Bullying: A View from Both Sides Sponsored by CounterAction.Org Dr. Angeline Stuckey
In this Workshop <ul><li>Define bullying, language of bulling </li></ul><ul><li>A perspective from both sides </li></ul><u...
What is Bullying? <ul><li>Give your definition of bullying. </li></ul>
A View from both sides involves <ul><li>Children who are bullying and those  </li></ul><ul><li>who are bullied and those w...
Research Based Definition <ul><li>Repeated and Continuous… </li></ul><ul><li>Physical violence and/or verbal abuse (tease,...
Bullying; Behavior or Identity <ul><li>The language of bullying </li></ul><ul><li>Being bullied </li></ul><ul><li>She is a...
Causes for Both Sides… <ul><li>1. </li></ul><ul><li>2. </li></ul><ul><li>Write one thing that might cause each side of it....
Being Bullied <ul><li>Stress and Fear and Anxiety </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Headaches, stomach pains, irritability, and  </li>...
Doing the Bullying <ul><li>Anger-hostile behaviors </li></ul><ul><li>Physical fights, repeated arguments with adults, loss...
Does my child have this issue? <ul><li>Classroom </li></ul><ul><li>Gym </li></ul><ul><li>Lunchroom </li></ul><ul><li>Playg...
Look and Listen For… <ul><li>Peer rejection (not even one friend) </li></ul><ul><li>Poor grades in favorite subjects </li>...
Write what you might do if suspect bullying (group) <ul><li>I might </li></ul>
Suspected of doing bullying (group) <ul><li>I might </li></ul>
First… <ul><li>Relax, think and brainstorm </li></ul><ul><li>Seek teacher’s advice and help </li></ul><ul><li>Write down a...
What Parents  (teachers)  Do? <ul><li>Teach… </li></ul><ul><li>Social Skills (verbal skills) </li></ul><ul><li>Friendship ...
Social Skills (verbal habits) <ul><li>Be seen and heard… </li></ul><ul><li>Excuse me, Thank you, Please, May  </li></ul><u...
Friendship Dynamics  (friend/foe?) <ul><li>Is kind to me </li></ul><ul><li>Cares about my feelings </li></ul><ul><li>Show ...
Leadership Skills  (helping verbal techniques) <ul><li>Can I help you do that? Can I try  </li></ul><ul><li>it too? May I ...
Social Values   (school, home, community) <ul><li>Speak well of people in general </li></ul><ul><li>Difference in being/do...
Emotional Recognition/Regulation <ul><li>Fear, anger, sad, happy </li></ul><ul><li>Teach about feelings and how to  </li><...
Identity Development <ul><li>Artist </li></ul><ul><li>Singer </li></ul><ul><li>Swimmer </li></ul><ul><li>Dancer </li></ul>...
Self Esteem/Worth <ul><li>Set achievement goals  for maturity </li></ul><ul><li>Intellectual (book reading, grades) </li><...
References and Citations <ul><li>Bradshaw, C. P., et., (2007) </li></ul><ul><li>Espelage, D. & Swearer, S. M. (2003) </li>...
Visit CounterAction.Org <ul><li>http://www.counteraction.us   </li></ul><ul><li>Contact Dr. Angeline Stuckey </li></ul><ul...
Questions? <ul><li>1. </li></ul><ul><li>2. </li></ul><ul><li>3. </li></ul><ul><li>4. </li></ul><ul><li>5. </li></ul>
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January 19, 2012 - Workshop presented at Indian Springs Elementary for Parent University; Facilitator: Dr. Angeline Stuckey, CounterAction.Org

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Bullying--A View From Both Sides

  1. 1. Bullying: A View from Both Sides Sponsored by CounterAction.Org Dr. Angeline Stuckey
  2. 2. In this Workshop <ul><li>Define bullying, language of bulling </li></ul><ul><li>A perspective from both sides </li></ul><ul><li>Research based definition </li></ul><ul><li>Possible causes and consequences </li></ul><ul><li>Course of actions and solutions </li></ul>
  3. 3. What is Bullying? <ul><li>Give your definition of bullying. </li></ul>
  4. 4. A View from both sides involves <ul><li>Children who are bullying and those </li></ul><ul><li>who are bullied and those who are both </li></ul><ul><li>at various time periods </li></ul>
  5. 5. Research Based Definition <ul><li>Repeated and Continuous… </li></ul><ul><li>Physical violence and/or verbal abuse (tease, </li></ul><ul><li>gossip, social exclusion, obscene gestures) </li></ul><ul><li>attacks resulting in physical pain and bruising, </li></ul><ul><li>feelings of anger/rage, intimidation </li></ul><ul><li>(fear/anxiety) and worry. </li></ul><ul><li>Repeated/continuous aggressive attacks </li></ul>
  6. 6. Bullying; Behavior or Identity <ul><li>The language of bullying </li></ul><ul><li>Being bullied </li></ul><ul><li>She is a bully </li></ul><ul><li>Acting like a bully </li></ul><ul><li>He is being bullied </li></ul><ul><li>Involved with bullying </li></ul><ul><li>She is a victim of bullying </li></ul><ul><li>How should we talk about bullying? </li></ul>
  7. 7. Causes for Both Sides… <ul><li>1. </li></ul><ul><li>2. </li></ul><ul><li>Write one thing that might cause each side of it. </li></ul>
  8. 8. Being Bullied <ul><li>Stress and Fear and Anxiety </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Headaches, stomach pains, irritability, and </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>a disinterest in toys and games, low energy, </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>day- dreaming, fearful, nervous in general </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Stress-induced; divorce, separation, death, </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>developmental periods, unwanted changes </li></ul></ul>
  9. 9. Doing the Bullying <ul><li>Anger-hostile behaviors </li></ul><ul><li>Physical fights, repeated arguments with adults, loss of temper, anger and resentment, placing blame on others </li></ul><ul><li>Stress-induced; divorce, separation, death, </li></ul><ul><li>developmental periods, unwanted changes </li></ul>
  10. 10. Does my child have this issue? <ul><li>Classroom </li></ul><ul><li>Gym </li></ul><ul><li>Lunchroom </li></ul><ul><li>Playground </li></ul><ul><li>Home </li></ul><ul><li>YMCA </li></ul><ul><li>Church </li></ul><ul><li>Web </li></ul><ul><li>Multiple environments </li></ul>
  11. 11. Look and Listen For… <ul><li>Peer rejection (not even one friend) </li></ul><ul><li>Poor grades in favorite subjects </li></ul><ul><li>Aggressive social strategies (hollering, </li></ul><ul><li>hitting, throwing things, pushing, naming– </li></ul><ul><li>calling, etc.) </li></ul><ul><li>Symptoms of poor mental health [extreme stress (worry, negative anticipation), sadness, fear, anger, panic, day-dreaming, hostility, disagreeable </li></ul>
  12. 12. Write what you might do if suspect bullying (group) <ul><li>I might </li></ul>
  13. 13. Suspected of doing bullying (group) <ul><li>I might </li></ul>
  14. 14. First… <ul><li>Relax, think and brainstorm </li></ul><ul><li>Seek teacher’s advice and help </li></ul><ul><li>Write down a stepwise plan of action </li></ul><ul><li>Take the actions planned </li></ul><ul><li>List outcomes wanted </li></ul><ul><li>Monitor results/revise plan </li></ul><ul><li>Expect good results (outcomes) </li></ul>
  15. 15. What Parents (teachers) Do? <ul><li>Teach… </li></ul><ul><li>Social Skills (verbal skills) </li></ul><ul><li>Friendship Dynamics (friend/foe?) </li></ul><ul><li>Leadership Skills (helping strategies) </li></ul><ul><li>Social Values (school, home, community) </li></ul><ul><li>Emotional Recognition/Regulation </li></ul><ul><li>Self Esteem and Self Worth </li></ul>
  16. 16. Social Skills (verbal habits) <ul><li>Be seen and heard… </li></ul><ul><li>Excuse me, Thank you, Please, May </li></ul><ul><li>I have that? Can I talk to you? </li></ul><ul><li>Please don’t do that to me! I don’t </li></ul><ul><li>like that. </li></ul><ul><li>Teach kids to be expressive </li></ul>
  17. 17. Friendship Dynamics (friend/foe?) <ul><li>Is kind to me </li></ul><ul><li>Cares about my feelings </li></ul><ul><li>Show an interest in my stuff </li></ul><ul><li>Compliments me when I am good </li></ul><ul><li>Stands close to me a lot </li></ul><ul><li>Like to play with me </li></ul>
  18. 18. Leadership Skills (helping verbal techniques) <ul><li>Can I help you do that? Can I try </li></ul><ul><li>it too? May I show you how to do </li></ul><ul><li>this. </li></ul><ul><li>Let them help a lot at home, so they will </li></ul><ul><li>be used to helping </li></ul>
  19. 19. Social Values (school, home, community) <ul><li>Speak well of people in general </li></ul><ul><li>Difference in being/doing </li></ul><ul><li>Look for the good in others and expect to be treated well by others </li></ul>
  20. 20. Emotional Recognition/Regulation <ul><li>Fear, anger, sad, happy </li></ul><ul><li>Teach about feelings and how to </li></ul><ul><li>manage feelings by thinking things </li></ul><ul><li>through before acting </li></ul>
  21. 21. Identity Development <ul><li>Artist </li></ul><ul><li>Singer </li></ul><ul><li>Swimmer </li></ul><ul><li>Dancer </li></ul><ul><li>Biker </li></ul><ul><li>Skater </li></ul><ul><li>Bowler </li></ul><ul><li>ACT: List other titles </li></ul><ul><li>Cookie cook helper </li></ul><ul><li>2. </li></ul><ul><li>3. </li></ul><ul><li>4. </li></ul><ul><li>5. </li></ul>
  22. 22. Self Esteem/Worth <ul><li>Set achievement goals for maturity </li></ul><ul><li>Intellectual (book reading, grades) </li></ul><ul><li>Physical (sports participation) </li></ul><ul><li>Emotional/spiritual/social (show caring) </li></ul><ul><li>2. Identity Development (you are a good…) </li></ul><ul><li>http://store.samhsa.gov/home , upload Self </li></ul><ul><li>Esteem Building Guide (use with the kids) </li></ul><ul><li>( http://store.samhsa.gov/shin/content//SMA-3715/SMA-3715.pdf ) </li></ul>
  23. 23. References and Citations <ul><li>Bradshaw, C. P., et., (2007) </li></ul><ul><li>Espelage, D. & Swearer, S. M. (2003) </li></ul><ul><li>Pellegrini, A. D. & Long, J. D. (2002) </li></ul><ul><li>Stop Bullying. Gov </li></ul><ul><li>http://www.stopbullying.gov/index.html </li></ul><ul><li>National Mental Health Information Center (upload self esteem building guide to use with the kids) </li></ul><ul><li>http://tinyurl.com/brddzq </li></ul>
  24. 24. Visit CounterAction.Org <ul><li>http://www.counteraction.us </li></ul><ul><li>Contact Dr. Angeline Stuckey </li></ul><ul><ul><li>[email_address] </li></ul></ul>
  25. 25. Questions? <ul><li>1. </li></ul><ul><li>2. </li></ul><ul><li>3. </li></ul><ul><li>4. </li></ul><ul><li>5. </li></ul>
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