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The 15 Biggest
Body
Language
Blunders
Remember: Our
brain relies on snap
judgements to
categorize another
person and predict
whether they are
trustworthy,
threa...
Leaning Back too
much — you come
off lazy or
arrogant
No: 1
Leaning forward
— can seem
aggressive. Aim
for a neutral
posture
No: 2
Breaking eye contact
too soon — can
make you seem
untrustworthy or
overly nervous. Hold
eye contact a hair
longer, especia...
Nodding too much
— can make you
look like a bobble
head doll! Even if
you agree with
what’s being said,
nod once and then
...
Chopping or
pointing with
your hands —
feels aggressive
No: 5
Crossing your arms
— makes you look
defensive, especially
when you’re
answering
questions. Try to
keep your arms at
your s...
Fidgeting —
instantly
telegraphs how
nervous you are.
Avoid it at all
costs
No: 7
Holding your hands
behind your back
(or firmly in your
pockets) — can look
rigid and stiff. Aim
for a natural, hands
at yo...
Looking up or
looking around — is
a natural cue that
someone is lying or
not being
themselves. Try to
hold steady eye
cont...
Staring — can be
interpreted as
aggressive. There’s
a fine line between
holding someone’s
gaze and staring
them down
No: 10
Failing to smile —
can make people
uncomfortable, and
wonder if you really
want to be there. Go
for a genuine smile
especi...
Stepping back when
you’re asking for a
decision — conveys
fear or uncertainty.
Stand your ground,
or even take a slight
st...
Steepling your
fingers or holding
palms up — looks
like a begging
position and
conveys weakness
No: 13
Standing with
hands on hips — is
an aggressive
posture, like a bird
or a dog puffing
themselves up to
look bigger
No: 14
Checking your
phone or watch —
says you want to be
somewhere else.
Plus, it’s just bad
manners
No: 15
So, what should you do? Aim for good
posture in a neutral position, whether
sitting or standing.
Stand with your arms at your sides, and sit
with them at your sides or with your hands in
your lap. Pay attention so that ...
If you discover you have a particular
problem with one or two of the gestures on
the list, practice by yourself with a mir...
Also, check out my blog post
‘15 Body Language Blunders
To Watch Out For’
Click Here
About
This overview was put together by
Bernard Marr,
Founder and CEO of the Advanced Performance
Institute.
Bernard Mar i...
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  1. 1. The 15 Biggest Body Language Blunders
  2. 2. Remember: Our brain relies on snap judgements to categorize another person and predict whether they are trustworthy, threatening, competent, likeable, etc. Here are the top 15 body language blunders you can avoid:
  3. 3. Leaning Back too much — you come off lazy or arrogant No: 1
  4. 4. Leaning forward — can seem aggressive. Aim for a neutral posture No: 2
  5. 5. Breaking eye contact too soon — can make you seem untrustworthy or overly nervous. Hold eye contact a hair longer, especially during a handshake No: 3
  6. 6. Nodding too much — can make you look like a bobble head doll! Even if you agree with what’s being said, nod once and then try to remain still No: 4
  7. 7. Chopping or pointing with your hands — feels aggressive No: 5
  8. 8. Crossing your arms — makes you look defensive, especially when you’re answering questions. Try to keep your arms at your sides No: 6
  9. 9. Fidgeting — instantly telegraphs how nervous you are. Avoid it at all costs No: 7
  10. 10. Holding your hands behind your back (or firmly in your pockets) — can look rigid and stiff. Aim for a natural, hands at your sides posture No: 8
  11. 11. Looking up or looking around — is a natural cue that someone is lying or not being themselves. Try to hold steady eye contact No: 9
  12. 12. Staring — can be interpreted as aggressive. There’s a fine line between holding someone’s gaze and staring them down No: 10
  13. 13. Failing to smile — can make people uncomfortable, and wonder if you really want to be there. Go for a genuine smile especially when meeting someone for the first time No: 11
  14. 14. Stepping back when you’re asking for a decision — conveys fear or uncertainty. Stand your ground, or even take a slight step forward with conviction No: 12
  15. 15. Steepling your fingers or holding palms up — looks like a begging position and conveys weakness No: 13
  16. 16. Standing with hands on hips — is an aggressive posture, like a bird or a dog puffing themselves up to look bigger No: 14
  17. 17. Checking your phone or watch — says you want to be somewhere else. Plus, it’s just bad manners No: 15
  18. 18. So, what should you do? Aim for good posture in a neutral position, whether sitting or standing.
  19. 19. Stand with your arms at your sides, and sit with them at your sides or with your hands in your lap. Pay attention so that you naturally hold eye contact, smile, and be yourself.
  20. 20. If you discover you have a particular problem with one or two of the gestures on the list, practice by yourself with a mirror or with a friend who can remind you every time you do it, until you become aware of the bad habit yourself.
  21. 21. Also, check out my blog post ‘15 Body Language Blunders To Watch Out For’ Click Here
  22. 22. About This overview was put together by Bernard Marr, Founder and CEO of the Advanced Performance Institute. Bernard Mar is a bestselling business author, keynote speaker, strategic performance consultant, and analytics, KPI & Big Data guru. Read Bernard’s blogs: • LinkedIn Influencer Blog Connect with Bernard on: • LinkedIn • Twitter • Advanced Performance Institute For more articles, white papers, case studies and much more visit the Advanced Performance Institute Knowledge Hub
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