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Yes,
No,
Maybe.
Hannah Kelliher
What are Boundaries?
 What

is your understanding of
boundaries?

 Why

are they important to you?
Definition of Boundaries
 “Personal

boundaries are guidelines, rules
or limits that a person creates to identify
for him...
Definition of Boundaries (cont.)
 “Boundaries

are an important issue for all
peer support programs. Participants need
to...
Why?


“Setting boundaries helps both people know what
to expect.



Clear boundaries keep our relationships healthy.

...
Why? (cont.)


“The process of you setting limits and honoring your
boundaries is the most healing behavior you can
prese...
Rules.


“Know the limits of the peer support relationship.



Be clear about your role.



Encourage peers to be respo...
Rules. (cont.)
 “Seek

personal support if impacted or
stressed by helping a peer.

 Leave

peers‟ problems with them, r...
Activity.


Stand up.



Choose a partner.



Make two parallel lines and stand across from
your partner.



I will ex...
How?
 Self

asses your personal beliefs, morals
and feelings. Without knowing these
things you will not be able to establ...
How? (cont.)


Limit the amount of personal things you share
about your life.



“As a peer leader it is important to se...
How? (cont.)
 Model

behavior you want your students to
have. If you don‟t do it, they won‟t do it.

 Learn

from every ...
Just say no.


No is not a taboo word.



“By saying „No‟ to more things you have the
time, energy and resources to get ...
Listening Skills
 Listening

skills is important to establish
boundaries. People give you signals, both
verbal and nonver...
Remember!


Boundaries are not easy, even for seasoned
professionals.



Don‟t be afraid to talk to pro-staff about
boun...
Remember! (cont.)


“There are fine lines while being a Peer
Leader that we need to be aware of. We are
qualified to be a...
Group Activity
 Choose

a partner (someone who you did
not work with in other activities today)

 Write

down specific b...
Group Activity. (cont.)


Group 1,3,5.”One of the students that you have
recently helped in your peer supporter capacity ...
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  1. 1. Yes, No, Maybe. Hannah Kelliher
  2. 2. What are Boundaries?  What is your understanding of boundaries?  Why are they important to you?
  3. 3. Definition of Boundaries  “Personal boundaries are guidelines, rules or limits that a person creates to identify for him- or herself what are reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other people to behave around him or her and how he or she will respond when someone steps outside those limits.” http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Personal_boundaries
  4. 4. Definition of Boundaries (cont.)  “Boundaries are an important issue for all peer support programs. Participants need to understand that our interactions and levels of responsibility differ according to the nature of relationships.” http://student-learning.tcd.ie/assets/docs/old/Peer%20Support%20Training%20Manual.pdf
  5. 5. Why?  “Setting boundaries helps both people know what to expect.  Clear boundaries keep our relationships healthy.  As a peer educator, both you and your student will have boundaries  Setting boundaries is an important way for peer educators and peers to be clear about what to expect.” http://peer.hdwg.org/sites/default/files/2d%20SettingBoundaries-PeerRole-Peer_Training.pdf
  6. 6. Why? (cont.)  “The process of you setting limits and honoring your boundaries is the most healing behavior you can present to self and others.”1  Knowing when to refer students to pro staff and counseling.”  “The behavior you express is an important aspect of setting boundaries.”2 Any more reasons? 1. http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/articles/setting-boundaries.htm 2. http://web.ccsu.edu/fye/PeerGuide/role2.htm
  7. 7. Rules.  “Know the limits of the peer support relationship.  Be clear about your role.  Encourage peers to be responsible for their problems, decisions and actions.  Accept that others may not be ready to face problems or make changes.  Do not take on too much or try to „save‟ peers by solving their problems. http://student-learning.tcd.ie/assets/docs/old/Peer%20Support%20Training%20Manual.pdf
  8. 8. Rules. (cont.)  “Seek personal support if impacted or stressed by helping a peer.  Leave peers‟ problems with them, rather than „taking the problems home‟ with you.” More? http://student-learning.tcd.ie/assets/docs/old/Peer%20Support%20Training%20Manual.pdf
  9. 9. Activity.  Stand up.  Choose a partner.  Make two parallel lines and stand across from your partner.  I will explain the rest.  When we go back to seats we will discuss.
  10. 10. How?  Self asses your personal beliefs, morals and feelings. Without knowing these things you will not be able to establish effective boundaries.  Stop and think before you take action. Even if it is for a second. Reflect on your beliefs, morals, and feelings. http://web.ccsu.edu/fye/PeerGuide/role2.htm
  11. 11. How? (cont.)  Limit the amount of personal things you share about your life.  “As a peer leader it is important to set physical boundaries including the use to touch, meeting up between or after class as well as how to handle flirting.”  Establish how you want to communicate through social media with your students. http://web.ccsu.edu/fye/PeerGuide/role2.htm
  12. 12. How? (cont.)  Model behavior you want your students to have. If you don‟t do it, they won‟t do it.  Learn from every experience you have. Not one person is perfect and we will mistakes, but it is important to learn from them. http://web.ccsu.edu/fye/PeerGuide/role2.htm
  13. 13. Just say no.  No is not a taboo word.  “By saying „No‟ to more things you have the time, energy and resources to get really good at the things you want to say „yes‟ to.  If you find it hard to say „No‟ you won‟t allow others to step up to the plate and find their own power.”  If you don‟t learn how to say „No‟, others will take you for granted and lose respect for you.” http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/articles/setting-boundaries.htm
  14. 14. Listening Skills  Listening skills is important to establish boundaries. People give you signals, both verbal and nonverbal as to what they are comfortable or uncomfortable with. You must learn how to listen to pick these up.  Activity.
  15. 15. Remember!  Boundaries are not easy, even for seasoned professionals.  Don‟t be afraid to talk to pro-staff about boundaries if you are in a questionable situation.  Boundaries are important to have an effective relationship with the students you are going to be leading.
  16. 16. Remember! (cont.)  “There are fine lines while being a Peer Leader that we need to be aware of. We are qualified to be a peer and are not trained as anything more.  We are not here to be their counselor, therapist, or anything else above what we are qualified to do. However as a peer leader we can guide them in the right direction as to who they should talk to so they may seek help (i.e. send them to Health Services or the Counseling and Wellness Center)” http://web.ccsu.edu/fye/PeerGuide/role3.htm
  17. 17. Group Activity  Choose a partner (someone who you did not work with in other activities today)  Write down specific boundaries you as peer leaders should set and why (Short hand is fine)
  18. 18. Group Activity. (cont.)  Group 1,3,5.”One of the students that you have recently helped in your peer supporter capacity has taken a liking for you. S/he walks to class with you and emails you often. One day s/he confesses romantic feelings and asks you out on a date. How would you feel and think, and what would you do?”  Groups 2 +4 “A few weeks after college commenced, a first year student came to you with a small personal problem. You helped him explore it and he resolved the problem with good results. Since then, he seems to have become over-dependent on you. He constantly stops by your room to hang out, brings you sweets, and talks as if he is your new best friend. How would you feel and think, and what would you do?”
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