Be A Mentor, Inc. Orientation to Mentoring 4588 Peralta Blvd., Ste. 17 Fremont, CA (510) 795-6488
Be here now-No cell phones
Speak from the heart
Listen from the heart
Refer back to training guide
To better understand the issues and environmental factors facing our youth today.
To understand the role and COMMITMENT of the mentor.
To understand and demonstrate practices of effective mentors:
How Youth Enter Program
Youth is Interviewed
What is the Project Manager’s Job?
Hold Match Meeting
Monitor the quality of match
When you were a kid why did you need a mentor?
Why Youth Need Mentors
Nutrition & Health
Pressure At Home
Someone to Listen
From The Kid’s Eyes!
Forget about what YOU think a young person needs. But why would a young person want to be friends with you?
What does a mentee think a mentor is?
Youth Say a Mentor Is…
Easy to talk to
Is someone to look up to
Is a friend
Shows us new things
Is not a parent
Does not judge us
Won’t get mad
Is a role model
Listens to us
Role of the Mentor
Career Exploration Assistance
Exposure to new things
Friend Listener Role model Attention and Concern Broker
4-6 hours each month
Weekly telephone contact
Keeps contact with parents
Attend quarterly wisdom circles
Attend mentor event’s
Never gives up!
Practices of an Effective Mentor Focus on the positive Has Fun Keeps Relationships Alive Involves Youth in Decisions Respects Youth Viewpoints Is Committed Separate Goals Confirms Appointments Allows Youth to Make Mistakes An Effective Mentor
Pitfalls of Mentoring
Authority Figure/Transform Youth
Demand Equal Participation
Not Seeking Support of Project Manager
Watches too much Day time TV!
Stages in Relationship Building Relationship Setting Goals Friendship Testing
Guidelines for Difficult Situations
Discuss the problem.
Think beforehand about what you want to accomplish.
Bring things up early in visit.
Separate the behavior from the person.
Stay serious but supportive.
Discuss sensitive issues in a private place.
Consider relating something personal.
Reinforce something positive about your mentee.
Our youth are extremely ethnically diverse.
Cultures include customs and values.
Culture is a set of mental rules for survival and success that a particular group of people has developed.
Cultures are multifaceted:
Family structure, Spirituality, Language, Art, Parenting practices, Concept of growth, aging, & death
Goal of mentoring is to create inclusion.
You feel valued and respected by me.
I feel valued and respected by you.
Gang activity, not about skin color, but about which neighborhood your from.
Come to your mentoring time, prepared!
Any type of game, book or activity you use, should start a conversation not kill it.