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People style at work,

  1. 1. “Making Bad Relationships Good &<br />Good Relationships Better”<br /> <br />
  2. 2.  No wonder we have people problems <br />75% of populations are different from you. <br />Not worse. Not better. But Differently. <br />Ability to relate well to people is a critical factor for success.<br />80% of employee firing due to poor interpersonal relationship <br />Make the difference work for you than against you.<br />
  3. 3. People are more predictable than we think <br />What’s style?<br />Pattern of assertive and responsive habitual behavior.<br />Things we do repeatedly and unintentionally.<br />People are not robots<br />We don't do the same behavior <br />We do the same type of behavior <br />We behave very much with consistency: <br />You can predict what we are likely to do <br />But we are dealing with probabilities not certainties <br />
  4. 4. What is your Style?<br />Self-knowledge is the beginning of wisdom .<br />Your style is: <br />- Not how you see yourself <br />- How people see you <br />Three animals question!<br />
  5. 5. Assertiveness <br />& <br />Responsiveness<br />
  6. 6. Two Keys to Understanding People<br /> <br />1- Assertiveness: <br /><ul><li>Degree to which one's behavior is seen directive or forceful.
  7. 7. More assertive doesn't mean Aggressive (use of style)
  8. 8. Less assertive is not Submissive.</li></ul>Assertiveness<br />More assertive<br /><ul><li>More energy
  9. 9. Move faster
  10. 10. Gesture more
  11. 11. Intense eye contact
  12. 12. Lean forward
  13. 13. Speak quicker
  14. 14. are risk oriented
  15. 15. more confrontational
  16. 16. decide quickly
  17. 17. demonstrate angry quicker </li></ul> Less assertive<br /><ul><li>Less energy
  18. 18. Move slower
  19. 19. Gesture less
  20. 20. Less intense eye contact
  21. 21. Lean backward
  22. 22. Speaks slow
  23. 23. Less risk-oriented
  24. 24. Less confrontational
  25. 25. Take time to decide
  26. 26. Demonstrate anger less</li></li></ul><li>Seeing yourself as others see you <br />More assertive<br />Less assertive<br />
  27. 27. Two Keys to Understanding People<br />2- Responsiveness: <br />Degree to which one's behavior is seen showing his or her emotions and demonstrate awareness of others <br />More responsive doesn't mean (Let it all hang out) .<br />Emotionally controlled doesn't mean they don't have Emotions.<br />Responsiveness <br />More Responsive<br /> <br /><ul><li>Express feeling more openly.
  28. 28. appear more friendly.
  29. 29. More facial expression
  30. 30. More vocal inflection.
  31. 31. Use more stories.
  32. 32. More people-oriented .
  33. 33. Prefer working with people.</li></ul> <br />Less Responsive<br /><ul><li>Less Disclosing of feeling
  34. 34. Appear more preserved.
  35. 35. Less facial expression.
  36. 36. Less vocal inflection
  37. 37. Use more facts and logic.
  38. 38. More task oriented.
  39. 39. Prefer working alone .</li></li></ul><li>Seeing yourself as others see you <br />Less responsiveness<br />More responsiveness<br />
  40. 40. How to identify a person’s style<br />Style identification is learning people through Observation <br />Behavior is observable not like inner qualities as values, beliefs, traditions, motives. <br /> <br />1- Level of Assertiveness <br />
  41. 41. How to identify a person’s style<br />2- Level of Responsiveness <br />
  42. 42. Seeing yourself as others See You <br />Less responsive<br />Analytical<br />Driver<br />More assertive<br />less assertive<br />Amiable<br />Expressive<br />More responsive<br />
  43. 43. Four Paths to Success<br />Remember:<br />You can't change your dominant style <br />Your style is just a part of who you are <br />You are different from others in your style (Mohamed Ali and Bill Clinton are both Expressive but different) <br />Accept all other styles <br />It takes all' styles to make an effective organization <br /> <br /> -Thought man (Analytical) -Action man (Driver)<br /> -People man (Amiable) -Front man (Expressive)<br />Each style is good and can be a leader <br />Variety adds spice to live.<br />
  44. 44. Styles<br />
  45. 45. Driver<br />Very result focus.<br />Goal-oriented.<br />Action-takers (even if they are 55% sure )<br />“ You win some , You lose some “<br />Amazingly they tend to change their mind fast.<br />Walk and moves fast than other people.<br />Very serious facial expression.<br />Tend to hide their feeling.<br />Their style tends to intimidate people.<br />Strong eye contact.<br />The most forceful.<br />They look very serious most of the time.<br />Poker face.<br />
  46. 46. Expressive<br />Most energetic. <br />Like to be the center of attraction <br />They don’t like to spend too long time in one place.<br />Enjoy to be where the action is .<br />Always away from their desks.<br />Always using nonverbal communication and gesture. <br />Very long eye contact.<br />Most outgoing.<br />Relate easily to strangers <br />Have lots of friends.<br />Always invites people to lunch and sports.<br /> Prefer work with people.<br />They are dreamer and enjoy high imagination.<br />Hate details, look at the big picture.<br />Impulsive and spontaneous.<br />
  47. 47. Expressive..cont..<br />Live in emotional roller-coaster.<br />Last minute approach at deadline.<br />Fun seeker , playful , humor.<br />Make work more fun.<br />When talk, whole body join in .<br />They may turn people off with their one side conversation.<br />Think out loud and fast.<br />Great story tellers.<br />People oriented.<br />Very opinionative.<br />
  48. 48. Amiable <br />Team player.<br />Encourage other to expand on their opinion.<br />Open to opinion.<br />Very generous in their time.<br />Unselfish.<br />Extremely friendly.<br />People oriented tend to built relationship more easily.<br />More interested in hearing your concern then expressing own.<br />Sensitive to other people’s feeling.<br />Perform best if you identify them their role.<br />They might be distracted from work by relation more to people’s problem.<br />Some are better at creating organization while amiable are better at maintaining organization.<br />When risk is involved, they delay taking decisions.<br />
  49. 49. Amiable..cont..<br />They tend to prefer to hear from people then reading there memo.<br />Very patient with people and organization.<br />When angry, very slow to forgive and forget.<br />Warm voice low volume, speak slowly.<br />Dress what people like.<br />Tend to avoid direct answer.<br />Dislike to conflict.<br />As manager, they are very tolerating to employees’ inadequate performance.<br />They avoid use authority at work.<br />
  50. 50. Analytical <br />Most perfectionist <br />They want thing to be always right.<br />Set very high standard.<br />Willing to do time consuming work.<br />Seek to achieve and exceed standard.<br />Pay match attention to details.<br />Big in criticism and low on compliment.<br />Vary systemic and well-organized.<br />At best, they built highly effective system.<br />At worst, they generate bureaucracy system. <br />Very task oriented.<br />They want to certain before taking decision.<br />Like to be alone and prefer work alone.<br />Dress conservatively.<br />
  51. 51. Analytical..cont..<br />Body language is very low: speak slowly, less eye contact and facial expression.<br />Lean back on chair when making decision.<br />They are the quietist. Think before talk.<br />Very slow on deadline. Because the seek perfection.<br />Focus on analysis and then taking decision.<br />Break point into 1st . 2nd , 3rd …..etc.<br />Talk about the fact then the feeling.<br />
  52. 52. Under stressBackup <br />
  53. 53. Styles under Stress<br />People boil at different degree and act different under stress.<br />We all develop backup style under stress.<br />BACKUP SYLE: is style of behavior we develop under stress to relive excess stress.<br />Backup act as safety valve that release excess stress.<br />
  54. 54. Driver backup: Autocratic <br />Under severe stress driver tend to do :<br />Become very controlling.<br />Impose their plan, their thoughts.<br />Rarely apologize for their action.<br />Act even quicker and require people to act at the same speed.<br />
  55. 55. Expressive backup: attack<br />Under severe stress Expressive tend to do :<br />Boil much quicker.<br />Focus their frustration on people .<br />Speak in loud voice.<br />Admit their mistake and cool-off fast .<br />
  56. 56. Amiable backup: Comply <br />Under severe stress Amiabletend to do :<br />Become more agreeable “sure ,it’s ok , that ever you want “<br />Agree to avoid conflict not because they are convinced .<br />Very slow to forgive and forget.<br />It’s very hard to know if they are in back up but you just feel there is something wrong .<br />
  57. 57. Analytical backup: Avoid.<br />Under severe stress analytical tend to do :<br />Avoid conflict.<br />Avoid personal involvement and emotional expression.<br />Like to be alone.<br />Being unemotional is better than making scene.<br />
  58. 58. Secondary backup Style<br />Secondary backup Style: <br />If stress continue and never relived people tend to act in a way that is totally reversal of their primary backup.<br />
  59. 59. Damage Control<br />
  60. 60. Damage control:<br />When you are in backup:<br />Backup behavior sometime cause damage.<br />There is three thing we can do to limit this damage.<br />Eliminate as much stress as you can.<br />Limit interpersonal damage: eliminate some meetings.<br />Don’t make important decision while in backup.<br />
  61. 61. Damage control:<br />When others are in backup: <br />When others around you are in backup remember:<br />Expect that they will not be at their best.<br />Detect when other in backup.<br />Avoid getting hooked by others backup.<br />Don’t try to prevent person from using backup behavior.<br />Avoid doing business with people in backup.<br />
  62. 62. Always Remember<br />Knowing yourself is the first step of building good relationships with others. <br />Understanding others style will help you to predict them and build common ground with them.<br />Knowing how you act under stress will help you to manage your stress and others stress.<br />Try to determine who do you know adopt which style. <br />
  63. 63. Strength and weakness<br />
  64. 64. Driver's Strengths<br />
  65. 65. Expressive’s Strengths<br />
  66. 66. Amiable ’s Strengths<br />
  67. 67. Analytical ’s Strengths<br />
  68. 68. Styles Test<br />Less responsive<br />Analytical<br />Driver<br />More assertive<br />less assertive<br />Amiable<br />Expressive<br />More responsive<br />
  69. 69. Flexing<br />
  70. 70. Four Steps to Better Relationships <br />When relationship is not going so well, don't do much of the same; try something different <br />• How to Flex: <br />Identify: your style and the other person style.<br />Plan: select 2-3 types of behaviors that you could use differently to get in sync with him/her <br />Applythose changes that you select in your meeting with the person <br />Evaluate: review the process and outcome <br />
  71. 71. For Drivers only: How to Flex to Each Style<br />
  72. 72. For Expressive Only· How to Flex to Each Style<br />
  73. 73. For Amiable Only: How to Flex to Each Style<br />
  74. 74. For Analytical Only: How to Flex to Each Style<br />
  75. 75. Flexing Yourself to Others' Styles<br />Less responsive<br />More assertive<br />less assertive<br />More responsive<br />
  76. 76. Flexing in Special Situations<br />• Flexing to your manager: <br />1- Observe your manager behavior.<br />2- Ask him/her "How would you like me to work with you? " <br /> <br />• Flexing to people you mange <br />1- Give them freedom to capitalize on their strengths by using their styles <br />2- Flex in team meetings <br /> <br />• Flex in a group(Identify, Plan, Implement and Evaluate) <br />
  77. 77. Flexing in Special Situations<br />• Style clash with people of the same style: <br />
  78. 78. Three Keys to Good Relationships<br />Respect: <br />Respect because the other individual is a person .<br />Fairness: <br />Am I using win-win approach (Me & You, not me or you) <br /> would I be willing to be the recipient of my action? <br />Honesty: <br />Honest people consistently do three things: <br />Refuse to make misleading information, don't lie.<br />They don't withhold important information. <br />Are genuine, they don't seem to be other than who they really are <br />
  79. 79. Always Remember <br />To build good relations you should acquire 3 abilities:<br />Identify your style and styles of all people around you.<br />Flex to each style of people around you and teach them how to flex to yours. <br />Do all that with respect Fairness and Honesty with people. <br />
  80. 80. Special thanks :<br /><ul><li>Mohamed Abdelhamd.
  81. 81. Mohamed Sobhy Al-Shony.
  82. 82. Shrief Ali .</li></li></ul><li>“May Allah Make All of Us Relate Well To People”<br />Hope This Presentation Was Beneficial to All of You<br />Thank You<br /> <br /> <br />Mohamed Hossam El Didy<br />Written by AbdulrhmanTantawy<br />