Why Is It So Difficult
to Forgive?
http://www.elsabesmit.com
http://www.elsabesmit.com
• Forgiveness is not “I will look
down on you and turn the other
cheek so that I can be a martyr”
http://www.elsabesmit.com
• Forgiveness is not “I will be the
judge, jury and executioner, and
forgive but never forget”
http://www.elsabesmit.com
• Lack of forgiveness eats away at
you
• Cancer
• Blocked arteries
• Other ailments
http://www.elsabesmit.com
• What is forgiveness?
http://www.elsabesmit.com
• We have conflict throughout
our lives and on many levels
• Work colleagues
• Friends
• Relativ...
http://www.elsabesmit.com
• We cannot avoid conflict
• We are all actors on the stage
called life
• Conflict forces us to ...
http://www.elsabesmit.com
• Sometimes the lessons are easy
• Clash on a sports field
• Forgive your opponent for
hurting y...
http://www.elsabesmit.com
• Other times the lessons are more serious
• A friend stabs you in the back
• You ignored the wa...
http://www.elsabesmit.com
• Do you say “Now I know that next time I
should trust my intuition”?
• Do you say “that person ...
http://www.elsabesmit.com
• While you lie awake and get
angry about how you were
treated, that person sleeps like
a baby a...
http://www.elsabesmit.com
• The lesson is all about
• You
• Your experience
• Your understanding
• And none about the pers...
http://www.elsabesmit.com
• Why is it so difficult to forgive?
http://www.elsabesmit.com
• We get stuck on the thoughts of
injustice
• We never move on
http://www.elsabesmit.com
• Ask yourself “What am I learning”
every time the thought appears.
• Eventually the answer will...
http://www.elsabesmit.com
• When you no longer have
“negative” thoughts about the
person you need to forgive, the
answer a...
http://www.elsabesmit.com
• When you fully understand, the
knowledge is embedded in your
body cells
• Then you have forgiv...
http://www.elsabesmit.com
• How long does forgiveness
take?
• How long is a piece of string?
http://www.elsabesmit.com
• Start moving from resentment
to forgiveness today
• Ask “What’s in it for me?”
• Keep going un...
http://www.elsabesmit.com
Thank You
Upcoming SlideShare
Loading in...5
×

Why Is It So Difficult To Forgive?

276
-1

Published on

You will not forgive them as long as the focus is on them rather than on you.

0 Comments
0 Likes
Statistics
Notes
  • Be the first to comment

  • Be the first to like this

No Downloads
Views
Total Views
276
On Slideshare
0
From Embeds
0
Number of Embeds
1
Actions
Shares
0
Downloads
13
Comments
0
Likes
0
Embeds 0
No embeds

No notes for slide

Why Is It So Difficult To Forgive?

  1. 1. Why Is It So Difficult to Forgive? http://www.elsabesmit.com
  2. 2. http://www.elsabesmit.com • Forgiveness is not “I will look down on you and turn the other cheek so that I can be a martyr”
  3. 3. http://www.elsabesmit.com • Forgiveness is not “I will be the judge, jury and executioner, and forgive but never forget”
  4. 4. http://www.elsabesmit.com • Lack of forgiveness eats away at you • Cancer • Blocked arteries • Other ailments
  5. 5. http://www.elsabesmit.com • What is forgiveness?
  6. 6. http://www.elsabesmit.com • We have conflict throughout our lives and on many levels • Work colleagues • Friends • Relatives • Ourselves
  7. 7. http://www.elsabesmit.com • We cannot avoid conflict • We are all actors on the stage called life • Conflict forces us to learn about ourselves
  8. 8. http://www.elsabesmit.com • Sometimes the lessons are easy • Clash on a sports field • Forgive your opponent for hurting you as part of the game
  9. 9. http://www.elsabesmit.com • Other times the lessons are more serious • A friend stabs you in the back • You ignored the warning signals and your intuition • You chose to let the situation get out of hand
  10. 10. http://www.elsabesmit.com • Do you say “Now I know that next time I should trust my intuition”? • Do you say “that person is a so-and-so and I will never forgive him” ?
  11. 11. http://www.elsabesmit.com • While you lie awake and get angry about how you were treated, that person sleeps like a baby and does not care
  12. 12. http://www.elsabesmit.com • The lesson is all about • You • Your experience • Your understanding • And none about the person you need to forgive
  13. 13. http://www.elsabesmit.com • Why is it so difficult to forgive?
  14. 14. http://www.elsabesmit.com • We get stuck on the thoughts of injustice • We never move on
  15. 15. http://www.elsabesmit.com • Ask yourself “What am I learning” every time the thought appears. • Eventually the answer will appear
  16. 16. http://www.elsabesmit.com • When you no longer have “negative” thoughts about the person you need to forgive, the answer appears.
  17. 17. http://www.elsabesmit.com • When you fully understand, the knowledge is embedded in your body cells • Then you have forgiven and you can move on
  18. 18. http://www.elsabesmit.com • How long does forgiveness take? • How long is a piece of string?
  19. 19. http://www.elsabesmit.com • Start moving from resentment to forgiveness today • Ask “What’s in it for me?” • Keep going until you have forgiven all your enemies
  20. 20. http://www.elsabesmit.com Thank You
  1. A particular slide catching your eye?

    Clipping is a handy way to collect important slides you want to go back to later.

×