Ayala 1 Teen Pregnancy Teen pregnancy brings so many emotions to you. It can bring shame, denial, a lot ofstress and even depression. Your options and choices may be different depending on yoursituation. I have been pregnant and I know how hard it is and also the many consequences it has.Going through a teen pregnancy becomes a real world challenge and it can be veryoverwhelming. A teen pregnancy is one of the toughest experiences you will go through. Thisrequires you to grow up almost immediately. The one thing that every teen should have in mindalways is that no matter what you can do anything you set your mind to and a baby won’t be anobstacle. First of all, once a teen becomes pregnant her whole world changes; she has a differentview of everything around her. Many teens begin by feeling fear and shame. She knows she is ina hard situation and may think that no one is going to be supportive. Many teens go into a senseof denial. Denying or ignoring a pregnancy can make things worse for you and your baby.Denial doesn’t take pregnancy away; it takes time for prenatal care and counseling. Denial canbe passed on to friends and family. Parents may ignore the changes they see in their daughter. Itis possible for some girls to keep themselves into denial until labor. “Some teens mayacknowledge the pregnancy but deny the lifestyle changes or healthy behavior, which leads toalcohol and drug use” (Wood).Depression is also very common in teen pregnancies. In somecases it is possible that the teen may think about suicide. “The suicide rate for pregnant teens is7 more than that of non-mothers,” (teen). Every teen feels different towards her baby; some maydeny them, feel anger or hatred towards them, and there are some who will actually feel love for
Ayala 2them. A teen may feel guilt whether it is religious guilt, or guilt for letting down her parents.Teens need to feel that they have love and support from others, especially since they are goingthrough a hard situation that involves growing up immediately. She may feel the acceptance andtherefore not feel like she did much disappointment. One thing you may do is thank the teen forchoosing life instead of choosing her other option, which could possibly be abortion. One of themain things a teen is going to feel is embarrassment! She is not only going to feel embarrassedtowards her family but also towards her friends, even strangers that see her as she walks by.Teens need someone to talk to them and help them walkthrough any emotional issue that they aregoing through. “Teens are faced with emotionally charged and complex issues that are difficultenough for adults to deal with and even more for teens- who are still children themselves”(pregnancy-period). This can bring many problems and will affect her in many ways, such as inher education. So, when a teen is feeling insecure and embarrassed about herself it’sobviouslygoing to affect her social life in many ways. It is definitely going to affect her relationship withfriends and family. Although some are going to be supportive, there are others who may notwant to have anything to do with her. She may be ignored and not accepted, which is absurdbecause this could happen to anyone. Pregnant teens are also going to have a hard time inschool. “ According to March of Dimes less than half of the teens who have a child before theage of 18 go on to complete their high school education”(Pregnancy-period).“Only forty percentof teen mothers finish high school; while seventy-five percent of all teens graduate” (teen). Ifthe teen actually continues in school she may have a difficult time. Classmates may disrespecther and some friends may abandon her. The teen may start having doubts on her education, andeven in the possibility of having a successful career. If she actually continues school, her
Ayala 3academic performance may become very low. It is actually good for a teen to get help fromothers when it comes to school because education is something very important. Withdetermination and dedication she can accomplish many goals, even with a baby. As well as teen mothers, teen fathers have a hard time. Some teen fathers drop out ofschool in order to be able to support their baby;Being a father means you need to give your childlove, attention, food, clothing, shelter and mainly financial support.Many fathers are usuallyolder than most teen girls. Studies say, “Four out of ten girls claim that the father of their childwas between two to ten years older” (Walker). This would explain why many are notresponsible for their child. “Every father is legally responsible for child support in every state”(Kidshealth). Child support pays for the child’s clothing, food, education, and health insurance.Some fathers won’t pay anything and ignore the child; in this case “he could be put in jail for sixmonths or on probation” (Spitzer). Teen fathers, who become fathers, may welcome the chanceto be with their children. Other teen fathers may feel guilt and are frightened. Teen fathersshould know everything that comes with a pregnancy and everything they have to takeresponsibility of. Not only must a teen worry about what goes around her,she now also has thatgrowing baby to care about. Lack of prenatal care is usually delayed because of fear of tellingothers about the pregnancy. What some teens don’t know is that there are some healthdepartments that are free or low cost and are patient confidentially, which means that you don’tneed parents. “Conceiving babies at such a young age can be life threatening for the teen andalso for the baby,” (Mazher).Health care providers discuss the importance of prenatal visits.They may discuss what the teen is feeling physically and emotionally, and also what changes toexpect and how to deal with side effects. “The body of a teen is still growing so she needs more
Ayala 4nutritional support for her needs and the baby’s. Nutrition counseling includes prenatal vitamins,folic acid, and dos and don’ts,” (Weiss). Lack of proper nutrition can lead to anemia. Manyhealth care providers stress the importance of prenatal vitamins and folic acid. “Folic acid isextremely important because it can help prevent spinal bifida” (kidshealth). Teens should alsoexercise, walking and swimming is very good. “Without proper care teen pregnancies can resultin premature birth, low birth weight, brain damage, physical disabilities and more” (Weiss); withproper care teen mothers can have a healthy pregnancy and a healthy baby. The biggest part of a teen pregnancy is parenting. Parenting is about developing a lovingrelationship with you and your child. Entering parenthood unprepared may bring frustration,resentment, and anger towards newborns. This explains why some “teens are at a higher risk forabusing and neglecting babies” (Kidshealth).“Children born to young parents often displayretarded physco-social development and malnutrition effects; this is because mother lacksparenting skills”(Mazher).There are many stereotypes towards teen parents. Some say “They arejust so irresponsible,” others, “There’s no way they are going to be able to raise that child, watchthem become a mess.” You would be surprised to see how many teens can actually prove themwrong and become successful people. Teens could take prenatal classes. “Prenatal classes offerinformation on trimesters, what to expect, nutrition, labor and delivery; after their child is bornthey offer parenting classes on how to establish bonds and learn skills” (Earnest). Parents shouldprepare them to see the practical side of parenthood by teaching skills such as feeding, diapering,child safety, and other basic techniques. Teens can also take public assistance, which is veryhelpful. “Places include WIC, Social Services, and Medicaid” (Earnest). Taking care of a babyis not easy or cheap; it’s hard work and can be very expensive. You have many options and
Ayala 5choices, but they are different depending on your situation; check your resources carefully. Withthe help from others, teens can also become great parents. In conclusion, a teen pregnancy is a big step to go through. They will have tolearn how to deal with their emotions without letting things turn them down. They will also needto learn how to cope with the idea that their life has changed completely. A teen pregnancy isn’tthe end of the world; with the love and support of others they will be able to succeed.