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When you remember me, it means that you have carried something of who I am with you, that I have left some mark of who I am on who you are. It means that you can summon me back to your memory even ...

When you remember me, it means that you have carried something of who I am with you, that I have left some mark of who I am on who you are. It means that you can summon me back to your memory even though countless years and miles may stand between us. It means that if we meet again, you will know me. It means that even after I die, you can still see my face and remember my voice and speak to me in your heart, for as long as you remember me, I am never entirely lost. if you forget me, part of who I am will be gone from your memory.

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    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFUL READ 2REAPI WOULD STRONGLY RECOMMEND THAT IF YOU ONLY READONE PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT BOOK THIS YEAR, IT SHOULDBE MIND CONTROL SYSTEM. ‘THE BASIC HYPOTHESIS ISPROFOUND. THE APPLICATION OF PROVEN RESEARCH ISMASTERFUL. THE EXPLANATIONS AND SUPPORTING STORIESARE COMPELLING AND LUCID. THE TRANSLATION OF THERESEARCH AND STORIES INTO PRACTICAL IDEAS ANDSOUND ADVICE IS NOTHING SHORT OF BREATHTAKING.’ THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFUL RECLAIMING SELF: MAKING TIME FOR YOURSELFIT OFTEN SEEMS THAT OUR DAYS ARE ENGULFED IN A MYRIAD OF TASKS. TODAY WE HAVEMANY RESPONSIBILITIES AND MANY ROLES SPOUSE, PARENT, SIBLING, CHILD, FRIEND ANDCAREER WORKER. DO YOU FIND YOU LOSE YOURSELF IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS, IN YOURNURTURING ROLES, AND IN THE BUSYNESS OF LIFE? DOES IT SEEM LIKE YOUR LIFE HASBECOME A SERIES OF TASKS TO COMPLETE, RATHER THAN MOMENTS TO ENJOY? WE OFTENGET SO CAUGHT UP IN THE DOING THAT WE FORGET TO BE.USUALLY THE FIRST THING TO GO IN THIS WHIRLWIND OF ACTIVITY IS TIME FOR OURSELVES.LACK OF TIME FOR OURSELVES OFTEN LEADS TO FEELING FRUSTRATED, TIRED,OVERWHELMED AND OUT OF BALANCE. WITHOUT THIS TIME FOR SELF, WE LOSE SIGHT OFWHATS IMPORTANT TO US AND OF WHAT WE NEED TO BE OUR BEST.IF YOU ARE FEELING LIKE LIFE IS OUT OF CONTROL, THAT YOU ARE UNDERVALUED, THAT YOUARE TOO BUSY, OR IF YOU PUT THE NEEDS OF OTHERS CONSISTENTLY BEFORE YOUR OWN,THEN IT IS TIME TO CREATE SOME TIME AND SPACE FOR YOURSELF. TAKING TIME FORYOURSELF ALLOWS YOU TO RENEW, HEAL AND CREATE RESERVES OF ENERGY AND PEACE.HONOURING YOURSELF ENABLES YOU TO DISCOVER YOUR TRUTH, ACCESS YOUR CREATIVITYAND EXPERIENCE A SENSE OF PEACE, WHOLENESS, PURPOSE AND BALANCE.TAKING TIME FOR YOURSELF IS REALLY ABOUT SELF-CARE AND IS AN EXTREMELY IMPORTANTCOMPONENT TO CREATING THE LIFE YOU WANT. IT IS ABOUT HONOURING YOURSELF ANDCONNECTING WITH YOURSELF. TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF IS ONE OF THE FIRST STEPS ONTHE JOURNEY OF DISCOVERING YOUR TRUTH AND ACCESSING YOUR CREATIVITY. WHEN YOUTAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF IT ALLOWS YOU TO STOP DOING FOR AWHILE AND TO JUST BE. ITIS IN THE BEING WHERE YOUR POWER LIES. YOU AUTOMATICALLY RAISE YOUR STANDARDSAND CAPABILITIES AND CREATE POTENTIAL AND POSSIBILITY IN YOUR LIFE. WHEN YOUHONOUR AND NURTURE YOURSELF YOU CAN HEAR YOUR INNER VOICE MUCH MORE CLEARLY -YOU CAN HEAR YOUR OWN TRUTH AND THIS CONNECTION ENABLES YOU TO LIVEAUTHENTICALLY.IN ORDER TO MAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF CONSIDER THE FOLLOWING. WRITE THE ANSWERSDOWN ON A PIECE OF PAPER OR IN YOUR JOURNAL OR NOTEBOOK.QUESTIONSHOW COULD IT BE A GIFT TO OTHERS TO TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF?WHAT ACTIVITIES BRING YOU JOY OR NURTURE YOU?WHAT IS KEEPING YOU FROM DOING THE THINGS THAT ENERGISE AND INSPIRE YOU?HOW CAN YOU BRING MORE OF THESE SIMPLE TREATS INTO YOUR DAY?TAKE ACTIONCOMMIT TO DOING ONE ACTIVITY FROM THE LIST YOU CREATED EACH DAY FOR THE NEXTWEEK:EACH DAY TAKE 5 MINUTES FOR YOURSELF.FIND A QUIET PLACE WHERE YOU CAN SIT AND NOT BE DISTURBED.CLOSE YOUR EYES AND SIMPLY FOLLOW THE PATH OF YOUR BREATH. JUST FOCUS ON YOURBREATH.IF OTHER THOUGHTS COME IN, JUST LET THEM GO. IF YOU FIND THIS DIFFICULT AT FIRST,THEN FOCUS ON REPEATING THE AFFIRMATION "I AM HAPPY AND PEACEFUL". THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULQUIETING YOUR MIND AND BODY AND FOCUSING ON THE BREATH WILL HELP TO CHANGEYOUR EMOTIONAL STATE AND PROVIDE YOUR SOUL WITH A PEACEFUL RESPITE FROM THEBUSYNESS OF YOUR DAY.TIME FOR YOURSELF DOES NOT HAVE TO TAKE HALF A DAY OR COME AT SOMEONE ELSESEXPENSE. IN FACT, TAKING THE TIME TO REPLENISH AND NURTURE YOURSELF WILL GIVE YOUMORE ENERGY AND YOU WILL BE BETTER ABLE TO SUPPORT THOSE YOU LOVE. IT IS OFTENTHE SIMPLE THINGS THAT CAN MAKE THE BIGGEST DIFFERENCE. FOR EXAMPLE, SITTING INYOUR FAVOURITE CHAIR AND SIPPING A CUP OF TEA, GOING FOR A WALK, OR LISTENING TOYOUR FAVOURITE RECITATION. I ENCOURAGE YOU TO CARVE OUT 15 MINUTES FOR YOURSELFEACH DAY TO DO SOMETHING THAT NURTURES YOU AND BRINGS YOU JOY. TRY IT AS ANEXPERIMENT FOR ONE WEEK AND SEE WHAT CHANGES FOR YOU. RECLAIM YOUR SELF! WHENYOU DO, YOU WILL EXPERIENCE A SENSE OF PEACE, RENEWAL AND CONNECTION. 4 FORGOTTEN SECRETS TO SELF-CONFIDENCEMANY PEOPLE KNOW HOW TO BE CONFIDENT BECAUSE THEY CHOOSE TO BE CONFIDENT. YOUMAY KNOW SOME PEOPLE WHO APPEAR TO HAVE BEEN BORN CONFIDENT, BUT CONFIDENCE ISA STATE OF MIND NOT AN INHERENT TRAIT.PEOPLE TEND TO THINK THAT BEING CONFIDENT IS A DIRECT RESULT OF FEELING GOODABOUT YOURSELF WHEN, REALLY, IT IS MORE COMPLEX THAN THAT.YOU CAN HAVE A VERY HIGH OPINION OF YOURSELF BUT IF OTHERS DONT RECOGNISE ANDAPPRECIATE YOUR WORTH, CHANCES ARE, YOU WONT BE TOO CONFIDENT.JUST AS YOU WOULDNT BE TOO CONFIDENT IF EVERYONE AROUND YOU ADORED YOUR EVERYMOVE BUT YOU FELT TERRIBLE ABOUT YOURSELF.THE KEY TO BEING CONFIDENT IS TO MINGLE A POSITIVE SELF-IMAGE WITH A FEELING OFACCEPTANCE BY THOSE AROUND YOU.THE FOLLOWING SIMPLE STEPS SHOULD GET YOU WELL ON YOUR WAY TO A MORE CONFIDENTAIR.1. HAVE NO FEAR.STATISTICALLY, REJECTION IS INSIGNIFICANT. FOR EVERY ONE TIME YOU ARE REJECTED, YOUWILL BE ACCEPTED TEN TIMES, PROVIDING YOUR GOALS ARE REALISTIC. YOU MAY GET 10REJECTIONS BEFORE YOUR ACCEPTED THE DUE 100, BUT THAT JUST GIVES YOU SOMETHINGTO LOOK FORWARD TO, HOPE. HOPE BREEDS HAPPINESS AND HAPPINESS DISPELS FEAR.2. FAKE IT `TILL YOU MAKE IT.IF THEY WANT A DUCK, WALK LIKE ONE, TALK LIKE ONE, THEY WILL THINK YOU ARE ONE ANDSOON YOU WILL BE ONE. HAVE YOU EVER TOLD A LIE SO WELL THAT EVEN YOU BELIEVED ITWAS TRUE? SOME PEOPLE THAT YOU HAVE ENCOUNTERED, WHO SEEMED TO EXUDECONFIDENCE, MAY HAVE BEEN COMPLETE FRAUDS, BUT PROBABLY NOT FOR VERY LONG.INEVITABLY IF YOU PRETEND TO BE SOMETHING FOR LONG ENOUGH, YOU WILL BECOME IT.OTHERS TEND TO BE DRAWN TO THOSE WHO ARE CONFIDENT SO IN FAKING IT, YOU GIVETHEM A CHANCE TO SEE YOUR POSITIVE ATTRIBUTES AND GAIN THEIR ACCEPTANCE. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFUL3. DRESS THE PARTALWAYS LOOK YOUR BEST. SURE YOU CAN RUN TO THE MARKET IN YOUR CURLERS ANDBATHROBE, BUT DONT EXPECT TO FEEL LIKE YOU CAN TAKE ON THE WORLD BECAUSE IF EYECONTACT IS MADE YOU WILL FEEL NOTHING LESS THAN MORTIFIED. YOU WILL FEEL MUCHMORE CONFIDENT WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE YOU LOOK NICE. IF YOU HAVE TO GO ALL OUT TOFEEL ATTRACTIVE THEN DO IT, EACH AND EVERY TIME THERE IS POTENTIAL FOR YOU TO BEREJECTED BY ANYONE, IN ANY WAY, SHAPE, OR FORM. AT LEAST YOU WILL BE ABLE TO WALKAWAY WITH YOUR HEAD HELD HIGH.4. MIX THINGS UP.A SENSE OF ACCOMPLISHMENT WILL OBVIOUSLY MAKE YOU FEEL MORE CONFIDENT. SO QUITPUTTING OFF THOSE NEW VENTURES, WHATEVER THEY MAY BE. SOMETHING TO DO FOR FUN,TO ADD TO YOUR RESUME, TO MAKE YOU MORE INTERESTING, JUST DIVE INTO IT, REMEMBER,NO FEAR. SEEMS SIMPLE ENOUGH, RIGHT? SO GET OUT THERE AND SHOW THEM ALL WHATYOU ARE MADE OF AND EVOLVE INTO A NEWLY CONFIDENT YOU! YOU HAVE NOTHING TO LOSEAND NOWHERE TO GO BUT UP. NOW YOU KNOW HOW TO BE CONFIDENT AND I AM CONFIDENTIN THAT. WANT MORE SUCCESS? BE LAZY!HARD TO IMAGINE, BUT IVE DISCOVERED THAT I HAVE TO BE AMBITIOUS ABOUT BEING"LAZY.” AS A PROFESSIONAL, I WORK WITH HIGH ACHIEVING PROFESSIONALS ANDEXECUTIVES AND I AM NO SLOUCH MYSELF. IF YOU ARE LIKE ME, YOU WILL TAKE PRIDE INTHE NUMBER OF TASKS AND PROJECTS YOU CAN JUGGLE, AND THE SHEER NUMBER OFINITIATIVES YOU ARE INVOLVED IN ON A GIVEN DAY. YOU MAY FEEL, HOWEVER, THAT SOMEOF YOUR PERSONAL PRIORITIES NEED MORE TIME AND FOCUS THAN YOU PRESENTLY HAVE INYOUR PACKED SCHEDULE.MY FRIEND SAMIR, FOR EXAMPLE, HAD AN EXTREMELY PROFITABLE TEXTILE BUSINESS, BUTHE FELT LIKE A SLAVE TO IT. HE WANTED TO PURSUE REAL ESTATE INVESTMENT AND SPENDMORE TIME WITH HIS FAMILY AND FRIENDS, BUT HOW? FINDING A SOLUTION CAN BEESPECIALLY CHALLENGING BECAUSE SOMETIMES WHAT YOU NEED TO GIVE UP SEEMS TOHAVE EQUAL VALUE. SO DOES THIS MEAN, THAT INSTEAD OF PARING DOWN, YOU NEED TO BEEVEN MORE PRODUCTIVE? NOT NECESSARILY. VERY BUSY PEOPLE LIKE US OFTEN HAVE ATENDENCY TO PUSH OURSELVES HARD TOWARD OUR OBJECTIVES, TO GO AND GO UNTIL WEARE AT LEAST A BIT (IF NOT A LOT) FRAZZLED, EXHAUSTED, OR FRUSTRATED. AND SOMEOBJECTIVES REQUIRE ENORMOUS EFFORT AND TAKE FOREVER TO MATERIALISE. IN SUCHCASES, BECAUSE WE HAVE LEARNED IN THE PAST THAT HARD WORK CAN PAY OFF, WE CAN‟THELP WONDERING WHY SOME OF OUR EFFORTS SEEM SO INEFFECTIVE.IN FACT, RESEARCH SHOWS THAT TAKING A BREATHER HELPS IMPROVE ACHIEVEMENT IN ANYENDEAVOUR. IN MY BOOK, MIND CONTROL SYSTEM: HOW TO ACTIVATE THE NATURALTRIGGER AND MAXIMISE CREATIVITY, ATHLETIC PERFORMANCE, PRODUCTIVITY ANDPERSONAL WELLBEING. GOING FOR A WALK IN THE MORNING, OR EVEN TAKING A BATH CANHELP SOLVE THE SEEMINGLY UNSOLVABLE PROBLEM. IT TURNS OUT THAT TAKING TIME OUTIS A POWERFUL BIOLOGICAL TRIGGER THAT CAN CONVERT CONFLICT AND CONFUSION INTOCLARITY AND EXTRAORDINARY PERFORMANCE. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULHOW? WELL, YOU MAY HAVE NOTICED THAT WHEN YOU ARE CLEAR ABOUT YOUR OBJECTIVEAND YOUR STRATEGY, YOU GET THERE A LOT FASTER. HOWEVER, THAT LUCIDITY CANSOMETIMES BE ELUSIVE, ESPECIALLY WITH MORE IMPORTANT OBJECTIVES. WE CAN BESTDEVELOP THAT CRYSTAL CLARITY IF WE RELAX AND "DO NOTHING" FOR AT LEAST A FEWMINUTES A DAY AND IN MY EXPERIENCE, THEY ARE RIGHT. SURESH, A CONSULTANT FORNEXUS, WAS WORRIED THAT THE ORGANISATION WOULDN‟T EXTEND HIS CONTRACT, ORIMPLEMENT HIS NEW IDEAS FOR IMPROVEMENTS. HOWEVER, AFTER HE DEVOTED 10 MINUTESA DAY OVER TWO MONTHS MEDITATING AND JOURNALING ABOUT HIS OBJECTIVES, THEREGIONAL DIRECTOR CALLED WITH GOOD NEWS AND PRAISED HIS CLEAR AND THOUGHTFULPRESENTATIONS.HOW IRONIC: WHAT WE WOULD HAVE CALLED "LAZINESS" A COUPLE OF YEARS AGO ANDNOW A WISE BUSINESS AND PERSONAL INVESTMENT. WHETHER ITS BEING ABSORBED INWATCHING OR PLAYING A SPORTING EVENT, JUST SITTING QUIETLY FOR TEN MINUTES, LYINGIN BED FOR AN EXTRA 10 MINUTES IN THE MORNING, READING A BOOK FOR PLEASURE, ITTAKES A BIT OF COURAGE TO STEP BACK AND HAVE FAITH THAT DOING "NOTHING" WILL HELPYOU ACHIEVE YOUR OBJECTIVES. FOR MOST OF US, ITS A NEW PARADIGM. HOWEVER, ITWORKS...AND QUICKLY!HASSAN, A BUSINESS ANALYST, WAS OVERWHELMED WITH CHARTS AND PAPERWORK. HENEEDED ORGANISATION, A MORE LUCRATIVE BUSINESS AND A BETTER LIFESTYLE. HIS “LAZYBREAK” BECAME A DAILY HALF-HOUR GAME OF BASKETBALL. WITHIN FOUR MONTHS OFINCORPORATING THIS TIME OUT, HE GOT HIS OFFICE SYSTEMS LARGELY UNDER CONTROLAND HAD REWORKED HIS PRACTICE TO ALLOW HIM TO MOVE TO A MORE UPSCALECOMMUNITY.THERE SEEMS TO BE A POWERFUL CONTRADICTION AT WORK HERE. YET, PRACTISING THELAZINESS HABIT INCREASES YOUR FULL ENGAGEMENT AND GENERATES A MORE PRODUCTIVEAND OPTIMALLY FUNCTIONING STATE. YOU LEARN HOW TO BETTER ALLOT YOUR ENERGY,YOUR TIME AND YOUR RESOURCES. I TELL MY COLLEAGUES TO SCHEDULE A BREAK INTO THECALENDAR, JUST LIKE A BUSINESS APPOINTMENT.IF YOU ARE FEELING RESISTANT AND NERVOUS ABOUT GIVING LAZINESS A TRY, HERE ARE AFEW SUGGESTIONS:1. CONSIDER IT AN EXPERIMENT AND STICK TO IT UNTIL YOU GET RESULTS. YOU DIDN‟T GETTO BE A HIGH NET-WORTH INDIVIDUAL BY GIVING UP AND BEING LAZY IS NO EXCEPTION!TRY DIFFERENT TYPES OF TIME-OUTS AND DON‟T WORRY THAT YOU‟LL GET ADDICTED TOPUTTING YOUR FEET UP, THAT‟S NOT YOUR STYLE!2. FIVE OR TEN MINUTES ARE ALL YOU NEED TO START WITH AND MAYBE ALL YOU NEED ON AREGULAR BASIS. THIS PRACTICE IS DIFFERENT FOR EVERYONE, SO SEE WHAT WORKS BESTFOR YOU. SOME DAYS CALL FOR MORE LAZINESS THAN OTHERS. BE FLEXIBLE.3. DONT MAKE RELAXING BURDENSOME; YOU DON‟T HAVE TO DO IT EVERY DAY IN THEBEGINNING AND YOU WANT TO MAKE SURE YOU ARE HAVING FUN. IF IT HELPS, GET A TIME-OUT BUDDY AND HOLD EACH OTHER ACCOUNTABLE.4. HAVE A CHOICE OF ACTIVITIES AND PICK WHATEVER FEELS MOST APPEALING IN THEMOMENT. REMEMBER WHAT YOU LOVED DOING AS A KID, OR WHAT YOU HAVE ALWAYSWANTED TO DO. CHOICE IS KEY. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFUL5. PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR RESULTS, OTHERWISE YOU MIGHT BE INCLINED TO DISCOUNT ITSEFFECTIVENESS. FOR THOSE OF US WHO ARE WORKAHOLIC HIGH-ACHIEVERS, IT‟S A BIGSTEP TO ACCEPT THAT “DOING NOTHING” CAN BE EVEN MORE PRODUCTIVE THAN CONSTANTEFFORT. IT‟S COUNTERINTUITIVE, BUT BRILLIANTLY SO. 11 QUESTIONS TO KICKSTART YOUR DREAMWHAT‟S YOUR DREAM? WANT TO GIVE YOUR VISION A JUMPSTART? WRITE DOWN YOUROBJECTIVES AND USE THESE QUESTIONS TO SPEED UP DELIVERY OF YOUR DREAM.1. WHAT‟S YOUR HIGHEST PRIORITY THIS LIFETIME?WHAT‟S MOST IMPORTANT FOR YOU TO EXPERIENCE, EXPLORE OR EMBRACE THIS TIMEAROUND? UNTIL YOU ANSWER THIS QUESTION, YOUR LIFE GOALS WILL BE OFF PURPOSE.UNALIGNED WITH YOUR INNER PASSION, YOUR INTENTIONS WILL LACK THE POWER TOATTRACT THE PEOPLE AND SITUATIONS NECESSARY TO BECOME A REALITY. GET GLUED INTOYOUR TRUE JOY. WHAT ACTIVITIES TURNED YOU ON AS A CHILD? ? WHAT ARE YOUR HOBBIESNOW? WHEN YOUR GOALS ARE ALIGNED WITH YOUR SOUL PURPOSE, SYNCHRONICITY KICKSIN TO GUIDE YOU TO YOUR TARGET. WHEN YOU INTUIT AND OWN YOUR UNIQUE ESSENCEAND CALLING, ASSISTANCE WILL FLOW TO YOU FROM EVERY EARTHLY AND HEAVENLYSOURCE.2. IS THIS YOUR DREAM OR SOMEONE ELSE‟S?ARE YOUR GOALS YOUR OWN CHOICE, OR WHAT OTHERS THINK YOU SHOULD STRIVE FOR?DO YOU WANT TO LOOK BACK IN YOUR OLD AGE AND WISH YOU HAD FOLLOWED YOURPASSION? WILL YOU REGRET HAVING "PLAYED IT SAFE?" IS IT SELFISH TO GO AFTER YOUROWN DREAM? WHAT JOY CAN YOU GIVE TO OTHERS IF YOU HAVEN‟T GIVEN IT TO YOURSELFFIRST? YOU HAVE A DIVINE RIGHT TO LISTEN TO YOUR HEART. YOU HAVE A SOCIALOBLIGATION TO FOLLOW YOUR DREAM. ONLY THEN CAN YOU FULFIL YOUR DESTINY AND MAKETHE EARTHLY CONTRIBUTION YOU WERE BORN TO MAKE.3. DO YOU REALLY, REALLY WANT THIS DREAM?DO YOU BOUND OUT OF BED EVERY MORNING TO PURSUE YOUR VISION? OR IS IT ALUKEWARM DREAM YOU CHASE BECAUSE IT SOUNDS MEANINGFUL? ONLY THE REAL MCCOYWILL GENERATE ENOUGH ENERGY TO MANIFEST ITSELF IN THE WORLD.4. ARE YOU SETTLING FOR LESS THAN?ARE YOU RESIGNED TO ACCEPTING LESS THAN YOUR FULL SHARE OF LOVE, HEALTH ANDSUCCESS THIS LIFETIME? HAVE YOU COMPROMISED AND SACRIFICED YOUR DREAM TODEATH? ANYTHING SHORT OF LIVING YOUR TRUE PASSIONS WILL NEVER MAKE YOU HAPPY.DO YOU WANT TO ARRIVE AT THE GATES WITH THE REGRET OF NOT MARRYING THAT ONECAPTIVATING PERSON, STARTING THAT FUN BUSINESS, OR SEEING THAT EXOTIC PART OF THEWORLD YOU ALWAYS WANTED TO VISIT?5. IS YOUR DREAM ACTUALLY JUST A MEANS TO SOME OTHER DREAM?IS YOUR GOAL THE ULTIMATE END IN ITSELF, OR MERELY A LIMITED MEANS TO THAT END?ISN‟T IT REALLY THE NEW CAR ITSELF YOU WANT, RATHER THAN THE MONEY, THE MEANS TO THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULBUY THE NEW CAR? MORE TO THE CORE, ISN‟T IT REALLY A RENEWED SENSE OF SELF-WORTHYOU DESIRE, RATHER THAN THE NEW CAR OR HOUSE TO IMPRESS THE FAMILY ANDNEIGHBOURS? AND ISN‟T IT REALLY HAPPINESS YOU WANT, RATHER THAN THE PICTURE-PERFECT MATE, JOB OR BODY? FOCUS ON THE EXPERIENCE YOU WANT TO CREATE, NOT THEPHYSICAL FORM THAT MAY OR MAY NOT BRING YOU THAT EXPERIENCE.6. WHAT WILL YOU FEEL LIKE WHEN YOU REACH YOUR DREAM?PERSONAL PASSION FUELS A VISION. DIVE INTO THE THRILL AND EXHILARATION OF THEFEELING OF LIVING YOUR DREAM. EVERY MOMENT YOU CAN, DRINK IN THE JOY OF HAVINGYOUR GOAL. "WHERE YOUR CREATIVE ATTENTION FLOWS, SO FLOWS YOUR LIFE." IS YOURDAILY ATTENTION FEEDING YOUR DREAM? AS THE TV PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENTREMINDS US, "IT‟S MIDNIGHT. DO YOU KNOW WHERE YOUR CHILDREN ARE?" HEY, IN YOURLIFE, IT‟S HIGH NOON! DO YOU KNOW WHERE YOUR CREATIVE EXCITEMENT IS FLOWING? IT‟SHIGH TIME YOU MANIFESTED YOUR ASPIRATIONS. DYNAMIC, SATISFYING CREATIONS ARENURTURED WITH LOVE AND CARE AS A FLOWER IN A GARDEN.7. HOW WILL YOU BENEFIT FROM GETTING YOUR DREAM?GET SPECIFIC ABOUT THE BENEFITS YOU‟LL RECEIVE FROM ACHIEVING YOUR VISION. WRITEDOWN THESE PLUSES SO THEY WILL SINK IN AS MOTIVATORS. WHAT EXACTLY WOULDHAPPEN IF YOU MADE A LOT OF MONEY DOING SOMETHING YOU LOVE? HOW WOULD YOUAPPROACH YOUR LIFE DIFFERENTLY IF YOU ALLOWED PEOPLE TO LOVE AND SUPPORT YOU?WHAT WOULD YOU DO WITH MORE VITALITY AND HEALTH?8. WHAT STEPS CAN YOU TAKE TODAY TOWARD YOUR DREAM?DON‟T DEFER YOUR DREAM. SET UP SUPPORTS AND SYSTEMS AROUND YOU TO INSTANTLYTRANSLATE YOUR INTENTIONS INTO ACTION. JUMP ON EVERY OPPORTUNITY THAT IS IN LINEWITH YOUR PURPOSE AND VISION. KEEP THE MOMENTUM GOING. NO MATTER HOW HECTICLIFE GETS, PLEDGE TO TAKE AT LEAST ONE ACTION A DAY. EVEN THE SMALLEST ACTIONSJOTTING DOWN A NEW IDEA, READING A SINGLE PAGE, OR MAKING ONE PHONE CALL CANSTART TO ADD UP. ARE THERE SMALLER PROJECTS THAT LEAD TO YOUR LARGER DREAM THATCAN GIVE YOU PLEASURE IN THE MEANTIME? IF THE DREAM IS TO RUN A MARATHON, TRAINFOR A LOCAL FUN-RUN FIRST. AND FIND A WAY TO MEASURE YOUR PROGRESS. TRACK THOSELITTLE WINS BY WRITING IN A JOURNAL OR TELLING A FRIEND.9. ARE YOU TELLING YOURSELF: "I CAN‟T HAVE MY DREAM?"MOST PEOPLE DON‟T BELIEVE THEY CAN LIVE THEIR DREAM. EITHER THEIR BELIEF SYSTEMHAS THEM BELIEVING THEY CAN‟T MAKE A LIVING DOING WHAT THEY LOVE, OR THEY FEELTHEY DON‟T DESERVE THEIR DREAM. TO AVOID THE PAIN OF FEELING THEY CAN‟T HAVETHEIR DREAM, PEOPLE OFTEN KEEP THEIR DREAM SO BURIED THEY CAN‟T REMEMBER THEYEVER HAD A DREAM. EVERYONE HAS A DREAM! AND EVERYONE IS DESTINED TO FULFIL THATPURPOSE. WHY WAIT?10. ARE YOU AFRAID OF GETTING YOUR DREAM?STATISTICALLY, MORE HEART ATTACKS OCCUR WHEN "GOOD" THINGS HAPPEN, THAN WHEN"BAD" THINGS HAPPEN! GETTING YOUR DREAM IS LIFE THREATENING! OF COURSE, REALISINGYOUR DREAM IS ONLY THREATENING TO YOUR OLD EXPERIENCE OF YOURSELF AND YOUR LIFE THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULYOU KNOW THE ONE THAT‟S BORING OR PAINING YOU TO DEATH! CHANGE IS SCARY. FIND AWAY TO MOVE THE ENERGY OF FEAR. THE ONLY WAY TO AVOID FEELING FEAR IS TO AVOIDLIVING ALTOGETHER!11. DO YOU REALLY NEED TO ACCOMPLISH YOUR DREAM?DO YOU REALLY NEED TO ACHIEVE YOUR GOALS TO BE HAPPY? ENTER THE "HOOTLESS STATE"WHERE YOU NO LONGER GIVE A HOOT IF THE EXACT "PICTURE" OF YOUR DREAM COMESTRUE. WITHOUT THE INTERFERENCE OF THE EGO‟S PUSH, PRESSURE AND MICRO MANAGING,YOU HAVE A MUCH BETTER CHANCE OF BEING IN THE RIGHT VIBRATION SPACE TO ATTRACTREAL HAPPINESS. WHEN YOU RELAX YOUR GRIP ON THE EXACT WAY YOUR FUTURE "HAS" TOUNFOLD, YOU GIVE THE UNIVERSE MORE FLEXIBILITY IN HOW IT CAN FULFIL YOUR WISHES.AND, ON A HIGHER PLANE, WHAT IF OUR TRUE TASK HERE ON IS SIMPLY TO BE WHO WEALREADY ARE IN OUR ESSENTIAL NATURE WITH OR WITHOUT MANIFESTING OUR SPECIFICGOALS? WHAT IF THE ESSENCE OF WHO WE ARE IS ENOUGH? 20 WAYS TO TELL SOMEONE "NO"TELL ME IF THIS SOUNDS FAMILIAR...SOMEONE ASKS YOU TO DO SOMETHING THAT YOU REALLY DON‟T WANT TO DO OR YOUHONESTLY DON‟T HAVE TIME FOR. IT MIGHT BE A SCHOOL FUNDRAISER, PARTICIPATING ON ACOMMITTEE, OR EVEN JUST WORKING LATE. BUT YOU FEEL LIKE YOU WILL LET THE OTHERPERSON DOWN IF YOU SAY NO. YOU FEEL GUILTY ALREADY AND YOU HAVEN‟T EVENRESPONDED YET!SO YOU SAY, “SURE,” EVEN THOUGH DOING SO IS GOING TO PUT YOU UNDER TREMENDOUSSTRESS AND PRESSURE. YOU KNOW THAT YOU WILL PROBABLY END UP RESENTING THISACTIVITY AND MAYBE EVEN DUCKING SOME OF YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES BECAUSE YOURHEART‟S JUST NOT IN IT, BUT YOU GO AHEAD AND AGREE ANYWAY.WHY ARE WE SO AFRAID TO TELL PEOPLE "NO”?FOR SOME REASON, WE HAVE BEEN TAUGHT THAT "NO" IS DISRESPECTFUL AND EVENINSULTING. WE SEEM TO VALUE OTHER PEOPLES TIME MORE THAN OUR OWN FEELING THATWE NEED TO BEND OVER BACKWARD TO ACCOMMODATE OTHERS, EVEN IF ITINCONVENIENCES US. I KNOW WE ARE ATONING FOR THE "ME", BUT LETS BE REASONABLE!"NO" IS ACTUALLY ONE OF THE HEALTHIEST WORDS THAT CAN COME OUT OF YOUR MOUTH.WHEN YOU TELL SOMEONE "NO," YOU ARE REALLY SAYING THAT YOU UNDERSTAND ANDACCEPT YOUR OWN LIMITS AND DONT WANT TO DO A SHODDY JOB BY OVERWHELMINGYOURSELF. THAT YOU VALUE YOUR TIME AND PRIORITIES AND ARENT WILLING TO TAKE AWAYFROM THE TRULY IMPORTANT THINGS IN YOUR LIFE. A LITTLE SELFISHNESS IS NECESSARY, IFYOU WANT TO MAINTAIN A BALANCED AND SANE LIFE!SO HOW DO YOU SAY "NO" WITHOUT INSULTING THE OTHER PERSON, FEELING CONSUMEDWITH GUILT, OR HURTING YOUR OWN CREDIBILITY?WE NEED TO FIND A WAY TO SAY "NO" WITHOUT DRAGGING UP ALL OF THOSE HIDDENFEARS; THEYLL THINK I AM LAZY OR SELFISH, THAT I HAVE NO CAREER DRIVE, THAT I AMNOT AMBITIOUS, THAT I HAVE NO CONCERN FOR OTHER PEOPLE. AND ITS TIME TO GIVE UP THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULALL OF THOSE ROLES YOU ARE SO PROUD OF SUPERMAN, MARTYR AND HERO BUT AREKEEPING YOU FROM FINDING TRUE PEACE.ONCE YOUVE ACCEPTED THAT YOU HAVE THE RIGHT (AND OFTEN RESPONSIBILITY) TO TURNSOMEONE DOWN, YOU CAN DO IT IN A WAY THAT DOESNT SEEM LIKE A REJECTION. LET MESHOW YOU HOW:1. I CANT RIGHT NOW, BUT I CAN DO IT LATERIF YOU REALLY WANT TO HELP THE PERSON BUT DONT HAVE TIME NOW, TELL THEM SO.OFFER A LATER TIME OR DATE IF THEY CANT WAIT FOR YOU THEY WILL FIND SOMEONE ELSE.2. I AM REALLY NOT THE MOST QUALIFIED PERSON FOR THE JOBIF YOU DONT FEEL THAT YOU HAVE ADEQUATE SKILLS TO TAKE ON A TASK, THATS OKAY. ITSBETTER TO ADMIT YOUR LIMITATIONS UP FRONT THAN FEEL OVERWHELMED DOWN THE ROAD.3. I JUST DONT HAVE ANY ROOM IN MY CALENDAR RIGHT NOWBE HONEST IF YOUR SCHEDULE IS FILLED AND "FILLED" DOESNT HAVE TO MEAN REALLYFILLED! IT JUST MEANS YOU HAVE SCHEDULED AS MUCH AS YOU ARE WILLING AND YOU ARESTOPPING.4. I CANT, BUT LET ME GIVE YOU THE NAME OF SOMEONE WHO CANIF YOU ARENT AVAILABLE TO HELP OUT, OFFER ANOTHER QUALIFIED RESOURCE.PROFESSIONALS DO THIS ALL THE TIME WHEN THEY REFER A CLIENT TO A COLLEAGUE.5. I HAVE ANOTHER COMMITMENTAND IT DOESNT MATTER WHAT THAT COMMITMENT IS. IT COULD BE A MEETING OR ADENTIST APPOINTMENT OR A DAY IN THE PARK WITH YOUR KID. THE POINT IS, YOU ARENTAVAILABLE.6. IM IN THE MIDDLE OF SEVERAL PROJECTS AND CANT SPARE THE TIMELET PEOPLE KNOW WHEN YOU HAVE ALREADY ACCEPTED OTHER RESPONSIBILITIES, NO ONEIS GOING TO FAULT YOU FOR HAVING ALREADY FILLED YOUR PLATE.7. I HAVE HAD A FEW THINGS COME UP AND I NEED TO DEAL WITH THOSE FIRSTUNEXPECTED THINGS HAPPEN THAT THROW YOUR SCHEDULE OFF IT HAPPENS. SO ACCEPTTHAT YOU MAY NEED TO MAKE A FEW ADJUSTMENTS UNTIL YOUR LIFE STABILISES AGAIN.8. I WOULD RATHER DECLINE THAN END UP DOING A MEDIOCRE JOBKNOWING THAT YOU ARENT ABLE TO DELIVER A QUALITY PRODUCT FOR WHATEVER REASONIS REASON ENOUGH FOR TURNING A REQUEST DOWN.9. I AM REALLY FOCUSING MORE ON MY PERSONAL AND FAMILY LIFE RIGHT NOWPEOPLE ACT ASHAMED OF WANTING TO SPEND TIME WITH THEIR FAMILIES LIKE IT MEANSTHEY DONT HAVE GOALS. HAVING A STRONG FAMILY IS A GOAL IN AND OF ITSELF!10. I AM REALLY FOCUSING MORE ON MY CAREER RIGHT NOWTHE REVERSE IS TRUE ALSO; YOU MAY HAVE TO GIVE UP SOME CIVIC OR COMMUNITY DUTIESTO FOCUS YOUR ENERGIES ON A WORK-RELATED TASK (AND THATS FINE, TOO!)11. I REALLY DONT ENJOY THAT KIND OF WORK THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULWHO SAID YOU WERE SUPPOSED TO ENJOY YOUR CHORES AND ASSIGNMENTS! WELL, IF YOUDONT ENJOY THEM, WHY DO THEM? LIFE ISNT ABOUT DRUDGERY AND BOREDOM.12. I CANT, BUT I AM HAPPY TO HELP OUT WITH ANOTHER TASKIF SOMEONE ASKS YOU TO DO SOMETHING YOU REALLY DESPISE, REFUSE BUT THEN OFFERTO HELP WITH SOMETHING YOU FIND MORE ENJOYABLE OR STIMULATING.13. I HAVE LEARNED IN THE PAST THAT THIS REALLY ISNT MY STRONG SUITANOTHER WAY OF ADMITTING YOUR LIMITATIONS. DID YOU KNOW THAT ACTUALLY MAKESYOU STRONGER? KNOWING WHAT YOU CAN HANDLE AND WHAT YOU CANT IS A TREMENDOUSTALENT!14. I AM SURE YOU WILL DO A WONDERFUL JOB ON YOUR OWNMANY TIMES, PEOPLE ASK FOR HELP BECAUSE THEY DOUBT THEIR OWN ABILITIES. LET THEOTHER PERSON KNOW THAT YOU HAVE CONFIDENCE THAT THEY WILL SUCCEED.15. I DONT HAVE ANY EXPERIENCE WITH THAT, SO I CANT HELP YOUVOLUNTEERING TO HELP OUT SHOULDNT MEAN THAT YOU HAVE TO LEARN AN ENTIRELY NEWSET OF SKILLS. OFFER TO HELP OUT WITH SOMETHING YOU ALREADY KNOW HOW TO DO.16. I AM NOT COMFORTABLE WITH THATYOU MIGHT BE UNCOMFORTABLE WITH THE PEOPLE INVOLVED, THE TYPE OF WORK, THEMORAL IMPLICATIONS, THIS IS A VERY RESPECTFUL WAY TO AVOID A STICKY SITUATION.17. I HATE TO SPLIT MY ATTENTION AMONG TOO MANY PROJECTSLET PEOPLE KNOW THAT YOU WANT TO DO A GOOD JOB FOR THEM BUT THAT YOU CANTWHEN YOUR FOCUS IS TOO DIVIDED OR SPLINTERED.18. I AM COMMITTED TO LEAVING SOME TIME FOR MYSELF IN MY SCHEDULESELFISH, SELFISH, SELFISH! BUT IN A GOOD WAY! TREAT YOUR PERSONAL TIME LIKE ANYOTHER APPOINTMENT BLOCK IT OFF IN YOUR CALENDAR AND GUARD IT WITH YOUR LIFE!19. I AM NOT TAKING ON ANY NEW PROJECTS RIGHT NOWYOU ARENT SAYING THAT YOU WILL NEVER HELP OUT AGAIN, JUST THAT YOU FEEL YOURSCHEDULE IS AS FULL AS YOU WOULD LIKE RIGHT NOW.20. NOSOMETIMES ITS OKAY JUST TO SAY NO! JUST MAKE SURE THAT YOU SAY IT IN A WAY THATEXPRESSES RESPECT AND COURTESY THAT LEAVES THE DOOR OPEN FOR GOOD RELATIONS. 4 SUPER REASONS YOU WILL LOVE "EASIFYING" YOUR LIFEARE YOU SOMEONE WHO WANTS A SIMPLER LIFE, BUT WHO ASSOCIATES SIMPLIFYING WITHGIVING AWAY EVERYTHING YOU OWN AND GOING BACK TO BAKING YOUR OWN BREAD?UNFORTUNATELY, THAT ATTITUDE CAN SCARE YOU AWAY FROM MAKING THE SIMPLE CHANGESTHAT CAN MAKE YOUR LIFE SO MUCH EASIER, BETTER, AND HAPPIER. INSTEAD, LETS AGREETHAT SIMPLIFYING MEANS WHATEVER YOU WANT IT TO MEAN IN YOUR OWN PARTICULARLIFE.FOR ME, IT MEANS ELIMINATING THE STUFF AROUND ME THAT I FIND NEITHER USEFUL NORBEAUTIFUL (AND TRUST ME, OTHER PEOPLE WOULD NOT ALWAYS AGREE WITH MY DEFINITION THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULOF USEFUL OR BEAUTIFUL); HOWEVER, IT ALSO MEANS SETTING UP SYSTEMS TO MAKE SURETHAT I HAVE EASIER WAYS TO HANDLE SOME AGE-OLD PROBLEMS IN THE FUTURE.TO ME, SIMPLIFYING MEANS "EASE-I-FYING" (OK, SO THERES NO SUCH WORD, BUT THERESHOULD BE!). EASIFYING DEFINED WOULD BE: "MINIMUM EFFORT FOR MAXIMUM PLEASURE."EASIFYING SIMPLY LOOKS AT THE PROBLEMS OF EVERYDAY LIFE THEN POSES CREATIVEEASIFYING SOLUTIONS.HERE ARE 4 SUPER REASONS THAT YOU WILL LOVE EASIFYING YOUR LIFE.1. LESS STUFF, FEWER PROBLEMSWITH LESS STUFF CLUTTERING UP YOUR LIFE THE BENEFITS ARE EASY TO SEE: YOULL HAVELESS STUFF TO CLEAN. LESS STUFF TO HAVE REPAIRED (MORE MONEY FOR YOU!); LESSSTUFF TO DISPOSE OF. (ENVIRONMENTALLY GOOD!), AND; LESS STUFF TO FIND. JUST PICKONE ROOM IN YOUR HOUSE AND LOOK AROUND IT. HOW MUCH OF THAT STUFF ARE YOUREALLY ENJOYING AND GETTING USE FROM? HOW MUCH OF IT IS AN AGGRAVATION FORCLEANING, REPAIRING, LOSING, FIXING, DISPOSING OF, ETC.?2. LESS EFFORT, MORE ENERGYYOULL HAVE LESS FEAR AND WORRY ASSOCIATED WITH CARRYING AROUND A LOT OF STUFF.IT WILL SIMPLY REQUIRE LESS EFFORT. BY SIMPLY COMBINING THINGS INTO ONE (AEROBICSAND WEIGHTLIFTING AT THE SAME TIME), BY SETTING UP A SYSTEM TO DO THE WORK FORYOU (A BILL PAYING SYSTEM), BY ELIMINATING A TASK ALTOGETHER (DELEGATE IT TOSOMEONE ELSE), YOU WILL BE CALMER, NOT STRESSED WITH THE DAY TO DAY LOGISTICS OFSTUFF. AN EXAMPLE, I LOVE TO USE IS THE FREEDOM THAT COMES FROM NOT SMOKING. ITSNOT THE FREEDOM FROM THE HABIT THAT MOST PEOPLE NOTICE FIRST. ITS THE NO MOREWORRYING ABOUT HAVING ENOUGH CIGARETTES, NO MORE FEARS OF NOT BEING ABLE TOFIND A LIGHTER. YOULL FEEL MORE IN CONTROL OF YOUR TIME, YOUR SPACE AND YOURENERGY.3. LESS BAGGAGE, BETTER RELATIONSHIPS"STUFF" REFERS TO NOT ONLY MATERIAL THINGS, BUT MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL CLUTTER ASWELL. BY CLEANING OUT THE NEED-TO, HAVE-TO, AND OUGHT-TOS OF YOUR OWN LIFE,YOULL HAVE BETTER RELATIONSHIPS BECAUSE THERES NOT AS MUCH "STUFF" IN YOUR LIFETO FIGHT ABOUT. PUT THE PAST IN THE PAST BY RETURNING ANYTHING YOU BORROWED, BYAPOLOGISING TO WHOEVER YOU NEED TO, BY GETTING YOUR BILLS UP TO DATE, BY SENDINGTHE CARD OR GIFT YOU FORGOT TO SEND, BY MAKING THE PHONE CALL YOU NEED TO MAKE.YOU GET THE IDEA. ANYTHING THAT YOU "SHOULD" HAVE DONE, BUT NEGLECTED TO, HASYOU TIED TO THE PAST.4. MORE FUN!HAVING AN EASIFIED LIFE MEANS HAVING MORE TIME FOR THE THINGS YOU DREAM OF...LIKE READING, OR TRAVELLING, OR ENTERTAINING, OR EXERCISING, OR PLAYING WITH THEKIDS, OR VISITING WITH FRIENDS. YOULL FEEL MORE IN CONTROL BECAUSE THE CLUTTER,PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL AND MENTAL WILL NO LONGER DICTATE HOW YOUR SPACE ISARRANGED, OR HOW YOUR TIME IS SPENT (LOOKING FOR THINGS), OR HOW YOUR ENERGY ISUSED (FRUSTRATION, AGGRAVATION). THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULNEED I SAY MORE? THREE STEPS TO SUCCESSHERE ARE THREE SIMPLE STEPS TO MAKE THINGS HAPPEN IN YOUR LIFE:DO IT"ACTION IS A GREAT RESTORER AND BUILDER OF CONFIDENCE. INACTION IS NOT ONLY THERESULT, BUT THE CAUSE, OF FEAR. PERHAPS THE ACTION YOU TAKE WILL BE SUCCESSFUL;PERHAPS DIFFERENT ACTION OR ADJUSTMENTS WILL HAVE TO FOLLOW. BUT ANY ACTION ISBETTER THAN NO ACTION AT ALL."IF YOU WAIT UNTIL YOU HAVE ALL THE FACTS OR UNTIL YOU KNOW HOW YOU WILL HANDLEEVERY POSSIBLE CHALLENGE THAT COMES ALONG, YOULL NEVER GET STARTED. BEGINSOMEWHERE. YOU CANT ACCOMPLISH ANYTHING UNTIL YOU BEGIN. DO IT.DO IT RIGHT"IF A TASK IS ONCE BEGUN,NEVER LEAVE UNTIL ITS DONE.BE THE LABOUR GREAT OR SMALL,DO IT WELL OR NOT AT ALL."ITS TRUE: IF YOU DONT HAVE TIME TO DO IT RIGHT, WHEN WILL YOU FIND TIME TO DO ITOVER? DO IT RIGHT.DO IT RIGHT NOWIN A FAMOUS WAR, AS THE SOLDIERS WERE TRYING TO CAPTURE A HILL, THEY WERETHROWN BACK AGAIN AND AGAIN. THE BLACK POWDER AMMUNITION THEY WERE USINGPINPOINTED THEIR POSITION FOR THEIR ENEMIES. AS SOLDIER AFTER SOLDIER TOPPLED,THE TROOPS BEGAN TO PANIC. UP RODE THE COMMANDER, ON A LITTLE HORSE URGING HISMEN TO FIGHT ON. ENCOURAGED BY HIS BRAVERY IN EXPOSING HIMSELF TO THE WHIZZINGBULLETS, THE TROOPS BEGAN TO CHEER THEIR COMMANDER."DONT CHEER, MEN, THE COMMANDER CALLED OUT TO THEM. "FIGHT! NOW‟S THE TIME TOFIGHT!"THERE IS A TIME TO CHEER. A TIME TO REFLECT. A TIME TO PLAN. A TIME TO REMINISCE. BUTTHERE IS ALSO A TIME TO ACT. THOSE WHO ACCOMPLISH ANYTHING WORTHWHILE KNOWTHAT TIME IS NOW. DO IT. DO IT RIGHT. DO IT RIGHT NOW. THESE ARE THREE SIMPLE STEPSTO SUCCESS. EVERYDAY TOOLS FOR EXTRAORDINARY SUCCESSI AM OFTEN ASKED ABOUT THE "SECRETS TO SUCCESS". I HAVE HAD THE CHANCE TO WORKWITH HIGHLY SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE IN BUSINESS AND FINANCE AND THE GOOD NEWS IS,THERE ARE NO "SECRETS" FOR SUCCESS! THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULTHERE ARE, HOWEVER, A FEW TOOLS THAT, WHEN USED TOGETHER, COME CLOSE TO BEING A"SECRET WEAPON". THEY REQUIRE NO SPECIAL TALENT OR SKILLS. THEY COST VERY LITTLEAND EVERY SCHOOL CHILD HAS A COMPLETE SET.THEY ARE AROUND US EVERY DAY, YET WE FAIL TO USE THEM AND WE DEPRIVE OURSELVESOF THEIR POWER. HERE IS MY LIST OF THE TOP 5 "SECRET" WEAPONS OF EXTRAORDINARILYSUCCESSFUL LEADERS:1. 3X5 CARDSYES, I AM REFERRING TO THOSE LITTLE CARDS YOUR MUM USED FOR RECIPES. SUCCESSFULPEOPLE USE THEM TO JOT NOTES, KEEP TIPS AND STORE VALUABLE INFORMATION. I CARRYTHEM EVERYWHERE AND HAVE SUPPLIES BY THE PHONE, BESIDE MY BED AND ON THEKITCHEN COUNTER. THEY ARE WONDERFUL! THEY LAST FOREVER I HAVE CARDS I WROTEOVER YEARS AGO! AND IF YOU ACCIDENTALLY LEAVE THEM IN YOUR POCKETS, THEY EVEN GOTHROUGH THE WASH. (TRUST ME ON THIS!)2. A WATCHHIGHLY SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE ARE INTENSELY TIME CONSCIOUS. THEY DONT SPEND THEIRTIME, THEIR ENERGY OR THEIR LIVES ON TRIVIAL PURSUITS. THEY WEAR A WATCH AND THEYUSE IT TO STAY ON TASK UNTIL THEY ACHIEVE THEIR GOALS AND CREATE THE LIFE THEYWANT. TIME IS YOUR MOST PRECIOUS ASSET AND OUR MOST UNDER-VALUED COMMODITY.WEAR AND USE A WATCH!3. AN ALARM CLOCK"EARLY TO BED, EARLY TO RISE, MAKES A MAN (OR WOMAN) HEALTHY, WEALTHY AND WISE".ITS STILL TRUE! I LIVE AND WORK WITH WEALTHY PEOPLE AND THEY GO TO BED AT 10:00P.M., WAKE UP AROUND 6:00 IN THE MORNING, EVERYONE IS UP, AND THE CARS AREALREADY HEADING FOR THE OFFICE. BUY AND USE AN ALARM CLOCK! START EARLY, WORKSMART.4. A LISTHIGHLY SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE PLAN THEIR DAY. THEY MAKE A LIST OF THEIR MOST IMPORTANTPRIORITIES. THEY CHOOSE THE THINGS THAT WILL MAKE A MAJOR, LONG-TERM, DIFFERENCEAND THEY FOCUS ON THEM ALL DAY LONG. LAST THING IN THE EVENING, OR FIRST THING INTHE MORNING, CREATE A LIST AND WORK FROM IT DURING YOUR DAY.5. A COMPASSMY MOST SUCCESSFUL CLIENTS ALWAYS HAVE A MAP, A PICTURE OR POSTER OF THEIR MOSTIMPORTANT GOALS AND THEY USE IT TO GUIDE THEM DURING THE DAY. THEY STAY ONCOURSE. IF THEY GET LOST, THEY RE-ASSESS AND GET BACK ON-TRACK IMMEDIATELY. HAVE A"COMPASS" THAT REMINDS YOU OF YOUR DREAMS, YOUR GOALS, AND YOUR MOST DARINGDESIRES. STAY ON COURSE! 10 WAYS TO KEEP YOURSELF ENTHUSEDALMOST ALL OF US FEEL ENTHUSIASTIC AT THE START OF A NEW PROJECT. HOWEVER,KEEPING THE ENTHUSIASM GOING OVER TIME IS ANOTHER ISSUE, AND IS PROBLEMATIC FORMANY PEOPLE. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULIN THE PROGRESS OF EVERY PROJECT WHEN ENERGY FADES UNLESS THERE IS AN INFLUX OFEXTERNAL ENERGY. SINCE WE CANNOT BE SURE THAT WE WILL RECEIVE AN ENERGY BOOSTFROM OUTSIDE OURSELVES AT JUST THE RIGHT TIME, HERE ARE SOME WAYS TO PREVENTOUR ENTHUSIASM FROM FLAGGING.1. USE VISUAL REMINDERS OF YOUR GOAL.DEVELOP VISUAL REMINDERS OF YOUR GOAL AND THE ADVANTAGES YOU WILL EXPERIENCEWHEN YOU REACH IT. THE CLASSIC EXAMPLE IS THAT IF, WHEN YOU ACHIEVE IT, YOU WILL BEABLE TO AFFORD THAT LUXURY ITEM YOU ARE YEARNING FOR, GET YOUR PHOTOGRAPH TAKENWITH THAT ITEM (E.G. GO TO A CAR SHOWROOM, SIT IN THE CAR OF YOUR DREAMS, ANDHAVE A FRIEND TAKE A PICTURE), AND PLACE THE PHOTOGRAPH WHERE YOU WILL SEE ITDAILY.2. DEVELOP TINY STEPS.IT IS EASY TO BECOME DISCOURAGED IF EACH STEP LOOMS LARGE AND REQUIRES A MAJOREXPENDITURE OF TIME. IF YOU BREAK THE PROJECT DOWN TO EXTREMELY SMALL STEPS,THEN YOU CAN MAKE SOME PROGRESS EVEN IF YOU HAVE ONLY FIVE MINUTES. IT MAY BESOMETHING AS SMALL AS SETTING OUT THE MATERIALS FOR THE NEXT STEP, BUT,NONETHELESS, IT IS PROGRESS.3. CHECK OFF SMALL STEPS.AS YOU TAKE THOSE SMALL STEPS, CHECK THEM OFF AS ACHIEVED, AND GIVE YOURSELF APAT ON THE BACK FOR YOUR PROGRESS. FOCUS ALWAYS ON PROGRESS YOU HAVE MADE ASBEING JUST AS IMPORTANT AS THE DISTANCE YOU HAVE TO GO.4. CUT OUT, OR AT LEAST CUT DOWN ON, YOUR TIME-WASTERS AND MIND NUMBERS.LEARN TO IDENTIFY THE VARIOUS TIME-WASTERS THAT YOU USE TO "NUMB OUT." THENAVOID THEM AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE. THE LIST MAY INCLUDE TOO MUCH TV, CHAT-ROOMS,COMPUTER GAMES, TIME ON THE PHONE, SHOPPING, MIND-ALTERING CHEMICALS SUCH ASALCOHOL AND OTHER DRUGS, OR OTHER BEHAVIOURS IN WHICH YOU INDULGE FAIRLYOBSESSIVELY.5. GET ENOUGH SLEEP/REST.OFTEN, WHEN WE FEEL THE NEED TO WORK HARDER ON A PROJECT, THIS TRANSLATES TOMORE HOURS OF WORK, AND LESS OF REST. THE STATISTICS ON SLEEP DEPRIVATION IN THISDECADE ARE FRIGHTENING. IT IS TRUE THAT CERTAIN GREAT LEADERS HAVE BEEN REPUTEDTO FUNCTION ON VERY LITTLE SLEEP. HOWEVER, MOST OF THEM WERE IN SUCH POSITIONSOF POWER THAT THEY COULD CATNAP WHEN THEY CHOSE AND THEY DID. IT IS ESSENTIAL TOOUR EFFICIENT FUNCTIONING THAT WE GET ENOUGH SLEEP. YOUR PROJECT WILL SUFFER IFYOU DO NOT.6. JOURNAL ABOUT THE BENEFITS OF YOUR PROJECT.JOURNALING INVOLVES HARNESSING OUR BODIES AND THE VERBAL PART OF OUR BRAIN TOWHATEVER IT IS WE JOURNAL ABOUT. BY GETTING BOTH OF THESE ASSOCIATED WITH THEBENEFITS OF THE PROJECT, YOU BECOME MORE FULLY INVOLVED WITH IT. DO THIS THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULESPECIALLY AT THE START, WHEN YOUR ENERGY IS HIGH. ADD TO THIS JOURNAL WHENEVERYOU CAN AND RE-READ IT REGULARLY.7. DO NOT DISCUSS YOUR PROJECT WITH PEOPLE WHO ARE CLOUDS OVER YOUR PARADE.YOU KNOW THE PEOPLE WHO WORRY THAT IF YOU SUCCEED YOU MAY GROW AWAY FROMTHEM. THERE ARE OTHERS WHO JUST DONT WANT TO SEE YOU AIM TOO HIGH AND THEN BEDISAPPOINTED. THEY MEAN WELL, BUT AVOID GIVING THEM THE OPPORTUNITY TO RAIN ONYOUR PARADE. PRACTICE WAYS TO CHANGE THE SUBJECT IF THEY TRY TO TALK ABOUT YOURPROJECT.8. KEEP YOURSELF PHYSICALLY WELL.IT SEEMS THAT WE CANNOT OPEN A NEWSPAPER OR MAGAZINE, OR VISIT A WEB SITE,WITHOUT RECEIVING INFORMATION ON KEEPING OURSELVES HEALTHY. EAT RIGHT, EXERCISE,DRINK PLENTY OF WATER... YOU KNOW THE ROUTINE. THE TRICK IS TO KEEP AT IT SO THATYOU HAVE THE PHYSICAL ENERGY NEEDED FOR YOUR PROJECT.9. AVOID ALL-OR-NOTHING THINKING.WHEN WE FALL INTO THE TRAP OF ALL-OR-NOTHING THINKING, WE BEGIN TO BELIEVE THATENCOUNTERING OBSTACLES, OR FAILURE, AT ONE JUNCTURE EQUALS TOTAL FAILURE ON THEENTIRE PROJECT. REMEMBER THAT EACH STEP IS JUST A SMALL STEP. IF ONE DOES NOTSUCCEED, TRY ANOTHER IN ANOTHER DIRECTION AND KEEP THE BIG PICTURE IN MIND.10. CLEAR THE DECKS.A MAJOR CAUSE OF LOSS OF ENERGY IS THE OTHER STUFF THAT ACCUMULATES AROUND USWHEN WE ARE FOCUSING ON ONE PARTICULAR PROJECT. SCHEDULE TIME TO KEEP THE PILES(PHYSICAL OR MENTAL) FROM ACCUMULATING. DO THE FILING, IF NECESSARY. KEEP UP WITHYOUR TO-DO LIST IF YOU KEEP ONE. IF YOU DONT, THEY WILL SAP YOUR ENERGY ANDOVERWHELM YOU. YOU MAY THINK THAT DOING THESE THINGS TAKES TIME FROM YOURPROJECT, BUT THEY WILL ACTUALLY FREE UP MORE ENERGY TO TAKE YOU TO A SUCCESSFULCONCLUSION WITH YOUR ENTHUSIASM STILL IN FULL FLOW. THOSE WHO WILL LISTEN WILL LEARNADVICE COMES IN ALL SHAPES AND SIZES. FOR INSTANCE, SOMEONE GAVE THE SAGEADVICE: "IF YOU DANCE WITH A GRIZZLY BEAR, YOU HAD BETTER LET HIM LEAD." I SUPPOSEITS GOOD TO KNOW WHEN TO GO ALONG WITH SOME PEOPLE.ITS BEEN ACCURATELY SAID THAT THERE IS A LOT OF ADVICE AVAILABLE FOR NOTHING ANDMOST OF IT IS WORTH IT. BUT HERE IS SOUND GUIDANCE, FROM AN UNKNOWN AUTHOR,WORTH TAKING TO HEART: "IF SOMEONE HURTS YOU, BETRAYS YOU, OR BREAKS YOUR HEART,FORGIVE; FOR THAT PERSON HAS HELPED YOU LEARN ABOUT TRUST AND THE IMPORTANCEOF CAUTION. IF SOMEONE LOVES YOU, LOVE BACK UNCONDITIONALLY; THAT ONE ISTEACHING YOU TO LOVE.MAKE EVERY DAY COUNT. APPRECIATE EVERY MOMENT AND TAKE FROM THOSE MOMENTSEVERYTHING THAT YOU POSSIBLY CAN, FOR YOU MAY NEVER BE ABLE TO EXPERIENCE ITAGAIN. TALK TO PEOPLE THAT YOU HAVE NEVER TALKED TO BEFORE AND ACTUALLY LISTEN. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULLET YOURSELF FALL IN LOVE, BREAK FREE AND SET YOUR SIGHTS HIGH. HOLD YOUR HEAD UPBECAUSE YOU HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO. TELL YOURSELF YOU ARE A GREAT INDIVIDUAL ANDBELIEVE IN YOURSELF, FOR IF YOU DONT BELIEVE IN YOURSELF, IT WILL BE HARD FOROTHERS TO BELIEVE IN YOU. YOU CAN MAKE OF YOUR LIFE ANYTHING YOU WISH. CREATEYOUR OWN LIFE AND THEN GO OUT AND LIVE IT WITH ABSOLUTELY NO REGRETS. MOSTIMPORTANTLY, IF YOU LOVE OTHERS, TELL THEM, FOR YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT MAY COMETOMORROW. AND LEARN A LESSON IN LIFE EACH DAY YOU LIVE." EVEN SOME FREE ADVICECAN PROFIT TO THOSE WHO LISTEN. DISCOVERING WHAT YOU WANT FOR YOUR LIFEI OFTEN RECOMMEND THAT LIFE PLANNING BE BASED UPON AN INDIVIDUALS PERSONALVISION AND PURPOSE. IF YOU ARE GOING TO HANDCRAFT A LIFE OF CHOICE, YOULL NEED TOKNOW WHAT YOU WANT SO THAT YOU CAN MAKE THE CHOICES THAT TAKE YOU THERE. THETROUBLE IS THAT MANY (MOST?) OF YOU CANNOT NAME WHAT IT IS YOU WANT.IF YOU DONT MAKE CHOICES FOR YOUR LIFE, OTHERS WILL. OFTEN, CHOICES ARE MADE BYCIRCUMSTANCES, WEAK FOUNDATION. CHOOSING WHAT YOU WANT IN LIFE AND OUT OF LIFEIS A NEW SKILL FOR MANY PEOPLE. IT MAY TAKE SOME PRACTICE. AT SOME POINT YOUREALISE THAT YOU ARE ABLE TO AND MUST, MAKE CHOICES FOR YOUR LIFE.HERE ARE SOME TIPS THAT YOU CAN USE TO HELP YOU DISCOVER WHAT YOU DO WANT INTHIS BRIEF, BUT MAGNIFICENT EXPERIENCE CALLED LIFE.1. NAME WHAT YOU DONT WANT; YOU MAY REALISE YOUR WANTS THROUGH CONTRAST.2. TELL THE TRUTH ABOUT WHAT IS SO. DONT PUT A POSITIVE SPIN OR POWERFULINTERPRETATION ON YOUR LIFE TODAY IF YOU DONT REALLY BELIEVE IT. IF YOU THINK YOURLIFE IS LOUSY, SAY SO AND GET READY TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.3. IDENTIFY WHAT YOU DO VERY WELL AND WHAT YOU ARE LOUSY AT.4. IDENTIFY THE FIVE THINGS/PEOPLE THAT ARE MOST NEGATIVELY OR OVER-INFLUENCINGYOUR BEHAVIOUR TODAY.5. CONSCIOUSLY SCAN THE GLOBAL VILLAGE, ITS PARTICIPANTS AND ACTIVITIES. LIST YOURTOP FIVE APPEALING CAREERS/ACTIVITIES THAT SERVE HUMANITY OR YOU LIKE THE BEST.6. IDENTIFY THE TOP FIVE WAYS YOUD LIKE TO EXPERIENCE YOURSELF. DONT PUT ANYLIMITS ON THIS.7. TAKE THE TIME TO GET TO KNOW YOURSELF NEWLY. WEED OUT BELIEFS THAT NO LONGERSERVE YOU. ARTICULATE YOUR NEEDS AND VALUES. ADOPT AN ATTITUDE OF SELF-DISCOVERY.8. ALLOW STILLNESS. CREATE EMPTY SPOTS WITHIN A BUSY LIFE IN ORDER TO CREATE THESPACE THROUGH WHICH NEW IDEAS CAN EMERGE. THE UNIVERSE ABHORS A VOID; WHENYOU CREATE THE EMPTY SPACE, IT WILL BE FILLED VERY QUICKLY.9. CAPTURE THE IDEAS ABOUT VISION, PURPOSE, OR MISSION AS THEY COME. COMPILE THEMIN A FILE OR BOX FOR FUTURE REVIEW. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFUL10. FORMULATE YOUR IDEAS INTO A PERSONAL VISION OR SENSE OF PURPOSE THAT PULLSYOU FORWARD. HOW MUCH TIME THIS PROCESS WILL TAKE DEPENDS ON YOU. THE BESTPLACE TO START IS EXACTLY WHERE YOU ARE. YOU AND YOUR IDEAS ABOUT THIS, ARE EVEREVOLVING. YOUR MIND IS THE GREATEST TOOL THAT YOU CAN USE IN THIS ENDEAVOUR. YOUMUST USE IT IN A DELIBERATE AND FOCUSED WAY TO YIELD THE RESULTS YOU WANT. YOURTHOUGHT COMES FIRST, THEN, YOU TAKE ACTIONS CONSISTENT WITH YOUR THOUGHT. LIFEIS MUCH MORE GRATIFYING WHEN WE DELIBERATELY ENGAGE IT THROUGH OUR CHOICESRATHER THAN LIVING THE EFFECTS OF SOMEONE ELSES CHOICES. IN OTHER WORDS, BEINGAT CAUSE OF LIFE, NOT AT THE EFFECT OF LIFE. BE THE ONE WHO CHOOSES THE LIFE GAMEYOU PLAY! WHAT OWNS YOU?SOME PEOPLE MOVE EASILY FROM A PALACE INTO A HUT. OTHERS FEEL DEPRIVED WHENTHEIR INCOME FALLS BELOW AED300,000 A YEAR OR WHEN THEIR CHECKING ACCOUNT FALLSBELOW FIVE FIGURES. IF YOU FEEL ANXIOUS AND NEEDY, YOU WILL HAVE TROUBLE MOVINGFORWARD.AT THE SAME TIME, EVERY MONTHLY OBLIGATION CAN BECOME A SOURCE OF STRESS. IDONT REMEMBER WHERE I READ THIS STORY: A SENIOR PHYSICIAN, ADDRESSING NEWMEDICAL STUDENTS WAS ASKED, "HOW CAN WE AVOID THE STRESSFUL LIFESTYLE THE EARLYHEART ATTACKS, ADDICTIONS AND STROKES?" THE OLDER DOCTOR ANSWERED SIMPLY,"DONT BUY A BIG HOUSE." WHAT HE MEANT WAS, "DONT STRETCH YOUR SPENDING TO THELIMIT." WHEN YOU LIVE BELOW YOUR MEANS, YOU CAN BUILD YOUR NEST EGG FOR FREEDOM.HERE ARE THREE PRINCIPLES TO KEEP IN MIND.1. WHEN YOU AGREE TO MAKE PAYMENTS, YOUR NEW POSSESSION BECOMES A MEMBER OFTHE FAMILY. YOU GAIN SATISFACTION BUT YOU ALSO LIMIT YOUR FUTURE OPTIONS. I KNOWPEOPLE WHO INSIST A DOG OR CAT IS TOO MUCH RESPONSIBILITY, WHILE THEY BLITHELYSIGN ON THE DOTTED LINE FOR JEEPS, PICK-UPS, BOATS AND CUSTOM FURNITURE.2. WHEN YOU ENJOY YOUR CAREER AND YOUR LIFE, YOU USUALLY SPEND LESS. MANY OF MYFRIENDS AND NEIGHBOURS HAVE EMBARKED ON SECOND CAREERS AS ARTISTS OR WRITERS.AND MANY OF US STOPPED OUR CABLE TELEVISION SERVICE BECAUSE WE ARE TOO BUSYLIVING OUR REAL LIVES TO WATCH SHADOWY FIGURES ON A SCREEN. SHOPPING IS NOLONGER A RECREATION. WHO HAS TIME OR MOTIVATION? WERE FULFILLED BY OUR WORKAND OUR LIFE.3. SPENDING "FOR THE FAMILY?" EVERY CAREER COUNSELLOR MEETS MIDLIFEPROFESSIONALS WHO SAY, "I HAD TO CHOOSE THIS PATH TO PLEASE MY PARENTS. AFTERALL, THEY SACRIFICED FOR MY FUTURE. NOW I WANT TO DO SOMETHING FOR ME!"YOUR CHILDREN NEED SELF-RELIANCE, CONFIDENCE, FLEXIBILITY AND A SENSE OF HUMOUR.I AM NOT AN EXPERT ON CHILD REARING. HOWEVER, I BELIEVE YOU CAN HELP MOST BYSETTING AN EXAMPLE OF LIVING A HAPPY, FULFILLED LIFE AND RESPECTING DREAMS THATMIGHT BE DIFFERENT FROM YOUR OWN.BOTTOM LINE: CAREER FREEDOM COMES WHEN YOU MOVE FROM, "CAN I AFFORD THISPURCHASE?" TO "IS THIS PURCHASE WORTH WHAT IT REALLY COSTS FUTURE OPTIONS,CHOICES, STAYING IN A JOB I NO LONGER WANT?" SOMETIMES THE ANSWER IS YES. OTHER THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULTIMES, YOU CAN TRUTHFULLY SAY "NO" AND YOU FIND YOURSELF MOVING TO YOUR DREAMS,FASTER AND MORE EASILY THAN YOU BELIEVED POSSIBLE. HOW TO DO EVERYTHING"I GUESS I AM GOING TO HAVE TO GET USED TO THE IDEA THAT I CANT DO EVERYTHING IWANT TO DO," MY CLIENT SAID. AT FIRST, I DIDNT SAY ANYTHING ABOUT THIS AND WECONTINUED TALKING. HIS STATEMENT STUCK IN MY MIND, SO MUCH SO THAT, A FEWSECONDS LATER, I STOPPED HIM IN MID-SENTENCE. "WAIT A MINUTE," I SAID, "WHY,EXACTLY, CANT YOU DO EVERYTHING?"THE QUESTION STARTLED US BOTH, REALLY, BUT AS WE DISCUSSED IT, WE DISCOVEREDTHAT IT IS POSSIBLE TO DO "EVERYTHING" YOU WANT TO DO, IF YOU KEEP THE FOLLOWINGPOINTS IN MIND...1. YOU CAN DO EVERYTHING, BUT NOT ALL AT ONCE. THE BIGGEST OBSTACLE I FIND KEEPINGINDIVIDUALS FROM ACCOMPLISHING ALL THAT THEY WANT TO DO, IS THAT THEY TRY TO DOTOO MUCH ALL AT ONCE. THEIR WISH LIST OF GOALS AND ACTIVITIES GETS LONGER ANDLONGER, AND EACH ITEM IS GIVEN THE SAME PRIORITY: ASAP! DESPITE WHAT WEVE BEENLED TO BELIEVE IN OUR MODERN AGE OF MULTI-TASKING COMPUTERS AND MEGA-TIME-SAVING DEVICES, GIZMOS AND GADGETS, MOST PEOPLE CAN ONLY DO ONE THING AT A TIME.2. YOU CAN DO EVERYTHING, IF ITS IMPORTANT ENOUGH TO YOU TO DO. WHEN REVIEWINGPEOPLES LISTS OF "EVERYTHING" THEY WANT TO DO, I FIND THAT MANY OF US HAVE ITEMSAND ACTIVITIES THAT ENDED UP ON OUR LISTS BY DEFAULT. WE ADDED THEM BECAUSESOMEBODY ELSE SAID WE SHOULD DO THEM OR BECAUSE WE THOUGHT, AT THE TIME,THEYD BE IMPORTANT... ONLY NOW THEYRE NOT. IF ITS TRULY IMPORTANT TO YOU, YOULLFIND THE TIME AND WAY TO DO IT. IF ITS NOT IMPORTANT, YOU WILL KEEP AVOIDING,POSTPONING AND PROCRASTINATING ABOUT IT. IF THATS THE CASE, SCRATCH IT OFF YOURLIST AND MOVE ON.3. YOU CAN DO EVERYTHING, BUT YOU MAY NOT BE THE BEST AT EVERYTHING. IF YOUR GOALIS TO BE THE BEST IN EVERY FIELD OF ENDEAVOUR YOU ARE TRYING TO PURSUE THENCHANCES ARE YOU ARE SETTING YOURSELF UP FOR DISAPPOINTMENT. THIS IS ESPECIALLYTRUE IF YOU HAVE MANY DIVERSE AREAS OF INTEREST. FOR EXAMPLE, YOU MAY HAVE GOALSIN THE AREAS OF ENTREPRENEURSHIP, WRITING, POLITICS OR WHATEVER. WHILE ITSPOSSIBLE YOU MIGHT CREATE A VERY SUCCESSFUL RETAIL BUSINESS WHILE WRITING ABEST-SELLING NOVEL OR GETTING ELECTED AS A MEMBER OF PARLIAMENT WHICH IS NOTVERY PROBABLE. STRIVE, WORK SMART, AND APPLY YOURSELF AT EVERY ACTIVITY, BUT KEEPIN MIND THAT BEING THE BEST REQUIRES A GREAT DEAL OF TIME, FOCUS AND ENERGY THATYOU MAY NOT BE ABLE TO COMMIT IF YOU ARE GOING IN 100 DIFFERENT DIRECTIONS.4. YOU CAN DO EVERYTHING, BUT THERE WILL BE LIMITATIONS. EVERY ACTIVITY, EVERYGOAL, BRINGS ITS OWN SET OF LIMITING FACTORS THAT WILL EFFECT YOUR PARTICIPATION.THINGS LIKE TIME, HEALTH, MONEY, AGE, SEX, WEATHER, POLICIES, ETC. SOME OF THESEARE CHANGEABLE, SOME ARE NOT.5. YOU CAN DO EVERYTHING, BUT YOU WILL NEED HELP. OH, YOU CAN TRY TO DO IT ALL ONYOUR OWN, BUT THE MORE YOU ATTEMPT TO DO, THE MORE HELP YOU WILL NEED TO GET ITALL DONE. SUCCESS IS RARELY A SOLO ADVENTURE. SURROUND YOURSELF WITHSUCCESSFUL, ENCOURAGING AND UPLIFTING PEOPLE WHO WILL INSPIRE AND SUPPORT YOU THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULAS YOU PURSUE YOUR DREAMS. AFTER ALL, ONCE YOU MAKE YOUR DREAMS COME YOU, YOUWILL WANT TO SHARE THEM WITH SOMEONE. SPEAK UP!EVER BEEN IN A MEETING WITH SOMETHING IMPORTANT TO SAY AND REMAINED SILENT? YOUMAY HAVE FELT THE FLUSH OF THE GOOD IDEA AND THE RISING ADRENALINE. YOU MAY HAVEMOVED TO THE FRONT OF YOUR SEAT AND READIED YOUR BODY TO SPEAK...AND THENDIDNT. WHAT STOPPED YOU?CERTAINLY THERE IS WISDOM IN KNOWING WHEN TO SPEAK AND WHEN NOT TO. KNOWINGTHE POLITICS OF A SITUATION OR THE TIME CONSTRAINTS, YOU MAY CHOOSE NOT TO SPEAK.OFTEN, THOUGH, YOU MAY HAVE A UNIQUE VIEW, PERSPECTIVE, ISSUE OR CONCERN THATNEEDS TO BE RAISED. THAT CONTRIBUTION WOULD ADD A NEW DIMENSION TO THEDISCUSSION OR CHANGE THE DECISION ABOUT TO BE MADE.YOU MAY FEEL STRONGLY ABOUT A NEW POLICY AND YOUR SILENCE ALLOWS FOLKS TO THINKYOU AGREE. IS THAT THE MESSAGE YOU WISH TO SEND?RECENTLY I WAS INVOLVED IN THE CREATION OF A NEW MANAGEMENT TEAM FOR ADEPARTMENT. THIS BROUGHT TOGETHER FOUR PEOPLE WHO PREVIOUSLY HAD FELT THATTHEY WERE IN A PECKING ORDER AND CHANGED THEM INTO A COHESIVE DECISION-MAKINGTEAM. TWO OF THE FOUR HAVE STRONG OPINIONS AND ARE VERY COMFORTABLEEXPRESSING THEM. TWO ARE VERY QUIET. IN FORMING THE TEAM, WE DISCUSSED THISDYNAMIC. HOW ARE WE EACH GOING TO BEST CONTRIBUTE TO THE TEAM? WE TALKED ABOUTTHE POSSIBILITY THAT THE TALKATIVE TWO COULD OVERPOWER THE SILENT TWO. IN FACT,THEY MIGHT EVEN DO THE TALKING FOR THEM! FOCUSING ON THE FACT THAT EACH PERSONWAS HIRED BECAUSE HE OR SHE IS AN EXPERT IN A DISTINCT FIELD, IT WAS SOON DECIDEDTHAT EACH PERSONS OPINION WAS VITAL TO GOOD DECISION-MAKING.THE TWO WHO ARE QUIET ARE VERY COMPETENT AS ARE THE OTHERS. INCREASING THEIRLEVEL OF COMFORT WITH ADDING THEIR VOICES TO THE GROUP WAS IMPORTANT. TWOTHINGS WERE AGREED UPON: EVERY PERSON WOULD SPEAK ON EVERY ISSUE AND EACHPERSON WOULD TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR DOING SO. ONE OF THE NATURAL TALKERSOFFERED TO ASK THE QUIET TWO FOR THEIR OPINIONS. THIS SEEMS LIKE A GOOD IDEA ONTHE SURFACE, HOWEVER, AS A RULE, IT IS A POOR IDEA.WHY IS IT A POOR IDEA? SIMPLE. IF ONE PERSON TAKES RESPONSIBILITY FOR THECONTRIBUTIONS OF OTHERS THERE ARE TWO NEW KINDS OF CONTROL BEING ENCOURAGED.THE TALKER HAS CONTROL OVER WHEN THE OTHERS ARE ASKED FOR THEIR OPINIONS. THESILENT COULD BE WAITING TO BE ASKED MAKING THEIR CONTRIBUTION THE TALKERSRESPONSIBILITY. NEITHER OF THESE OPTIONS ARE OPTIMAL.THE IMPORTANT PIECE IS THAT EACH PERSON UNDERSTANDS THAT HE OR SHE WAS HIRED TOCONTRIBUTE HIS OR HER EXPERTISE AND EXPERIENCE TO THE TEAM. IT IS THERESPONSIBILITY OF THE INDIVIDUAL TO CONTRIBUTE. FOR THE TALKERS THAT IS EASY. INFACT, IT IS ENJOYABLE. FOR THE QUIET FOLKS, TWO THINGS SEEMED TO BE TRUE. ONE OFTHEM ONLY FELT IT NECESSARY TO CONTRIBUTE IF SHE DISAGREED WITH THE DIRECTION OFTHE CONVERSATION. THE OTHER IS VERY SHY. WHAT TO DO? THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULWITH SOME INDIVIDUAL COACHING FOR EACH TEAM MEMBER, EACH BEGAN TO MONITORINVOLVEMENT IN THE MEETINGS. FOR THOSE FOR WHOM IT WAS DIFFICULT, THEYUNDERTOOK TO AT LEAST SAY WHEN THEY AGREED OR DISAGREED. FOR THOSE FOR WHOM ITWAS EASY, THEY UNDERTOOK TO LEAVE SOME AIRTIME FREE. OFTEN, IT IS A CHALLENGE TOFIND A QUIET MOMENT TO SUMMON UP THE GUMPTION TO SPEAK!WHEN YOU HAVE SOMETHING YOU FEEL IS IMPORTANT TO CONTRIBUTE TO A MEETING,FORMULATE YOUR THOUGHTS, TAKE A DEEP BREATH AND JUMP IN. NOTHING LIFE-THREATENING WILL HAPPEN. ITS A LITTLE LIKE LEARNING TO SWIM. THE FIRST FEW TIMESYOU MAY GET A MOUTHFUL OF WATER AND SPUTTER A LITTLE. YOU MAY FIND YOURSELFGASPING FOR AIR. YOU MAY FLAIL AROUND A LITTLE, BUT, WITH PRACTICE, THINGS EVENOUT AND YOU MAKE PROGRESS. YES, IT MAY FEEL AWKWARD. YES, YOU MAY DISCOUNT THEIMPORTANCE OF WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY BEFORE YOU SAY IT. BUT, JUMP IN. YOU ARE THERETO OFFER YOUR SKILLS AND LEARNING. IT IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY.A TIP OR TWO ABOUT HANDLING THOSE WHO ONLY VALUE THE SOUND OF THEIR OWNVOICES MAY BE IN ORDER. THEY HAVE TO TAKE A BREATH SOMETIME. BE READY TO STEP INAND TAKE THAT OPPORTUNITY.AGREE WITH THEMBEGINNING WITH I AGREE WITH _____________ PART OF YOUR OPINION..." AND GO ON TOOFFER YOUR THOUGHTS. BEING AGREED WITH, EVEN IN PART, WILL ENCOURAGE THEM TOLISTEN TO YOU.USE POSITIVE LANGUAGETELL PEOPLE WHAT YOU THINK WOULD BE BEST AND WHY RATHER THAN TELLING THEM WHATIS WRONG WITH THEIR IDEAS. AGAIN, YOU MAY CAPTURE THEIR ATTENTION.HAVE CONFIDENCE IN YOUR IDEASWORK WITHIN YOURSELF TO CLARIFY YOUR THOUGHTS PRIOR TO THE MEETING. YOU MAYEVEN MAKE SOME NOTES. BEING PREPARED WILL MAKE IT MORE LIKELY THAT YOU WILL HAVESOME ENERGY BEHIND YOUR POINTS OF VIEW AND THEREFORE, BE MORE LIKELY TO EXPRESSTHEM.BE BRIEF AND SPECIFICTHIS IS A GREAT TIP FOR EVERYONE AT THE MEETING. STAY ON THE TOPIC AND THE POINT.GIVE YOUR THOUGHTS AND REASONS IN SHORT SENTENCES, THEN STOP AND LET OTHERSRESPOND. THIS IS THE WAY BUSINESS GETS DONE! WHO WANTS INTERMINABLE MEETINGS?SPEAK UP! YOU HAVE THE RIGHT AND RESPONSIBILITY TO DO SO. POWER WORDS: TAKING CHARGE ONE WORD AT A TIMERESPECT THE POWER OF WORDS CHOOSE THEM WITH CARE.ONE OF THE MOST AMAZING AREAS OF SELF-CREATION COMES IN THE FORM OF WORDS. THETHINGS WE THINK AND SAY TO OURSELVES AND THE THINGS WE THINK AND SAY TO OTHERS,CARRY A CREATIVE SURGE OF POWER.THIS IS AN AREA OF CREATION THAT IS OFTEN UNDER EMPHASISED. IT IS TRULY INCREDIBLEHOW WE CAN BECOME SO UNAWARE OF THE WORDS THAT COME OUT OF OUR MOUTHS. WHENWE DON‟T MAKE THE EFFORT TO SCRUTINISE THEM CAREFULLY, THIS AREA OF OUR POWER THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULCAN EASILY SLIP OUR GRASP. OUR WORDS, OUR UTTERANCES ARE POWERFUL CREATIVEENERGY, PLAIN AND SIMPLE. THEY ARE THE ENERGY THAT CAN EITHER ALLOW OR DENY OURDREAMS.I HAVE RETAINED THE VIEWPOINT OF GIVING DIGNITY TO MYSELF BY GIVING DIGNITY TO MYWORDS. AFTER ALL, IT IS OUR WORDS THAT REPRESENT US. THEY COMMUNICATE TO OTHERSWHAT WE FEEL INSIDE AND IT IS PRECISELY THOSE FEELINGS THAT LIFE HONOURS.WOULD YOU GO AROUND RANDOMLY TOSSING NAILS EVERYWHERE YOU WENT? OF COURSEYOU WOULD NOT, BECAUSE TO DO SO WOULD MEAN TO CAUSE DAMAGE TO YOURSELF ANDOTHERS. CERTAINLY, THERE WOULD BE A RESULT TO YOUR ACTION. YOUR WORDS HAVE THESAME IMPACT. THEY EFFECT YOUR LIFE IN SUCH AN AMAZING WAY BECAUSE OF THEIRINHERENT CREATIVE/CAUSING POWER. SO JUST AS WITH THE NAILS, WE ARE WISE TO KEEPIN CHECK EVERY THING WE SAY AND SEND OUT INTO THE WORLD.BELIEVING THAT "THE SKY IS THE LIMIT" OR THAT THERE IS A "GLASS CEILING" ARE SOME OFTHE MORE OBVIOUS LIMIT MAKERS. BUT I HAVE FOUND THAT THE COMMON EVERYDAYWORDS WE USE CAN BE MUCH MORE INSIDIOUS. THIS IS, AGAIN, BECAUSE THEY CAN SOEASILY ESCAPE OUR ATTENTION.HERE IS A SAMPLING OF POWER WORDS THAT YOU MAY WANT TO KEEP AN OPEN EAR TO.NOTICE HOW THEY ARE USED AND HOW THEY EITHER ALLOW OR NEGATE CERTAIN REALITIESAND POSSIBILITIES FROM ENTERING YOUR LIFE:NOTICE WHERE THE POWER IS PLACED WHEN YOU SAY "I CAN‟T DO THAT TODAY" OR "I HAVETO GO SOON." IN ACTUALITY "I CAN‟T" MEANS THAT YOU ARE CHOOSING NOT TO DO THATPARTICULAR THING. YOU ACTUALLY, PHYSICALLY COULD DO THAT PARTICULAR THING, BUTYOU ARE OPTING NOT TO."I HAVE TO," IN REALITY MEANS, "I AM GOING TO," BY MY OWN CHOICE. "I HAVE TO GO TOTHE DENTIST TODAY" OR "I HAVE TO GO MY NEIGHBOUR‟S PARTY" FROM A POWER ANGLECOULD BE PHRASED AS "I AM GOING TO THE DENTIST TODAY (EVEN IF I AM AFRAID)" OR "IAM GOING TO MY NEIGHBOUR‟S PARTY (EVEN THOUGH I DON‟T LIKE HIM).""I CAN‟T GO SHOPPING TONIGHT" FROM A POWER ANGLE TRANSLATES TO "I AM CHOOSINGTO GO SOMEWHERE ELSE TONIGHT (AND NOT SHOPPING)".THERE IS AN IMMENSE UNIVERSE OF DIFFERENCE BETWEEN BELIEVING THAT YOU HAVE TODO SOMETHING AND KNOWING THAT YOU ARE ACTUALLY CHOOSING TO DO SOMETHING. INORDER TO BE A CREATOR IN YOUR LIFE, YOU NEED TO ALIGN YOUR OUTER EXPRESSION OFWORDS WITH YOUR INNER TRUTH. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULWHEN YOU BECOME AWARE OF YOUR WORDS AND STATEMENTS, YOU KNOW EXACTLY WHATMESSAGE OF CREATION YOU ARE SENDING OUT. IT DOES US WELL TO LISTEN TO OUR WORDSAND TO CATCH THE IMPLICATION BEHIND THEM. THE VERY FOUNDATION OF LIVING AS APOWERFUL AND CREATIVE BEING IS IN KNOWING OUR PLACE OF CHOICE AT ALL TIMES. BYUNDERSTANDING AND USING OUR POWER WORDS WITH CARE, WE TAKE A VERY EFFECTIVEROLE IN OUR LIFE. SUCCESS HABITSWHAT ONE THING COULD YOU DO TODAY TO IMPROVE YOUR BUSINESS AND PROFESSIONALSUCCESS? WHAT DIFFERENCE TO YOUR LIFE WOULD THIS MAKE IF IT BECAME A HABIT?FORMING HABITS WHICH BECOME INGRAINED WILL YIELD RESULTS. I HAVE HESITATED TOSAY THE RESULTS YOU REALLY WANT BECAUSE IT DEPENDS ON WHAT YOU ARE DOING.ARE YOUR HABITS KEEPING YOU STUCK OR ARE THEY MOVING YOU FORWARDS? IF ONE OFYOUR HABITS IS SPENDING TOO MUCH TIME PLANNING AND NOT ENOUGH TIME DOING, THENYOU ARE NOT LIKELY TO ACHIEVE YOUR DESIRED RESULTS.LETS TAKE THE EXAMPLE OF SOMEONE WHO NEEDS TO MAKE TELEPHONE CALLS TO FURTHERTHEIR BUSINESS. A HABIT TO BREAK MAY BE SPENDING TOO MUCH TIME THINKING ABOUTEACH CALL, PUTTING IT OFF, OR FINDING OTHER THINGS TO DO. THE NEW HABIT TOINTRODUCE MAY BE TO MAKE 3 TELEPHONE CALLS A DAY OR TO IDENTIFY THE ONE DAILYTELEPHONE CALL WHICH WILL HAVE THE BIGGEST IMPACT ON YOUR BUSINESS.I ENCOURAGE YOU TO IDENTIFY AND INTRODUCE ONE DAILY HABIT INTO YOUR BUSINESS ORPROFESSIONAL LIFE. KEEP IT SMALL TO START WITH AND AS YOUR FEELING OF SUCCESSINCREASES, YOU CAN ADD TO IT. YOUR SUCCESS LIES WITH THE ACTIONS YOU TAKE EACHDAY. WHY FAILURE IS GOOD FOR YOUHOW DO YOU VIEW FAILURE? DO YOU SEE IT AS SOMETHING NEGATIVE THAT YOU DONTWANT TO BE ASSOCIATED WITH OR DO YOU SEE IT AS SOMETHING POSITIVE? MOST PEOPLEIN THE WORLD DONT LIKE FAILURE.FEAR OF FAILURE IS THE MAIN REASON WHY MORE THAN 80% OF PEOPLE IN THE WORLD ARENOT PREPARED TO CHANGE THEIR CIRCUMSTANCES. WHY DO PEOPLE FEAR FAILURE SOMUCH? THE REASON FOR THIS IS BECAUSE PEOPLE DONT UNDERSTAND THE DYNAMICSINVOLVED IN SUCCESS AND FAILURE.EVERYTHING WE DO IN LIFE HAS EITHER A RIGHT WAY OF DOING IT AND A WRONG WAY OFDOING IT. WHEN WE DO IT THE RIGHT WAY WE MEET WITH SUCCESS. NEEDLESS TO SAY THATWHEN WE DO IT THE WRONG WAY WE ARE UNSUCCESSFUL. UNDERSTANDING THIS ISIMPORTANT BECAUSE IT PUTS FAILURE IN ITS PROPER PERSPECTIVE AND REMOVES THE FEARAROUND IT.WHEN SOMEONE WHO DOESNT UNDERSTAND THIS DYNAMIC MEETS WITH TEMPORARYFAILURE HE GIVES UP THINKING THAT HE IS NOT GOOD ENOUGH OR THAT HE WILL NEVERMAKE IT. BUT IS THIS REALLY WHAT IT IS? DOES THE FACT THAT YOU DIDNT MAKE IT THE THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULFIRST TIME MEAN THAT YOU ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH? DOES IT MEAN THAT YOU WILL NEVERMAKE IT? NOT AT ALL! ALL IT MEANS IS YOU HAVE NOT FOUND THE CORRECT METHOD YET!SO WHAT DO YOU DO NEXT?YOU GO BACK AND TRY AND FIND OUT WHERE YOU WENT WRONG.THEN YOU TRY AGAIN BUT THIS TIME EMPLOYING A DIFFERENT METHOD.WHEN THIS DOESNT WORK YOU GO BACK AND LOOK AT EVERYTHING YOU HAVE DONE SOFAR.TALK TO SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE WHO HAVE MADE IT IN THIS AREA.THINK OF WHAT YOU MIGHT HAVE LEFT OUT AND TRY AGAIN.WHATEVER YOU DO, DONT GIVE UP.WHY DO YOU NEED TO DO THIS?EVERY FAILURE, EVERY ADVERSITY AND EVERY HEARTACHE, CARRIES WITH IT THE SEED OFAN EQUIVALENT OR A GREATER BENEFIT.FAILURE CONTAINS THE SEED OF VICTORY AND OF SUCCESS. FAILURE TEACHES YOU WHATWORKS AND WHAT DONT. WHEN YOU STUDY THE REASONS FOR YOUR FAILURE AND LEARNFROM IT, YOU WILL FIND THE KEY TO YOUR SUCCESS.THE GREAT INVENTOR THOMAS EDISON KNEW THIS TRUTH BETTER THAN ANYONE ELSE. ITTOOK EDISON 8000 TRIALS BEFORE HE PERFECTED THE EDISON BATTERY? AFTERWARDS HEUTTERED THIS FAMOUS QUOTE: "AT LEAST WE KNOW 8000 THINGS THAT DONT WORK".YOU SHOULD ALSO BE LIKE THAT. EVERY SUCCESSFUL PERSON HAS HAD TO OVERCOMETEMPORARY DEFEAT AT ONE TIME OR ANOTHER. KNOW THIS! YOU HAVENT REALLY FAILEDUNTIL YOU ACCEPT DEFEAT.DO YOU ENVY THOSE WHO GOT SUCCESS EASILY? DONT! SUCCESS EARNED IN SPITE OFEARLIER FAILURE IS SO MUCH SWEETER THAN IF YOU WOULD GET IT OTHERWISE. THOSEWHO EARN SUCCESS IN THIS WAY KNOW THE ROAD TO SUCCESS. THEY ARE NOT AFRAID OFLOSING WHAT THEY HAVE BECAUSE THEY HAVE LEARNED HOW TO BECOME SUCCESSFUL.THOSE WHO EASILY GOT SUCCESS DONT KNOW THE ROAD. THEY GOT THERE SO QUICKLYTHAT THEY DIDNT BOTHER TO LOOK AROUND. LET ME USE THE FOLLOWING ANALOGY TOILLUSTRATE. TAKE TWO GUYS TRAVELLING TO THE SAME DESTINATION, WITH THISDIFFERENCE. THE ONE IS GOING BY AEROPLANE AND THE OTHER BY CAR, BUT THE ONEARRIVING BY CAR HAD A FEW BREAKDOWNS ALONG THE WAY.IF YOU TAKE THESE TWO GUYS BACK TO THEIR ORIGINAL POSITION AND ASK THEM TO FINDTHEIR WAY TO THEIR DESTINATION, WHO DO YOU THINK IS GOING TO REMEMBER THE ROADBETTER THE NEXT TIME? SURELY THE GUY WHO HAD A FEW BREAKDOWNS AND SPENT SOMETIME ON THE ROAD, BECAUSE HE HAD THE OPPORTUNITY TO LOOK AROUND.LET TEMPORARY DEFEAT NO LONGER BE AN OBSTACLE. YOU HAVE MANY HIDDEN TALENTS, SOSTART WORKING TOWARDS REALISING YOUR DREAMS. DONT BE PUT OFF BY THE FEAR OFFAILURE. FAILURE IS AN ALLY BECAUSE IT CONTAINS THE SEED OF SUCCESS. 3 WAYS TO GET POSITIVE THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULYOU LEAVE YOUR OLD, SECURE JOB FOR A FRESH OPPORTUNITY AT A HOT NEW COMPANY, BUTONE-MONTH LATER THAT HOT COMPANY IS OUT OF GAS, AND YOU ARE OUT OF A JOB.AN OPTIMIST WOULD SAY, "WELL, ITS UNFORTUNATE, BUT ITS JUST TEMPORARY. I HAVEOTHER POSSIBILITIES. I DID ALL I COULD." THIS PERSON BOUNCES BACK FROMDISAPPOINTMENT AND STAYS MOTIVATED.PESSIMISTS, HOWEVER, LOOK AT THE SAME SETBACK AND SAY, "THIS IS TERRIBLE. I WILLNEVER GET OVER IT. IT JUST RUINS EVERYTHING. I DONT HAVE WHAT IT TAKES FOR THISBUSINESS." THIS ATTITUDE WITHERS MOTIVATION AND LEADS TO DESPAIR AND SELF-BLAME.WHICH STYLE IS YOURS? IF YOU TAKE THE PESSIMISTIC APPROACH, YOU MAY BE MAKINGHARMFUL SELF-FULFILLING PROPHECIES, PREDICTING FAILURE AND ROBBING YOURSELF OFENERGY AND DRIVE.IF YOU ARE PLAGUED BY PESSIMISM, GIVE YOUR ATTITUDE AN OVERHAUL. IT JUST TAKESAWARENESS AND EFFORT. START BY LOOKING AT WHAT ARE CALLED THE THREE PS OFPESSIMISM - PERMANENT, PERVASIVE AND PERSONAL.IF YOU THINK THE SITUATION IS PERMANENT, YOU BELIEVE ITS UNCHANGEABLE AND THECONSEQUENCES WILL LAST FOREVER. IF YOU ALLOW THE PROBLEM TO BE PERVASIVE, ITWILL NEGATIVELY AFFECT EVERY AREA OF YOUR LIFE. IF YOU TAKE THE SITUATIONPERSONALLY, YOU FEEL ITS A REFLECTION OF YOUR FLAWS OR FAILURE.LEARN TO CHALLENGE THESE THREE PS.PERMANENT: ALWAYS LOOK TO SEE WHAT CAN BE CHANGED OR SALVAGED, THE OLD MAKINGLEMONADE FROM LEMONS APPROACH.PERVASIVE: FOCUS ON THE SPECIFIC SITUATION AND DONT GENERALISE. DONT LET ONESMALL, ISOLATED PROBLEM BECOME LIKE A WILDFIRE ROARING THROUGH YOUR LIFEAFFECTING EVERYTHING.PERSONAL: DONT PERSONALISE EVENTS WITH SELF-BLAME. ACCEPT LEGITIMATERESPONSIBILITY AND LEARN FROM MISTAKES BUT DONT BEAT YOURSELF UP FOR EVERYSETBACK.THE KEY TO CHANGING YOUR PESSIMISTIC OUTLOOK IS LEARNING THAT YOU CAN CHANGE IT.ACCEPTING THIS TRUTH IS THE FIRST STEP TO PERSONAL GROWTH. NEXT, FOCUS ON YOURSTRENGTHS AND THEN ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR POSITIVE EFFORTS. YOU WILL SOON STARTLIVING BETTER AND HAPPIER 7 STEPS TO A HEALTHIER, HAPPIER YOUHEALTH AND HAPPINESS ARE NOT THAT DIFFICULT TO HAVE IN ONES LIFE. IT JUST TAKESSOME ATTENTION AND SOME ACTION TO INSURE THAT YOU HAVE AS MUCH OF BOTH AS YOUDESIRE. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULFAR FROM BEING DIFFICULT, TIRING EXERCISES, GETTING HEALTHY CAN BE QUITE EASY. AFEW SIMPLE ACTS OR LIFESTYLE CHANGES CAN PUT YOU ON THE PATH TO FEELING HAPPIERAND HEALTHIER FASTER THAN YOU CAN IMAGINE...YOU DONT HAVE TO LIKE EXERCISE TO BE HEALTHY. YOU DONT EVEN REALLY HAVE TO DOEXERCISE TO BE HEALTHY AT LEAST NOT IN AS MUCH AS CREATING A STRICT, HARD-COREDIET AND EXERCISE ROUTINE. A FEW SIMPLE ACTS OR LIFESTYLE CHANGES CAN PUT YOU ONTHE PATH TO FEELING HAPPIER AND HEALTHIER FASTER THAN YOU CAN IMAGINE...EAT BREAKFAST EVERY DAY.YOUR MUM WAS RIGHT, ITS THE MOST IMPORTANT MEAL OF THE DAY. DONT SKIP IT.DRINK LOTS OF WATER.IN THESE DAYS OF COFFEE, TEA, SODAS, COLAS AND COOLERS ITS EASY TO THINK WE AREGETTING ALL THE WATER WE NEED, BUT NOTHING BEATS GOOD OLD PLAIN WATER. NINEGLASSES A DAY.GET A GOOD NIGHTS SLEEP AS ONE WHO DEALS WITH SLEEP PROBLEMS, I CAN TELL YOUFROM EXPERIENCE, POOR SLEEP PATTERNS CAN QUICKLY DISRUPT YOUR LIFE. RESEARCHSHOWS THAT 6 TO 8 HOURS OF RESTFUL SLEEP IS WHAT MOST OF US NEED TO BE HAPPY ANDPRODUCTIVE. IF YOU ARE HAVING PROBLEMS SLEEPING, CONTACT A DOCTOR IMMEDIATELY.EAT MORE FRUITTHE OLD "AN APPLE A DAY KEEPS THE DOCTOR AWAY" SAYING MAY NOT BE 100% TRUE, BUTTHE TRUTH IS THAT FRUIT PROVIDES YOUR BODY WITH NEED VITAMINS, MINERALS ANDNATURAL SUGARS.START WALKINGFOR SHORT, NEARBY TRIPS IN THE NEIGHBOURHOOD, LEAVE THE CAR AT HOME AND TAKE AWALK. DO THIS A FEW TIMES A WEEK AND THE RESULTS WILL AMAZE YOU.TURN OFF THE TELLYREAD A BOOK, GET OUTSIDE AND PLAY WITH THE PING PONG, HAVE A CONVERSATION WITHYOUR SPOUSE. LOOK FOR THINGS TO DO OTHER THAN WATCH THE TELLY, ESPECIALLYAROUND NEWS TIME.LAUGHEVERY DAY. A REAL, GOOD, HEARTY, BELLY LAUGH. LOOK FOR THE FUNNY THINGS THAT LIFEHAS TO OFFER. SHARE A JOKE WITH A FRIEND. SHARE A LOT OF JOKES. LAUGHTER IS GOODFOR THE HEART AND SOUL, FOR YOUR HEALTH AND SPIRIT. NONE OF THESE THINGSREQUIRES YOU TO SPEND A LOT OF MONEY. NONE OF THEM TAKE MUCH TIME OR ENERGY. BUTEACH ONE CAN, OVER TIME, DRAMATICALLY IMPROVE YOUR PHYSICAL AND MENTAL HEALTH.PICK ONE OR TWO TO FOCUS ON THIS WEEK AND BE HEALTHY! MIND OVER MATTERWHY SHOULD WE THINK UPON THINGS THAT ARE LOVELY? BECAUSE THINKING DETERMINESLIFE. IT IS A COMMON HABIT TO BLAME LIFE UPON THE ENVIRONMENT. ENVIRONMENTMODIFIES LIFE BUT DOES NOT GOVERN LIFE. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULIN LIFE A LOT OF THINGS CAN MATTER TO US. WHAT MATTERS TO YOU? FOR EXAMPLE, THETYPE OF CAR YOU DRIVE OR THE NAME BRAND OF THE CLOTHES YOU WEAR. HOW MUCH YOUWEIGH? YOUR AGE? WHAT OTHERS THINK OF YOU?HAVE YOU SAID TO SOMEONE, "IT DOESNT MATTER"? WHAT DID YOU MEAN? HAS ANYONEEVER ASKED YOU, "DOES IT MATTER?" WHAT DID THEY WANT TO KNOW? WHAT ARE WETALKING ABOUT? WHAT IS IT THAT MATTERS? WHAT DOES „MATTER‟ MEAN?SOMETHING MATTERS WHEN IT CONCERNS US. SOMETHING MATTERS WHEN IT IS IMPORTANT.IT MATTERS WHEN WE TAKE IT SERIOUSLY. IF WE DONT TAKE IT SERIOUSLY, IT DOESNTMATTER. WHAT DO YOU TAKE SERIOUSLY? WHAT MATTERS TO YOU? WHAT MATTERS TO YOUDEPENDS UPON WHAT YOU MIND.HAVE YOU EVER BEEN ASKED, "DO YOU MIND?" IT MIGHT BE, "DO YOU MIND IF I SMOKE?" ITMEANS, DO YOU CARE? IT MEANS DOES IT MATTER? MIND AND MATTER ARE CONNECTED.IF YOU MIND, THEN IT MATTERS.AS A CHILD YOU MAY HAVE HEARD THE REFRAIN, "STICKS AND STONES MAY BREAK MYBONES, BUT WORDS CAN NEVER HURT ME." THIS IS TRUE. WORDS ALONE CANNOT HURT YOU.WORDS ONLY HURT IF THEY MATTER. WORDS ONLY HURT IF YOU MIND. IT IS YOUR RESPONSETO THE WORDS THAT DETERMINES HOW YOU REACT.SUPPOSE THAT SOMEONE INSULTS YOU BY CALLING YOU "STUPID." DOES IT MATTER? WELL,IT DOES IF YOU MIND. IF YOU MIND, YOU COULD START THINKING, "WHO DO THEY THINKTHEY ARE? NOBODY CAN TREAT ME THIS WAY. THEY WONT GET AWAY WITH IT. I WILL SHOWTHEM." NOW YOU ARE CAUGHT IN A MOOD OF ANGER BECAUSE IT MATTERS. OR, YOU COULDTHINK, "I GUESS THEY ARE RIGHT. I JUST CANT DO ANYTHING. WHY DO I BOTHER TO TRY?"AGAIN, IT MATTERS BECAUSE YOU MIND AND YOU ALLOW YOURSELF TO SLIP INTO A STATE OFSADNESS AND SELF-CRITICISM.A THIRD POSSIBILITY IS THAT YOU DONT MIND BECAUSE YOU DONT TAKE IT SERIOUSLY.YOU MIGHT THINK, "WELL, THATS THEIR OPINION, BUT I KNOW IT IS NOT TRUE. ITS RUDE,BUT MAYBE THEY ARE HAVING A BAD DAY." YOU PAY IT NO MIND. IT DOESNT MATTER. YOUDONT GET ANGRY OR SAD. YOU DONT DWELL ON IT ALL DAY OR CREATE MISERY FORYOURSELF.HERE IS THE SECRET OF MIND OVER MATTER: IF YOU DONT MIND, THEN IT DOESNT MATTER.BE CAREFUL OF THE THINGS YOU MIND. BE CAREFUL OF WHAT MATTERS. INTENTIONALLYMAKE THESE CHOICES. DECIDE WHAT YOU WILL TAKE SERIOUSLY AND WHAT YOU WILLOVERLOOK.SOME THINGS MATTER AND THEY NEED TO MATTER. THEY ARE IMPORTANT. OTHER THINGSDONT MATTER. THEY ARE OF SMALL CONSEQUENCE. LEARN TO TELL THE DIFFERENCE. LEARNTO PRACTICE MIND OVER MATTER AND SEE IF LIFE GOES BETTER. HOW TO BE A GOOD GUESTFIRST THINGS FIRST. WHEN YOU GET AN INVITATION, R.S.V.P. THE HOST OR HOSTESS NEEDSTO KNOW HOW MANY TO PLAN FOR. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULARRIVE 10-15 MINUTES AFTER THE INVITATION TIME (BUT NO LATER). THIS GIVES YOURHOST AND/OR HOSTESS THOSE LAST FEW MINUTES TO PREPARE.WHEN YOU CALL TO R.S.V.P. CHECK AND SEE IF CHILDREN ARE INVITED, IF THEY HAVENTBEEN EXPLICIT. IF THEY ARENT, DONT BRING YOURS. NOR SHOULD YOU EXPECT YOUR HOSTAND HOSTESS TO SOLVE THE BABYSITTER DILEMMA FOR YOU.DONT ARRIVE EMPTY-HANDED. PARTICIPATE! ITS UP TO YOU TO MAKE IT A PARTY. BEING AGUEST IS NOT A PASSIVE THING. A GOOD PARTY OR GET-TOGETHER RELIES ON EVERYONEBEING PRESENT AND MAKING IT GOOD. TALK TO SOMEONE WHOS ALONE, MIX AND MINGLE,MAKE GOOD CONVERSATION, MAKE IT A POINT TO TALK WITH EVERYONE THERE AT SOMEPOINT, DO YOUR PART.DONT OVERSTAY YOUR WELCOME, NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU ARE ENJOYING YOURSELF.THEYVE BEEN COOKING AND CLEANING FOR DAYS. USE YOUR INTUITION. YOU MAY HAVEBEEN TOLD 2-5, OR JUST "COME AROUND 8", BUT YOUR HOST AND/OR HOSTESS WILL GIVEOFF NON-VERBAL SIGNALS WHEN ITS TIME FOR YOU TO GO HOME.PITCH IN AN UNOBTRUSIVE WAY. SAY GOOD-BYE. EVEN IF ITS A LARGE GATHERING, SEEKOUT THE HOST AND/OR HOSTESS AND TELL THEM GOOD BYE, AND THANK THEM!AND LASTLY, SEND A WRITTEN THANK-YOU NOTE AFTERWARDS. ITS JUST A NICE THING TODO. DONT FORGET TO DO THIS FOR FAMILY, THEY MIGHT BE THE MOST IMPORTANT OF ALL.THINK HOW MUCH YOUR MUM WOULD APPRECIATE IF YOU WROTE HER A NOTE AFTER THEGET-TOGETHER! SMILING, MOODS, & HEALTHHE WHO LAUGHS, LASTS.DO YOU WANT A GUARANTEED, EASY WAY TO IMPROVE YOUR MOOD AND YOUR HEALTH? TRYSMILING. HUMOUR IS GOOD FOR US NOT ONLY FOR OUR MOOD BUT FOR OUR HEALTH ASWELL.LAUGHTER RELIEVES STRESS AND IMPROVES OUR IMMUNE SYSTEM. LAUGHING HAS BEENDESCRIBED AS AN INTERNAL JOG; MASSAGING OUR INNER ORGANS AND GIVING THEM AWORKOUT. SMILING EXERCISES 14 FACIAL MUSCLES. WHEN WE LAUGH OUR BLOODPRESSURE GOES UP AND THEN COMES DOWN. WE ALSO STRETCH OUR LUNGS, RELAX OURCHESTS, AND BREATHE EASIER. LAUGHTER CAUSES OUR BODIES TO RELEASE NEUROCHEMICAL COMPOUNDS ASSOCIATED WITH AN IMPROVED MOOD. WHEN WE CAN LAUGH ATSOMETHING, WE CHANGE OUR PERSPECTIVE AND OUR ATTITUDE.IT IS HARD TO HAVE A GRUMPY OUTLOOK WHEN LAUGHING. AS WE LAUGH, WE MOMENTARILYDISTRACT OURSELVES FROM OUR PROBLEMS AND PERHAPS, EVEN FROM OUR PHYSICALDISCOMFORT. LIFE JUST SEEMS TO GET BETTER WHEN WE CAN LAUGH. HOW FREQUENTLY DOYOU LAUGH?HOW OFTEN DO YOU SMILE?RESEARCH HAS FOUND THAT FOUR-YEAR-OLD CHILDREN SMILE AND LAUGH ABOUT 400 TIMESA DAY WHILE FOR ADULTS SMILES AND LAUGHTER DECREASE TO ONLY 14 TIMES A DAY. FOUR-YEAR-OLDS ARE OFTEN JOYOUS AND ADULTS ARE NOT. WHAT HAPPENS BETWEEN CHILDHOOD THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULAND ADULTHOOD? WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE? MAYBE, AS WE BECOME SERIOUS, HARD-WORKING ADULTS, WE LOSE OUR SENSE OF HUMOUR ALONG WITH THE FREEDOM TO LAUGH.SUCH A LOSS IS UNFORTUNATE BECAUSE HUMOUR CAN BE HEALING.NOW YOU MAY SAY THAT YOU DONT HAVE MUCH TO LAUGH ABOUT AND THIS MAY BE TRUE.IT IS HARD TO FORCE YOURSELF TO LAUGH, ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU DONT FEEL LIKE IT. YOUCAN, HOWEVER, MAKE YOURSELF SMILE. FORCING YOURSELF TO SMILE MAY WORK ALMOSTAS WELL AS LAUGHING, AT LEAST, FOR CHANGING YOUR MOOD. PUTTING A BIG SMILE ONYOUR FACE SENDS A MESSAGE TO YOUR BRAIN THAT THINGS ARE OKAY. IF YOU ARE SMILING,YOUR BRAIN THINKS, "I MUST BE HAPPY!" YOU CAN FOOL YOURSELF INTO FEELING GOOD BYSMILING. AS YOUR MOOD IMPROVES, YOU OPEN YOURSELF TO NEW POSSIBILITIES. OTHERPEOPLE, NOTICING THE CHANGE, RESPOND DIFFERENTLY TO YOU AND SOON YOU MAY BELAUGHING AS WELL AS SMILING. LIFE IS GETTING BETTER BECAUSE YOU SMILED. BE SUREYOU SMILE TODAY. SMILE ON PURPOSE, EVEN IF YOU DONT FEEL LIKE IT. SEE IF YOU CANFOOL YOURSELF INTO A GOOD MOOD. AS THE SAYING GOES, "FAKE IT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT".INTENTIONALLY SMILE. LAUGH, IF YOU CAN. IT IMPROVES YOUR MOOD AND HEALTH. SOSTART SMILING AND SEE IF YOUR LIFE DOESNT BEGIN TO GO BETTER. THE POWER OF FOCUSWHAT ONE THING IS OFTEN MISSING FOR MANY PEOPLE WHO WANT TO BE SUCCESSFUL? THETYPICAL ENTREPRENEURIAL SPIRIT OF HAVING MANY IDEAS, PROJECTS AND THINGS TO DOARE OFTEN THERE IN ABUNDANCE. PERHAPS YOU SEE MANY OPPORTUNITIES ANDPOSSIBILITIES. HOWEVER, THE TENDENCY IS TO SPREAD YOURSELF TOO THIN AND TRY TODO EVERYTHING. THIS OFTEN RESULTS IN YOU NOT ACHIEVING WHAT YOU SAY YOU WANT.IT SEEMS THAT THE MORE IDEAS I HAVE, THE MORE IDEAS THIS GENERATES. RECENTLY THENUMBER OF IDEAS HAVE INCREASED DRAMATICALLY. THEY ARE THERE FIRST THING IN THEMORNING AND EVEN WAKING ME IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT. VISUALISING ANDJOURNALING IS BRINGING UP EVEN MORE. I FEEL INSPIRED, EXCITED AND HAVE A LOT OFENTHUSIASM FOR MANY OF THE IDEAS. HOWEVER, I REALISED THAT IF I WANTED TO TURNTHESE IDEAS AROUND, GET THEM COMPLETED AND BE MORE PRODUCTIVE, THERE WAS ONLYONE THING FOR IT. I NEEDED TO BE EVEN MORE FOCUSED THAN ID EVER BEEN. A CLEARINTENTIONAL FOCUS THAT MOVES US TOWARDS OUR DREAMS QUICKLY AND EFFECTIVELY.ALTHOUGH YOU MAY BE VERY BUSY, WHEN YOU HAVE TOO MANY THINGS ON THE GO ATONCE, THEY ARE OFTEN SCATTERED AND YOU END UP DABBLING IN THINGS. YOU THEN FINDYOU ARE NOT PRODUCING THE RESULTS YOU WANT. NOT ONLY THIS, BUT YOU MAY FEELOVERWHELMED, FRUSTRATED AND FED UP. THE FRICTION OF BEING PULLED IN MANYDIRECTIONS, FEELING STRESSED AND HEAVY, EATS UP YOUR TIME AND ENERGY, LEAVING YOULESS ABLE TO BE FOCUSED AND MOVE FORWARD.IF YOU ARE SOMEONE WHO HAS LOTS OF IDEAS, PROJECTS AND THINGS YOU WANT TO DO,ACKNOWLEDGE THIS FACT. ACCEPT THAT YOU DONT NEED TO ACT ON THEM ALL NOW AND BEWILLING TO LET SOME THINGS GO FOR THE TIME BEING. THERE WILL UNDOUBTEDLY BESOME FEAR ABOUT THIS, WHICH IS NATURAL. CHOOSE TO BE WITH THE FEAR, ACCEPT IT FORWHAT IT IS AND CHOOSE INSTEAD TO BE FOCUSED.WHEN YOU CHOOSE TO BE FOCUSED, YOU WILL EXPERIENCE A SENSE OF ACHIEVEMENT ANDINCREASED SUCCESS. FOCUS BUILDS MOMENTUM FOR FASTER RESULTS, LEAVING YOU MOREPRODUCTIVE AND EFFECTIVE. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULWHEN YOU ARE READY AND WILLING TO BE MORE FOCUSED, I SUGGEST YOU START BYEXAMINING ALL THE POSSIBILITIES. BRAINSTORM IT ALL OUT ON PAPER. GET IT OUT OFYOUR HEAD SO YOU CAN SEE IT ALL CLEARLY. WHEN YOU CAN SEE THE BIGGER PICTUREMORE CLEARLY, START EXPERIMENTING WITH BEING FOCUSED. PLAY WITH THE IDEA OFFOCUSING ON ONLY 3 THINGS. CHOOSE THE 3 IDEAS THAT EITHER FEEL MOST IMPORTANT TOYOU, OR WHERE YOUR PASSION LIES, OR WHAT WOULD BRING YOUR DREAM ALIVE OR MAKEYOUR HEART SING. WRITE DOWN YOUR 3 AREAS OF FOCUS, SPECIFICALLY. THE MORESPECIFIC YOU ARE, THE MORE FOCUSED YOU WILL BE.WHEN YOU HAVE CHOSEN 3 THINGS, SEE EXACTLY WHERE THEY FIT INTO YOUR VISION ORDREAM AND ASCERTAIN WHETHER THEY ARE THE MOST EFFECTIVE CHOICE TODAY. WITHEACH OF YOUR 3 IDEAS, DEFINE YOUR COMPELLING REASON FOR PURSUING THEM ANDIDENTIFY WHAT EACH WILL GIVE YOU. YOUR COMPELLING REASON WILL INSPIRE YOU TOCONTINUE AND BE COMMITTED. CHECK EACH DAY ON YOUR 3 AREAS OF FOCUS AND TAKEACTIONS, WHICH ARE ALIGNED WITH BEING FOCUSED.MAKING THE SHIFT TO BEING FOCUSED AND EXPERIMENTING WITH THE IDEA OF ONLYPURSUING 3 IDEAS AT ANY ONE TIME MAY BE QUITE A STEP OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE.YOU MAY START THIS EXPERIMENT ONLY TO FIND YOURSELF SLIPPING BACK. IF YOURE READYTO BE FOCUSED, WHOM DO YOU KNOW WHO WILL CHALLENGE YOU TO MAINTAIN YOURFOCUS? BEING CHALLENGED IN A HEALTHY WAY BY SOMEONE ELSE CAN ADD FUN TO THEPROCESS, KEEPING IT LIGHT-HEARTED AND HELPING YOU TO MAINTAIN YOUR COMMITMENT.WHAT I WANT FOR YOU IS TO BE FOCUSSED, ENABLING YOU TO ATTRACT AND ACHIEVE THESUCCESS YOU WANT. THE 7 BREAKTHROUGH WAYS TO CRUSH PROCRASTINATION1. SUCCESS IS NOT ACHIEVED ACCIDENTALLY. IT IS A SYSTEMATIC, DELIBERATE PROCESS OFDECIDING WHAT YOU WANT TO DO WITH YOUR LIFE, WHAT YOU WILL DO WHEN YOU GETTHERE AND WHAT THE STEPS ARE TO GET YOU WHERE YOU WANT TO BE. ONE OF THE MOSTIMPORTANT ASPECTS OF SUCCESS IS THE ABILITY TO VISUALISE YOUR PATH AND STAYFOCUSED ON YOUR GOAL UNTIL YOU REACH IT.2. THE MORE RAPIDLY YOU ENVISION YOUR DREAMS AND DEVELOP A PLAN TO TURN THEMINTO REALITY, THE FASTER YOU WILL ACCOMPLISH YOUR GOALS. MENTAL PICTURES ARE AMECHANISM TO LEAD YOU DOWN THE PATH OF TRUE INDEPENDENCE AND MOTIVATION.PROCRASTINATION IS A SELF-DEFEATING BEHAVIOUR THAT DEVELOPS IN PART DUE TO LOWSELF-ESTEEM AND FEAR OF FAILURE. YOUR IMAGINATION IS LIKE A PREVIEW OF YOURFUTURE. IF YOU DONT USE YOUR IMAGINATION YOUR LIFE WILL REMAIN MUNDANE ANDUNFULFILLING.3. OVERCOMING PROCRASTINATION IS THE FIRST STEP IN HELPING YOU CREATE THELIFESTYLE YOU DESIRE. YOU MUST CHANGE THE HABITS AND BEHAVIOURS THAT LED YOU TOPROCRASTINATE IN THE FIRST PLACE. CHANGE IS A SLOW PROCESS SO BE SURE TO REWARDYOURSELF ALONG THE WAY FOR SMALL ACHIEVEMENTS. INSTEAD OF FOCUSING ON THEDIFFICULTY OF A LARGE TASK, BREAK IT INTO SMALLER JOBS AND CREATE A TIMELINE FORFINISHING THEM.4. SEVERAL SMALL JOBS DONE OVER TIME ARE MUCH MORE MANAGEABLE THAT ONE LARGETASK WITH NO END IN SIGHT. YOU WILL BE ASTONISHED AT HOW MUCH YOU CAN GET DONE THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULIF YOU CONCENTRATE ON ONE THING AT A TIME INSTEAD OF CLUTTERING YOUR MIND WITHMULTIPLE TASKS. TRY TACKLING THE MORE UNDESIRABLE TASKS EARLY IN THE DAY SO THATBY AFTERNOON YOU CAN PURSUE MORE PLEASANT ACTIVITIES.5. RELIEVE YOURSELF OF THE PRESSURE CREATED BY CLUTTER IN YOUR OFFICE OR HOME.DEVELOP A FILING SYSTEM, RID YOURSELF OF UNNECESSARY PAPERS AND GIVE YOURSELF ANORGANISED PLACE TO WORK. WHEN YOU EXERCISE SELF-DISCIPLINE IN YOURSURROUNDINGS AS WELL AS YOUR BEHAVIOURS, YOU WILL MAKE MAJOR STRIDES INACCOMPLISHING YOUR GOALS IN A SHORTER PERIOD OF TIME. NO MATTER WHAT ISHAPPENING AROUND YOU, KEEP YOUR MIND FOCUSED ON THE REWARD YOU WILL RECEIVE BYREACHING YOUR GOALS.6. IF PEOPLE OR OUTSIDE FORCES DISTRACT YOU, USE THE POWER OF THE HUMAN MIND TOBLOCK OUT WHAT IMPEDES YOUR PROGRESS AND CONCENTRATE SOLELY ON THE TASK ATHAND. YOU WILL MAKE REMARKABLE PROGRESS BY REFUSING TO LET OTHERS ALTER THEPATH YOU HAVE CHOSEN. OVERCOMING PROCRASTINATION AND STAYING MOTIVATED IS THEWAY TO LIFETIME SUCCESS AND HAPPINESS. YOU WILL ACHIEVE YOUR GOALS RAPIDLY WHENYOU STAY FOCUSED ON YOUR DESTINATION AND THE REWARDS THAT WILL FOLLOW.7. REVIEW YOUR HABITS AND WAY OF THINKING TO DETERMINE WHAT YOU ARE VISUALISINGMOST OF THE TIME. IF YOUR VISIONS DO NOT LEAD YOU IN THE DIRECTION OFACCOMPLISHING YOUR GOALS, THEN YOU MUST CHANGE THEM. DISCIPLINE YOURSELF TOCONCENTRATE ON YOUR GOALS THE MAJORITY OF THE TIME AND IF YOU STRAY FROM THEPATH, GET PROMPTLY BACK ON. IMAGINE WHAT THE REWARDS WILL BE WHEN YOU FINALLYREACH YOUR DESTINATION AND KEEP THAT THOUGHT FOREMOST IN YOUR MIND.PROCRASTINATION IS OF NO USE TO YOU IN YOUR QUEST TO FULFIL YOUR DREAMS. LOSETHOSE OLD HABITS AND REPLACE THEM WITH HABITS THAT LEAD TO SELF-MOTIVATION ANDCONTROL OVER YOUR LIFE. TOP 10 WAYS TO START LIVING A MORE MEANINGFUL LIFETOO MANY OF US LIVE LIKE GOLDFISH, SWIMMING IN THE SAME ORBIT DAY IN AND DAY OUTFEELING UNINSPIRED, TIRED, BORED AND SOMETIMES WORSE. LIFE IS MUCH TOO PRECIOUSTO WASTE THAT WAY. EVERY PERSON HAS A UNIQUE PURPOSE IN LIFE. I IMPLORE YOU NOTTO WASTE YOUR DAYS BERATING YOURSELF FOR WHAT YOU DONT KNOW AND DONT DOWELL. INSTEAD, DISCOVER YOUR STRENGTHS, PASSIONS, PURPOSE AND BUILD YOUR LIFE ONTHOSE.HERE ARE 10 IDEAS ABOUT LIVING A MEANINGFUL LIFE, AS I UNDERSTAND THEM.EMBRACING EVEN A FEW OF THESE WILL HELP YOU BEGIN THE EXCITING JOURNEY OF SELF-DISCOVERY.1. WE ARE ALL HERE FOR A PURPOSE. YOUR BEING HERE MAKES A DIFFERENCE. YOURPURPOSE MAY BE OBSCURE TO YOU AND A CHALLENGE TO DISCOVER. START NOW. THERE AREMANY RESOURCES, BOOKS TO HELP YOU WITH THIS ENDEAVOUR.2. THE SECRET TO FULFILMENT IS SELF-KNOWLEDGE. START THE EXCITING JOURNEY OFDISCOVERY. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFUL3. THE SECOND PART OF THE SECRET TO FULFILMENT IS TO APPLY YOUR SELF-KNOWLEDGETO WHAT YOU DO AND HOW YOU LIVE. THE MORE YOU KNOW, THE MORE YOU CAN ACTIVELYPURSUE YOUR TRUE PURPOSE.4. DONT WASTE TIME LAMENTING WHAT YOU DONT DO WELL. CONCENTRATE ON YOURSTRENGTHS. THOSE REFLECT WHO YOU ARE. LEAVE THE OTHER THINGS TO PEOPLE WHO DOTHEM WELL.5. BUILD ON YOUR STRENGTHS. DO MORE OF THEM AND GIVE YOURSELF RECOGNITION FORDOING THE THINGS YOU DO WELL.6. PAY ATTENTION TO THE SMALL DETAILS THAT YOU ENJOY IN YOUR EVERYDAY LIFE. DOMORE OF THEM.7. PAY ATTENTION TO THE SMALL DETAILS YOU DONT ENJOY. FIND WAYS (SUCH ASDELEGATION) TO ELIMINATE AS MANY OF THEM AS POSSIBLE.8. KEEP A JOURNAL AND PUT PARTICULAR EMPHASIS ON THE THINGS ABOUT YOURSELF ANDEVENTS IN YOUR LIFE FOR WHICH YOU ARE GRATEFUL.9. MAKE AN EFFORT TO RELEASE THE NEGATIVE ASPECTS OF YOUR PAST. TRY NOT BEIMPRISONED BY YOUR PAST. DO NOT DEFINE YOURSELF BY YOUR PAST.10. JUMPSTART YOUR SELF-ESTEEM BY GIVING BACK TO THE COMMUNITY. VOLUNTEER IN AMEANINGFUL WAY THAT SUITS WHO YOU ARE AND YOUR INTERESTS. ENJOY THE JOURNEY.YOU WILL GET TO KNOW AND LIKE YOURSELF IN A WHOLE NEW WAY. WORK WITH A FRIEND,AND USE THE RESOURCES OUT THERE, TO HELP YOU WITH OBJECTIVITY.HAVE SOMEONE POINT OUT THE GOOD THINGS ABOUT YOU THAT YOU HAVE A TENDENCY TOOVERLOOK. AS SOON AS YOU STOP DOING WHAT YOU HATE AND START DOING WHAT YOULOVE, YOU MAY FIND YOUR LIFE MORE MEANINGFUL AND FULFILLING. THE 5 SECRETS TO STAYING MOTIVATED UNTIL YOU SUCCEEDFOR A LOT OF US OUR WORK SCHEDULES AT HOME AND AT OUR JOBS HAVE BEEN A MAJORSOURCE OF COMPLICATIONS IN OUR LIVES. OUR FINANCIAL WELL BEING DEPENDS ON OURPAYCHEQUE, AND OUR MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL WELL BEING DEPENDS IN PART ON HAVING AWELL-ORGANISED LIFE.BUT A FEW SIMPLE CHANGES IN YOUR LIFE CAN SHOW YOU HOW TO STAY MOTIVATED UNTILYOU SUCCEED. WITH SO MANY DEMANDS BEING PLACED UPON US, IT BECOMES CONFUSINGAS TO WHERE TO PLACE OUR PRIORITIES. SOMEWHERE ALONG THE WAY, IN THE MIDST OFALL THE UNCERTAINTIES OF OUR LIVES, WE TEND TO LOSE OUR SENSE OF MOTIVATION. ANDINSTEAD CHOOSE THE PATH OF LEAST RESISTANCE, PROCRASTINATION.HERE ARE A FEW SECRET TIPS TO GET YOUR LIFE ORGANISED SO YOU CAN BECOMEMOTIVATED UNTIL YOU SUCCEED...1. FOR MOST OF US, A JOB IS OUR MEANS OF FINANCIAL SUPPORT AND CONTRIBUTES TOOUR PHYSICAL, MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH AS WELL, SO QUITTING YOUR JOB IS NOTAN OPTION FOR MOST. THE TRICK IS TO BALANCE YOUR JOB WITH YOUR HOME LIFE. THIS THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULCAN BE A CHALLENGING TASK BUT YOU CAN BEGIN BY CUTTING YOUR WORKDAY TO EIGHT ORNINE HOURS A DAY TO ALLOW YOURSELF MORE TIME AT HOME. IF MAKING CHANGES IN THENUMBER OF HOURS YOU WORK IS NOT POSSIBLE FOR YOU, TRY SIMPLIFYING IN OTHERAREAS TO GIVE YOU MORE TIME, ENERGY AND MONEY; THAT IS, IF YOU LIVE SIMPLY, YOUWILL NOT NEED AS MUCH MONEY.2. EVEN TAKING THE SIMPLEST STEPS CAN REWARD YOU WITH MORE TIME AND LESS STRESS,SUCH AS CHANGING YOUR EXPECTATIONS OF OTHERS (ONE LESS THING TO WORRY ABOUT),DROPPING THE CALL WAITING FEATURE ON YOUR TELEPHONE AND HAVING SIMPLE HOLIDAYSWITHOUT MUCH FUSS OR SPENDING A LOT OF MONEY.3. GETTING RID OF THE EMOTIONAL GARBAGE IN YOUR LIFE SUCH AS ANGER, HATRED ANDFORGIVING THOSE WHO NEED YOUR FORGIVENESS OR MENDING BROKEN RELATIONSHIPSWILL HELP CLEAR THE WAY TO SHOW YOU HOW TO STAY MOTIVATED UNTIL YOU SUCCEED BYGIVING YOU BACK YOUR TIME AND ENERGY. DECIDE HOW YOU WANT YOUR LIFE TO BE. WHATDO YOU NEED MOST IN YOUR LIFE AT THIS MOMENT ENERGY, PEACE, QUIET, TRANQUILLITY,WISDOM, SPIRITUAL GROWTH? MAKE A PROMISE TO YOURSELF THAT YOU WILL ACHIEVEWHATEVER YOU WANT AND THEN SET ABOUT TO MAKE IT HAPPEN.4. CONCENTRATE ON WHATS MOST IMPORTANT AND PRIORITISE YOUR TASK LIST (THISSHOULD BE DONE BOTH AT YOUR JOB AND AT HOME). A GOOD METHOD IS TO PLACE EACHITEM ON YOUR "TO DO" LIST IN ITS PROPER PERSPECTIVE BY HAVING THREE LISTS: "MUST BEDONE," "SHOULD BE DONE," AND "NICE THINGS TO DO." ONCE YOU PLACE A VALUE ON EACHITEM YOU WILL QUICKLY SEE THAT SOME THINGS NEED NOT BE DONE AT ALL. IN FACT, THEONLY TIME PROCRASTINATION MAY PAY OFF MIGHT BE WHEN EVERYTHING ON THE "NICETHINGS TO DO" LIST CAN ALL BE MARKED OFF AS UNNECESSARY.5. DONT BE AFRAID TO ASK FOR HELP. THE SHEER VOLUME OF TASKS IN OUR DAILY LIVES ISENOUGH TO MAKE US WANT IT TO "JUST GO AWAY." AS A RESULT WE PROCRASTINATE, THUSLOSING OUR MOTIVATION. IT IS NOT A SIGN OF INCOMPETENCE OR INEFFICIENCY TO ADMITYOU NEED HELP. LET YOUR CO-WORKERS OR YOUR SUPERVISOR AT WORK KNOW YOU NEEDHELP. AT HOME, EVEN THE SMALLEST CHILD IN YOUR FAMILY CAN DO SIMPLE TASKS.SLOW DOWN, SIMPLIFY, SPEND LESS, ENJOY SIMPLE PLEASURES WITH YOUR FAMILY THATDONT COST A CENT, AND YOUR LIFE MAY BECOME MORE BEAUTIFUL, HAPPIER ANDFULFILLING. GETTING ORGANISED AND RIDDING YOURSELF OF THINGS THAT AREUNNECESSARY ARE THE FIRST STEPS OF LEARNING HOW TO STAY MOTIVATED UNTIL YOUSUCCEED. CAN YOU BE AN OPTIMISTIC REALIST?ONE QUESTION YOU MIGHT HAVE WHEN YOU READ THIS TITLE IS, "WHY I WANT TO BE ANOPTIMIST?" OR, EVEN, "HOW COULD I BE OPTIMISTIC WITH LIFE THE WAY IT IS?" OR "WHOCOULD BE AN OPTIMIST IN TODAYS WORLD? AND "TODAYS WORLD" MAY MEAN TO YOU THATOFFICE YOU WORK IN THATS SO HOPELESSLY UNDERSTAFFED AND DISORGANISED, OR YOURINEPT BOSS, OR TERRORISM, STARVATION AND VIOLENCE IN THE WORLD, YOUR PERSONALINADEQUACIES FOR FACING YOUR PERSONAL CHALLENGES, THE LACK OF HELP AROUND THEHOUSE, YOUR HYPER 2 YEAR OLD TWIN BOYS, SPENDING YOUR DAYS REELING AMONG THEEMOTIONAL STATES OF YOUR TEENAGERS, YOUR MIDLIFE-CRISIS SPOUSE, AND YOUR AGEINGMOTHER, OR ANY OF THE ABOVE. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULI WAS REMINDED OF THIS DILEMMA WHEN I WAS CORNERED THE OTHER DAY BY ACOLLEAGUE WHOSE WIFE WAS WATCHING THE PRINCE CHARLES THING ON THE TELLY, WHENTHERE WERE MORE IMPORTANT THINGS GOING ON IN THE WORLD. BY THE END OF HISTIRADE HE HAD LISTED TERRORISM, CANCER, THE NATIONAL BUDGET CRISIS AND THE LEGALSYSTEM AS THINGS MORE WORTHY OF OUR ATTENTION THAT WERE, AT THE SAME TIME. BYTHE END OF HIS TIRADE, HIS WIFES "PESSIMISTIC ATTITUDE" HAD BEEN ADDED TO THELIST, AS HAVING "RUINED" HIS DAY. AND, HAD I ALLOWED IT, I COULDVE ADDED TO THE LISTTHAT HIS RETELLING OF THE WAR STORY HAD "RUINED" MINE.LETS FACE IT: ITS EASIER TO BE CYNICAL. ITS ALSO MORE REALISTIC TO BE CYNICAL. IFYOU ARE THE KIND OF PERSON WHO HAS A NEED TO BE RIGHT, BETTING THAT THE WORKPROJECT WILL BE MESSED UP, THAT THE MARRIAGE WILL NEVER LAST AND THAT BUSH WILLMAKE ANOTHER DECISION THAT WILL FAIL TO MAKE THE WORLD PERFECT ARE SURER BETSTHAN THE OPPOSITE.AND SO, IF YOU ARE NEGATIVE AND PESSIMISTIC, YOU WILL MORE OFTEN BE RIGHT. BUTLOOK AT WHAT ELSE YOU WILL GET: YOU WILL ATTRACT TO YOURSELF PEOPLE WHO FEEL THESAME WAY AND WILL JOIN YOU IN A NEGATIVE DOWNWARD SPIRAL; YOU WILL BE QUICK TOBLAME ANYTHING BUT YOURSELF, LEAVING YOURSELF FEELING HOPELESS AND HELPLESS ASWELL AS ANGRY; YOU WILL WASTE A LOT OF TIME BELABOURING THE OBVIOUS; AND YOUWILL ALSO STRESS YOURSELF AND YOUR IMMUNE SYSTEM. NEGATIVE THINKING LEADS TONEGATIVE EMOTIONS, WHICH BRING ON PHYSIOLOGICAL REACTIONS WHICH CAN DAMAGEYOUR HEALTH IN THE SHORT-TERM AND IN THE LONG-TERM.BEING OPTIMISTIC DOESNT MEAN NOT BEING REALISTIC. IT MEANS MAKING CHOICES THATINFLUENCE OUTCOMES, BECAUSE THEY CAN ALSO BE SELF-FULFILLING. IF YOU ARE SUREYOUR SECRETARY IS GOING TO FAIL YOU AGAIN, SHE WILL. WE ARE ALL INFLUENCED BY THEENERGY AROUND US AND WHO CAN FUNCTION WHEN SOMEONE IS HOVERING AROUND THEMWHO THINKS SHE OR HE IS "AN IDIOT"? ALSO, IF YOU ARE DETERMINED SHE WILL FAIL YOU,YOU MUST MAKE THAT HAPPEN TO DEFEND YOUR EGO AND SO WHAT ELSE CAN YOU THINKWHEN ITS OVER? SHE FAILED YOU.REALISM WOULD SAY, IF YOU TRULY HIRED THE WRONG PERSON, DONT BE A VICTIM. TAKECARE OF THE PROBLEM. IF YOU HIRED A PERSON WHO, LIKE EVERYONE ELSE, HAS GOODDAYS AND BAD, WORKS IN AN IMPERFECT SYSTEM, HAS TO TRY AND READ YOUR MIND ANDACCOMMODATE TO YOUR ADMITTEDLY DIFFICULT DISPOSITION AT TIMES AND IS OVER-WORKED, DONT PLAY THE VICTIM. LOOK AT THE SYSTEM AND SEE WHAT YOU CAN DO TOMAKE THINGS WORK BETTER, ASSUMING (OPTIMISTICALLY) THAT THIS IS POSSIBLE, I.E.,THINGS WILL NEVER BE PERFECT, BUT THEY CAN GENERALLY BE IMPROVED UPON AND YOUARE THE ONE TO DO IT. YOU COULD START, IN THAT INSTANCE, WITH YOUR OWN ATTITUDEAND EXPECTATIONS.IN FACT, IF YOU WANT TO MAKE THE WORLD A BETTER PLACE, START WITH YOURSECRETARYS "WORLD." GET IT? PRAGMATICALLY SPEAKING, THAT IS, IF YOU WANT TOFUNCTION IN THE REAL WORLD, AN OPTIMISTIC VIEW WORKS BETTER. IT GIVES YOU THEENERGY TO MAKE THINGS HAPPEN, BECAUSE IT GIVES YOU POSITIVE EMOTIONAL ENERGY.FUNCTIONALLY SPEAKING, IT IS WISER TO BE OPTIMISTIC. OPTIMISM IS A TOOL, THEREFORE.IF YOU CAN STILL THAT VOICE IN YOUR HEAD THAT SAYS EVERYTHING STINKS, YOU CANBEGIN TO SEE WHAT YOU CAN DO ABOUT THINGS AS THEY ARE, SOME OF WHICH, YES,"STINK," BUT NOT ALL. IF YOU ARE PLAGUED BY THE SUFFERING OF TERRORISM ANDTSUNAMIS, FOR INSTANCE, SET ASIDE A TIME TO FIGURE OUT WHAT YOU CAN DO ABOUT THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULTHEM. YOU WILL QUICKLY REALISE THE DILEMMA OF WORLD LEADERS WHO ACTUALLY HAVETO DO THIS ON A GRAND SCALE; BUT YOU WILL ALSO FIND SMALL THINGS YOU CAN DO INYOUR OWN WORLD TO ADDRESS THESE ILLS. CALL YOUR LOCAL RED CRESCENT. THEY HAVEBEEN WAITING FOR YOUR CALL; BECAUSE, CONTRARY TO WHAT THE PESSIMIST THINKS, YOUSEE, THERE ARE MANY PEOPLE WHO CARE ABOUT THE SUFFERING IN THE WORLD AND AREDOING SOMETHING ABOUT IT RATHER THAN COMPLAINING.IN THE MEANTIME, KEEP YOUR OWN LIFE GOING IN A POSITIVE DIRECTION, WITH OPTIMISM.IF YOU ARE DETERMINED THAT YOU CANT BE HAPPY UNTIL ALL THE ILLS OF THE WORLD HAVEBEEN ADDRESSED, YOU WILL BE A LONG TIME WAITING. YOU WILL ALSO FAIL TO ADDRESSWHAT YOU CAN ADDRESS, BECAUSE OF LAMENTING OVER LARGER THINGS, WHICH BASICALLYARE BEYOND YOUR CONTROL. IF YOU WANT TO TURN AROUND YOUR ATTITUDE, TURN YOURFACE IN ANOTHER DIRECTION. TO FOCUS ON WHATS RIGHT ABOUT THINGS DOESNT MEANYOU DONT KNOW WHAT THINGS ARE WRONG, OR HOW WRONG THEY ARE. IT MEANS YOUARE MAKING A CHOICE ABOUT YOUR OWN PORTION OF THE WORLD, YOUR RESPONSIBILITYIN IT, AND YOUR OUTLOOK.DOES IT HELP "THE WORLD" IF YOU GO ON A TIRADE FIRST THING IN THE MORNING ANDDUMP ALL YOUR FRUSTRATION ON YOUR SPOUSE? OF COURSE NOT. REMEMBER YOU ANDYOUR SPOUSE ARE ALSO A PART OF "THE WORLD." FROM AN OBJECTIVE POSITION, THEYOUNG MAN MENTIONED ABOVE HAS A GOOD JOB, A NICE HOME, PLENTY OF FOOD,CLOTHING AND NECESSITIES, AND A LOVELY WIFE WHO WAS CHEERFUL, LOVELY ANDDRESSED TO GO TO HER JOB FOR THE DAY. THATS A SCENE HALF THE PEOPLE IN THIS WILLNEVER HAVE. OPTIMISM MEANS, NOT "SLAYING THE REAL FOR THE UNREAL." THE MOMENTTHIS YOUNG MAN HAD WAS REAL AND IT WAS GOOD. THEN HE GOT INTO HIS OWN HEAD ANDDRAGGED UP ALL THE REASONS HE COULD THINK OF TO BE UNHAPPY; REASONS WHICHEXIST AND ARE AVAILABLE TO ALL OF US, BUT SO IS THE CONTENTMENT OF THE IMMEDIATEREALITY. ITS ALMOST LIKE HE TAKES PRIDE IN BEING ABLE TO FIGURE OUT THERE ARE ILLSIN THE WORLD, AS IF HE WERE ONLY ONE WHO KNEW THIS AND WERE CONCERNED ABOUT IT.FOR AN EXAMPLE OF WHAT YOUR SELF-TALK DOES TO YOU, CONSIDER THIS SCENARIO. LETSSAY HASSAN IS FEELING LOW. HE THINKS HIS LIFE IS IMPOSSIBLE; IT CONTAINS THE USUALARRAY OF HARD WORK, TOO MUCH STRESS, ARGUMENTS WITH HIS WIFE AND KIDS AND AHOME PLUMBING SYSTEM THAT KEEPS BACKING UP. HOWEVER, HIS JOB, WIFE AND KIDS AREALL WITHIN "THE NORMAL RANGE." HE WALKS OUTSIDE AND HAS A CHAT WITH HISNEIGHBOUR. THE NEIGHBOUR HAS A 23-YEAR-OLD SON WHO LIVES WITH HIM AND HIS WIFE.THEY ARE RETIRED, LIVING ON A LIMITED INCOME AND SUFFERING HEALTH PROBLEMS. MOSTOF US WOULD SAY, A PRAYER FOR THE NEIGHBOUR, BUT A SENSE OF GRATITUDE FOR OUROWN SET OF PROBLEMS, WHICH IS MUCH SMALLER AND SOMEHOW SEEMS, NOW, MOREMANAGEABLE. HASSAN, THE PESSIMIST, HOWEVER, GOES BACK INSIDE FEELING LOWER THANEVER, HAVING DECIDED THAT IF THE WORLD IS THAT AWFUL, WHY TRY AT ALL.PESSIMISM HAS ITS ROOTS IN OUR BELIEFS, WHICH FEED INTO OUR EXPECTATIONS. IF APERFECT WORLD IS ONE OF YOUR BELIEFS, OR THE FEELING THAT YOU CANT BE HAPPY UNTILYOU LIVE IN A PERFECT WORLD, WHY NOT TAKE IT OUT AND HAVE ANOTHER LOOK. WRITEDOWN YOUR CORE BELIEFS AND THEN GO OVER THEM WITH OPTIMISM AND PESSIMISM INMIND.LEARN ABOUT OPTIMISM AND HAVE IT AVAILABLE. BE ABLE TO CHANGE YOUR SELF-TALK ANDATTITUDE. THIS FLEXIBILITY WILL DEVELOP YOUR EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE, AND IN THELONG RUN, THE HAPPINESS YOU SAVE MAY BE YOUR OWN. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFUL WIN THE INNER GAME OF SUCCESS -- THE DYNAMIC PATH TOWARD THE LIFE YOU MOST DESIRE!DO WE ALL WANT TO LIVE LIVES OF DEEP SATISFACTION AND SUCCESS? SURE, WHOWOULDN‟T? HOWEVER, MOST OF US HAVE BEEN KNOCKED AROUND BY LIFE ENOUGH TOBEGIN TO LOSE OUR FAITH THAT OUR DREAMS ARE ACTUALLY REACHABLE.I HAVE HAD TO FIGHT THIS CHALLENGE MYSELF AND I HAVE COME TO BELIEVE THAT IT ISENTIRELY POSSIBLE FOR US TO SUCCEED AND REACH ALL OF OUR DREAMS. AND THAT MEANSYOU, TOO. HOW DO I KNOW? BECAUSE I AM SUCCEEDING AND WINNING THE INNER GAME OFSUCCESS.IF I CAN DO IT, I ABSOLUTELY KNOW THAT YOU CAN TOO. WHY? BECAUSE I AM NOBODYSPECIAL, JUST A GUY WHO HAD A DREAM TO HELP AS MANY PEOPLE AS POSSIBLE. (MAYBE„PEOPLE‟ LIKE YOU…).FAR TOO MANY TIMES, WE ARE EXPOSED TO GOOD IDEAS AND THEN WE WATCH THEM WASHAWAY IN THE LAUNDRY OF OUR LIVES. IS THERE ANOTHER CHOICE? YES. BUT FIRST WE HAVETO LOOK AT WHAT GETS IN THE WAY. THERE ARE OF COURSE LOTS OF OBSTACLES, BUT FOURBIG ONES THAT STAND OUT. I CALL THESE ROADBLOCKS THE BIG STOPPERS:BIG STOPPER #1:TAKING ACTION THAT EITHER DOESN‟T HELP OR ACTUALLY TAKES YOU IN THE WRONGDIRECTION AWAY FROM YOUR GOALS AND DREAMS. MY FRIENDS KNOW THIS ALL TOO WELL.SO OFTEN WE STEP INTO OUR DREAMS WITH EXCITEMENT AND ENTHUSIASM AND END UPTAKING STEPS THAT DON‟T MATTER, THAT ARE REALLY WAYS TO AVOID THE TOUGHER, MOREDEMANDING, “REAL” STEPS, THE STEPS THAT WILL REALLY MAKE A DIFFERENCE. I KNOW, IHAVE DONE IT TOO, SO IT‟S OKAY TO ADMIT IT.BIG STOPPER #2:WAITING. IT‟S SIMPLE: THE FAST EATS THE SLOW. PROCRASTINATION STOPS SUCCESS COLD.IT JUST DOES. WE CAN NO LONGER AFFORD TO SIT AND THINK ABOUT THIS IDEA OR THATONE, WEIGHING THEM OUT ENDLESSLY. A PERSON GEARED TOWARD SUCCESS STEPS INTOTHE DREAM, JUMP-STARTS THE ENTHUSIASM AND GETS GOING. IN THIS DAY AND AGE, IT‟STHE FAST THAT EAT THE SLOW, AND WE ALL KNOW IT, DON‟T WE?BIG STOPPER #3:DRAMATIC SO-CALLED “LIFE PROBLEMS”. PROBLEMS DRAIN US OF VITAL ENERGY. THEY CANGIVE US A LITTLE EMOTIONAL “JUICE”, DUE TO THE “DRAMA FACTOR”. BUT THIS JUICE COMESAT A HIGH COST. THE COST IS THIS: WE LOSE FAITH IN OURSELVES AND OUR ABILITY TOHAVE THE LIFE WE MOST DESIRE. IF YOUR LIFE IS FULL OF SO-CALLED PROBLEMS, THEN IT‟SHARD TO BE ABLE TO SEE, CONCEIVE AND BELIEVE THAT YOU CAN HAVE A LIFE THAT REALLYWORKS, A LIFE THAT MOVES YOU FORWARD TO ACCOMPLISH YOUR DREAMS. PROBLEMSCREATE A FUNK IN OUR HEARTS AND MINDS. IS IT POSSIBLE TO HAVE A LIFE THAT ISPROBLEM FREE? I BELIEVE IT IS. I BELIEVE THAT WHEN WE ACT FROM OUR OWN INTEGRITY,TAKING CARE OF OUR SELVES FIRST, THEN PROBLEMS TEND TO DISAPPEAR. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULBIG STOPPER #4:IT‟S NOT JUST ABOUT SUCCESS. IT‟S ABOUT YOU. SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE AREN‟T ALL THATSPECIAL. THEY ARE SUBJECT TO THE SAME DEBILITATING, STULTIFYING BARRIERS AS THEREST OF THE POPULATION. AND THEIR STRUGGLES HAVE LITTLE TO DO WITH THEIR ABILITYTO ACCESS “RESOURCES”. THESE ARE SO BOUNTIFUL; YOU COULD FILL A WHOLE LIBRARYWITH THE WISDOM PUBLISHED BY SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE. THE PROBLEM IS THAT THEY DON‟TBELIEVE IN THEMSELVES, AT FIRST. TO WIN THE INNER GAME OF SUCCESS, WE HAVE TOSTART WITH YOU! I WANT YOU TO GET TO THE POINT WHERE YOU BELIEVE IN YOU, IN YOURABILITY TO STRETCH INTO YOUR LIFE, YOUR AMBITION, AND YOUR DREAMS. LET‟S “SELL” YOUON WHO YOU CAN BECOME AND WHAT YOU CAN ACCOMPLISH. YOUR PATH TOWARD SUCCESSCAN BE REAL, IF YOU‟LL ONLY LET IT BE. I AM HERE TO TELL YOU THAT YOUR LIFE ISWORTHWHILE. YOU CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN YOUR OWN LIFE AND GREATLY CONTRIBUTETO THE LIVES OF THOSE AROUND YOU. YOU CAN BE AN INCREDIBLY VALUABLE HUMAN BEINGAND MAKE A TON OF MONEY! HOW?FIRST, YOU BEGIN TO TAKE THE STEPS NEEDED TO ELIMINATE ENERGY DRAINS AND STOPFOCUSING ON DRAMA-BASED “PROBLEMS”. YOU CAN THEN START FULFILLING YOUR NEEDSAND PURSUING YOUR DREAMS STEP BY STEP, CREATIVELY AND ENTHUSIASTICALLY, UNTILTHEY ARE ACTUAL AND REAL. IS THIS POSSIBLE? YES IT IS. WHAT WILL IT TAKE FOR YOU TOSTEP FORWARD? COURAGE. DETERMINATION. SUPPORT. GUIDANCE AND MENTORING. ANDNEVER, EVER GIVING UP.IS YOUR LIFES PURPOSE FOR SALE? THERE IS NO PURPOSE TOO BIG OR TOO SMALL"I AM SUCH AN IDIOT. HOW COULD I HAVE SAID THAT?""I AM A LOOSER. I WILL NEVER GET ANYWHERE.""I AM SO STUPID. I SHOULD HAVE LEARNED THIS BY NOW.""I DONT FIT IN. I DONT BELONG WITH THESE PEOPLE.""I WILL NEVER BE GOOD ENOUGH. I WILL NEVER DO IT RIGHT ENOUGH.""I AM PERMANENTLY EMOTIONALLY DAMAGED. I WILL NEVER BE OKAY.""NO ONE COULD LOVE ME. I AM NOT LOVABLE."…AND SO ON AND SO ON.ARE YOU AWARE OF YOUR SELF-JUDGEMENTS? ARE YOU AWARE OF HOW OFTEN YOU JUDGEYOURSELF AS BAD, WRONG, OR INADEQUATE? ARE YOU AWARE OF HOW YOU END UP FEELINGAS A RESULT OF YOUR SELF-JUDGEMENTS?I FIND THAT SELF-JUDGEMENT IS ONE OF THE MAJOR CAUSES OF FEAR, ANGER, ANXIETY ANDDEPRESSION. YET MOST PEOPLE DONT REALISE THAT THESE PAINFUL FEELINGS ARE THERESULT OF THEIR OWN THOUGHTS, THEIR OWN SELF-JUDGEMENTS. MOST OF THE TIME,WHEN I ASK AN ANXIOUS PERSON WHY THEY ARE FEELING ANXIOUS, THEY TELL ME THAT ITSBECAUSE OF SOMETHING THAT HAPPENED TO THEM. THEY USUALLY BELIEVE THAT AN EVENTOR A PERSON CAUSED THEIR ANXIETY. YET WHEN I ASK THEM WHAT THEY ARE THINKINGTHAT MIGHT BE CAUSING THEIR ANXIETY, THEY WILL TELL ME A SELF-JUDGEMENT SUCH AS,"ILL NEVER GET THIS RIGHT," OR THEY ARE PROJECTING THEIR OWN JUDGEMENT ONTO MEAND TELLING THEMSELVES, "SO AND SO DOESNT LIKE ME," OR "SO AND SO IS GETTINGIMPATIENT WITH ME." WHEN THEY JUDGE THEMSELVES OR MAKE UP THAT I AM JUDGINGTHEM, THEY GET ANXIOUS. THERE IS NOTHING ACTUALLY HAPPENING THAT IS CAUSINGTHEIR ANXIETY, OTHER THAN THEIR OWN THOUGHTS. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULPOINTING OUT TO THEM THAT THEY ARE CAUSING THEIR ANXIETY WITH THEIR SELF-JUDGEMENT DOESNT NOT NECESSARILY STOP THE JUDGEMENT. THIS IS BECAUSE SELF-JUDGEMENT IS OFTEN AN ADDICTION. AN ADDICTION IS A HABITUAL BEHAVIOUR THAT ISINTENDED TO PROTECT AGAINST PAIN. WHAT IS THE PAIN THAT SELF-JUDGEMENT ISINTENDED TO PROTECT AGAINST?GENERALLY, THE HOPE OF SELF-JUDGEMENT IS TO PROTECT AGAINST REJECTION ANDFAILURE. THE FALSE BELIEFS ARE THAT, "IF I JUDGE MYSELF, THEN OTHERS WONT JUDGE MEAND REJECT ME. I CAN BE SAFE FROM OTHERS JUDGEMENT BY JUDGING MYSELF FIRST," OR"IF I JUDGE MYSELF, I CAN MOTIVATE MYSELF TO DO THINGS RIGHT AND SUCCEED. THEN IWILL FEEL SAFE AND BE LOVED AND ACCEPTED BY OTHERS."HOWEVER, JUST AS A CHILD DOES FAR BETTER IN SCHOOL WITH ENCOURAGEMENT THANWITH CRITICISM, SO DO WE AS ADULTS. CRITICISM TENDS TO SCARE AND IMMOBILISE US.INSTEAD OF MOTIVATING US, IT OFTEN CREATES SO MUCH ANXIETY THAT WE GET FROZENAND BECOME UNABLE TO TAKE APPROPRIATE ACTION FOR OURSELVES. MORE SELF-JUDGEMENT FOLLOWS THE LACK OF ACTION, WHICH RESULTS IN MORE ANXIETY ANDIMMOBILISATION, UNTIL WE CREATE A SITUATION WHERE WE ARE COMPLETELY STUCK ANDMISERABLE.THE WAY OUT OF THIS IS TO BECOME AWARE OF THE FEELINGS OF FEAR, ANXIETY, ANGER ORDEPRESSION AND THEN ASK YOURSELF, "WHAT DID I JUST TELL MYSELF THAT IS CREATINGTHIS FEELING?" ONCE YOU BECOME AWARE OF THE SELF-JUDGEMENT, YOU CAN THEN ASKYOURSELF, "AM I CERTAIN THAT WHAT I AM TELLING MYSELF IS TRUE?" IF YOU ARE NOT 100%CERTAIN THAT WHAT YOU ARE TELLING YOURSELF IS TRUE, YOU CAN ASK YOUR HIGHER,WISE SELF OR A SPIRITUAL SOURCE OF WISDOM, "WHAT IS THE TRUTH?" IF YOU ARE REALLYOPEN TO LEARNING ABOUT THE TRUTH, THE TRUTH WILL POP INTO YOUR MIND, AND IT WILLBE MUCH DIFFERENT THAN WHAT YOU HAVE BEEN TELLING YOURSELF.FOR EXAMPLE, "I AM SUCH A IDIOT. HOW COULD I HAVE SAID THAT?" BECOMES "WE ALLMESS UP AT TIMES. ITS OKAY TO MAKE MISTAKES ITS PART OF BEING HUMAN. MAKING AMISTAKE DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU ARE AN IDIOT." WHEN WE OPEN TO THE TRUTH, WE WILLDISCOVER A KIND AND COMPASSIONATE WAY OF SPEAKING TO OURSELVES, A WAY THATMAKES US FEEL LOVED AND SAFE RATHER THAN ANXIOUS, ANGRY OR DEPRESSED.ADDICTIONS ARE ALWAYS CHALLENGING TO RESOLVE, AND AN ADDICTION TO SELF-JUDGEMENT IS NO EXCEPTION. SO BE EASY ON YOURSELF, AND DONT JUDGE YOURSELF FORJUDGING YOURSELF! IT WILL TAKE TIME AND DEDICATION TO BECOME AWARE OF YOUR SELF-JUDGEMENTS AND LEARN TO BE KIND TOWARD YOURSELF, BUT THE END RESULT IS SOWORTH THE EFFORT! SIX THINGS TO TAKE FOR A GREAT LIFE1. TAKE RESPONSIBILITYYOUR LIFE IS ALL UP TO YOU! THE SOONER YOU BELIEVE AND ACCEPT THAT, THE BETTER.STOP LEAVING IMPORTANT DECISIONS UP TO OTHERS. STOP TRYING TO BLAME OTHERS FORWHAT GOES WRONG (OR WHAT DOESNT GO AT ALL). TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR LIFEAND YOU TAKE THE FIRST STEPS TO REALLY ENJOYING THE REST OF IT!2. TAKE A LEAP THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULNO ONE CAN PREDICT THE FUTURE, BUT ALMOST EVERYONE SPENDS TOO MUCH TIMETHINKING ABOUT THE PAST AND HOW THINGS THEY DID "WAY BACK WHEN" MAY AFFECTTHINGS THEY WANT TO DO TODAY. THE PAST IS PAST, THE FUTURE IS OUT THERE. BUT RIGHTNOW, STOP WORRYING ABOUT EVERY LITTLE THING AND TAKE A LEAP OF FAITH! DO THETHINGS YOU REALLY WANT TO DO. TAKE A CHANCE THAT YOUR DREAMS ARENT JUSTDREAMS. TAKE A CHANCE ON YOURSELF. LIFE REWARDS THOSE WHO ACT, SO ACT!3. TAKE A STANDREMEMBER: YOU ARE THE SPOKESPERSON FOR YOUR LIFE! STOP WAFFLING. MAKE ADECISION YOU KNOW YOU WANT TO. MOST OF THE TIME YOU WILL BE RIGHT AND THOSEFEW TIMES THAT YOU ARE WRONG WILL BE THE POINTS WHEN YOU LEARN THE MOST. DRAWA LINE. SHARE YOUR OPINIONS. SPEAK UP!4. TAKE YOUR TIMEEVERYTHING DOESNT HAVE TO BE DONE TODAY. THIS HOUR. THIS MINUTE. RIGHT NOW! ANDJUST BECAUSE NONE OF US KNOWS HOW MUCH TIME WE HAVE DOESNT MEAN WE SHOULDRUSH, RUSH, RUSH THROUGH OUR DAYS ON A SENSELESS QUEST OF QUANTITY OVERQUALITY. SLOW DOWN. YOU CANT SMELL THE FLOWERS IF YOU CANT SEE EM.5. TAKE STOCKWHEN THINGS GO WRONG ITS OH-SO-EASY TO COMPILE A LIST OF PROBLEMS ANDCOMPLAINTS THAT WE ARE DEALING WITH. WHAT WE NEED TO DO IS TAKE A LOOK AT ALL OFTHE POSITIVE THINGS THAT WE HAVE IN OUR LIVES AND AVAILABLE TO US. EACH OF US HASMORE THAN WE THINK WE HAVE, ONLY BECAUSE WE HAVENT THOUGHT THAT MUCH ABOUTIT. SO THINK ABOUT IT.6. TAKE A BOWWE SPEND SO MUCH TIME TRYING ACCOMPLISH SO MUCH AND SO LITTLE TIME APPRECIATINGWHAT WE HAVE DONE. TAKE CREDIT FOR YOUR ACCOMPLISHMENTS. BE PROUD OF WHATYOUVE ACHIEVED. SUCCESS IS A GOOD THING! ASSUMPTIONS THAT KILL SUCCESSI HAVE DISCOVERED THAT PEOPLE HAVE THIS KNACK FOR MAKING ASSUMPTIONS ABOUTTHEIR LIVES AND THEIR GOALS THAT ARE JUST INCREDIBLY, WILDLY WRONG. WORSE, THESEASSUMPTIONS ARENT JUST INCORRECT, THEY ARE DEFLATING AND DEADLY TO THE SUCCESSTHEY SEEK.I HAVE ALSO FOUND THAT WHEN PEOPLE PUT THESE ASSUMPTIONS ASIDE AND GET FOCUSEDON THE TRUTH, THEY BEGIN MAKING PROGRESS QUITE QUICKLY.BELOW ARE THE TOP 10 ASSUMPTIONS I HAVE RUN ACROSS. CONSIDER THIS A "MOST-WANTED" LIST OF KILLER ASSUMPTIONS TO TRY AND AVOID:1. I KNOW EXACTLY WHATS GOING ON THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULWARNING! IF YOU FIND YOURSELF SAYING/THINKING THIS, ITS TIME TO STOP AND ASK AFEW MORE QUESTIONS. INVARIABLY, THE MOMENT WE THINK WE SEE EVERYTHING ISUSUALLY WHEN WE HAVE THE SMALLEST FIELD OF VISION. RECHECK YOUR FACTS, GET MOREINFORMATION AND THEN PROCEED.2. I HAVE A FOOLPROOF PLANNO PLAN IS FOOLPROOF. (AT BEST, YOU MIGHT HAVE A PLAN THAT IS "FOOL RESISTANT".)CONSIDER WORST-CASE SCENARIOS AND AS MANY "WHAT-IFS" AS TIME WILL ALLOW.3. I DONT NEED (OR CANT GET) HELPFEW PEOPLE IN HISTORY HAVE CREATED SUCCESS SOLELY ON THEIR OWN. A SECONDOPINION, A SPARE SET OF HANDS AND A FRESH PERSPECTIVE SELDOM GO AMISS... AND THEYARE ALL MUCH EASIER TO FIND THAN YOU THINK.4. I DONT HAVE THE EDUCATIONITS IDEAS PUT TO ACTION THAT CREATE SUCCESS, NOT DIPLOMAS, SO STOP USING THIS TODELAY GETTING STARTED. IF YOU ABSOLUTELY MUST HAVE FORMAL "EDUCATION" THERE AREPLENTY OF WAYS TO GET IT. THEY MAY NOT BE TRADITIONAL, BUT THEY CAN BE JUST ASEFFECTIVE.5. I DONT HAVE THE MONEYNOT HAVING THE MONEY NOW DOES NOT MEAN YOU CANNOT GET THE MONEY IN THEFUTURE. FOCUS ON HOW YOU CAN SAVE, EARN, OR BORROW WHAT YOU NEED.6. I DONT HAVE THE TIMEACTUALLY, YOU HAVE ALL THE TIME IN THE WORLD. YOU MAY NEED TO RESCHEDULE SOMETHINGS, CHANGE PRIORITIES, AND/OR STOP DOING OTHER THINGS, BUT YOU WILL NEVERHAVE MORE TIME THAN YOU DO RIGHT NOW.7. I AM TOO OLD (OR NOT OLD ENOUGH)YOU ARE ONLY "TOO OLD" WHEN YOU ARE DEAD. AND IF YOU ARE WORRIED ABOUT NOTBEING "OLD ENOUGH," THEN TRUST ME, YOU ARE OLD ENOUGH.8. I AM BEING UNREALISTICSOME OF THE GREATEST SUCCESSES EVER ARE THE ONES THAT WERE THOUGHT THE LEASTREALISTIC. DREAM BIG. BE BOLD. LET THE CRITICS DEBATE WHETHER ITS REALISTIC ORNOT.... WHILE YOU MAKE IT HAPPEN.9. I DONT DESERVE TO BE SUCCESSFULREALLY? WHY NOT JUST GO AHEAD AND FIND OUT? I THINK YOU WILL BE PLEASANTLYSURPRISED TO DISCOVER THAT YOURE WRONG.10. NOBODY UNDERSTANDS WHAT I AM TRYING TO DO THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULMAYBE NOBODY YOU KNOW NOW, BUT TAKE A LOOK AROUND. THE WORLD IS FILLED WITHWONDERFUL PEOPLE WHO ARE ALL STRUGGLING TO CREATE THEIR OWN SUCCESS. OPEN UP,SHARE YOUR DREAMS WITH THEM. YOU WILL SOON FIND MORE SUPPORTERS THAN YOU CANCOUNT! WHAT IS ANGER?THE NATURE OF ANGERANGER IS "AN EMOTIONAL STATE THAT VARIES IN INTENSITY FROM MILD IRRITATION TOINTENSE FURY AND RAGE.” LIKE OTHER EMOTIONS, IT IS ACCOMPANIED BY PHYSIOLOGICALAND BIOLOGICAL CHANGES; WHEN YOU GET ANGRY, YOUR HEART RATE AND BLOODPRESSURE GO UP, AS DO THE LEVELS OF YOUR ENERGY HORMONES, ADRENALINE, AND NORADRENALINE.ANGER CAN BE CAUSED BY BOTH EXTERNAL AND INTERNAL EVENTS. YOU COULD BE ANGRY ATA SPECIFIC PERSON (SUCH AS A CO-WORKER OR SUPERVISOR) OR EVENT (A TRAFFIC JAM, ACANCELLED FLIGHT), OR YOUR ANGER COULD BE CAUSED BY WORRYING OR BROODINGABOUT YOUR PERSONAL PROBLEMS. MEMORIES OF TRAUMATIC OR ENRAGING EVENTS CANALSO TRIGGER ANGRY FEELINGS.EXPRESSING ANGERTHE INSTINCTIVE, NATURAL WAY TO EXPRESS ANGER IS TO RESPOND AGGRESSIVELY. ANGERIS A NATURAL, ADAPTIVE RESPONSE TO THREATS; IT INSPIRES POWERFUL, OFTENAGGRESSIVE, FEELINGS AND BEHAVIOURS, WHICH ALLOW US TO FIGHT AND TO DEFENDOURSELVES WHEN WE ARE ATTACKED. A CERTAIN AMOUNT OF ANGER, THEREFORE, ISNECESSARY TO OUR SURVIVAL.ON THE OTHER HAND, WE CANT PHYSICALLY LASH OUT AT EVERY PERSON OR OBJECT THATIRRITATES OR ANNOYS US; LAWS, SOCIAL NORMS, AND COMMON SENSE PLACE LIMITS ONHOW FAR OUR ANGER CAN TAKE US.PEOPLE USE A VARIETY OF BOTH CONSCIOUS AND UNCONSCIOUS PROCESSES TO DEAL WITHTHEIR ANGRY FEELINGS. THE THREE MAIN APPROACHES ARE EXPRESSING, SUPPRESSING,AND CALMING. EXPRESSING YOUR ANGRY FEELINGS IN AN ASSERTIVE, NOT AGGRESSIVEMANNER IS THE HEALTHIEST WAY TO EXPRESS ANGER. TO DO THIS, YOU HAVE TO LEARNHOW TO MAKE CLEAR WHAT YOUR NEEDS ARE, AND HOW TO GET THEM MET, WITHOUTHURTING OTHERS. BEING ASSERTIVE DOESNT MEAN BEING PUSHY OR DEMANDING; ITMEANS BEING RESPECTFUL OF YOURSELF AND OTHERS.ANGER CAN BE SUPPRESSED, AND THEN CONVERTED OR REDIRECTED. THIS HAPPENS WHENYOU HOLD IN YOUR ANGER, STOP THINKING ABOUT IT, AND FOCUS ON SOMETHING POSITIVE.THE AIM IS TO INHIBIT OR SUPPRESS YOUR ANGER AND CONVERT IT INTO MORECONSTRUCTIVE BEHAVIOUR. THE DANGER IN THIS TYPE OF RESPONSE IS THAT IF IT ISNTALLOWED OUTWARD EXPRESSION, YOUR ANGER CAN TURN INWARD ON YOURSELF. ANGERTURNED INWARD MAY CAUSE HYPERTENSION, HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, OR DEPRESSION.UNEXPRESSED ANGER CAN CREATE OTHER PROBLEMS. IT CAN LEAD TO PATHOLOGICALEXPRESSIONS OF ANGER, SUCH AS PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOUR (GETTING BACK ATPEOPLE INDIRECTLY, WITHOUT TELLING THEM WHY, RATHER THAN CONFRONTING THEM HEAD- THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULON) OR A PERSONALITY THAT SEEMS PERPETUALLY CYNICAL AND HOSTILE. PEOPLE WHO ARECONSTANTLY PUTTING OTHERS DOWN, CRITICISING EVERYTHING, AND MAKING CYNICALCOMMENTS HAVENT LEARNED HOW TO CONSTRUCTIVELY EXPRESS THEIR ANGER. NOTSURPRISINGLY, THEY ARENT LIKELY TO HAVE MANY SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIPS.FINALLY, YOU CAN CALM DOWN INSIDE. THIS MEANS NOT JUST CONTROLLING YOUROUTWARD BEHAVIOUR, BUT ALSO CONTROLLING YOUR INTERNAL RESPONSES, TAKING STEPSTO LOWER YOUR HEART RATE, CALM YOURSELF DOWN, AND LET THE FEELINGS SUBSIDE."WHEN NONE OF THESE THREE TECHNIQUES WORK, THATS WHEN SOMEONE OR SOMETHINGIS GOING TO GET HURT."ANGER MANAGEMENTTHE GOAL OF ANGER MANAGEMENT IS TO REDUCE BOTH YOUR EMOTIONAL FEELINGS ANDTHE PHYSIOLOGICAL AROUSAL THAT ANGER CAUSES. YOU CANT GET RID OF, OR AVOID, THETHINGS OR THE PEOPLE THAT ENRAGE YOU, NOR CAN YOU CHANGE THEM, BUT YOU CANLEARN TO CONTROL YOUR REACTIONS.ARE YOU TOO ANGRY?THERE ARE PSYCHOLOGICAL TESTS THAT MEASURE THE INTENSITY OF ANGRY FEELINGS, HOWPRONE TO ANGER YOU ARE, AND HOW WELL YOU HANDLE IT. BUT CHANCES ARE GOOD THATIF YOU DO HAVE A PROBLEM WITH ANGER, YOU ALREADY KNOW IT. IF YOU FIND YOURSELFACTING IN WAYS THAT SEEM OUT OF CONTROL AND FRIGHTENING, YOU MIGHT NEED HELPFINDING BETTER WAYS TO DEAL WITH THIS EMOTION.WHY ARE SOME PEOPLE MORE ANGRY THAN OTHERS?SOME PEOPLE ARE REALLY MORE "HOT-HEADED" THAN OTHERS ARE; THEY GET ANGRY MOREEASILY AND MORE INTENSELY THAN THE AVERAGE PERSON DOES. THERE ARE ALSO THOSEWHO DONT SHOW THEIR ANGER IN LOUD SPECTACULAR WAYS BUT ARE CHRONICALLYIRRITABLE AND GRUMPY. EASILY ANGERED PEOPLE DONT ALWAYS CURSE AND THROWTHINGS; SOMETIMES THEY WITHDRAW SOCIALLY, SULK, OR GET PHYSICALLY ILL.PEOPLE WHO ARE EASILY ANGERED GENERALLY HAVE WHAT SOME PSYCHOLOGISTS CALL ALOW TOLERANCE FOR FRUSTRATION, MEANING SIMPLY THAT THEY FEEL THAT THEY SHOULDNOT HAVE TO BE SUBJECTED TO FRUSTRATION, INCONVENIENCE, OR ANNOYANCE. THEYCANT TAKE THINGS IN STRIDE, AND THEYRE PARTICULARLY INFURIATED IF THE SITUATIONSEEMS SOMEHOW UNJUST: FOR EXAMPLE, BEING CORRECTED FOR A MINOR MISTAKE.WHAT MAKES THESE PEOPLE THIS WAY? A NUMBER OF THINGS. ONE CAUSE MAY BE GENETICOR PHYSIOLOGICAL: THERE IS EVIDENCE THAT SOME CHILDREN ARE BORN IRRITABLE,TOUCHY, AND EASILY ANGERED, AND THAT THESE SIGNS ARE PRESENT FROM A VERY EARLYAGE. ANOTHER MAY BE SOCIOCULTURAL. ANGER IS OFTEN REGARDED AS NEGATIVE; WERETAUGHT THAT ITS ALL RIGHT TO EXPRESS ANXIETY, DEPRESSION, OR OTHER EMOTIONS BUTNOT TO EXPRESS ANGER. AS A RESULT, WE DONT LEARN HOW TO HANDLE IT OR CHANNEL ITCONSTRUCTIVELY.RESEARCH HAS ALSO FOUND THAT FAMILY BACKGROUND PLAYS A ROLE. TYPICALLY, PEOPLEWHO ARE EASILY ANGERED COME FROM FAMILIES THAT ARE DISRUPTIVE, CHAOTIC, AND NOTSKILLED AT EMOTIONAL COMMUNICATIONS. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULIS IT GOOD TO "LET IT ALL HANG OUT?"PSYCHOLOGISTS NOW SAY THAT THIS IS A DANGEROUS MYTH. SOME PEOPLE USE THISTHEORY AS A LICENSE TO HURT OTHERS. RESEARCH HAS FOUND THAT "LETTING IT RIP" WITHANGER ACTUALLY ESCALATES ANGER AND AGGRESSION AND DOES NOTHING TO HELP YOU(OR THE PERSON YOURE ANGRY WITH) RESOLVE THE SITUATION.ITS BEST TO FIND OUT WHAT IT IS THAT TRIGGERS YOUR ANGER, AND THEN TO DEVELOPSTRATEGIES TO KEEP THOSE TRIGGERS FROM TIPPING YOU OVER THE EDGE.STRATEGIES TO KEEP ANGER AT BAYRELAXATIONSIMPLE RELAXATION TOOLS, SUCH AS DEEP BREATHING AND RELAXING IMAGERY, CAN HELPCALM DOWN ANGRY FEELINGS. THERE ARE BOOKS AND COURSES THAT CAN TEACH YOURELAXATION TECHNIQUES, AND ONCE YOU LEARN THE TECHNIQUES, YOU CAN CALL UPONTHEM IN ANY SITUATION. IF YOU ARE INVOLVED IN A RELATIONSHIP WHERE BOTH PARTNERSARE HOT-TEMPERED, IT MIGHT BE A GOOD IDEA FOR BOTH OF YOU TO LEARN THESETECHNIQUES.SOME SIMPLE STEPS YOU CAN TRY:YOU. PICTURE YOUR BREATH COMING UP FROM YOUR "GUT." X," "TAKE IT EASY." REPEAT ITTO YOURSELF WHILE BREATHING DEEPLY.IMAGINATION.CALMER.PRACTICE THESE TECHNIQUES DAILY. LEARN TO USE THEM AUTOMATICALLY WHEN YOURE INA TENSE SITUATION.COGNITIVE RESTRUCTURINGSIMPLY PUT, THIS MEANS CHANGING THE WAY YOU THINK. ANGRY PEOPLE TEND TO CURSE,SWEAR, OR SPEAK IN HIGHLY COLOURFUL TERMS THAT REFLECT THEIR INNER THOUGHTS.WHEN YOURE ANGRY, YOUR THINKING CAN GET VERY EXAGGERATED AND OVERLY DRAMATIC.TRY REPLACING THESE THOUGHTS WITH MORE RATIONAL ONES. FOR INSTANCE, INSTEAD OFTELLING YOURSELF, "OH, ITS AWFUL, ITS TERRIBLE, EVERYTHINGS RUINED," TELLYOURSELF, "ITS FRUSTRATING, AND ITS UNDERSTANDABLE THAT IM UPSET ABOUT IT, BUTITS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD AND GETTING ANGRY IS NOT GOING TO FIX IT ANYHOW."BE CAREFUL OF WORDS LIKE "NEVER" OR "ALWAYS" WHEN TALKING ABOUT YOURSELF ORSOMEONE ELSE. “THIS! &*%@ MACHINE NEVER WORKS," OR "YOURE ALWAYS FORGETTINGTHINGS" ARE NOT JUST INACCURATE, THEY ALSO SERVE TO MAKE YOU FEEL THAT YOURANGER IS JUSTIFIED AND THAT THERES NO WAY TO SOLVE THE PROBLEM. THEY ALSOALIENATE AND HUMILIATE PEOPLE WHO MIGHT OTHERWISE BE WILLING TO WORK WITH YOU THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULON A SOLUTION. REMIND YOURSELF THAT GETTING ANGRY IS NOT GOING TO FIX ANYTHING,THAT IT WONT MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER (AND MAY ACTUALLY MAKE YOU FEEL WORSE).LOGIC DEFEATS ANGER, BECAUSE ANGER, EVEN WHEN ITS JUSTIFIED, CAN QUICKLY BECOMEIRRATIONAL. SO USE COLD HARD LOGIC ON YOURSELF. REMIND YOURSELF THAT THE WORLDIS "NOT OUT TO GET YOU," YOURE JUST EXPERIENCING SOME OF THE ROUGH SPOTS OFDAILY LIFE. DO THIS EACH TIME YOU FEEL ANGER GETTING THE BEST OF YOU, AND ITLL HELPYOU GET A MORE BALANCED PERSPECTIVE. ANGRY PEOPLE TEND TO DEMAND THINGS:FAIRNESS, APPRECIATION, AGREEMENT, AND WILLINGNESS TO DO THINGS THEIR WAY.EVERYONE WANTS THESE THINGS, AND WE ARE ALL HURT AND DISAPPOINTED WHEN WEDONT GET THEM, BUT ANGRY PEOPLE DEMAND THEM, AND WHEN THEIR DEMANDS ARENTMET, THEIR DISAPPOINTMENT BECOMES ANGER. AS PART OF THEIR COGNITIVERESTRUCTURING, ANGRY PEOPLE NEED TO BECOME AWARE OF THEIR DEMANDING NATUREAND TRANSLATE THEIR EXPECTATIONS INTO DESIRES. IN OTHER WORDS, SAYING, "I WOULDLIKE" SOMETHING IS HEALTHIER THAN SAYING, "I DEMAND" OR "I MUST HAVE" SOMETHING.WHEN YOURE UNABLE TO GET WHAT YOU WANT, YOU WILL EXPERIENCE THE NORMALREACTIONS FRUSTRATION, DISAPPOINTMENT, HURT BUT NOT ANGER. SOME ANGRY PEOPLEUSE THIS ANGER AS A WAY TO AVOID FEELING HURT, BUT THAT DOESNT MEAN THE HURTGOES AWAY.PROBLEM SOLVINGSOMETIMES, OUR ANGER AND FRUSTRATION ARE CAUSED BY VERY REAL AND INESCAPABLEPROBLEMS IN OUR LIVES. NOT ALL ANGER IS MISPLACED, AND OFTEN ITS A HEALTHY,NATURAL RESPONSE TO THESE DIFFICULTIES. THERE IS ALSO A CULTURAL BELIEF THAT EVERYPROBLEM HAS A SOLUTION, AND IT ADDS TO OUR FRUSTRATION TO FIND OUT THAT THISISNT ALWAYS THE CASE. THE BEST ATTITUDE TO BRING TO SUCH A SITUATION, THEN, IS NOTTO FOCUS ON FINDING THE SOLUTION, BUT RATHER ON HOW YOU HANDLE AND FACE THEPROBLEM.MAKE A PLAN, AND CHECK YOUR PROGRESS ALONG THE WAY. RESOLVE TO GIVE IT YOURBEST, BUT ALSO NOT TO PUNISH YOURSELF IF AN ANSWER DOESNT COME RIGHT AWAY. IFYOU CAN APPROACH IT WITH YOUR BEST INTENTIONS AND EFFORTS AND MAKE A SERIOUSATTEMPT TO FACE IT HEAD-ON, YOU WILL BE LESS LIKELY TO LOSE PATIENCE AND FALL INTOALL OR NOTHING THINKING, EVEN IF THE PROBLEM DOES NOT GET SOLVED RIGHT AWAY.BETTER COMMUNICATIONANGRY PEOPLE TEND TO JUMP TO AND ACT ON CONCLUSIONS, AND SOME OF THOSECONCLUSIONS CAN BE VERY INACCURATE. THE FIRST THING TO DO IF YOURE IN A HEATEDDISCUSSION IS SLOW DOWN AND THINK THROUGH YOUR RESPONSES. DONT SAY THE FIRSTTHING THAT COMES INTO YOUR HEAD, BUT SLOW DOWN AND THINK CAREFULLY ABOUT WHATYOU WANT TO SAY. AT THE SAME TIME, LISTEN CAREFULLY TO WHAT THE OTHER PERSON ISSAYING AND TAKE YOUR TIME BEFORE ANSWERING.LISTEN, TOO, TO WHAT IS UNDERLYING THE ANGER. FOR INSTANCE, YOU LIKE A CERTAINAMOUNT OF FREEDOM AND PERSONAL SPACE, AND YOUR "SIGNIFICANT OTHER" WANTS MORECONNECTION AND CLOSENESS. IF HE OR SHE STARTS COMPLAINING ABOUT YOURACTIVITIES, DONT RETALIATE BY PAINTING YOUR PARTNER AS A JAILER, A WARDEN, OR ANALBATROSS AROUND YOUR NECK. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULITS NATURAL TO GET DEFENSIVE WHEN YOURE CRITICISED, BUT DONT FIGHT BACK.INSTEAD, LISTEN TO WHATS UNDERLYING THE WORDS: THE MESSAGE THAT THIS PERSONMIGHT FEEL NEGLECTED AND UNLOVED. IT MAY TAKE A LOT OF PATIENT QUESTIONING ONYOUR PART, AND IT MAY REQUIRE SOME BREATHING SPACE, BUT DONT LET YOUR ANGER ORA PARTNERS LET A DISCUSSION SPIN OUT OF CONTROL. KEEPING YOUR COOL CAN KEEP THESITUATION FROM BECOMING A DISASTROUS ONE.USING HUMOUR"SILLY HUMOUR" CAN HELP DEFUSE RAGE IN A NUMBER OF WAYS. FOR ONE THING, IT CANHELP YOU GET A MORE BALANCED PERSPECTIVE. WHEN YOU GET ANGRY AND CALL SOMEONEA NAME OR REFER TO THEM IN SOME IMAGINATIVE PHRASE, STOP AND PICTURE WHAT THATWORD WOULD LITERALLY LOOK LIKE. IF YOURE AT WORK AND YOU THINK OF A CO-WORKERAS A "DIRTBAG" OR A "SINGLE-CELL LIFE FORM," FOR EXAMPLE, PICTURE A LARGE BAG FULLOF DIRT (OR AN AMOEBA) SITTING AT YOUR COLLEAGUES DESK, TALKING ON THE PHONE,GOING TO MEETINGS. DO THIS WHENEVER A NAME COMES INTO YOUR HEAD ABOUT ANOTHERPERSON. IF YOU CAN, DRAW A PICTURE OF WHAT THE ACTUAL THING MIGHT LOOK LIKE. THISWILL TAKE A LOT OF THE EDGE OFF YOUR FURY; AND HUMOUR CAN ALWAYS BE RELIED ON TOHELP UNKNOT A TENSE SITUATION.THE UNDERLYING MESSAGE OF HIGHLY ANGRY PEOPLE IS "THINGS OUGHT TO GO MY WAY!"ANGRY PEOPLE TEND TO FEEL THAT THEY ARE MORALLY RIGHT, THAT ANY BLOCKING ORCHANGING OF THEIR PLANS IS AN UNBEARABLE INDIGNITY AND THAT THEY SHOULD NOTHAVE TO SUFFER THIS WAY. MAYBE OTHER PEOPLE DO, BUT NOT THEM!WHEN YOU FEEL THAT URGE, PICTURE YOURSELF AS A SUPREME RULER, WHO OWNS THESTREETS AND STORES AND OFFICE SPACE, STRIDING ALONE AND HAVING YOUR WAY IN ALLSITUATIONS WHILE OTHERS DEFER TO YOU. THE MORE DETAIL YOU CAN GET INTO YOURIMAGINARY SCENES, THE MORE CHANCES YOU HAVE TO REALISE THAT MAYBE YOU ARE BEINGUNREASONABLE; YOULL ALSO REALISE HOW UNIMPORTANT THE THINGS YOURE ANGRYABOUT REALLY ARE. THERE ARE TWO CAUTIONS IN USING HUMOUR. FIRST, DONT TRY TOJUST "LAUGH OFF" YOUR PROBLEMS; RATHER, USE HUMOUR TO HELP YOURSELF FACE THEMMORE CONSTRUCTIVELY. SECOND, DONT GIVE IN TO HARSH, SARCASTIC HUMOUR; THATSJUST ANOTHER FORM OF UNHEALTHY ANGER EXPRESSION.WHAT THESE TECHNIQUES HAVE IN COMMON IS A REFUSAL TO TAKE YOURSELF TOOSERIOUSLY. ANGER IS A SERIOUS EMOTION, BUT ITS OFTEN ACCOMPANIED BY IDEAS THAT,IF EXAMINED, CAN MAKE YOU LAUGH.CHANGING YOUR ENVIRONMENTSOMETIMES ITS OUR IMMEDIATE SURROUNDINGS THAT GIVE US CAUSE FOR IRRITATION ANDFURY. PROBLEMS AND RESPONSIBILITIES CAN WEIGH ON YOU AND MAKE YOU FEEL ANGRY ATTHE "TRAP" YOU SEEM TO HAVE FALLEN INTO AND ALL THE PEOPLE AND THINGS THAT FORMTHAT TRAP.GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK. MAKE SURE YOU HAVE SOME "PERSONAL TIME" SCHEDULED FORTIMES OF THE DAY THAT YOU KNOW ARE PARTICULARLY STRESSFUL. ONE EXAMPLE IS THEWORKING MOTHER WHO HAS A STANDING RULE THAT WHEN SHE COMES HOME FROM WORK,FOR THE FIRST 15 MINUTES "NOBODY TALKS TO MUM UNLESS THE HOUSE IS ON FIRE." AFTER THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULTHIS BRIEF QUIET TIME, SHE FEELS BETTER PREPARED TO HANDLE DEMANDS FROM HER KIDSWITHOUT BLOWING UP AT THEM.SOME OTHER TIPS FOR EASING UP ON YOURSELFTIMING: IF YOU AND YOUR SPOUSE TEND TO FIGHT WHEN YOU DISCUSS THINGS AT NIGHTPERHAPS YOURE TIRED, OR DISTRACTED, OR MAYBE ITS JUST HABIT TRY CHANGING THETIMES WHEN YOU TALK ABOUT IMPORTANT MATTERS SO THESE TALKS DONT TURN INTOARGUMENTS.AVOIDANCE: IF YOUR CHILDS CHAOTIC ROOM MAKES YOU FURIOUS EVERY TIME YOU WALKBY IT, SHUT THE DOOR. DONT MAKE YOURSELF LOOK AT WHAT INFURIATES YOU. DONT SAY,"WELL, MY CHILD SHOULD CLEAN UP THE ROOM SO I WONT HAVE TO BE ANGRY!" THATS NOTTHE POINT. THE POINT IS TO KEEP YOURSELF CALM.FINDING ALTERNATIVES: IF YOUR DAILY COMMUTE THROUGH TRAFFIC LEAVES YOU IN ASTATE OF RAGE AND FRUSTRATION, GIVE YOURSELF A PROJECT LEARN OR MAP OUT ADIFFERENT ROUTE, ONE THATS LESS CONGESTED OR MORE SCENIC. OR FIND ANOTHERALTERNATIVE, SUCH AS A BUS OR COMMUTER TRAIN.DO YOU NEED COUNSELLING?IF YOU FEEL THAT YOUR ANGER IS REALLY OUT OF CONTROL, IF IT IS HAVING AN IMPACT ONYOUR RELATIONSHIPS AND ON IMPORTANT PARTS OF YOUR LIFE, YOU MIGHT CONSIDERCOUNSELLING TO LEARN HOW TO HANDLE IT BETTER. A PSYCHOLOGIST OR OTHER LICENSEDMENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONAL CAN WORK WITH YOU IN DEVELOPING A RANGE OFTECHNIQUES FOR CHANGING YOUR THINKING AND YOUR BEHAVIOUR.WHEN YOU TALK TO A PROSPECTIVE THERAPIST, TELL HER OR HIM THAT YOU HAVE PROBLEMSWITH ANGER THAT YOU WANT TO WORK ON, AND ASK ABOUT HIS OR HER APPROACH TOANGER MANAGEMENT. MAKE SURE THIS ISNT ONLY A COURSE OF ACTION DESIGNED TO "PUTYOU IN TOUCH WITH YOUR FEELINGS AND EXPRESS THEM" THAT MAY BE PRECISELY WHATYOUR PROBLEM IS. WITH COUNSELLING, PSYCHOLOGISTS SAY, A HIGHLY ANGRY PERSON CANMOVE CLOSER TO A MIDDLE RANGE OF ANGER IN ABOUT 8 TO 10 WEEKS, DEPENDING ON THECIRCUMSTANCES AND THE TECHNIQUES USED.WHAT ABOUT ASSERTIVENESS TRAINING?ITS TRUE THAT ANGRY PEOPLE NEED TO LEARN TO BECOME ASSERTIVE (RATHER THANAGGRESSIVE), BUT MOST BOOKS AND COURSES ON DEVELOPING ASSERTIVENESS ARE AIMEDAT PEOPLE WHO DONT FEEL ENOUGH ANGER. THESE PEOPLE ARE MORE PASSIVE ANDACQUIESCENT THAN THE AVERAGE PERSON; THEY TEND TO LET OTHERS WALK ALL OVERTHEM. THAT ISNT SOMETHING THAT MOST ANGRY PEOPLE DO. STILL, THESE BOOKS CANCONTAIN SOME USEFUL TACTICS TO USE IN FRUSTRATING SITUATIONS.REMEMBER, YOU CANT ELIMINATE ANGER AND IT WOULDNT BE A GOOD IDEA IF YOU COULD.IN SPITE OF ALL YOUR EFFORTS, THINGS WILL HAPPEN THAT WILL CAUSE YOU ANGER; ANDSOMETIMES IT WILL BE JUSTIFIABLE ANGER. LIFE WILL BE FILLED WITH FRUSTRATION, PAIN,LOSS, AND THE UNPREDICTABLE ACTIONS OF OTHERS. YOU CANT CHANGE THAT; BUT YOUCAN CHANGE THE WAY YOU LET SUCH EVENTS AFFECT YOU. CONTROLLING YOUR ANGRYRESPONSES CAN KEEP THEM FROM MAKING YOU EVEN MORE UNHAPPY IN THE LONG RUN. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULFOUR PROVEN TECHNIQUES FOR MANAGING ANGERTHE FIRST STEP TOWARDS MANAGING ANGER IN OUR PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPSAPPROPRIATELY IS THE IDENTIFICATION OF THE MISTAKEN ATTITUDES AND CONVICTIONSTHAT PREDISPOSE US TO BEING EXCESSIVELY ANGRY IN THE FIRST PLACE!ONCE THESE MISTAKES HAVE BEEN CORRECTED, WE WILL BE LESS LIKELY TO FLY OFF THEHANDLE THAN WE WERE IN THE PAST.THE SECOND STEP IS THE IDENTIFICATION OF THOSE FACTORS FROM OUR CHILDHOOD THATPREVENTS US FROM EXPRESSING OUR ANGER AS APPROPRIATELY AS WE OTHERWISE MIGHT.THESE FACTORS INCLUDE FEAR, DENIAL, IGNORANCE AND SO ON.THESE IMPEDIMENTS TO THE EFFECTIVE AND APPROPRIATE MANAGEMENT OF OUR ANGERTOWARDS OTHERS CAN BE REMOVED SO THAT OUR SUPPRESSED ANGER WILL NOTCOMPOUND ITSELF INSIDE OF US AS IT HAS BEEN DOING FOR YEARS.THE THIRD STEP IS LEARNING THE APPROPRIATE MODES OF EXPRESSING OUR "LEGITIMATE"ANGER AT OTHERS SO THAT WE CAN BEGIN TO COPE MORE EFFECTIVELY WITH ANGERPROVOKING SITUATIONS AS THEY ARISE IN OUR PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS. WHEN WE AREANXIOUS OR DEPRESSED IN OUR RELATIONSHIPS, WE ARE OFTEN EXPERIENCING THECONSEQUENCES OF OUR SUPPRESSED ANGER. THE PROBLEM IS THAT WE HAVE SUPPRESSEDOUR ANGER SO DEEPLY THAT WE SUCCEEDED IN CONCEALING IT FROM OUR OWN SELVES!ALL WE ARE LEFT WITH IS THE RESIDUAL EVIDENCE OF IT, OUR ANXIETY OR OURDEPRESSION. WHEN WE ARE DEPRESSED, VERY OFTEN WE ARE ALSO ANGRY AT OUR SELFWITHOUT REALISING IT.LEARNING TO APPROPRIATELY MANAGE OUR ANGER AT OURSELVES IS THE ANTIDOTE TOMUCH OF ALCOHOLISM AND DRUG ABUSE. BUT THE MANAGEMENT OF OUR ANGER DOES NOTEND IN LEARNING THESE NEW AND MORE APPROPRIATE WAYS TO EXPRESS IT. THEREREMAINS ONE LAST STEP.THE FOURTH STEP IN THE ANGER MANAGEMENT PROCESS IS TO BIND UP THE WOUNDS THATMAY HAVE BEEN LEFT BY THE POTENTIALLY DEVASTATING EMOTIONAL IMPACT OF ANGER."ANGER WOUNDS" LEFT IN US AGAINST THOSE WHO HAVE WRONGED US. IF WE DO NOTCOMPLETE THIS MOPPING UP STEP, WE WILL CLING TO THE RESENTMENT OF HAVING BEENDONE WRONG AND WILL CARRY THE FESTERING RESIDUE OF OUR ANGER AND RAGE IN OURHEARTS FOREVER. ONE OF THE MOST EFFECTIVE MEANS OF GIVING OURSELVES IMMEDIATERELIEF FROM ANGER IN OUR PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS IS TO FORGIVE OTHERS.MANY OF US CANNOT FORGIVE THOSE WHO HAVE TRESPASSED AGAINST US.SOMETHING BELOW THE LEVEL OF OUR CONSCIOUS AWARENESS PREVENTS US FROMRELIEVING OUR RESIDUAL ANGER BY FORGIVING THE OTHER PERSON AND WE THEN CARRY AGRUDGE IN OUR HEARTS FOR THIRTY YEARS! THIS UNRESOLVED ANGER POISONS OURRELATIONSHIP WITH OUR FRIENDS AND LOVED ONES. IT EVEN SPOILS OUR RELATIONSHIPWITH OURSELVES! WE MAKE OUR OWN LIVES MEAN AND MISERABLE INSTEAD OF HAPPY ANDFULL. VERY OFTEN THE FEELING IS, "WHY SHOULD I FORGIVE THEM? WHAT THEY DID WASWRONG!" BUT, IS FORGIVENESS FOR THOSE WHO ONLY DO US RIGHT? MOST PEOPLE HAVE AHARD TIME FORGIVING OTHERS SIMPLY BECAUSE THEY HAVE A WRONG UNDERSTANDING OF THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULWHAT FORGIVENESS IS! WHEN YOU FORGIVE SOMEONE, IT DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOUCONDONE OR ARE LEGITIMISING THEIR BEHAVIOUR TOWARD YOU. TO FORGIVE THEM MEANSTHAT YOU REFUSE TO CARRY PAINFUL AND DEBILITATING GRUDGES AROUND WITH YOU FORTHE REST OF YOUR LIFE! YOU ARE "REFUSING" TO CLING TO THE RESENTMENT OF THEMHAVING DONE YOU WRONG. YOU ARE GIVING YOURSELF SOME IMMEDIATE RELIEF FROMYOUR OWN ANGER!TO FORGIVE, THEN, IS AN ACT THAT WE DO ON OUR OWN BEHALF.IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH "LIFTING" THE OTHER PERSONS SIN! YOU ARE NOT DOING ITFOR THEIR SAKE. YOU ARE DOING IT FOR YOURSELF. THIS IS A CHOICE YOU ARE MAKING ONYOUR OWN TERMS IN ORDER TO RELIEVE YOUR OWN PENT-UP EMOTIONS. THE BOOK, MINDCONTROL SYSTEM CONTAINS AN IN-DEPTH ANALYSIS OF THE PROCESS, TO HELP YOU TOCOMPLETELY MASTER THE ANGER MANAGEMENT PROCESS.WE ALL KNOW WHAT ANGER IS, AND WEVE ALL FELT IT: WHETHER AS A FLEETINGANNOYANCE OR AS FULL-FLEDGED RAGE. ANGER IS A COMPLETELY NORMAL, USUALLYHEALTHY, HUMAN EMOTION. BUT WHEN IT GETS OUT OF CONTROL AND TURNS DESTRUCTIVE,IT CAN LEAD TO PROBLEMS: PROBLEMS AT WORK, IN YOUR PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS, ANDIN THE OVERALL QUALITY OF YOUR LIFE. AND IT CAN MAKE YOU FEEL AS THOUGH YOURE ATTHE MERCY OF AN UNPREDICTABLE AND POWERFUL EMOTION. THIS BROCHURE IS MEANT TOHELP YOU UNDERSTAND AND CONTROL ANGER. WHAT IS HAPPINESSPSYCHOLOGISTS HAVE NOW COME UP WITH A FORMULA FOR HAPPINESS.PLEASURE + ENGAGEMENT + MEANING = HAPPINESS.WE ALL KNOW WHAT BRINGS US PLEASURE. BUT THE TROUBLE IS ALL TOO OFTEN IT ISFLEETING AND IT JUST DOES NOT LAST.A NEW SCHOOL OF PSYCHOLOGY, CALLED POSITIVE PSYCHOLOGY, SUGGESTS THAT WE NEEDTWO OTHER VITAL INGREDIENTS IF WE WANT TO ACHIEVE MORE LASTING HAPPINESS.FIRST, THEY SUGGEST WE NEED TO BE REALLY ENGAGED AND ENGROSSED IN WHAT WE DO.IN THE JARGON IT IS CALLED "FLOW".WE HAVE ALL EXPERIENCED IT. IT IS THAT FEELING WE GET WHEN WE JUST DO NOT EVENBOTHER TO LOOK AT THE CLOCK BECAUSE WE ARE SO INTO WHAT WE ARE DOING.SECOND, POSITIVE PSYCHOLOGISTS SUGGEST WE NEED MEANING IN OUR LIVES.WE CAN GET THIS FROM DOING AN INTERESTING JOB, OR WORKING ON A PROJECT WEREALLY BELIEVE IN, OR BY DOING SOMETHING WORTHWHILE.WHILE WE ADAPT QUICKLY TO MORE MONEY AND MATERIAL POSSESSIONS, IT SEEMS WEADAPT LESS QUICKLY, IF AT ALL, TO MEANINGFUL THINGS.PROBLEMS WITH THE FORMULA THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULHOWEVER, THIS SIMPLE FORMULA HIDES A NUMBER OF IMPORTANT ISSUES.THE UNDERVALUED COMPONENT OF HAPPINESS.IT TURNS OUT YOU CAN HAVE TOO MUCH ENGAGEMENT AND IT DOES NOT NECESSARILY LEADTO MORE HAPPINESS.FOR EXAMPLE, YOU CAN BECOME ENGROSSED IN WORK AND BECOME A WORKAHOLIC ANDLESS HAPPY.YOU CAN EXPERIENCE FLOW IN GAMBLING BUT IT WILL NOT NECESSARILY MAKE YOU HAPPY.THE FORMULA IS NOT EXHAUSTIVE OR COMPREHENSIVE.AS PSYCHOLOGIST POINTS OUT, THE FORMULA FAILS TO TAKE ACCOUNT OF CONTENTMENT.THE DANGER OF RELYING ON ANY FORMULA IS THAT IT MAY ACTUALLY MAKE US UNHAPPY, BYPUTTING YET MORE PRESSURE ON US TO LIVE THE PERFECT LIFE.AND WHAT IS MORE THERE IS ANOTHER PROBLEM THAT ONE FORM OF HAPPINESS OFTENCONFLICTS WITH OTHER SOURCES OF HAPPINESS AND MAY EVEN MAKE OTHER PEOPLEUNHAPPY.SO SOME PEOPLE ARGUE WE SHOULD NOT EVEN CONTEMPLATE TRYING TO MAKE OURSELVESHAPPIER.A LITTLE EXTRA HAPPINESSPOSITIVE PSYCHOLOGISTS COUNTER THIS BY SAYING THAT THEIR SUGGESTIONS ARE NOTMIRACLE CURES AND THEY ACCEPT THAT YOU CANNOT TURN A GRUMP INTO A DELIRIOUSLYHAPPY PERSON.STAYING HAPPIER FOR LONGERTHEY MAINTAIN IT IS POSSIBLE TO MAKE SOMEONE A LITTLE HAPPIER, AS MUCH AS 10-15%,IF SOMEONE WORKS AT IT.THIS ARTICLE EXPLAINS SOME OF THE EXERCISES YOU CAN DO TO MAKE YOURSELF HAPPIER.RESEARCH IS NOW TRYING TO TEST HOW WELL THESE EXERCISES WORK.THE EXERCISES INCLUDE DISPUTATION, WHICH INVOLVES CHALLENGING NEGATIVETHOUGHTS AND ANALYSING WHETHER YOU NEED TO BE AS NEGATIVE, PLAYING TO YOURSTRENGTHS AND COUNTING YOUR BLESSINGS FOR THE THINGS THAT GO WELL IN YOUR LIFE.SCIENTISTS CLEARLY DO NOT HAVE ALL THE ANSWERS. THERE IS AS YET NO SIMPLE ANDCOMPREHENSIVE FORMULA FOR HAPPINESS.HOWEVER, THE NEW EMPHASIS ON HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS, FLOW AND MEANING DOESOFFER AN INTERESTING INSIGHT INTO WHAT REALLY MAKES US HAPPY AND CHALLENGES USTO THINK WHETHER IT MIGHT BE POSSIBLE TO LIVE HAPPIER LIVES. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULSOCIETIES, RELIGIONS AND INDIVIDUALS HAVE VARIOUS VIEWS ON THE NATURE OFHAPPINESS AND HOW TO PURSUE IT.WESTERN SOCIETY TAKES ITS CONCEPT OF HAPPINESS, AT LEAST IN PART, FROM THE GREEKCONCEPT OF EUDAIMONIA. EUDAIMONIA (GREEK: Εὐ ΔΑΙΜΟΝΊΑ) IS A CLASSICAL GREEKWORD COMMONLY TRANSLATED AS HAPPINESS. ETYMOLOGICALLY, IT CONSISTS OF THEWORD "EU" ("GOOD" OR "WELL BEING") AND "DAIMŌN" ("SPIRIT" OR "MINOR DEITY", USEDBY EXTENSION TO MEAN ONES LOT OR FORTUNE). ALTHOUGH POPULAR USAGE OF THE TERMHAPPINESS REFERS TO A STATE OF MIND, RELATED TO JOY OR PLEASURE, EUDAIMONIARARELY DESCRIBES A STATE OF MIND AND THE LESS SUBJECTIVE "HUMAN FLOURISHING" ISTHEREFORE CURRENTLY PREFERRED AS A TRANSLATION.IN MODERN WESTERN SOCIETY, ESPECIALLY IN NORTH AMERICA, IT IS WIDELY BELIEVEDTHAT HAPPINESS IS ATTAINED THROUGH BEING SUCCESSFUL, HEALTHY AND HAVINGBEAUTIFUL FAMILY; CREATING MONETARY WEALTH AND SUCCESS; BEING PHYSICALLYATTRACTIVE EVEN THROUGH OLD AGE; AND MAINTAINING ONES INTELLIGENCE AND WIT.SOME OF THESE ARE NOT SUPPORTED BY EMPIRICAL EVIDENCE; FOR EXAMPLE, MONEY DOESNOT APPEAR TO INCREASE HAPPINESS (OTHER THAN FOR THE IMPOVERISHED) AND HAVINGCHILDREN DOES NOT ON AVERAGE INCREASE OR DECREASE HAPPINESS.AS WELL, A PORTION OF THE UNEDUCATED POPULATION BELIEVES THAT HAPPINESS ISACHIEVED BY FOLLOWING THE LATEST CULTURAL FADS, SUCH AS KEEPING ONES CLOTHES INFASHION OR KEEPING THEM IN FASHION AS MUCH AS HUMANLY POSSIBLE, GOING TO THELATEST CLUBS, RESTAURANTS OR BARS, BUYING CONSUMER PRODUCTS SEEN AS TRENDY ORCOOL, OR CHANGING A HAIR STYLE SO THAT IT IS CURRENT. HOWEVER, MOST PEOPLEDISAGREE WITH THESE PRECEDING IDEALS BECAUSE THEY CONSIDER THEM TOOSUPERFICIAL, CONSUMERIST AND UNSATISFYING.FOR AMERICANS, THE HAPPY OR IDEAL LIFE IS SOMETIMES REFERRED TO AS THE AMERICANDREAM, WHICH CAN BE SEEN AS THE IDEA THAT ANY GOAL CAN BE ATTAINED THROUGHSUFFICIENT HARD WORK AND DETERMINATION, BIRTH AND PRIVILEGE NOTWITHSTANDING.WHILE MANY ARTISTS, WRITERS AND SCHOLARS CAN AND DO CONSIDER THEIR WORK TOFALL WITHIN THE AMERICAN DREAM, IT IS USUALLY THOUGHT OF AS RELATING TO FINANCIALSUCCESS.POSITIVE PSYCHOLOGYTHE POSITIVE PSYCHOLOGY DEFINITION OF HAPPINESS AS CONSISTING OF BOTH POSITIVEEMOTIONS (LIKE COMFORT) AND POSITIVE ACTIVITIES (LIKE ABSORPTION).THE THREE CATEGORIES OF POSITIVE EMOTIONS:PAST: FEELINGS OF SATISFACTION, CONTENTMENT, PRIDE AND SERENITY.PRESENT (EXAMPLES): ENJOYING THE TASTE OF FOOD, GLEE AT LISTENING TO MUSIC,ABSORPTION IN READING, AND COMPANY OF PEOPLE YOU LIKE E.G. FRIENDS AND FAMILY.FUTURE: FEELINGS OF OPTIMISM, HOPE, TRUST, FAITH AND CONFIDENCE.THERE ARE THREE CATEGORIES OF PRESENT POSITIVE EMOTIONS:BODILY PLEASURES, E.G. ENJOYING THE TASTE OF FOOD. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULHIGHER PLEASURES, E.G. GLEE AT LISTENING TO MUSIC.GRATIFICATIONS, E.G. ABSORPTION IN READING.THE BODILY AND HIGHER PLEASURES ARE "PLEASURES OF THE MOMENT" AND USUALLYINVOLVE SOME EXTERNAL STIMULUS. AN EXCEPTION IS THE GLEE FELT AT HAVING ANORIGINAL THOUGHT.DIFFICULTIES IN DEFINING INTERNAL EXPERIENCES.IT IS PROBABLY IMPOSSIBLE TO OBJECTIVELY DEFINE HAPPINESS AS WE KNOW ANDUNDERSTAND IT, AS INTERNAL EXPERIENCES ARE SUBJECTIVE BY NATURE. IT IS ALMOST ASPOINTLESS AS TRYING TO DEFINE THE COLOUR GREEN SUCH THAT A COMPLETELY COLOURBLIND PERSON COULD UNDERSTAND THE EXPERIENCE OF SEEING GREEN. WHILE WE CAN NOTOBJECTIVELY EXPRESS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN GREENNESS AND REDNESS, WE CANCERTAINLY EXPLAIN WHICH PHYSICAL PHENOMENA CAUSE GREEN TO BE OBSERVED, AND CANEXPLAIN THE CAPACITIES OF THE HUMAN VISUAL SYSTEM TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN LIGHTOF DIFFERENT WAVELENGTHS, AND SO ON. LIKEWISE, IN THE FOLLOWING SECTIONS, WEWILL NOT ATTEMPT TO DESCRIBE THE INTERNAL SENSATION OF HAPPINESS, BUT WILLINSTEAD CONCENTRATE ON DEFINING ITS LOGICAL BASIS. IMPORTANTLY, WE WILL TRY TOAVOID CIRCULAR DEFINITIONS FOR INSTANCE, DEFINING HAPPINESS AS "A GOOD FEELING",WHILE "GOOD" IS DEFINED AS BEING "SOMETHING WHICH CAUSES HAPPINESS".IN ANIMALSFOR ANIMALS, HAPPINESS MIGHT BE BEST DESCRIBED AS THE PROCESS OF REINFORCEMENT,AS PART OF THE ORGANISMS MOTIVATIONAL SYSTEM. THE ORGANISM HAS ACHIEVED ONEOR MORE OF ITS GOALS (PURSUIT OF FOOD, WATER, SEX, SHELTER, ETC.), AND ITS BRAIN ISIN THE PROCESS OF TEACHING ITSELF TO REPEAT THE SORT OF ACTIONS THAT LED TOSUCCESS. BY REINFORCING SUCCESSFUL DECISION PATHS, IT PRODUCES AN EQUILIBRIUMSTATE NOT UNLIKE POSITIVE-TO-NEGATIVE MAGNETS. THE SPECIFIC GOALS ARE TYPICALLYTHINGS THAT ENABLE THE ORGANISM TO SURVIVE AND REPRODUCE.BY THIS DEFINITION, ONLY ANIMALS WITH SOME CAPACITY TO LEARN SHOULD BE ABLE TOEXPERIENCE HAPPINESS. HOWEVER, AT ITS MOST BASIC LEVEL THE LEARNING MIGHT BEEXTREMELY SIMPLE AND SHORT TERM, SUCH AS THE NEARLY REFLEXIVE FEEDBACK LOOP OFSCRATCHING AN ITCH (FOLLOWED BY PLEASURE, FOLLOWED BY SCRATCHING MORE AND SOON) WHICH CAN OCCUR WITH ALMOST NO CONSCIOUS THOUGHT.IN HUMANSWHEN SPEAKING OF ANIMALS WITH THE ABILITY TO REASON (GENERALLY CONSIDERED THEEXCLUSIVE DOMAIN OF HUMANS), GOALS ARE NO LONGER LIMITED TO SHORT TERMSATISFACTION OF BASIC DRIVES. NEVERTHELESS, THERE REMAINS A STRONG RELATIONSHIPOF HAPPINESS TO GOAL FULFILMENT AND THE BRAINS REINFORCEMENT MECHANISM, EVENIF THE GOALS THEMSELVES MAY BE MORE COMPLEX AND/OR CEREBRAL, LONGER TERM, ANDLESS SELFISH THAN A LOWER ANIMALS GOALS MIGHT BE.PHILOSOPHERS OBSERVE THAT SHORT-TERM GRATIFICATION, WHILE BRIEFLY GENERATINGHAPPINESS, OFTEN REQUIRES A TRADE-OFF WITH NEGATIVE REPERCUSSIONS IN THE LONGRUN. EXAMPLES OF THIS COULD BE SAID TO INCLUDE DEVELOPING TECHNOLOGY ANDEQUIPMENT THAT MAKES LIFE EASIER BUT OVER TIME ENDS UP HARMING THE ENVIRONMENT, THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULCAUSING ILLNESS OR WASTING FINANCIAL OR OTHER RESOURCES. VARIOUS BRANCHES OFPHILOSOPHY, AS WELL AS SOME RELIGIOUS MOVEMENTS, SUGGEST THAT "TRUE" HAPPINESSONLY EXISTS IF IT HAS NO LONG-TERM DETRIMENTAL EFFECTS. UTILITARIANISM IS A THEORYOF ETHICS BASED ON QUANTITATIVE MAXIMISATION OF HAPPINESS.FROM THE OBSERVATION THAT FISH MUST BECOME HAPPY BY SWIMMING AND BIRDS MUSTBECOME HAPPY BY FLYING, ONLY MAN HAS THE UNIQUE ABILITIES TO THE ROUTE OFHAPPINESS. OF ALL THE ANIMALS ONLY MAN CAN SIT AND CONTEMPLATE REALITY. OF ALL THEANIMALS ONLY MAN CAN DEVELOP SOCIAL RELATIONS TO THE POLITICAL LEVEL. THUS THECONTEMPLATIVE LIFE OF A MONK OR PROFESSOR, OR THE POLITICAL LIFE OF A MILITARYCOMMANDER OR POLITICIAN WILL BE THE HAPPIEST.ONLY MAN IS ENDOWED WITH THE ABILITY NECESSARY TO GENERATE COMPLEX LANGUAGEAND THROUGH THAT CAN BE USED TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN THINGS AND FORMDICHOTOMIES. THESE DICHOTOMIES THEN FORMED, MAN TRIES TO FIND REASONS TO LIKEONE SIDE OF THINGS AND HATE THE OTHER. HENCE, HE LOSES HIS ABILITY TO ROVE FREELY,IN TRUE HAPPINESS, UNLIKE THE REST OF ANIMALS.IN ARTIFICIAL INTELLIGENCE.THE VIEW THAT HAPPINESS IS A REINFORCEMENT STATE CAN APPLY TO SOME NON-BIOLOGICAL SYSTEMS AS WELL. IN ARTIFICIAL INTELLIGENCE, A PROGRAM OR ROBOT COULDBE SAID TO BE "HAPPY" WHEN IT IS IN A STATE OF REINFORCING PREVIOUS ACTIONS THATLED TO SATISFACTION OF ITS PROGRAMMED GOALS. FOR INSTANCE, IMAGINE A SEARCHENGINE THAT HAS THE CAPACITY TO GRADUALLY IMPROVE THE QUALITY OF ITS SEARCHRESULTS BY ACCEPTING AND PROCESSING FEEDBACK FROM THE USER REGARDING THERELEVANCE OF THOSE RESULTS. IF THE USER RESPONDS THAT A SEARCH RESULT IS GOOD(I.E. PROVIDES POSITIVE FEEDBACK), THIS TELLS THE SOFTWARE TO REINFORCE (BYADJUSTING VARIABLES OR "WEIGHTS") THE DECISION PATH THAT LED TO THOSE RESULTS. INA SENSE, THIS COULD BE SAID TO "REWARD" THE SEARCH ENGINE. HOWEVER, EVEN IF THEPROGRAM IS MADE TO ACT LIKE IT IS HAPPY, THERE IS LITTLE DOUBT THAT THE SEARCHENGINE HAS NO SUBJECTIVE SENSE OF BEING HAPPY. CURRENT COMPUTING TECHNOLOGYMERELY IMPLEMENTS ABSTRACT MATHEMATICAL PROGRAMS, WHICH LACK THE CAUSAL ANDCREATIVE POWER OF NATURAL SYSTEMS. THIS DOES NOT PRECLUDE THE POSSIBILITY THATFUTURE TECHNOLOGIES MAY BEGIN TO BLUR THE DISTINCTION BETWEEN SUCH MACHINEHAPPINESS AND THAT EXPERIENCED BY AN ANIMAL OR HUMAN.SUCCESS IS NOT THE KEY TO HAPPINESS. HAPPINESS IS THE KEY TO SUCCESS. IF YOU LOVEWHAT YOU ARE DOING, YOU WILL BE SUCCESSFUL.HAPPINESS COMES WHEN YOUR WORK AND WORDS ARE OF BENEFIT TO YOURSELF ANDOTHERSHAPPINESS CANNOT COME FROM WITHOUT. IT MUST COME FROM WITHIN. IT IS NOT WHATWE SEE AND TOUCH OR THAT WHICH OTHERS DO FOR US WHICH MAKES US HAPPY; IT ISTHAT WHICH WE THINK AND FEEL AND DO, FIRST FOR THE OTHER FELLOW AND THEN FOROURSELVESWHEN ONE DOOR OF HAPPINESS CLOSES, ANOTHER OPENS; BUT OFTEN WE LOOK SO LONGAT THE CLOSED DOOR THAT WE DO NOT SEE THE ONE WHICH HAS BEEN OPENED FOR US. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULHAPPINESS IS A PROLONGED OR LASTING EMOTIONAL OR AFFECTIVE STATE THAT FEELSGOOD OR PLEASING. OVERLAPPING STATES OR EXPERIENCES ASSOCIATED WITH HAPPINESSINCLUDE WELLBEING, JOY, SEXUAL PLEASURE, DELIGHT, HEALTH, SAFETY AND LOVE, WHILECONTRASTING ONES INCLUDE SUFFERING, SADNESS, GRIEF, AND PAIN.FOR EVERYTHING THERE IS A SEASON,AND A TIME FOR EVERY MATTER UNDER THE SUN:A TIME TO BE BORN AND A TIME TO DIE;A TIME TO PLANT AND A TIME TO PLUCK UP WHAT IS PLANTED;A TIME TO KILL AND A TIME TO HEAL;A TIME TO BREAK DOWN AND A TIME TO BUILD UP;A TIME TO WEEP AND A TIME TO LAUGH;A TIME TO MOURN AND A TIME TO REJOICE;A TIME TO THROW AWAY STONES AND A TIME TO GATHER STONES TOGETHER;A TIME TO EMBRACE AND A TIME TO REFRAIN FROM EMBRACING;A TIME TO SEEK AND A TIME TO LOSE;A TIME TO KEEP AND A TIME TO THROW AWAY;A TIME TO TEAR AND A TIME TO SEW;A TIME TO KEEP SILENCE AND A TIME TO SPEAK;A TIME TO LOVE AND A TIME TO HATE,A TIME FOR WAR AND A TIME FOR PEACE. CREATIVITY AND QUALITYTHE LONG HELD BELIEF THAT CREATIVITY IS A TALENT POSSESSED ONLY BY A GIFTED FEWWHO CAN SEE BEYOND CURRENT PARADIGMS. CREATIVITY IS A SKILL THAT CAN BEDEVELOPED AND ENHANCED THROUGH STRUCTURED LEARNING AND TRAINING. LET MESHARE THESE THOUGHTS ON THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN CREATIVITY AND QUALITY. IN THISESSAY LET ME SHOW MY VIEWS ON POSSIBLE LIMITATIONS OF TRADITIONAL QUALITYIMPROVEMENT THINKING AND DEMONSTRATE THE IMPORTANCE THAT CREATIVITY PLAYS INENHANCING QUALITY IMPROVEMENT EFFORTS.CONFORMISTS ARE GOOD AT PLAYING THE GAME. AT SCHOOL THEY QUICKLY LEARN HOW TOPASS TESTS, HOW TO PLEASE THE TEACHER AND HOW TO COPY WHEN NECESSARY. LATER INLIFE THEY ARE ALSO GOOD AT ASSESSING THE GAME THAT IS IN PLAY AND THEN GOOD ATPLAYING THAT GAME.SO WE HAVE TENDED TO LEAVE CREATIVITY TO THE REBELS. THESE ARE THE PEOPLE WHOCANNOT PLAY THE GAME, DO NOT WANT TO PLAY THE GAME AND EVEN WANT TO BEDIFFERENT FOR THE SAKE OF BEING DIFFERENT. WE HAVE BEEN SATISFIED WITH THAT IMAGEOF CREATIVITY. WE HAVE SUPPOSED THAT CREATIVITY IS A COMBINATION OF REBELLIOUSMOTIVATION AND INBORN TALENT. SUPPOSE THAT IMAGE OF CREATIVITY IS NOT ONLYWRONG BUT ALSO DANGEROUS. SUPPOSE THAT IT IS DANGEROUS BECAUSE IT PREVENTS USFROM ADVANCING THE SERIOUS USE OF CREATIVITY.WE CAN, I BELIEVE, MOVE AWAY FROM THIS OLD-FASHIONED VIEW OF CREATIVITY. TO MOVEAWAY FROM THE NOTION THAT CREATIVITY IS JUST MESSING AROUND WITH BRAINSTORMINGAND HOPING NEW IDEAS WILL HAPPEN. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULCONSIDER AN ORDINARY PERSON WHO IS BOUND UP TIGHTLY WITH A ROPE. OBVIOUSLYTHAT PERSON IS NOT ABLE TO PLAY THE VIOLIN. IF THE TIED-UP PERSON CANNOT PLAY THEVIOLIN THEN SURELY CUTTING THE ROPE AND FREEING THAT PERSON MAKES THE PERSON AVIOLINIST? THIS IS AN ABSURD LEAP OF LOGIC. FREEING THE PERSON MAY BE A NECESSARYSTEP TOWARD VIOLIN PLAYING BUT DOES NOT, BY ITSELF, PROVIDE VIOLIN-PLAYING SKILLS.WHY THEN DO WE APPLY THIS ABSURD LOGIC TO CREATIVITY?WE HAVE OBSERVED THAT INHIBITED PEOPLE ARE NOT CREATIVE. WE THEN SUPPOSE THAT"LIBERATING" PEOPLE WILL SUDDENLY MAKE THEM CREATIVE. IT DOES NOT FOLLOW AT ALL.YET ALMOST THE ENTIRE EFFORT TOWARD ENCOURAGING CREATIVE THINKING HAS BEENCONCERNED WITH FREEING PEOPLE UP AND LIBERATING THEM FROM THEIR INHIBITIONS. ITIS SUPPOSED TO BE ENOUGH TO BE CRAZY. NO WONDER CREATIVITY IS NOT TAKENSERIOUSLY AND IS NOT AS EFFECTIVE AS IT MIGHT BE.TODAY, FOR THE FIRST TIME IN HISTORY, WE CAN UNDERSTAND THE GAME OR CREATIVITY.THIS MEANS THAT THE CONFORMISTS CAN NOW LEARN TO PLAY THIS GAME. BECAUSECONFORMISTS ARE BETTER AT LEARNING AND PLAYING GAMES, THERE IS NOW A STRONGPOSSIBILITY THAT CONFORMISTS WILL ACTUALLY BECOME MORE CREATIVE THAN THEREBELS, IF THE CONFORMISTS HAVE THE MOTIVATION.HOW ARE THE CONFORMISTS GOING TO GET THE CREATIVE MOTIVATION, WHICH IS SONATURAL TO THE REBELS? THERE ARE TWO APPROACHES.1 CONFORMISTS CAN BE SHOWN THE "LOGIC" OF CREATIVITY. WE NOW KNOW THAT THERE ISAN ABSOLUTE MATHEMATICAL NEED FOR CREATIVITY IN ANY SELF-ORGANISING INFORMATIONSYSTEM SUCH AS HUMAN PERCEPTION. I HAVE FOUND THAT MATHEMATICIANS, HIGHLYTECHNICAL PEOPLE AND ACCOUNTANTS, FOR EXAMPLE, SUDDENLY SEE THE LOGICAL BASISOF CREATIVITY. ONE TIME I WAS EXPLAINING MIND CONTROL METHODS TO A GROUP OFSTUDENTS. AT FIRST THEY WERE DOUBTFUL, BUT ONCE THEY COULD SEE THE LOGIC BEHINDTHE TECHNIQUES, THEY TRIED THEM OUT AND WERE SURPRISED TO FIND THAT THEYWORKED.2 EXHORTING PEOPLE TO BE CREATIVE HAS ONLY A VERY LIMITED EFFECT ON MOTIVATIONAND EVEN THAT LIMITED EFFECT WEARS OFF PRETTY QUICKLY. IT IS FAR BETTER TODEMONSTRATE SOME MIND CONTROL TECHNIQUES. ONCE PEOPLE FIND THAT THEY CAN USESUCH TECHNIQUES SYSTEMATICALLY AND THAT THEY PRODUCE RESULTS, THEN MOTIVATIONFOLLOWS. IF YOU FIND THAT YOU CAN BE CREATIVE, THEN YOU WANT TO BE.THE GAME OF CREATIVITYMY RESEARCH COVERED MANY OF THE COMPLICATED INTERACTIVE SYSTEMS IN THE HUMANBODY: RESPIRATION, CIRCULATION, KIDNEYS, ENDOCRINE GLANDS AND SO ON. I WASFORCED TO DEVELOP CONCEPTS TO DEAL WITH SELF-ORGANISING INFORMATION SYSTEMS.IN THE BOOK MIND CONTROL SYSTEM, WHICH IS BASED ON HOW NERVE NETWORKSALLOWED INFORMATION TO ORGANISE ITSELF INTO SEQUENCES OR ROUTINE PATTERNS. ATTHE TIME IT WAS WRITTEN, THOSE IDEAS WERE UNUSUAL. TODAY THEY ARE MAINSTREAMTHINKING. IN FACT, THOSE WHO HAVE READ THE BOOK OBSERVED THAT I WAS WRITINGABOUT THESE THINGS BEFORE MATHEMATICIANS STARTED LOOKING AT CHAOS AND NON-LINEAR, UNSTABLE SYSTEMS. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULWITH JUST 9 ITEMS OF CLOTHING TO PUT ON IN THE MORNING, (DEPENDING ON ONESCULTURAL DRESS) THERE ARE MILLIONS OF WAYS OF GETTING DRESSED, THOUGH NOT ALLTHESE ARE FEASIBLE. IF THE BRAIN WAS NOT SO EXCELLENT AT FORMING THE ROUTINEPATTERNS OF PERCEPTION AND ACTION, LIFE WOULD BE IMPOSSIBLE. IT IS THE EXCELLENCEOF THE BRAIN AS A SELF-ORGANISING INFORMATION SYSTEM THAT ALLOWS EXPERIENCE TOORGANISE ITSELF INTO ROUTINE PATTERNS. THIS IS THE BASIS OF PERCEPTION. IN FACT,THE BRAIN IS EVEN BETTER THAN THAT BECAUSE IT CAN CENTRE PATTERNS, WHICHCOMPUTERS FIND VERY HARD TO DO.IN SUCH SYSTEMS, THERE IS NO ACCESS TO THE SIDE BRANCHES FROM THE MAIN TRACK,BUT THERE IS ACCESS TO THE MAIN TRACK, BUT THERE IS ACCESS TO THE MAIN TRACKFROM THE SIDE-TRACKS. THIS BASIC ASYMMETRY OF PATTERNS GIVES RISE TO BOTHHUMOUR AND CREATIVITY. THAT IS WHY HUMOUR IS THE MOST SIGNIFICANT BEHAVIOUR OFTHE HUMAN BRAIN BECAUSE IT INDICATES THE EXISTENCE OF A SELF-ORGANISING SYSTEM.WITH CREATIVITY WE SOMEHOW JUMP ACROSS TO THE SIDE-TRACK FROM THE MAIN TRACK.THAT IS WHY ALL VALUED CREATIVE IDEAS ARE ALWAYS LOGICAL IN HINDSIGHT.UNFORTUNATELY, WE HAVE BELIEVED THAT BECAUSE CREATIVE IDEAS ARE LOGICAL INHINDSIGHT, THEN LOGIC SHOULD BE ENOUGH IN FORESIGHT. THIS IS TOTALLY UNTRUE IN APATTERNING SYSTEM BUT QUITE TRUE IN A PASSIVE SYSTEM. IT IS THIS RECENT "UNIVERSE"SWITCH FROM PASSIVE INFORMATION SYSTEMS TO SELF-ORGANISING SYSTEMS THAT HASALLOWED US TO UNDERSTAND THE NATURE OF CREATIVITY.AS A DIRECT RESULT OF THIS UNDERSTANDING, WE CAN DESIGN DELIBERATE AND FORMALMIND CONTROL TOOLS SUCH AS RANDOM ENTRY AND PROVOCATION. THESE FORMAL TOOLSCAN BE LEARNED, PRACTISED AND USED SYSTEMATICALLY. THEY CAN BE USED BYINDIVIDUALS ON THEIR OWN. THERE IS NO NEED FOR A BRAINSTORMING TOOL. WEDELIBERATE USE OF SUCH SYSTEMATIC TOOLS IS VERY DIFFERENT FROM JUST MESSINGAROUND AND HOPING THINGS HAPPEN. FOR EXAMPLE, THERE ARE THE FORMAL METHODS OF"MOVEMENT, WHICH IS AN ACTIVE MENTAL OPERATION AND NOT JUST A SUSPENSION OFJUDGEMENT.QUALITY IN THINKINGWHILE WE HAVE SOUGHT TO IMPROVE QUALITY IN MOST PLACES, THE ONE AREA WE HAVENEGLECTED HAS BEEN OUR THINKING. WE MAY HAVE SOUGHT TO DO BETTER WHAT WE AREALREADY DOING, BUT WE HAVE NOT SOUGHT BETTER WAYS OF DOING THINGS.IN THE FIRST PART OF THIS ESSAY, I SOUGHT TO SHOW WHAT HAPPENS WHEN WE APPLYQUALITY TO CREATIVITY ITSELF. WE GET A VERY DIFFERENT AND MUCH MORE POWERFULPROCESS. BUT WE CAN ALSO APPLY QUALITY TO OTHER ASPECTS OF THINKING.FOR EXAMPLE, THE TRADITIONAL WESTERN METHOD OF ARGUMENT IS TIME CONSUMING,WASTEFUL, INEFFICIENT AND SUBJECT TO POLITICAL ABUSE. WE CAN REPLACE THISADVERSARIAL METHOD WITH EFFECTIVE THINKING IN WHICH ALL THOSE PRESENT THINK CO-OPERATIVELY. THE DIRECTIONS FOR THE EFFECTIVE EFFORTS ARE SET BY THE SIX THINKINGCAPS. THE WHITE CAP INDICATES A FOCUS ON INFORMATION. THE RED CAP LEGITIMISED ANEXPRESSION OF FEELING AND INTUITION. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULTHE BLACK CAP IS FOR CAUTION. THE YELLOW CAP ASKS FOR BENEFITS AND VALUES. THEGREEN CAP IS FOR CREATIVE EFFORT. THE BLUE CAP IS FOR CONTROL OF THE THINKINGPROCESS ITSELF.THE SIX-CAP METHOD IS NOW BEING WIDELY USED BY MANY MAJOR PEOPLE. USING SUCHMETHODS REDUCED THINKING TIME BY 75 PERCENT. THIS METHOD ALLOWS ALL THE"INTELLECTUAL HORSEPOWER" OF THOSE ATTENDING A MEETING TO BE USED PRODUCTIVELY.IT ALSO PREVENTS POLITICS. THE GREEN CAP PROVIDES A SPECIFIC PLACE FOR CREATIVITYAND THE BLACK CAP ENSURES THAT CRITICISM IS ONLY USED IN ITS PROPER PLACE.OUR BASIC SECULAR THINKING HABITS WERE SET 2,500 YEARS AGO BY THE GREEK GANG OFTHREE (SOCRATES, PLATO, AND ARISTOTLE). IT IS A SYSTEM BASED ON ANALYSIS,JUDGEMENT AND ARGUMENT. IT IS A SYSTEM THAT IS LACKING IN CREATIVE, CONSTRUCTIVEAND DESIGN ENERGY.CREATIVITY IN QUALITYTHERE IS A REASON WHY THIS ESSAY MAY APPEAR TO HAVE BEEN WRITTEN BACKWARDS.WHY HAVE I WRITTEN ABOUT CREATIVITY FIRST AND ABOUT THE NEED FOR CREATIVITY INQUALITY PROGRAMS SECOND? THE REASON IS THAT UNLESS THE READER HAS A CLEARUNDERSTANDING OF WHAT I MEAN BY CREATIVITY (SERIOUS CREATIVITY), THERE IS NOPOINT IN SETTING THE PLACE OF CREATIVITY IN QUALITY PROGRAMS.REMOVAL OF FAULTSTHIS IS A BASIC HABIT OF WESTERN THINKING. IF YOU CAN ONLY GET RID OF FAULTSEVERYTHING ELSE WILL BE FINE. THERE ARE TWO OBVIOUS DANGERS:1 WE ONLY FOCUS OUR THINKING ON WHAT IS WRONG.2 GETTING RID OF THE FAULTS IN A POORLY DESIGNED SYSTEM DOES NOT RESULT IN ABETTER-DESIGNED SYSTEM.NEVERTHELESS, THE EARLY SUCCESSES OF QUALITY PROGRAMS OFTEN ARISE FROM THEREMOVAL OF FAULTS, INEFFICIENCIES, WASTAGE AND PROBLEMS. THIS PART ISINTELLECTUALLY EASY, EVEN IF IMPLEMENTATION IS NOT QUITE SO EASY.WHEN THIS EASY PART HAS BEEN DONE, TQM PROGRAMS OFTEN RUN OUT OF STEAM. EVENWITHIN THIS PROBLEM-SOLVING PHASE, THERE MAY BE A NEED FOR SERIOUS CREATIVITY TOHELP SOLVE SOME OF THE PROBLEMS.LOCKED IN BY SUCCESSIF WE ARE TOO SUCCESSFUL IN IMPROVING THE CURRENT WAY OF DOING THINGS, THEN WECAN GET LOCKED INTO THAT CURRENT WAY, JUST AS WE HAVE BECOME LOCKED INTO OURTRADITIONAL THINKING HABITS.THE GOAL OF QUALITY PROGRAMS SHOULD NOT BE JUST TO IMPROVE PRESENT METHODSBUT ALSO TO SEEK ALTERNATIVE METHODS OF REACHING THE AGREED OBJECTIVES. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULCREATIVITY IS NEEDED TO GENERATE THE ALTERNATIVES. OFTEN THERE IS A NEED FOR NEWCONCEPTS. WHEN THE ALTERNATIVES HAVE BEEN GENERATED, THEN THEY CAN BE MEASUREDAGAINST EACH OTHER AND AGAINST THE CURRENT METHOD.SUCCESS IN IMPROVING THE QUALITY OF THE EXISTING METHOD MAY LOCK US INTOCONTINUING THAT PARTICULAR OPERATION WHEN A CREATIVE CHALLENGE WOULD HAVESHOWN THAT THE WHOLE OPERATION DID NOT NEED DOING AT ALL.CHANCE OF OBJECTIVESWE CAN IMPROVE THE CURRENT WAY OF REACHING THE CURRENT OBJECTIVE.WE CAN FIND A DIFFERENT WAY TO REACH THE CURRENT OBJECTIVE.WE CAN CHANGE THE OBJECTIVE ITSELF.CREATIVITY CAN BE HELPFUL IN GETTING US TO THINK FREELY ABOUT WHAT WE ARE TRYINGTO DO. CREATIVITY OPENS UP POSSIBILITIES. CREATIVITY PROVOKES OUR THINKING ABOUTOBJECTIVES.VALUES AND EXPECTATIONSPARTICULARLY IN THE HEALTH FIELD, VALUES AND EXPECTATIONS ARE COMPLEX AND CHANGEEVERY DAY. FOR EXAMPLE, A SEVERELY ILL PATIENT MAY PREFER THE SURVEILLANCE OF AGENERAL WARD BECAUSE FEAR IS UPPERMOST. A CONVALESCING PATIENT MAY PREFER THECOMFORT OF PRIVACY. ONE PATIENT MAY VALUE CHARM BUT ANOTHER PREFERS BRUSQUEEFFICIENCY. SOME PEOPLE LIKE THE FREEDOM OF CHOICE. OTHERS DO NOT WANT TO BEBURDENED BY HAVING TO MAKE DECISIONS. SOME VALUE FULL INFORMATION, OTHERS DONOT WANT TO BE CONFUSED BY INFORMATION.CREATIVITY HELPS IN THE EXPLORATION OF VALUES AND THE DESIGN OF NEW VALUES.CHANGES IN EXPECTATIONS CAN DRAMATICALLY LOWER COSTS. HOW CAN WE GET SUCHCHANGES IN EXPECTATIONS?CREATIVE FOCUSIT IS EASY TO FOCUS ON PROBLEMS AND DEFECTS. IT IS DIFFICULT TO FOCUS ON THINGSTHAT ARE GOING WELL. IT IS EVEN MORE DIFFICULT TO FOCUS ON THINGS WE DO NOT EVENNOTICE.WHY DO QUALITY EFFORTS LOSE THEIR FIZZ ??QUALITY IS NO LONGER ENOUGHWHEN QUALITY PROGRAMS HAVE BEEN RUNNING FOR SOME TIME THE FIZZ GOES OUT OFTHEM AND THEY CAN BECOME BORING. BUT THAT IS ONLY A MINOR PROBLEM COMPARED TOTHE MORE FUNDAMENTAL ISSUES THAT I INTEND TO COVER HERE.WATER IS NECESSARY FOR SOUP BUT SOUP IS MORE THAN WATER. IF YOU ARE GIVEN A BOWLOF SOUP THAT IS JUST PURE WATER YOU DO NOT CRITICISE THE WATER. IF A CAR HAS A FLAT THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULTIRE YOU DO NOT CRITICISE THE THREE INFLATED TIRES BUT POINT OUT THE DEFICIENCY. INEXACTLY THE SAME WAY IT MAY BE NECESSARY AT THIS STAGE TO POINT OUT THAT QUALITYPROGRAMS ARE WONDERFUL BUT TO ASK WHETHER THEY ARE SUFFICIENT. THAT IS NOCRITICISM OF QUALITY PROGRAMS, WHICH USUALLY DO A MUCH-NEEDED JOB VERY WELL.THREE PHASES OF WESTERN BUSINESS MANAGEMENTWE CAN BEGIN BY DISTINGUISHING THREE PHASES IN THE EVOLUTION OF WESTERNBUSINESS MANAGEMENT.PHASE ONE…PROBLEM SOLVING, THIS PHASE LASTED A VERY LONG TIME (FROM THE MID1940S TO THE MID 1960S). IT WAS FIRMLY BASED ON THE SAYING: IF IT ISN‟T BROKE DONTFIX IT." WESTERN BUSINESS HAD A VIRTUAL MONOPOLY IN AN EXPANDING MARKET.BUSINESS WAS SET ON A PROSPEROUS PATH AND „MAINTENANCE WAS ENOUGH. WHY WASTETIME FIXING SOMETHING THAT WAS NOT BROKEN? PROBLEMS WERE A DEVIATION THAT HADTO BE FIXED SO THAT WE COULD GET BACK TO THE PROPER PATH.THE GANG OF THREE…THIS PHASE FITTED IN VERY WELL WITH THE NEGATIVE ORIENTATIONOF WESTERN THINKING WHICH WAS DERIVED FROM THE INFAMOUS GREEK GANG OF THREE:SOCRATES, PLATO AND ARISTOTLE. THIS STYLE OF THINKING PLACED ARGUMENT ORCONFRONTATION AS CENTRAL TO WESTERN THINKING CULTURE.ARGUMENT MEANT POINTING OUT WHAT WAS WRONG IN THE OTHER PARTYS VIEW ORPROPOSAL. SADLY WE STILL PUT FAR TOO MUCH EMPHASIS ON THIS IN THE TEACHING OFCRITICAL THINKING IN SCHOOLS INSTEAD OF PRODUCTIVE THINKING.CENTRAL TO THIS WESTERN THINKING IS THE NOTION THAT IF YOU REMOVE THE FAULTSTHEN ALL WILL BE WELL. SO PROBLEM SOLVING WAS ENOUGH. FIND THE PROBLEM, DEFINETHE PROBLEM, SOLVE THE PROBLEM AND ALL WILL BE WELL.THE TRADITIONAL APPROACH TO IMPROVEMENT WAS THE SAME. WE LOOKED FOR FAULTS,DEFECTS, WEAKNESSES AND BOTTLENECKS AND THEN SET ABOUT PUTTING THESE RIGHT.FAR TOO MANY QUALITY PROGRAMS TODAY STILL OPERATE ON THAT BASIS.THEN ALONG CAME THE JAPANESE. THE MOST STRIKING THING ABOUT JAPANESE CULTURE ISNOT THAT IT HAS EXTRA FEATURES BUT THAT IT IS WITHOUT SOME OF THE MAJOR DEFECTSOF WESTERN THINKING SUCH AS THE NEGATIVE ORIENTATION AND EGO PROBLEMS (ANDSHORT TERM MAXIMISATION). THE JAPANESE HAD NOT BEEN INFLUENCED BY CLASSIC GREEKTHINKING SO THEY DID NOT SET OUT TO FIND WHAT WAS WRONG-THEY SET OUT TO MAKETHINGS BETTER. THIS IS A TOTALLY DIFFERENT APPROACH.THE JAPANESE DO SOLVE PROBLEMS AND CORRECT FAULTS BUT THAT IS ONLY THEBEGINNING OF IMPROVEMENT. THEN THEY GO ON TO MAKE BETTER WHAT ALREADY SEEMSPERFECT. AWARENESS OF THIS APPROACH AND LOSS OF MARKET SHARE FORCED THE WESTINTO A SECOND PHASE.PHASE TWO…QUALITY AND CONTINUOUS IMPROVEMENT. TO COMPETE WITH THE JAPANESE,WESTERN BUSINESS WAS FORCED TO MOVE AWAY FROM THE PROBLEM-SOLVING PHASE. YOUCOULD SOLVE ALL YOUR PROBLEMS BUT THAT ONLY BROUGHT YOU BACK TO WHERE YOU HADBEEN. MEANWHILE YOUR COMPETITORS WERE MAKING IMPROVEMENTS AT POINTS, WHICH THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULWERE NOT PROBLEMS AND ONE DAY YOU WOKE UP AND FOUND THAT YOU HAD BEEN LEFTFAR BEHIND.SO THE WEST HAD TO SET ABOUT DOING WHAT CAME MORE NATURALLY TO THE JAPANESEWHO NEVER HAD THE NEGATIVE ORIENTATION OF THINKING. THE WEST HAD TO DEVISE ANDINSTITUTE FORMAL QUALITY PROGRAMS, WHICH WERE CONCERNED WITH CONTINUOUSIMPROVEMENT.THIS WAS NO LONGER JUST A MATTER OF PROBLEM SOLVING AND FIXING DEFECTS BUT OFMAKING BETTER WHAT WAS ALREADY GOOD. SO CAME THE NOTION OF QUALITY ANDCONTINUOUS IMPROVEMENT.THE CHOICE OF THE WORD QUALITY IS A GOOD ONE. YOU CAN HAVE AN ADEQUATE SUITWHICH PERFORMS THE FUNCTIONS OF A SUIT BUT YOU CAN ALSO HAVE A QUALITY SUIT.WITH THE QUALITY SUIT YOU ARE STILL ALWAYS TRYING TO IMPROVE THE QUALITY.IN ADDITION TO EVERYTHING ELSE THE QUALITY MOVEMENT SET UP FRAMEWORKS SUCH ASQUALITY CIRCLES OR TEAMS WHICH ENCOURAGED PEOPLE TO EXAMINE WHAT THEY WEREDOING INSTEAD OF JUST DOING IT AUTOMATICALLY. THE MOTIVATION VALUE OF THIS WASCONSIDERABLE EVEN IF FEW CHANGES WERE ACTUALLY MADE. THERE WERE NOW TWOLEVELS OF ACHIEVEMENT. THE FIRST WAS DOING WHAT YOU WERE SUPPOSED TO BE DOING.THE SECOND WAS ATTEMPTING TO IMPROVE THE PROCESS ITSELF.THE QUICK RESULTS TRAP…IN TRADITIONAL COST CUTTING OR SLIMMING DOWN PROGRAMSTHE BIG BENEFITS COME EARLY. IT IS NOT TOO DIFFICULT TO GET RID OF THE FAT ANDINEFFICIENCIES THAT HAVE BUILT UP OVER THE GOOD YEARS WHEN THERE WAS NOPRESSURE ON COSTS. BUT AS COSTS ARE CUT AND EFFICIENCY IS INCREASED THEN ITBECOMES MORE AND MORE DIFFICULT TO GET RESULTS.THE SAME THING HAPPENS WITH QUALITY PROGRAMS. THE BEST RESULTS COME EARLY ANDTHE MORE SUCCESSFUL THE PROGRAMS THE MORE DIFFICULT IT BECOMES TO GET BIGRESULTS ALTER. THIS IS WHEN QUALITY PROGRAMS CAN BECOME BORING. AT THIS POINTTHERE IS A NEED TO SHIFT TO THE THIRD PHASE OF BUSINESS WHICH IS JUST BEGINNING.PHASE THREE…CREATIVITY OR QUALITY PLUS. THE GERMAN ECONOMY HAS THRIVED TO THEPOINT WHERE IT BECAME THE WORLDS LARGEST EXPORTER. THIS IS IN SPITE OF VERY HIGHWAGE RATES AND MUCH LONGER HOLIDAYS THAN IN OTHER INDUSTRIAL COUNTRIES (FIVEWEEKS VACATION A YEAR). THE SUCCESS OF THE GERMAN ECONOMY WAS BASED ONEXCELLENCE AND HIGH QUALITY PARTICULARLY IN THE FIELD OF ENGINEERING.THIS HIGH QUALITY WAS BASED ON TWO THINGS. THE FIRST THING WAS A VERY HIGHLYSKILLED WORK FORCE, WHICH COMES FROM A UNIQUE APPRENTICESHIP SYSTEM IN WHICHWORKERS LEARN THEIR SKILLS THROUGH EARLY ON-THE-JOB TRAINING. THE SECOND THINGWAS A CONSCIOUS DECISION TO PUT QUALITY BEFORE CREATIVITY.THE QUALITY, FIRST AND ONLY TRAP…PUTTING QUALITY BEFORE CREATIVITY MAKES A LOT OFSENSE. CREATIVITY WITHOUT QUALITY IS NOT WORTH MUCH AS US AND BRITISH INDUSTRYFOUND WHEN COMPETING WITH THE GERMANS AND THE JAPANESE. QUALITY WITHOUTCREATIVITY DOES HAVE A HIGH VALUE SO LONG AS YOUR COMPETITORS CANNOT ALSOOFFER QUALITY, THEN YOU HAVE TO GO FURTHER. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULTHAT IS WHY GERMAN INDUSTRY MAY BE IN BAD TROUBLE IN THE NEAR FUTURE BECAUSETHEY HAVE NOT YET REALISED THAT OTHERS ARE CATCHING UP ON QUALITY. FOR EXAMPLEGERMANY HAS FALLEN FAR BEHIND THE ELECTRONICS AREA AND IS SEEKING TO CATCH UPTHROUGH JOINT VENTURES WITH THE JAPANESE.THE LIMIT TO QUALITY ALONE, WATER IS NECESSARY FOR SOUP BUT SOUP IS MORE THANWATER. FLAVOUR WITHOUT WATER DOES NOT MAKE SOUP. CREATIVITY WITHOUT QUALITY ISOF LITTLE VALUE BUT QUALITY ALONE IS ALSO NOT ENOUGH.THE WORD QUALITY IS A GOOD WORD AND IMPLIES DOING WHAT YOU ARE DOING BETTER.THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT AND VERY VALID. BUT MAKING BETTER FOUNTAIN PENS WHEN YOUSHOULD HAVE BEEN SWITCHING OVER TO BALLPOINTS MAY NOT BE THE BEST THING TO DO.THERE WILL ALWAYS BE A NICHE FOR HIGH QUALITY EXPENSIVE FOUNTAIN PENS BUT THAT ISA SMALL SPECIALIST MARKET. AT THIS POINT WE COME TO THE CHIEF LIMITATION OF THENOTION OF QUALITY.SHOULD WE EXPAND QUALITYS DEFINITION? I SEE A VERY CONSIDERABLE DANGER INEXPANDING THE NOTION OF QUALITY TO INCLUDE EVERYTHING GOOD THAT CAN BE DONE.THERE IS DANGER IN EXPANDING THE NOTION OF QUALITY TO INCLUDE THEIR CREATIVECHANGE OF CONCEPT AS WELL.THE DANGER IS THAT WHEN WE SEEK TO EXPAND A WORD BEYOND ITS TRUE MEANING WEONLY END UP CONFUSING PEOPLE AND ALSO LOSING THE POWER OF THE ORIGINALMEANING. THERE IS EXACTLY THE SAME DANGER IN THE TEACHING OF CRITICAL THINKINGIN SCHOOLS. THE PROPONENTS OF CRITICAL THINKING CLAIM THAT IT COVERS ALLTHINKING, WHICH IS CLEARLY NONSENSE.THE WORD CRITICAL COMES FROM THE GREEK KRITIKOS, WHICH MEANS JUDGEMENT.INDEED, JUDGEMENT IS AN IMPORTANT PART OF THINKING BUT THERE IS ALSO THE NEEDFOR GENERATIVE AND PRODUCTIVE THINKING. IN THE SAME WAY WE MUST NOT LOSE THEVALUE OF THE WORD QUALITY BY PRETENDING THAT IT INCLUDES ALL THAT NEEDS DOING.WE END UP BY DE-VALUING THAT WORD AND NOT DOING ALL THAT NEEDS DOING.SO WE NEED TO ACKNOWLEDGE THE GREAT VALUE OF QUALITY AND THE CONTINUING NEEDFOR IT. AND THEN WE NEED TO ADD THE CONCEPT OF CREATIVITY AS WELL. THIS IS IN NOSENSE A CRITICISM OF QUALITY OR AN ATTACK ON QUALITY. RECALL, IF YOU WILL, THAT TOPOINT OUT THAT FLATNESS OF ONE TIRE DOES NOT ATTACK THE FULL INFLATION OF THEOTHER TIRES.ORGANISATION FOR QUALITY AND CREATIVITYMANY LARGE ORGANISATIONS ARE SLOWLY COMING TO REALISE THE IMPORTANCE OFADDING CREATIVITY TO THEIR QUALITY PROGRAMS.ORGANISATION FOR QUALITY AND CREATIVITY…THIS MEANS CREATIVITY THROUGHOUT THEORGANISATIONS AND NOT JUST IN SPECIAL AREAS SUCH AS MARKETING, CORPORATESTRATEGY, RESEARCH AND DEVELOPMENT, ETCETERA. IT IS RIGHT THAT QUALITY SHOULDCOME BEFORE CREATIVITY BUT EVENTUALLY THERE COMES A TIME WHEN CREATIVITY NEEDSTO BE ADDED TO QUALITY. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULSOME ORGANISATIONS SUCH HAVE STARTED TO TALK ABOUT RE-ENGINEERING WHICHINTRODUCES THE CONCEPT OF CREATIVITY. INSTEAD OF DOING THE SAME THING BETTER. ISTHERE A DIFFERENT AND BETTER WAY OF DOING IT?TWO APPROACHES TO COMPANY WIDE CREATIVITYTHE TOOL-KIT APPROACH. THE SIMPLEST APPROACH IS TO SEEK TO INTRODUCE CREATIVETHINKING TECHNIQUES INTO THE QUALITY PROGRAMS AS TOOLS FOR ACHIEVINGCONTINUOUS IMPROVEMENT AND EVEN CHANGING CONCEPTS. IN THIS WAY THE TOOLSBECOME AVAILABLE TO EVERYONE WORKING WITHIN THE FRAMEWORK OF THE EXISTINGQUALITY PROGRAMS.THE INTRODUCTION OF THE TOOLS CAN BE DONE IN A FORMAT AND SYSTEMATIC MANNERTHOUGH PROPERLY TRAINED FACILITATORS OR TRAINERS. THE IMPORTANT POINT IS THAT ITNEEDS TO BE DONE SERIOUSLY AND SHOULD NOT JUST BE A TOKEN GESTURE TOWARDSCREATIVITY WITH SOME WEAK BRAINSTORMING SESSIONS.CREATIVITY IN ALL AREAS IS GOING TO BE THE KEY INGREDIENT FOR BUSINESS SUCCESS. ASTECHNOLOGY BECOMES A COMMODITY AND ALL COMPETITORS REACH THE SAME LEVEL OFCOMPETENCE, IT IS ONLY CREATIVITY SHOULD NOT BE SEEN JUST AS A SUBSET OF QUALITYOR ONLY AS A TOOL KIT FOR QUALITY PROGRAMS.CREATIVITY NEEDS TO EXIST IN ITS OWN RIGHT IN AN ORGANISATION WITH A NOMINATEDCHAMPION AND WHERE POSSIBLE, A CREATIVITY CENTRE. THIS CREATIVITY CENTRE CANTHEN PROVIDE THE TRAINING AND TOOL KIT FOR THE QUALITY PROGRAM.FIXING MISPERCEPTIONS ABOUT CREATIVITYTHERE IS A HUGE AMOUNT OF NONSENSE AND RUBBISH WRITTEN ABOUT CREATIVITY. IT IS ASUBJECT, WHICH ATTRACTS A LARGE NUMBER OF OPERATORS WHO HAVE LOADS OF STYLEBUT ONLY INCOMPETENTLY BORROWED SUBSTANCE. MUCH OF THE CONFUSION ARISES FROMSOME BASIC MISPERCEPTIONS ABOUT CREATIVITY.CREATIVITY MISPERCEPTION NUMBER ONE. ARTISTIC CREATIVITY AND CONCEPTUALCREATIVITY ARE THE SAME THING.THE WORD CREATIVITY IN THE ENGLISH LANGUAGE UNFORTUNATELY INCLUDES THE ARTS.SO IT IS SUPPOSED THAT ALL ARTISTS ARE CREATIVE. THIS IS NOT SO. MANY ARTISTS ARESIMPLY PRODUCTIVE STYLISTS WHO PRODUCE WITHIN A STYLE OR PERCEPTION ANDEXPRESSION. THIS HAS NOTHING WHATEVER TO DO WITH CHANGING CONCEPTS.WE NEED TO DISTINGUISH CLEARLY BETWEEN THE CREATIVITY INVOLVED IN CHANGINGCONCEPTS AND ARTISTIC CREATIVITY. BEING ARTISTICALLY INCLINED DOES NOT MAKE APERSON CREATIVE OR CAPABLE OF TRAINING OTHERS IN CREATIVITY.CREATIVITY MISPERCEPTION NUMBER TWO. EVERYONE IS CREATIVE BUT HAS BEENUNTRAINED OR INHIBITED BY PEERS.THERE IS A TRADITION THAT EVERYONE IS REALLY CREATIVE AND THAT WE HAVE ALL BEENINHIBITED BY A SCHOOL SYSTEM THAT DEMANDS THE ONE RIGHT ANSWER AND BY THE FEAR THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULOF SEEMING RIDICULOUS. THE HOPE IS THAT IF WE BECOME LIBERATED AND FREED FROMSUCH INHIBITIONS THEN WE SHALL ALL BE CREATIVE.THIS IS NONSENSE. THE BRAIN IS NOT DESIGNED TO BE CREATIVE AND IF IT WERE SODESIGNED THEN LIFE WOULD BE IMPOSSIBLE. THE BRAIN IS DESIGNED TO SET UPPERCEPTUAL PATTERNS AND TO STICK TO THEM. TO BE CREATIVE WE HAVE TO DO THINGSWHICH ARE NOT NATURAL AND WHICH GO AGAINST THE WAY THE BRAIN IS DESIGNED TOWORK. SO REMOVING INHIBITIONS ONLY HAS A MILD EFFECT.CREATIVITY MISPERCEPTION NUMBER THREE. WE NEED ONLY UNDERSTAND LEFT AND RIGHTBRAIN FUNCTIONS, AND INCREASE RIGHT BRAIN THINKING.THE SPLIT BETWEEN RIGHT AND LEFT BRAIN HAD SOME USEFULNESS IN INDICATING ADIFFERENT SORT OF THINKING BUT HAS SINCE DONE FAR MORE HARM THAN IT OFFEREDVALUE.THE LEFT BRAIN IS THE EDUCATED BRAIN AND HAS LEARNED WHAT THINGS ARE AND HOW TOUSE LANGUAGE AND SYMBOLS ETCETERA. THE RIGHT BRAIN IS INNOCENT. THIS INNOCENCEMAY HAVE VALUE IN SUCH AREAS AS DRAWING AND MUSIC BUT NOT MUCH VALUE INCONCEPTUAL MATTERS. PET SCANS OF THE BRAIN SHOW THAT WHEN A PERSON IS BEINGCREATIVE, BOTH SIDES OF THE BRAIN ARE IN USE THE WHOLE TIME. THERE IS THE ADDEDDANGER OF FATALISTIC CATEGORISATION: "I AM LEFT BRAIN." "SHE IS RIGHT BRAIN,"ETCETERA. THIS GIVES A TOTALLY FALSE IMPRESSION, FOR CREATIVITY CAN BE LEARNED BYANYONE.CREATIVITY MISPERCEPTION NUMBER FOUR. BRAINSTORMING IN A GROUP IS THE END ALLAND BE ALL OF CREATIVITY.THE OLD IDEA OF BRAINSTORMING HAS HELD BACK THE DEVELOPMENT OF SERIOUSCREATIVITY. BRAINSTORMING WAS DEVELOPED FOR THE ADVERTISING INDUSTRY WHERENOVELTY IS SUFFICIENT TO CREATE VALUE. EVERYWHERE ELSE NOVELTY HAS TO BE TURNEDINTO SOMETHING PRACTICAL.BRAINSTORMING IS A VERY WEAK TECHNIQUE AND PEOPLE TRAINED IN BRAINSTORMING AREOFTEN UNABLE TO DEAL SYSTEMATICALLY WITH NEW CONCEPTS. BECAUSE BRAINSTORMINGIS NOW TRADITIONAL, IT IS OFTEN FELT THAT CREATIVITY REQUIRES ONLY ABRAINSTORMING SESSION. BRAINSTORMING HAS ALSO LED PEOPLE TO BELIEVE THATCREATIVITY HAS TO BE A GROUP PROCESS. THIS IS NOT TRUE, CREATIVE THINKINGPROCESSES CAN BE USED BY A PERSON ENTIRELY ON HIS OR HER OWN.CREATIVITY MISCONCEPTION NUMBER FIVE. CREATIVITY AND STRUCTURE DONT MIX.THERE IS A FEELING THAT CREATIVITY IS A MATTER OF INTUITION AND INSPIRATION ANDTHAT ANY STRUCTURAL APPROACH IS A CONTRADICTION IN TERMS. AGAIN THIS ISNONSENSE.THERE ARE MANY EXAMPLES OF LIBERATING STRUCTURES; LANGUAGE IS A LIBERATINGSTRUCTURE, WHICH ALLOWS US TO DO THINGS WE COULD NOT DO WITHOUT IT. A CUP IS ALIBERATING STRUCTURE THAT ALLOWS US TO DRINK LIQUIDS MORE EASILY. A LADDER IS ALIBERATING STRUCTURE, WHICH ALLOWS US TO GET TO NEW PLACES. A BOAT IS A THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULLIBERATING STRUCTURE ETCETERA. SO ALSO ARE THE SYSTEMATIC TOOLS OF CREATIVITYAND THE BOOK MCS THAT ALLOWS US TO HANDLE PERCEPTIONS IN NOVEL WAYS.MIND CONTROL SYSTEMIT WAS PRECISELY TO GET AWAY FROM THE VAGUENESS AND CONFUSION OF THE TERMCREATIVITY THAT THE TERM MCS CAME. IT IS SPECIFICALLY CONCERNED WITH CHANGINGCONCEPTS AND PERCEPTIONS.A STRUCTURED APPROACH TO CREATIVITY… IN THE END, SPECIFIC THINKING TOOLS MUST BEPRACTICAL, SIMPLE, AND POWERFUL.CREATIVE THINKING BASED ON THE FORMAL AND STRUCTURED USE OF SUCH TOOLS DOESNOT DEPEND ON INSPIRATION OR BEING IN THE RIGHT MOOD. NOR IS IT A MATTER OF LOOSEBRAINSTORMING IN THE HOPE THAT SOMETHING COPES UP. THE MENTAL OPERATION OFMOVEMENT CAN BE USED SYSTEMATICALLY TO GET VALUE FROM PROVOCATIONS. THIS ISTOTALLY DIFFERENT FROM THE WEAK ADMONITION TO WITHHOLD JUDGEMENT.SUMMING UPWHEN QUALITY IS POOR THERE IS A NEED FOR QUALITY IMPROVEMENT BUT AS QUALITYIMPROVES THERE IS A NEED TO SUPPLEMENT QUALITY WITH CREATIVE THINKING.FOUR POINTS COME TO MIND HERE:1. THERE COMES A POINT WHEN WE HAVE TO WONDER WHETHER DOING THINGS IN ADIFFERENT WAY MAY NOT BE MORE USEFUL THAN DOING THINGS BETTER IN THE SAME OLDWAY. THIS APPLIES BOTH TO INTERNAL OPERATIONS WITHIN AN ORGANISATION AND TOWHAT THE ORGANISATION HAS TO OFFER TO ITS MARKET.2. COMPETENCE WILL NOT BE ENOUGH WHEN EVERYONE ELSE IS AS COMPETENT. WATER ISNECESSARY FOR SOUP BUT SOUP IS MORE THAN WATER.3. CREATIVITY CAN PROVIDE A TOOL KIT FOR QUALITY PROGRAMS BUT CREATIVITY NEEDS TOEXIST IN ITS OWN RIGHT WITHIN AN ORGANISATION.4. GENERATE INNOVATIVE SOLUTIONS. FOCUS YOUR CREATIVE ENERGY AND TURN PROBLEMSINTO OPPORTUNITIES!TAP INTO YOUR CREATIVE ENERGY, ADD STRENGTH TO YOUR NATURAL ABILITIES, IMPROVINGTEAMWORK, PRODUCTIVITY & PROFIT. THINK CREATIVE ON EVERYDAY ISSUES!CHANGING THE CORPORATE MINDSET CAN BE AS EASY AS CHANGING A HAT. REPLACE ONE-DIMENSIONAL THINKING FROM EMOTION TO FACTS, POSITIVE TO NEGATIVE, CRITICAL TOCREATIVE. MAKE YOUR THINKING MORE DELIBERATE AND GENERATE MORE IDEAS, IDENTIFYALTERNATIVES, STIMULATE INNOVATION & SOLVE PROBLEMS FASTER. IMPROVE TEAMWORK &HAVE BETTER MEETINGS.BE A VISIONARY, IMPROVE QUALITY AND OUTTHINK YOUR COMPETITION USING THESE MCSTOOLS.SIMPLIFYING COMPLICATIONS IS THE FIRST ESSENTIAL OF SUCCESS. IN AN INCREASINGLYCOMPLEX WORLD, "SIMPLICITY" IS BECOMING ONE OF THE KEY VALUES. THERE IS OFTEN AMUCH SIMPLER WAY OF DOING THINGS, IF YOU MAKE THE EFFORT TO LOOK FOR IT. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULSIMPLICITY DOES NOT JUST HAPPEN, IT HAS TO BE INCULCATED. IN MCS YOU WILL LEARNTHE USE AND VALUE OF SIMPLICITY, WHY PEOPLE HATE SIMPLICITY AND LOVE COMPLEXITY,OVERVIEW OF METHODS, TECHNIQUES AND APPROACHES TO SIMPLIFY, DANGERS OFSIMPLICITY AND THE RULES OF SIMPLICITYINNOVATION IS THE KEY TO SURVIVAL IN THIS EVER-CHANGING AND COMPETITIVE WORLD.HAVING THE LEADING EDGE AND COMPETITIVE ADVANTAGE ARE INSUFFICIENT TO MAINTAINTHE MARKETING POSITION. INNOVATION ENSURES THAT YOU CONSOLIDATE & CHAMPIONYOUR COMPANYS PRODUCTS IN THE DO-OR-DIE MARKETPLACE.ACHIEVE HIGHER LEVELS OF CREATIVITY & MEMORY, CLEARER ORGANISATION OF THOUGHTS,INCREASED CONCENTRATION AND MORE CONCISE COMMUNICATION IMPROVE ACCESS TOYOUR MEMORY FOR BETTER RECALL AND RETENTION. RESPECT - A PRICELESS GIFTRESPECT IS AN ATTITUDE OF ACKNOWLEDGING THE FEELINGS AND INTERESTS OF ANOTHERPARTY IN A RELATIONSHIP. RESPECT DOES NOT NECESSARILY IMPLY DEFERENCE, BUT ARESPECTFUL ATTITUDE RULES OUT UNCONSIDERED SELFISH BEHAVIOUR.RESPECT IS SOMETIMES LOOSELY USED AS A SYNONYM FOR POLITENESS OR MANNERS,THOUGH THESE ARE BEHAVIOURS, WHEREAS RESPECT IS AN ATTITUDE. INTERCULTURALDIFFERENCES IN BEHAVIOURS, SELF-PERCEPTION AND OUTWARD APPEARANCE MAY RESULTIN THE UNINTENTIONAL APPEARANCE OF DISRESPECT. MANY MOVEMENTS HAVE AT DIFFERENTTIMES CLAIMED RESPECT AS THE CORE ELEMENT TOWARDS MUTUAL EXISTENCE.RESPECT ISA FEELING OF APPRECIATIVE,POLITE EXPRESSIONS OF CONSIDERATION.TO AVOID VIOLATION OF OR INTERFERENCE WITH.WILLINGNESS TO SHOW CONSIDERATION OR APPRECIATION.THE STATE OF BEING REGARDED WITH HONOUR OR ESTEEM.RESPECT IS OF GREAT IMPORTANCE IN EVERYDAY LIFE. AS CHILDREN WE ARE TAUGHT (ONEHOPES) TO RESPECT OUR PARENTS, TEACHERS, AND ELDERS, SCHOOL RULES AND TRAFFICLAWS, FAMILY AND CULTURAL TRADITIONS, OTHER PEOPLES FEELINGS AND RIGHTS, THETRUTH AND PEOPLES DIFFERING OPINIONS. AND WE COME TO VALUE RESPECT FOR SUCHTHINGS; WHEN WERE OLDER, WE MAY SHAKE OUR HEADS (OR FISTS) AT PEOPLE WHO SEEMNOT TO HAVE LEARNED TO RESPECT THEM. WE DEVELOP GREAT RESPECT FOR PEOPLE WECONSIDER EXEMPLARY AND LOSE RESPECT FOR THOSE WE DISCOVER TO BE CLAY-FOOTED;AND SO WE MAY TRY TO RESPECT ONLY THOSE WHO ARE TRULY WORTHY OF OUR RESPECT.WE MAY ALSO COME TO BELIEVE THAT, AT SOME LEVEL, ALL PEOPLE ARE WORTHY OFRESPECT.WE MAY LEARN THAT JOBS AND RELATIONSHIPS BECOME UNBEARABLE IF WE RECEIVE NORESPECT IN THEM; IN CERTAIN SOCIAL MILIEUS WE MAY LEARN THE PRICE OF DISRESPECT IFWE VIOLATE THE STREET LAW: “MESS WITH ME AND YOU DIE.” CALLS TO RESPECT THIS ORTHAT ARE INCREASINGLY PART OF PUBLIC LIFE: ENVIRONMENTALISTS EXHORT US TORESPECT NATURE, FOES OF ABORTION AND CAPITAL PUNISHMENT INSIST ON RESPECT FOR THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULHUMAN LIFE, MEMBERS OF RACIAL AND ETHNIC MINORITIES AND THOSE DISCRIMINATEDAGAINST BECAUSE OF THEIR GENDER, AGE, RELIGIOUS BELIEFS, OR ECONOMIC STATUS,DEMAND RESPECT BOTH AS SOCIAL AND MORAL EQUALS AND FOR THEIR CULTURALDIFFERENCES. AND IT IS WIDELY ACKNOWLEDGED THAT PUBLIC DEBATES ABOUT SUCHDEMANDS SHOULD TAKE PLACE UNDER TERMS OF MUTUAL RESPECT. WE MAY LEARN BOTHTHAT OUR LIVES TOGETHER GO BETTER WHEN WE RESPECT THE THINGS THAT DESERVE TOBE RESPECTED AND THAT WE SHOULD RESPECT SOME THINGS INDEPENDENTLY OFCONSIDERATIONS OF HOW OUR LIVES WOULD GO.WE MAY ALSO LEARN THAT HOW OUR LIVES GO DEPENDS EVERY BIT AS MUCH ON WHETHERWE RESPECT OURSELVES. THE VALUE OF SELF-RESPECT MAY BE SOMETHING WE CAN TAKEFOR GRANTED, OR WE MAY DISCOVER HOW VERY IMPORTANT IT IS WHEN OUR SELF-RESPECTIS THREATENED, OR WE LOSE IT AND HAVE TO WORK TO REGAIN IT, OR WE HAVE TOSTRUGGLE TO DEVELOP OR MAINTAIN IT IN A HOSTILE ENVIRONMENT. SOME PEOPLE FINDTHAT FINALLY BEING ABLE TO RESPECT THEMSELVES IS WHAT MATTERS MOST ABOUTGETTING OFF WELFARE, KICKING A DISGUSTING HABIT, OR DEFENDING SOMETHING THEYVALUE; OTHERS, SADLY, DISCOVER THAT LIFE IS NO LONGER WORTH LIVING IF SELF-RESPECTIS IRRETRIEVABLY LOST. IT IS PART OF EVERYDAY WISDOM THAT RESPECT AND SELF-RESPECTARE DEEPLY CONNECTED, THAT IT IS DIFFICULT IF NOT IMPOSSIBLE BOTH TO RESPECTOTHERS IF WE DONT RESPECT OURSELVES AND TO RESPECT OURSELVES IF OTHERS DONTRESPECT US. IT IS INCREASINGLY PART OF POLITICAL WISDOM BOTH THAT UNJUST SOCIALINSTITUTIONS CAN DEVASTATINGLY DAMAGE SELF-RESPECT AND THAT ROBUST ANDRESILIENT SELF-RESPECT CAN BE A POTENT FORCE IN STRUGGLES AGAINST INJUSTICE.THE UBIQUITY AND SIGNIFICANCE OF RESPECT AND SELF-RESPECT IN EVERYDAY LIFELARGELY EXPLAINS WHY PHILOSOPHERS, PARTICULARLY IN MORAL AND POLITICALPHILOSOPHY, HAVE BEEN INTERESTED IN THESE TWO CONCEPTS. THEY TURN UP IN AMULTIPLICITY OF PHILOSOPHICAL CONTEXTS, INCLUDING DISCUSSIONS OF JUSTICE ANDEQUALITY, INJUSTICE AND OPPRESSION, AUTONOMY AND AGENCY, MORAL AND POLITICALRIGHTS AND DUTIES, MORAL MOTIVATION AND MORAL DEVELOPMENT, CULTURAL DIVERSITYAND TOLERATION, PUNISHMENT AND POLITICAL VIOLENCE. THE CONCEPTS ALSO PLAY A ROLEIN BIOETHICS, (THE STUDY OF THE ETHICAL AND MORAL IMPLICATIONS OF NEWBIOLOGICAL DISCOVERIES AND BIOMEDICAL ADVANCES, AS IN THE FIELDS OFGENETIC ENGINEERING AND DRUG RESEARCH) ENVIRONMENTAL ETHICS, BUSINESSETHICS, WORKPLACE ETHICS, AND A HOST OF OTHER APPLIED ETHICS CONTEXTS. ALTHOUGHA WIDE VARIETY OF THINGS ARE SAID TO DESERVE RESPECT, CONTEMPORARYPHILOSOPHICAL INTEREST IN RESPECT HAS OVERWHELMINGLY BEEN FOCUSED ON RESPECTFOR PERSONS, THE IDEA THAT ALL PERSONS SHOULD BE TREATED WITH RESPECT SIMPLYBECAUSE THEY ARE PERSONS. RESPECT FOR PERSONS IS A CENTRAL CONCEPT IN MANYETHICAL THEORIES; SOME THEORIES TREAT IT AS THE VERY ESSENCE OF MORALITY AND THEFOUNDATION OF ALL OTHER MORAL DUTIES AND OBLIGATIONS.DESPITE THE WIDESPREAD ACKNOWLEDGEMENT OF THE IMPORTANCE OF RESPECT AND SELF-RESPECT IN MORAL AND POLITICAL LIFE AND THEORY, THERE IS NO SETTLED AGREEMENT INEITHER EVERYDAY THINKING OR PHILOSOPHICAL DISCUSSION ABOUT SUCH ISSUES AS HOWTO UNDERSTAND THE CONCEPTS, WHAT THE APPROPRIATE OBJECTS OF RESPECT ARE, WHATIS INVOLVED IN RESPECTING VARIOUS OBJECTS, WHAT THE CONDITIONS ARE FOR SELF-RESPECT, AND WHAT THE SCOPE IS OF ANY MORAL REQUIREMENTS REGARDING RESPECT ANDSELF-RESPECT. THIS ENTRY WILL SURVEY THESE AND RELATED ISSUES. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULTHE CONCEPT OF RESPECTAMONG THE MAIN QUESTIONS ABOUT RESPECT THAT PHILOSOPHERS HAVE ADDRESSED ARETHESE:(1) HOW SHOULD RESPECT IN GENERAL BE UNDERSTOOD? (A) WHAT CATEGORY OF THING ISIT? PHILOSOPHERS HAVE VARIOUSLY IDENTIFIED IT AS A MODE OF ACTION, A FORM OFTREATMENT, A MOTIVE, AN ATTITUDE, A FEELING, A MODE OF VALUING, A WAY OF ATTENDINGTO THINGS, A MORAL PRINCIPLE, A DUTY, AN ENTITLEMENT, A MORAL VIRTUE, AN EPISTEMIC(OF, RELATING TO, OR INVOLVING KNOWLEDGE; COGNITIVE.) VIRTUE: ARE ANY OFTHESE CATEGORIES MORE CENTRAL THAN OTHERS? (B) WHAT ARE THE DISTINCTIVEELEMENTS OF RESPECT? (C) TO WHAT OTHER ATTITUDES, ACTIONS, VALUINGS, DUTIES, ETC.IS RESPECT SIMILAR, AND WITH WHAT DOES IT CONTRAST? (D) WHAT BELIEFS, ATTITUDES,EMOTIONS, MOTIVES, AND CONDUCT DOES RESPECT INVOLVE, AND WITH WHAT IS ITINCOMPATIBLE?(2) WHAT ARE THE APPROPRIATE OBJECTS OF RESPECT, I.E., THE SORTS OF THINGS THAT CANBE REASONABLY SAID TO WARRANT RESPECT?(3) WHAT ARE THE BASES OR GROUNDS FOR RESPECT, I.E., THE FEATURES OF OR FACTSABOUT OBJECTS IN VIRTUE OF WHICH IT IS REASONABLE AND PERHAPS OBLIGATORY TORESPECT THEM?(4) WHAT WAYS OF ACTING AND FORBEARING TO ACT EXPRESS OR CONSTITUTE OR AREREGULATED BY RESPECT?(5) WHAT MORAL REQUIREMENTS, IF ANY, ARE THERE TO RESPECT CERTAIN TYPES OFOBJECTS, AND WHAT IS THE SCOPE AND THEORETICAL STATUS OF SUCH REQUIREMENTS?(6) ARE THERE DIFFERENT LEVELS OR DEGREES OF RESPECT? CAN AN OBJECT COME TODESERVE LESS OR NO RESPECT?(7) WHY IS RESPECT MORALLY IMPORTANT? WHAT, IF ANYTHING, DOES IT ADD TO MORALITYOVER AND ABOVE THE CONDUCT, ATTITUDES, AND CHARACTER TRAITS REQUIRED ORENCOURAGED BY VARIOUS MORAL PRINCIPLES OR VIRTUES?(8) WHAT ARE THE IMPLICATIONS OF RESPECT FOR PROBLEMATIC MORAL AND SOCIO-POLITICAL ISSUES SUCH AS RACISM AND SEXISM, PORNOGRAPHY, PRIVACY, PUNISHMENT,RESPONSES TO TERRORISM, PATERNALISM IN HEALTH CARE CONTEXTS, CULTURAL DIVERSITY,AFFIRMATIVE ACTION, ABORTION, AND SO ON?ELEMENTS OF RESPECTIT IS WIDELY ACKNOWLEDGED THAT THERE ARE DIFFERENT KINDS OF RESPECT, WHICHCOMPLICATES THE ANSWERING OF THESE QUESTIONS. FOR EXAMPLE, ANSWERSCONCERNING ONE KIND OF RESPECT CAN DIVERGE SIGNIFICANTLY FROM THOSE ABOUTANOTHER KIND. MUCH PHILOSOPHICAL WORK HAS GONE INTO EXPLICATING THEDIFFERENCES AND LINKS AMONG THE VARIOUS KINDS. BEFORE LOOKING AT THEDIFFERENCES, HOWEVER, IT IS USEFUL FIRST TO NOTE SOME ELEMENTS COMMON AMONGTHE VARIOUS KINDS OF RESPECT. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULRESPECT IS, MOST GENERALLY, A RELATION BETWEEN A SUBJECT AND AN OBJECT, IN WHICHTHE SUBJECT RESPONDS TO THE OBJECT FROM A CERTAIN PERSPECTIVE IN SOMEAPPROPRIATE WAY. RESPECT NECESSARILY HAS AN OBJECT: RESPECT IS ALWAYS FOR,DIRECTED TOWARD, PAID TO, FELT ABOUT, SHOWN FOR SOME OBJECT. WHILE A VERY WIDEVARIETY OF THINGS CAN BE APPROPRIATE OBJECTS OF ONE KIND OF RESPECT OR ANOTHER,THE SUBJECT OF RESPECT IS ALWAYS A PERSON, THAT IS, A CONSCIOUS RATIONAL BEINGCAPABLE OF RECOGNISING THINGS, BEING SELF-CONSCIOUSLY AND INTENTIONALLYRESPONSIVE TO THEM, AND HAVING AND EXPRESSING VALUES WITH REGARD TO THEM.THOUGH ANIMALS MAY LOVE OR FEAR US, ONLY PERSONS CAN RESPECT AND DISRESPECT US,OR ANYTHING ELSE. RESPECT IS A RESPONSIVE RELATION, AND ORDINARY DISCOURSEABOUT RESPECT IDENTIFIES FOUR KEY ELEMENTS OF THE RESPONSE: ATTENTION,DEFERENCE, VALUING, AND APPROPRIATE CONDUCT.FIRST, AS SUGGESTED BY ITS DERIVATION FROM THE LATIN RESPICERE, WHICH MEANS “TOLOOK BACK AT” OR “TO LOOK AGAIN,” RESPECT IS A PARTICULAR MODE OF APPREHENDINGTHE OBJECT: THE PERSON WHO RESPECTS SOMETHING PERCEIVES IT DIFFERENTLY FROM ONEWHO DOES NOT AND RESPONDS TO IT IN LIGHT OF THAT PERCEPTION. THIS PERCEPTUALELEMENT IS COMMON ALSO TO SYNONYMS SUCH AS REGARD (FROM “TO WATCH OUT FOR”)AND CONSIDERATION (“EXAMINE (THE STARS) CAREFULLY”). THE IDEA OF PAYING HEED ORGIVING PROPER ATTENTION TO THE OBJECT THAT IS CENTRAL TO RESPECT OFTEN MEANSTRYING TO SEE THE OBJECT CLEARLY, AS IT REALLY IS IN ITS OWN RIGHT, AND NOT SIMPLYSEEING IT THROUGH THE FILTER OF ONES OWN INTERPRETATIONS, DESIRES, FEARS, ETC.THUS, RESPECTING SOMETHING CONTRASTS WITH BEING OBLIVIOUS (LACKINGCONSCIOUS AWARENESS; UNMINDFUL) OR INDIFFERENT TO IT, IGNORING OR QUICKLYDISMISSING IT, NEGLECTING OR DISREGARDING IT, OR CARELESSLY OR INTENTIONALLYMISIDENTIFYING IT.AN OBJECT CAN BE PERCEIVED BY A SUBJECT FROM A VARIETY OF PERSPECTIVES; FOREXAMPLE, ONE MIGHT RIGHTLY REGARD ANOTHER HUMAN INDIVIDUAL AS A RIGHTS-BEARER,A JUDGE, A SUPERLATIVE SINGER, A TRUSTWORTHY PERSON, OR A THREAT TO ONESSECURITY. THE RESPECT ONE GIVES HER IN EACH CASE WILL BE DIFFERENT, YET ALL WILLINVOLVE CAREFUL ATTENTION TO HER AS SHE REALLY IS AS A JUDGE, THREAT, ETC. IT IS INVIRTUE OF THIS ASPECT OF CAREFUL ATTENTION THAT RESPECT IS SOMETIMES THOUGHT OFAS AN EPISTEMIC VIRTUE.AS RESPONSIVE, RESPECT IS OBJECT-GENERATED RATHER THAN SUBJECT-GENERATED,SOMETHING THAT IS OWED TO, CALLED FOR, DESERVED, ELICITED, (TO CALL FORTH,DRAW OUT, OR PROVOKE (A REACTION, FOR EXAMPLE) OR CLAIMED BY THE OBJECT.RESPECT INVOLVES “AN EXPERIENCE” THE EXPERIENCE THAT ONE MUST PAY ATTENTION ANDRESPOND APPROPRIATELY. IT THUS IS MOTIVATIONAL: IT IS THE RECOGNITION OFSOMETHING “AS DIRECTLY DETERMINING OUR WILL WITHOUT REFERENCE TO WHAT ISWANTED BY OUR INCLINATIONS”. IN THIS WAY RESPECT DIFFERS FROM, FOR EXAMPLE,LIKING AND FEARING, WHICH HAVE THEIR SOURCES IN THE SUBJECTS INTERESTS ORDESIRES. WHEN WE RESPECT SOMETHING, WE HEED ITS CALL, ACCORD IT ITS DUE,ACKNOWLEDGE ITS CLAIM TO OUR ATTENTION. THUS, RESPECT INVOLVES DEFERENCE, IN THEMOST BASIC SENSE OF YIELDING: SELF-ABSORPTION AND EGOCENTRIC CONCERNS GIVE WAYTO CONSIDERATION OF THE OBJECT, ONES MOTIVES AND FEELINGS SUBMIT TO THE OBJECTSREALITY. BUT THIS DEFERENCE IS NOT ERASURE OF THE SELF, FOR RESPECT IS AT THE SAMETIME AN EXPRESSION OF ACTION: IT IS DELIBERATE, A MATTER OF DIRECTED RATHER THANGRABBED ATTENTION, OF REFLECTIVE CONSIDERATION AND WILLINGNESS TO OBEY, AND WEARE FREE TO REFUSE TO HEED THE CALL. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULTHE RESPECTFUL RESPONSE IS REGARDED BY THE SUBJECT AS DESERVED BY THE OBJECT OROWED TO OR APPROPRIATE TO IT. THE OBJECT, THAT IS, IS PERCEIVED AS RIGHTFULLYCLAIMING ATTENTIVE RESPONSE IN VIRTUE OF WHAT OR HOW IT IS ITSELF. RESPECT THUSINVOLVES BELIEVING THAT THERE IS SOME FEATURE OF OR FACT ABOUT THE OBJECT THATWARRANTS THIS RESPONSE. THIS FEATURE OR FACT IS THE GROUND OR BASIS IN THEOBJECT, THAT IN VIRTUE OF WHICH IT CALLS FOR RESPECT. THE BASIS GIVES US A REASONTO RESPECT THE OBJECT; IT MAY ALSO INDICATE MORE PRECISELY HOW TO RESPECT IT.RESPECT IS THUS REASON-GOVERNED: WE CANNOT RESPECT A PARTICULAR OBJECT FORJUST ANY OLD REASON OR FOR NO REASON AT ALL. RATHER, WE RESPECT AN OBJECT FORTHE REASON THAT IT HAS, IN OUR JUDGEMENT, A CERTAIN RESPECT-WARRANTINGCHARACTERISTIC, THAT IT IS, IN OUR VIEW, THE KIND OF OBJECT THAT CALLS FOR THATKIND OF RESPONSE. AND THESE REASONS ARE CATEGORICAL, IN THE SENSE THAT THEIRWEIGHT OR STRINGENCY DOES NOT DEPEND ON THE SUBJECTS INTERESTS, GOALS, ORDESIRES; HENCE ACTING AGAINST THESE REASONS, OTHER THINGS EQUAL, IS WRONG.RESPECT IS THUS BOTH SUBJECTIVE AND OBJECTIVE. IT IS SUBJECTIVE IN THAT THESUBJECTS RESPONSE IS CONSTRUCTED FROM HER UNDERSTANDING OF THE OBJECT, ITSCHARACTERISTICS, THE LEGITIMACY OF ITS CALL, AND HOW FITTINGLY TO ADDRESS THECALL. AN INDIVIDUALS RESPECT FOR AN OBJECT CAN THUS BE INAPPROPRIATE ORUNWARRANTED, FOR THE OBJECT MAY NOT HAVE THE FEATURES SHE TAKES IT TO HAVE, ORTHE FEATURES SHE TAKES TO BE RESPECT-WARRANTING MIGHT NOT BE, OR HER IDEA OFHOW PROPERLY TO TREAT THE OBJECT MIGHT BE MISTAKEN. BUT, AS OBJECT-GENERATED,THE LOGIC OF RESPECT IS THE LOGIC OF OBJECTIVITY AND UNIVERSALITY, IN FOUR WAYS.FIRST, IN RESPECTING AN OBJECT, WE RESPOND TO IT NOT AS AN EXTENSION OF FEELINGS,DESIRES, AND INTERESTS WE ALREADY HAVE, BUT AS SOMETHING WHOSE SIGNIFICANCE ISINDEPENDENT OF US.SECOND, WE EXPERIENCE THE OBJECT AS UNCONDITIONALLY CONSTRAINING OUR ATTITUDESAND ACTIONS.THIRD, OUR REASONS FOR RESPECTING SOMETHING ARE, WE LOGICALLY HAVE TO ASSUME,REASONS FOR OTHER PEOPLE TO RESPECT IT (OR AT LEAST TO ENDORSE OUR RESPECT FORIT FROM A COMMON POINT OF VIEW). RESPECT IS THUS, AN IMPERSONAL RESPONSE TO THEOBJECT.FOURTH, RESPECT IS UNIVERSALISING, IN THE SENSE THAT IF X IS A RESPECT-WARRANTINGFEATURE OF OBJECT Y, THEN RESPECTING Y ON ACCOUNT OF X COMMITS US, OTHER THINGSEQUAL, TO RESPECTING OTHER THINGS THAT ALSO HAVE FEATURE X. IN RESPECT, THEN,SUBJECTIVITY DEFERS TO OBJECTIVITY.THERE ARE MANY DIFFERENT REASONS WHY OBJECTS WARRANT RESPECT. SOME AREDANGEROUS OR POWERFUL, AND SO RESPECT CAN BE LIKE FEAR, AWE, OR SUBMISSION.OTHER THINGS HAVE AUTHORITY OVER US, SO RESPECT CAN BE LIKE OBEDIENCE. BUTRESPECT IS MOST COMMONLY THOUGHT OF AS A MODE OF VALUING. IN PARTICULAR,RESPECT IS ONE MODE OF EXPERIENCING AND ACKNOWLEDGING THE INTRINSIC VALUE ORSIGNIFICANCE OF SOMETHING. TO RESPECT SOMETHING (AT LEAST, FOR SOME KINDS OFRESPECT) IT IS TO APPRECIATE IT AS HAVING WORTH OR IMPORTANCE THAT IS INDEPENDENTOF OUR ANTECEDENT (A PRECEDING OCCURRENCE, CAUSE, OR EVENT) DESIRES ORCOMMITMENTS. THUS, WE CAN RESPECT THINGS WE DONT LIKE OR AGREE WITH, SUCH ASOUR ENEMIES OR SOMEONE ELSES OPINION. AS A VALUING RESPONSE, RESPECT INVOLVES THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULHAVING AND ACTING FROM ATTITUDES OF POSITIVE VALUING. IN THIS REGARD, RESPECT ISLIKE ESTEEM AND ADMIRATION, VENERATION AND REVERENCE, LOVE AND HONOUR, WHILEREGARDING SOMETHING AS UTTERLY WORTHLESS OR INSIGNIFICANT OR DISDAINING ORHAVING CONTEMPT FOR IT IS INCOMPATIBLE WITH RESPECTING IT. RESPECT ALSO AIMS TOVALUE ITS OBJECT APPROPRIATELY, SO IT CONTRASTS WITH DEGRADATION ANDDISCOUNTING. THE KINDS OF VALUING THAT RESPECT INVOLVES ALSO CONTRAST WITHOTHER FORMS OF VALUING SUCH AS PROMOTING OR USING. INDEED, REGARDING A PERSONMERELY AS USEFUL (TREATING HER AS JUST A SEXUAL OBJECT, AN ATM MACHINE, ARESEARCH SUBJECT) IS COMMONLY IDENTIFIED AS A CENTRAL FORM OF DISRESPECT FORPERSONS, AND MANY PEOPLE DECRY THE KILLING ENDANGERED WILD ANIMALS FOR THEIRTUSKS OR HIDES AS DESPICABLY DISRESPECTFUL OF NATURE. RESPECT IS SOMETIMESIDENTIFIED AS A FEELING; IT IS TYPICALLY THE EXPERIENCING OF SOMETHING AS VALUABLETHAT IS IN FOCUS IN THESE CASES.FINALLY, RESPECT IS GENERALLY REGARDED AS HAVING A BEHAVIOURAL COMPONENT. INRESPECTING AN OBJECT, WE OFTEN CONSIDER IT BE MAKING LEGITIMATE CLAIMS ON OURCONDUCT AS WELL AS OUR THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS. HERE, RESPECT INVOLVESREFRAINING FROM CERTAIN TREATMENT OR ACTING ONLY IN PARTICULAR WAYS INCONNECTION WITH IT, WAYS THAT ARE REGARDED AS DESERVED BY, APPROPRIATE TO, OROWED TO THE OBJECT. AND THERE ARE VERY MANY WAYS TO RESPECT THINGS: KEEPING OURDISTANCE FROM THEM, HELPING THEM, PRAISING OR HONOURING THEM, OBEYING ORABIDING BY THEM, NOT VIOLATING OR INTERFERING WITH THEM, DESTROYING THEM INSOME WAYS RATHER THAN LETTING THEM BE DESTROYED IN OTHERS, PROTECTING OR BEINGCAREFUL WITH THEM, TALKING ABOUT THEM IN WAYS THAT REFLECT THEIR WORTH ORSTATUS, MOURNING THEM, NURTURING THEM. AT THE VERY LEAST, RESPECT INVOLVESREGARDING THE OBJECT AS, BY ITS NATURE (E.G., AS OF WORTH), GIVING US GOOD REASONTO CONSTRAIN OUR BEHAVIOUR. RESPECT IS MORE THAN MERELY RESPECTFUL BEHAVIOUR,HOWEVER, FOR ONE CAN SHOW RESPECT THAT ONE DOES NOT HAVE. FOR EXAMPLE, A TEENMAY DISDAIN ADULTS AND YET BEHAVE RESPECTFULLY TOWARD HER FRIENDS PARENTS IN ASCHEME TO GET THE CAR, BUT SHE MANIPULATES RATHER THAN RESPECTS THEM. TO BE AFORM OR EXPRESSION OF RESPECT, BEHAVIOUR HAS TO BE MOTIVATED BY ONESACKNOWLEDGEMENT OF THE OBJECT AS CALLING FOR THAT BEHAVIOUR, AND IT HAS TO BEMOTIVATED DIRECTLY BY CONSIDERATION THAT THE OBJECT IS WHAT IT IS, WITHOUTREFERENCE TO ONES OWN INTERESTS AND DESIRES. ON THE OTHER HAND, CERTAIN KINDSOF FEELINGS WOULD NOT COUNT AS RESPECT IF THEY DID NOT FIND EXPRESSION INBEHAVIOUR OR INVOLVED NO DISPOSITIONS TO BEHAVE IN CERTAIN WAYS RATHER THANOTHERS, AND IF THEY DID NOT SPRING FROM THE BELIEFS, PERCEPTIONS, AND JUDGEMENTSTHAT THE OBJECT IS WORTHY OR CALLS FOR SUCH BEHAVIOUR.AS THUS ANALYSED, RESPECT, MOST GENERALLY, HAS COGNITIVE (HAVING A BASIS IN ORREDUCIBLE TO EMPIRICAL FACTUAL KNOWLEDGE.) DIMENSIONS (BELIEFS,ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS, JUDGEMENTS, DELIBERATIONS, COMMITMENTS), AFFECTIVEDIMENSIONS (EMOTIONS, FEELINGS, WAYS OF EXPERIENCING THINGS), AND COGNITIVEDIMENSIONS (MOTIVATIONS, DISPOSITIONS TO ACT AND FORBEAR FROM ACTING). SOMEFORMS OF RESPECT ALSO HAVE VALUATIONAL DIMENSIONS. ON THIS ANALYSIS, THEN,RESPECT IS, MOST CENTRALLY, AN ATTITUDE, OR MORE BROADLY (SINCE ADDITIONALATTITUDES MIGHT BE INVOLVED IN RESPECTING SOMETHING), RESPECT IS A COMPLEX “WAY-OF-BEING-TOWARD-SOMETHING.” ACTIONS AND MODES OF TREATMENT TYPICALLY COUNT ASRESPECT INSOFAR AS THEY EITHER MANIFEST AN ATTITUDE OF RESPECT OR ARE OF A SORTTHROUGH WHICH THE ATTITUDE OF RESPECT IS CHARACTERISTICALLY EXPRESSED. A THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULPRINCIPLE OF RESPECT IS ONE THAT, LOGICALLY, MUST BE ADOPTED BY SOMEONE WITH THEATTITUDE OF RESPECT OR THAT PRESCRIBES THE ATTITUDE OR ACTIONS THAT EXPRESS IT.KINDS OF RESPECTTHAT IT IS THE NATURE OF THE OBJECT THAT DETERMINES ITS RESPECT-WORTHINESS, ANDTHAT THERE ARE DIFFERENT KINDS OF OBJECTS CALLING FOR CORRESPONDINGLY DIFFERENTKINDS OF ATTENTION, ATTITUDES, AND ACTION HAS LED MANY PHILOSOPHERS TO ARGUETHAT THERE ARE DIFFERENT KINDS OF RESPECT. IN WHAT FOLLOWS, THREE SETS OFDISTINCTIONS WILL BE DISCUSSED.SPECULATING ON THE HISTORICAL DEVELOPMENT OF THE IDEA THAT ALL PERSONS AS SUCHDESERVE RESPECT, AND USING TERMS FOUND ON ACHTUNG (THE GERMAN WORD USUALLYTRANSLATED AS “RESPECT”), IDENTIFIES THREE DISTINCT CONCEPTS FOR WHICH “RESPECT”HAS BEEN THE NAME. RESPECT IS THE “UNEASY AND WATCHFUL ATTITUDE THAT HAS THEELEMENT OF FEAR IN IT”. ITS OBJECTS ARE DANGEROUS THINGS OR THINGS WITH POWEROVER THE SUBJECT. IT IS RESPECT THAT WOODWORKERS ARE ENCOURAGED TO HAVE FORPOWER TOOLS, THAT A CITY DWELLER MIGHT HAVE FOR STREET GANGS, A NEW SAILORMIGHT BE ADMONISHED TO HAVE FOR THE SEA, A CHILD MIGHT HAVE FOR AN ABUSIVEPARENT. RESPECT CONTRASTS WITH CONTEMPTUOUS DISREGARD; IT IS SHOWN IN CONDUCTTHAT IS CAUTIOUS, SELF-PROTECTIVE, OTHER-PLACATING. OBSERVANTIA (IS THEMORALISED ANALOGUE OF RESPECT) IS THE MORALISED ANALOGUE OF RESPECT. ITINVOLVES REGARDING THE OBJECT AS MAKING A RIGHTFUL CLAIM ON OUR CONDUCT, ASDESERVING MORAL CONSIDERATION IN ITS OWN RIGHT, INDEPENDENTLY OFCONSIDERATIONS OF PERSONAL WELL BEING. IT IS OBSERVANTIA, THAT HISTORICALLY WASEXTENDED FIRST TO CLASSES OF NON-DANGEROUS BUT OTHERWISE WORTHY PEOPLE ANDTHEN TO ALL PERSONS AS SUCH, REGARDLESS OF MERIT OR ABILITY. OBSERVANTIAENCOMPASSES BOTH THE RESPECT SAID TO BE OWED TO ALL HUMANS EQUALLY AND THEFORMS OF POLITE RESPECT AND DEFERENCE THAT ACKNOWLEDGE DIFFERENT SOCIALPOSITIONS. REVERENTIA IS THE SPECIAL FEELING OF PROFOUND AWE AND RESPECT WEHAVE IN THE PRESENCE OF SOMETHING EXTRAORDINARY OR SUBLIME, A FEELING THAT BOTHHUMBLES AND UPLIFTS US. THE MORAL LAW AND PEOPLE WHO EXEMPLIFY IT IN MORALLYWORTHY ACTIONS ELICIT REVERENTIA (IS THE SPECIAL FEELING OF PROFOUND AWEAND RESPECT WE HAVE IN THE PRESENCE OF SOMETHING EXTRAORDINARY ORSUBLIME, A FEELING THAT BOTH HUMBLES AND UPLIFTS US.)FROM US, FOR WEEXPERIENCE THE LAW OR ITS EXEMPLIFICATION AS “SOMETHING THAT ALWAYS TRUMPS OURINCLINATIONS IN DETERMINING OUR WILLS”. THE DIFFERENT FORMS OF POWER ASUNDERLYING THE THREE KINDS OF RESPECT; IN EACH CASE, RESPECT IS THEACKNOWLEDGEMENT OF THE POWER OF SOMETHING OTHER THAN OURSELVES TO DEMAND,COMMAND, OR MAKE CLAIMS ON OUR ATTENTION, CONSIDERATION AND DEFERENCE.A FOUR-FOLD DISTINCTION AMONG KINDS OF RESPECT, ACCORDING TO THE BASES IN THEOBJECTS. CONSIDER THE FOLLOWING SETS OF EXAMPLES: (A) RESPECTING A COLLEAGUEHIGHLY AS A SCHOLAR AND HAVING A LOT OF RESPECT FOR SOMEONE WITH “GUTS”; (B) AMOUNTAIN CLIMBERS RESPECT FOR THE ELEMENTS AND A TENNIS PLAYERS RESPECT FORHER OPPONENTS STRONG BACKHAND; (C) RESPECTING THE TERMS OF AN AGREEMENT ANDRESPECTING A PERSONS RIGHTS; AND (D) SHOWING RESPECT FOR A JUDGE BY RISINGWHEN SHE ENTERS THE COURTROOM AND RESPECTING A WORN-OUT FLAG BY BURNING ITRATHER THAN TOSSING IT IN THE TRASH. THE RESPECT IN (A), EVALUATIVE RESPECT, ISSIMILAR TO OTHER FAVOURABLE ATTITUDES SUCH AS ESTEEM AND ADMIRATION; IT ISEARNED OR DESERVED (OR NOT) DEPENDING ON WHETHER AND TO THE DEGREE THAT THE THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULOBJECT IS JUDGED TO MEET CERTAIN STANDARDS. OBSTACLE RESPECT, IN (B), IS A MATTEROF REGARDING THE OBJECT AS SOMETHING WHICH, IF NOT TAKEN PROPER ACCOUNT OF INONES DECISIONS ABOUT HOW TO ACT, COULD PREVENT ONE FROM ACHIEVING ONES ENDS.THE OBJECTS OF (C) DIRECTIVE RESPECT ARE DIRECTIVES: THINGS SUCH AS REQUESTS,RULES, ADVICE, LAWS, OR RIGHTS CLAIMS THAT MAY BE TAKEN AS GUIDES TO ACTION. ONERESPECTS A DIRECTIVE WHEN ONES BEHAVIOURS INTENTIONALLY COMPLY WITH IT. THEOBJECTS OF (D) INSTITUTIONAL RESPECT ARE SOCIAL INSTITUTIONS OR PRACTICES, THEPOSITIONS OR ROLES DEFINED WITHIN AN INSTITUTION OR PRACTICE, AND PERSONS ORTHINGS THAT OCCUPY THE POSITIONS OR REPRESENT THE INSTITUTION. INSTITUTIONALRESPECT IS SHOWN BY BEHAVIOUR THAT CONFORMS TO RULES THAT PRESCRIBE CERTAINCONDUCT AS RESPECTFUL. THESE FOUR FORMS OF RESPECT DIFFER IN SEVERAL WAYS. EACHIDENTIFIES A QUITE DIFFERENT KIND OF FEATURE OF OBJECTS AS THE BASIS OF RESPECT.EACH IS EXPRESSED IN ACTION IN QUITE DIFFERENT WAYS, ALTHOUGH EVALUATIVE RESPECTNEED NOT BE EXPRESSED AT ALL, ONE CAN HAVE INSTITUTIONAL RESPECT FOR ANINSTITUTION (E.G., THE CRIMINAL JUSTICE SYSTEM) WITHOUT SHOWING IT FOR APARTICULAR ELEMENT OF IT (THE JUDGE IN THIS TRIAL), AND DIRECTIVE RESPECT IS NOT ANATTITUDE THAT ONE MIGHT OR MIGHT NOT EXPRESS BUT A MODE OF CONDUCT MOTIVATEDBY A RECOGNITION OF THE DIRECTIVES AUTHORITY. EVALUATIVE RESPECT CENTRALLYINVOLVES HAVING A FAVOURABLE ATTITUDE TOWARD THE OBJECT, WHILE THE OTHER FORMSDO NOT.DIRECTIVE RESPECT DOES NOT ADMIT OF DEGREES (ONE EITHER OBEYS THE RULE ORDOESNT), BUT THE OTHERS DO (WE CAN HAVE MORE EVALUATIVE RESPECT FOR ONE PERSONTHAN ANOTHER). THIS DISTINCTION TO ARGUE THAT RESPECT-FOR-PERSONS IS NOT AUNIQUE KIND OF RESPECT BUT SHOULD BE CONCEIVED RATHER AS INVOLVING SOMECOMBINATION OR OTHER OF THESE FOUR.THE FOUR-FOLD CLASSIFICATION, THE FIFTH FORM, CARE RESPECT, WHICH IS EXEMPLIFIEDIN AN ENVIRONMENTALISTS DEEP RESPECT FOR NATURE. CARE RESPECT INVOLVESREGARDING THE OBJECT AS HAVING PROFOUND AND PERHAPS UNIQUE VALUE AND SOCHERISHING IT, AND PERCEIVING IT AS FRAGILE OR CALLING FOR SPECIAL CARE AND SOACTING OR FORBEARING TO ACT OUT OF FELT BENEVOLENT CONCERN FOR IT. THIS ANALYSISOF RESPECT DRAWS EXPLICITLY FROM A FEMINIST ETHICS OF CARE AND HAS BEENINFLUENTIAL IN FEMINIST AND NON-FEMINIST DISCUSSIONS OF RESPECTING PERSONS ASUNIQUE, PARTICULAR INDIVIDUALS.THE OTHER TWO KINDS OF RESPECT: RECOGNITION RESPECT AND APPRAISAL RESPECT.RECOGNITION RESPECT IS THE DISPOSITION TO GIVE APPROPRIATE WEIGHT ORCONSIDERATION IN ONES PRACTICAL DELIBERATIONS TO SOME FACT ABOUT THE OBJECTAND THEN TO ACT ACCORDINGLY. ALSO REFERRED AS “CONSIDERATION RESPECT.” A WIDEVARIETY OF OBJECTS, INCLUDING LAWS, DANGEROUS THINGS, SOMEONES FEELINGS,SOCIAL INSTITUTIONS, NATURE, THE INDIVIDUALS PRESENT IN DIFFERENT CONTEXTS, ANDPERSONS AS SUCH, CAN BE OBJECTS OF RECOGNITION RESPECT. APPRAISAL RESPECT, BYCONTRAST, IS AN ATTITUDE OF POSITIVE APPRAISAL OF A PERSON OR THEIR MERITS, WHICHARE FEATURES OF PERSONS THAT MANIFEST EXCELLENCE OF CHARACTER. INDIVIDUALS CANBE THE OBJECTS OF APPRAISAL RESPECT EITHER AS PERSONS OR AS ENGAGED IN SOMEPURSUIT OR OCCUPYING SOME ROLE. EVALUATION IS ALWAYS DONE IN LIGHT OF SOMEQUALITATIVE STANDARDS, AND DIFFERENT STANDARDS CAN APPLY TO ONE AND THE SAMEINDIVIDUAL. THUS, APPRAISAL RESPECT IS A MATTER OF DEGREE, DEPENDING ON THEEXTENT TO WHICH THE OBJECT MEETS THE STANDARDS (SO, WE CAN RESPECT SOMEONEMORE OR LESS HIGHLY AND RESPECT ONE PERSON MORE HIGHLY THAN ANOTHER), AND IT THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULCAN CO-EXIST WITH (SOME) NEGATIVE ASSESSMENTS OF AN INDIVIDUAL OR HER TRAITS(JUDGED IN LIGHT OF OTHER STANDARDS).WE CAN HAVE APPRAISAL RESPECT FOR SOMEONES HONESTY EVEN WHILE THINKING HERLAZY, AND WE CAN HIGHLY RESPECT SOMEONE ELSE AS ALTOGETHER A MORALLY FINEPERSON; WE CAN RESPECT AN INDIVIDUAL AS AN EXCELLENT TEACHER OR CARPENTER YETREGARD HER AS FAR FROM A MORAL EXEMPLAR. APPRAISAL RESPECT, WHICH IS BASED ONASSESSMENT OF CHARACTER TRAITS, FROM ESTEEM, ANOTHER ATTITUDE OF POSITIVEASSESSMENT WHOSE WIDER BASIS INCLUDE ANY FEATURES IN VIRTUE OF WHICH ONE CANTHINK WELL OF SOMEONE. HOWEVER, OTHER PHILOSOPHERS TREAT “ESTEEM” AND(APPRAISAL) “RESPECT” AS SYNONYMS.THE RECOGNITION/APPRAISAL DISTINCTION HAS BEEN QUITE INFLUENTIAL AND IS WIDELYREGARDED AS THE FUNDAMENTAL DISTINCTION. IF IT IS, THEN IT SHOULD ENCOMPASS THEOTHER DISTINCTIONS (ALTHOUGH SOME FINE-TUNING MIGHT BE NECESSARY). AND INDEED,EVALUATIVE RESPECT AND PERHAPS REVERENTIA FOR MORALLY GOOD PERSONS AREESSENTIALLY THE SAME AS APPRAISAL RESPECT, WHILE RESPECT, OBSTACLE RESPECT,OBSERVANTIA, DIRECTIVE RESPECT, INSTITUTIONAL RESPECT AND CARE RESPECT CAN BEANALYSED AS FORMS OF RECOGNITION RESPECT. SOME PHILOSOPHERS, HOWEVER, HAVEFOUND THE RECOGNITION/APPRAISAL DISTINCTION TO BE INADEQUATE. NEITHERREVERENTIA FOR THE MORAL LAW NOR THE FELT EXPERIENCE OF REVERENTIAL RESPECT FORTHE SUBLIMITY OF PERSONS AS SUCH ARE FORMS OF APPRAISAL RESPECT, YET BECAUSERECOGNITION RESPECT IS ANALYSED, FIRST, AS HOLDING ONLY IN DELIBERATIVE CONTEXTS,AND SECOND, AS NOT ESSENTIALLY INVOLVING FEELING. REVERENTIA SEEMS ALSO NOT TOBE A FORM OF RECOGNITION RESPECT. MOREOVER, WHILE VALUING THE OBJECT IS NOTESSENTIAL TO SOME FORMS OF RECOGNITION RESPECT (E.G., DIRECTIVE RESPECT) AND ISONLY INDIRECTLY INVOLVED IN OTHER FORMS (IN OBSTACLE RESPECT. WE DONT VALUE THEOBSTACLE BUT DO VALUE THE GOAL IT BLOCKS US FROM REACHING), VALUING IS ESSENTIALTO SOME FORMS OF RESPECT. IN PARTICULAR, VALUING PERSONS INTRINSICALLY IS WIDELYREGARDED AS THE CORE OF THE RESPECT THAT ALL PERSONS ARE THOUGHT TO BE OWEDSIMPLY AS PERSONS. HOWEVER, IT IS NOT SUFFICIENT SIMPLY TO GLOSS RECOGNITIONRESPECT AS RECOGNISING THE VALUE OF THE OBJECT, FOR ONE CAN RECOGNISE THE VALUEOF SOMETHING AND YET NOT VALUE IT, AS AN INSURANCE APPRAISER DOES, OR TAKE THEVALUE OF SOMETHING, SAY, A PERSONS CHILD, INTO ACCOUNT IN DELIBERATING ABOUTHOW BEST TO REVENGE ONESELF ON THAT PERSON.RESPECT FOR SOME CATEGORIES OF OBJECTS IS NOT JUST A MATTER OF TAKING THEOBJECTS VALUE INTO CONSIDERATION BUT OF VALUING THE OBJECT, AND VALUING ITINTRINSICALLY. ANALYSING APPRAISAL RESPECT AS JUST THE POSITIVE ASSESSMENT OFSOMEONES CHARACTER TRAITS AS GOOD IS SIMILARLY PROBLEMATIC, FOR ONE CANEVALUATE SOMETHING HIGHLY AND YET NOT VALUE IT. FOR EXAMPLE, ONE CAN APPRAISESOMEONES MORAL PERFORMANCE AS STELLAR AND HATE OR ENVY HER FOR PRECISELY THATREASON. RESPECT IN THE APPRAISAL SENSE IS NOT JUST EVALUATING BUT ALSO VALUINGTHE OBJECT POSITIVELY. THE RECOGNITION/APPRAISAL DISTINCTION THUS SEEMS TOOBSCURE ANOTHER VERY IMPORTANT DISTINCTION BETWEEN WHAT WE MIGHT CALL VALUINGRESPECT AND NON-VALUING RESPECT. APPRAISAL RESPECT IS A FORM OF VALUING RESPECT,BUT RECOGNITION RESPECT INCLUDES BOTH VALUING AND NON-VALUING FORMS. THEREARE, OF COURSE, DIFFERENT MODES OF VALUING, AND AT LEAST THREE SETS OFDISTINCTIONS ARE RELEVANT TO RESPECT: (A) BETWEEN MORAL AND NON-MORAL VALUING(OR, VALUING FROM A MORAL OR A NON-MORAL POINT OF VIEW), (B) BETWEENCOMPARATIVE AND NON-COMPARATIVE VALUING, AND (C) BETWEEN VALUING INTRINSICALLY THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFUL(VALUING IT IN ITSELF, APART FROM VALUING ANYTHING ELSE) AND VALUING EXTRINSICALLY(FOR EXAMPLE, BECAUSE OF ITS RELATION TO SOMETHING ELSE OF VALUE). A COMPLETEACCOUNT OF RESPECT WOULD NEED TO WORK OUT A TAXONOMY (THE CLASSIFICATIONOF ORGANISMS IN AN ORDERED SYSTEM THAT INDICATES NATURALRELATIONSHIPS) THAT INCORPORATES THESE VALUING DISTINCTIONS. IN WHAT FOLLOWS,HOWEVER, WELL USE THE TERMS “RECOGNITION RESPECT,” “EVALUATIVE RESPECT,” AND“REVERENTIAL RESPECT” (THE LAST FOR THE VALUING FEELING THAT IS MOTIVATIONALWITHOUT BEING DELIBERATIVE), SPECIFYING THE VALUING DIMENSIONS AS NECESSARY.IN EVERYDAY DISCOURSE, THE VALUING SENSE OF RESPECT, ESPECIALLY WHEN USED ABOUTPEOPLE, MOST COMMONLY MEANS THINKING HIGHLY OF SOMEONE, I.E., EVALUATIVERESPECT. HOWEVER, PHILOSOPHICAL ATTENTION TO RESPECT HAS TENDED TO FOCUS ONRECOGNITION (OR, SOMETIMES, REVERENTIAL) RESPECT THAT ACKNOWLEDGES OR VALUESTHE OBJECT FROM A MORAL POINT OF VIEW. THESE DISCUSSIONS TEND TO RELATE SUCHRESPECT TO THE CONCEPTS OF MORAL STANDING OR OF MORAL WORTH. MORAL STANDING,OR MORAL CONSIDERABILITY, IS THE IDEA THAT CERTAIN THINGS MATTER MORALLY IN THEIROWN RIGHT AND SO ARE APPROPRIATE OBJECTS OF DIRECT FUNDAMENTAL MORALCONSIDERATION OR CONCERN. SOME FORM OF RECOGNITION RESPECT IS, ON SOMEACCOUNTS, A PRIMARY MODE OF SUCH MORAL CONSIDERATION. ALTERNATIVELY, IT ISARGUED THAT CERTAIN THINGS HAVE A DISTINCTIVE KIND OF INTRINSIC ANDINCOMPARABLE MORAL WORTH OR VALUE, OFTEN CALLED “DIGNITY,” IN VIRTUE OF WHICHTHEY OUGHT TO BE ACCORDED SOME VALUING FORM OF MORAL RECOGNITION ORREVERENTIAL RESPECT. DISCUSSIONS THAT FOCUS ON MORAL STANDING OR MORAL WORTHADDRESS QUESTIONS SUCH AS: WHAT THINGS FALL WITHIN THE DOMAIN OF BASIC MORALCONSIDERATION OR HAVE THIS DISTINCTIVE MORAL WORTH? WHAT CONFERS MORALSTANDING ON OBJECTS, OR WHAT IS THE BASIS OF THEIR MORAL WORTH? ARE THEREDIFFERENT LEVELS OF MORAL STANDING AND, IF SO, DO OBJECTS AT DIFFERENT LEVELSWARRANT DIFFERENT MODES OF MORAL RESPECT? AND WHAT SORTS OF TREATMENT ARECONSTITUTIVE OF, EXPRESS, OR ARE COMPATIBLE WITH SUCH MORAL RESPECT? IN MODERNPHILOSOPHICAL DISCUSSIONS, HUMANS ARE UNIVERSALLY REGARDED AS THE PARADIGM(A SET OF ASSUMPTIONS, CONCEPTS, VALUES, AND PRACTICES THAT CONSTITUTES AWAY OF VIEWING REALITY FOR THE COMMUNITY THAT SHARES THEM, ESPECIALLYIN AN INTELLECTUAL DISCIPLINE) OBJECTS OF MORAL RESPECT; IF ANYTHING HASMORAL STANDING OR DIGNITY AND SO WARRANTS RESPECT, IT IS THE INDIVIDUAL HUMANBEING. ALTHOUGH SOME THEORISTS ARGUE THAT NATURE (OR, ALL LIVING BEINGS, SPECIES,ECOSYSTEMS) OR SOCIETIES (OR, CULTURES, TRADITIONS) ALSO WARRANT THE MORALCONSIDERATION AND VALUING OF RESPECT, MOST PHILOSOPHICAL DISCUSSION OF RESPECTHAS FOCUSED ON RESPECT FOR PERSONS.RESPECT FOR PERSONS.PEOPLE CAN BE THE OBJECTS OR RECIPIENTS OF DIFFERENT FORMS OF RESPECT. WE CAN(DIRECTIVE) RESPECT A PERSONS LEGAL RIGHTS, SHOW (INSTITUTIONAL) RESPECT FOR THEPRESIDENT BY CALLING HIM “MR. PRESIDENT,” HAVE A HEALTHY (OBSTACLE) RESPECT FOR ANEASILY ANGERED PERSON, (CARE) RESPECT SOMEONE BY CHERISHING HER IN HER CONCRETEPARTICULARITY, (EVALUATIVELY) RESPECT AN INDIVIDUAL FOR HER COMMITMENT TO AWORTHY PROJECT, AND ACCORD ONE PERSON THE SAME BASIC MORAL RESPECT WE THINKANY PERSON DESERVES. THUS THE IDEA OF RESPECT FOR PERSONS IS AMBIGUOUS. BECAUSEBOTH INSTITUTIONAL RESPECT AND EVALUATIVE RESPECT CAN BE FOR PERSONS IN ROLESOR POSITION, THE PHRASE “RESPECTING SOMEONE AS A PERSON” MIGHT MEAN EITHERHAVING HIGH REGARD FOR A PERSONS EXCELLENT PERFORMANCE IN THE ROLE OR THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULBEHAVING IN WAYS THAT EXPRESS DUE CONSIDERATION OR DEFERENCE TO AN INDIVIDUALOF THAT POSITION. SIMILARLY, THE PHRASE “RESPECTING SOMEONE AS A PERSON” MIGHTREFER TO APPRAISING HER AS OVERALL A MORALLY GOOD PERSON, OR TO ACKNOWLEDGINGHER STANDING AS AN EQUAL IN THE MORAL COMMUNITY, OR TO ATTENDING TO HER AS THEPARTICULAR PERSON SHE IS AS OPPOSED TO TREATING HER LIKE JUST ANOTHER BODY.IN THE LITERATURE OF MORAL AND POLITICAL PHILOSOPHY, THE NOTION OF RESPECT FORPERSONS COMMONLY MEANS A KIND OF RESPECT THAT ALL PEOPLE ARE OWED MORALLY JUSTBECAUSE THEY ARE PERSONS, REGARDLESS OF SOCIAL POSITION, INDIVIDUALCHARACTERISTICS OR ACHIEVEMENTS, OR MORAL MERIT. THE IDEA IS THAT PERSONS ASSUCH HAVE A DISTINCTIVE MORAL STATUS IN VIRTUE OF WHICH WE HAVE SPECIALCATEGORICAL OBLIGATIONS TO REGARD AND TREAT THEM IN WAYS THAT ARE CONSTRAINEDBY CERTAIN INVIOLABLE LIMITS. THIS IS SOMETIMES EXPRESSED IN TERMS OF RIGHTS:PERSONS, IT IS SAID, HAVE A FUNDAMENTAL MORAL RIGHT TO RESPECT SIMPLY BECAUSETHEY ARE PERSONS. AND IT IS A COMMONPLACE THAT PERSONS ARE OWED OR HAVE A RIGHTTO EQUAL RESPECT. IT IS OBVIOUS THAT WE COULD NOT OWE EVERY INDIVIDUALEVALUATIVE RESPECT, LET ALONE EQUAL EVALUATIVE RESPECT, SINCE NOT EVERYONE ACTSMORALLY CORRECTLY OR HAS AN EQUALLY MORALLY GOOD CHARACTER. SO, IF IT IS TRUETHAT ALL PERSONS ARE OWED OR HAVE A MORAL RIGHT TO RESPECT JUST AS PERSONS,THEN THE CONCEPT OF RESPECT FOR PERSON HAS TO BE ANALYSED AS SOME FORM ORCOMBINATION OF FORMS OF RECOGNITION OR REVERENTIAL RESPECT. FOR A VARIETY OFREASONS, HOWEVER, IT IS CONTROVERSIAL WHETHER WE DO INDEED HAVE A MORALOBLIGATION TO RESPECT ALL PERSONS, REGARDLESS OF MERIT, AND IF SO, WHY. THERE AREDISAGREEMENTS, FOR EXAMPLE, ABOUT THE SCOPE OF THIS CLAIM, THE GROUNDS FORRESPECT, AND THE JUSTIFICATION FOR THE OBLIGATION. THERE IS ALSO A DIVERGENCE OFVIEWS ABOUT THE KINDS OF TREATMENT THAT ARE RESPECTFUL OF PERSONS.SOME IMPORTANT ISSUES.ONE SOURCE OF CONTROVERSY CONCERNS THE SCOPE OF THE CONCEPT OF A PERSON.ALTHOUGH IN EVERYDAY DISCOURSE THE WORD “PERSON” IS SYNONYMOUS WITH “HUMANBEING,” SOME PHILOSOPHICAL DISCUSSIONS TREAT IT AS A TECHNICAL TERM WHOSE RANGEOF APPLICATION MIGHT BE WIDER THAN THE CLASS OF HUMAN BEINGS (JUST AS, FOR LEGALPURPOSES, BUSINESS CORPORATIONS ARE REGARDED AS PERSONS). THIS IS BECAUSE SOMEOF THE REASONS THAT HAVE BEEN GIVEN FOR RESPECTING PERSONS HAVE THE LOGICALCONSEQUENCE THAT NON-HUMAN THINGS WARRANT THE SAME RESPECT ON THE VERY SAMEGROUNDS AS HUMANS. CONSEQUENTLY, ONE QUESTION AN ACCOUNT OF RESPECT FORPERSONS HAS TO ADDRESS IS WHO OR WHAT ARE PERSONS THAT ARE OWED RESPECT?DIFFERENT ANSWERS HAVE BEEN OFFERED, INCLUDING ALL HUMAN BEINGS; ALL AND ONLYTHOSE HUMANS WHO ARE THEMSELVES CAPABLE OF RESPECTING PERSONS; ALL BEINGSCAPABLE OF RATIONAL ACTIVITY, WHETHER HUMAN OR NOT; ALL BEINGS CAPABLE OFFUNCTIONING AS MORAL AGENTS, WHETHER HUMAN OR NOT. THE SECOND, THIRD ANDFOURTH ANSWERS WOULD SEEM TO EXCLUDE DECEASED HUMANS AND HUMANS WHO LACKSUFFICIENT MENTAL CAPACITY, SUCH AS THE PROFOUNDLY RETARDED, THE SEVERELYMENTALLY ILL AND SENILE, THOSE IN PERSISTENT VEGETATIVE STATES, THE PRE-BORN, ANDPERHAPS VERY YOUNG CHILDREN. THE THIRD AND FOURTH ANSWERS MIGHT INCLUDEARTIFICIAL BEINGS (ANDROIDS, SOPHISTICATED ROBOTS) AND CERTAIN ANIMALS (APES,DOLPHINS).IN TRYING TO CLARIFY WHO OR WHAT WE ARE OBLIGATED TO RESPECT, WE ARE NATURALLYLED TO A QUESTION ABOUT THE GROUND OR BASIS OF RESPECT: WHAT IS IT ABOUT THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULPERSONS THAT MAKES THEM MATTER MORALLY AND MAKES THEM WORTHY OF RESPECT? ONECOMMON WAY OF ANSWER THIS QUESTION IS TO LOOK FOR SOME MORALLY SIGNIFICANTNATURAL QUALITY THAT IS COMMON TO ALL BEINGS THAT ARE NON-CONTROVERSIALLY OWEDRESPECT (FOR EXAMPLE, ALL NORMAL ADULT HUMANS). CANDIDATE QUALITIES INCLUDE THEABILITY TO BE MOVED BY CONSIDERATIONS OF MORAL OBLIGATION, THE ABILITY TO VALUEAPPROPRIATELY, THE ABILITY TO REASON, AND THE ABILITY TO ENGAGE IN RECIPROCALRELATIONSHIPS. SOME OF THESE APPLY ONLY TO HUMANS, OTHERS TO OTHER BEINGS ASWELL. EVEN REGARDING HUMANS, THERE IS A QUESTION OF SCOPE: ARE ALL HUMANS OWEDRESPECT? IF RESPECT IS SOMETHING TO WHICH ALL HUMAN BEINGS HAVE AN EQUAL CLAIM,THEN, IT HAS BEEN ARGUED, THE GROUND QUALITY HAS TO BE ONE THAT ALL HUMANSPOSSESS EQUALLY OR IN VIRTUE OF WHICH HUMANS ARE NATURALLY EQUAL, OR ATHRESHOLD QUALITY THAT ALL HUMANS POSSESS, WITH VARIATIONS ABOVE THETHRESHOLD IGNORED.SOME PHILOSOPHERS HAVE ARGUED THAT CERTAIN CAPACITIES FIT THE BILL; OTHERS ARGUETHAT THERE IS NO QUALITY POSSESSED BY ALL HUMANS THAT COULD BE A PLAUSIBLEGROUND FOR A MORAL OBLIGATION OF EQUAL RESPECT. SOME DRAW FROM THIS THECONCLUSION THAT RESPECT IS OWED NOT TO ALL BUT ONLY TO SOME HUMAN BEINGS;OTHERS CONCLUDE THAT THE OBLIGATION TO RESPECT ALL HUMANS IS GROUNDLESS:RATHER THAN BEING GROUNDED IN SOME FACT ABOUT HUMANS, RESPECT CONFERS MORALSTANDING ON THEM. BUT THE LAST VIEW STILL LEAVES THE QUESTIONS: WHY SHOULD THISSTANDING BE CONFERRED ON HUMANS? AND IS IT CONFERRED ON ALL HUMANS? YETANOTHER QUESTION OF SCOPE IS MUST PERSONS ALWAYS BE RESPECTED? ONE VIEW ISTHAT INDIVIDUALS FORFEIT THEIR CLAIM TO RESPECT BY, FOR EXAMPLE, COMMITTINGHEINOUS CRIMES OF DISRESPECT AGAINST OTHER PERSONS, SUCH AS MURDER IN THECOURSE OF TERRORISM OR GENOCIDE. ANOTHER VIEW IS THAT THERE ARE NOCIRCUMSTANCES UNDER WHICH IT IS MORALLY JUSTIFIABLE TO NOT RESPECT A PERSON,AND THAT EVEN TORTURERS AND CHILD-RAPISTS, THOUGH THEY MAY DESERVE THE MOSTSEVERE CONDEMNATION AND PUNISHMENT AND MAY HAVE FORFEITED THEIR RIGHTS TOFREEDOM AND PERHAPS TO LIFE, STILL REMAIN PERSONS TO WHOM WE HAVE OBLIGATIONSOF RESPECT, SINCE THE GROUNDS OF RESPECT ARE INDEPENDENT OF MORAL MERIT ORDEMERIT.BEYOND THE QUESTION OF THE GROUND OR BASIS OF RESPECT FOR PERSONS, THERE IS AFURTHER QUESTION OF JUSTIFICATION TO BE ADDRESSED, FOR IT IS ONE THING TO SAYTHAT PERSONS HAVE A CERTAIN VALUABLE QUALITY, BUT QUITE ANOTHER THING TO SAYTHAT THERE IS A MORAL OBLIGATION TO RESPECT PERSONS. SO WE MUST ASK: WHATREASONS DO WE HAVE FOR BELIEVING THAT THE FACT THAT PERSONS POSSESS QUALITY XENTAILS THAT WE ARE MORALLY OBLIGATED TO RESPECT PERSONS BY TREATING THEM INCERTAIN WAYS?. ANOTHER WAY OF ASKING A JUSTIFICATION QUESTION SEEKS NOT ANORMATIVE CONNECTION BETWEEN QUALITIES OF PERSONS AND MORAL OBLIGATION, BUTAN EXPLANATION FOR OUR BELIEF THAT HUMANS (AND PERHAPS OTHER BEINGS) ARE OWEDRESPECT, FOR EXAMPLE: WHAT IN OUR EXPERIENCE OF OTHER HUMANS OR IN OUR HISTORYEXPLAINS THE DEVELOPMENT AND POWER OF THIS BELIEF? OUR ACTUAL FELT EXPERIENCESOF REVERENTIAL RESPECT PLAY A SIGNIFICANT ROLE IN SOME OF THESE EXPLANATORYACCOUNTS; WHAT JUSTIFIES ACCEPTING OUR EXPERIENCE OF RESPECT FOR HUMANS (OROTHER BEINGS) AS GROUNDS FOR AN OBLIGATION IS ITS COHERENCE WITH OUR OTHERMORAL BELIEFS.FINALLY, THERE ARE QUESTIONS ABOUT HOW WE ARE SUPPOSED TO RESPECT PERSONS,SUCH AS: WHAT STANDARDS FOR CONDUCT AND CHARACTER GIVE APPROPRIATE THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULEXPRESSION TO THE ATTITUDE OF RESPECT? SOME PHILOSOPHERS ARGUE THAT THEOBLIGATION TO RESPECT PERSON FUNCTIONS AS A NEGATIVE CONSTRAINT: RESPECTINVOLVES REFRAINING FROM REGARDING OR TREATING PERSONS IN CERTAIN WAYS. FOREXAMPLE, WE OUGHT NOT TO TREAT THEM AS IF THEY WERE WORTHLESS OR HAD VALUEONLY INSOFAR AS WE FIND THEM USEFUL OR INTERESTING, OR AS IF THEY WERE MEREOBJECTS OR SPECIMENS, OR AS IF THEY WERE VERMIN OR DIRT; WE OUGHT NOT TO VIOLATETHEIR BASIC MORAL RIGHTS, OR INTERFERE WITH THEIR EFFORTS TO MAKE THEIR OWNDECISIONS AND GOVERN THEIR OWN CONDUCT, OR HUMILIATE THEM, OR TREAT THEM INWAYS THAT FLOUT THEIR NATURE AND WORTH AS PERSONS. OTHERS MAINTAIN THAT WEALSO HAVE POSITIVE DUTIES OF RESPECT: WE OUGHT, FOR EXAMPLE, TO TRY TO SEE EACHOF THEM AND THE WORLD FROM THEIR OWN POINTS OF VIEW, OR HELP THEM TO PROMOTETHEIR MORALLY ACCEPTABLE ENDS, OR PROTECT THEM FROM THEIR OWN SELF-HARMINGDECISIONS. AND SOME PHILOSOPHERS NOTE THAT IT MAY BE MORE RESPECTFUL TO JUDGESOMEONES ACTIONS OR CHARACTER NEGATIVELY OR TO PUNISH SOMEONE FORWRONGDOING THAN TO TREAT THEM AS IF THEY WERE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR WHAT THEYDID, ALTHOUGH REQUIREMENTS OF RESPECT WOULD IMPOSE LIMITS ON HOW SUCHJUDGEMENTS MAY BE EXPRESSED AND HOW PERSONS MAY BE PUNISHED. ANOTHERQUESTION IS WHETHER TREATING PEOPLE WITH RESPECT REQUIRES TREATING THEMEQUALLY. ONE VIEW IS THAT THE EQUALITY OF PERSONS ENTAILS EQUAL TREATMENT;ANOTHER VIEW IS THAT EQUAL TREATMENT WOULD INVOLVE FAILING TO RESPECT THEIMPORTANT DIFFERENCES AMONG PERSONS. ON THE LATTER VIEW, IT IS RESPECTFUL TODEAL WITH EACH INDIVIDUAL IMPARTIALLY AND EXCLUSIVELY ON THE BASIS OF WHATEVERASPECTS OF THE INDIVIDUAL OR THE SITUATION ARE RELEVANT.RESPECT FOR PERSONS.THE MOST INFLUENTIAL POSITION ON THESE ISSUES IS FOUND IN THE MORAL PHILOSOPHY.INDEED, MOST CONTEMPORARY DISCUSSIONS OF RESPECT FOR PERSONS EXPLICITLY CLAIMTO RELY ON, DEVELOP, OR CHALLENGE SOME ASPECT OF ETHICS. AT THE VERY CORE OFETHICAL THEORY IS THE CLAIM THAT HUMAN BEINGS MUST BE RESPECTED BECAUSE THEYHAVE AN OBJECTIVE IN THEMSELVES. AN OBJECTIVE IN ITSELF IS SOMETHING THAT HASVALUE THAT IS INTRINSIC, ABSOLUTE, INCOMPARABLE, AND OBJECTIVE. HUMANS HAVE THISDISTINCTIVE WORTH, WHICH IS CALLED “DIGNITY.” THE MORAL RESPONSE THAT IS BOTHAPPROPRIATE TO AND CATEGORICALLY REQUIRED BY DIGNITY IS RESPECT. IN THEORY OFVALUE, DIGNITY IS THE SUPREME VALUE AND ONLY PERSONS HAVE DIGNITY; THUS, OURMOST FUNDAMENTAL MORAL OBLIGATION IS TO RESPECT PERSONS IN VIRTUE OF THEIRDIGNITY IN THEMSELVES. IN ARGUING FOR RESPECT FOR THE DIGNITY OF PERSONS, ITEXPLICITLY REJECTS OTHER CONCEPTIONS OF HUMAN VALUE: THE ARISTOCRATIC IDEA OFHONOUR THAT INDIVIDUALS DIFFERENTIALLY DESERVE ACCORDING TO THEIR SOCIAL RANK,INDIVIDUAL ACCOMPLISHMENTS, OR MORAL VIRTUE AND THE VIEW, BLUNTLY EXPRESSED,THAT “THE VALUE OR WORTH OF A MAN IS, AS OF ALL OTHER THINGS, HIS PRICE THAT IS TOSAY, SO MUCH AS WOULD BE GIVEN FOR THE USE OF HIS POWER AND THEREFORE IS NOTABSOLUTE BUT A THING DEPENDENT ON THE NEED AND JUDGEMENT OF ANOTHER”. IT ISARGUED THAT THE WORTH THAT A PERSON HAS IS DIFFERENT IN KIND FROM THE VALUE OFOTHER THINGS: OTHER THINGS HAVE A PRICE, BUT PERSONS HAVE DIGNITY; AND WHILESOME INDIVIDUALS MAY HAVE MERIT OR STATUS AND DESERVE HONOUR, ALL PERSONS HAVEDIGNITY AND ARE OWED RESPECT. THE DIGNITY HUMANS HAVE IS UNCONDITIONAL ANDINDEPENDENT OF POSITION, MERIT, UTILITY AND THE ASSESSMENT OF OTHERS.DIGNITY IS ALSO ABSOLUTE AND INCOMPARABLE WORTH: IT CANT BE COMPARED WITH,EXCHANGED FOR, OR REPLACED BY ANY OTHER VALUE, WHEREAS THE VERY PURPOSE OF A THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULPRICE IS TO ESTABLISH COMPARATIVE VALUE. AND DIGNITY IS OBJECTIVE WORTH, WHICHMEANS THAT IT IS A VALUE THAT EVERYONE HAS REASON TO ACKNOWLEDGE, REGARDLESSOF THEIR PARTICULAR DESIRES, AND THAT SETS FIRM LIMITS ON HOW ONE MAY ACT INRELATION TO PERSONS. TO RESPECT PERSONS IS THUS TO REGARD THEM AS ABSOLUTELY,UNCONDITIONALLY, AND INCOMPARABLY VALUABLE, TO VALUE THEM IN THEMSELVES AND NOTIN COMPARISON TO OTHERS OR INSOFAR AS THEY ARE VALUABLE TO SOMEBODY ELSE ORCOULD BE USEFUL AS A MEANS FOR FURTHERING SOME PURPOSE, AND TO ACKNOWLEDGE INA PRACTICAL WAY THAT THEIR DIGNITY IMPOSES ABSOLUTE CONSTRAINTS ON OURTREATMENT OF THEM. BECAUSE WE ARE ALL TOO OFTEN INCLINED NOT TO RESPECTPERSONS, NOT TO VALUE THEM AS THEY OUGHT TO BE VALUED, ONE FORMULATION OF THECATEGORICAL IMPERATIVE, (IN THE ETHICAL SYSTEM, AN UNCONDITIONAL MORALLAW THAT APPLIES TO ALL RATIONAL BEINGS AND IS INDEPENDENT OF ANYPERSONAL MOTIVE OR DESIRE) WHICH IS THE SUPREME PRINCIPLE OF MORALITY,COMMANDS THAT OUR ACTIONS EXPRESS DUE RESPECT FOR THE WORTH OF PERSONS: “ACTIN SUCH A WAY THAT YOU TREAT HUMANITY, WHETHER IN YOUR OWN PERSON OR THEPERSON OF ANY OTHER, NEVER SIMPLY AS A MEANS BUT ALWAYS AT THE SAME TIME AS ANEND.”MORALLY RIGHT ACTIONS ARE THUS THOSE THAT EXPRESS RESPECT FOR PERSONS INTHEMSELVES, WHILE MORALLY WRONG ACTIONS ARE THOSE THAT EXPRESS DISRESPECT ORCONTEMPT FOR PERSONS BY NOT VALUING THEM AS IN THEMSELVES. IT IS IMPORTANT TONOTE THAT IT IS NOT SIMPLY ACTIONS THAT MATTER FOR RESPECT; FOR, IT IS THEATTITUDES AND VALUE PRIORITIES THAT LIE BEHIND THE ACTIONS THAT ARE MORALLY MOSTSIGNIFICANT.AS THE CATEGORICAL IMPERATIVE INDICATES, IT IS HUMANITY IN PERSONS, STRICTLYSPEAKING, THAT HAS DIGNITY; THAT IS, IT IS IN VIRTUE OF THE HUMANITY IN THEM THATHUMANS ARE AND SO OUGHT TO BE TREATED AS IN THEMSELVES. COMMENTATORSGENERALLY IDENTIFY HUMANITY WITH TWO CLOSELY RELATED ASPECTS OF RATIONALITY: THECAPACITY TO SET GOALS AND THE CAPACITY TO BE AUTONOMOUS, BOTH OF WHICH ARECAPACITIES TO BE A MORAL. THE CAPACITY TO SET GOALS, WHICH IS THE POWER OFRATIONAL CHOICE, IS THE CAPACITY TO VALUE THINGS THROUGH RATIONAL JUDGEMENT: TODETERMINE, UNDER THE INFLUENCE OF REASON INDEPENDENTLY OF ANTECEDENT INSTINCTSOR DESIRES, THAT SOMETHING IS VALUABLE OR IMPORTANT, THAT IT IS WORTH SEEKING ORVALUING. IT IS ALSO, THEREBY, THE CAPACITY TO VALUE IN THEMSELVES, AND SO ITINCLUDES THE CAPACITY FOR RESPECT. THE CAPACITY TO BE AUTONOMOUS IS THE CAPACITYTO BE SELF-LEGISLATING AND SELF-GOVERNING, THAT IS, (A) THE CAPACITY TO LEGISLATEMORAL LAWS THAT ARE VALID FOR ALL RATIONAL BEINGS THROUGH ONES RATIONALWILLING BY RECOGNISING, USING REASON ALONE, WHAT COUNTS AS A MORAL OBLIGATIONAND (B) THE CAPACITY THEN TO FREELY RESOLVE TO ACT IN ACCORDANCE WITH MORALLAWS BECAUSE THEY ARE SELF-IMPOSED BY ONES OWN REASON AND NOT BECAUSE ONE ISCOMPELLED TO ACT BY ANY FORCES EXTERNAL TO ONES REASON AND WILL, INCLUDINGONES OWN DESIRES AND INCLINATIONS.THE CAPACITY TO BE AUTONOMOUS IS THUS ALSO THE CAPACITY TO FREELY DIRECT, SHAPE,AND DETERMINE THE MEANING OF ONES OWN LIFE, AND IT IS THE CONDITION FOR MORALRESPONSIBILITY. BUT WHY DOES THE POSSESSION OF THESE CAPACITIES MAKE PERSONSENDS IN THEMSELVES? THE MORAL PRINCIPLES MUST BE CATEGORICAL IMPERATIVES, WHICHIS TO SAY THAT THEY MUST BE RATIONAL REQUIREMENTS TO WHICH WE AREUNCONDITIONALLY SUBJECT, REGARDLESS OF WHATEVER INCLINATIONS, INTERESTS, GOALS,OR PROJECTS WE MIGHT HAVE. BUT THERE COULD BE CATEGORICAL IMPERATIVES ONLY IF THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULTHERE IS SOMETHING OF ABSOLUTE WORTH. ONLY PERSONS HAVE THIS KIND OF WORTH,AND THEY HAVE IT BECAUSE THE CAPACITY TO SET GOALS, OR TO CONFER VALUE ONTHINGS, IS THE SOURCE OF ALL OBJECTIVE VALUE, AND THE CAPACITY FOR AUTONOMY ISTHE SOURCE, ON THE ONE HAND, BOTH OF THE OBLIGATORINESS OF MORAL LAW AND OFRESPONSIBLE MORAL ACTIONS, AND ON THE OTHER, OF ALL REALISED HUMAN GOODNESS.AS THE SOURCES OF ALL VALUE AND OF MORALITY ITSELF, THEN, THESE RATIONALCAPACITIES ARE THE BASIS OF THE ABSOLUTE WORTH OR DIGNITY OF RATIONAL BEINGS. ALLRATIONAL BEINGS NECESSARILY ATTRIBUTE THIS VALUE TO THEMSELVES AND THAT THEYMUST, ON REFLECTION, ACKNOWLEDGE THAT EVERY OTHER RATIONAL BEING HAS THE SAMEVALUE AND ON THE SAME GROUNDS: BECAUSE OF THE RATIONAL NATURE THAT IS COMMONTO ALL PERSONS. IT IS THUS NOT AS MEMBERS OF THE BIOLOGICAL SPECIES HOMOSAPIENSTHAT HUMAN BEINGS HAVE DIGNITY AND SO ARE OWED RESPECT, BUT AS RATIONAL BEINGSWHO ARE CAPABLE OF MORAL AGENCY.THERE ARE SEVERAL IMPORTANT CONSEQUENCES OF THIS VIEW REGARDING THE SCOPE OFRESPECT FOR PERSONS.FIRST, WHILE ALL NORMALLY FUNCTIONING HUMAN BEINGS POSSESS THE RATIONALCAPACITIES THAT GROUND RESPECT, THERE CAN BE HUMANS IN WHOM THESE CAPACITIESARE ALTOGETHER ABSENT AND WHO THEREFORE ARE NOT PERSONS AND ARE NOT OWEDRESPECT.SECOND, THESE CAPACITIES MAY BE POSSESSED BY BEINGS WHO ARE NOT BIOLOGICALLYHUMAN AND SUCH BEINGS WOULD ALSO BE PERSONS WITH DIGNITY WHOM WE AREOBLIGATED TO RESPECT.THIRD, DIGNITY IS AN ABSOLUTE WORTH GROUNDED IN THE RATIONAL CAPACITIES FORMORALITY, SO IT IS IN NO WAY CONDITIONAL ON HOW WELL OR BADLY THOSE CAPACITIESARE EXERCISED, ON WHETHER A PERSON ACTS MORALLY OR HAS A MORALLY GOODCHARACTER OR NOT. THUS, DIGNITY CANNOT BE DIMINISHED OR LOST THROUGH VICE ORMORALLY BAD ACTION, NOR CAN IT BE INCREASED THROUGH VIRTUE OR MORALLY CORRECTACTION.ONCE A PERSON, ALWAYS A PERSON AND SO INDIVIDUALS CANNOT FORFEIT DIGNITY OR THERIGHT TO RESPECT NO MATTER WHAT THEY DO. IT FOLLOWS THAT EVEN THE MORALLY WORSTINDIVIDUALS MUST BE TREATED WITH RESPECT. OF COURSE, WRONGDOING MAY CALL FORPUNISHMENT AND MAY BE GROUNDS FOR FORFEITING CERTAIN RIGHTS, BUT IT IS NOTGROUNDS FOR LOSING DIGNITY OR FOR REGARDING THE WRONGDOER AS SCUM. RESPECT ISNOT SOMETHING INDIVIDUALS HAVE TO EARN OR MIGHT FAIL TO EARN, BUT SOMETHINGTHEY ARE OWED SIMPLY BECAUSE THEY ARE RATIONAL HUMAN BEINGS.FINALLY, BECAUSE DIGNITY IS ABSOLUTE AND INCOMPARABLE, THE WORTH OF ALL RATIONALBEINGS IS EQUAL. THUS THE MORALLY WORST PERSONS HAVE THE SAME DIGNITY AS THEMORALLY BEST PERSONS, ALTHOUGH THE FORMER FAIL TO LIVE UP TO THEIR DIGNITY. WHATGROUNDS DIGNITY IS SOMETHING THAT ALL PERSONS HAVE IN COMMON, NOT SOMETHINGTHAT DISTINGUISHES ONE INDIVIDUAL FROM ANOTHER. THUS EACH PERSON IS TO BERESPECTED AS AN EQUAL AMONG EQUALS, WITHOUT CONSIDERATION OF THEIR INDIVIDUALACHIEVEMENTS, SOCIAL STATUS, MORAL MERIT OR DEMERIT, OR ANY FEATURE OTHER THANTHEIR COMMON RATIONAL NATURE. HOWEVER, THE EQUALITY OF ALL RATIONAL BEINGSDOES NOT ENTAIL THAT EACH PERSON MUST BE TREATED THE SAME AS EVERY OTHERPERSONS, NOR DOES IT ENTAIL THAT PERSONS CANNOT ALSO BE DIFFERENTIALLY EVALUATED THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULAND VALUED IN OTHER WAYS FOR THEIR PARTICULAR QUALITIES, ACCOMPLISHMENTS, MERIT,OR USEFULNESS. BUT SUCH VALUING AND TREATMENT MUST ALWAYS BE CONSTRAINED BYTHE REQUIREMENT TO RESPECT PERSONS AS ENDS IN THEMSELVES.IN THIS DOCTRINE OF JUSTICE WE CAN ARGUE THAT PERSONS, BY VIRTUE OF THEIRRATIONAL NATURE, ARE BEARERS OF FUNDAMENTAL RIGHTS, INCLUDING THE INNATE RIGHTTO FREEDOM, WHICH MUST BE RESPECTED BOTH BY OTHER PERSONS AND BY SOCIALINSTITUTIONS. THE DIGNITY OF PERSONS ALSO IMPOSES LIMITS ON PERMISSIBLE REASONSFOR AND FORMS OF LEGAL PUNISHMENT. THE MORAL DUTIES WE HAVE TO RESPECT OTHERPERSONS (AS WELL AS DUTIES OF SELF-RESPECT, TO WHICH WELL RETURN BELOW). HERE,EXPLICITLY INVOKES THE NOTION OF RESPECT AS OBSERVANTIA. WE HAVE NO MORAL DUTYTO FEEL RESPECT FOR OTHERS (FOR WE CANNOT HAVE A MORAL DUTY TO HAVE ANY FEELING,SINCE FEELINGS ARE NOT DIRECTLY CONTROLLABLE BY OUR WILL), SO THE RESPECT WE OWEOTHERS IS “TO BE UNDERSTOOD AS THE MAXIM OF LIMITING OUR SELF-ESTEEM BY THEDIGNITY OF HUMANITY IN ANOTHER PERSON, AND SO AS RESPECT IN THE PRACTICAL SENSE”.THIS DUTY TO RESPECT OTHERS REQUIRES TWO THINGS: FIRST, THAT WE ADOPT AS AREGULATING POLICY, A COMMITMENT TO CONTROL OUR OWN DESIRE TO THINK WELL OFOURSELVES (THIS DESIRE BEING THE MAIN CAUSE OF DISRESPECT) AND, SECOND, THAT WEREFRAIN FROM TREATING OTHERS IN THE FOLLOWING WAYS: TREATING THEM MERELY ASMEANS (VALUING THEM AS LESS THAN IN THEMSELVES), SHOWING CONTEMPT FOR THEM(DENYING THAT THEY HAVE ANY WORTH), TREATING THEM ARROGANTLY (DEMANDING THATTHEY VALUE US MORE HIGHLY THAN THEY VALUE THEMSELVES), DEFAMING THEM BY PUBLICLYEXPOSING THEIR FAULTS, AND RIDICULING OR MOCKING THEM. WE ALSO HAVE DUTIES OFLOVE TO OTHERS, AND THAT IN FRIENDSHIP RESPECT AND LOVE, WHICH NATURALLY PULL INOPPOSITE DIRECTIONS, ACHIEVE A PERFECT BALANCE.SUBSEQUENT WORK ON THE DUTY OF RESPECT FOR OTHERS HAS EXPANDED THE LIST OFWAYS THAT WE ARE REQUIRED BY RESPECT TO TREAT PERSONS. IN PARTICULAR, ALTHOUGHTHE DUTIES OF RESPECT ARE STRICTLY NEGATIVE, CONSISTING IN NOT ENGAGING INCERTAIN CONDUCT OR HAVING CERTAIN ATTITUDES, MANY PHILOSOPHERS HAVE ARGUEDTHAT RESPECTING OTHERS INVOLVES POSITIVE ACTIONS AND ATTITUDES AS WELL. THEIMPORTANCE OF AUTONOMY AND IN MORAL PHILOSOPHY HAS LED MANY PHILOSOPHERS TOHIGHLIGHT RESPECT FOR AUTONOMY. THUS, WE RESPECT OTHERS AS PERSONS (NEGATIVELY)BY DOING NOTHING TO IMPAIR OR DESTROY THEIR CAPACITY FOR AUTONOMY, BY NOTINTERFERING WITH THEIR AUTONOMOUS DECISIONS AND THEIR PURSUIT OF (MORALLYACCEPTABLE) THE ENDS THEY VALUE, AND BY NOT COERCING OR DECEIVING THEM ORTREATING THEM PATERNALISTICALLY. WE ALSO RESPECT THEM (POSITIVELY) BY PROTECTINGTHEM FROM THREATS TO THEIR AUTONOMY (WHICH MAY REQUIRE INTERVENTION WHENSOMEONES CURRENT DECISIONS SEEM TO PUT THEIR OWN AUTONOMY AT RISK) AND BYPROMOTING AUTONOMY AND THE CONDITIONS FOR IT (FOR EXAMPLE, BY ALLOWING ANDENCOURAGING INDIVIDUALS TO MAKE THEIR OWN DECISIONS, TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FORTHEIR ACTIONS, AND CONTROL THEIR OWN LIVES). SOME PHILOSOPHERS HAVE CLAIMEDTHAT RATIONALITY IS THE GROUND FOR RESPECT, ARGUING THAT TO RESPECT OTHERS IS TOENGAGE WITH THEM NOT AS INSTRUMENTS OR OBSTACLES BUT AS PERSONS WHO ARE TO BEREASONED WITH. SO, FOR EXAMPLE, WE SHOULD EMPLOY CONSIDERATIONS THAT AREACCESSIBLE TO OTHER PERSONS AND PROVIDE THEM WITH GENUINE REASONS IN OURDEALINGS WITH THEM RATHER THAN TRYING TO MANIPULATE THEM THROUGH NON RATIONALTECHNIQUES SUCH AS THREAT OR BRIBERY, ACT TOWARD THEM ONLY IN WAYS TO WHICHTHEY COULD GIVE RATIONAL CONSENT, AND BE WILLING TO LISTEN TO THEM AND TAKETHEIR REASONS SERIOUSLY. THE IMPORTANCE OF THE CAPACITY TO SET ENDS AND VALUETHINGS HAS BEEN TAKEN BY SOME PHILOSOPHERS TO ENTAIL THAT RESPECT ALSO INVOLVES THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULCONSIDERATION FOR THE INTERESTS OF OTHERS; SO, WE SHOULD HELP THEM TO PROMOTEAND PROTECT WHAT THEY VALUE AND TO PURSUE THEIR ENDS, PROVIDED THESE ARECOMPATIBLE WITH DUE RESPECT FOR OTHER PERSONS, AND WE SHOULD MAKE AN EFFORT TOAPPRECIATE VALUES THAT ARE DIFFERENT FROM OUR OWN.THE EMPHASIS IN THE DOCTRINE OF JUSTICE ON THE FUNDAMENTAL RIGHTS THAT PERSONSHAVE HAS LED STILL OTHERS TO VIEW THE DUTY TO RESPECT PERSONS AS THE DUTY TORESPECT THE MORAL RIGHTS THEY HAVE AS PERSONS; SOME HAVE CLAIMED THAT THE DUTYTO RESPECT IS NOTHING MORE THAN THE DUTY TO REFRAIN FROM VIOLATING THESERIGHTS.ONE FINAL DIMENSION OF RESPECT THAT IS WORTH MENTIONING IS THE ATTENTION TO THEFEELING OF RESPECT FOR THE MORAL LAW AND FOR MORALLY GOOD PERSONS. RESPECT FORTHE MORAL LAW IS A UNIQUE MORAL FEELING THAT INEVITABLY ARISES FROM OUR RATIONALRECOGNITION OF THE MORAL LAW AS SUPREMELY AUTHORITATIVE, AS PROVIDING REASONSFOR ACTION THAT UNCONDITIONALLY CONSTRAIN BOTH OUR EFFORTS TO SATISFY OURDESIRES AND PURSUE OUR ENDS AND OUR ATTEMPTS TO ESTEEM OURSELVESINDEPENDENTLY OF CONSIDERATIONS OF MORAL CONSIDERATIONS.IT IS A PAINFUL, HUMBLING FEELING INSOFAR AS OUR SELF-INTEREST AND SELF-ESTEEM ARERESTRICTED. AT THE SAME TIME, IT IS A PLEASURABLY UPLIFTING FEELING INSOFAR AS WERECOGNISE OUR OWN REASON TO BE THE SOURCE OF THE MORAL LAW. THIS FEELING IS THEWAY THE MORAL LAW BECOMES AN “INCENTIVE” THAT DETERMINES ONES WILL TO CHOOSEMORALLY CORRECTLY. THE DUTY TO RESPECT PERSONS DERIVES FROM REVERENCE FOR THELAW. WE ALSO EXPERIENCE THIS SAME HUMBLING AND UPLIFTING FEELING FOR MORALLYGOOD PEOPLE BECAUSE THEY EXEMPLIFY THE MORAL LAW. THIS REVERENCE FOR MORALLYGOOD PEOPLE, WHICH IS RELATED TO EVALUATIVE RESPECT, CONTRASTS WITH THE DUTY TOGIVE RECOGNITION RESPECT TO OTHER PERSONS IN OUR ATTITUDES AND CONDUCT, FORTHE FORMER IS A SOMETHING WE CANT HELP FEELING FOR SOME PEOPLE, WHILE THELATTER IS A WAY WE ARE OBLIGATED TO COMPORT OURSELVES TOWARD ALL PERSONSREGARDLESS OF OUR FEELINGS AND THEIR MORAL PERFORMANCE. WE MIGHT, HOWEVER,REGARD THE TWO AS LINKED, BY REGARDING OUR RECOGNITION AND APPRECIATION OF THEDIGNITY OF OTHERS AS INVOLVING A FEELING THAT WE (PERHAPS ONLY OCCASIONALLY)CANT HELP BUT EXPERIENCE, WHICH WE COMMIT OURSELVES TO LIVING UP TO INACKNOWLEDGING THE MORAL DUTY TO RESPECT PERSONS JUST BECAUSE THEY AREPERSONS.FURTHER ISSUES, DEVELOPMENTS AND APPLICATIONS.SOME OF THE DISCUSSIONS ON RESPECT HAVE FOCUSED ON MORE THEORETICAL ISSUES.FOR EXAMPLE, THE NOTION OF RESPECT FOR PERSONS A CENTRAL AND VITAL ROLE IN MORALTHEORY. ONE ISSUE THAT HAS SINCE CONCERNED PHILOSOPHERS IS WHETHER RESPECT FORPERSONS IS THE DEFINITIVE FOCUS OF MORALITY, EITHER IN THE SENSE THAT MORALRIGHTNESS AND GOODNESS AND HENCE ALL SPECIFIC MORAL DUTIES, RIGHTS, AND VIRTUESARE EXPLAINABLE IN TERMS OF RESPECT OR IN THE SENSE THAT THE SUPREME MORALPRINCIPLE FROM WHICH ALL OTHER PRINCIPLES ARE DERIVED IS A PRINCIPLE OF RESPECTFOR PERSONS. SOME PHILOSOPHERS HAVE DEVELOPED ETHICAL THEORIES IN WHICH APRINCIPLE OF RESPECT FOR PERSONS IS IDENTIFIED AS THE FUNDAMENTAL ANDCOMPREHENSIVE MORAL REQUIREMENT. OTHERS ARGUE THAT WHILE RESPECT FOR PERSONIS SURELY A VERY IMPORTANT MORAL CONSIDERATION, IT CANNOT BE THE PRINCIPLE FROMWHICH THE REST OF MORALITY IS DEDUCED. THEY MAINTAIN THAT THERE ARE MORAL THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULCONTEXTS IN WHICH RESPECT FOR PERSONS IS NOT AN ISSUE AND THAT THERE ARE OTHERDIMENSIONS OF OUR MORAL RELATIONS WITH OTHERS THAT SEEM NOT TO REDUCE TORESPECT. MOREOVER, THEY ARGUE, SUCH A PRINCIPLE WOULD SEEM NOT TO PROVIDE MORALGROUNDS FOR BELIEVING THAT WE OUGHT TO TREAT MENTALLY INCAPACITATED HUMANS ORNON HUMAN ANIMALS DECENTLY, OR WOULD MAKE A DUTY TO RESPECT SUCH BEINGS ONLYAN INDIRECT DUTY ONE WE HAVE ONLY BECAUSE IT IS A WAY OR RESPECTING PERSONS WHOVALUE SUCH BEINGS OR BECAUSE OUR DUTY TO RESPECT OURSELVES REQUIRES THAT WENOT ENGAGE IN ACTIVITIES THAT WOULD DULL OUR ABILITY TO TREAT PERSONS DECENTLYRATHER THAN A DIRECT DUTY TO SUCH BEING.SOME THEORISTS MAINTAIN THAT UTILITARIANISM, (THE ETHICAL THEORY THAT ALLACTION SHOULD BE DIRECTED TOWARD ACHIEVING THE GREATEST HAPPINESS FORTHE GREATEST NUMBER OF PEOPLE) A MORAL THEORY GENERALLY THOUGHT TO BE ARIVAL TO SOME OTHERS THEORY IS SUPERIOR WITH REGARD TO THIS LAST POINT. AUTILITARIAN MIGHT ARGUE THAT IT IS SENTIENCE RATHER THAN THE CAPACITY FORRATIONAL AUTONOMY THAT IS THE GROUND OF MORAL RECOGNITION RESPECT, AND SOWOULD REGARD MENTALLY INCAPACITATED HUMANS AND NON-HUMAN ANIMALS AS HAVINGMORAL STANDING AND SO AS WORTHY OF AT LEAST SOME MORAL RESPECT IN THEMSELVES.ANOTHER ISSUE, THEN, IS WHETHER UTILITARIANISM (OR MORE GENERALLY,CONSEQUENTIALISM (THE VIEW THAT THE VALUE OF AN ACTION DERIVES SOLELYFROM THE VALUE OF ITS CONSEQUENCES CAN INDEED ACCOMMODATE A PRINCIPLEOF RESPECT FOR PERSONS). IN OPPOSITION TO THE UTILITARIAN CLAIM, SOME ARGUETHAT ETHICS IS DISTINGUISHABLE FROM CONSEQUENTIALIST ETHICS PRECISELY INMAINTAINING THAT THE FUNDAMENTAL DEMAND OF MORALITY IS NOT THAT WE PROMOTESOME VALUE, SUCH AS THE HAPPINESS OF SENTIENT BEINGS, BUT THAT WE RESPECT THEWORTH OF HUMANITY REGARDLESS OF THE CONSEQUENCES OF DOING SO. THUS, SOMEPHILOSOPHERS ARGUE THAT UTILITARIANISM IS INCONSISTENT WITH RESPECT FORPERSONS, INASMUCH AS UTILITARIANISM, IN REQUIRING THAT ALL ACTIONS, PRINCIPLES, ORMOTIVES PROMOTE THE GREATEST GOOD, REQUIRES TREATING PERSONS AS MERE MEANS ONTHOSE OCCASIONS WHEN DOING SO MAXIMISES UTILITY, WHEREAS THE VERY POINT OF APRINCIPLE OF RESPECT FOR PERSONS IS TO RULE OUT SUCH TRADING OF PERSON AND THEIRDIGNITY FOR SOME OTHER VALUE. IN OPPOSITION, OTHER THEORISTS MAINTAIN NOT ONLYTHAT A CONSEQUENTIALIST THEORY CAN ACCOMMODATE THE IDEA OF RESPECT FOR PERSON,BUT ALSO THAT UTILITARIANISM IS DERIVABLE FROM A PRINCIPLE OF RESPECT FOR PERSONSAND THAT CONSEQUENTIALIST THEORIES PROVIDE A BETTER GROUNDING FOR DUTIES TORESPECT PERSONS.OTHER PHILOSOPHICAL DISCUSSIONS HAVE BEEN CONCERNED WITH CLARIFYING THENATURE OF THE RESPECT THAT IS OWED TO PERSONS AND OF THE PERSONS THAT ARE OWEDRESPECT. SOME OF THESE DISCUSSIONS AIM TO REFINE AND DEVELOP, WHILE OTHERSCRITICISE IT AND OFFER ALTERNATIVES. ONE AREA OF INTEREST HAS BEEN THECONNECTIONS BETWEEN RESPECT AND OTHER ATTITUDES AND EMOTIONS, ESPECIALLY LOVE.FOR EXAMPLE, THAT WE HAVE DUTIES OF LOVE TO OTHERS JUST AS WE HAVE DUTIES OFRESPECT. HOWEVER, NEITHER THE LOVE NOR THE RESPECT WE OWE IS A MATTER OF FEELING(OR, IS PATHOLOGICAL), BUT IS, RATHER, A DUTY TO ADOPT A CERTAIN KIND OF MAXIM, ORPOLICY OF ACTION: THE DUTY OF LOVE IS THE DUTY TO MAKE THE OBJECTIVE OF OTHERS MYOWN, THE DUTY OF RESPECT IS THE DUTY TO NOT DEGRADE OTHERS TO THE STATUS OFMERE MEANS TO MY OBJECTIVES. LOVE AND RESPECT, ARE INTIMATELY UNITED INFRIENDSHIP; NEVERTHELESS, THEY SEEM TO BE IN TENSION WITH ONE ANOTHER ANDRESPECT SEEMS TO BE THE MORALLY MORE IMPORTANT OF THE TWO, IN THAT THE DUTIES OFRESPECT ARE STRICTER AND RESPECT CONSTRAINS AND LIMITS LOVE WITHIN FRIENDSHIP. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULCRITICS OBJECT TO WHAT THEY SEE HERE AS DEVALUING OF EMOTIONS, MAINTAINING THATEMOTIONS ARE MORALLY SIGNIFICANT DIMENSIONS OF PERSONS BOTH AS SUBJECTS AND ASOBJECTS OF BOTH RESPECT AND LOVE. IN RESPONSE, SOME PHILOSOPHERS CONTEND THATRESPECT AND LOVE ARE MORE SIMILAR AND CLOSELY CONNECTED IN THEORY THAN INGENERALLY RECOGNISED. OTHERS HAVE DEVELOPED ACCOUNTS OF RESPECT THAT IS ORINCORPORATES A FORM OF LOVE (AGAPE) OR CARE AND SOME HAVE ARGUED THATEMOTIONS ARE INCLUDED AMONG THE BASES OF DIGNITY AND THAT A COMPLEX EMOTIONALREPERTOIRE IS NECESSARY FOR RESPECT. IN A RELATED VEIN, SOME PHILOSOPHERSMAINTAIN THAT IT IS POSSIBLE TO ACKNOWLEDGE THAT ANOTHER BEING IS A PERSON, I.E.,A RATIONAL MORAL AGENT, AND YET NOT HAVE OR GIVE RESPECT TO THAT BEING. WHAT ISREQUIRED FOR RESPECTING A PERSON IS NOT SIMPLY RECOGNISING WHAT THEY ARE BUTEMOTIONALLY EXPERIENCING THEIR VALUE AS A PERSON.ANOTHER SOURCE OF DISSATISFACTION HAS BEEN WITH HIS CHARACTERISATION OFPERSONS AND THE QUALITY IN VIRTUE OF WHICH THEY MUST BE RESPECTED. INPARTICULAR, THAT THE RATIONAL WILL WHICH IS COMMON TO ALL PERSONS IS THE GROUNDOF RESPECT IS THOUGHT TO IGNORE THE MORAL IMPORTANCE OF THE CONCRETEPARTICULARITY OF EACH INDIVIDUAL, AND HIS EMPHASIS ON AUTONOMY, WHICH IS OFTENUNDERSTOOD TO INVOLVE THE INDEPENDENCE OF ONE PERSON FROM ALL OTHERS, ISTHOUGHT TO IGNORE THE ESSENTIAL RELATIONALITY OF HUMAN BEINGS PERSON. RATHERTHAN IGNORING WHAT DISTINGUISHES ONE PERSON FROM ANOTHER, IT IS ARGUED,RESPECT SHOULD INVOLVE ATTENDING TO EACH PERSON AS A DISTINCTIVE INDIVIDUAL ANDTO THE CONCRETE REALITIES OF HUMAN LIVES, AND IT SHOULD INVOLVE VALUINGDIFFERENCE AS WELL AS SAMENESS AND INTERDEPENDENCE AS WELL AS INDEPENDENCE.THE IDEA OF RESPECT FOR PARTICULARITY AND RELATIONALITY HAS ALSO BECOME ANIMPORTANT TOPIC RECENTLY IN POLITICAL PHILOSOPHY. ONE ISSUE IS HOW PERSONS OUGHTTO BE RESPECTED IN MULTICULTURAL LIBERAL DEMOCRATIC SOCIETIES. RESPECT FORPERSONS IS ONE OF THE BASIC TENETS OF LIBERAL DEMOCRATIC SOCIETIES, WHICH AREFOUNDED ON THE IDEAL OF THE EQUAL DIGNITY OF ALL CITIZENS AND WHICH REALISE THISIDEAL IN THE EQUALISATION OF RIGHTS AND ENTITLEMENTS AMONG ALL CITIZENS AND SOTHE REJECTION OF DISCRIMINATION AND DIFFERENTIAL TREATMENT. SOME WRITERS ARGUETHAT RESPECTING PERSONS REQUIRES RESPECTING THE TRADITIONS AND CULTURES THATPERMEATE AND SHAPE THEIR INDIVIDUAL IDENTITIES. BUT AS THE CITIZENRY OF SUCHSOCIETIES BECOMES INCREASINGLY MORE DIVERSE AND AS MANY GROUPS COME TO REGARDTHEIR IDENTITIES OR VERY EXISTENCE AS THREATENED BY A HOMOGENISING EQUALITY,LIBERAL SOCIETIES FACE THE QUESTION OF WHETHER THEY SHOULD OR COULD RESPOND TODEMANDS TO RESPECT THE UNIQUE IDENTITY OF INDIVIDUALS OR GROUPS BY DIFFERENTIALTREATMENT, SUCH AS EXTENDING POLITICAL RIGHTS OR OPPORTUNITIES TO SOME CULTURALGROUPS (FOR EXAMPLE, NATIVE AMERICANS, FRENCH CANADIANS, WOMEN, AFRICAN-AMERICANS) AND NOT OTHERS.THE IDEA THAT ALL PERSONS ARE OWED RESPECT HAS BEEN APPLIED IN A WIDE VARIETY OFCONTEXTS. FOR INSTANCE, SOME PHILOSOPHERS EMPLOY IT TO JUSTIFY VARIOUS POSITIONSIN NORMATIVE ETHICS, SUCH AS THE CLAIM THAT PERSONS HAVE MORAL RIGHTS OR DUTIESOR TO ARGUE FOR PRINCIPLES OF EQUALITY JUSTICE, AND EDUCATION. OTHERS APPEAL TORESPECT FOR PERSONS IN ADDRESSING A WIDE VARIETY OF PRACTICAL ISSUES SUCH ASABORTION, RACISM AND SEXISM, RAPE, PUNISHMENT, PHYSICIAN-ASSISTED SUICIDE,PORNOGRAPHY, AFFIRMATIVE ACTION, FORGIVENESS, TERRORISM, SEXUAL HARASSMENT, CO-OPERATION WITH INJUSTICE AND MANY OTHERS. ONE VERY IMPORTANT APPLICATION THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULCONTEXT IS BIOMEDICAL ETHICS, WHERE THE PRINCIPLE OF RESPECT FOR AUTONOMY IS ONEOF FOUR BASIC PRINCIPLES THAT HAVE BECOME “THE BACKBONE OF CONTEMPORARYWESTERN HEALTH CARE ETHICS” THE IDEA OF RESPECT FOR PATIENT AUTONOMY HASTRANSFORMED HEALTH CARE PRACTICE, WHICH HAD TRADITIONALLY WORKED ONPHYSICIAN-BASED PATERNALISM, AND THE PRINCIPLE ENTERS INTO ISSUES SUCH ASINFORMED CONSENT, TRUTH TELLING, CONFIDENTIALITY, RESPECTING REFUSALS OF LIFE-SAVING TREATMENT, THE USE OF PATIENTS AS SUBJECTS IN MEDICAL EXPERIMENTATION,AND SO ON.RESPECT FOR NATURE AND OTHER NON PERSONSALTHOUGH PERSONS ARE THE PARADIGM OBJECTS OF MORAL RECOGNITION RESPECT, IT IS AMATTER OF SOME DEBATE WHETHER THEY ARE THE ONLY THINGS THAT WE OUGHT MORALLYTO RESPECT. ONE SERIOUS OBJECTION RAISED AGAINST ETHICAL THEORY IS THAT INCLAIMING THAT ONLY RATIONAL BEINGS ARE DESERVING OF RESPECT, IT REQUIRESTREATING ALL THINGS WHICH ARENT PERSONS AS MERE MEANS TO THE ENDS OF RATIONALBEINGS, AND SO IT SUPPORTS MORALLY ABHORRENT ATTITUDES OF DOMINATION ANDEXPLOITATION TOWARD ALL NON PERSONS AND TOWARD OUR NATURAL ENVIRONMENT.TAKING ISSUE THAT ONLY PERSONS ARE RESPECT WORTHY, MANY PHILOSOPHERS HAVEARGUED THAT SUCH NON PERSONS AS HUMANS WHO ARE NOT AGENTS OR NOT YET AGENTS,HUMAN EMBRYOS, SENTIENT CREATURES, PLANTS, SPECIES, ALL LIVING THINGS, BIOTICCOMMUNITIES, THE NATURAL ECOSYSTEM OF OUR PLANET, EVEN MOUNTAINS, ROCKS, ANDTHE AIDS VIRUS HAVE MORAL STANDING OR WORTH AND SO ARE APPROPRIATE OBJECTS OFOR ARE OWED MORAL RESPECT. OF COURSE, IT IS POSSIBLE TO VALUE SUCH THINGSINSTRUMENTALLY INSOFAR AS THEY SERVE HUMAN INTERESTS, BUT THE IDEA IS THAT SUCHTHINGS MATTER MORALLY AND HAVE A CLAIM TO RESPECT IN THEIR OWN RIGHT,INDEPENDENTLY OF THEIR USEFULNESS TO HUMANS. A VARIETY OF DIFFERENT STRATEGIESHAVE BEEN EMPLOYED IN ARGUING FOR SUCH RESPECT CLAIMS. FOR EXAMPLE, THE CONCEPTOF MORAL RESPECT IS SOMETIMES STRIPPED DOWN TO ITS BARE ESSENTIALS, OMITTINGMUCH OF THE CONTENT OF THE CONCEPT AS IT APPEARS IN RESPECT FOR PERSONSCONTEXTS. THE RESPECT THAT IS OWED TO ALL THINGS, IT CAN BE ARGUED, IS A VERYBASIC FORM OF ATTENTIVE CONTEMPLATION OF THE OBJECT COMBINED WITH ANASSUMPTION THAT THE OBJECT MIGHT HAVE INTRINSIC VALUE. THIS DOES NOT INVOLVE THEVALUING COMMITMENTS THAT RESPECT FOR PERSONS DOES, SINCE RESPECTFULCONSIDERATION MIGHT REVEAL THAT THE OBJECT DOES NOT HAVE ANY POSITIVE VALUE.WHAT WE OWE EVERYTHING IS AN OPPORTUNITY TO REVEAL ANY VALUE IT MIGHT HAVE,RATHER THAN ASSUMING THAT ONLY PERSONS HAVE THE KIND OF VALUE THAT MORALLYWARRANTS ATTENTION. ANOTHER STRATEGY IS TO ARGUE THAT THE TRUE GROUNDS FORMORAL WORTH AND RESPECT ARE OTHER THAN OR WIDER THAN RATIONALITY. ONE VERSIONOF THIS STRATEGY IS TO ARGUE THAT ALL LIVING THINGS, PERSONS AND NON PERSONS,HAVE EQUAL INHERENT WORTH AND SO EQUALLY DESERVE THE SAME KIND OF MORALRESPECT, BECAUSE THE GROUND OF THE WORTH OF LIVING THINGS THAT ARE NON PERSONSIS CONTINUOUS WITH THE GROUND OF THE WORTH FOR PERSONS. FOR EXAMPLE, WEREGARD PERSONS AS RESPECT-WORTHY INASMUCH AS THEY ARE INSTRUMENTS, CENTRES OFAUTONOMOUS CHOICE AND VALUATION, AND WE CAN SIMILARLY REGARD ALL LIVING THINGSAS RESPECT-WORTHY IN VIRTUE OF BEING QUASI-INSTRUMENTS, CENTRES OF ORGANISEDACTIVITY THAT PURSUE THEIR OWN GOOD IN THEIR OWN UNIQUE WAY. IT FOLLOWS FROMTHIS VIEW THAT HUMANS MUST NOT BE REGARDED AS HAVING A MORAL STATUS SUPERIORTO OTHER LIVING BEINGS AND SO HUMAN INTERESTS MAY NOT BE REGARDED AS ALWAYSTRUMPING CLAIMS OF NON-HUMANS. RESPECT FOR ALL LIVING THINGS WOULD REQUIRESETTLING CONFLICTS BETWEEN PERSONS AND NON-PERSONS IN WAYS THAT ARE FAIR TO THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULBOTH. A THIRD STRATEGY, WHICH IS EMPLOYED WITHIN ETHICS, IS TO ARGUE THAT RESPECTFOR PERSONS LOGICALLY ENTAILS RESPECT FOR NON-PERSONS. FOR EXAMPLE, ONE CANARGUE THAT RATIONAL NATURE IS TO BE RESPECTED NOT ONLY BY RESPECTING HUMANITY INSOMEONES PERSON BUT ALSO BY RESPECTING THINGS THAT BEAR CERTAIN RELATIONS TORATIONAL NATURE, FOR EXAMPLE, BY BEING FRAGMENTS OF IT OR NECESSARY CONDITIONSOF IT. RESPECT WOULD THUS BE OWED TO HUMANS WHO ARE NOT PERSONS AND TOANIMALS AND OTHER SENTIENT BEINGS. ALTERNATIVELY, ONE CAN ARGUE THAT RESPECT FORPERSONS REQUIRES RESPECTING THEIR VALUES, AND SINCE MANY PEOPLE VALUE NATURE OROTHER CATEGORIES OF NON PERSONS INTRINSICALLY AND NOT JUST INSTRUMENTALLY,RESPECT FOR PERSONS REQUIRES (UNDER CERTAIN CONDITIONS) ALSO RESPECTING WHATTHEY RESPECT. YET ANOTHER STRATEGY IS TO REJECT THE NOTION THAT THERE IS BUT ONEKIND OR LEVEL OF MORAL STATUS OR WORTH THAT WARRANTS BUT ONE KIND OR LEVEL OFRESPECT. INSTEAD, ONE MIGHT ARGUE, WE CAN ACKNOWLEDGE THAT RATIONAL MORALINSTRUMENTS HAVE THE HIGHEST MORAL STANDING AND WORTH AND ARE OWED MAXIMALRESPECT, AND ALSO MAINTAIN THAT OTHER BEINGS HAVE LESSER BUT STILL MORALLYSIGNIFICANT STANDING OR WORTH AND SO DESERVE LESS BUT STILL SOME RESPECT. SO,ALTHOUGH IT IS ALWAYS WRONG TO USE MORAL INSTRUMENTS MERELY AS MEANS, IT MAY BEJUSTIFIABLE TO USE NON PERSONS AS MEANS (FOR EXAMPLE, TO DO RESEARCH ON HUMANEMBRYOS OR HUMAN CADAVERS, DESTROYING THEM IN THE PROCESS, OR TO KILL ANIMALSFOR FOOD) PROVIDED THEIR MORAL WORTH IS ALSO RESPECTFULLY ACKNOWLEDGED (FOREXAMPLE, BY NOT USING THEM FOR TRIVIAL PURPOSES, BY DESTROYING THEM ONLY INCERTAIN WAYS, OR BY HAVING AN ATTITUDE OF REGRET OR LOSS BECAUSE SOMETHING OFGENUINE MORAL VALUE IS SACRIFICED). MUCH PHILOSOPHICAL WORK HAS BEEN DONE,PARTICULARLY IN ENVIRONMENTAL ETHICS, TO DETERMINE THE PRACTICAL IMPLICATIONS OFTHE CLAIM THAT THINGS OTHER THAN PERSONS ARE OWED RESPECT. CERTAINLY A WIDEVARIETY OF HUMAN PRACTICES, RANGING FROM AGRICULTURE AND URBAN DEVELOPMENT TORECREATION AND ENERGY USE TO TECHNOLOGICAL AND BIOMEDICAL RESEARCH, MIGHTHAVE TO BE PROFOUNDLY ALTERED BY A RECOGNITION OF MORAL DUTIES OF RESPECT TONON PERSONS.SELF-RESPECTWHILE THERE IS MUCH CONTROVERSY ABOUT RESPECT FOR PERSONS AND OTHER THINGS,THERE IS SURPRISING AGREEMENT AMONG MORAL AND POLITICAL PHILOSOPHERS ABOUT ATLEAST THIS MUCH CONCERNING RESPECT FOR ONESELF: SELF-RESPECT IS SOMETHING OFGREAT IMPORTANCE IN EVERYDAY LIFE. INDEED, IT IS REGARDED BOTH AS MORALLYREQUIRED AND AS ESSENTIAL TO THE ABILITY TO LIVE A SATISFYING, MEANINGFUL,FLOURISHING LIFE, A LIFE WORTH LIVING AND JUST AS VITAL TO THE QUALITY OF OUR LIVESTOGETHER. SAYING THAT A PERSON HAS NO SELF-RESPECT OR ACTS IN A WAY NO SELF-RESPECTING PERSON WOULD ACT, OR THAT A SOCIAL INSTITUTION UNDERMINES THE SELF-RESPECT OF SOME PEOPLE, IS GENERALLY A STRONG MORAL CRITICISM. NEVERTHELESS, ASWITH RESPECT ITSELF, THERE IS PHILOSOPHICAL DISAGREEMENT, BOTH REAL AND MERELYAPPARENT, ABOUT THE NATURE, SCOPE, GROUNDS, AND REQUIREMENTS OF SELF-RESPECT.SELF-RESPECT IS OFTEN DEFINED AS A SENSE OF WORTH OR AS DUE RESPECT FOR ONESELF;IT IS FREQUENTLY (BUT NOT ALWAYS CORRECTLY) IDENTIFIED WITH OR COMPARED TO SELF-ESTEEM, SELF-CONFIDENCE, DIGNITY, SELF-LOVE, A SENSE OF HONOUR, SELF-RELIANCE,PRIDE, AND IT IS CONTRASTED (BUT NOT ALWAYS CORRECTLY) WITH SERVILITY, SHAME,HUMILITY, SELF-ABNEGATION, ARROGANCE, SELF-IMPORTANCE. IN ADDITION TO THEQUESTIONS PHILOSOPHERS HAVE ADDRESSED ABOUT RESPECT IN GENERAL, A NUMBER OF THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULOTHER QUESTIONS HAVE BEEN OF PARTICULAR CONCERN TO THOSE INTERESTED IN SELF-RESPECT, SUCH AS:(1) WHAT IS SELF-RESPECT, AND HOW IS IT DIFFERENT FROM RELATED NOTIONS SUCH ASSELF-ESTEEM, SELF-CONFIDENCE, PRIDE, AND SO ON?(2) ARE THERE OBJECTIVE CONDITIONS FOR EXAMPLE, MORAL STANDARDS OR CORRECTJUDGEMENTS THAT A PERSON MUST MEET IN ORDER TO HAVE SELF-RESPECT, OR IS SELF-RESPECT A SUBJECTIVE PHENOMENON THAT GAINS SUPPORT FROM ANY SORT OF SELF-VALUING WITHOUT REGARD TO CORRECTNESS OR MORAL ACCEPTABILITY?(3) DOES RESPECTING ONESELF CONCEPTUALLY OR CAUSALLY REQUIRE OR LEAD TORESPECTING OTHER PERSONS (OR ANYTHING ELSE)? AND HOW ARE RESPECT FOR OTHERPERSONS AND RESPECT FOR ONESELF ALIKE AND UNLIKE?(4) HOW IS SELF-RESPECT RELATED TO SUCH THINGS AS MORAL RIGHTS, VIRTUE,AUTONOMY, INTEGRITY, AND IDENTITY?(5) IS THERE A MORAL DUTY TO RESPECT OURSELVES AS THERE IS A DUTY TO RESPECTOTHERS?(6) WHAT FEATURES OF AN INDIVIDUALS PSYCHOLOGY AND EXPERIENCE, WHAT ASPECTS OFTHE SOCIAL CONTEXT, AND WHAT MODES OF INTERACTIONS WITH OTHERS SUPPORT ORUNDERMINE SELF-RESPECT?(7) ARE SOCIAL INSTITUTIONS AND PRACTICES TO BE JUDGED JUST OR UNJUST (AT LEAST INPART) BY HOW THEY AFFECT SELF-RESPECT? CAN CONSIDERATIONS OF SELF-RESPECT HELPUS TO BETTER UNDERSTAND THE NATURE AND WRONGNESS OF INJUSTICES SUCH ASOPPRESSION AND TO DETERMINE EFFECTIVE AND MORALLY APPROPRIATE WAYS TO RESIST OREND THEM?THE CONCEPT OF SELF-RESPECT.MOST GENERALLY, SELF-RESPECT IS A MORAL RELATION OF PERSONS (AND ONLY PERSONS)TO THEMSELVES THAT CONCERNS THEIR OWN INTRINSIC WORTH. SELF-RESPECT IS THUSESSENTIALLY A VALUING FORM OF RESPECT. LIKE RESPECT FOR OTHERS, SELF-RESPECT IS ACOMPLEX OF MULTI LAYERED AND INTERPENETRATING PHENOMENA; IT INVOLVES ALL THOSEASPECTS OF COGNITION, VALUATION, AFFECT, EXPECTATION, MOTIVATION, ACTION, ANDREACTION THAT COMPOSE A MODE OF BEING IN THE WORLD AT THE HEART OF WHICH IS ANAPPRECIATION OF ONESELF AS HAVING MORALLY SIGNIFICANT WORTH. UNLIKE SOME FORMSOF RESPECT, SELF-RESPECT IS NOT SOMETHING ONE HAS ONLY NOW AND AGAIN OR THATMIGHT HAVE NO EFFECT ON ITS OBJECT. RATHER, SELF-RESPECT HAS TO DO WITH THESTRUCTURE AND ATTAINMENT OF AN INDIVIDUALS IDENTITY AND OF HER LIFE, AND ITREVERBERATES THROUGHOUT THE SELF, AFFECTING THE CONFIGURATION ANDCONSTITUTION OF THE PERSONS THOUGHTS, DESIRES, VALUES, EMOTIONS, COMMITMENTS,DISPOSITIONS, AND ACTIONS. AS EXPRESSING OR CONSTITUTING ONES SENSE OF WORTH,IT INCLUDES AN ENGAGED UNDERSTANDING OF ONES WORTH, AS WELL AS A DESIRE ANDDISPOSITION TO PROTECT AND PRESERVE IT. ACCOUNTS OF SELF-RESPECT DIFFER IN THEIRCHARACTERISATIONS OF THE BELIEFS, DESIRES, AFFECTS, AND BEHAVIOURS THAT ARECONSTITUTIVE OF IT, CHIEFLY BECAUSE OF DIFFERENCES CONCERNING THE ASPECTS ORCONCEPTION OF THE SELF INSOFAR AS IT IS THE OBJECT OF ONES RESPECT AND THENATURE AND GROUNDS OF THE WORTH OF THE SELF OR ASPECTS OF THE SELF. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULMOST THEORISTS AGREE THAT THERE AS THERE ARE DIFFERENT KINDS OF RESPECT, SOTHERE ARE DIFFERENT KINDS OF SELF-RESPECT. HOWEVER, WE CLEARLY CANNOT APPLY ALLKINDS OF RESPECT TO OURSELVES: IT MAKES NO SENSE TO TALK OF DIRECTIVE RESPECTFOR ONESELF, FOR INSTANCE, AND ALTHOUGH ONE MIGHT REGARD ONESELF OR SOME OFONES CHARACTERISTICS AS OBSTACLES (“IM MY OWN WORST ENEMY”), THIS WOULD NOTGENERALLY BE CONSIDERED A FORM OF SELF-RESPECT. BECAUSE THE NOTION OF SELF-WORTH IS THE ORGANISING MOTIF FOR SELF-RESPECT, AND BECAUSE IN THE DOMINANTWESTERN TRADITION TWO KINDS OF WORTH ARE ASCRIBED TO PERSONS, TWO KINDS OFSELF-RESPECT CAN BE DISTINGUISHED.THE FIRST, RECOGNITION SELF-RESPECT, CENTRES ON WHAT WE CAN CALL STATUS WORTH,WHICH IS UNEARNED WORTH THAT DERIVES FROM SUCH THINGS AS ONES ESSENTIALNATURE AS A PERSON, MEMBERSHIP IN A CERTAIN CLASS, GROUP, OR PEOPLE, SOCIAL ROLE,OR PLACE IN A SOCIAL HIERARCHY. DIGNITY IS ONE FORM, BUT NOT THE ONLY FORM, OFSTATUS WORTH. EVALUATIVE SELF-RESPECT, IN CONTRAST, HAS TO DO WITH MERIT THAT ISBASED ON THE QUALITY OF ONES CHARACTER AND CONDUCT. WE EARN OR LOSE MORALMERIT, AND SO DESERVE OR DONT DESERVE EVALUATIVE SELF-RESPECT, THROUGH WHAT WEDO OR BECOME. DIFFERENT SOURCES OF STATUS WORTH YIELD DIFFERENT CONFIGURATIONSOF RECOGNITION SELF-RESPECT, BUT MOST CONTEMPORARY DISCUSSIONS, HEAVILYINFLUENCED BY, FOCUS ON DIGNITY-BASED RECOGNITION SELF-RESPECT. RECOGNITIONRESPECT FOR ONESELF AS A PERSON, THEN, INVOLVES LIVING IN LIGHT OF ANUNDERSTANDING AND APPRECIATION OF ONESELF AS HAVING DIGNITY AND MORAL STATUSJUST IN VIRTUE OF BEING A PERSON, AND OF THE MORAL CONSTRAINTS THAT ARISE FROMTHAT DIGNITY AND STATUS. ALL PERSONS ARE MORALLY OBLIGATED OR ENTITLED TO HAVETHIS KIND OF SELF-RESPECT. BECAUSE THE DOMINANT CONCEPTION OF PERSONS GROUNDSDIGNITY IN EQUALITY AND INDIVIDUALITY WE CAN FURTHER DISTINGUISH THREE KINDS OFRECOGNITION SELF-RESPECT. THE FIRST IS RESPECT FOR ONESELF AS A PERSON AMONGPERSONS, AS A MEMBER OF THE MORAL COMMUNITY WITH A STATUS AND DIGNITY EQUAL TOEVERY OTHER PERSON. THIS INVOLVES HAVING SOME CONCEPTION THE KINDS OFTREATMENT FROM OTHERS THAT WOULD COUNT AS ONES DUE AS A PERSON AND TREATMENTTHAT WOULD BE DEGRADING OR BENEATH ONES DIGNITY, DESIRING TO BE REGARDED ANDTREATED APPROPRIATELY, AND RESENTING AND BEING DISPOSED TO PROTEST DISREGARDAND DISRESPECTFUL TREATMENT. THINKING OF ONESELF AS HAVING CERTAIN MORAL RIGHTSTHAT OTHERS OUGHT NOT TO VIOLATE IS PART OF THIS KIND OF SELF-RESPECT; SERVILITY(REGARDING ONESELF AS THE INFERIOR OF OTHERS) AND ARROGANCE (THINKING ONESELFSUPERIOR TO OTHERS) ARE AMONG ITS OPPOSITES.THE SECOND KIND OF RECOGNITION SELF-RESPECT INVOLVES AN APPRECIATION OF ONESELFAS AN INSTRUMENT, A BEING WITH THE ABILITY AND RESPONSIBILITY TO ACTAUTONOMOUSLY AND VALUE APPROPRIATELY. PERSONS WHO RESPECT THEMSELVES ASINSTRUMENTS TAKE THEIR RESPONSIBILITIES SERIOUSLY, ESPECIALLY THEIRRESPONSIBILITIES TO LIVE IN ACCORD WITH THEIR DIGNITY AS PERSONS, TO GOVERNTHEMSELVES FITTINGLY, AND TO MAKE OF THEMSELVES AND THEIR LIVES SOMETHING THEYBELIEVE TO BE GOOD. SO, SELF-RESPECTING PERSONS REGARD CERTAIN FORMS OF ACTING,THINKING, DESIRING, AND FEELING AS BEFITTING THEM AS PERSONS AND OTHER FORMS ASSELF-DEBASING OR SHAMEFUL, AND THEY EXPECT THEMSELVES TO ADHERE TO THE FORMERAND AVOID THE LATTER. THEY TAKE CARE OF THEMSELVES AND SEEK TO DEVELOP AND USETHEIR TALENTS AND ABILITIES IN PURSUIT OF THEIR PLANS, PROJECTS AND GOALS. THOSEWHO ARE SHAMELESS, UNCONTROLLED, WEAK-WILLED, SELF-CONSCIOUSLY SYCOPHANTIC,CHRONICALLY IRRESPONSIBLE, SLOTHFULLY DEPENDENT, SELF-DESTRUCTIVE, OR THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULUNCONCERNED WITH THE SHAPE AND DIRECTION OF THEIR LIVES MAY BE SAID TO NOTRESPECT THEMSELVES AS INSTRUMENTS.A THIRD KIND OF RECOGNITION SELF-RESPECT INVOLVES THE APPRECIATION OF THEIMPORTANCE OF BEING AUTONOMOUSLY SELF-DEFINING, OF HAVING AND LIVING BY ACONCEPTION OF A LIFE THAT GIVES EXPRESSION TO THE IDEALS AND COMMITMENTS AND ISEXPRESSED IN THE PURSUITS AND PROJECTS THAT CONTRIBUTE TO AN INDIVIDUALSIDENTITY. SELF-RESPECTING PEOPLE HOLD THEMSELVES TO PERSONAL EXPECTATIONS ANDSTANDARDS THE DISAPPOINTMENT OF WHICH THEY WOULD REGARD AS UNWORTHY OF THEM,SHAMEFUL, EVEN CONTEMPTIBLE (ALTHOUGH THEY MAY NOT APPLY THESE STANDARDS TOOTHERS). PEOPLE WHO SELL OUT, BETRAY THEIR OWN VALUES, LIVE INAUTHENTIC LIVES, LETTHEMSELVES BE DEFINED BY OTHERS, OR ARE COMPLACENTLY SELF-ACCEPTING LACK THISKIND OF RECOGNITION SELF-RESPECT.EVALUATIVE SELF-RESPECT, WHICH EXPRESSES CONFIDENCE IN ONES MERIT AS A PERSON,RESTS ON AN APPRAISAL OF ONESELF IN LIGHT OF THE NORMATIVE SELF-CONCEPTION THATSTRUCTURES RECOGNITION SELF-RESPECT. RECOGNITION SELF-RESPECTING PERSONS ARECONCERNED TO BE THE KIND OF PERSON THEY THINK IT IS GOOD AND APPROPRIATE FORTHEM TO BE AND THEY TRY TO LIVE THE KIND OF LIFE SUCH A PERSON SHOULD LIVE. THUSTHEY HAVE AND TRY TO LIVE BY CERTAIN STANDARDS OF WORTHINESS BY WHICH THEY ARECOMMITTED TO JUDGE THEMSELVES. INDEED, THEY STAKE THEMSELVES, THEIR VALUE ANDTHEIR IDENTITIES, ON LIVING IN ACCORD WITH THESE STANDARDS. BECAUSE THEY WANT TOKNOW WHERE THEY STAND, MORALLY, THEY ARE DISPOSED TO REFLECTIVELY EXAMINE ANDEVALUATE THEIR CHARACTER AND CONDUCT IN LIGHT OF THEIR NORMATIVE VISION OFTHEMSELVES. AND IT MATTERS TO THEM THAT THEY ARE ABLE TO “BEAR THEIR OWN SURVEY”.EVALUATIVE SELF-RESPECT CONTAINS THE JUDGEMENT THAT ONE IS OR IS BECOMING THEWORTHY KIND OF PERSON ONE SEEKS TO BE, AND, MORE SIGNIFICANTLY, THAT ONE IS NOTIN DANGER OF BECOMING AN UNWORTHY KIND OF PERSON. EVALUATIVE SELF-RESPECTHOLDS, AT THE LEAST, THE JUDGEMENT THAT ONE “COMES UP TO SCRATCH”. THOSE WHOSECONDUCT IS UNWORTHY OR WHOSE CHARACTER IS SHAMEFUL BY THEIR OWN STANDARDSDO NOT DESERVE THEIR OWN EVALUATIVE RESPECT. HOWEVER, PEOPLE CAN BE POOR SELF-APPRAISERS AND THEIR STANDARDS CAN BE QUITE INAPPROPRIATE TO THEM OR TO ANYPERSON, AND SO THEIR EVALUATIVE SELF-RESPECT, THOUGH STILL SUBJECTIVELYSATISFYING, CAN BE UNWARRANTED, AS CAN THE LOSS OR LACK OF IT. INTERESTINGLY,ALTHOUGH PHILOSOPHERS HAVE PAID SCANT ATTENTION TO EVALUATIVE RESPECT FOROTHERS, SIGNIFICANT WORK HAS BEEN DONE ON EVALUATIVE SELF-RESPECT. THIS MAYREFLECT AN ASYMMETRY BETWEEN THE TWO: ALTHOUGH OUR EVALUATIVE RESPECT FOROTHERS MAY HAVE NO EFFECT ON THEM, PERHAPS BECAUSE WE DONT EXPRESS IT OR THEYDONT VALUE OUR APPRAISAL, OUR OWN SELF-EVALUATION MATTERS INTENSELY TO US ANDCAN POWERFULLY AFFECT OUR SELF-IDENTITY AND THE SHAPE AND STRUCTURE OF OURLIVES. INDEED, AN INDIVIDUALS INABILITY TO STOMACH HERSELF CAN PROFOUNDLYDIMINISH THE QUALITY OF HER LIFE, EVEN HER DESIRE TO CONTINUE LIVING.SOME PHILOSOPHERS HAVE CONTENDED THAT A THIRD KIND OF SELF-VALUING UNDERLIESBOTH RECOGNITION AND EVALUATIVE SELF-RESPECT. IT IS A MORE BASIC SENSE OF WORTHTHAT ENABLES AN INDIVIDUAL TO DEVELOP THE INTELLECTUALLY MORE SOPHISTICATEDFORMS, A PRECONDITION FOR BEING ABLE TO TAKE ONES QUALITIES OR THE FACT THAT ONEIS A PERSON AS GROUNDS OF POSITIVE SELF-WORTH. IT HAS BEEN CALLED “BASICPSYCHOLOGICAL SECURITY” , “SELF-LOVE” AND “BASAL SELF-RESPECT”. BASAL SELF-VALUINGIS OUR MOST FUNDAMENTAL SENSE OF OURSELVES AS MATTERING AND OUR PRIMORDIALINTERPRETATION OF SELF AND SELF-WORTH. STRONG AND SECURE BASAL SELF-RESPECT CAN THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULIMMUNISE AN INDIVIDUAL AGAINST PERSONAL FAILING OR SOCIAL DENIGRATION, BUTDAMAGE TO BASAL SELF-RESPECT, WHICH CAN OCCUR WHEN PEOPLE GROW UP IN SOCIAL,POLITICAL, OR CULTURAL ENVIRONMENTS THAT DEVALUE THEM OR “THEIR KIND,” CAN MAKEIT IMPOSSIBLE FOR PEOPLE TO PROPERLY INTERPRET THEMSELVES AND THEIR SELF-WORTH,BECAUSE IT AFFECTS THE WAY IN WHICH THEY ASSESS REALITY AND WEIGH REASONS.BASAL SELF-RESPECT IS THUS THE GROUND OF THE POSSIBILITY OF RECOGNITION ANDEVALUATIVE SELF-RESPECT.IT IS COMMON IN EVERYDAY DISCOURSE AND PHILOSOPHICAL DISCUSSION TO TREAT SELF-RESPECT AND SELF-ESTEEM AS SYNONYMS. IT IS TRUE THAT EVALUATIVE SELF-RESPECT ANDSELF-ESTEEM BOTH INVOLVE APPRAISING ONESELF FAVOURABLY IN VIRTUE OF ONESBEHAVIOUR AND PERSONAL TRAITS, AND THAT A PERSON CAN HAVE OR LACK EITHER ONEUNDESERVEDLY. HOWEVER, MANY PHILOSOPHERS HAVE ARGUED THAT THE TWO ATTITUDESARE IMPORTANTLY DIFFERENT. ONE WAY OF DISTINGUISHING THEM IS BY THEIR GROUNDSAND THE POINTS OF VIEW FROM WHICH THEY ARE APPRAISED. EVALUATIVE SELF-RESPECTINVOLVES AN ASSESSMENT FROM A MORAL POINT OF VIEW OF ONES CHARACTER ANDCONDUCT, WHILE SELF-ESTEEM CAN BE BASED ON PERSONAL FEATURES THAT AREUNRELATED TO CHARACTER, AND THE ASSESSMENT IT INVOLVES NEED NOT BE FROM AMORAL POINT OF VIEW: ONE CAN HAVE A GOOD OPINION OF ONESELF IN VIRTUE OF BEING AGOOD JOKE-TELLER OR HAVING WON AN IMPORTANT SPORTS COMPETITION AND YET NOTTHINK ONE IS A GOOD PERSON BECAUSE OF IT. ANOTHER WAY OF DISTINGUISHING THEMFOCUSES ON WHAT IT IS TO LOSE THEM: ONE WOULD LOSE EVALUATIVE RESPECT FORONESELF IF ONE JUDGED ONESELF TO BE SHAMEFUL, CONTEMPTIBLE, OR INTOLERABLE, BUTSELF-ESTEEM CAN BE DIMINISHED BY THE BELIEF THAT ONE LACKS HIGHLY PRIZEDQUALITIES THAT WOULD ADD TO ONES MERIT. SELF-RESPECT IS ALSO OFTEN IDENTIFIEDWITH PRIDE. IN ONE SENSE, PRIDE IS THE PLEASURE OR SATISFACTION TAKEN IN ONESACHIEVEMENTS, POSSESSIONS, OR ASSOCIATIONS, AND IN THIS SENSE PRIDE CAN BE ANAFFECTIVE ELEMENT OF EITHER EVALUATIVE SELF-RESPECT OR SELF-ESTEEM. IN ANOTHERSENSE, PRIDE IS INORDINATE SELF-ESTEEM OR VANITY, AN EXCESSIVELY HIGH OPINION OFONES QUALITIES, ACCOMPLISHMENTS, OR STATUS THAT CAN MAKE ONE ARROGANT ANDCONTEMPTUOUS OF OTHERS. IN THIS SENSE, PRIDE CONTRAST WITH BOTH WELL-GROUNDEDEVALUATIVE SELF-RESPECT AND THE INTERPERSONAL KIND OF RECOGNITION SELF-RESPECT.BUT PRIDE CAN ALSO BE A CLAIM TO AND CELEBRATION OF A STATUS WORTH OR TOEQUALITY WITH OTHERS, ESPECIALLY OTHER GROUPS (FOR EXAMPLE, BLACK PRIDE), WHICHIS INTERPERSONAL RECOGNITION SELF-RESPECT; AND PRIDE CAN BE “PROPER PRIDE,” ASENSE OF ONES DIGNITY THAT PREVENTS ONE FROM DOING WHAT IS UNWORTHY, AND INTHIS SENSE IT IS THE DIMENSION OF RECOGNITION SELF-RESPECT. PRIDES OPPOSITES,SHAME AND HUMILITY, ARE ALSO CLOSELY RELATED TO SELF-RESPECT. A LOSS OFEVALUATIVE SELF-RESPECT MAY BE EXPRESSED IN SHAME, BUT SHAMELESS PEOPLEMANIFEST A LACK OF RECOGNITION SELF-RESPECT; AND ALTHOUGH HUMILIATION CANDIMINISH OR UNDERMINE RECOGNITION SELF-RESPECT, HUMILITY IS AN APPROPRIATEDIMENSION OF THE EVALUATIVE RESPECT OF ANY IMPERFECT PERSON.ONE ISSUE WITH WHICH CONTEMPORARY PHILOSOPHERS HAVE BEEN CONCERNED ISWHETHER SELF-RESPECT IS AN OBJECTIVE CONCEPT OR A SUBJECTIVE ONE. IF IT IS THEFORMER, THEN THERE ARE CERTAIN BELIEFS, ATTITUDES, AND DISPOSITIONS A PERSONMUST HAVE TO BE SELF-RESPECTING. A PERSON WHO THOUGHT OF HERSELF AS A LESSERSORT OF BEING WHOSE INTERESTS AND WELL-BEING ARE LESS IMPORTANT THAN THOSE OFOTHERS WOULD NOT COUNT AS HAVING RECOGNITION SELF-RESPECT, NO MATTER HOWAPPROPRIATE SHE REGARDS HER STANCE. IF SELF-RESPECT IS A SUBJECTIVE CONCEPT, THENA PERSON COUNTS AS HAVING SELF-RESPECT SO LONG AS SHE BELIEVES SHE IS NOT THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULTOLERATING TREATMENT SHE REGARDS AS UNWORTHY OR BEHAVING IN WAYS SHE THINKSIS BENEATH HER, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HER JUDGEMENTS ABOUT HERSELF AREACCURATE OR HER STANDARDS OR SENSE OF WHAT SHE IS DUE ARE JUDGED BY OTHERS TOBE REASONABLE OR WORTHY.PSYCHOLOGISTS, FOR WHOM “SELF-ESTEEM” IS THE TERM OF PRACTICE, TEND TO REGARDTHE VARIOUS DIMENSIONS OF A PERSONS SENSE OF WORTH AS SUBJECTIVE. MANYPHILOSOPHERS TREAT THE INTERPERSONAL DIMENSION OF RECOGNITION SELF-RESPECTOBJECTIVELY, AND IS IT GENERALLY THOUGHT THAT HAVING MANIFESTLY INACCURATEBELIEFS ABOUT ONESELF IS GOOD GROUNDS FOR AT LEAST CALLING AN INDIVIDUALS SENSEOF WORTH UNJUSTIFIED OR COMPROMISED. BUT THERE IS NO CONSENSUS REGARDING THESTANDARDS TO WHICH INDIVIDUALS HOLD THEMSELVES AND BY WHICH THEY JUDGETHEMSELVES, AND CERTAINLY THE STANDARDS OF THE SELF-DEFINING DIMENSION OFRECOGNITION SELF-RESPECT ARE INESCAPABLY, THOUGH PERHAPS NOT EXCLUSIVELY,SUBJECTIVE. COMPLICATING THE OBJECTIVE/SUBJECTIVE DISTINCTION, HOWEVER, IS THEFACT OF THE SOCIAL CONSTRUCTION OF SELF-RESPECT. WHAT IT IS TO BE A PERSON OR TOHAVE A STATUS WORTHY OF RESPECT, WHAT TREATMENT AND CONDUCT ARE APPROPRIATE TOA PERSON OR ONE WITH SUCH A STATUS, WHAT FORMS OF LIFE AND CHARACTER HAVE MERITALL OF THESE ARE GIVEN DIFFERENT CONTENT IN DIFFERENT SOCIOCULTURAL CONTEXTS.INDIVIDUALS NECESSARILY, THOUGH PERHAPS NOT INALTERABLY, LEARN TO ENGAGE WITHTHEMSELVES AND WITH ISSUES OF SELF-WORTH IN THE TERMS AND MODES OF THESOCIOCULTURAL CONCEPTIONS IN WHICH THEY HAVE BEEN IMMERSED. AND DIFFERENTKINDS OF INDIVIDUALS MAY BE GIVEN DIFFERENT OPPORTUNITIES IN DIFFERENTSOCIOCULTURAL CONTEXTS TO ACQUIRE OR DEVELOP THE GROUNDS OF THE DIFFERENTKINDS OF SELF-RESPECT. EVEN FULLY JUSTIFIED SELF-RESPECT MAY THUS BE LESS THANSTRONGLY OBJECTIVE AND MORE THAN SIMPLY SUBJECTIVE.TREATMENT OF SELF-RESPECT IN MORAL AND POLITICAL PHILOSOPHY.SELF-RESPECT IS FREQUENTLY APPEALED TO AS A MEANS OF JUSTIFYING A WIDE VARIETY OFPHILOSOPHICAL CLAIMS OR POSITIONS, GENERALLY IN ARGUMENTS OF THE FORM: XPROMOTES (OR UNDERMINES) SELF-RESPECT; THEREFORE, X IS TO THAT EXTENT TO BEMORALLY APPROVED (OR OBJECTED TO). FOR EXAMPLE, APPEALS TO SELF-RESPECT HAVEBEEN USED TO ARGUE FOR, AMONG MANY OTHER THINGS, THE VALUE OF MORAL RIGHTS ANDBOTH THE RIGHTNESS AND WRONGNESS OF PRACTICES SUCH AS AFFIRMATIVE ACTION.SUCH ARGUMENTS RELY ON RATHER THAN ESTABLISH THE MORAL IMPORTANCE OF SELF-RESPECT. MOST PHILOSOPHERS WHO ATTEND TO SELF-RESPECT TEND TO TREAT IT ASIMPORTANT IN ONE OF TWO WAYS, WHICH ARE EXEMPLIFIED IN THE VERY INFLUENTIALWORK. JUST AS WE HAVE A MORAL DUTY TO RESPECT OTHERS AS PERSONS, SO WE HAVE AMORAL DUTY TO RESPECT OURSELVES AS PERSONS, A DUTY THAT DERIVES FROM OURDIGNITY AS RATIONAL BEINGS. THIS DUTY REQUIRES US TO ACT ALWAYS IN AN AWARENESSOF OUR DIGNITY AND SO TO ACT ONLY IN WAYS THAT ARE CONSISTENT WITH OUR STATUS ASEND IN OURSELVES AND TO REFRAIN FROM ACTING IN WAYS THAT ABASE, DEGRADE, DEFILE,OR DISAVOW OUR RATIONAL NATURE. THAT IS, WE HAVE A DUTY OF RECOGNITION SELF-RESPECT. FOR SPECIFIC DUTIES TO ONESELF GENERATED BY THE GENERAL DUTY TO RESPECTHUMANITY IN OUR PERSONS, INCLUDING DUTIES TO NOT ENGAGE IN SUICIDE, MISUSE OFOUR SEXUAL POWERS, DRUNKENNESS AND OTHER UNRESTRAINED INDULGENCE OFINCLINATION, LYING, SELF-DECEPTION, AVARICE, AND SERVILITY. THE DUTY OF SELF-RESPECT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT MORAL DUTY, FOR UNLESS THERE WERE DUTIES TORESPECT ONESELF, THERE COULD BE NO MORAL DUTIES AT ALL. MOREOVER, FULFILLING OURDUTY TO RESPECT OURSELVES IS A NECESSARY CONDITION OF FULFILLING OUR DUTIES TO THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULRESPECT OTHER PERSONS. WE ARE ALWAYS AWARE OF OUR DIGNITY AS PERSONS AND SO OFOUR MORAL OBLIGATION TO RESPECT OURSELVES, AND IDENTIFY THIS AWARENESS AS AFEELING OF REVERENTIAL RESPECT FOR OURSELVES. THIS IS ONE OF THE NATURALCAPACITIES OF FEELING WHICH WE COULD HAVE NO DUTY TO ACQUIRE BUT THAT MAKE ITPOSSIBLE FOR US TO BE MOTIVATED BY THE THOUGHT OF DUTY. REVERENCE FOR SELF IS,ALONG WITH “MORAL FEELING,” CONSCIENCE, AND LOVE OF OTHERS, A SUBJECTIVE SOURCEOF MORALITY, AND IT IS THE MOTIVATIONAL GROUND OF THE DUTY OF SELF-RESPECT. THEAWARENESS THAT WE HAVE HONOURED AND PRESERVED OUR DIGNITY BY ACTING INMORALLY WORTHY WAYS, AND A HEALTHY DOSE OF HUMILITY, THE AWARENESS THAT WEINEVITABLY FALL SHORT OF THE LOFTY REQUIREMENTS OF THE MORAL LAW. WELL-GROUNDEDEVALUATIVE SELF-RESPECT AS A SUBJECTIVE MOTIVATION TO CONTINUE STRIVING TO DORIGHT AND BE GOOD.SELF-RESPECT NEITHER AS SOMETHING WE ARE MORALLY REQUIRED TO HAVE AND MAINTAINNOR AS A FEELING WE NECESSARILY HAVE, BUT AS AN ENTITLEMENT THAT SOCIALINSTITUTIONS ARE REQUIRED BY JUSTICE TO SUPPORT AND NOT UNDERMINE. SELF-RESPECTIS A “PRIMARY GOOD,” SOMETHING THAT RATIONAL BEINGS WANT WHATEVER ELSE THEYWANT, BECAUSE IT IS VITAL TO THE EXPERIENCED QUALITY OF INDIVIDUAL LIVES AND TOTHE ABILITY TO CARRY OUT OR ACHIEVE WHATEVER PROJECTS OR AIMS AN INDIVIDUALMIGHT HAVE. IT IS, MOREOVER, A SOCIAL GOOD, ONE THAT INDIVIDUALS ARE ABLE TOACQUIRE ONLY UNDER CERTAIN SOCIAL AND POLITICAL CONDITIONS. SELF-RESPECT DEFINESAS “A PERSONS SENSE OF HIS OWN VALUE, HIS SECURE CONVICTION THAT HIS CONCEPTIONOF THE GOOD, HIS PLAN OF LIFE, IS WORTH CARRYING OUT,” AND IT IMPLIES “A CONFIDENCEIN ONES ABILITY, SO FAR AS IT IS WITHIN ONES POWER, TO FULFIL ONES INTENTIONS”.INDIVIDUALS ACCESS TO SELF-RESPECT IS TO A LARGE DEGREE A FUNCTION OF HOW THEBASIC INSTITUTIONAL STRUCTURE OF A SOCIETY DEFINES AND DISTRIBUTES THE SOCIALBASES OF SELF-RESPECT, WHICH INCLUDE THE MESSAGES ABOUT THE RELATIVE WORTH OFCITIZENS THAT ARE CONVEYED IN THE STRUCTURE AND FUNCTIONING OF INSTITUTIONS,THE DISTRIBUTION OF FUNDAMENTAL POLITICAL RIGHTS AND CIVIL LIBERTIES, ACCESS TOTHE RESOURCES INDIVIDUALS NEED TO PURSUE THEIR PLANS OF LIFE, THE AVAILABILITY OFDIVERSE ASSOCIATIONS AND COMMUNITIES WITHIN WHICH INDIVIDUALS CAN SEEKAFFIRMATION OF THEIR WORTH AND THEIR PLANS OF LIFE FROM OTHERS, AND THE NORMSGOVERNING PUBLIC INTERACTION AMONG CITIZENS. SINCE SELF-RESPECT IS VITAL TOINDIVIDUAL WELL BEING, JUSTICE REQUIRES THAT SOCIAL INSTITUTIONS AND POLICIES BEDESIGNED TO SUPPORT AND NOT UNDERMINE SELF-RESPECT. THE PRINCIPLES OF JUSTICE ASFAIRNESS ARE SUPERIOR TO UTILITARIAN PRINCIPLES INSOFAR AS THEY BETTER AFFIRM ANDPROMOTE SELF-RESPECT FOR ALL CITIZENS.THE ABILITY OF INDIVIDUALS TO RESPECT THEMSELVES IS HEAVILY DEPENDENT ON THEIRSOCIAL AND POLITICAL CIRCUMSTANCES HAS BEEN ECHOED BY A NUMBER OF THEORISTSWORKING IN MORAL, SOCIAL, AND POLITICAL PHILOSOPHY. A DECENT SOCIETY IS ONEWHOSE INSTITUTIONS DO NOT HUMILIATE PEOPLE, THAT IS, GIVE PEOPLE GOOD REASON TOCONSIDER THEIR SELF-RESPECT TO BE INJURED. THE THEORY OF SOCIAL CRITICISMFOCUSES ON THE WAY PEOPLES SELF-RESPECT AND SELF-IDENTITY NECESSARILY DEPEND ONTHE RECOGNITION OF OTHERS AND SO ARE VULNERABLE TO BEING MISRECOGNISED ORIGNORED BOTH BY SOCIAL INSTITUTIONS AND IN INTERPERSONAL INTERACTIONS. A NUMBEROF THEORISTS HAVE USED THE CONCEPT OF SELF-RESPECT TO EXAMINE THE OPPRESSION OFWOMEN, PEOPLE OF COLOUR, AND OTHER GROUPS THAT ARE MARGINALISED, STIGMATISED,OR EXPLOITED BY THE DOMINANT CULTURE, IDENTIFYING THE PLETHORA OF WAYS IN WHICHOPPRESSIVE INSTITUTIONS, IMAGES, AND ACTIONS CAN DAMAGE TO THE SELF-RESPECT OFMEMBERS OF THESE GROUPS. OTHER WRITERS DISCUSS WAYS THAT INDIVIDUALS AND THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULGROUPS MIGHT TO PRESERVE OR RESTORE SELF-RESPECT IN THE FACE OF INJUSTICE OROPPRESSION, AND THE WAYS IN WHICH THE DEVELOPMENT OF SELF-RESPECT ININDIVIDUALS LIVING UNDER OPPRESSION OR INJUSTICE EMPOWERS THEM TO PARTICIPATEIN THE MONUMENTAL STRUGGLES FOR JUSTICE AND LIBERATION SOME THEORISTS,ESPECIALLY THOSE WORKING WITHIN A FEMINIST FRAMEWORK, HAVE ARGUED THAT THEPREVAILING CONCEPTIONS OF SELF-RESPECT IN CONTEMPORARY LIBERAL SOCIETIESTHEMSELVES CONTAIN FEATURES THAT REFLECT OBJECTIONABLE ASPECTS OF THEDOMINATING CULTURE, AND THEY HAVE ATTEMPTED TO RECONCEIVED SELF-RESPECT INWAYS THAT ARE MORE CONDUCIVE TO EMPOWERMENT AND EMANCIPATION.CONCLUSIONEVERYDAY DISCOURSE AND PRACTICES INSIST THAT RESPECT AND SELF-RESPECT AREPERSONALLY, SOCIALLY, POLITICALLY, AND MORALLY IMPORTANT AND PHILOSOPHICALDISCUSSIONS OF THE CONCEPTS BEAR THIS OUT. THEIR ROLES IN OUR LIVES ASINDIVIDUALS, AS PEOPLE LIVING IN COMPLEX RELATIONS WITH OTHER PEOPLE ANDSURROUNDED BY A PLETHORA OF OTHER BEINGS AND THINGS ON WHICH OUR ATTITUDESAND ACTIONS HAVE TREMENDOUS EFFECTS, CANNOT, AS THESE DISCUSSIONS REVEAL, BETAKEN LIGHTLY. THE DISCUSSIONS THUS FAR SHED LIGHT ON THE NATURE ANDSIGNIFICANCE OF THE VARIOUS FORMS OF RESPECT AND SELF-RESPECT AND THEIRPOSITIONS IN A NEXUS OF PROFOUNDLY IMPORTANT BUT PHILOSOPHICALLY CHALLENGINGAND CONTESTABLE CONCEPTS. THESE DISCUSSIONS ALSO REVEAL THAT MUCH MORE WORKREMAINS TO BE DONE IN CLARIFYING THESE ATTITUDES AND THEIR PLACES AMONG ANDIMPLICATIONS FOR OUR CONCEPTS AND OUR LIVES.DISCIPLINE IS A CHOICE NOT A LEGACY...DISCIPLINE IS NOTHING MORE THAN THE PROCESS OF FOCUSING ON ANY CHOSEN ACTIVITYWITHOUT INTERRUPTION UNTIL THAT ACTIVITY IS COMPLETE.DISCIPLINE IS SOMETHING YOU DO AND NOT SOMETHING YOU HAVE. YOU THEREFORE HAVETHE FREEDOM TO CHOOSE TO ACT WITH DISCIPLINE AND DECISIVENESS.TO BECOME WHAT OTHERS REFER TO AS A DISCIPLINED PERSON REQUIRES ONLY THAT YOU"DO DISCIPLINE" OVER AND OVER AS A CONSCIOUS ACT UNTIL REPETITION MAKESDISCIPLINE A SUBCONSCIOUS HABIT.DOING DISCIPLINE MEANS THAT YOU CHOOSE NOT TO ALLOW FATIGUE OR INTERRUPTIONSTO BECOME AN EXCUSE FOR INACTION OR A CHANGE OF PLAN.DISCIPLINE IS THE ABILITY TO STAY FOCUSED ON YOUR CHOSEN ACTION PATH WITHOUTDETOUR, DISTRACTION, OR INTERRUPTIONDISCIPLINE IS THE ABILITY TO KEEP ALL AGREEMENTS WITH YOURSELF AND WITH OTHERS,WITHOUT BLAME, EXCUSES OR CAVING INTO OBSTACLES.DISCIPLINE IS THE ABILITY TO SHOW UP ON TIME, EVERYTIME.DISCIPLINE IS THE ABILITY TO COMPLETE IMPORTANT PERSONAL OR BUSINESS PROJECTS ONSCHEDULE AND ON BUDGET. THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULDISCIPLINE IS THE POWER TO KEEP GOING FORWARD, WHEN EVERYTHING AROUND YOUSEEMS TO BE PULLING YOU BACK.THE RESULT? DISCIPLINE GENERATES TRUST AND CONFIDENCE IN YOURSELF, AND ATTRACTSTRUST AND CONFIDENCE FROM OTHERS. THE CONSTANT ACT OF DISCIPLINE MAGNIFIESYOUR POWER TO ACCOMPLISH AT LEAST 10 TIMES OVER."THE CHALLENGE IS TO FOLLOW THROUGH ON A GREAT IDEA. I THINK IF YOUVE GOT AGREAT IDEA, YOU NEED TO JUST GIVE IT A TRY. AND IF YOU FALL FLAT ON YOUR FACE, PICKYOURSELF UP AND TRY AGAIN. LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES. AND, REMEMBER, YOUVE GOTTO GO MAKE A REAL DIFFERENCE IN PEOPLES LIVES IF YOURE GOING TO BE SUCCESSFUL.""THE COLOSSAL MISUNDERSTANDING OF OUR TIME IS THE ASSUMPTION THAT INSIGHT WILLWORK WITH PEOPLE WHO ARE UNMOTIVATED TO CHANGE. COMMUNICATION DOES NOTDEPEND ON SYNTAX, OR ELOQUENCE, OR RHETORIC, OR ARTICULATION BUT ON THEEMOTIONAL CONTEXT IN WHICH THE MESSAGE IS BEING HEARD. PEOPLE CAN ONLY HEAR YOUWHEN THEY ARE MOVING TOWARDS YOU, AND THEY ARE NOT LIKELY TO WHEN YOUR WORDSARE PURSUING THEM. EVEN THE CHOICEST WORDS LOSE THEIR POWER WHEN THEY AREUSED TO OVERPOWER. EMOTIONS ARE THE REAL FIGURES OF SPEECH.""ANY MEANINGFUL CONSENSUS COMES OUT OF THE ATMOSPHERE OF MUTUAL RESPECT. WEFIND EQUALITY WITH OTHERS BY RECOGNISING THAT THERE ARE MANY WAYS OF LOOKING ATANY SITUATION AND WE HAVE ONLY ONE OF THEM. LISTENING TO OTHERS, RESPECTINGTHEIR IDEAS AND EXPERIENCES, HELPS TO OPEN US TO A WIDER SPECTRUM OF REALITY. ITENABLES US TO OPEN UP THE DOORS OF OUR CONCEPTUAL PRISON AND SEE THINGS FROM ANEW PERSPECTIVE."THE RICHEST PERSON IS NOT THE ONE WHO HAS THE MOST, BUT THE ONE WHO NEEDS THELEAST."THE GREATEST GIFT THAT YOU CAN GIVE TO OTHERS IS THE GIFT OF UNCONDITIONAL LOVE,RESPECT AND ACCEPTANCE."IT IS IN VAIN TO EXPECT OUR PRAYERS TO BE ANSWERED, IF WE DO NOT STRIVE TOCORRECT OUR KNOWLEDGE, BELIEF AND BEHAVIOUR IN ACCORDANCE WITH THENOBLE QURAN AND THE SUNNAH OF PROPHET MUHAMMED (PBUH) THERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH
    • IN THE NAME OF ALLAH – THE SOURCE OF MERCY – THE MOST MERCIFULTHERE IS NO GOD WORTHY OF WORSHIP EXCEPT ALLAH AND MUHAMMED (PBUH) IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH