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  • 1. www.brianpatrickjensen.com ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)
  • 2. www.brianpatrickjensen.com Perseverance Tell ya what I’m gonna tell  Dynamics to perseverance  6 things resilient people do  Share the adventure  Take action ! ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)
  • 3. www.brianpatrickjensen.com Dynamics to Perseverance Perseverance is… a process of choices and actions, not a personality trait. ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)
  • 4. www.brianpatrickjensen.com Dynamics to Perseverance Not just muddling through  bounce back  persist & endure  achieve success  be better for it ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)
  • 5. www.brianpatrickjensen.com Dynamics to Perseverance More than inconvenience  unexpected  unhappy  unwanted  unprepared  unpleasant  uncharted  unsettling  unrelenting  unlucky  unimagined ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)
  • 6. www.brianpatrickjensen.com Dynamics to Perseverance 1 Take Action: Considering these dynamics, write a brief description of a real-life challenge, you now wish to overcome… ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)
  • 7. www.brianpatrickjensen.com Dynamics to Perseverance Note to self… ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)
  • 8. www.brianpatrickjensen.com In Summary 6 things resilient people do 1 Grow as a choice 2 Stare down hard reality 3 Find higher meaning 4 Help fellow sufferers 5 Visualize the extraordinary 6 Take specific action ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)
  • 9. www.brianpatrickjensen.com # 1: Grow as a choiceWe do NOT control external world  All other people  Time & events  Economics  Weather & seasons  Harm & illness  Hitting lottery  World ignorance ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)
  • 10. www.brianpatrickjensen.com # 1: Grow as a choiceWe DO control internal self  Reaction to others  Own behavior  Personal beliefs  Plans (not outcomes)  Our preferences  Chosen priorities  Own decisions ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)
  • 11. www.brianpatrickjensen.com # 1: Grow as a choiceWe CAN influence external world Influence by… conviction knowledge persuasion passion example never by force* ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)
  • 12. www.brianpatrickjensen.com # 1: Grow as a Choice Rules of influence  It is ineffective to focus on things we do not control  External focus decreases our ability to influence  Internal focus increases it ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)
  • 13. www.brianpatrickjensen.com # 1: Grow as a choiceChange you; change the world ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)
  • 14. www.brianpatrickjensen.com # 1: Grow as a choice 2 T Action: ake Write two lists concerning your current challenge: I do NOT Control I DO Control • That I’mdeaf now • How I com unicat e m • I amunem oyed pl • How I do j ob sear ch • Job m ket ar • Asking f or hel p • Bias not t o hir e deaf • M per sonal int egr it y y • Technol ogy l im s it • Lear ning new skil l s ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)
  • 15. www.brianpatrickjensen.com # 2: Stare down hard reality Face it, you gotta face it! A. Avoid optimism trap B. Inventory cold hard facts C. Grieve with passion D. Ask for specific help ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)
  • 16. www.brianpatrickjensen.com # 2: Stare down hard reality A.)Avoid optimism trap  Hard-wired optimism* is denial in disguise *People hugely underestimate chances of getting divorced, losing a job and being diagnosed ill while overestimating personal achievement, family fortune and life span. -Time Magazine: The Science of Optimism ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)
  • 17. www.brianpatrickjensen.com # 2: Stare down hard reality B.) Inventory hard facts I lost all hearing; it’s permanent Miss my children’s voices Get exponentially less information I feel isolated; talk to less people Interpreting visual cues is exhausting Lip reading seems impossible Getting a job is far more difficult Yearn for sounds of music, nature, etc. Depleting all my money ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)
  • 18. www.brianpatrickjensen.com # 2: Stare down hard reality C.) Grieve with passion  Holding back is unhealthy  Pain shared helps all  Allow the process* *Sadness, anger and depression are sane reactions to great loss. Grieving is a healthy process with stages that should be experienced, not denied. - Coping with Grief and Loss: HelpGuide.org ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)
  • 19. www.brianpatrickjensen.com # 2: Stare down hard reality D.) Ask for specific help  Admit it (acceptance)  Do not assume they know  Show exactly what to do  Never beg or apologize  Praise their efforts ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)
  • 20. www.brianpatrickjensen.com # 2: Stare down hard reality 3 T Action: ake List all hard facts; select one item and describe how others can help: ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)
  • 21. www.brianpatrickjensen.com # 3: Find a higher meaning Believe pain means more ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)
  • 22. www.brianpatrickjensen.com # 3: Find a higher meaning Well, at least…  Nature is more vivid  My eye sight has improved  I have greater insight into others  I comprehend more with captions  I made new friends who get it  I’m inspired by others’ feedback  I am better at sharing my heart  I’m more connected with my kids ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)
  • 23. www.brianpatrickjensen.com # 3: Find a higher meaning 4 T Action: ake Write your own list of lessons learned or other positive outcomes that resulted from your difficulty. Caution: List only firm convictions, facts or actual events. This is not a wish list or ambiguous hope that something good will come. It must be real. ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)
  • 24. www.brianpatrickjensen.com # 4: Help fellow suffers If in doubt, help others  Motivates to find solutions  Gets you out of own head  Increases network  Feels better about self  Gives perspective (happy I’m me!) ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)
  • 25. www.brianpatrickjensen.com # 5: Visualize the extraordinary Nothing heals as vision! Visualize triumph by imagining a specific scene of hardship overcome ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)
  • 26. www.brianpatrickjensen.com # 5: Visualize the extraordinary Nothing heals as vision! ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)
  • 27. www.brianpatrickjensen.com # 5: Visualize the extraordinary 5 T Action: ake Imagine your specific scene. Write it down and replay it over & over. Caution: Do not dream the physically impossible. Do not envision a “cure” to your current plight, (e.g. I will always be deaf). ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)
  • 28. www.brianpatrickjensen.com # 6: Take specific action Nothing happens if it doesn’t  Memorized Sarah’s speech  Wrote daughters a poem  Started new blog  Took sign language classes  Contacted HLAA / ALDA  Dusted off telescope  Started networking  Obtained great job references  Created this presentation! ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)
  • 29. www.brianpatrickjensen.com # 6: Take specific action 6 T Action: ake Write your own list of actions that you can do right now or presently to either deal with your problem or move toward your vision. Note: Include on your list to complete the exercises suggested during this training. ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)
  • 30. www.brianpatrickjensen.com In Summary 6 things resilient people do 1 Grow as a choice 2 Stare down hard reality 3 Find higher meaning 4 Help fellow sufferers 5 Visualize the extraordinary 6 Take specific action ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)
  • 31. www.brianpatrickjensen.com In Summary BPJ quotes to summarize Change you; change the world Face it, you gotta face it! Grieve with passion Nothing heals as vision ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)
  • 32. www.brianpatrickjensen.com In Summary BPJ quotes on key points Visualize the extraordinary! If in doubt, help others Nothing happens if it doesn’t ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)
  • 33. www.brianpatrickjensen.com In Summary BPJ quote that sums it up Simply believe that hurt means more. ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)
  • 34. www.brianpatrickjensen.com In Summary Exercises so you take action 1 briefly describe the challenge 2 list what you control and not 3 write how others can help 4 list lessons learned by suffers 5 describe extraordinary scene 6 list your “To Do” action items ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)
  • 35. Thank You! Be Inspired!www.brianpatrickjensen.com ©Brian Patrick Jensen (All Rights Reserved 2012)