VISUALISE YOUR PATH AND STAYFOCUSED ON YOUR GOAL UNTIL YOU REACH IT.2. THE MORE RAPIDLY YOU ENVISION YOUR DREAMS AND DEVELOP A PLAN TO TURN THEMINTO REALITY, THE FASTER YOU WILL ACCOMPLISH YOUR GOALS. MENTAL PICTURES ARE AMECHANISM TO LEAD YOU DOWN THE PATH OF TRUE INDEPENDENCE AND MOTIVATION.PROCRASTINATION IS A SELF-DEFEATING BEHAVIOUR THAT DEVELOPS IN PART DUE TO LOWSELF-ESTEEM AND FEAR OF FAILURE. YOUR IMAGINATION IS LIKE A PREVIEW OF YOURFUTURE. IF YOU DONT USE YOUR IMAGINATION YOUR LIFE WILL REMAIN MUNDANE ANDUNFULFILLING.3. OVERCOMING PROCRASTINATION IS THE FIRST STEP IN HELPING YOU CREATE THELIFESTYLE YOU DESIRE. YOU MUST CHANGE THE HABITS AND BEHAVIOURS THAT LED YOU TOPROCRASTINATE IN THE FIRST PLACE. CHANGE IS A SLOW PROCESS SO BE SURE TO REWARDYOURSELF ALONG THE WAY FOR SMALL ACHIEVEMENTS. INSTEAD OF FOCUSING ON THEDIFFICULTY OF A LARGE TASK, BREAK IT INTO SMALLER JOBS AND CREATE A TIMELINE FORFINISHING THEM.4. SEVERAL SMALL JOBS DONE OVER TIME ARE MUCH MORE MANAGEABLE THAT ONE LARGETASK WITH NO END IN SIGHT. YOU WILL BE ASTONISHED AT HOW MUCH YOU CAN GET DONE THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
  30. 30. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULIF YOU CONCENTRATE ON ONE THING AT A TIME INSTEAD OF CLUTTERING YOUR MIND WITHMULTIPLE TASKS. TRY TACKLING THE MORE UNDESIRABLE TASKS EARLY IN THE DAY SO THATBY AFTERNOON YOU CAN PURSUE MORE PLEASANT ACTIVITIES.5. RELIEVE YOURSELF OF THE PRESSURE CREATED BY CLUTTER IN YOUR OFFICE OR HOME.DEVELOP A FILING SYSTEM, RID YOURSELF OF UNNECESSARY PAPERS AND GIVE YOURSELF ANORGANISED PLACE TO WORK. WHEN YOU EXERCISE SELF-DISCIPLINE IN YOURSURROUNDINGS AS WELL AS YOUR BEHAVIOURS, YOU WILL MAKE MAJOR STRIDES INACCOMPLISHING YOUR GOALS IN A SHORTER PERIOD OF TIME. NO MATTER WHAT ISHAPPENING AROUND YOU, KEEP YOUR MIND FOCUSED ON THE REWARD YOU WILL RECEIVE BYREACHING YOUR GOALS.6. IF PEOPLE OR OUTSIDE FORCES DISTRACT YOU, USE THE POWER OF THE HUMAN MIND TOBLOCK OUT WHAT IMPEDES YOUR PROGRESS AND CONCENTRATE SOLELY ON THE TASK ATHAND. YOU WILL MAKE REMARKABLE PROGRESS BY REFUSING TO LET OTHERS ALTER THEPATH YOU HAVE CHOSEN. OVERCOMING PROCRASTINATION AND STAYING MOTIVATED IS THEWAY TO LIFETIME SUCCESS AND HAPPINESS. YOU WILL ACHIEVE YOUR GOALS RAPIDLY WHENYOU STAY FOCUSED ON YOUR DESTINATION AND THE REWARDS THAT WILL FOLLOW.7. REVIEW YOUR HABITS AND WAY OF THINKING TO DETERMINE WHAT YOU ARE VISUALISINGMOST OF THE TIME. IF YOUR VISIONS DO NOT LEAD YOU IN THE DIRECTION OFACCOMPLISHING YOUR GOALS, THEN YOU MUST CHANGE THEM. DISCIPLINE YOURSELF TOCONCENTRATE ON YOUR GOALS THE MAJORITY OF THE TIME AND IF YOU STRAY FROM THEPATH, GET PROMPTLY BACK ON. IMAGINE WHAT THE REWARDS WILL BE WHEN YOU FINALLYREACH YOUR DESTINATION AND KEEP THAT THOUGHT FOREMOST IN YOUR MIND.PROCRASTINATION IS OF NO USE TO YOU IN YOUR QUEST TO FULFIL YOUR DREAMS. LOSETHOSE OLD HABITS AND REPLACE THEM WITH HABITS THAT LEAD TO SELF-MOTIVATION ANDCONTROL OVER YOUR LIFE. TOP 10 WAYS TO START LIVING A MORE MEANINGFUL LIFETOO MANY OF US LIVE LIKE GOLDFISH, SWIMMING IN THE SAME ORBIT DAY IN AND DAY OUTFEELING UNINSPIRED, TIRED, BORED AND SOMETIMES WORSE. LIFE IS MUCH TOO PRECIOUSTO WASTE THAT WAY. EVERY PERSON HAS A UNIQUE PURPOSE IN LIFE. I IMPLORE YOU NOTTO WASTE YOUR DAYS BERATING YOURSELF FOR WHAT YOU DONT KNOW AND DONT DOWELL. INSTEAD, DISCOVER YOUR STRENGTHS, PASSIONS, PURPOSE AND BUILD YOUR LIFE ONTHOSE.HERE ARE 10 IDEAS ABOUT LIVING A MEANINGFUL LIFE, AS I UNDERSTAND THEM.EMBRACING EVEN A FEW OF THESE WILL HELP YOU BEGIN THE EXCITING JOURNEY OF SELF-DISCOVERY.1. WE ARE ALL HERE FOR A PURPOSE. YOUR BEING HERE MAKES A DIFFERENCE. YOURPURPOSE MAY BE OBSCURE TO YOU AND A CHALLENGE TO DISCOVER. START NOW. THERE AREMANY RESOURCES, BOOKS TO HELP YOU WITH THIS ENDEAVOUR.2. THE SECRET TO FULFILMENT IS SELF-KNOWLEDGE. START THE EXCITING JOURNEY OFDISCOVERY. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
  31. 31. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFUL3. THE SECOND PART OF THE SECRET TO FULFILMENT IS TO APPLY YOUR SELF-KNOWLEDGETO WHAT YOU DO AND HOW YOU LIVE. THE MORE YOU KNOW, THE MORE YOU CAN ACTIVELYPURSUE YOUR TRUE PURPOSE.4. DONT WASTE TIME LAMENTING WHAT YOU DONT DO WELL. CONCENTRATE ON YOURSTRENGTHS. THOSE REFLECT WHO YOU ARE. LEAVE THE OTHER THINGS TO PEOPLE WHO DOTHEM WELL.5. BUILD ON YOUR STRENGTHS. DO MORE OF THEM AND GIVE YOURSELF RECOGNITION FORDOING THE THINGS YOU DO WELL.6. PAY ATTENTION TO THE SMALL DETAILS THAT YOU ENJOY IN YOUR EVERYDAY LIFE. DOMORE OF THEM.7. PAY ATTENTION TO THE SMALL DETAILS YOU DONT ENJOY. FIND WAYS (SUCH ASDELEGATION) TO ELIMINATE AS MANY OF THEM AS POSSIBLE.8. KEEP A JOURNAL AND PUT PARTICULAR EMPHASIS ON THE THINGS ABOUT YOURSELF ANDEVENTS IN YOUR LIFE FOR WHICH YOU ARE GRATEFUL.9. MAKE AN EFFORT TO RELEASE THE NEGATIVE ASPECTS OF YOUR PAST. TRY NOT BEIMPRISONED BY YOUR PAST. DO NOT DEFINE YOURSELF BY YOUR PAST.10. JUMPSTART YOUR SELF-ESTEEM BY GIVING BACK TO THE COMMUNITY. VOLUNTEER IN AMEANINGFUL WAY THAT SUITS WHO YOU ARE AND YOUR INTERESTS. ENJOY THE JOURNEY.YOU WILL GET TO KNOW AND LIKE YOURSELF IN A WHOLE NEW WAY. WORK WITH A FRIEND,AND USE THE RESOURCES OUT THERE, TO HELP YOU WITH OBJECTIVITY.HAVE SOMEONE POINT OUT THE GOOD THINGS ABOUT YOU THAT YOU HAVE A TENDENCY TOOVERLOOK. AS SOON AS YOU STOP DOING WHAT YOU HATE AND START DOING WHAT YOULOVE, YOU MAY FIND YOUR LIFE MORE MEANINGFUL AND FULFILLING. THE 5 SECRETS TO STAYING MOTIVATED UNTIL YOU SUCCEEDFOR A LOT OF US OUR WORK SCHEDULES AT HOME AND AT OUR JOBS HAVE BEEN A MAJORSOURCE OF COMPLICATIONS IN OUR LIVES. OUR FINANCIAL WELL BEING DEPENDS ON OURPAYCHEQUE, AND OUR MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL WELL BEING DEPENDS IN PART ON HAVING AWELL-ORGANISED LIFE.BUT A FEW SIMPLE CHANGES IN YOUR LIFE CAN SHOW YOU HOW TO STAY MOTIVATED UNTILYOU SUCCEED. WITH SO MANY DEMANDS BEING PLACED UPON US, IT BECOMES CONFUSINGAS TO WHERE TO PLACE OUR PRIORITIES. SOMEWHERE ALONG THE WAY, IN THE MIDST OFALL THE UNCERTAINTIES OF OUR LIVES, WE TEND TO LOSE OUR SENSE OF MOTIVATION. ANDINSTEAD CHOOSE THE PATH OF LEAST RESISTANCE, PROCRASTINATION.HERE ARE A FEW SECRET TIPS TO GET YOUR LIFE ORGANISED SO YOU CAN BECOMEMOTIVATED UNTIL YOU SUCCEED...1. FOR MOST OF US, A JOB IS OUR MEANS OF FINANCIAL SUPPORT AND CONTRIBUTES TOOUR PHYSICAL, MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH AS WELL, SO QUITTING YOUR JOB IS NOTAN OPTION FOR MOST. THE TRICK IS TO BALANCE YOUR JOB WITH YOUR HOME LIFE. THIS THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
  32. 32. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULCAN BE A CHALLENGING TASK BUT YOU CAN BEGIN BY CUTTING YOUR WORKDAY TO EIGHT ORNINE HOURS A DAY TO ALLOW YOURSELF MORE TIME AT HOME. IF MAKING CHANGES IN THENUMBER OF HOURS YOU WORK IS NOT POSSIBLE FOR YOU, TRY SIMPLIFYING IN OTHERAREAS TO GIVE YOU MORE TIME, ENERGY AND MONEY; THAT IS, IF YOU LIVE SIMPLY, YOUWILL NOT NEED AS MUCH MONEY.2. EVEN TAKING THE SIMPLEST STEPS CAN REWARD YOU WITH MORE TIME AND LESS STRESS,SUCH AS CHANGING YOUR EXPECTATIONS OF OTHERS (ONE LESS THING TO WORRY ABOUT),DROPPING THE CALL WAITING FEATURE ON YOUR TELEPHONE AND HAVING SIMPLE HOLIDAYSWITHOUT MUCH FUSS OR SPENDING A LOT OF MONEY.3. GETTING RID OF THE EMOTIONAL GARBAGE IN YOUR LIFE SUCH AS ANGER, HATRED ANDFORGIVING THOSE WHO NEED YOUR FORGIVENESS OR MENDING BROKEN RELATIONSHIPSWILL HELP CLEAR THE WAY TO SHOW YOU HOW TO STAY MOTIVATED UNTIL YOU SUCCEED BYGIVING YOU BACK YOUR TIME AND ENERGY. DECIDE HOW YOU WANT YOUR LIFE TO BE. WHATDO YOU NEED MOST IN YOUR LIFE AT THIS MOMENT ENERGY, PEACE, QUIET, TRANQUILLITY,WISDOM, SPIRITUAL GROWTH? MAKE A PROMISE TO YOURSELF THAT YOU WILL ACHIEVEWHATEVER YOU WANT AND THEN SET ABOUT TO MAKE IT HAPPEN.4. CONCENTRATE ON WHATS MOST IMPORTANT AND PRIORITISE YOUR TASK LIST (THISSHOULD BE DONE BOTH AT YOUR JOB AND AT HOME). A GOOD METHOD IS TO PLACE EACHITEM ON YOUR "TO DO" LIST IN ITS PROPER PERSPECTIVE BY HAVING THREE LISTS: "MUST BEDONE," "SHOULD BE DONE," AND "NICE THINGS TO DO." ONCE YOU PLACE A VALUE ON EACHITEM YOU WILL QUICKLY SEE THAT SOME THINGS NEED NOT BE DONE AT ALL. IN FACT, THEONLY TIME PROCRASTINATION MAY PAY OFF MIGHT BE WHEN EVERYTHING ON THE "NICETHINGS TO DO" LIST CAN ALL BE MARKED OFF AS UNNECESSARY.5. DONT BE AFRAID TO ASK FOR HELP. THE SHEER VOLUME OF TASKS IN OUR DAILY LIVES ISENOUGH TO MAKE US WANT IT TO "JUST GO AWAY." AS A RESULT WE PROCRASTINATE, THUSLOSING OUR MOTIVATION. IT IS NOT A SIGN OF INCOMPETENCE OR INEFFICIENCY TO ADMITYOU NEED HELP. LET YOUR CO-WORKERS OR YOUR SUPERVISOR AT WORK KNOW YOU NEEDHELP. AT HOME, EVEN THE SMALLEST CHILD IN YOUR FAMILY CAN DO SIMPLE TASKS.SLOW DOWN, SIMPLIFY, SPEND LESS, ENJOY SIMPLE PLEASURES WITH YOUR FAMILY THATDONT COST A CENT, AND YOUR LIFE MAY BECOME MORE BEAUTIFUL, HAPPIER ANDFULFILLING. GETTING ORGANISED AND RIDDING YOURSELF OF THINGS THAT AREUNNECESSARY ARE THE FIRST STEPS OF LEARNING HOW TO STAY MOTIVATED UNTIL YOUSUCCEED. CAN YOU BE AN OPTIMISTIC REALIST?ONE QUESTION YOU MIGHT HAVE WHEN YOU READ THIS TITLE IS, "WHY I WANT TO BE ANOPTIMIST?" OR, EVEN, "HOW COULD I BE OPTIMISTIC WITH LIFE THE WAY IT IS?" OR "WHOCOULD BE AN OPTIMIST IN TODAYS WORLD? AND "TODAYS WORLD" MAY MEAN TO YOU THATOFFICE YOU WORK IN THATS SO HOPELESSLY UNDERSTAFFED AND DISORGANISED, OR YOURINEPT BOSS, OR TERRORISM, STARVATION AND VIOLENCE IN THE WORLD, YOUR PERSONALINADEQUACIES FOR FACING YOUR PERSONAL CHALLENGES, THE LACK OF HELP AROUND THEHOUSE, YOUR HYPER 2 YEAR OLD TWIN BOYS, SPENDING YOUR DAYS REELING AMONG THEEMOTIONAL STATES OF YOUR TEENAGERS, YOUR MIDLIFE-CRISIS SPOUSE, AND YOUR AGEINGMOTHER, OR ANY OF THE ABOVE. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
  33. 33. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULI WAS REMINDED OF THIS DILEMMA WHEN I WAS CORNERED THE OTHER DAY BY ACOLLEAGUE WHOSE WIFE WAS WATCHING THE PRINCE CHARLES THING ON THE TELLY, WHENTHERE WERE MORE IMPORTANT THINGS GOING ON IN THE WORLD. BY THE END OF HISTIRADE HE HAD LISTED TERRORISM, CANCER, THE NATIONAL BUDGET CRISIS AND THE LEGALSYSTEM AS THINGS MORE WORTHY OF OUR ATTENTION THAT WERE, AT THE SAME TIME. BYTHE END OF HIS TIRADE, HIS WIFES "PESSIMISTIC ATTITUDE" HAD BEEN ADDED TO THELIST, AS HAVING "RUINED" HIS DAY. AND, HAD I ALLOWED IT, I COULDVE ADDED TO THE LISTTHAT HIS RETELLING OF THE WAR STORY HAD "RUINED" MINE.LETS FACE IT: ITS EASIER TO BE CYNICAL. ITS ALSO MORE REALISTIC TO BE CYNICAL. IFYOU ARE THE KIND OF PERSON WHO HAS A NEED TO BE RIGHT, BETTING THAT THE WORKPROJECT WILL BE MESSED UP, THAT THE MARRIAGE WILL NEVER LAST AND THAT BUSH WILLMAKE ANOTHER DECISION THAT WILL FAIL TO MAKE THE WORLD PERFECT ARE SURER BETSTHAN THE OPPOSITE.AND SO, IF YOU ARE NEGATIVE AND PESSIMISTIC, YOU WILL MORE OFTEN BE RIGHT. BUTLOOK AT WHAT ELSE YOU WILL GET: YOU WILL ATTRACT TO YOURSELF PEOPLE WHO FEEL THESAME WAY AND WILL JOIN YOU IN A NEGATIVE DOWNWARD SPIRAL; YOU WILL BE QUICK TOBLAME ANYTHING BUT YOURSELF, LEAVING YOURSELF FEELING HOPELESS AND HELPLESS ASWELL AS ANGRY; YOU WILL WASTE A LOT OF TIME BELABOURING THE OBVIOUS; AND YOUWILL ALSO STRESS YOURSELF AND YOUR IMMUNE SYSTEM. NEGATIVE THINKING LEADS TONEGATIVE EMOTIONS, WHICH BRING ON PHYSIOLOGICAL REACTIONS WHICH CAN DAMAGEYOUR HEALTH IN THE SHORT-TERM AND IN THE LONG-TERM.BEING OPTIMISTIC DOESNT MEAN NOT BEING REALISTIC. IT MEANS MAKING CHOICES THATINFLUENCE OUTCOMES, BECAUSE THEY CAN ALSO BE SELF-FULFILLING. IF YOU ARE SUREYOUR SECRETARY IS GOING TO FAIL YOU AGAIN, SHE WILL. WE ARE ALL INFLUENCED BY THEENERGY AROUND US AND WHO CAN FUNCTION WHEN SOMEONE IS HOVERING AROUND THEMWHO THINKS SHE OR HE IS "AN IDIOT"? ALSO, IF YOU ARE DETERMINED SHE WILL FAIL YOU,YOU MUST MAKE THAT HAPPEN TO DEFEND YOUR EGO AND SO WHAT ELSE CAN YOU THINKWHEN ITS OVER? SHE FAILED YOU.REALISM WOULD SAY, IF YOU TRULY HIRED THE WRONG PERSON, DONT BE A VICTIM. TAKECARE OF THE PROBLEM. IF YOU HIRED A PERSON WHO, LIKE EVERYONE ELSE, HAS GOODDAYS AND BAD, WORKS IN AN IMPERFECT SYSTEM, HAS TO TRY AND READ YOUR MIND ANDACCOMMODATE TO YOUR ADMITTEDLY DIFFICULT DISPOSITION AT TIMES AND IS OVER-WORKED, DONT PLAY THE VICTIM. LOOK AT THE SYSTEM AND SEE WHAT YOU CAN DO TOMAKE THINGS WORK BETTER, ASSUMING (OPTIMISTICALLY) THAT THIS IS POSSIBLE, I.E.,THINGS WILL NEVER BE PERFECT, BUT THEY CAN GENERALLY BE IMPROVED UPON AND YOUARE THE ONE TO DO IT. YOU COULD START, IN THAT INSTANCE, WITH YOUR OWN ATTITUDEAND EXPECTATIONS.IN FACT, IF YOU WANT TO MAKE THE WORLD A BETTER PLACE, START WITH YOURSECRETARYS "WORLD." GET IT? PRAGMATICALLY SPEAKING, THAT IS, IF YOU WANT TOFUNCTION IN THE REAL WORLD, AN OPTIMISTIC VIEW WORKS BETTER. IT GIVES YOU THEENERGY TO MAKE THINGS HAPPEN, BECAUSE IT GIVES YOU POSITIVE EMOTIONAL ENERGY.FUNCTIONALLY SPEAKING, IT IS WISER TO BE OPTIMISTIC. OPTIMISM IS A TOOL, THEREFORE.IF YOU CAN STILL THAT VOICE IN YOUR HEAD THAT SAYS EVERYTHING STINKS, YOU CANBEGIN TO SEE WHAT YOU CAN DO ABOUT THINGS AS THEY ARE, SOME OF WHICH, YES,"STINK," BUT NOT ALL. IF YOU ARE PLAGUED BY THE SUFFERING OF TERRORISM ANDTSUNAMIS, FOR INSTANCE, SET ASIDE A TIME TO FIGURE OUT WHAT YOU CAN DO ABOUT THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
  34. 34. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULTHEM. YOU WILL QUICKLY REALISE THE DILEMMA OF WORLD LEADERS WHO ACTUALLY HAVETO DO THIS ON A GRAND SCALE; BUT YOU WILL ALSO FIND SMALL THINGS YOU CAN DO INYOUR OWN WORLD TO ADDRESS THESE ILLS. CALL YOUR LOCAL RED CRESCENT. THEY HAVEBEEN WAITING FOR YOUR CALL; BECAUSE, CONTRARY TO WHAT THE PESSIMIST THINKS, YOUSEE, THERE ARE MANY PEOPLE WHO CARE ABOUT THE SUFFERING IN THE WORLD AND AREDOING SOMETHING ABOUT IT RATHER THAN COMPLAINING.IN THE MEANTIME, KEEP YOUR OWN LIFE GOING IN A POSITIVE DIRECTION, WITH OPTIMISM.IF YOU ARE DETERMINED THAT YOU CANT BE HAPPY UNTIL ALL THE ILLS OF THE WORLD HAVEBEEN ADDRESSED, YOU WILL BE A LONG TIME WAITING. YOU WILL ALSO FAIL TO ADDRESSWHAT YOU CAN ADDRESS, BECAUSE OF LAMENTING OVER LARGER THINGS, WHICH BASICALLYARE BEYOND YOUR CONTROL. IF YOU WANT TO TURN AROUND YOUR ATTITUDE, TURN YOURFACE IN ANOTHER DIRECTION. TO FOCUS ON WHATS RIGHT ABOUT THINGS DOESNT MEANYOU DONT KNOW WHAT THINGS ARE WRONG, OR HOW WRONG THEY ARE. IT MEANS YOUARE MAKING A CHOICE ABOUT YOUR OWN PORTION OF THE WORLD, YOUR RESPONSIBILITYIN IT, AND YOUR OUTLOOK.DOES IT HELP "THE WORLD" IF YOU GO ON A TIRADE FIRST THING IN THE MORNING ANDDUMP ALL YOUR FRUSTRATION ON YOUR SPOUSE? OF COURSE NOT. REMEMBER YOU ANDYOUR SPOUSE ARE ALSO A PART OF "THE WORLD." FROM AN OBJECTIVE POSITION, THEYOUNG MAN MENTIONED ABOVE HAS A GOOD JOB, A NICE HOME, PLENTY OF FOOD,CLOTHING AND NECESSITIES, AND A LOVELY WIFE WHO WAS CHEERFUL, LOVELY ANDDRESSED TO GO TO HER JOB FOR THE DAY. THATS A SCENE HALF THE PEOPLE IN THIS WILLNEVER HAVE. OPTIMISM MEANS, NOT "SLAYING THE REAL FOR THE UNREAL." THE MOMENTTHIS YOUNG MAN HAD WAS REAL AND IT WAS GOOD. THEN HE GOT INTO HIS OWN HEAD ANDDRAGGED UP ALL THE REASONS HE COULD THINK OF TO BE UNHAPPY; REASONS WHICHEXIST AND ARE AVAILABLE TO ALL OF US, BUT SO IS THE CONTENTMENT OF THE IMMEDIATEREALITY. ITS ALMOST LIKE HE TAKES PRIDE IN BEING ABLE TO FIGURE OUT THERE ARE ILLSIN THE WORLD, AS IF HE WERE ONLY ONE WHO KNEW THIS AND WERE CONCERNED ABOUT IT.FOR AN EXAMPLE OF WHAT YOUR SELF-TALK DOES TO YOU, CONSIDER THIS SCENARIO. LETSSAY HASSAN IS FEELING LOW. HE THINKS HIS LIFE IS IMPOSSIBLE; IT CONTAINS THE USUALARRAY OF HARD WORK, TOO MUCH STRESS, ARGUMENTS WITH HIS WIFE AND KIDS AND AHOME PLUMBING SYSTEM THAT KEEPS BACKING UP. HOWEVER, HIS JOB, WIFE AND KIDS AREALL WITHIN "THE NORMAL RANGE." HE WALKS OUTSIDE AND HAS A CHAT WITH HISNEIGHBOUR. THE NEIGHBOUR HAS A 23-YEAR-OLD SON WHO LIVES WITH HIM AND HIS WIFE.THEY ARE RETIRED, LIVING ON A LIMITED INCOME AND SUFFERING HEALTH PROBLEMS. MOSTOF US WOULD SAY, A PRAYER FOR THE NEIGHBOUR, BUT A SENSE OF GRATITUDE FOR OUROWN SET OF PROBLEMS, WHICH IS MUCH SMALLER AND SOMEHOW SEEMS, NOW, MOREMANAGEABLE. HASSAN, THE PESSIMIST, HOWEVER, GOES BACK INSIDE FEELING LOWER THANEVER, HAVING DECIDED THAT IF THE WORLD IS THAT AWFUL, WHY TRY AT ALL.PESSIMISM HAS ITS ROOTS IN OUR BELIEFS, WHICH FEED INTO OUR EXPECTATIONS. IF APERFECT WORLD IS ONE OF YOUR BELIEFS, OR THE FEELING THAT YOU CANT BE HAPPY UNTILYOU LIVE IN A PERFECT WORLD, WHY NOT TAKE IT OUT AND HAVE ANOTHER LOOK. WRITEDOWN YOUR CORE BELIEFS AND THEN GO OVER THEM WITH OPTIMISM AND PESSIMISM INMIND.LEARN ABOUT OPTIMISM AND HAVE IT AVAILABLE. BE ABLE TO CHANGE YOUR SELF-TALK ANDATTITUDE. THIS FLEXIBILITY WILL DEVELOP YOUR EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE, AND IN THELONG RUN, THE HAPPINESS YOU SAVE MAY BE YOUR OWN. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH

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