Ego and relationships - Chandramowly


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Ego and relationships - Chandramowly

  1. 1. ತಂ ೆಮಕ ೆ ಹದ ೆಟುದನು ಾ ೆ ಾತಂ ೆಮಕ ೆ ಹದ ೆಟುದನು ಾ ೆ ಾ?? ೊಂ ರುವರವ ಅಹಂ ೆಯು ೆಯುವನಕೊಂ ರುವರವ ಅಹಂ ೆಯು ೆಯುವನಕ ತಂ ೆ ಾ ಮಕ ಾ ಾ ೆಂಬು ೆದು ೆತಂ ೆ ಾ ಮಕ ಾ ಾ ೆಂಬು ೆದು ೆ?? ಬಂಧಮು ವ ದು ಬ ಕಬಂಧಮು ವ ದು ಬ ಕ –– ಮಂಕು ಮಮಂಕು ಮ ((174174)) Children hung on to you till the ego sprouts in them ‘Father-child’kinship deforms with growth between them When ego is upright , who is father? who are children? Relationship breaks, if it is not maturely grown
  2. 2. If EGO, is defined as self-esteem, it is indispensable. If we want to treat others with respect, we need to treat them as we treat ourselves. I cannot respect others, if I don’t respect myself. If EGO becomes, my need, my respect, my sensitivities and always comes first, beware, it’s aalways comes first, beware, it’s a dynamite Harmony at home or cooperation at workplaces are blocked by this ‘ I am right’ syndrome, the EGO People embraced by demonic Ego, can sacrifice anything and everything
  3. 3. Careless kith and kin, mocking and nagging husbands, wives and children are like pricks and pokes of a golden sword. Is it worth to remain related, fighting tooth and nail, on a daily basis? Or , is it better to learn to live together? Is departing to live happily a solution? Isdeparting to live happily a solution? Is there an assurance of peace in new relationships? Or the solution lies in me? Life is a tough choice Is this EGO play, a test for humans to achieve psychical distance of a spot of warmth near the fire, between the hot flames of attachment at one end and the cold shudder of detachment at the other end?
  4. 4. Static Relationships may die soon. There must be something mutual happening and it must develop and grow. This is true especially in workplaces. Being transparent andBeing transparent and direct, from the beginning, one can avoid misunderstandings, the virus of relationships. Respecting and accepting others’ point of view and objective discussions may help in developing relationships
  5. 5. How do I relate with the world? That’s the greatest lesson of Life. Our Family, Friends and Society are the real teachers. They teach in many ways of Reality, Symbols and Consequences. Is it fair to blame them, if Deep Love and affection some times makes us blind. When evil tendencies are incited, sowing psycho-fever, it may finally destroy us. (kagga 177) . fair to blame them, if we don’t learn? We look great in the Ego Mirror. We may know who and what we are. But, the world will decide and label us . We will miss to see that image, if we ignore the word mirror.
  6. 6. Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs. His bed was next to the room's only window. The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back. The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation. Every afternoon when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window. The man in the other bed began to live for those one-hour periods where his world would be broadened andfor those one-hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside. The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance. As the man by the window described all this in exquisite detail, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine the picturesque scene. One warm afternoon the man by the window described a parade passing by. Although the other man couldn't hear the band - he could see it. In his mind's eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words. Days and weeks passed.
  7. 7. One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep. She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away. As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone. Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside. He strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside the bed. It faced a blank wall. The man asked the nurse whatbeside the bed. It faced a blank wall. The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window. The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall. She said, "Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you." Epilogue: There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations. Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled. If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money can't buy. (Author unknown)
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