The Eight Truths defined here have been distilled through; observation over 30 years, of the behaviours and attitudes people display in the workplace and social situations; and investigation into the factors that drive people.

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2. Eight Truths
The Eight Truths defined here have been distilled through; observation over 30 years, of the
behaviours and attitudes people display in the workplace and social situations; and investigation
into the factors that drive people.
From these observations and investigations these Eight Truths have emerged as an answer to the
question “How do we get what we want out of life?”
It is our personal relationship to these Eight Truths that determine whether we get what we really
want and lead the life we really want to lead.
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Life is change.
You live in your outer shell, you drive from your inner core.
The brain is programmed to protect you.
Nobody can do it for you, you can’t do it all on your own.
It’s probably happened before.
Relaxed awareness is the key.
We live in an abundant world
You have to be able to say “I want..”
© I Want To Be Ltd 2012

3. When we have to make decisions
We all reach points in our lives when we have to make difficult decisions or choices and are not sure what
to do. It is our relationship to these Eight Truths that determines how we make our decisions and choices.
I hope this will help you tap into your own resources when you reach a decision point and are not
sure how to move forward.

4. Truths 1-4
1. Life is Change
When the world is changing around
you, your role in the world changes
with it. There is no such thing as
standing still. If you cannot adapt
change happens to you and you lose
control. Today we have to deal with
more change more quickly than any
other generation. Dealing with change
can be one of the most challenging
things we ever have to learn.
3. Your brain is programmed to protect you:
Your brain has evolved to protect you;
physically and mentally. We recognise the fight
or flight reaction to physically threatening
situations but our inner core of beliefs and
values can also be threatened. Your brain tries
to protect the beliefs and values that you have
developed over a lifetime. Your brain protects
them in the best way it can; by warning
you, through your emotions, when they are
being threatened.
2. You live in your outer shell, you drive from your inner
core: We all have a face we show to the world, our outer
shell. Our beliefs and values reside in our inner core. If the
life we live in our outer shell becomes disconnected to the
beliefs and values we hold in our Inner core, something’s
going to give; and if the life we live in our outer shell is not
in line with the beliefs and values we hold in our core we
will never give 100% of ourselves to what we do.
4. Nobody can do it for you, you can’t do it on
your own:
You cannot achieve your dreams and ambitions
on your own – whatever they may be. The fact
that it is a dream or an ambition means that
you are not yet what you want to be or you
don’t yet have what you want to have. This
means that you have to acquire more: more
skill, more money, more customers, more
followers, more understanding. Only when you
recognise that you need others to help you get
to where you want to go will you be able to
release the full potential that you have.

5. Truths 5-8
5. It’s probably happened before:
Whatever you’re going through or
trying to do the chances are it has
happened
before
or
been
experienced
by
someone, somewhere, sometime.
In today’s connected world it is
easier than ever before to learn
from the experiences of the people
that have gone before you.
7. We live in an abundant world:
Believing in abundance means you understand that there
is enough of anything that you could possibly want, to help
you achieve your ambition in life AND that there is enough
desire and need in the world to want what you have to
offer. Whether you are a “can do” or “can’t do” sort of
person comes from your relationship with the idea of
abundance. The opposite of abundance is scarcity. A belief
in scarcity leads to a defensive and protective approach to
life; a belief in an abundance leads to openness and
sharing.
6. Relaxed Awareness is the key:
A relaxed approach opens the door to whatever
course you want to take. There is a difference
between being relaxed and switching off.
Relaxation is not sitting in front of the TV with a
glass of wine, box of chocolates or whatever is
your fancy. It is a state of mind that helps you to
put aside the worries and cares that drive your
thoughts and actions and allows you to create
calm space for your brain to work at what it does
best: Looking after you.
8. You have to be able to say “I Want…..”:
You cannot get what you want if you can’t tell
yourself and others what it is. This might
sound obvious but many, if not most
people, find it difficult. It is only when you
are clear about what you want for yourself
that you can explain to others. If you can’t
ask for what you want in a clear, precise and
authorative manner then your chances of
getting it are slim .

6. The pages that follow use quotations to illustrate the Eight Truths.
We like quotations because they show us that other people have
faced the same issues that we all face at some time: that they
have put their minds and resourcefulness to finding a solution
and that in many cases the issues and quandaries we face have
been around for hundreds if not thousands of years.
Quotations can help us feel that we are not alone and that there
is a way through.

7. 1.Life is change.
If you don't like something, change it. If you
can't change it, change your attitude.
Maya Angelou
Because things are the way
they are, things will not stay
the way they are.
Bertolt Brecht
You must be the change
you wish to see in the world.
Mahatma Gandhi
The man who
views the world at
fifty the same as
he did at twenty
has wasted thirty
years of his life.
Muhammad Ali
If you do not change direction,
you may end up where you are heading.
If we don't change, we don't grow.
If we don't grow, we aren't really living.
Lao Tzu
Gail Sheehy

8. 2. Live from your Heart
Be
yourself.
Everyone
else is
already
taken.
When your
heart
speaks, take
good notes.
Judith Campbell
Oscar Wilde
Most important, have the
courage to follow your
heart and intuition.
Friendship with one’s
self is all
important, because
without it one cannot
be friends with
anyone else in the
world.
Eleanor Roosevelt
Steve Jobs
Looking back, you realize
that a very special person
passed briefly through
your life, and that person
was you. It is not too late
to become that person
again.
Robert Brault

9. Fear defeats more
people than any other
one thing in the world.
Fear is just the brain’s
way of saying “hang on a second”
Success is not
final, failure is
not fatal: it is
the courage to
continue that
counts.
Winston Churchill
Ralph Waldo Emerson
I learned that courage
was not the absence of
fear, but the triumph
over it. The brave man
is not he who does not
feel afraid, but he who
conquers that fear.
Mistakes are
always
forgivable, if one
has the courage
to admit them.
Bruce Lee
Nelson Mandela
People can be more
forgiving than you can
imagine. But you have to
forgive yourself. Let go of
what's bitter and move on.
Bill Cosby
Your emotions are the
window to your fears.
Take the time to look
through.

10. "There are three vital steps to
partnering success:
1.Determine what it is you
need but don't have
2. Determine who has what
you need,
3. Ask them for it, but, first
make sure you have
something they want or need.
Curtis E. Sahakian
If you want to go fast,
go alone;
if you want to go far,
go with others.
Every team needs a
hero,
every hero needs a
team.
As geese flap their
wings, they create an uplift for
the bird following. By flying
together in a V formation, the
flock’s flying range is 71%
greater than that of any bird
flying alone.
Find people you can flap with.
African proverb
The most important single ingredient
in the formula of success is knowing
how to get along with people.
Theodore Roosevelt

11. 5. It’s probably happened before.
Live as if you were to die tomorrow.
Learn as if you were to live forever.
Mahatma Gandhi
If I have seen further than
others, it is by standing upon the
shoulders of giants.
Isaac Newton
Learning from your own mistakes is
smart.
learning from the mistakes of others is
wise.
The difference between
education and experience...
Education is when you read the
fine print;
Experience is what you get when
you don't.
Pete Seeger
Get your wisdom as cheap as you can!
Stop paying the big price of pain by
not listening & learning from others
that have overcome it.
Good judgment comes from experience
So borrow it from someone else
Unknown
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12. 6.Relaxed Awareness is the key.
This art of resting the
mind and the power
of dismissing from it
all care and worry is
probably one of the
secrets of energy in
our great men.
Captain J. A. Hadfield
No matter how much
pressure you feel at
work, if you could find
ways to relax for at
least five minutes
every hour, you'd be
more productive.
Dr. Joyce Brothers
Your mind will
answer most
questions if you
learn to relax and
wait for the answer.
William S. Burroughs
Before you agree to do
anything that might
add even the smallest
amount of stress to
your life, ask yourself:
What is my truest
intention? Give
yourself time to let a
yes resound within
you. When it's right, I
guarantee that your
entire body will feel it.
Oprah Winfrey

13. 7. We live in an abundant world
The world is full of abundance and
opportunity, but far too many
people come to the fountain of
life with a sieve, instead of a
tank…a teaspoon instead of a
steam shovel. They expect little
and as a result they get little.
People with a scarcity mentality
tend to see everything in terms of
win-lose. There is only so much;
and if someone else has it, that
means there will be less for me.
.... the more we develop an
abundance mentality, the more
we are genuinely happy for the
successes, wellbeing, achievements, recognition,
and good fortune of other people.
We believe their success adds
to…rather than detracts from…our
lives.
Ben Sweetland
Stephen R. Covey
Doing what you love
is the cornerstone
of having
abundance in your
life.
Wayne Dyer
Abundance is about being rich, with or without money.
Suze Orman
Abundance is not
something we acquire. It is
something we tune into.
Wayne Dyer

14. The indispensable
first step to
getting the things
you want out of
life is this: decide
what you want.
Ben Stein
To be successful you
have to be selfish, or
else you never achieve.
And once you get to
your highest level, then
you have to be
unselfish.
Michael Jordan
Desire is the starting
point of all
achievement, not a
hope, not a wish, but
a keen pulsating
desire which
transcends
everything.
Napoleon Hill

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I Want To Be has been created to help you develop your self-awareness so that
you can express the value that you bring to the world with clarity; and in a way
that is authentic, credible and engaging.
The most valuable assets you have are your personal qualities. They are what
set you apart from everyone else.
Whatever your goals; it is your mindset and the personal qualities you can
harness and employ that will determine how successful you are in achieving
them.
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Dene has over 30 years commercial, leadership and management
experience; having held director roles within major national and regional
media companies. The most exciting of which was undoubtedly his time as
Advertisement Director at The Daily Mirror where he enjoyed working with
the charismatic Piers Morgan.
Managing large teams in multi site offices gave Dene the broadest possible
range of employment, team, motivational and performance issues to deal
with and was the key to his interest in personal development and
performance.
Dene is a licensed behavioural analyst and has a BSc in Management
Science from The University of Manchester, Institute of Science and
Technology.
His first book ResourcefulMe, was published in June 2013 and looks at the
subject of resourcefulness. It identifies 184 facets of resourcefulness and
how we can use them to be more effective in the work we do.
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