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A child's unexpected failure is a parenting crisis...how to deal with it....in a mature way...

A child's unexpected failure is a parenting crisis...how to deal with it....in a mature way...

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  • 1. EXPECT THE BEST BE PREPARED FOR THE WORST Dr.Trupti.S.Patel Psychiatrist(Udhna)
  • 2. EXAMS !! THE UNNESSARY EVIL.
  • 3. COMPARISON EASY TOOL TO IMPROVE
  • 4. BUT EVERY COIN HAS TWO SIDES
  • 5. COMPETITION DOES NOT PROVE A BOON FOR EVERYONE
  • 6. SOME PEOPLE ARE VULNERABLE TO FAILURE
  • 7. Is YOUR child one of them?? How would you know??
  • 8. Maybe........because
    • Last time he failed......
    • He is very sensitive...
    • He hates to be compared...
    • He is very tensed during exams and even for the results
    • He is a depressive or a crying baby since always
    • He always wants to come first
    • He is overconfident this time
    • He hates himself if he looses
    • He feels the only way to make us happy is if he comes first
  • 9. Are you parents at fault....
    • We want to be a doctor
    • We expect he has to come first this time
    • We want to show the sharmas that our kid can also come first
    • I have a spent a lot on the tuitions
    • We dont let him waste any time
    • No TV, No Cricket,No Friends,No phone.....a big list of NOs.
    • I have time...recession is going on....Ghar bhi to chalana hai.
    • We have our own emotional problems.
    • We dont get along...shouldnt his father also give him time.
    • My child is such a problem kid i just hate him
  • 10. OH MY GOD!!!..... HOW CAN YOU BLAME US
  • 11. DENIAL
  • 12. ARE YOU IN DENIAL....
    • I have done my best
    • I tried then i gave up
    • You spend a day with my child
    • We dont expect anything from him now.
    • He is a good for nothing
    • Today there is s much competition
    • We were really very good children
    • What can we do
    • See i took him to a psychiatrist...what more can i do
  • 13. I am Helpless......
  • 14. How will i handle his failure??
  • 15. FIRST. Deal with your fears
  • 16. HOW TO DEAL WITH FAILURE??
  • 17. WHAT IS FAILURE?? IT IS BASICALLY A STATE OF MIND
  • 18. BE PREPARED for the WORST.
  • 19. TALK TO YOUR KID BUT WHAT?
  • 20. TALK TO YOUR KID BUT WHAT?
  • 21. TALK TO YOUR KID BUT WHAT?
  • 22. WHAT DO I TELL HIM?
  • 23.
    • What is his expectation?(assess it .....how real it is)
    • What does he intend to do later?(is he flexible...is there a plan ‘B’?)
    • What if he fails like last time?
    • Does he know the consequences of failing?
    • Is he in the ‘Dekha Jayega mode’?
    • What does he think you guys will think??
  • 24.
    • Tell him you love him .
    • You love him for what he is , not for what he achieves.
    • You have expectations but you will not feel bad if he scores low
    • Because you know he has tried his best.and that is what matters.
    • We should see many dreams so that some of them come true.
    • We should never give up.
    • Time will help you deal with it.
    • There is someone who can help.
  • 25. Take care……..and ………………… Thank you.
  • 26.
    • Thank you
  • 27. Title