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  1. 1. 50Cents trinidad Colorado ~ Vol. 138, No. 85 tuesday april29,2014 APRIL 29 ~Mammography Project APRIL 29 (5:30 p.m.) A public meeting will be held in the boardroom at the Mt. San Rafael Hospital, 410 Benedicta Ave. to dis- cuss this project and grant submission to the USDA Information: 719-846-8053. ~Trinidad Schools TUESDAY (6 m.) Board of Education will hold a special meeting at the Middle School Library, 614 Park St. Information: 719-846- 3324. Today’s Quote “Tell the truth, work hard, and come to dinner on time.” ~Gerald R. Ford APRIL 30 ~Latin Golf Scholarship APRIL 30 DEADLINE: Applications may be picked up at all Las Animas County high school counselor’s offices and at Chacon Insurance, 125 E. Main St. High school and college students are eligible. Sponsored by the Trinidad Latin Golf Association. Informa- tion: 719-846-9253. ~TSJC Nursing Job Fair WEDNESDAY (9-11 a.m.) Trinidad State Junior College will hold a free Nursing Job Fair in the Pioneer Room of the Sullivan Center on the TSJC campus. Information: 719-846-5530. PUBLIC SERVICE ~Help Save the Veteran’s Post URGENT: All interested parties who would like to help the veterans save Trini- dad’s local VFW Post 984 from closing, please contact Commander John Rios at 719-846-6094. The Post is in desperate need of caring individuals to champion this organization that provides so many honor- able benefits to the community. ~Free Fluoride Treatments THURSDAY (9 a.m.-1 p.m.) Dr. Den- nis Driscoll will be at the Las Animas County Health Department, 412 Benedicta Ave., to provide treatments to children age 1-year and over. Appointments and information: 719-845-0463. ~Trinidad Children’s Chorale THURSDAY (7 p.m.) The community is invited to the annual spring concert “Trin- Idol” to be presented at the Trinidad Middle School Auditorium, 614 Park St. Information: 719-846-4411. ~Free Disposal Day/Spring Cleanup SATURDAY (7 a.m.-4 p.m.) The City of Trinidad Landfill, 2401 N. State Street will ac- cept residential refuse without charge. Tires will be assessed normal fees. Electronic waste is excluded. Information: 719-846- 2538. ~9Health Fair SATURDAY (7:30 a.m.-Noon) Annual 9Health Fair will be in the lobby of the Mt. San Rafael Hospital, 410 Benedicta Ave. In- formation: 719-846-8051. ~Benefit Yard Sale SATURDAY (8 a.m.) New Hope Min- istries will host a book, bake and yard sale benefit fundraiser at the Old Wagon Wheel, 38096 Hwy 160, 2 miles east of Trinidad. Proceeds benefit the church’s building proj- ects. Information or donations: Lauri Duran, 719-846-8590. ~Aguilar Spring Cleanup SATURDAY (8:30-11:30 a.m.) Second annual event begins in the City Park with barbecue lunch provided for volunteers after the clean-up. Information: 719-941-4185. ~Lion’s Club Benefit SATURDAY (9 a.m.-3 p.m. / Flea Market & 4:30-7 p.m. Chili Supper) An- nual fundraiser for the Lion’s Club charitable projects will be held at the Izaak Walton Building, 1900 Santa Fe Trail Drive. Interest- ed vendors and information: Jack Maurer, 719-680-8510. ~Community Chorale MAY 4 (4 p.m.) & MAY 5 (7 p.m.) The public is invited to attend a free concert “Hats Off to Broadway” that will be pre- sented at the Methodist Church, 216 Broom Street. Donations for the support of the cho- rale are always appreciated. ~Raton PBW Scholarship MAY 7 DEADLINE: A $500 scholarship for continuing education is available to any student or person in the work force in Colfax County. Information: Diane Dixon, 575-445- 2713. ~Adopt a City Planter MAY 9 DEADLINE: Individuals, or- ganizations and businesses interested in participating in the City’s “Adopt a Planter” program, scheduled to run from May thru September, can contact David Esquibel at the Parks Dept., 719-846-7699. ~Calling all History Lovers MAY-SEPTEMBER: Anyone interested in volunteering for summer service at the Santa Fe Trail Museum please contact Paula Manini at 719-846-7217. ~ArtoCade 2014 CALLING ALL VOLUNTEERS: Anyone interested in participating in the Cardango Gala and all other events before and during the annual ArtoCade Festival please contact Rodney Wood at 719-334-0087 or artcar- fun@yahoo.com. theFineprint WeatherWatCh Tuesday: Partly sunny, with a high near 51. Breezy, with a north wind 15 to 20 mph. Night: A 10 percent chance of showers before midnight. Mostly cloudy, with a low around 29. Blustery, with a north wind 15 to 20 mph de- creasing to 10 to 15 mph after midnight. Wednesday: A 10 percent chance of showers after noon. Mostly cloudy, with a high near 47. North wind 10 to 15 mph. Night: A slight chance of rain showers. Mostly cloudy, with a low around 31. N-NE wind 5 to 15 mph becoming northwest after midnight. Chance of precipitation is 20%. Thursday: Mostly sunny, with a high near 51. North wind 5 to 15 mph. Night: Partly cloudy, with a low around 34. N-NE wind 5 to 10 mph becoming W-SW after midnight. Friday: A 10 percent chance of showers. Mostly sunny, with a high near 62. West wind 5 to 10 mph becoming NE in the afternoon. Night: A 10 percent chance of showers. Partly cloudy, with a low around 39. NEwind around 5 mph becoming calm. riverCall Purgatoire River Call as of 04/28/2014. Hoehne ditch: Prior- ity #20 -- Appropriation date: 10/07/1865. Trinidad Reservoir Accounting: Release 372.17 AF Inflow 142.43 AF -- 71.81 CFS Evaporation 14.26 AF Content 18,357 AF Elevation 6,182.32 Precipitation 0 Downstream River Call: High- land Canal: 05/31/1866. theChroniCleneWsEMPHASIZING SCIENCE & MATH ‘Girls in the Middle’ conference presents career possibilitiesBy Steve Block Working for the National Weather Service is one of many re- warding and challenging careers that involve extensive knowledge of math and science. That was the message to approximately 100 middle school girls at Friday’s third annual “Girls in the Middle” conference held on the campus of Trinidad State Junior College. The conference was designed to expose girls in sixth-, seventh- and eighth grades to the career experiences of profes- sional wom- en working in the areas of science, technology, engineering, t e c h n i c a l e d u c a t i o n and math. The girls at- tended two workshops in the morn- ing and one workshop in the afternoon, sandwiched around a hearty lunch, and every girl re- ceived a free T-shirt. By examin- ing these career possibilities, the goal is for these young girls to continue their studies in those dis- ciplines through high school and beyond. The girls hailed from many dif- ferent schools in Southern Colo- rado and Northern New Mexico. TSJC’s Lori Holdread served as Mistress of Ceremonies. Holdread has been a writer, educator and visual artist for 25 years and cur- rently serves as the TRIO Student Support Services Coordinator at TSJC’s Learning Center. She led a workshop teaching the kids the visual journaling process as a stimulus for self-awareness and creativity. Jennifer Jirous was the key- note speaker at the conference. Jirous serves as the STEM/Arts/ IT Program Director at the Colo- rado Community College System in Denver. She has given presen- tations at many state and national conferences on equity, effective leadership, current trends in in- dustry and education and career pathways. The National Weather Service (NWS) had three presenters at the conference, including Kathy To- gerson, Jennifer Stark and Peggy Perales. They all work out of the Pueblo office as part of an office staff of 22 people. Stark leads the office team, and she told the kids to take every math and science class they could in middle school and continue that pat- tern through high school. She said her 21 years of experience working for the NWS had convinced her that early exposure to math and science was critical to anyone who wanted to be an NWS me- teorologist. A Colorado native, she graduated from Ames Community College and the Univer- sity of Northern Colora- do. She said she learned about the importance of multi-tasking early in her NWS career in Des Moines, Iowa as a weath- er forecaster. She later worked for the NWS in Topeka, Kansas as an early coordinator, before transferring to the Pueblo office in 2009. She said the terrible fires and floods that plagued Colorado’s Front Range in the summer of 2013 Steve Block / The Chronicle-News National Weather Service experts used specialized equipment to demonstrate various weather conditions and how they were created at Friday’s “Girls in the Middle” conference at Trinidad State Junior College. Continued on Page 2 ... VETERANS’ HEALTH CARE Big crowd celebrates Grand Opening of Raton’s new VA Clinic By Steve Block On a sun-splashed Friday in South Raton, a crowd estimated at 200 people celebrated the opening of the new Raton Veterans Admin- istration (VA) Community Based Outpatient Clinic, located at 1493 Whittier St. Services offered at the clinic include primary care, pri- mary mental-health care and labo- ratory work, and other services are being expanded at the clinic through telemedicine. Dignitaries at the ceremony in- cluded both of New Mexico’s U.S. Senators, Tom Udall and Martin Heinrich, U.S. Representative Ben Ray Lujan, Raton Mayor Sandy Mantz and the Director of the Veterans Integrated Service Net- work 18 (VISN 18), Susan P. Bowers. The Director of the New Mex- ico VA Health Care System, George Mar- nell, served as Master of Cer- emonies. The new clinic covers 6,591 square feet, more than double the size of the clinic it re- places at the nearby Dona Ana Shopping Center, and the new facil- ity features 46 parking spaces. The clinic serves approximate- ly 1,200 Veterans from Northeast New Mexico and Southeast Colo- rado. They come to the clinic from as far west as Red River in New Mexico’s northern mountains and from along the borders with Texas and Oklahoma. The clinic also sees Veterans from as far north as Walsenburg, Colorado and as far south as Mora, New Mexico. Two Trinidad-based physi- cians work at the clinic. Dr. Sally Fabec is the only fulltime doctor at the clinic, and Dr. David Serafini splits his time between the Raton Veteran’s Clinic and the medical clinic at Trinidad’s Mt. Carmel Health, Wellness and Community Center. Dr. Fabec spent part of her medical career as a physician at Mt. San Rafael Hospital. “I love my Veterans,” Dr. Fa- bec said. “I miss my patients up in Trinidad, but I love my Vets. This facility is very badly needed. They promised six years ago when I started here that they would have it. Now it’s here and it’s a reality.” Speaking of the area’s Veterans whom he had provided service to, Dr. Serafini said, “It runs the gam- ut. It’s all of the health-care issues, but it’s also the men- tal health i s s u e s . We’re still out here, and I like to say it’s the price you pay for living in this beauti- ful part of the world. We’re a long way from the front office, so with a lot of the s u r g i c a l stuff you just have to go down to Albuquer- que, and that’s just how it’s go- ing to be. We’re going to be able to do more telemedicine, with the neurology and other health issues, and we’ll be able to offer more ser- vices with this facility.” Serafini is a U.S. Navy veteran, having joined the service in 1995. He still spends some of his time in the Naval Reserves, along with still seeing some active duty. He said that using assessment tools is a key part of what he and the other health-care providers do to help Veterans at the clinic. “We assess them and we treat what we can,” he said. “We’re do- ing more and it’s sort of a general medicine. Obviously, we can’t do surgery, other than for some mi- nor skin problems and things like that. Diabetes, hypertension, hyperthyroid, coughs, colds and pneumonias are the issues we’re dealing with. Between the two doc- tors, we’re probably seeing about 150 patients a week. There are a lot of just plain nurse visits, too. We’re mostly primary-care physi- cians.” Dr.PhilWagner,associatechief of staff for ambulatory care of the state VA Health Care System, is in charge of the clinic, and Charlene Stolar is the clinic manager. Shat- terbone Enterprises of Pinetop, Arizona was the general contrac- tor/developer of the construction project, and several local contrac- tors and construction workers were hired to work on the project. The posting of the colors on Friday was handled in fine style by the Honor Guard of Raton’s VFW Post 1793, while the Willow Springs singers offered a fine ren- dition of “The Star-Spangled Ban- ner.” Sen. Udall asked the Veterans who were present to stand and be recognized for their service to the nation, and they received a rous- ing round of applause. “All of these men and women here today — we wouldn’t be the country that we are without them,” Sen. Udall said. “We love them. We acknowledge them, and we thank them for their service. I particularly want to recognize one of the Veterans here in town that’s been such an advocate for Veter- ans and Veteran health care, and that has been Brigadier General Gene Sisneros (U.S. Army–Ret.). Gene, I want to thank you for all your hard work and I really ap- preciate it.… When we talk about tele-health, this is something very new. It’s just been coming on in the last few years, and it allows us to give care in such a way that a Veteran here can get the world’s Steve Block / The Chronicle-News Military-service veterans, above, stand to be honored by the large crowd at the Grand Opening of Raton’s new regional VA clinic on Friday. U.S. Sen. Tom Udall, left, describes to the crowd the six-year process required to plan and to build the new VA clinic. Continued on Page 2 ...
  2. 2. Page 2 Tuesday, April 29, 2014 The Chronicle-News Trinidad, Colorado General Manager Allyson Sheumaker asheumaker@trinidadchroniclenews.com Advertising Sales-Adam Sperandio advertising@trinidadchroniclenews.com Classified- Kyla Clark classified@trinidadchroniclenews.com Design & Legals- Krysta Toci ktoci@trinidadchroniclenews.com News Room Editor: Bruce Leonard editor@trinidadchroniclenews.com Features Editor & Fine Print Catherine Moser cathy@trinidadchroniclenews.com Reporter: Steve Block news1@trinidadchroniclenews.com Circulation: Kaylee Reorda circulation@trinidadchroniclenews.com Business Hours: Monday - Friday 8 AM - 5 PM USPS #110-040 200 West Church Street P.O. Box 763, Trinidad, CO 81082 Member: Associated Press, Colorado Press Association Periodicals Postage Paid For At Trinidad, CO. Published Monday - Friday w w w.thechronicle-news.com Subscription Rates Effective Aug. 1, 2013 Home Delivery Trinidad 1 Month ................$7.00 3 Months.............$21.00 6 Months.............$42.00 1 Year....................$84.00 LasAnimasCountyMail 1Month................$12.00 3Months..............$36.00 6Months..............$72.00 1Year...................$144.00 OutsideCountyMail 1Month................$18.00 3Months..............$54.00 6Months............$108.00 1Year...................$216.00 had been one of the tough- est challenges of her ca- reer. The NWS works under the authority of the Nation- al Oceanic and Atmospher- icAdministration(NOAA), and Peggy Perales said the NWS weather forecasters incorporate a lot of NOAA data in their work. Perales served in the U.S Navy and as a civilian employee of the federal Department of Defense, before beginning her NWS career. She has lived in Alaska, Spain, Ja- pan and on a Pacific island during her long career. She told the girls at the conference that the NWS had 122 offices around the world, offering plenty of opportunities for reloca- tion to interesting and ex- citing places for a profes- sional meteorologist. She works in the area of public- service data collection at NWS’s Pueblo office. Kathy Togerson studied meteorology at the Univer- sity of Oklahoma’s Nation- al Severe Storms Center. The Center’s personnel de- veloped “Toto,” a machine that sends sensors directly into a tornado’s vortex, in an effort to discover how tornados form and how they work. Stark said last sum- mer’s fires and floods re- quired NWS personnel to work closely with meteo- rologists at regional me- dia outlets to disseminate information about danger- ous environmental condi- tions that could threaten the safety of people and property. She said media had interviewed her mul- tiple times when weather conditions threatened pub- lic safety. The NWS workshop broke up into several teaching groups, with the NWS experts showing the girls at the conference how clouds formed, which weather conditions could create lightning and other interesting presentations about the technical and challenging work done by meteorologists. Many other workshops were held during the day- longconference.JoniStein- er of Earth Mountain Farm presented information about sustainable agricul- ture, and TSJC’s Shannon Shively, Krystalee Moreno and Jenn Swanson led the biology workshop. Other workshops led by TSJC presenters included Sarah Sloane on Criminal Justice and Lori Rae Hamilton, Santina Frank and Kathy Carpenter on the work- ing world of nursing. The Geology and Engineering workshop was led by Pio- neer Natural Resource’s Shannon Osterhout, Man- di Engebretson and Jackie Luther, and Lorri Arnhold of Colorado State Univer- sity Extension presented information about Food Science. Workshops were also held on potential careers in cardiovascular physiology, medicine, veterinary sci- ence, wildlife management and aquatic biology. The Girls in the Middle conference gave young girls the chance to come together at TSJC to learn what it would take to have a professional career, and how rewarding and fulfill- ing such a career could be. ‘Girls in the Middle’ conference ... Continued from Page 1 expert on a screen and be able to get a diagnosis and be able to move forward. The fact that we’re putting this technology in here means that these veterans are going to get the very best level of care, which is what they deserve.” Sisneros was asked to come forward and say a few words about the long, six- year struggle to bring the new clinic to the region. “Thank all of you for be- ing here,” Sisneros said. “This has been a total group effort from the feds, the state and from everybody. Anything is possible when we set our minds and hearts to it, but it takes all of us. The folks who stayed home when the Veterans went to war — they hold down the fort and they take care of our Veterans when they come back home.… This has been a long time com- ing, and now it’s here.” U.S. Representative Ben Ray Lujan (D-N.M.), who represents northeastern New Mexico, talked about the process of bringing the clinic to Raton and its im- portance to area Veterans. “It’s good to be with you today, and with so many heroes from our communi- ties,” Rep. Lujan said. “So many voices that made sure that you’d never let them be silenced in speaking up for your brothers and sisters in arms, for their spouses, for their children, for the gener- ations that are going to con- tinue to serve us for years to come, to make sure that in rural New Mexico, here in Raton and in Colfax Coun- ty, that a promise that was made was a promise that was going to be kept. It was because of your unwaver- ing commitment that we’re here today. For the example you’ve set for each and ev- ery one of us, I want to say thank you. There’s not a time I talk to Gen. Sisneros that he doesn’t remind me of the importance of getting this done. General, we’re looking forward to your tell- ing us what the next project is going to be.” New Mexico’s congres- sional delegation presented a special honorary flag that they requested be flown above the clinic in the glori- ous sunny skies of northern New Mexico. Raton’s new VA Clinic ... Continued from Page 1 Rose C. Sanchez Rose C. Sanchez, former resident of Aguilar, Colo, passed away April 26, 2014 in Wisconsin. She was 94. Funeral Services will be Sunday, May 4, 2014 at 3PM at the Comi Chapel. Graveside services with Rite of Committal will be Monday, May 5, 2014 at 9AM at Trinidad Catholic Cemetery, with Bro Harry Gonzales officiating. Complete obit to follow. Arrangements made under the direction of the Comi Funeral Home. Larry J. Zappanti Sr. Larry J. Zappanti Sr., age 6 0 , p a s s e d a w a y unexpectedly at home on April 22, 2014. Visitation will be Thursday, from 3PM-6PM at the Comi Chapel. Rosary will be Thursday, May 1, 2014, at 7PM at the Comi Chapel. Funeral Mass will be Friday May 2, 2014 at 10AM at Holy Trinity Church. Interment will follow in Bon Carbo. Complete obituary to follow. Arrangements made under the direction of the Comi Funeral Home. Dora Ann Sandri Dora Ann Sandri, former Trinidad resident, passed away in Pueblo, Colorado on April 26, 2014 at the age of 95. Funeral Services will be Monday May 5, 2014 with Rosary at Noon at the Comi Chapel, followed by the Funeral Mass a 1PM at Holy Trinity Church. Inurnment will follow at the Trinidad Catholic Cemetery. Complete obituary to follow. Arrangements made under the direction of the Comi Funeral Home. Evelyn J. Casias Evelyn J. Casias, age 67, passed away at home on April 22, 2014 after a lengthy illness. Visitation will be Monday from 3PM-6Pm at the Comi Chapel. Rosary will be Monday April 28th at 7PM. at Holy Trinity Church with Funeral Mass Services on Tuesday, April 29, 2014 at 10AM. at Holy Trinity Church. Interment will follow at the Trinidad Catholic Cemetery. Arrangements made under the care and direction of the Comi Funeral Home. Joe Jesus Gonzales Joe Jesus Gonzales, age 87, passed away at home on April 22, 2014 due to a long illness. Rosary will be Tuesday, April 29, 2014 at 7PM at Holy Trinity Church. Funeral Mass will be Wednesday, April 30 2014 at 10AM at Holy Trinity Church. Interment with Rite of Committal will follow at the Trinidad Catholic Cemetery. Arrangements made under the direction of the Comi Funeral Home. John Gregg Murnane III John Gregg Murnane III, "John John" passed away unexpectedly on April 25, 2014. He was 20. Visitation will be Monday, May 5, 2014 from 3PM-7PM at the Comi Chapel. Funeral Services will be Tuesday, May 6, 2014 a 10AM at the First Christian Church with Pastor Cary Nelson officiating., Cremation to follow with private family inturnment at a later date. Complete obituary to follow. Arrangements made under the direction of the Comi Funeral Home. Associated Press NEW YORK (AP) — Passengers beware: More airline fees are on their way. Another airline is promising to change the way we fly by offering cheap base fares but then adding on a bevy of additional fees. Passengers flying Frontier Airlines will now have to pay extra to place carry-on bags in the overhead bin or for advance seat assignments. The move comes as the Denver- based airline tries to transform itself into a fee-dependent airline, similar to Spirit Airlines or Allegiant Air — the only other U.S. carriers to charge such fees. Frontier already charges $1.99 for soda and bottled water on its flights, a fee it added on July 1. Frontier says that in exchange for these new fees, it is lowering its base fare by an average of 12 percent. The new charges apply to tickets pur- chased on or after Monday. Frontier carries 8.4 million passen- gers a year, about 1 percent of the over- all traffic flown by U.S. airlines. There is no indication that larger carriers like American Airlines, Delta Air Lines, Southwest Airlines or Unit- ed Airlines are considering such fees. Frontier’s fee for using the over- head bin ranges from $20 for frequent fliers who book online to $50 for those who fail to pay before getting to the gate. Most will pay $25 if they check-in online; $35 if they check-in at the air- port. Frontier previously only charged a fee for carry-on bags to people who booked the cheapest tickets through third-party sites like Expedia and Orb- itz. Monday’s change applies to every- body except those booking the most expensive fares. Personal items fitting under the seat remains free. That’s in addition to the $15 to $25 fliers will pay for their first checked bag. Additionally, seat assignments — even for the dreaded middle seat — now cost an extra $3 for those who buy while booking online; $8 at check-in. If passengers don’t pay extra, Frontier will assign them whatever seats are left over. Frontier is also following the model of other airlines in charging extra for seats with more legroom or just those closer to the front of the plane. For “select” seats, which are just in thefronthalfoftheplane,Frontierwill charge an extra $5 to $15 per flight, de- pending on when they are purchased. “Stretch” seats with an extra 5 to 7 inches of legroom — including those in the exit row — will cost $15 to $50 per flight segment, depending on the distance flown. Connecting passen- gers would have to pay each fee twice. Passengers who buy more-expen- sive, fully-refundable “Classic Plus” fares will get stretch seats for free as well as one checked back and one free carry-on bag. Similar benefits will be given for free to elite members of Fron- tier’s frequent flier program. In December, a struggling Frontier was purchased by Indigo Partners LLC, a private equity firm that has revamped several near-bankrupt air- lines by changing their business mod- el. One of its latest turnarounds was Spirit, based in Miramar, Fla. Just last week, Frontier named Barry L. Biffle as its new president. Biffle had spent nearly nine year working as chief marking officer of Spirit. “Frontier is merely copying Spirit, reflecting its investment by Indigo,” said Henry Harteveldt, an airline ana- lyst. “I’m not surprised that the airline is doing this.” Associated Press Frontier Airlines now charging for carry-on bags INCREASED TRAVEL EXPENSES DEAR ABBY: My hus- band and I have been mar- ried for three years and have two beautiful children. Shortly before our first c h i l d w a s b o r n , my in- l a w s bought a new camera. T h e y bring it along to e v e r y v i s i t and con- stantly take pictures of all of us. Neither my husband nor I likes having our pictures taken. My in-laws have thousands of pictures of all of us already. The biggest problem is that they don’t have a rela- tionship with their grand- children because of this. They complain that the kids “don’t like them.” They feel they should therefore visit more often, but in reality, these visits consist of non- stop photo-snapping, and no quality time is spent with either of the children. How do I make this stop without causing problems? -- OUT OF FOCUS IN NEW YORK DEAR OUT OF FOCUS: A diplomatic approach would be to suggest to your in-laws that they “shoot” only for a limited time when they visit -- no longer than the first 10 minutes. Explain that you realize the kids are growing and chang- ing quickly, and you under- stand their desire to record all of it, but the children need a deeper kind of inter- action with their grandpar- ents in order to form a posi- tive bond with them. Then suggest some ways they can relate to the little ones after the camera is put away. If they balk, tell them the reason their grandchildren don’t seem to like them is that children need face-to- face and eye contact, and the camera has prevented it from happening. If they’re smart, they’ll listen. DEAR ABBY: I’m a 43-year-old woman who has been in a relationship with a man I dated many years ago, “Charles.” When we re- connected three years ago, I had a dog, “Frosty.” One year into the relationship, Charles asked me to get rid of Frosty because he thinks dogs are unsanitary. I loved Frosty and kept him, but it caused all kinds of problems with my boyfriend. When Charles and I moved in together three months ago, he insisted I get rid of Frosty and I caved. I miss my little friend so much it hurts. Memories of him are everywhere. I am able to get him back, but is it crazy that I would jeopardize my relationship because I want to keep my dog? -- IN THE DOGHOUSE DEAR IN THE DOG- HOUSE: I don’t think it’s crazy, and I’m sure my an- imal-loving readers -- who number in the millions -- would agree with me. People bond with their pets to such an extent that in the event of a natural disaster, some of them refuse to be separated from their com- panions. That Charles would in- sist you get rid of Frosty shows extreme insensitiv- ity for your feelings, in ad- dition to disregard for your beloved pet in whom you had a significant emotional investment. Could Charles be jealous of the affection you have shown Frosty? Not knowing him, I can’t guess. But if you are forced to choose between the two of them, you should seriously consider choosing the dog. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Write Dear Abby at www. DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069. Abby shares more than 100 of her favorite recipes in two booklets: “Abby’s Fa- vorite Recipes” and “More Favorite Recipes by Dear Abby.” Send your name and mailing address, plus check or money order for $14 (U.S. funds) to: Dear Abby, Cook- booklet Set, P.O. Box 447, Mount Morris, IL 61054-0447. (Shipping and handling are included in the price.) PHOTO-HAPPY GRANDPARENTS NEED TO CHANGE THEIR VIEW