Every married couple has a fight now and then. If your marriage is healthy and you and your partner are able to go a few rounds without any serious damage and still feel close and connected, then congratulations. But, if you feel like you might need some help in getting your personal fight club under control, then Ana Loiselle, Relationship Coach is here with some useful suggestions.

1. do you sometimes feel like you are ready to bite
your spouses head off?
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2. Do you think she's getting
through? Do you think his
reaction is helping the
situation? Have you ever
handled a marital conflict like
this couple?
So, why do we keep falling into this trap?
I am soooo mad
at you!!!! You are
a jerk!!
blah, blah
all you do is
bleep!!
It's obvious that these
approaches are not effective
in helping you manage, or
resolve, conflict in a way that
will strengthen your
marriage.

3. Research shows that we
tend to react this way
because our brains are
wired for “Fight” or “Flight”
during conflicts.
However, research also
shows that humans can re-
wire their brains to handle
verbal conflicts in a
constructive manner.
Here’s two steps to re-wire your brain…

4. The moment there is
tense energy between
you and your partner,
it is best for both of
you to walk away
from the conflict for
at least 15 minutes.
During this time, you
can calm down and do
some inner work.

5. The second solution is a longer-term solution. This is
about doing enough inner work, such as the Inner
Awareness Process that we teach, so that your fears of
rejection, abandonment, and engulfment gradually
diminish. The more you learn to value yourself rather
than expect your partner to define your worth and
lovability, the less fear you have of rejection.

6. The less fear you have, the less you will be
triggered into the stress response of fight or
flight.
This is when you stop being so reactive and are
able to remain open and caring in the face of
conflict.

7. So, ask yourself if you
would rather continue
dealing with emotional
fall-out from poor
emotional awareness
and communication
skills
or…

8. make some changes and prevent
losing your marriage

9. A healthy and happy marriage is within the
reach of all couples who put the time and
effort into achieving it.
Learn even more skills and information
that can help you form and sustain a
healthy marriage.
Contact The New Mexico Relationship Center
505.999.1179
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