How to Stop a Kid from Cursing<br />What to do when your child leaves you thinking, "What the F did you just say?"<br />
It was a normal evening at home: Kate* was preparing dinner, while her six-year-old daughter and nine-year-old son bickered at the table. Suddenly, her son called out, "Mom! Sarah said the b-word! She just called me the b-word!” <br />What should you do if you’re in this situation?<br />
Don't overreact. <br />No matter what age your child is, address it immediately and calmly.<br />Start simple: say "No swearing ever."<br />For older kids, who can think more abstractly, you should explain why swearing is not okay.<br />Remember, at some point, every kid will curse. Your goal is to make sure to help kids express their feelings, to talk and present themselves in the best way -- as well as to set boundaries. <br />
Nip it in the bud. <br />Some parents believe that calling attention to a child's inappropriate words will only encourage the behavior, so they choose to ignore these transgressions.<br />Respond promptly to behavior observing that "We can't assume kids know how to act unless we teach them. If you talk to them, they will get the message that there's a better way to respond."<br />Ask your child first whether he or she understands the word.<br />If the answer is "no," explain that the word is offensive, that it effects how others receive you, and that it is not acceptable<br />
Don't be tempted by YouTube fame. <br />A video of your cursing toddler might launch your child into his fifteen minutes at a young age, but curb the desire to pull out your videophone the next time he swears.<br />Doing so only positively reinforces the behavior and sends a double message -- I don't want you to swear, but swearing will make my friends laugh hysterically, so could you do it one more time and look into the camera? <br />
Be honest.<br />When you reprimand your child, he or she might retort, "But I heard you/Daddy say it."<br />Resist the urge to deny or justify your own swearing. Instead, admit that you also struggle to control what you say.<br />By doing so you won't create a double standard -- and you'll get the added bonus of making your child feel like he is facing an adult problem.<br />
Find new words. <br />Sit down with your child and brainstorm new, non-offensive words or phrases to say when she feels frustrated, upset, or angry.<br />More often than not, children say these words when name-calling.<br />Use this incident to discuss your child's feelings toward an acquaintance or sibling.<br />Encourage them to use other, different words to describe how the person makes her feel.<br />
Create consequences. <br />If none of the above work, or if your child has already made a habit of swearing, you need stronger measures to show him that this behavior is not appropriate.<br />Tell him that every time he swears at home, you will take fifty cents from his allowance or assign him new household chore.<br />
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