Manners are the ways people speak and behave that a particular society consider appropriate.
In our society, having manners is considered to be the same thing as having good manners, though there are also bad manners, but those are only mentioned when someone violates what is considered good manners.
Why are manners important? Manners are a form of showing love for your neighbors. Polite people are well liked and respected by others. They are given more opportunities. Impolite people are disliked and are open for teasing by others. They also will have less self-confidence. Good manners are just good human relations. Being polite is right, it makes people feel cared about and important.
Manners around the World Manners around the world starts with respect for differences. Not all cultures are the same. Generally speaking, you can be yourself as long as you remain friendly and courteous. Always keep in mind that you are the guest in someone else's country.
Who Have the Best Manners? It is probably unfair to attribute good or bad manners to an entire country of people as if we can in some way assume that all inhabitants of a country are the same when it comes to qualities and traits. To say that Australians, for example, are ill-mannered would be as offensive as it would be naïve to say that all British are well-mannered. In every country of the world, you will find a combination of both.
What are we going to do today? Remember table manners and dining etiquette; Discover out how not to behave badly abroad; Try to improve our modern manners; Look at some differences between different cultures Find out how to insure promptness;
Table manners There are big differences between cultures when it comes to eating. Whether they eat with their hands, always with the right hand, no matter where, whether they eat with chopsticks, whether they eat with just a spoon. Utensils, the foods that they eat, the foods that are taboo.
Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you have that awareness, you have good manners, no matter which fork you use. which table Manners matter mostUnder TO DO write two ways of behaving you think everyone should follow. Under NOT TO DO, write two things no one should ever do. NOT TO DO __________ __________ TO DO __________ __________
Ideas for Manners Questionnaires Pair work. Would you ever do these things in your country? Tick (۷) Yes, Maybe, or No. Then discuss with a partner Join another pair. Compare your answers. Which answers are same ? different?
What Would You Do in Your Country? 1. You’re in a clothing store shopping for jeans. The price on the tag is a bit high. What would you do? a. ask for a discount if you pay cash b. pay the amount on the price tag c. ask if the price on the tag is correct d. bargain for a lower price e. none of the above
2. Some tourists ask if they can take a photo of you. How would you feel? a. flattered b. annoyed c. embarrassed d. amused e. none of the above. 3. You’re at the bus stop/on a platform. The bus/train arrives, but it’s full. What would you do? a. wait patiently until it’s your turn to get on b. let the people behind you push you in c. push to make sure you get on d. wait for the next one, hoping it will be less full e. none of the above 4. You’re walking in a city park with you boyfriend/girlfriend. What would you do? a. hold hands b. walk arm in arm c. walk close but not touching d. walk far apart e. none of the above
5. You and three friends take a taxi home after midnight. How much would you give the driver as a tip? a. nothing b. small change c. 10% of the fare d. 15% of the fare e. none of the above
6. You’re in a restaurant with two friends. The bill arrives. Who would normally pay? a. the person who invited the others b. each person would pay only his/her share c. the person with the most money d. the bill would be divided equally e. none of the above
B. Join another pair.Compare your answers. Then discuss these questions What would most people in your country do in these situations? Have you ever been in similarsituations? What happened? Think of a foreign country you’ve been to or would like to visit. Would your answers be different if you were in that country?
A World Guide to good Manners How to behave abroad? How not to behave badly abroad? Look through the worksheets from New Headway Intermediate Students’ Book
True /false. Work in groups of three. One of you should look at Sheet 1, one at Sheet 2 and one at Sheet 3. Give one another a quiz about customs and behaviour. Are these statements about customs and behaviour true or false. Take turns reading them to your classmates. Have them guess.
How would you cope around the world ? Are the following statements true or false? You should not give tips in India. In Japan you can’t vote until you are 19 In Holland friends are supposed to kiss each other four times when saying hello and goodbye You can drive as fast as you want in Germany In the UK you must never turn your back on a picture of the queen You should never give a clock as a gift in China In Greece you should never call on somebody at about three in the afternoon
Modern Manners Mobile phones Have you ever…. lost your mobile? sent a text to the wrong person? forgotten to turn off your mobile (with embarrassing consequences) ?
Using Mobile Phones in Public Look at the picture and answer the questions What are the people doing? Does it annoy when people do this? Does it happen a lot in your country? What other things do people do with their mobiles that annoy you?
accepted custom, something that you are expected to do. In some countries, such as Japan, tipping is not done.
Tipping comes from the phrase “to insure
promptness”, which is the supposed purpose of tipping.
Is tipping a good practice?
Discuss the answers to these questions In a restaurant how much of a tip do you usually leave? Does tipping really ”insure promptness” as it was intended to do? Have you ever deliberately not left a tip? Describe the circumstances Why do we tip waiters but not flight attendants (who also serve food and drinks) What professions do we usually tip?
Read a case involving a tip at a restaurant Maurice McParland, 31, was a waiter at a restaurant in London. One evening an incident involving a customer and the tip he left for McParland cost the latter his job. When the customer had finished dinner, McParland presented him with the bill for ₤ 42.75. the customer gave the waiter the amount of the bill plus a tip of ₤ 2.25. When the waiter saw that the tip was so little he handed the tipback to the customer and remarked, “I think you need this more than me.” The customer complained to the management, and for this action McParland was fired. McParland felt that he was fired unfairly. He said that the tip was “a bit of insult”. He claimed damages against the restaurant management of $ 1,800. The case went to an industrial tribunal, a special panel in Great Britain that hears employment grievances.
Answer the question and discuss your decisions and reasons. If you were on the panel, would you make the restaurant pay? Give two/three reasons for your decision.
Now see the decision of the tribunal The industrial tribunal also found that Mr.McParland was unfairly fired. However, the tribunal ruled that Mr. McParland himself was partly responsible for his dismissal and reduced the amount of the compensation by one third, to $1,350.
Call My Cultural Bluff Work in groups, look at your worksheet; Brainstorm two incorrect answers for each question. Invent reasons to support your statements; Pair two different teams. 1. Read in turns the customs with three possible answers. 2. The opposite team decides which is correct and bet 1, 2, or 3 points 3. Keep points with correct answers
Do not forget Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you have that awareness, you have good manners, no matter which fork you use.
"Englishman In New York“I don't drink coffee I take tea my dearI like my toast done on one sideAnd you can hear it in my accent when I talkI'm an Englishman in New YorkSee me walking down Fifth AvenueA walking cane here at my sideI take it everywhere I walkI'm an Englishman in New YorkI'm an alien I'm a legal alienI'm an Englishman in New YorkI'm an alien I'm a legal alienI'm an Englishman in New YorkIf, "Manners maketh man" as someone saidThen he's the hero of the dayIt takes a man to suffer ignorance and smileBe yourself no matter what they sayI'm an alien I'm a legal alienI'm an Englishman in New York I'm an alien I'm a legal alienI'm an Englishman in New York Modesty, propriety can lead to notorietyYou could end up as the only oneGentleness, sobriety are rare in this societyAt night a candle's brighter than the sunTakes more than combat gear to make a manTakes more than a license for a gunConfront your enemies, avoid them when you canA gentleman will walk but never runIf, "Manners maketh man" as someone saidThen he's the hero of the dayIt takes a man to suffer ignorance and smileBe yourself no matter what they sayI'm an alien I'm a legal alienI'm an Englishman in New YorkI'm an alien I'm a legal alienI'm an Englishman in New York http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hrFY7aTV1e8&feature=related