Men don't care for one another well. In this presentation we look at the crisis of spiritual and emotional care, the challenge to men's leaders and eleven components of how to carry one another's burdens.
“How to Emasculate a Man”1.Belittle what he does2.Make his salary an issue3.Ask him for help and then do it your way4.Yell and fight in Public5.Micromanage his every move6.Ask another guy to do it better7.Act like he has no feelings www.Madamenoire.com These things happen to men EVERY SINGLE DAY!
Seven Huge Sources of pain Lust.men are facing in 2013 And the desensitization towards porn. Divorce.Father The rising tide of feminism hasWounds. caused many women to simply toss in the towel on theirFrom physical, emotional marriage, leaving menand spiritual absent bewildered and wonderingfather’s that clouds their what happened.understanding of God theFather. Sandwich Health Challenges Generation. Caring for elderly parents while Physical needs and inability to function putting kids through college. as used to be able to or want to. Finances. Being un or underemployed andWayward Children. the feeling of inadequacy.And the guilt and failure associated withthis. --Brett Clemmer, VP M.I.M.
Where Men Are & How they Hurt.Trait Associated PainThey are tired _____________________Something isn’t right _____________________Plan’s aren’t working _____________________They feel “unglued” _____________________They feel nobody cares _____________________Committed to values, not Christ _____________________Disappointment w/ God _____________________Patrick Morley, Pastoring Men
Discussion Question:In small groups,prioritize the top 5pains that men face.
“Carry one another’s burden’s,in this way you fulfill the law of Christ” Galatians 6:2
1) We already carry too much. -We must manage ourselves better2) We don’t know one another. ge -We must know people better3) We don’t understand thelaw of Christ. We must love more intentionally
Discussion Questions:Which one ofthese challengesis hardest for you?What’s one thing youneed to do in relationto these three observations?
Dare to Care.Twelve PracticalComponentsof CareJesus cares for aman named Lazarus.John 11:1-44
Understand that God always hasa purpose in pain. ve“This sickness will not end in death. No, it is forGod’s glory so that God’s Son may be glorifiedthrough it.” – Vs 4
Care, at the cost of beingvulnerable.“But Rabbi,” they said, “a short while ago theJews there tried to stone you, and yet you aregoing back?” – vs 8
Define reality. Don’t over useconfusing euphemisms!So then he told them plainly, “Lazarus is dead” –Vs 11 & 15
Care Together!“Let us go, that we may die with him”. Vs 16
To difficult questions, affirmJesus’ statements.Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and thelife. The one who believes in me will live, eventhough they die; and whoever lives bybelieving in me will never die. Do you believethis?” – Vs 25-26
Enter in to Men’s pain. Let thismotivate you.“…he was deeply moved in spirit andtroubled. “Where have you laid him?” he asked.Vs 33-34
Get mad at the root of sin, notthe consequence of death. Pra“Jesus wept” – Vs 35
Realize that carrying oneanother burdens can really stinkat times.“But, Lord,” said Martha, the sister of the deadman, “by this time there is a bad odor, for he hasbeen there four days.” – Vs 39
Always seek and keep beforeyou the redemptive glory ofGod. -VThen Jesus said, “Did I not tell you that if youbelieve, you will see the glory of God? – Vs 40
Pray often so that God and menhear. -“I knew that you always hear me, but I said thisfor the benefit of the people standing here, thatthey may believe that you sent me.” – Vs 42
Help people move forward.Jesus said to them, “Take off the grave clothesand let him go.” – Vs 44
Discussion Questions:Which component areyou strongest and weakestat?Think of a man in yourministry. Which principledo you need to apply in your care?
Pastoring Men – Patrick MorleyMan Alive – Patrick MorleyThe Blessing – Smalley & TrentThe Divine Mentor – Wayne CordeiroOver the Edge – Jared FeriaWaking the Dead – John EldridgeWhen Men think Private Thoughts – MacDonaldRestoring your Broken World – MacDonald.When Good men are tempted - Perkins
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