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SAWABONA. Flávio Gikovate   Brazilian Psychoanalyst. About being alone…
It is not only technological advances that have marked the start of this millenium.
Affectionate relationships are also going through deep transformations and revolutionizing  the concept of love.
What we search for today is a relationship compatible with the modern times, in which exist  individuality, respect, happiness and pleasure to be together,
… and no longer a relationship of dependence,  in which one person is responsible for the welfare of  others.
The idea of one person being  the remedy for our happiness,  which was born with romanticism, is destined to disappear at the start of this century .
Romantic love is based on the assumption that we are a mere fraction and that we need to meet our other half to feel complete.
Often  it  happens  even  as  a  process  of  depersonalization  that  historically, has affected  more  women  .
She abandons her characteristics to amalgamate herself with the male’s project.
The theory of  “opposites attract”  also comes from the same root: the other has to know , what I do not know. If I am gentle, he should be aggressive, and so on. A  practical  idea  of  survival ,  not  so romantic, by the way…
The word of this century, is  partnership  We   are changing the love of necessity for the love of desire.  I like and desire  being  with someone, but  I do not need it  - this is very different.
With technological advances, that demand more individual time, people are losing the fear of living alone, and are learning to live better with themselves. They are starting to realize that they feel like a fraction, but they are a whole.
The other, with whom you create a link, also feels like a fraction.  He is not the prince or the savior of anything.   He is only a companion on a journey .
Man is an animal what  will go on changing the world, and afterwards has to keep reinventing himself to adapt to the world that he created.
We are entering an era of individuality, which has nothing to do with egoism. The egoist does not have his own energy, he feeds himself on the energy of others, be it financial or moral.
A new form of love, or more love, has a new feature and meaning. It aims for the coming together of two wholes, and not the union of two halves. And this is only possible for those who manage to work on their individuality.
The more an individual is capable to live alone, the more prepared s/he will be for an affectionate relationship.
Solitude is good;  to be alone is not shameful.  It gives dignity to a person.  Good affectionate relations are great, they are very similar to being alone, nobody demands anything of nobody and both grow.
Relationships of domination and exaggerated concessions are last century’s stuff.  Every brain is unique.  Our way of thinking  and acting do not serve as a reference to evaluate anyone. Many times, we think that the other is our soul mate and, actually, what we did was to reinvent him/her to our taste.
Everyone should spend some time alone every now and again, to establish an inner dialogue and discover your personal force.
In  solitude , the individual understands that harmony and peace of the spirit can only be found inside him/her and not from the other person .
To realise this, she becomes less critical and more understanding of differences, respecting the way of each person . The love of two whole people is  healthier. In this type of connection, there is the coziness, the pleasure of company and the respect of being loved.
It is not always enough to be forgiven by another one, sometimes you need to learn to forgive yourself... In case you are curious to know the meaning of: “ SAWABONA”…
It is a greeting used in the south of Africa that means: “ I respect you, I value you, you are important to me”.
“ SHIKOBA” In response, people say:
Which is: “ Therefore, I exist for you.”
SAWABONA ! MY DEAR FRIENDS ! Diramar,october,2008 www.slideshare.net/Diramar Stolen Kiss Collaboration:Flávio E. Polillo Filho.

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Sawabona-About being alone…

  • 1. SAWABONA. Flávio Gikovate Brazilian Psychoanalyst. About being alone…
  • 2. It is not only technological advances that have marked the start of this millenium.
  • 3. Affectionate relationships are also going through deep transformations and revolutionizing the concept of love.
  • 4. What we search for today is a relationship compatible with the modern times, in which exist individuality, respect, happiness and pleasure to be together,
  • 5. … and no longer a relationship of dependence, in which one person is responsible for the welfare of others.
  • 6. The idea of one person being the remedy for our happiness, which was born with romanticism, is destined to disappear at the start of this century .
  • 7. Romantic love is based on the assumption that we are a mere fraction and that we need to meet our other half to feel complete.
  • 8. Often it happens even as a process of depersonalization that historically, has affected more women .
  • 9. She abandons her characteristics to amalgamate herself with the male’s project.
  • 10. The theory of “opposites attract” also comes from the same root: the other has to know , what I do not know. If I am gentle, he should be aggressive, and so on. A practical idea of survival , not so romantic, by the way…
  • 11. The word of this century, is partnership We are changing the love of necessity for the love of desire. I like and desire being with someone, but I do not need it - this is very different.
  • 12. With technological advances, that demand more individual time, people are losing the fear of living alone, and are learning to live better with themselves. They are starting to realize that they feel like a fraction, but they are a whole.
  • 13. The other, with whom you create a link, also feels like a fraction. He is not the prince or the savior of anything. He is only a companion on a journey .
  • 14. Man is an animal what will go on changing the world, and afterwards has to keep reinventing himself to adapt to the world that he created.
  • 15. We are entering an era of individuality, which has nothing to do with egoism. The egoist does not have his own energy, he feeds himself on the energy of others, be it financial or moral.
  • 16. A new form of love, or more love, has a new feature and meaning. It aims for the coming together of two wholes, and not the union of two halves. And this is only possible for those who manage to work on their individuality.
  • 17. The more an individual is capable to live alone, the more prepared s/he will be for an affectionate relationship.
  • 18. Solitude is good; to be alone is not shameful. It gives dignity to a person. Good affectionate relations are great, they are very similar to being alone, nobody demands anything of nobody and both grow.
  • 19. Relationships of domination and exaggerated concessions are last century’s stuff. Every brain is unique. Our way of thinking and acting do not serve as a reference to evaluate anyone. Many times, we think that the other is our soul mate and, actually, what we did was to reinvent him/her to our taste.
  • 20. Everyone should spend some time alone every now and again, to establish an inner dialogue and discover your personal force.
  • 21. In solitude , the individual understands that harmony and peace of the spirit can only be found inside him/her and not from the other person .
  • 22. To realise this, she becomes less critical and more understanding of differences, respecting the way of each person . The love of two whole people is healthier. In this type of connection, there is the coziness, the pleasure of company and the respect of being loved.
  • 23. It is not always enough to be forgiven by another one, sometimes you need to learn to forgive yourself... In case you are curious to know the meaning of: “ SAWABONA”…
  • 24. It is a greeting used in the south of Africa that means: “ I respect you, I value you, you are important to me”.
  • 25. “ SHIKOBA” In response, people say:
  • 26. Which is: “ Therefore, I exist for you.”
  • 27. SAWABONA ! MY DEAR FRIENDS ! Diramar,october,2008 www.slideshare.net/Diramar Stolen Kiss Collaboration:Flávio E. Polillo Filho.