Wedding Invitations Primer - Wording Samples, Etiquette, Trends And Costs
Wedding Invitations Primer - Wording Samples, Etiquette, TrendsAnd CostsWedding invitations are the focal point of your wedding stationery, providing the first glimpse into thestyle and formality of the wedding. While save-the-dates can be flirty and fun, your invitations will be atrue reflection of your event. Plan your wedding invitations with care with my complete weddinginvitation planning guide.The Anatomy of a Wedding InvitationWedding Invitations can include a number of enclosures, depending on the nature of your weddingand your stationery budget. (obviously more enclosures means higher costs)o Outer envelope: Holds all enclosures, formally addressed to the recipient.o Inner envelope: Holds all contents of the formal, third-person invitation for protection duringshipping.o Reception card: Specifies where and when the reception will be held - usually included only if theceremony and reception take place at different locations.o Response card: On which your guests indicate acceptance or regrets. In self-addressed stampedenvelope. Make sure to include an RSVP deadline.o Map/Directional: Optional insertion to help guests navigate and arrange for accommodationsCost & Budget ConsiderationsBefore you go shopping, become familiar with the invitation printing process and lingo; this will helpyou determine your needs in advance and avoid unnecessary costs. Price is determined perinvitation, so if your guest list is huge - be prepared to designate a significant portion of your budget towedding invitations. Costs can range anywhere from $1-$50 each. Bulky papers, colored inks andunique graphics all increase the cost. Custom designs can also be pricey. Printing options also affectthe cost.Invitation Printing Options:o Engraving - most formal and most expensive - results in raised print that is pressed through thebacko Thermography - less expensive than engraving - results in raised print that does not press throughthe backo Lithography - less expensive than either engraving or theromography - results in print that is neitherraised nor pressed througho Laser printing - the least expensive option. - produced on a laser printer and results in print similarto that of lithography.When factoring total costs, dont forget to consider postage as part of your budget, including stampsfor the response card envelopes. Looking for ways to save? Keep your design simple, sticking to onecolor. Use lighter weight papers and include less inserts. Use response postcards instead of cardswith envelopes.Trends
As with all other aspects of your wedding, your invitations give you an opportunity to reflect aparticular color, theme, and/or season of your wedding. During the spring, include pressed flowers ora flower blossom motif featuring the colors of your wedding. Hot right now is Asian-inspired floralmotifs or anything 3D that adds texture. For the fall, incorporate warm, colorful leaves. For a summerwedding, feature seashells and starfish with brilliant ocean-blues or sunset-orange/reds. And for thewinter, incorporate snowflakes on a simple white invitation.Other popular suggestions range from unique color combinations and patterns, to ribbons or otherclever themed items such as bindings. Many couples are going back to the traditional, formal lookand featuring both sets of initials as monograms on the cover, but whats even hotter is a creativelogo or historic family seal. Whatever you decide, make your invitations innovative and unique to yourpersonal style and wedding.Tips, Rules & Etiquetteo When to send them - send wedding invitations 6-8 weeks before the big day. (if you think yourguests will need more advanced notice, send save-the-date cards as well) Try to order invitations 3-4months in advance to ensure they go out on time.o How many to order - Order about 25% more than the number of guests youre inviting - yourebound to make mistakes or make last minute additions.o Consider hiring a calligrapher for an added touch of elegance. (this is the first impression of yourwedding!) Make sure to factor in the additional timing to ensure your invitations go out on time. Manyrules apply to wording and addressing invitations. Here are some of the basics to ensure yours are"faux pas-free":Invitation Wording Etiquetteo Dates and times should be spelled out (half after four oclock in the evening, not 4:30pm, and thetwenty-second of April, not April 22)o Mr. And Mrs. Are abbreviated and Jr. May be, but the title Doctor should be spelled outo No punctuation is used, except after abbreviations and between the city and state.o An invitation to just the wedding ceremony does not include an R.S.V.Po "Hosting" the wedding can mean anything from a set of parents helping to plan the event, invitingthe guests, or covering the costs:If there is one set of hosts, list their names at the beginning.If both sets are hosting, list on separate lines with brides parents first.If one set is hosting but you want to include the other set as well, note their names under theirson/daughters name.If you are hosting your own wedding, begin with the request line and state parents relationship underyour name.If you and both sets of parents are hosting, list your names first followed by "together with theirparents" before the request line.Addressing Etiquetteo No abbreviations, except for Mr., Mrs., Ms., and Jr. States must also be spelled out.
o If one of your single guests is bringing a date that you know personally, send that person a separateinvitation instead of including "& Guest" on the inner envelope.o If you are unable to obtain the name of a single friends guest - indicate on the inner envelope thatthey may bring a guest - NOT on the outer envelope. (this looks awkward)o Unmarried couples who live together should receive one invitation, where their names are listed inalphabetical order and on their own lines.o Invited guests who are living together as roommates, not couples, should each receive their owninvitation.o List the names of children under the age of 18 who still live at home on the inner envelope insteadof "& Family" which can be very ambiguous and easily misinterpreted. Children over the age of 18should receive their own invitation, regardless of their living situation.o The traditional, married couple recipient should follow this format:Mr. & Mrs. Ryan Parker2211 First Street, Apartment 3San Diego, California 92109Wedding Invitation Wording SamplesGone are the days when wedding etiquette mandated that the brides parents, and the bridesparents only, hosted the wedding. Today anyone can foot the bill, and with modern familialarrangements often anything but nuclear, there is no straightforward rule for wording invitations.Weve sorted through the confusion to bring you wording samples for the most commonarrangements:Simple, Traditional Format[proper names of those hosting] (official hosts line) request the honour of your presence (request line)at the marriage of their [relationship of the bride to the host] [brides first and middle names] to[grooms full name], the [day of the week] of [day and month of wedding] at [hour] oclock in the [timeof day] at [name of wedding venue] in [city, state] Reception to followDivorced Parents[proper name of host] requests the honor of your presence at the marriage of [his/her] [relationship ofthe bride to the host]Or, if parent is remarried and hosting with new spouse:[proper names of those hosting] request the honor of your presence at the marriage of [his/her][relationship of the bride to the host]Or, if divorced parents are mutually hosting:[proper name of mother] and [proper name of father] request the honor of your presence at themarriage of their [relationship of the bride to the host]When the brides one living parent is hosting The invitation is issued only in the name of the livingparent:Mr. [Mrs.] Jonathan Stephen Smith and Timothy Wright requests the honor of your presence at themarriage of his [her] daughter Elizabeth Ann
When the Bride and Groom hostThe honor of your presence is requested it the marriage of Miss Ashley Johnson to Mr. Paul WilkinsORMiss Ashley Johnson and Mr. Paul Wilkins request the honor of your presence at their marriageAlternative "Request Line" Optionso "pleasure of your company"o "honor of your presence" (used instead of the formal "honor" when ceremony does not take place ina house of worship)o "share and celebrate in their joy" another creative idea that reflects the theme and tone of yourwedding.Click Here for Free Wedding Planning Tips