Review Last Week0 Create a definition of success for the whole group 0 Identify all of the things people think they need to do or have to be successful. 0 Narrow it down to 5 characteristics the whole group can agree on 0 Discuss why those 5 characteristics are more important than the others to your group 0 Relate those characteristics to the spiritual principles of the 12 steps0 Identify one thing you can start doing to achieve each characteristic listed
Additional Application0 Complete the following sentence--- 0 My child will be a success in life when he or she . . .
Objectives0 Define Relapse0 Identify Relapse Warning Signs0 Identify Strengths0 Learn about how your addiction developed
Relapse Definition0 Relapse is the return to something that has been previously stopped0 For the addict, a relapse is multidimensional 0 Emotional 0 Mental 0 Physical 0 Social0 Review your addicted vs. sober worksheet.0 A relapse is when you start returning to any of these people, places, things, behaviors or feeling states.
Emotional Relapse0 In emotional relapse, youre not thinking about using. But your emotions and behaviors are setting you up for a possible relapse in the future.0 Negative emotions make us uncomfortable 0 The healthy person identifies the emotion, decides why they are feeling that way and takes steps to fix the problem 0 The addict becomes stuck in the emotion, sometimes 0 Nurturing and blowing it out of proportion 0 Personalizing it 0 Trying to escape from it by getting high
Preventing Emotional Relapse0 Keep a gratitude journal0 Avoid personalizing something that may not be about you0 Remember that… 0 Negative emotions are our mind’s way of telling us to get off our butts and do something—Like our car’s idiot light or hunger pangs 0 Dwelling, nurturing, hiding from negative emotions never makes anything better 0 You can *choose* to feel and fix or relapse and repeat
Activity0 List 10 things that you chose to get anxious or angry about over the last week0 Why did you get upset? (What was your mind telling you needed to be fixed)0 Did getting upset do any good?0 What could you do differently next time to either 0 Change/fix the situation 0 Change how you feel about the situation OR 0 Let it go
Mental Relapse0 In mental relapse theres a war going on in your mind. Part of you wants to use, but part of you doesnt.0 The signs of mental relapse are: 0 Thinking about people, places, and things you used with 0 Glamorizing your past use 0 Lying to yourself and others 0 Justifying your behaviors 0 Minimizing the impact of one (drink/hit/bet etc.) 0 “Screw It” attitude 0 Paranoia
Preventing Mental Relapse0 KISS: Keep It Simple Stupid0 Good Orderly Direction 0 Your life is a road map 0 The destination is recovery and happiness 0 Before you act, think whether that keeps you on the right road, or is an unplanned detour 0 Maintain Head-Heart-Gut Honesty
Social Relapse0 You have returned to the old people and places.0 You have withdrawn from your sober social supports0 You have become self-centered0 Your life has begun to center around your “friends” who support your habit or you have isolated yourself
Preventing Social Relapse0 Contact your sponsor on a daily basis for the first 3 months0 Keep a business card in your wallet with the names and numbers of 3 sober supports0 Change your phone number (if possible) and destroy contact information for your “using” friends0 Find at least one prosocial activity to do each week --- volunteer, church, go to the gym
Physical Relapse0 Physical relapse is characterized by 0 Cravings 0 Dreams about the drug 0 Neglecting physical health (sleep, exercise, nutrition, medication) 0 Using
Preventing Physical Relapse0 HALT 0 Hungry--- Nourish your mind, heart and body. 0 Angry--- Emotional relapse anyone??? 0 Lonely---
Reviewing Strengths0 What do you do when you are not using?0 List three ways you cope with stress besides using?0 What activities do you like that do not involve using?0 When you are not using, what is different? Are you… 0 Going to meetings 0 Working out 0 Volunteering 0 Spending time with your dog 0 Other….0 These all strengths you can use to prevent relapse
Relapse Prevention Planning0 Include time in the morning and at night to “get grounded” (Can be your drive to and from work)0 Avoid alone, idol time (Go to the library, gym…)0 Set realistic daily goals0 Give yourself credit for positive accomplishments Note: You will review and refine this plan as we go along
Homework0 Write your autobiography 0 Begin with your first memory 0 Are you happy, sad, scared 0 Who was important in your life and why 0 Were you getting your basic needs met? Why or why not? 0 Food, shelter, safety, love, acceptance 0 Who were your friends? 0 What are the three most influential things that happened during that time? 0 Answer those same questions for elementary school; middle school; high school, early 20s, late 20s, 30s, etc up to present day. 0 Now go back and identify when you started using and why 0 Look back, before that time, and identify when you started developing your addictive behaviors. What were you trying to control or escape from?
Homework Part 20 Identify all of the times you tried to quit. 0 Why you wanted to quit 0 What you did that worked 0 What you did that did not work 0 What is different when you are not using 0 What your relapse warning signs were 0 What triggered the relapse 0 What you can do to prevent that from happening again