(1) Chapter 14 discusses how honest feedback from others is important to recognize faults in one's strengths and "recalibrate" oneself. In the past, this role was often taken by a "Dutch Uncle".
(2) Randy's longtime mentor Professor Dam acted as his Dutch Uncle by giving him critical yet constructive advice that helped Randy realize ways he could improve himself.
(3) The chapter emphasizes that we all need someone who can provide truthful criticism to help us grow.
3. Well ( insert name here )….
Chapter 14 talks about how our strengths can also be
our faults.
When this happens, honest feedback from an outside
observer is crucial to “recalibrate” ourselves.
4. In the past, that role was often taken by a Dutch Uncle.
In Randy’s life, longtime Mentor Professor Dam was his
Dutch Uncle.
With the advice Randy was given, he was able to
realize his faults and better himself.
5. To keep it simple,
everybody needs a Dutch Uncle.
6. A Dutch Uncle
It was the first picture
that came up.
(We’re sorry.)
7. All pictures of Mr. T aside, what’s the point of the
book?
Actually there are three…
13. Randy Says:
“There is an old expression, "a Dutch uncle," which
refers to a person who gives you honest feedback”
“I tend to say what I’m thinking and what I believe…
these traits have mostly served me well. But there
are times when I’ve come across as arrogant and
tactless. That’s when those who can help you
recalibrate yourself become absolutely crucial.”
14. “He was actually saying, "Randy, you're being a
jerk." But he said it in a way that made me open
to his criticisms, to listening to my hero telling
me something I needed to hear. “
“I've been lucky enough to benefit over the
years from people like Andy, who have cared
enough to tell me the tough-love things that I
needed to hear.”
15. Now for something very Interesting…
Our responses to the questions we where
required really wanted to answer.
16. (one)
What was it about Dr. van Dam’s delivery and
message that resonated with Randy?
17. By sarcastically blaming others perception of Randy as
the problem (as opposed to Randy’s actual actions) Dr.
Van Dam’s message was said in a way that allowed
Randy to openly listen to his criticisms;
18. Much more so than if Professor Dam had directly
scolded Randy for his social behaviors.
19. (two)
Who in your own life has told you things about
yourself that made you reconsider your actions
or behavior?
20. (Mercy Says)
In my own life my brother probably can be my
Dutch uncle. He is a very truthful critic but can
be a little not as nice, but it does make a
difference.
21. (Andrew Says)
I guess my “Dutch Uncle” would my Grandma,
because if I didn’t listen to her the first time, I’d
hear it over and over and over again.