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THE COMPLAINT

 IN THIS SECTION, WE WILL ADDRESS DIRECTLY
 THE MANNER WHICH WE CAN BETTER
 MANAGE A COMPLAINT SITUATION AND ALSO
 MAINTAIN CONTROL OVER OUR OWN
 EMOTIONS WHEN THINGS GET “UGLY”
I’M ALL EARS
     3
L.E.A.R.N..
                      4

 “LEARN” IN ENGLISH OF COURSE MEANS
 APRENDER. IN THE WORLD OF GUEST SERVICES,
 L.E.A.R.N. IS A MODEL FOR COMPLAINT
 RESOLUTION. WHEN FOLLOWED, IT GIVES THE
 EMPLOYEE A SUCCESSFUL, STEP-BY-STEP MODEL
 TO RESOLVE ALMOST ANY PROBLEM WHICH THEY
 MIGHT ENCOUNTER WHEN CONFRONTED WITH A
 GUEST OR CUSTOMER COMPLAINT. THE LETTERS
 ACTUALLY REPRESENT FIVE KEY WORDS
 NECESSARY FOR COMPLAINT RESOLUTION;
 LISTEN, EMPATHIZE, APOLOGIZE, RESPOND,
 NOTIFY.
LISTEN  5

LISTENING IS THE FIRST KEY STEP TO PROBLEM
RESOLUTION. TOO OFTEN, IT IS A TOOL WE IGNORE FOR
MANY DIFFERENT REASONS. IN ORDER TO UNDERSTAND
WHY THE CLIENT IS DISSATISFIED, OR EVEN ANGRY, WE
MUST FIRST LISTEN AND FIND OUT WHAT THE PROBLEM IS.
WE MUST ALSO LISTEN (AND ASK) TO FIND OUT WHAT THE
GUEST WANTS. SOMETIMES, ALL THE GUEST REALLY WANTS
IS TO LET US KNOW THAT THERE WAS A PROBLEM AND BE
ACKNOWLEDGED. OTHER TIMES, THE GUEST EXPECTS
SOME TYPE OF COMPENSATION FOR HIS OR HER
DISCOMFORT. FAILING TO LISTEN (AND ASK) CAN RESULT
IN EITHER NOT SATISFYING THE GUEST OR OVER-
COMPENSATING THEM. LISTENING AND BEING LISTENED
TO IS ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS WE CAN DO TO
CREATE STRONG RELATIONSHIPS, WHETHER THOSE
RELATIONSHIPS BE WITH OUR GUESTS, CO-WORKERS,
FRIENDS OR FAMILY.
LISTENING STYLES-OVERVIEW
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1.   passive/not listening - noise in background - ignoring
2.   pretend listening - also called 'responsive listening' - using
     stock nods and smiles and uhum, yes, of course, etc.
3.   biased/projective listening - 'selective listening' and
     intentionally disregarding/dismissing the other person's views
4.   misunderstood listening - unconsciously overlaying your
     own interpretations and making things fit when they don't
5.   attentive listening - personally-driven fact gathering and
     analysis often with manipulation of the other person
6.   active listening - understanding feelings and gathering facts
     for largely selfish purposes
7.   empathic listening - understanding and checking facts and
     feelings, usually to listener's personal agenda
8.   facilitative listening - listening, understanding fully, and
     helping, with the other person's needs uppermost
1.Passive Listening or Not Listening
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Noise in the background - you are not concentrating
on the sounds at all and nothing is registering with
you. Ignoring would be another way to describe this
type of listening. There is nothing wrong with passive
listening if it's truly not important, but passive
listening - which we might more aptly call Not
Listening - is obviously daft and can be downright
dangerous if the communications are important
2.Pretend Listening.
                            8

You are not concentrating and will not remember
anything because you are actually daydreaming or being
distracted by something else even though you will
occasionally nod or agree using 'stock' safe replies. This
is a common type of listening that grown-ups do with
children. Pretend Listening reflects that there is an
element of deceit on the part of the listener towards the
speaker. You will generally know when you are Pretend
Listening because the speaker will see that glazed look in
your eyes and say firmly something like, "Will you please
Listen to me. I'm talking to you!" Especially if the
speaker is a small child.
3.Biased Listening or Projective Listening
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You are listening and taking in a certain amount of
information, but because you already have such firm
opposing or different views, or a resistance to the
speaker, you are not allowing anything that is said or
any noises made to influence your attitude and level
of knowledge and understanding. You are projecting
your position onto the speaker and the words. You
would do this typically because you are under
pressure or very defensive. You would normally be
aware that you are doing this, which is a big
difference between the next level and this one.
Misunderstood Listening
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  You have an interest and perhaps some flexibility in respect of the
  words spoken and your reactions to them, but because you are not
  thinking objectively and purely you are putting your own
  interpretation on what you are hearing - making the words fit what
  you expect or want them to fit. This is a type of projective listening
  like level three above, but you will not normally be aware that you
  are doing it until it is pointed out to you. This is a type of listening
  that is prone to big risks because if you are not made aware of your
  failings you will leave the discussion under a very wrong impression
  of the facts and the feelings of the other person. It's a deluded form
  of listening.
Arrogant people like politicians and company directors who
  surround themselves with agreeable accomplices can fall
  into seriously ingrained habits of Misunderstood
  Listening.
Attentive 'Data-Only' Listening
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 . Attentive Listening is a higher level of listening than
  Misunderstood Listening because it can gather reliable
  facts, but it fails to gather and suitably respond to
  emotions and feelings, and the situation of the other
  person, which is especially risky if the other person's
  position is potentially troublesome. This is a common
  form of listening among 'push and persuade' sales
  people. Attentive Data-Only Listening is typically driven
  by a strong personal results motive. It can be highly
  manipulative and forceful. This type of listening wins
  battles and loses wars - i.e., it can achieve short-term
  gains, but tends to wreck chances of building anything
  constructive and sustainable.
Active Listening
                                12

 This is listening to words, intonation, and observing body
  language and facial expressions, and giving feedback - but
  critically this type of listening is empty of two-way emotional
  involvement, or empathy. There is no transmitted sympathy
  or identification with the other persons feelings and
  emotional needs. This listening gathers facts and to a limited
  extent feelings too, but importantly the listener does not
  incorporate the feelings into reactions. This can be due to the
  listener being limited by policy or rules, or by personal
  insecurity, selfishness, or emotional immaturity. Active
  listening often includes a manipulative motive or tactics,
  which are certainly not present in the empathic level next and
  higher, and which is a simple way to differentiate between
  Active and Empathic listening.
Empathetic Listening
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 You are listening with full attention to the sounds, and all other relevant signals,
    including:
   tone of voice
   other verbal aspects - e.g., pace, volume, breathlessness, flow, style, emphasis
   facial expression
   body language
   feeling - not contained in a single sense - this requires you to have an overall
    collective appreciation through all relevant senses (taste is perhaps the only sense
    not employed here) of how the other person is feeling
   you able to see and feel the situation from the other person's position
   You are also reacting and giving feedback and checking understanding with the
    speaker. You will be summarising and probably taking notes and agreeing the notes
    too if it's an important discussion. You will be honest in expressing disagreement
    but at the same time expressing genuine understanding, which hopefully (if your
    listening empathy is of a decent standard) will keep emotions civilized and
    emotionally under control even for very difficult discussions.
Facilitative Listening
                                                      14

   This goes beyond even empathic listening because it implies and requires that you are able to extend
    an especially helpful approach to the other person or people. and to weigh the consequences of the
    other person's behaviour even if the other person cannot. In this respect you are acting rather like a
    protector or guardian, in the event that the other person is not being true to themselves. This does not
    mean that you are making decisions or recommendations for the other person - it means you are
    exercising caution on their behalf, which is vital if you are in a position of responsibility or influence
    towards them. Facilitative Listening also requires that you have thought and prepared very carefully
    about what you will ask and how you will respond, even if you pause to think and prepare your
    responses during the exchange. Many people do not give themselves adequate pause for thought when
    listening and responding at an empathic level. Facilitative listening contains a strong additional
    element of being interested in helping the other person see and understand their options and choices.
    It's a powerful thing. Facilitative Listening is not generally possible if the circumstances (for example
    organisational rules and policy, matters of law, emergency, etc) demand a faster resolution and offer
    little or no leeway for extending help. It is devoid of any selfish personal motive, other than to extend
    help, rather than achieve any sort of normal material gain. The other person's interests are at the
    forefront, which cannot truthfully be said of any of the preceding levels of listening. Facilitative
    Listening is not an age or money-related capability. It is an attitude of mind.
EMPATHIZE

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 WHILE YOU ARE LISTENING TO THE GUEST, PUT YOURSELF IN HIS OR HER PLACE.
 HOW WOULD YOU FEEL ABOUT THE SITUATION?
 HOW DO YOU IMAGINE THAT PERSON FEELS?
 WE NEED TO SHOW TO THE GUEST THAT WE UNDERSTAND HIS OR HER
  DISPLEASURE. LISTENING AND EMPATHY GO HAND-IN-HAND IN THAT THESE ARE
  THE IMPRESSIONS THE GUEST IS RECEIVING FROM US THAT WILL TELL HIM OR HER
  WHETHER OR NOT THEY ARE IMPORTANT TO US.
 LISTEN AND SHOW EMPATHY AS IF YOUR FRIEND HAD TOLD YOU A FAMILY MEMBER
  HAD DIED.
 THERE IS NO AGREE/DISAGREE OR JUDGEMENT INVOLVED AT THIS STAGE
 WHAT COULD WE DO IN A SITUATION WHERE THE COMPLAINT OR BAD
  EXPERIENCE WAS COMPLETELY OUTSIDE THE HOTEL (BAD EXPERIENCE
  WITH A TAXI, GUEST GOT ROBBED, ETC.)? WHAT OPPORTUNITIES PRESENT
  THEMSELVES FOR US TO TAKE CARE OF OUR GUESTS?
 REMEMBER…OUR GUESTS DON’T CARE HOW MUCH WE
    KNOW….UNTIL THEY KNOW HOW MUCH WE CARE!
HOW WE PHYSICALLY EXPRESS EMPATHY
           ( OR LACK OF)
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 EYE CONTACT (OR LACK OF)
 FACIAL GESTURES
 BODY LANGUAGE:
NODDING AND SHAKING OF HEAD
OPEN BODY STANCE (EMPATHY)
CLOSED BODY STANCE/FOLDED ARMS
 (APATHY)
APOLOGIZE

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WHAT (MOST) PEOPLE WANT TO
BEGIN WITH IS RECOGNITION OF THE
ERROR OR WRONGDOING THEY
SUFFERED. PERHAPS THEY WANT
MORE, PERHAPS NOT. IN THE WORLD
OF CUSTOMER/GUEST SERVICE,
THERE ARE A COUPLE OF TYPES OF
APOLOGIES. THE FIRST ALWAYS
OCCURS, WHILE DEPENDING ON THE
SITUATION, THE SECOND MAY ALSO
OCCUR.
APOLOGY- PART 1

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     NOW THAT YOU HAVE LISTENED TO THE GUEST AND EMPATHIZED
     WITH THEIR DISSATISFACTION, IT IS TIME TO TAKE
     RESPONSIBILITY ON BEHALF OF THE HOTEL FOR WHAT WENT
     WRONG.
1.     KEEP THE APOLOGY BRIEF AND DIRECT.
2.     MENTION SPECIFICALLY WHAT YOU ARE APOLOGIZING ABOUT
       (WHY DOES THAT MATTER?! IT VALIDATES THE APOLOGY)
3.     LOOK AND SOUND SINCERE. BE SINCERE!
4.     REMEMBER THAT EMPATHY IS STILL PLAYING AN IMPORTANT
       ROLE IN THE PROCESS
     “FIRST OF ALL, MR JONES, I WANT TO BEGIN BY APOLOGIZING FOR
     THE PROBLEMS WITH THE AIR CONDITIONING LAST NIGHT. I
     KNOW WITH THIS HEAT, IT COULDN’T HAVE HAPPENED AT A
     WORSE TIME. I ALSO HAVE TROUBLE SLEEPING IN HOT WEATHER,
     SO I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. PLEASE BE ASSURED THAT I WILL
     TALK TO MAINTENANCE TO MAKE SURE THIS GETS FIXED AND
     THAT IT DOESN’T HAPPEN AGAIN. PLEASE LET ME KNOW IF THERE
     IS ANYTHING ELSE I CAN DO FOR YOU.”
IMPORTANT:

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 YOU NEED TO REMEMBER THAT IN ALMOST EVERY
 CASE YOU DEAL WITH, IT ISN’T YOU PERSONALLY
 THAT THE GUEST IS ANGRY WITH, SO DON’T TAKE
 THINGS PERSONALLY. LIKEWISE, WHEN YOU
 APOLOGIZE, YOU’RE PROBABLY NOT ACCEPTING
 BLAME FOR SOMETHING YOU DID (OR FAILED TO
 DO) PERSONALLY. YOU ARE ACCEPTING
 RESPONSIBILITY FOR A FAILURE ON THE HOTEL’S
 PART AS A GROUP. ACCEPTING RESPONSIBILITY IS
 NOT A DEFEAT…IT IS PERHAPS THE MOST MATURE
 THING A HUMAN BEING CAN DO.
APOLOGY PART 2

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  “WHEN I MADE THE RESERVATIONS, I TOLD THE HOTEL THAT I
  HAD TO HAVE A MINI-FRIDGE IN THE ROOM FOR MY
  DAUGHTER’S MEDICINE. YOU GUYS TOLD ME THAT ALL THE
  ROOMS HAD FRIDGES. THE PROBLEM IS THAT OURS DIDN’T
  WORK AND THE MEDICINE WENT BAD. WE HAD TO GO TO THE
  AMERICAN HOSPITAL, SPEND THE HALF THE DAY THERE AND
  BUY MEDICINE. FORTUNATELY THEY HAD THE MEDICINE WE
  NEEDED AND IT DIDN’T EFFECT MY DAUGHTER”
YOU: I APOLOGIZE FOR WHAT HAPPENED WITH YOUR
  DAUGHTER’S MEDICINE MR. JOHNSON, AND FOR HAVING TO
  WASTE VALUABLE VACATION TIME AT THE HOSPITAL.
  WHAT CAN I DO ON BEHALF OF PALLADIUM TO MAKE UP
  FOR THE SITUATION YOU HAD TO DEAL WITH? WHAT DO
  YOU FEEL WOULD BE FAIR?
WHAT’S FAIR (PERCEIVED VALUE)
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 WHAT IS PERCEIVED VALUE? IT IS THE VALUE THAT A GUEST
 PLACES ON THE PRODUCT OR SERVICE IN QUESTION AND
 CAN DIFFER FROM GUEST TO GUEST DEPENDING ON HOW
 IMPORTANT THEY VIEW THAT PRODUCT OR SERVICE.
 PERCEIVED VALUE IS ESPECIALLY IMPORTANT IN AN ALL-
 INCLUSIVE ENVIRONMENT WHERE THERE ARE NO
 INDIVIDUAL PRICES PLACED ON THESE SERVICES OR
 PRODUCTS AND THE HOTEL CANNOT SIMPLY REFUND THE
 VALUE. THERE NEEDS TO BE FLEXIBILITY, CREATIVITY, AND
 COMMUNICATION

 IF YOU WERE IN THIS GUEST’S POSITION, WHAT DO YOU
 THINK WOULD BE FAIR COMPENSATION? BEING IN GUEST
 SERVICES, WHAT WOULD YOU OFFER? PERHAPS EVEN THE
 GUEST DOESN’T KNOW WHAT WOULD BE FAIR.
GOING THE EXTRA MILE
                      22

  “PLEASE LET ME KNOW IF THERE IS ANYTHING
        ELSE I CAN DO FOR YOU, MR JONES”

 USE THE GUEST’S LAST NAME WHILE HANDLING
 THEIR COMPLAINT. IT CONFIRMS THEIR STATUS
 AS SOMETHING MORE THAN A ROOM NUMBER.

 THE “IS THERE ANYTHING ELSE…” PHRASE OR
 QUESTION IS ONE OF, IF NOT THE MOST
 IMPORTANT THINGS YOU CAN SAY TO A GUEST IN A
 GUEST OR CUSTOMER SERVICE ENVIRONMENT,
 ALONG WITH “WELCOME TO____”.
BRAINSTORM
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 REFERRING BACK TO OUR LIST OF
 COMPLAINTS, CHOOSE ONE FROM EACH LEVEL
 AND FORM A RESPONSE AND RESOLUTION
 THAT A FRONTLINE STAFF COULD REFER TO IN
 DEALING WITH THE SITUATION IN A
 PRODUCTIVE MANNER RESULTING IN A “WIN-
 WIN” RESULT
RESPOND
                               24

   REACH A TENTATIVE SOLUTION OR COMPENSATION
BE CLEAR WITH GUEST AS TO YOUR LEVEL OF AUTHORITY IN “MAKING IT
   HAPPEN”
IF YOU HAVE THE AUTHORITY, ACT IMMEDIATELY
IF YOU NEED TO DEFER TO A MANAGER OR SUPERVISOR, GIVE GUEST A
   TIMELINE AS TO WHEN HE OR SHE CAN EXPECT AN ANSWER, AND
   START PROCESS.
YOU: MY MANAGER WENT TO EAT LUNCH. HE SHOULD RETURN
   IN ABOUT A HALF HOUR. AS SOON AS HE COMES BACK, I WILL
   TALK TO HIM ABOUT THIS SITUATION. WOULD IT BE OKAY FOR
   ME TO CONTACT YOU IN YOUR ROOM IN ABOUT AN HOUR?

ABOVE ALL, KEEP YOUR WORD. DOING SO CREATES AND/OR
  RESTORES THE GUEST`S FAITH IN YOU AND THE HOTEL.
  FAILING TO KEEP YOUR WORD ACHIEVES EXACTLY THE
  OPPOSITE.
NOTIFY
                      25

 YOU HAVE YOUR SOLUTION. MAYBE IT TOOK FIVE
  MINUTES OR MAYBE IT TOOK LONGER. YOU NEED
  TO LET THE GUEST KNOW RIGHT AWAY AS TO THE
  FINAL SOLUTION OR DECISION. DO NOT LEAVE
  HIM WAITING! APOLOGIZE FOR MAKING HIM WAIT
  IF THAT WAS NECESSARY. APOLOGIZE AGAIN FOR
  THE ORIGINAL SITUATION AND PRESENT THE
  SOLUTION OR COMPENSATION YOU (AND
  WHOEVER ELSE) HAVE DECIDED TO OFFER.
 YOU: I APOLOGIZE FOR MAKING YOU WAIT,
  MR JONES. AGAIN, PLEASE ACCEPT OUR
  APOLOGIES FOR {WHAT HAPPENED}.
  PALLADIUM WOULD LIKE TO OFFER YOU…..
THE ABUSIVE GUEST
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 DIVERT GUEST AWAY FROM THE DESK
 USE THE “INTERCEPT” TECHNIQUE AND DIVERT GUEST AWAY FROM OTHER
  EMPLOYEE IF IT LOOKS LIKE HE OR SHE NEEDS “SAVING”
 LET THEM KNOW YOU UNDERSTAND THEY ARE UPSET. YOU WOULD FEEL UPSET,
  TOO
 ASK GUEST IFYOU HAVE DONE SOMETHING PERSONALLY TO OFFEND
  HIM OR HER. KEEP YOUR VOICE LOW AND EVEN AND AVOID USING
  AGGRESSIVE BODY LANGUAGE
 LET THEM KNOW THAT IT IS NOT POSSIBLE TO ADDRESS THEIR COMPLAINT UNTIL
  THEY CHANGE THEIR BEHAVIOR
 “MR JONES, I UNDERSTAND THAT YOU ARE UPSET. I WANT TO HELP
    RESOLVE THIS PROBLEM BUT I NEED YOU TO CALM DOWN. I CANNOT
    HELP YOU IF YOU ARE SCREAMING AND YELLING AND I WILL NOT HELP
    YOU IF YOU CONTINUE TO MAKE ABUSIVE, PERSONAL REMARKS TO
    EITHER MYSELF OR ANYBODY ELSE. I`M OBLIGED TO WARN YOU, IN
    FACT, THAT IF YOU CONTINUE LIKE THIS, WE WILL CALL SECURITY.
    NOBODY HERE WANTS THINGS TO GET THAT FAR SO LET`S GO SIT
    DOWN OVER THERE AND TALK ABOUT THIS MORE CONSTRUCTIVELY.
    CAN I GET YOU SOMETHING TO DRINK, A SODA, WATER, OR COFFEE
    (OBVIOUSLY NOTHING ALCOHOLIC)?
BREATHE!

 USING DEEP BREATHING EXERCISES WILL
 HELP YOU KEEP YOUR COMPOSURE AND CALM
 DOWN YOUR BODY’S VITAL SIGNS
CONTROL YOURSELF, CONTROL THE
             SITUATION
 WHETHER IT’S AN ANGRY GUEST, A CO-
 WORKER YOU DON’T GET ALONG WITH, OR A
 MANAGER WHO YOU FEEL DOESN’T TREAT YOU
 FAIRLY, IT CAN HAVE ON EFFECT ON HOW YOU
 THINK AND FEEL ABOUT YOUR JOB AND HOW
 YOU HANDLE A DELICATE SITUATION. THE
 FOLLOWING ARE SOME TIPS AND THINGS TO
 BE AWARE OF…ABOUT YOURSELF!
ANALYZE, DON’T OBSESS

 IF YOU HAVE A BAD EXPERIENCE SUCH AS A
 VERY ANGRY GUEST, A DIS-AGREEMENT WITH
 A CO-WORKER, OR YOU GOT IN TROUBLE WITH
 YOUR SUPERVISOR, BE CAREFUL HOW YOU
 REACT. TAKE A FEW MINUTES TO ANALYZE
 THE SITUATION….THEN MOVE ON! OBSESSING
 OVER IT, AT LEAST WHILE YOU ARE STILL AT
 WORK, WILL ONLY PUT YOU IN A WORSE
 FRAME OF MIND AND VERY POSSIBLY HAVE AN
 EFFECT ON YOUR REMAINING INTERACTIONS
 WITH OTHER GUESTS OR CO-WORKERS.
EVICT THEM!

 DO YOU KEEP THINKING ABOUT THAT RUDE GUEST,
  THAT GOSSIPPY CO-WORKER, OR THAT UNFAIR
  SUPERVISOR? IN THAT CASE, THEY ARE RENTING
  SPACE IN YOUR HEAD LIKE YOU RENT A HOUSE OR AN
  APARTMENT. EXCEPT THEY ARE NOT GOOD TENANTS.
  THEY DON’T PAY RENT AND THEY CAUSE DAMAGE.
 DON’T LET THEM STAY. EVICT THEM! MAKE A MENTAL
  COMMITMENT TO YOURSELF NOT TO ALLOW THEM TO
  USE VALUABLE SPACE IN YOUR MIND.
 BEFORE ANYBODY ELSE DECIDES TO ENTER, MAKE
  SURE THEY PLAN TO USE YOUR SPACE ONLY IN A
  POSITIVE WAY. RENT THAT SPACE TO YOUR FAVORITE
  GUEST OR CO-WORKER. YOU WILL FEEL MUCH MORE
  POSITIVE ABOUT PEOPLE AND BE LESS LIKELY TO LOSE
  YOUR COOL.
D.A.S.H.

 A FOUR- STEP COPING TOOL CREATED BY
 PSYCHOLOGIST GAY LYNN WILLIAMSON WHO
 SPECIALIZES IN WORKPLACE PSYCHOLOGY
 AND DIRECTS MUCH OF HER EFFORTS
 TOWARDS THE HOSPITALITY INDUSTRY.
D-DEFUSE

 GET CONTROL OF YOURSELF FIRST
 AVOID PLACING BLAME..ON YOURSELF OR
    ANYONE ELSE
   PREPARE AN INNER DIALOGUE, A PEP TALK
    FOR DIFFICULT SITUATIONS
   DON’T APPEAR ANXIOUS-THE GUEST CAN TELL
   KEEP YOUR VOICE LOW AND CALM
   FOLLOW THE L.E.A.R.N. STEPS
THE PEP TALK


 (YOUR INNERVOICE TALKING)……


“This guest is really upset right now. I know it is not
  about me, they are upset about a situation and
  taking it out on me. I am going to have to take some
  extra time to find out what is really going on. I am
  completely capable of handling this situation.”
A-ANALYZE

 WORK TO GAIN A FULL UNDERSTANDING OF THE
    SITUATION
   ENGAGE THE GUEST IN GETTING AS MUCH
    INFORMATION FROM THEM AS POSSIBLE.
   REALIZE THEY ARE UPSET AND INSECURE ABOUT
    THE SITUATION
   LISTEN, EMPATHIZE, APOLOGIZE,AND TAKE
    NOTES. SHOW THE GUEST YOU ARE COMMITTED
    TO GETTING THE INFORMATIONYOU NEED TO
    HELP THEM.
   LET THEM KNOW, IF NECEESSARY, THAT BEING
    ABUSIVE WILL NOT SERVE THE SITUATION
   DON’T TAKE IT PERSONAL!
S-SELF TALK

 REMIND YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE IN CONTROL
 COACH YOURSELF “KEEP YOUR VOICE IN
  CONTROL”
 GIVE YOUR SELF POSITIVE RE-ASSURANCE;  ”
  I’M FULLY CAPABLE OF HANDLING THIS
  SITUATION”
 LIMIT YOUR CONVERSATION TO L.E.A.R.N.
  PROCESS AND INFORMATION GATHERING. OTHER
  THAN THAT, REMEMBER SILENCE IS GOLDEN.
 REMIND YOURSELF OF YOUR SELF-WORTH
  AND ENCOURAGE YOURSELF THROUGH THE
  SITUATION
H-HANDLE IT

 HANDLE THE SITUATION AND MOVE ON.
 ANALYZE WHAT YOU DID AND SAID THAT
 WORKED OR DIDN’T WORK. WHAT DID YOU
 LEARN? OK, NOW PUT IT IN THE PAST AND
 MOVE ON!
ROLE PLAYING
                     37

 PICK A “LEVEL ONE” COMPLAINT. TAKE TURNS
  BEING THE GUEST AND G/S AGENT. FIRST, DO
  A BAD JOB. THEN DO THE BEST JOB POSSIBLE.
  AFTERWARDS, JUDGES WILL DO A 1-10
  SCORING AND CRITIQUE.
 REPEAT THIS PROCESS FOR “LEVEL 2,3, AND 4
  COMPLAINTS”

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L.e.a.r.n....Conflict resolution and guest services

  • 1. L.E.A.R.N.:DAY FOUR created by and property of christian alexander & lorena perez gomez
  • 2. THE COMPLAINT  IN THIS SECTION, WE WILL ADDRESS DIRECTLY THE MANNER WHICH WE CAN BETTER MANAGE A COMPLAINT SITUATION AND ALSO MAINTAIN CONTROL OVER OUR OWN EMOTIONS WHEN THINGS GET “UGLY”
  • 4. L.E.A.R.N.. 4  “LEARN” IN ENGLISH OF COURSE MEANS APRENDER. IN THE WORLD OF GUEST SERVICES, L.E.A.R.N. IS A MODEL FOR COMPLAINT RESOLUTION. WHEN FOLLOWED, IT GIVES THE EMPLOYEE A SUCCESSFUL, STEP-BY-STEP MODEL TO RESOLVE ALMOST ANY PROBLEM WHICH THEY MIGHT ENCOUNTER WHEN CONFRONTED WITH A GUEST OR CUSTOMER COMPLAINT. THE LETTERS ACTUALLY REPRESENT FIVE KEY WORDS NECESSARY FOR COMPLAINT RESOLUTION;  LISTEN, EMPATHIZE, APOLOGIZE, RESPOND, NOTIFY.
  • 5. LISTEN 5 LISTENING IS THE FIRST KEY STEP TO PROBLEM RESOLUTION. TOO OFTEN, IT IS A TOOL WE IGNORE FOR MANY DIFFERENT REASONS. IN ORDER TO UNDERSTAND WHY THE CLIENT IS DISSATISFIED, OR EVEN ANGRY, WE MUST FIRST LISTEN AND FIND OUT WHAT THE PROBLEM IS. WE MUST ALSO LISTEN (AND ASK) TO FIND OUT WHAT THE GUEST WANTS. SOMETIMES, ALL THE GUEST REALLY WANTS IS TO LET US KNOW THAT THERE WAS A PROBLEM AND BE ACKNOWLEDGED. OTHER TIMES, THE GUEST EXPECTS SOME TYPE OF COMPENSATION FOR HIS OR HER DISCOMFORT. FAILING TO LISTEN (AND ASK) CAN RESULT IN EITHER NOT SATISFYING THE GUEST OR OVER- COMPENSATING THEM. LISTENING AND BEING LISTENED TO IS ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS WE CAN DO TO CREATE STRONG RELATIONSHIPS, WHETHER THOSE RELATIONSHIPS BE WITH OUR GUESTS, CO-WORKERS, FRIENDS OR FAMILY.
  • 6. LISTENING STYLES-OVERVIEW 6 1. passive/not listening - noise in background - ignoring 2. pretend listening - also called 'responsive listening' - using stock nods and smiles and uhum, yes, of course, etc. 3. biased/projective listening - 'selective listening' and intentionally disregarding/dismissing the other person's views 4. misunderstood listening - unconsciously overlaying your own interpretations and making things fit when they don't 5. attentive listening - personally-driven fact gathering and analysis often with manipulation of the other person 6. active listening - understanding feelings and gathering facts for largely selfish purposes 7. empathic listening - understanding and checking facts and feelings, usually to listener's personal agenda 8. facilitative listening - listening, understanding fully, and helping, with the other person's needs uppermost
  • 7. 1.Passive Listening or Not Listening 7 Noise in the background - you are not concentrating on the sounds at all and nothing is registering with you. Ignoring would be another way to describe this type of listening. There is nothing wrong with passive listening if it's truly not important, but passive listening - which we might more aptly call Not Listening - is obviously daft and can be downright dangerous if the communications are important
  • 8. 2.Pretend Listening. 8 You are not concentrating and will not remember anything because you are actually daydreaming or being distracted by something else even though you will occasionally nod or agree using 'stock' safe replies. This is a common type of listening that grown-ups do with children. Pretend Listening reflects that there is an element of deceit on the part of the listener towards the speaker. You will generally know when you are Pretend Listening because the speaker will see that glazed look in your eyes and say firmly something like, "Will you please Listen to me. I'm talking to you!" Especially if the speaker is a small child.
  • 9. 3.Biased Listening or Projective Listening 9 You are listening and taking in a certain amount of information, but because you already have such firm opposing or different views, or a resistance to the speaker, you are not allowing anything that is said or any noises made to influence your attitude and level of knowledge and understanding. You are projecting your position onto the speaker and the words. You would do this typically because you are under pressure or very defensive. You would normally be aware that you are doing this, which is a big difference between the next level and this one.
  • 10. Misunderstood Listening 10 You have an interest and perhaps some flexibility in respect of the words spoken and your reactions to them, but because you are not thinking objectively and purely you are putting your own interpretation on what you are hearing - making the words fit what you expect or want them to fit. This is a type of projective listening like level three above, but you will not normally be aware that you are doing it until it is pointed out to you. This is a type of listening that is prone to big risks because if you are not made aware of your failings you will leave the discussion under a very wrong impression of the facts and the feelings of the other person. It's a deluded form of listening. Arrogant people like politicians and company directors who surround themselves with agreeable accomplices can fall into seriously ingrained habits of Misunderstood Listening.
  • 11. Attentive 'Data-Only' Listening 11  . Attentive Listening is a higher level of listening than Misunderstood Listening because it can gather reliable facts, but it fails to gather and suitably respond to emotions and feelings, and the situation of the other person, which is especially risky if the other person's position is potentially troublesome. This is a common form of listening among 'push and persuade' sales people. Attentive Data-Only Listening is typically driven by a strong personal results motive. It can be highly manipulative and forceful. This type of listening wins battles and loses wars - i.e., it can achieve short-term gains, but tends to wreck chances of building anything constructive and sustainable.
  • 12. Active Listening 12  This is listening to words, intonation, and observing body language and facial expressions, and giving feedback - but critically this type of listening is empty of two-way emotional involvement, or empathy. There is no transmitted sympathy or identification with the other persons feelings and emotional needs. This listening gathers facts and to a limited extent feelings too, but importantly the listener does not incorporate the feelings into reactions. This can be due to the listener being limited by policy or rules, or by personal insecurity, selfishness, or emotional immaturity. Active listening often includes a manipulative motive or tactics, which are certainly not present in the empathic level next and higher, and which is a simple way to differentiate between Active and Empathic listening.
  • 13. Empathetic Listening 13  You are listening with full attention to the sounds, and all other relevant signals, including:  tone of voice  other verbal aspects - e.g., pace, volume, breathlessness, flow, style, emphasis  facial expression  body language  feeling - not contained in a single sense - this requires you to have an overall collective appreciation through all relevant senses (taste is perhaps the only sense not employed here) of how the other person is feeling  you able to see and feel the situation from the other person's position  You are also reacting and giving feedback and checking understanding with the speaker. You will be summarising and probably taking notes and agreeing the notes too if it's an important discussion. You will be honest in expressing disagreement but at the same time expressing genuine understanding, which hopefully (if your listening empathy is of a decent standard) will keep emotions civilized and emotionally under control even for very difficult discussions.
  • 14. Facilitative Listening 14  This goes beyond even empathic listening because it implies and requires that you are able to extend an especially helpful approach to the other person or people. and to weigh the consequences of the other person's behaviour even if the other person cannot. In this respect you are acting rather like a protector or guardian, in the event that the other person is not being true to themselves. This does not mean that you are making decisions or recommendations for the other person - it means you are exercising caution on their behalf, which is vital if you are in a position of responsibility or influence towards them. Facilitative Listening also requires that you have thought and prepared very carefully about what you will ask and how you will respond, even if you pause to think and prepare your responses during the exchange. Many people do not give themselves adequate pause for thought when listening and responding at an empathic level. Facilitative listening contains a strong additional element of being interested in helping the other person see and understand their options and choices. It's a powerful thing. Facilitative Listening is not generally possible if the circumstances (for example organisational rules and policy, matters of law, emergency, etc) demand a faster resolution and offer little or no leeway for extending help. It is devoid of any selfish personal motive, other than to extend help, rather than achieve any sort of normal material gain. The other person's interests are at the forefront, which cannot truthfully be said of any of the preceding levels of listening. Facilitative Listening is not an age or money-related capability. It is an attitude of mind.
  • 15. EMPATHIZE 15  WHILE YOU ARE LISTENING TO THE GUEST, PUT YOURSELF IN HIS OR HER PLACE.  HOW WOULD YOU FEEL ABOUT THE SITUATION?  HOW DO YOU IMAGINE THAT PERSON FEELS?  WE NEED TO SHOW TO THE GUEST THAT WE UNDERSTAND HIS OR HER DISPLEASURE. LISTENING AND EMPATHY GO HAND-IN-HAND IN THAT THESE ARE THE IMPRESSIONS THE GUEST IS RECEIVING FROM US THAT WILL TELL HIM OR HER WHETHER OR NOT THEY ARE IMPORTANT TO US.  LISTEN AND SHOW EMPATHY AS IF YOUR FRIEND HAD TOLD YOU A FAMILY MEMBER HAD DIED.  THERE IS NO AGREE/DISAGREE OR JUDGEMENT INVOLVED AT THIS STAGE  WHAT COULD WE DO IN A SITUATION WHERE THE COMPLAINT OR BAD EXPERIENCE WAS COMPLETELY OUTSIDE THE HOTEL (BAD EXPERIENCE WITH A TAXI, GUEST GOT ROBBED, ETC.)? WHAT OPPORTUNITIES PRESENT THEMSELVES FOR US TO TAKE CARE OF OUR GUESTS?  REMEMBER…OUR GUESTS DON’T CARE HOW MUCH WE KNOW….UNTIL THEY KNOW HOW MUCH WE CARE!
  • 16. HOW WE PHYSICALLY EXPRESS EMPATHY ( OR LACK OF) 16  EYE CONTACT (OR LACK OF)  FACIAL GESTURES  BODY LANGUAGE: NODDING AND SHAKING OF HEAD OPEN BODY STANCE (EMPATHY) CLOSED BODY STANCE/FOLDED ARMS (APATHY)
  • 17. APOLOGIZE 17 WHAT (MOST) PEOPLE WANT TO BEGIN WITH IS RECOGNITION OF THE ERROR OR WRONGDOING THEY SUFFERED. PERHAPS THEY WANT MORE, PERHAPS NOT. IN THE WORLD OF CUSTOMER/GUEST SERVICE, THERE ARE A COUPLE OF TYPES OF APOLOGIES. THE FIRST ALWAYS OCCURS, WHILE DEPENDING ON THE SITUATION, THE SECOND MAY ALSO OCCUR.
  • 18. APOLOGY- PART 1 18 NOW THAT YOU HAVE LISTENED TO THE GUEST AND EMPATHIZED WITH THEIR DISSATISFACTION, IT IS TIME TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY ON BEHALF OF THE HOTEL FOR WHAT WENT WRONG. 1. KEEP THE APOLOGY BRIEF AND DIRECT. 2. MENTION SPECIFICALLY WHAT YOU ARE APOLOGIZING ABOUT (WHY DOES THAT MATTER?! IT VALIDATES THE APOLOGY) 3. LOOK AND SOUND SINCERE. BE SINCERE! 4. REMEMBER THAT EMPATHY IS STILL PLAYING AN IMPORTANT ROLE IN THE PROCESS “FIRST OF ALL, MR JONES, I WANT TO BEGIN BY APOLOGIZING FOR THE PROBLEMS WITH THE AIR CONDITIONING LAST NIGHT. I KNOW WITH THIS HEAT, IT COULDN’T HAVE HAPPENED AT A WORSE TIME. I ALSO HAVE TROUBLE SLEEPING IN HOT WEATHER, SO I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. PLEASE BE ASSURED THAT I WILL TALK TO MAINTENANCE TO MAKE SURE THIS GETS FIXED AND THAT IT DOESN’T HAPPEN AGAIN. PLEASE LET ME KNOW IF THERE IS ANYTHING ELSE I CAN DO FOR YOU.”
  • 19. IMPORTANT: 19  YOU NEED TO REMEMBER THAT IN ALMOST EVERY CASE YOU DEAL WITH, IT ISN’T YOU PERSONALLY THAT THE GUEST IS ANGRY WITH, SO DON’T TAKE THINGS PERSONALLY. LIKEWISE, WHEN YOU APOLOGIZE, YOU’RE PROBABLY NOT ACCEPTING BLAME FOR SOMETHING YOU DID (OR FAILED TO DO) PERSONALLY. YOU ARE ACCEPTING RESPONSIBILITY FOR A FAILURE ON THE HOTEL’S PART AS A GROUP. ACCEPTING RESPONSIBILITY IS NOT A DEFEAT…IT IS PERHAPS THE MOST MATURE THING A HUMAN BEING CAN DO.
  • 20. APOLOGY PART 2 20 “WHEN I MADE THE RESERVATIONS, I TOLD THE HOTEL THAT I HAD TO HAVE A MINI-FRIDGE IN THE ROOM FOR MY DAUGHTER’S MEDICINE. YOU GUYS TOLD ME THAT ALL THE ROOMS HAD FRIDGES. THE PROBLEM IS THAT OURS DIDN’T WORK AND THE MEDICINE WENT BAD. WE HAD TO GO TO THE AMERICAN HOSPITAL, SPEND THE HALF THE DAY THERE AND BUY MEDICINE. FORTUNATELY THEY HAD THE MEDICINE WE NEEDED AND IT DIDN’T EFFECT MY DAUGHTER” YOU: I APOLOGIZE FOR WHAT HAPPENED WITH YOUR DAUGHTER’S MEDICINE MR. JOHNSON, AND FOR HAVING TO WASTE VALUABLE VACATION TIME AT THE HOSPITAL. WHAT CAN I DO ON BEHALF OF PALLADIUM TO MAKE UP FOR THE SITUATION YOU HAD TO DEAL WITH? WHAT DO YOU FEEL WOULD BE FAIR?
  • 21. WHAT’S FAIR (PERCEIVED VALUE) 21  WHAT IS PERCEIVED VALUE? IT IS THE VALUE THAT A GUEST PLACES ON THE PRODUCT OR SERVICE IN QUESTION AND CAN DIFFER FROM GUEST TO GUEST DEPENDING ON HOW IMPORTANT THEY VIEW THAT PRODUCT OR SERVICE. PERCEIVED VALUE IS ESPECIALLY IMPORTANT IN AN ALL- INCLUSIVE ENVIRONMENT WHERE THERE ARE NO INDIVIDUAL PRICES PLACED ON THESE SERVICES OR PRODUCTS AND THE HOTEL CANNOT SIMPLY REFUND THE VALUE. THERE NEEDS TO BE FLEXIBILITY, CREATIVITY, AND COMMUNICATION  IF YOU WERE IN THIS GUEST’S POSITION, WHAT DO YOU THINK WOULD BE FAIR COMPENSATION? BEING IN GUEST SERVICES, WHAT WOULD YOU OFFER? PERHAPS EVEN THE GUEST DOESN’T KNOW WHAT WOULD BE FAIR.
  • 22. GOING THE EXTRA MILE 22  “PLEASE LET ME KNOW IF THERE IS ANYTHING ELSE I CAN DO FOR YOU, MR JONES”  USE THE GUEST’S LAST NAME WHILE HANDLING THEIR COMPLAINT. IT CONFIRMS THEIR STATUS AS SOMETHING MORE THAN A ROOM NUMBER.  THE “IS THERE ANYTHING ELSE…” PHRASE OR QUESTION IS ONE OF, IF NOT THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS YOU CAN SAY TO A GUEST IN A GUEST OR CUSTOMER SERVICE ENVIRONMENT, ALONG WITH “WELCOME TO____”.
  • 23. BRAINSTORM 23  REFERRING BACK TO OUR LIST OF COMPLAINTS, CHOOSE ONE FROM EACH LEVEL AND FORM A RESPONSE AND RESOLUTION THAT A FRONTLINE STAFF COULD REFER TO IN DEALING WITH THE SITUATION IN A PRODUCTIVE MANNER RESULTING IN A “WIN- WIN” RESULT
  • 24. RESPOND 24 REACH A TENTATIVE SOLUTION OR COMPENSATION BE CLEAR WITH GUEST AS TO YOUR LEVEL OF AUTHORITY IN “MAKING IT HAPPEN” IF YOU HAVE THE AUTHORITY, ACT IMMEDIATELY IF YOU NEED TO DEFER TO A MANAGER OR SUPERVISOR, GIVE GUEST A TIMELINE AS TO WHEN HE OR SHE CAN EXPECT AN ANSWER, AND START PROCESS. YOU: MY MANAGER WENT TO EAT LUNCH. HE SHOULD RETURN IN ABOUT A HALF HOUR. AS SOON AS HE COMES BACK, I WILL TALK TO HIM ABOUT THIS SITUATION. WOULD IT BE OKAY FOR ME TO CONTACT YOU IN YOUR ROOM IN ABOUT AN HOUR? ABOVE ALL, KEEP YOUR WORD. DOING SO CREATES AND/OR RESTORES THE GUEST`S FAITH IN YOU AND THE HOTEL. FAILING TO KEEP YOUR WORD ACHIEVES EXACTLY THE OPPOSITE.
  • 25. NOTIFY 25  YOU HAVE YOUR SOLUTION. MAYBE IT TOOK FIVE MINUTES OR MAYBE IT TOOK LONGER. YOU NEED TO LET THE GUEST KNOW RIGHT AWAY AS TO THE FINAL SOLUTION OR DECISION. DO NOT LEAVE HIM WAITING! APOLOGIZE FOR MAKING HIM WAIT IF THAT WAS NECESSARY. APOLOGIZE AGAIN FOR THE ORIGINAL SITUATION AND PRESENT THE SOLUTION OR COMPENSATION YOU (AND WHOEVER ELSE) HAVE DECIDED TO OFFER.  YOU: I APOLOGIZE FOR MAKING YOU WAIT, MR JONES. AGAIN, PLEASE ACCEPT OUR APOLOGIES FOR {WHAT HAPPENED}. PALLADIUM WOULD LIKE TO OFFER YOU…..
  • 26. THE ABUSIVE GUEST 26  DIVERT GUEST AWAY FROM THE DESK  USE THE “INTERCEPT” TECHNIQUE AND DIVERT GUEST AWAY FROM OTHER EMPLOYEE IF IT LOOKS LIKE HE OR SHE NEEDS “SAVING”  LET THEM KNOW YOU UNDERSTAND THEY ARE UPSET. YOU WOULD FEEL UPSET, TOO  ASK GUEST IFYOU HAVE DONE SOMETHING PERSONALLY TO OFFEND HIM OR HER. KEEP YOUR VOICE LOW AND EVEN AND AVOID USING AGGRESSIVE BODY LANGUAGE  LET THEM KNOW THAT IT IS NOT POSSIBLE TO ADDRESS THEIR COMPLAINT UNTIL THEY CHANGE THEIR BEHAVIOR  “MR JONES, I UNDERSTAND THAT YOU ARE UPSET. I WANT TO HELP RESOLVE THIS PROBLEM BUT I NEED YOU TO CALM DOWN. I CANNOT HELP YOU IF YOU ARE SCREAMING AND YELLING AND I WILL NOT HELP YOU IF YOU CONTINUE TO MAKE ABUSIVE, PERSONAL REMARKS TO EITHER MYSELF OR ANYBODY ELSE. I`M OBLIGED TO WARN YOU, IN FACT, THAT IF YOU CONTINUE LIKE THIS, WE WILL CALL SECURITY. NOBODY HERE WANTS THINGS TO GET THAT FAR SO LET`S GO SIT DOWN OVER THERE AND TALK ABOUT THIS MORE CONSTRUCTIVELY. CAN I GET YOU SOMETHING TO DRINK, A SODA, WATER, OR COFFEE (OBVIOUSLY NOTHING ALCOHOLIC)?
  • 27. BREATHE!  USING DEEP BREATHING EXERCISES WILL HELP YOU KEEP YOUR COMPOSURE AND CALM DOWN YOUR BODY’S VITAL SIGNS
  • 28. CONTROL YOURSELF, CONTROL THE SITUATION  WHETHER IT’S AN ANGRY GUEST, A CO- WORKER YOU DON’T GET ALONG WITH, OR A MANAGER WHO YOU FEEL DOESN’T TREAT YOU FAIRLY, IT CAN HAVE ON EFFECT ON HOW YOU THINK AND FEEL ABOUT YOUR JOB AND HOW YOU HANDLE A DELICATE SITUATION. THE FOLLOWING ARE SOME TIPS AND THINGS TO BE AWARE OF…ABOUT YOURSELF!
  • 29. ANALYZE, DON’T OBSESS  IF YOU HAVE A BAD EXPERIENCE SUCH AS A VERY ANGRY GUEST, A DIS-AGREEMENT WITH A CO-WORKER, OR YOU GOT IN TROUBLE WITH YOUR SUPERVISOR, BE CAREFUL HOW YOU REACT. TAKE A FEW MINUTES TO ANALYZE THE SITUATION….THEN MOVE ON! OBSESSING OVER IT, AT LEAST WHILE YOU ARE STILL AT WORK, WILL ONLY PUT YOU IN A WORSE FRAME OF MIND AND VERY POSSIBLY HAVE AN EFFECT ON YOUR REMAINING INTERACTIONS WITH OTHER GUESTS OR CO-WORKERS.
  • 30. EVICT THEM!  DO YOU KEEP THINKING ABOUT THAT RUDE GUEST, THAT GOSSIPPY CO-WORKER, OR THAT UNFAIR SUPERVISOR? IN THAT CASE, THEY ARE RENTING SPACE IN YOUR HEAD LIKE YOU RENT A HOUSE OR AN APARTMENT. EXCEPT THEY ARE NOT GOOD TENANTS. THEY DON’T PAY RENT AND THEY CAUSE DAMAGE.  DON’T LET THEM STAY. EVICT THEM! MAKE A MENTAL COMMITMENT TO YOURSELF NOT TO ALLOW THEM TO USE VALUABLE SPACE IN YOUR MIND.  BEFORE ANYBODY ELSE DECIDES TO ENTER, MAKE SURE THEY PLAN TO USE YOUR SPACE ONLY IN A POSITIVE WAY. RENT THAT SPACE TO YOUR FAVORITE GUEST OR CO-WORKER. YOU WILL FEEL MUCH MORE POSITIVE ABOUT PEOPLE AND BE LESS LIKELY TO LOSE YOUR COOL.
  • 31. D.A.S.H.  A FOUR- STEP COPING TOOL CREATED BY PSYCHOLOGIST GAY LYNN WILLIAMSON WHO SPECIALIZES IN WORKPLACE PSYCHOLOGY AND DIRECTS MUCH OF HER EFFORTS TOWARDS THE HOSPITALITY INDUSTRY.
  • 32. D-DEFUSE  GET CONTROL OF YOURSELF FIRST  AVOID PLACING BLAME..ON YOURSELF OR ANYONE ELSE  PREPARE AN INNER DIALOGUE, A PEP TALK FOR DIFFICULT SITUATIONS  DON’T APPEAR ANXIOUS-THE GUEST CAN TELL  KEEP YOUR VOICE LOW AND CALM  FOLLOW THE L.E.A.R.N. STEPS
  • 33. THE PEP TALK  (YOUR INNERVOICE TALKING)…… “This guest is really upset right now. I know it is not about me, they are upset about a situation and taking it out on me. I am going to have to take some extra time to find out what is really going on. I am completely capable of handling this situation.”
  • 34. A-ANALYZE  WORK TO GAIN A FULL UNDERSTANDING OF THE SITUATION  ENGAGE THE GUEST IN GETTING AS MUCH INFORMATION FROM THEM AS POSSIBLE.  REALIZE THEY ARE UPSET AND INSECURE ABOUT THE SITUATION  LISTEN, EMPATHIZE, APOLOGIZE,AND TAKE NOTES. SHOW THE GUEST YOU ARE COMMITTED TO GETTING THE INFORMATIONYOU NEED TO HELP THEM.  LET THEM KNOW, IF NECEESSARY, THAT BEING ABUSIVE WILL NOT SERVE THE SITUATION  DON’T TAKE IT PERSONAL!
  • 35. S-SELF TALK  REMIND YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE IN CONTROL  COACH YOURSELF “KEEP YOUR VOICE IN CONTROL”  GIVE YOUR SELF POSITIVE RE-ASSURANCE; ” I’M FULLY CAPABLE OF HANDLING THIS SITUATION”  LIMIT YOUR CONVERSATION TO L.E.A.R.N. PROCESS AND INFORMATION GATHERING. OTHER THAN THAT, REMEMBER SILENCE IS GOLDEN.  REMIND YOURSELF OF YOUR SELF-WORTH AND ENCOURAGE YOURSELF THROUGH THE SITUATION
  • 36. H-HANDLE IT  HANDLE THE SITUATION AND MOVE ON. ANALYZE WHAT YOU DID AND SAID THAT WORKED OR DIDN’T WORK. WHAT DID YOU LEARN? OK, NOW PUT IT IN THE PAST AND MOVE ON!
  • 37. ROLE PLAYING 37  PICK A “LEVEL ONE” COMPLAINT. TAKE TURNS BEING THE GUEST AND G/S AGENT. FIRST, DO A BAD JOB. THEN DO THE BEST JOB POSSIBLE. AFTERWARDS, JUDGES WILL DO A 1-10 SCORING AND CRITIQUE.  REPEAT THIS PROCESS FOR “LEVEL 2,3, AND 4 COMPLAINTS”