Parenting-inspire yourself

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Sometimes its too late by the time we realise the flaws of our parenitng...introspect and avoid it...if your are still lucky.

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Parenting-inspire yourself

  1. 1. PARENTING The only job we really care but.....don’t know anything about.
  2. 2. God could not be everywhere so he made mothers
  3. 3. The only profession that has been left to be done by amateurs (people with no training) is PARENTING The only profession that has been left to be done by amateurs (people with no training) is PARENTING
  4. 4. Every seed has a potential to become a tree
  5. 5. All depends on how it is cared?
  6. 6. You have to figure it out on your own
  7. 7. Because your child is the most precious to you than all the things
  8. 8. Sometimes it may be late…..to realize that you have failed as a parent……..too late.
  9. 9. T O P IC S • PARENTING STYLES • GOOD PARENTING TIPS • PARENTING MISTAKES • NEW TRENDS IN PARENTING • CHILDHOOD PSY. DISORDERS
  10. 10. Parenting styles 1.Authoritarian 2.Permissive 3.Democratic
  11. 11. Authoritarian: Limits without Freedom. • Parents are very controlling. • Punishment for breaking rules. • Praise are rarely given • Strict obedience is expected. • Children are instructed everything.
  12. 12. Outcomes • Obedient • Withdrawn • Unhappy • Rebellious • Not High Achievers
  13. 13. Permissive: Freedom without limits • Parents shower extra love. • No discipline is observed. • Parents make few demands. • Rarely punish • Non controlling, non-demanding
  14. 14. Outcomes • Aggressive • Least self—reliant • Least self-controlled • Least exploratory • Most unhappy
  15. 15. Democratic: Freedom within limits. • Middle ground between the two above • Parents set limits and enforce rules • Loving, consistent, demanding • Combine control with encouragement. • Reasonable expectations and realistic standards.
  16. 16. Outcomes: • Happy • Mostly self-reliant • Mostly self-controlled • Cooperative • High-achiever
  17. 17. T O P IC S • PARENTING STYLES • GOOD PARENTING TIPS • PARENTING MISTAKES • NEW TRENDS IN PARENTING • CHILDHOOD PSY. DISORDERS
  18. 18. Be available Your children need your presence more than your presents
  19. 19. For them LOVE = TIME
  20. 20. Quality > Quantity
  21. 21. Time management • Prioritize things. • List things to be done –TWM method. • Do things together…sms while watching tv • Use hands free while talking on mobile. • Fix time for children daily • Fix family time on weekends • Stick to schedules. • Learn to say “NO”
  22. 22. Be a role model
  23. 23. Take their ideas, emotions and feelings seriously.
  24. 24. Allow independence. BUT Set Limits
  25. 25. Do not set unreasonably high standards
  26. 26. Be specific in your instructions
  27. 27. Praise and encourage
  28. 28. Pray Together
  29. 29. Studies • Study environment at home • Supervise studies • Cooperate teachers and school • Choose good school and tuitions • Encourage kids • Accept failure maturely. • Never take away hope from children
  30. 30. Good parenting • Sensitively responding to the child’s needs (rather than ignoring their signals) • Encouraging desirable behaviour and strengths (rather than just stopping undesirable behaviour) • Setting firm limits consistently and calmly, supervising what they are doing and with whom (rather than exploding unpredictably, not knowing) • Transmitting caring values that respect others (rather than allowing rudeness and selfishness)
  31. 31. T O P IC S • PARENTING STYLES • GOOD PARENTING TIPS • PARENTING MISTAKES • NEW TRENDS IN PARENTING • CHILDHOOD PSY. DISORDERS
  32. 32. Common Parenting mistakes
  33. 33. Never compare
  34. 34. Never fight in front of children
  35. 35. Mind your tongue
  36. 36. Anything in excess is bad
  37. 37. Too much parenting
  38. 38. T O P IC S • PARENTING STYLES • GOOD PARENTING TIPS • PARENTING MISTAKES • NEW TRENDS IN PARENTING • CHILDHOOD PSY. DISORDERS
  39. 39. Parenting teenagers can be either one of the best or the worst jobs in the world
  40. 40. Talking to kids about sex
  41. 41. Parents are the best sex health educators for their children • Its a myth that if they know it they will do it. • When? Better a year earlier than minute later • Seek “teachable moments” • What? Common sense is the best guide • Trust yourself –you can talk as well as teach your kid about sex
  42. 42. Internet Safety
  43. 43. Internet safety • Talk to kids about internet safety and use • Monitor online activities(check history) • Limit usage in open area / family room • Use blocking software • Limited hours of internet
  44. 44. To beat or not to beat
  45. 45. Stealing money / telling lies
  46. 46. T O P IC S • PARENTING STYLES • GOOD PARENTING TIPS • PARENTING MISTAKES • NEW TRENDS IN PARENTING • CHILDHOOD PSY. DISORDERS
  47. 47. Some treatable conditions in children Bad outcomes are not always result of unhealthy parenting.
  48. 48. SOME moodiness, tantrums and anger is normal
  49. 49. ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder) • Extreme restlessness • Complaints from school about inattention • Interrupting others while talking • Breaking things • Has to instructed repeatedly • Cannot complete any task fully • Poor performance at school • Beats siblings/irritable at times
  50. 50. Anxiety disorders/ Phobias • Shyness in public/strangers • Embarrassed in groups,start sweating. • Avoids going out in groups • Fear of being judged. • Hate being centre of attention.
  51. 51. Depression • Depressed mood • Lack of good sleep • Poor memory and concentration • Poor hunger • Crying excessively • Thoughts of suicide
  52. 52. Learning Disabilities • Writing problems • Reading problems • Normal intelligence children • “Taare zameen par”- Dyslexia
  53. 53. Nocturnal enuresis (Bed wetting)
  54. 54. Summary • One of the most important things to remember as a parent is to be yourself. You can only use those methods with which you feel comfortable. A child can spot a fake a mile away. Select the methods that you believe in, that you feel comfortable with, and then be consistent.
  55. 55. • The truth of the matter is that only you can decide how good of a parent you’re going to be and until you come to realize that truth within yourself, no amount of good parenting tips you get from anyone else will be of use to you.

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