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    • SECRETS OF HAPPY COUPLES
    • • MARRIAGE IS A COVENANT BETWEEN A MAN AND A WOMAN TO LIVE TOGETHER AS A HUSBAND AND A WIFE THE REST OF THEIR LIVES.
    • • THIS UNION IS FACED BY MANY CHALLENGES THAT THREATEN ITS EXISTENCEUNLESS THEY ARE CAREFULLYAND WISELY HANDLED AND ON TIME.
    • • INDEED MANY MARRIAGES INCLUDING OURS WHO ARE SITTING HERE TODAY ARE FACED BY MANY PROBLEMS. IN FACT MANY OF OUR MARRIAGES ARE BELOW HAPPINESS AVERAGE. WE LIVE TOGETHER AS SPOUSES BECAUSE OF MANY OTHER FACTORS BUT NOT DUE TO A FULFILLING RELATIONSHIP.
    • • AS WE BEGIN THISLESSON, YOU HAVE TOBEAR THE FOLLOWING POINTS IN MIND.
    • • 1. HAPPINES OR SADNESS INMARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP DEPENDS SOLELY ON TWO PEOPLE, THE HUSBAND AND THE WIFE. ANYTHING OR ANYBODY ELSEINTERFERERS WITH YOUR MARRIAGE AS EITHER OR BOTH OF YOU ALLOW IT.
    • • 2.MARRIAGE AT ITS BEST IS LIKE A COMPUTER. YOU GET OUT OF IT WHAT YOU PUT INTO IT. IF YOU PUT DELIGENCE, LOVE, CONCERN, UNDERSTANDING, FAITHFULNESS TO EACH OTHER, CARE, TRUST AND FAITH IN GOD, YOU GET HAPPINESS, SATISFACTION, FULFILMENT, INTIMACY AND COURAGE TO FACE ISSUES IN LIFE.
    • • BUT IF YOU PUT SUSPISION, SELF-NTEREST, PRIDE, COMMANDS, DIRECTIVES, DOUBTS IN GOD, UNCOMMITMENT, UNFAITHFULNESS, YOU WILL GET FRUSTRATIONS, ANGER, PROBLEMS OF ALL KINDS, SOMETIMES SICKNESS AND EVEN DEATH..
    • • 3..YOU MUST KNOW THAT THERE IS NO PERFECT WOMAN OR MAN. YOU MARRIED A SINNER AND YOU SHOULD BE READY FOR SURPRISES FROMHIM/HER. MARRIAGE AT ITS BEST IS GAMBLING. YOUCANNOT KNOW A GOOD HUSBAND OR WIFE BEFORE YOU MARRY HIM/HER. REAL LOVE IN MARRIAGE COMES AFTER THE UNION, NEVER BEFORE IT.
    • • 4. HAPPINESS IN MARRIAGE COMES ONLY WHEN THE SPOUSES WANT TO HAVE IT AND WORK DELIGENTLY TOWARDS IT. ANYTHING GOOD IS WORKED FOR. YOU CANNOT EXPECT TO HAVE HAPPINESS IN YOUR MARRIAGE WHEN YOU ARE DOING NOTHING TOWARDS IT OR EVEN DAMAGING THE LITTLE IN IT.
    • THE FOLLOWING ARE TESTEDHIGHLIGHTS ON HOW TO HAVE HAPPINESS IN MARRIAGERELATIONSHIP. TRY THEM ANDYOU WILL PROVE THEM RIGHT.
    • • 1. HAVE A HEART SET TO LOVE AND SERVE GOD. LET HIM BE THE MASTER OF YOUR LIFE IN ALL YOU DO AND SAY. RESPECT HIM IN ALL PLACES, EVENTS, ACTIVITIES SITUATIONS AND ASSOCIATIONS. JOB 22:21
    • • 2. LOVE YOUR SPOUSE. MORE THAN ANY OTHER PERSON OR THING UNDER THE SUN DO NOT VALUE ANY PERSON UNDER THESUN MORE THAN YOUR SPOUSE.
    • • 3. DO YOUR HONEST PART INAND FOR YOUR MARRIAGE TO MAKE IT HAPPY. DO NOT SIT AND ORDER, COMMAND OR DIRECT YOUR SPOUSE TO DOWHAT YOU SHOULD WHILE YOU ARE NOT PARTICIPATING
    • • 4. BE WILLING TOCHANGE YOUR FORMER ATTITUDES ANDBEHAVIORS THAT MIGHTOFFEND YOUR SPOUSE.
    • • 5.. CREATE TIME TO BE TOGETHER WITH YOUR SPOUSEAS MUCH AS YOU ARE ABLE TO, TO SHARE, DISCUSS, PLAN,RELAX AND EVEN ENJOY EACH OTHER. THAT IS WHY WE ARE HERE.
    • • 6. PRACTICE FORGIVENESS AND TOLERANCE AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE.TWO PEOPLELIVING TOGETHER WILL HAVEFRICTIONS OF SOME SORT AT TIMES. YOU MUST LEARN THE ART OF LIVING TOGETHER.
    • • 7. HAVE REGULAR AND SATISFYING SEXUAL RELATION- SHIP TO EACH OTHER AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE. KNOW THAT SATSFYING SEX TO A LOVING MARRIED COUPLE SOLVES MORE THAN 60% OF MARITAL SQUABLES
    • • 8. COMMUNICATE WITH EACH OTHER AS OFTEN AND AS FREELY AS POSSIBLE IN THE RIGHT WAY AND AT THE RIGHT TIME. USE THE RIGHT WORDS AND PHRASES. CARE FOR BODY GESTURES AND EXPRESSIONS
    • • 9. ALWAYS HANDLE YOUR FAMILY ISSUES AND PROBLEM AS A TEAM. ATTACKING EACH OTHER IS DEADLYTO MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP. EVEN IFONE IS TO BLAME OR CORRECT, DO ITIN LOVE. AT ALL COST AVOID ‘HOLIERTHAN THOU’ ATTITUDE TOWARDS YOUR SPOUSE.
    • 10. SERVE EACH OTHER FREELY, ALWAYS ANDWILLINGLY SO THAT EACHONE OF YOU FEELS LOVED AND WANTED.
    • • 11. BE FAITHFUL TO EACH OTHER IN MATTERS OF SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP.NO EXTRA MARITAL RELATIONSHIP. NO DENYING OR REFUSING CONJUGAL RIGHTS TO YOUR SPOUSE.
    • • 12. HANDLE YOUR PARENTS AND BROTHERS AND SISTERS CAREFULLY IN RELATIONSHIP TO YOUR SPOUSE AND MARRIAGE. YOUR PARENTS AND RELATIVES CAN TERRIBLY AFFECT OR EVEN DAMAGE YOUR MARRIAGE.
    • • 13. NEVER HAVE SECRETS WHICH YOUR SPOUSE DOES NOT KNOW, MORE SO ON YOUR PROPERTY OR, INVESTMENTS. IF YOU OWE ANYBODY ANYTHING, LET YOUR SPOUSE KNOW SO THAT IN THE EVENT OF INSTANT DEATH, HE/SHE WILL BE ABLE TO HANDLE THE MATTER.
    • • 14. LET THE WIFE BE SUBMISSIVE TO THE HUASBAND ALWAYS, GIVING HIM RESPECT ASTHE HEADS OF THE FAMILY. EPHE 522-24
    • • SHE SHOULD MANAGE HER HOME WELL, ESPECIALLY IN MATTERS OF HOME MAKING. SHE SHOULD MAKE SURE THAT THE GIRL CHILD IS WELL BROUGHT UP, WITH RIGHT FEMININE MANNERS; PROPER DRESSING, APPROPRIATE MAKE UPS, GOOD BEHAVIOR AND ACCEPTABLE RESPECT.
    • • 15. LET THE HUSBAND LOVE HIS WIFE SACRIFICIALLY, CARING FOR AND CHERISHING HER IN ALL THINGS, KNOWING THAT SHE IS A WEAKER VESSEL, AND A FELLOW HEIR OF GOD’S GRACE. EPHE 5:25-27, 1PETER 3:7.
    • • HE SHOULD BE THE HEAD OF THE FAMILY, DIRECTING RULING AND MANGING HIS HOME WELL HE SHOULD MAKE SURE THE BOY CHILD IS WELL BROUGHT UP AS A MAN, RESPECT HIS MOTHER AND ALL FEMALES BOTH AT HOME AND OUTSIDE.
    • • 16.MAKE ROOM FOR SEPERATENESS. MISSINGYOUR SPOUSE FOR A DAYTWO OR A WEEK CREATES THIRST TO BE TOGETHER.
    • • 19. PRACTICE GOING TO BED TOGETHER. THIS HELPS TO CEMENT YOUR INTIMACY AND ONENNESS. BEING LEFT IN THE SITTING ROOM TILL MIDNIGHT WATCHING FOOTBALL MATCH, THE NIGERIAN MOVIES OR ANY THING ELSE THAT CAN BE AVOIDED IS NOT HEALTH FOR A COUPLE’S RELATIONSHIP.
    • • 21. GENUINELY AND CONSTANTLY EXPRESS YOUR LOVE TO YOUR SPOUSE. THIS MAY BE HOLDING HANDS TOGETHER, JUST SAYING THAT YOU LOVE HIM/HER, AN EXPRESSIVE EYE CONTACT AND MUCH MORE GOES ALL THE WAY TO STRENGTHEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
    • • 21. REGULARLY SHARING HEART FELT AFFECTIONS SUCH AS KISSING, HUGGING AND BODY TOUCHES WHICH IN MOST CASES SHOULD NOT BE SEXUALADVANCES THOUGH IN THE LONG RUN THEY ENHANCE IT.
    • 22. KEEP YOUR SELF AS ATTRACTIVE AS POSSIBLE TO AND FOR YOUR SPOUSE. THE FACT THAT YOU ARE MARRIED DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU BECOME CARELESS IN YOUR PHYSICAL APPEARANCE, TEETH AND BODY SMELL, DRESS COLOR COMBINATION, HAIR DRESSINGS AND CUT, BEARD TRIMING ETC.
    • • 23 PRACTICE GENEROSITY. GIVE FREELY TO YOUR SPOUSE ALL THINGS BUT MORE SO LOVE. GIVE TO OTHER PEOPLE WHAT YOUCAN GIVE AND YOU WILL BE BLESSED.
    • • 24 BE THANKFUL ALL THE TIME, FIRST TO GOD, THEN TO YOUR SPOUSE FOR ALL HE/SHE IS AND OR HAS DONE. PRACTICE TO SAY, ‘THANK YOU, I APPRECIATE’
    • • 25. BOTH SHOULD LOOK AT THE FUTURE. WHAT WILL YOU BE 30 YEARS FROM TODAY? AND HOW ARE YOU BOTH WORKING TOWARDS THAT? HOW WILL YOU LIVE WITHOUT PARENTS, CHILDREN AND WHEN RETIRED? YOU MUST PREPARE FOR IT NOW.
    • • 26. PRAY FOR YOUR SPOUSE DEARLY AND CONSTANTLY. ASK THE LORD TO GIVE YOU A GENUINE HEART TO LOVE HIM/HER IN THE BEST WAY POSSIBLE.
    • • 27. WHEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP SEEMS TO BE GOING BAD, RECALLTHE PAST POSITIVE THINGS IN YOUR LIFE. WHAT BROUGHT YOU TOGETHER? CAN YOU GO BACK AND TRY TO REKINDLE THAT LOVE!