IF WE ARE IN A CAR THAT STARTS TO ROLL DOWN A STEEP INCLINE, WE EXPERIENCE FEAR, IF NOT TERROR; BUT IF WE KNOW THE CAR IS PART OF A ROLLER COASTER, THE FEAR IS USUALLY MUCH LESS
2. IF WE ARE TOLD BY SOMEONE THAT HE OR SHE CANNOT STAND THE SIGHT OF US, WE MAY FEEL VERYANGRY OR HURT IF A PERSON IS A FRIEND, BUT FEEL BARELY PERTURBED IF THE PERSON IS A MENTAL PATIENT WHOM WE HAVE NEVER MET BEFORE.
EX: “ I FELT ANGRY BECAUSE SHE WAS UNFAIR” I FELT FRIGHTENED BECAUSE I WAS ABANDONED” (UNFAIRNESS AND ABANDONEDMENT ARE CLEARLY BELIEFS THAT RESULT FROM A COGNITIVE PROCESS)
IN THESE CASES AND COUNTLESS OTHERS, OUR COGNITIVE APPRAISAL OF THE SITUATION DETERMINES THE INTENSITY OF OUR EMOTIONAL EXPERIENCE.
3. IT MAY INVOLVE A GENERAL AWARENESS OF TYPES OF EMOTIONAL PROBLEMS ONE HAS TO ENCOUNTER AND WHAT EMOTIONAL REACTIONS HE IS EXPECTED TO GIVE IN MEETING PROBLEMS.
4. IT DEALS WITH THE DETERMINATION TO OVERCOME BAD EMOTIONAL HABITS.
DIMENSIONS OF EMOTION: WHEN A DESIRED EVENT OCCURS, WE EXPERIENCE JOY; WHEN A DESIRED EVENT DOES NOT OCCUR, WE EXPERIENCE SORROW; WHEN AN UNDESIRED EVENT OCCURS, WE EXPERIENCE DISTRESS; AND WHEN AN UNDESIRED EVENT DOES NOT OCCUR, WE EXPERIENCE RELIEF. TO ILLUSTRATE: SUPPOSE A YOUNG WOMAN MARRIES AN ATTRACTIVE YOUNG MAN WHO IS KNOWN TO HAVE A DRINKING PROBLEM; SHE MAY FEEL MAINLY JOY ( SHE “GOT” SOMEONE SHE CONSIDERS DESIRABLE), HER RIVAL SORROW ( SHE DIDN’T GET SOMEONE SHE CONSIDERS DESIRABLE), HER PARENTS DISTRESS (THEY GOT SOMEONE THEY CONSIDER UNDESIRABLE) AND HIS PARENTS RELIEF (THEY GOT RID OF AN UNDESIRABLE SITUATION).
PRIMARY EMOTIONS AND THEIR CAUSES EMOTION SITUATION GRIEF (SORROW) FEAR ANGER JOY TRUST DISGUST ANTICIPATION SURPRISE LOSS OF LOVED ONE THREAT OBSTACLE POTENTIAL MATE GROUP MEMBER GRUESOME OBJECT NEW TERRITORY SUDDEN NOVEL OBJECTS
PRIMARY SITUATION ASPECTS AND THEIR CONSEQUENCES SITUATION EMOTION DESIRABLE AND OCCURS DESIRABLE AND DOESM’T OCCUR UNDESIRABLE AND OCCURS UNDESIRABLE AND DOESN’T OCCUR JOY SORROW DISTRESS RELIEF
HOW TO HANDLE YOUR EMOTIONS • Be honest with yourself. • Talk to somebody about your feelings. • Don't ignore your emotions, they are telling you something.
• If you are having an unpleasant feeling, think of something you can do that will help, and then do it. If you are having an unpleasant feeling, think of something you can do that will help, and then do it. •
• If you are having an unpleasant feeling, think of something you can do that will help, and then do it.
Find positive ways to express anger that are not hurtful to others.
Remember, whatever you are feeling, you're not alone.
Try not to get overwhelmed, things usually improve.