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2008-2009 Parent/Community Involvement Filling In The Achievement Gaps Module 3Building Positive Relationships to Promote Parental Involvement
“Filling In” The Achievement Gap 2008-2009Parent/Community Involvement Module Arkansas Department of Education
Building Positive Relationshipsto Promote Parental Involvement Administrators Students Climate Staff Parents
AdministratorsManagement Verses Leadership C’mon guys…we can do this!
“If You Build It, They Will Come”• It’s the leader’s ability to … – Say it – Plan it – Do it in such a way that others know that you know how and, – Know that they want to follow you. John Maxwell
Administrators• Defining the Vision
Mission/Vision• Vision- Know where you are going• Clearly articulated
Communicating The Vision• Keep It Simple• Metaphors, Analogies, & Examples• Multiple Forums• Repeat, Repeat, Repeat• Lead By Example• Explain Inconsistencies• Give and Take
Align People With The Vision• “Spirit of the Squirrel: Worthwhile Work”
The Spirit of the Squirrel • Why do squirrels work so hard? They work hard because they are motivated!
The Spirit of the Squirrel • Why are the squirrels motivated? They have a goal. They are working toward the goal of putting away food.
The Spirit of the Squirrel • Why does the goal motivate them? If they don’t store up food they won’t survive the winter!
The Spirit of the Squirrel Their job is WORTHWHILE! •Knowing we make the world a better place •Everyone works toward a shared goal •Values guide all plans, decisions, and actions
Spirit of the Squirrel Two Requirements to BUILD Trust for the Productivity• Honesty• Putting team members first
Spirit of the Squirrel“You can take the horse to the water but You can’t make him drink it.” It’s the BUY-IN and Commitment that makes the difference. The squirrel is committed!
Spirit of the Squirrel Productivity!Think of the squirrel!
Align People With The Mission“The Way of The Beaver:In Control of Achieving The Goal”
The Way of the Beaver • In control of achieving the Goal • Being an individual to achieve the goal • The beavers each build or repair their own part of the dam
The Way of the Beaver • Beavers NEVER “redo” what another beaver has done. • Beavers do “their individual thing” and do it well • Beavers are persistent • Beavers are in control
The Way of the Beaver • People who are truly in control work for organizations that value them as persons. Their thoughts, feelings, needs and dreams are respected, listened to, and acted upon.
The Way of the BeaverThree sides of the beaver’s activity 2. Individual taking charge & being in control of achieving the goal 2. An organization that allowed and encouraged individuals to do so & their thoughts, feelings, needs, and dreams were respected, listened to, and acted upon 3. The beavers do what they can do! They use their expertise!
Inspire or Motivate People To Reach The Vision• How do you motivate people to reach the vision?• “The Gift of the Goose: Cheering Others On”
The Gift of the Goose • The Gift of the Goose brings enthusiasm to Spirit of the Squirrel and Way of the Beaver.
The Gift of the Goose • The Gift of the Goose is Cheering Others On! • They honk that everything is going great
The Gift of the Goose • The Gift of the Goose will make more of a difference than the: Spirit of the Squirrel or The Way of the Beaver
Which are YOU?Squirrel Beaver Goose
I HAD to go to work.Here, I GET to go to work. Because Everyone is GUNG HO!
Team members leave with their heads held high! They KNOW they are doing important work! Both the organization and their fellow workers appreciate their EffortsThey each had a and Success!Significant part of the Success!
The Spirit of the Squirrel! The Way of the Beaver! The Gift of the Goose! GUNG HO!
Job Satisfaction• #1 reason people leave their jobs- they don’t feel appreciated
Positive vs. Negative• How Full Is Your Bucket? Positive Strategies for Work and Life by Tom Rath and Donald Clifton, Ph.D.
Is negativity really a problem?
The Bucket Theory • Invisible bucket and dipper • “9 out of 10 people say they are more productive when they’re around positive people” • Memories • Frequency of positive interactions
Positive Interactions• As leaders in your school, think of ways that you currently recognize the achievements of your staff, praise their efforts, and encourage a positive climate among your staff.
REVVED! Win them over andKeep them REVVED! by Harry Paul & Ross Reck, Ph.D
The Work Place• Too busy to be friendly• “micromanaging”• Bringing anger to work• Bottom line-personal life can sabotage the career, relationships at work (co-workers as well as parents)
Nice Managers Get ResultsA group of researchers studied 16,000 corporate managers. The results surprised many skeptics. They showed that the highest achievers were those who valued people as highly as they valued profits.
Weak is he who allows his emotions to controlhis actions. Strong is hewho allows his actions to control his emotions.
The 2 most important questions you can ask yourself:Is this a classroom you would want your child to be enrolled?Are you a teacher you would want your child to have?
Master Your EmotionsEven the best leaders have personal problems at one time or another. In those situations, the most effective leaders reach down inside themselves to find the strength to keep their emotions in check, especially at work.
‘Personality Plus’• It’s not something you are born with, it is something you develop by being nice to people and making them feel special.
The Magic RatioThe magic ratio:5 positive interactions for every 1 negative interaction
Caring is absolutely necessary when it comes to getting others excited about doing things on your behalf. That’swhat a supervisor’s, as well asany educator’s job is all about.
The following 3 Steps will helpyou maximize the returns thatcome from caring about your mostimportant asset: your students,their parents and your co-workers,in other words: Your People!
Take Baby Steps Step 1-Winning them Over • Turning enemies into allies-SMILE • Greet people CHEERFULLY • Actively engage in caring conversation- actively
Step 2- Blowing Them Away• Single out people who have just gone the extra mile for you.• Multiplier Effect bonus• Build an Army• Magical Phrase-”Is there anything else I can do for you?”
Step 3-Keep them REVVED!• Nothing works better than the truth• Clear the Air• Caring is a Win-Win proposition• Looking out for Number 2• Celebrate your success
Group Discussion Questions See Handout #3
Take Care of Your “Self”• Educators must continually be aware of his/her attitude, priorities, behavior, and interactions.• One of the greatest individuals in keeping priorities was Randy Pausch. “The Last Lecture” The LAST LECTURE by Randy Pausch Video Clip
When You Thought I Wasn’t Looking
“Fill In” The Achievement Gap by Building PositiveRelationships to Promote Parental Involvement
Parent/Community Involvement Resources•National Network of Partnership SchoolsTIPS Teachers Involve Parents in Schoolwork•http://www.csos.jhu.edu/p2000/tips/index.htm•Annual Promising Practiceshttp://www.csos.jhu.edu/p2000/PPP/2007/index.htm
Building Positive Relationships to Promote Parental Involvement It takes EVERYONE To Administrators Build PositiveStudents Climate Staff Relationships and Promote Parents Parent/Community Involvement! We Need YOU!
Building Positive Relationships Can “Fill In”the Achievement Gap And Promote Parental/Community Involvement!