The role of monogamies in the relationships of younger gay men
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Duane Duncan, Jeffrey Grierson and Garrett Prestage discuss social research findings on young gay men's sexual attitudes and behaviours, at the Young Gay Men's Symposium at Promises & Limitations,......

Duane Duncan, Jeffrey Grierson and Garrett Prestage discuss social research findings on young gay men's sexual attitudes and behaviours, at the Young Gay Men's Symposium at Promises & Limitations, the CSRH social research conference, February 2014.

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  • 1. The role of monogamies in the relationships of younger gay men Duane Duncan, Jeffrey Grierson, Garrett Prestage [La Trobe University and University of New South Wales]
  • 2. Rites of passage I never had that sort of teenage sex stage I s'pose so it was good to have that sort of period for a while. But I got over that sort of pretty quickly... I’m happy to do it but like ultimately I’d be looking for something serious. Phillip, 25, single By 27 ideally I’d like a good, solid relationship of at least a couple of years, be ready to maybe start only going out clubbing every fortnight or so… I’d be looking at entering [the] big corporate world and buying my first house, and at least buying a very nice new car, and hopefully have a dual income with someone who’s very similar-minded to do that with. Greg, 22, single
  • 3. Am I normal? I think that there’s sort of this odd pressure on gay men to suddenly have such an incredible sexual history. And it has intimidated me in the past because I wonder am I abnormal or am I actually normal? Danny 21, single Whenever I’ve tried to have casual sex with someone I’ve always ended up going, ‘oh, we should be dating now’, and treating it like, ‘what is your favourite movie?’ And then going, but I don’t like this person. Why am I trying to talk to them? And then there’s this weird conflict of interest in my head. And I just couldn’t sort it out Dale 23, single
  • 4. Intimacy can be more than sex I guess growing up and realising that hey, intimacy can be more than just sex and I can be intimate with someone and have that connection with them without having that fully-fledged monogamous relationship… we’re two really good friends, I trust you and I feel comfortable with you. And I enjoy sharing time with you. I will share a bit more with you. Andre 22, single About a month-and-a-half in [to the new relationship], I just noticed that for some reason all these guys wanted to meet up with me and have some fun. And on one level I was very tempted to go and do it and not reveal it [to my boyfriend]… I was starting to become my own person and I was starting to get out amongst the gay scene and meet lots of other guys. I needed to get all of that out of my system before I settled down again. Brent, 19, single
  • 5. These men aspired to committed, intimate relationships, yet experienced them as constraining or as sites of uncertainty and vulnerability. Desire for intimate relationships was balanced with a desire to explore and experience a sexual adolescence that was perceived to have been denied prior to coming out, and foiled by the absence of suitable partners in an unsupportive casual sexual culture. Paradoxically, as men described the ‘natural’ masculine basis to the organisation of gay sexual and social life, and expressed disappointment with relational life among gay men, they revealed the emotional labour and effort that goes into resisting or adapting to new social and sexual norms.