It's common to talk about single-parent family problems and their disadvantages to children. This can lead some single parents to think there is little they can do to have a successful family. That's not so.<br />Not all children growing up in single-parent families experience negative consequences, just as not all overweight people have a heart attack. More importantly, focusing on the weaknesses and problems doesn't help single parents and their children become strong.<br /> During this research, I asked in my opinion, successful single parents how they succeeded. This is what one saidAcceptance of responsibility is the key. Accept the responsibilities and challenges of single parenting. No need to minimize nor exaggerate problems but seek solutions. Acknowledge the difficulties (lack of personal time, restricted social life, and or financial stress) without self-pity or bitterness.<br />One woman lost her husband to colon cancer. She was left with 4 daughters and 2 sons to raise and little education or skills. She was devastated. Ultimately she made a plan and proceeded to carry it out. She decided to establish a home-based business, and it became very successful in a large metropolitan area in Cleveland, Ohio. This woman was my great- grandmother.<br />RATHER BY CHOICE OR FORCE, BEING A SINGLE PARENT IT COULD BE HEPLFUL IF:<br />Comm to family: Try to focus on being the best possible single parent . Try to be supportive, patient and help your children cope.<br />OPEN COMM: encourage clear and open expression of thoughts and feelings in the family.. this may develope honest and a trustful relationship.<br />SUCC: strive to be well-organized, dependable and work hard to coordinate schedules. <br />CARE: Despite of lack of time, recognize that caring for yourself is important.<br />SKITS<br />
YOU MIGHT WANNA DO AS I SAY! I HAD YOU! I DON’T KNOW WHATS GOTTEN N U! GO FINISH UR HOMEWORK, CHORES, AND MAKE SURE U N THA BED BY 7… NO QUESTIONS ASKED! GOODIGHT!
OK! OK! AND I UNDERSTAND! U DON’T WANT TO CONTINUE PLAYING THE ALTO SAXOPHONE. YOU’VE BEEN PLAYING SINCE THE 6TH GRADE… MARCHING, SYMPHONIC AND JAZZ BAND( SHAKE HEAD) HOWEVER, I WILL LET U THINK ABOUT UR DECISION BUT I EXPECT U TO DO WHATS RIGHT. I LOVE U AND JUST WANT TO BEST FOR U!
THIS IS GETTING OUT OF! I HAVE APSOLUTELY NO CONTROL!! MY SON IS KILLIN ME SOFTLY, BUT I HAVE TO KEEP MY KIDS HAPPY BY ANY MEANS NECESSARY!
U GOT A LIGHTER? Y U NOT IN SCHOOL? U GOT SUSPENDED? WHEN? OH, WELL I NEED U OUT THA HOUSE CUZ MAMA HAVING COMP TONIGHT!
THE SKITS DISPLAYED THE DIFFERENT PARENTING STYLES.<br />Models of parenting<br />
AUTHORITARIAN – EXPECT ABSOLUTE OBEDIENCE FROM THE CHILD WITHOUT ANY QUESTIONING.
AUTHORITATIVE- SHOW RESPECT FOR THE OPINIONS. UNDERSTANDING…BUT
PERMISSIVE- HAVE LITTLE OR NO CONTROL OVER THE BEHAVIOR OF THEIR CHILDREN.
DISENGAGED- ARE NEITHER RESPONSIVE NOE DEMANDING
FORCED<br />NOT ALL SINGLE PARENTS ARE FORCED.. SOME CHOOSE TO BE A SINGLE PARENT. <br />UNESS NYAAMBI, NOW 17, WAS EXCHANGED AS A CHILD SO HER PARENTS COULD FINANCE HER BROTHERS CHOICE OF A BRIDE. SHE NOW HAS TWO CHILDREN , AND A HUSBAND ABOUT 70. SHE SAYS SHE CANNOT LEAVE BECAUSE OF THE CHILDREN. “ I WAS THE SACRIFICE,: SHE SAID<br />CHOICE<br />According to Custodial Mothers and Fathers and Their Child Support: 2007, released by the U.S. Census Bureau in November, 2009, there are approximately 13.7 million single parents in the United States today, and those parents are responsible for raising 21.8 million children <br />So what's the "average" single parent really like? <br />She is a Mother:<br />
84% of custodial parents are mothers, and
16% of custodial parents are fathers<br />(Mothers who have custody)Divorced or Separated?<br />
45% are currently divorced or separated
34.2% have never been married <br />19% are married<br /> (1.7% were widowed<br />( fathers who have custody)<br />
57.8% are divorced or separated
20.9% have never married <br />20% are currently married (<br />Fewer than 1% were widowed<br />She is Employed:<br />79.5% of custodial single mothers are gainfully employed <br />49.8% work full time, year round29.7% work part-time or part-year<br />90% of custodial single fathers are gainfully employed <br />71.7% work full time, year round18.4% work part-time or part-year<br />She and Her Children Do Not Live in Poverty:<br />27% of custodial single mothers and their children live in poverty <br />12.9% of custodial single fathers and their children live in poverty<br />She Does Not Receive Public Assistance:<br />Among custodial single mothers: <br />22% receive Medicaid <br />23.5% receive food stamps <br />12% receive some form of public housing or rent <br />5% receive receive TANF (Temporary Assistance for Needy Families)<br />MICHIGAN STUDY BECAUSE IT WAS CONDUCTED BY STAFF AND STUDENTS AT THE University of Michigan but the site of research was not in Michigan.<br />EMPLOYED<br />Patterns that have been revealed over the years include the following:<br />Daughters of employed mothers have been found to have higher academic achievement, greater career success, more nontraditional career choices, and greater occupational commitment. <br />Studies of children in poverty, in both two-parent and single-mother families, found higher cognitive scores for children with employed mothers <br />Unemployed <br />69% psychological distress<br />47% academic problems<br /> 41% aggression toward parents<br />Does Single Parenting Negatively Influence Academic Achievement?<br />research does not provide a definitive answer to this question. Even when they have the same academic abilities, children in single-parent families are three times more likely to drop out of high school than children from two-parent families. Because they are the primary and frequently source of financial support for the family, single parents have less time to help children with homework, are less likely to use consistent discipline, and have less parental control, and all of these conditions may lead to lower academic achievement those from mother-absent households earn lower science grades than children from father-absent homes. No matter which parent is missing, children from single-parent families generally find it more difficult to connect with school .<br />( info for absent fatherless)<br />Advan<br />EFFECTS ON CHILDREN<br />
INTENSIFIED SEPARATION ANXIETY
DENIAL AND AVOIDANCE OF FEELINGS ASSOCIATED WITH LOSS OF FATHER
63 % SUBJECTIVE PSYCHOLOGICAL PROBLEM( DEFINED AS ANXIETY, SADNESS, MOODINESS, PHOBIAS, AND DEPRESSION.<br />56% POOR GRADES <br />43% AGGRESSION TOWARD PARENTS<br />Fatherless America<br />KIDS MAY SUFFER:<br />Drinking problems<br />CHILD ABUSE<br />SUICIDAL TENDENCIES<br />CONFUSED IDENTITES<br />EMOTIONAL DISTRESS<br />UNSTABLE FAMILIES AND LIVES<br />HUNGER FOR LOVE<br />FATHERLESS AGGRESSIONEXPELLED<br />TIPS<br />ENCOURAGE CHILD TO LISTEN<br />TALK SO CHILD WILL LISTEN<br />SHAPE CHILDS BEHAVIOR<br />BUILD SELF CONFIDENCE<br />ENCOURAGE YOUR CHILD TO RECOGNIZE AND EXPRESS THEIR FEELINGS<br />MAKE TIME FOR SPECIAL ACTIVITES TOGETHER<br />