The phrase “fight like cats and dogs”, indicates that in general, dogs and cats aredeemed mortal enemies. However, given t...
Conflict ResolutionSticks and stonesmay break my bonesBut words willnever hurt me.CLICK -- NEXT SLIDE---                  ...
NOT TRUE!            3
Conflict in your relationship must be managed, not completely suppressed.Flexible couples are;Creative in problem solvingW...
Healthy Couples91 % resolve problems. Over time they weed out unhealthy parts of their relationshipby dealing with issues....
Avoid the Fireplace!                       6
1. Heat-- issue that describes couples disagreements2. Fuel – Process how couple interacts3. Oxygen – Each persons negativ...
Area of ConcernIssuesConstructive Approach Raises and clarifies issuesDestructive Approach Brings up old issuesFeelingsCon...
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Lesson 7 Conflict Resolution NOTES

  1. 1. The phrase “fight like cats and dogs”, indicates that in general, dogs and cats aredeemed mortal enemies. However, given the right conditions, even dogs and catscan foster a good relationship. 1
  2. 2. Conflict ResolutionSticks and stonesmay break my bonesBut words willnever hurt me.CLICK -- NEXT SLIDE--- 2
  3. 3. NOT TRUE! 3
  4. 4. Conflict in your relationship must be managed, not completely suppressed.Flexible couples are;Creative in problem solvingWilling to compromiseAre adaptableAble to change when the situation calls for itWhen these attributes exist, Stepfamily couples have the ability to find solutions tocomplex problems. 4
  5. 5. Healthy Couples91 % resolve problems. Over time they weed out unhealthy parts of their relationshipby dealing with issues.Unhealthy Couples84% are unable to resolve problems. By avoiding conflict they stockpile debris in theirrelationship.HC 95% feel understood during problem discussion.They have good listening skills and affirm each other.UC 62% dont feel heard by their partner.The end result is feeling disconnected.Fears of another relationship breakup become more real.HC 79% are able to keep small disagreements small.UC 83% turn molehills into mountains.HC 74% have unity in the process by which they tackle disagreements.UC 86% cant even agree on how to disagree.HC 90% give serious consideration to disagreement and the need to resolve issues.UC 44% overlook or invalidate the others concerns.They dont see the potential hazards of allowing debris to build up. 5
  6. 6. Avoid the Fireplace! 6
  7. 7. 1. Heat-- issue that describes couples disagreements2. Fuel – Process how couple interacts3. Oxygen – Each persons negative feelings that drive how they respond to eachother.Two common ways we ineffectively deal with conflictBlame the other personalityBring up old issues 7
  8. 8. Area of ConcernIssuesConstructive Approach Raises and clarifies issuesDestructive Approach Brings up old issuesFeelingsConstructive Approach Expresses both positive and negative feelingsDestructive Approach Expresses only negative feelingsInformationConstructive Approach Gives complete and honest informationDestructive Approach Offers only select informationFocusConstructive Approach Concentrates on the issue rather than the personDestructive Approach Concentrates on the person rather than the IssueBlameConstructive Approach Accepts mutual blameConstructive Approach Blames the other person for the problem 8
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