Lesson 4 Children and Parenting

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  • CHILDREN AND Parenting:when kids are part of the package.Even before marriage, 86% of couples believe that children would put an additional STRAIN on their marriage– They are Right
  • CHILDREN AND Parenting:If children have priority over marriage, problems will increase.Kids will have more power in the home than the stepparentThis creates resentment, jealousy, hurt anger and competition between the child and the stepparent
  • Making the marriage a PRIORITY RELATIONSHIP, then, invites the children to gain respect for stepparents and IT EMPOWERS the stepparent to actually care for the children in loving and sacrificial ways, due to a lack of competitionThis is contrary to popular wisdom. It challenges the unhealthy emotions and attitudes of single parents who are unhealthily attached to their children!
  • We shouldn't neglect our children to focus all the attention on our spouse, at the expense of the children. Bottom Line: When push comes to shove, we must make it clear to our children that our marriage will last ABOVE ALL ELSE
  • Children often feel threatened when your marriage is strengthened: They feel a sense of loss and often failure, as their dream of Parental Reconciliation is diminished.Even with the child' fear, insecurity and anxiety, about the new stepfamily, a Parent's declaration and demonstrated commitment to their marriage is the foundation of the home.It is the first step toward marital INTIMACY Stepfamily harmony, and effective parenting
  • “It was when our 5 children came to believe and accept that our marriage wasn’t going away that our stepfamily turned the corner to Peace and harmony.”
  • REMEMBER? This is based on research with 50,000 people experienced in step family situationsCondoning childish immaturity is hurting the child and both parents:1. Your partner, the stepparent will eventually leave, lonely and bitter.2. The child will grow up without the ability to form satisfying adult relationships and enter fulfilling marriageFinally, the most depressing fact!3. The biological parent will be lonely in their old age: After studying children of divorce for 25 years, Psychiatrist Judith Wallerstein observed that children of single and divorced parents rarely visit their aged parents in convalescent homes.HOLD ON TO YOUR MARRIAGE!
  • Lesson 4 Children and Parenting

    1. 1. Even before Children & Marriagemarriage, 86% of couples believe that children would put an Kids a problem additional Kids NOTSTRAIN on their a problem marriage–They are Right
    2. 2.  If children have priority over marriage, problem s will increase. Kids have more power in the home than the stepparent This creates resentment, jealousy, hurt, anger and competition.
    3. 3.  Making the marriage a PRIORITY RELATIONSHIP Paradoxically invites the children to gain respect for stepparents EMPOWERS the stepparent to actually care for the children in loving and sacrificial ways, due to a lack of competition
    4. 4.  We shouldnt neglect our children to focus all the attention on our spouse, at the expense of the children. BUT! Bottom Line: When push comes to shove, we must make it clear to our children that our marriage will last ABOVE ALL ELSE
    5. 5.  Children are threatened by a strong marriage: They feel of loss & failure, lost dream of Parental Reconciliation A Parents commitment to their marriage is the It is the first step toward foundation of the marital INTIMACY home. Stepfamily HARMONY, and
    6. 6. “It was when our 5 children came to believe and accept that our marriage wasn’t going away that our stepfamily turned the corner to Peace and harmony.”
    7. 7. Aloha Stadium holds 50,000 people
    8. 8. Graphics, desktop publishing, sequencing and editing my OCOI Studios Xhilliwhack, BC OCOI.Studios@gmail.com Cartoons permission by cartoonstock.com Tables and graphs courtesy of Baker Publishing group

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